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He's Just Not That Into You....
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As I always say, never place all your eggs into one basket until the basket has proven that they will protect and nurture your eggs with care.
Keep your options open, even when the whirlwind of analysis drives you mad or emotions could cloud a little. Force yourself to go out there to discover more people. You never merely love one person in life, and you will most definitely find chemistry with many more.
The moment you resign yourself to one man, is when your heart will be broken. For certain, I could almost guarantee it, he has not stopped. Most men will continue to venture and test their options until they have explicitly said they are now committed to you, even then some still explore.
Be an independent woman, a wild spirit that cannot be caged. One of the only ways, to motivate men to keep coming back to you. By being so, at least you do not let your life pass you by, leaving it wasted. You would have experienced moments, with people you never thought possible. Carrying away moments that lasts as memories forever, good and bad. 😆
Keep your options open, even when the whirlwind of analysis drives you mad or emotions could cloud a little. Force yourself to go out there to discover more people. You never merely love one person in life, and you will most definitely find chemistry with many more.
The moment you resign yourself to one man, is when your heart will be broken. For certain, I could almost guarantee it, he has not stopped. Most men will continue to venture and test their options until they have explicitly said they are now committed to you, even then some still explore.
Be an independent woman, a wild spirit that cannot be caged. One of the only ways, to motivate men to keep coming back to you. By being so, at least you do not let your life pass you by, leaving it wasted. You would have experienced moments, with people you never thought possible. Carrying away moments that lasts as memories forever, good and bad. 😆
Posted by RooSagicornWe all make mistakes @RooSagicorn, do not beat yourself up over it. At least, you see the situation for what it is now and you have not waste even more time on a lost investment. Now, you are free to explore again. Rejoice in that new found freedom, the opportunities awaiting you. 🙂
I agree. Although sometimes a situation or children make it impossible to move mountains. It’s those in between ones that are confusing. But, ghosting and disappearing and waiting for them to change their mind & profess their love to you, not so much. Even if they did come back, it isn’t going to be a healthy situation I get that now.
Btw I wasn’t waiting but I did give him a second chance. That was stupid.
Ah live & learn!!!
Posted by RooSagicorn💙👍Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by RooSagicorn
I agree. Although sometimes a situation or children make it impossible to move mountains. It’s those in between ones that are confusing. But, ghosting and disappearing and waiting for them to change their mind & profess their love to you, not so much. Even if they did come back, it isn’t going to be a healthy situation I get that now.
Btw I wasn’t waiting but I did give him a second chance. That was stupid.
Ah live & learn!!!
We all make mistakes @RooSagicorn, do not beat yourself up over it. At least, you see the situation for what it is now and you have not waste even more time on a lost investment. Now, you are free to explore again. Rejoice in that new found freedom, the opportunities awaiting you. click to expand
Thanks I’m done. Emotions & Rational thoughts in sync. I know I deserve better and am currently checking out a new opportunity lol. It was a great lesson actually. The first person who ever ghosted me & disappeared without talking about it. He sucks and does not deserve me.
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Posted by iridiumThere may be?Posted by MyStarsShineThere isnt one because the expectation is unfairly geared towards men click to expandPosted by iridium
Why is it never “she’s just not that into you”
Write one
Best seller!
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Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowDepends who the guy is squishy......Posted by MyStarsShine
The last guy I was with used to travel from another country to be with me....two planes and a train journey and later on I would fly out to meet him. There was no doubt he didn't want to be with me. He once said to me "Wild horses couldn't drag me away from you" ❤️
So I don't understand why women wait and wait for guys who disappear and ghost on them....?
It's quite simple ... if he wants you...he will move mountains to be with you. If he doesn't he won't....it really is as simple as that
It's sad to see so many women wasting their lives on nothing
I didn't read the book, but a guy wrote it.....maybe he explains a few things in there that are useful to know?
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You
On a scale of one to ten, ten being the highest, how receptive are you to a guys advances and reading cues?
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Posted by iridiumBecause men are so stupid to understand that
Why is it never “she’s just not that into you”
They will said:” she is not good woman” they will never said:” she is not that into me”
Mountains moved currently for me.m I love
Posted by AquasticNew man?
Mountains moved currently for me.m I love
Posted by tizianiMen like you do 😊Posted by iridium
Why is it never “she’s just not that into you”
women buy books and men read books women read. click to expandclick to expand
Not many others do?
Posted by MyStarsShine
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You
I read this book when I was like 13 years old and gave fire relationship advice on Yahoo Answers afterwards
Quote from the book.....I like this guy's style
“Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone *difficult* to share it with”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Who needs a difficult guy?
🙄
“Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone *difficult* to share it with”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Who needs a difficult guy?
🙄
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowTrue @Squishy_Marshmallow, yet are we meant to nurture and hold their hands if and when they are unable to connect with their emotions to express, especially in the name of love. We as women, have as much struggles of our own as well. Often, we may have more trouble toning down our emotional expression and focusing on the rational logical side of who we are. Therefore, why must we place their difficulties above our own, it is about meeting in the middle. Compromising, or even finding a pathway that two could both walk down.Posted by iridiumPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by iridium
Why is it never “she’s just not that into you”
Write one
Best seller!
👍 click to expand
There isnt one because the expectation is unfairly geared towards men click to expand
Because men don't talk about their feelings as openly as women. They are taught to be strong/staunch
Men do get their heart broken at least once. Or they do fall hard once in few years. You won't hear about it when it doesn't work for them. Plus most of them don't openly "bitch" about someone they love. Men who love truly hold that girl in the highest regard even when everything falls apart.
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Posted by MyStarsShineIronically, I said this very same thing the other day in conversation with a dear friend. 😆
Quote from the book.....I like this guy's style
“Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone *difficult* to share it with”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Who needs a difficult guy?
🙄
“If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away.”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
“I’m about to make a wild, extreme, and severe relationship rule: THE WORD "BUSY" IS A LOAD OF CRAP AND IS MOST OFTEN USED BY ASSHOLES. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Posted by MyStarsShinewas your experience pre-Tinder though?
if he wants you...he will move mountains to be with you.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You
seems like we're headed more towards gender-equality and/or irrelevance and equal levels of effort expected from both parties...
Posted by Metatron2008 - 2013Posted by MyStarsShine
if he wants you...he will move mountains to be with you.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You
was your experience pre-Tinder though?
seems like we're headed more towards gender-equality and/or irrelevance and equal levels of effort expected from both parties...
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Tinder free
Posted by iridiumYeah we have plenty of threads like that on here.
Why is it never “she’s just not that into you”
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/philosophy/why-mothers-try-to-teach-their-sons-to-be-super-nice-to-women--10885808/
Nice guys finish last. Or maybe she’s just not that into you 🤷♀️
Posted by MetatronDon’t try to turn a tinder hookup into a relationship. Magic is for fairytales, not rl.Posted by MyStarsShine
if he wants you...he will move mountains to be with you.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You
was your experience pre-Tinder though?
seems like we're headed more towards gender-equality and/or irrelevance and equal levels of effort expected from both parties...
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Posted by MyStarsShinethere you have it....the virtual way to move mountains now is just to swipe right.....Posted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
if he wants you...he will move mountains to be with you.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You
was your experience pre-Tinder though?
seems like we're headed more towards gender-equality and/or irrelevance and equal levels of effort expected from both parties...
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2008 - 2013
Tinder free click to expandclick to expand
Posted by MetatronHaha....I am so glad I was pre swipingPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
if he wants you...he will move mountains to be with you.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You
was your experience pre-Tinder though?
seems like we're headed more towards gender-equality and/or irrelevance and equal levels of effort expected from both parties...
click to expand
2008 - 2013
Tinder free click to expand
there you have it....the virtual way to move mountains now is just to swipe right..... click to expandclick to expand
Such a lucky escape
👍🙃😁
Posted by WittyGem88v2I agree, but I do think in general people have more options for dating nowadays with all the apps/social networking, so do tend to put in less effort though....or maybe just have less patience to work through things...Posted by MetatronPosted by MyStarsShine
if he wants you...he will move mountains to be with you.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You
was your experience pre-Tinder though?
seems like we're headed more towards gender-equality and/or irrelevance and equal levels of effort expected from both parties...
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I met my man on tinder. Its the same. He flew to see me and we have been in a committed rs for 7 mos now. So I dont think because 2 people met on Tinder, the effort is off the table. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by UnicornSag
I remember this sentence from Sex and the City
But yeah, that's pretty much true and easy to understand. No men are too busy for woman they want. It' that simple. If he leaves you hanging on, he's not that into you. If he doesn't respond, he's not that into you. If he's on and off again, he' not that into you...and so on and on for all those random scenarios girls come asking here about. There's no explanation for it in : "oh, he's Cap, that's typical for them, he's probably busy with work", or "he's Pisces, they're too sensitive, you might have hurt his feelings", or "he's Cancer, they disappear all the time" etc...whatever explanation women find for those behaviors it's just not true and they're fooling themselves...
Who wants you will make time for you.
Or maybe he's into you, but sometimes you say some really stupid shit and he start to doubt. 😛
I was born with a horn between my legs, so clearly im this magical creäture that never doubts, and will blindly jump following his desires without wondering, what if I fuck up?
Posted by TheLadyScorpioAmen..
As I always say, never place all your eggs into one basket until the basket has proven that they will protect and nurture your eggs with care.
Keep your options open, even when the whirlwind of analysis drives you mad or emotions could cloud a little. Force yourself to go out there to discover more people. You never merely love one person in life, and you will most definitely find chemistry with many more.
The moment you resign yourself to one man, is when your heart will be broken. For certain, I could almost guarantee it, he has not stopped. Most men will continue to venture and test their options until they have explicitly said they are now committed to you, even then some still explore.
Be an independent woman, a wild spirit that cannot be caged. One of the only ways, to motivate men to keep coming back to you. By being so, at least you do not let your life pass you by, leaving it wasted. You would have experienced moments, with people you never thought possible. Carrying away moments that lasts as memories forever, good and bad.
Women need to date like men do.. I had to learn this. Even while in a relationship always keep one eye open and know your worth.
Posted by UnicornSagPosted by EndlessThe one interested enough takes a lot more to put him down if we would all give up on each other just cause someone says stupid shit from time to time no one would ever be with anyone for any longer time...just saying Love isn't all about roses and honey... click to expandPosted by UnicornSag
I remember this sentence from Sex and the City
But yeah, that's pretty much true and easy to understand. No men are too busy for woman they want. It' that simple. If he leaves you hanging on, he's not that into you. If he doesn't respond, he's not that into you. If he's on and off again, he' not that into you...and so on and on for all those random scenarios girls come asking here about. There's no explanation for it in : "oh, he's Cap, that's typical for them, he's probably busy with work", or "he's Pisces, they're too sensitive, you might have hurt his feelings", or "he's Cancer, they disappear all the time" etc...whatever explanation women find for those behaviors it's just not true and they're fooling themselves...
Who wants you will make time for you.
Or maybe he's into you, but sometimes you say some really stupid shit and he start to doubt.
I was born with a horn between my legs, so clearly im this magical creäture that never doubts, and will blindly jump following his desires without wondering, what if I fuck up? click to expandclick to expand
but they are not down completely, that's why they say they're "busy" he's busy thinking if he really, really want to keep it up, then after a couple of days he reach back, ofc he's just not going to tell you, "yeah you acted like an idiot that other time so I don't feel like answering you right now", no, he's just busy
and once again, he breath, and tells himself "Love isn't all about roses and honey anyway, imma text her back now that I am more calm"
and that's why so many people keep themself in miserable relationships. 😄
Posted by YodiExcept you get labeled as a female dog by men, when you do exactly as they do. Hypocrites.Posted by TheLadyScorpio
As I always say, never place all your eggs into one basket until the basket has proven that they will protect and nurture your eggs with care.
Keep your options open, even when the whirlwind of analysis drives you mad or emotions could cloud a little. Force yourself to go out there to discover more people. You never merely love one person in life, and you will most definitely find chemistry with many more.
The moment you resign yourself to one man, is when your heart will be broken. For certain, I could almost guarantee it, he has not stopped. Most men will continue to venture and test their options until they have explicitly said they are now committed to you, even then some still explore.
Be an independent woman, a wild spirit that cannot be caged. One of the only ways, to motivate men to keep coming back to you. By being so, at least you do not let your life pass you by, leaving it wasted. You would have experienced moments, with people you never thought possible. Carrying away moments that lasts as memories forever, good and bad.
Amen..
Women need to date like men do.. I had to learn this. Even while in a relationship always keep one eye open and know your worth.
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When you show you are perfectly capable to date and carry on casual connections as they do. It somehow puts them in a bind, as their egos cannot handle a woman being alpha and masculine like in her choices. They then become obsessed with trying to change the situation around, as they have lost control over you.
If you do not get jealous, do not show envy, and remain nonchalant. They do not get the ego boost they crave and desire, therefore they work extra hard in proving to you of their worth. You become their challenge, but it is a fine line to walk, if you push it too far, and they might give up. You have to make it bitter sweet.
Do as men do. 😆
if u can move onto another man that quickly because he is too independent for you to not wanna chase you after u chose to travel away.. then u can’t have liked him that much and just want attention
why is it seen as stupid and weak for a woman to attach herself to one man, but a man must have eyes only for her and chase her to the heavens?
if u wanna be an independent woman with her eggs in several baskets u gotta let the man do that as well... take your standards and eat them
if u wanna be an independent woman with her eggs in several baskets u gotta let the man do that as well... take your standards and eat them
Posted by MyStarsShineits important to believe in love and connection
Quote from the book.....I like this guy's style
“Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone *difficult* to share it with”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Who needs a difficult guy?
🙄
and its equally important to dont sell your feelings cheap - if you love somebody, then love them
changing your life ( just generally) while you are openly or secretly in love with someone SPECIAL is a good thing
but you have to be sure its a special one..... it cant be every other month a new special soul-mate and every time a special connection and then feeling blue because it wasnt
it takes personal effort and time... you cant change yourself in a week or a month... unless you made subtle changes step by step and suddenly everthing is okey again 🙂
these days nobody is willing to wait out things
it doesnt mean you have to suffer bad treatment
in most cases, the person who ghosts and the person who is ghosted were equally not prepared for a happy mutual love
going on constant dates with whomever and than going psycho over it screams "not prepared"
to have a "real-life friends network" who inspire you is the best support - to built this network takes a long time, but its worth it.... I think this is the first and best step towards happy relationships, romantic as well
there are some talks about dont sell yourself short - usually meaning "vet out" men, who are not "into you" - because they dont deliver .... but do women deliver? I am always confused about declarations every two months how great it is and then its not..... and rinse and repeat.... I mean, THAT is selling your emotions short - it is not dependent on the men you meet but on yourself
easy, slowly, calmly 🙂
PS. (it wastn about you MyStars, just general thoughts on the topic)
Edit: happy and content people attract happy and content people
"do as men do" - what does it even mean? likes attract likes
Posted by TheLadyScorpioSo true! This all of this..Posted by YodiPosted by TheLadyScorpio
As I always say, never place all your eggs into one basket until the basket has proven that they will protect and nurture your eggs with care.
Keep your options open, even when the whirlwind of analysis drives you mad or emotions could cloud a little. Force yourself to go out there to discover more people. You never merely love one person in life, and you will most definitely find chemistry with many more.
The moment you resign yourself to one man, is when your heart will be broken. For certain, I could almost guarantee it, he has not stopped. Most men will continue to venture and test their options until they have explicitly said they are now committed to you, even then some still explore.
Be an independent woman, a wild spirit that cannot be caged. One of the only ways, to motivate men to keep coming back to you. By being so, at least you do not let your life pass you by, leaving it wasted. You would have experienced moments, with people you never thought possible. Carrying away moments that lasts as memories forever, good and bad.
Amen..
Women need to date like men do.. I had to learn this. Even while in a relationship always keep one eye open and know your worth.
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Except you get labeled as a female dog by men, when you do exactly as they do. Hypocrites.
When you show you are perfectly capable to date and carry on casual connections as they do. It somehow puts them in a bind, as their egos cannot handle a woman being alpha and masculine like in her choices. They then become obsessed with trying to change the situation around, as they have lost control over you.
If you do not get jealous, do not show envy, and remain nonchalant. They do not get the ego boost they crave and desire, therefore they work extra hard in proving to you of their worth. You become their challenge, but it is a fine line to walk, if you push it too far, and they might give up. You have to make it bitter sweet.
Do as men do.click to expand
It's definitely a fine line and that's why you have to have a strong mind with realistic views. If the guy is too weak to casually date a women with options then fux him. This is how you weed out the good ones from the fake.. if a man can't handle being friends first then I've already lost interest.
You win some you lose some but you live to dog another mfer out 😅 jk sorta
Posted by besarlalluviaexactly
why is it seen as stupid and weak for a woman to attach herself to one man, but a man must have eyes only for her and chase her to the heavens?
if u wanna be an independent woman with her eggs in several baskets u gotta let the man do that as well... take your standards and eat them
Posted by besarlalluviaIt’s more to do with timeing. You have some men and some women whom after only a few dates want to be all up the persons ass...catching feelings...wanting commitment...etc.
why is it seen as stupid and weak for a woman to attach herself to one man, but a man must have eyes only for her and chase her to the heavens?
if u wanna be an independent woman with her eggs in several baskets u gotta let the man do that as well... take your standards and eat them
It comes off as desperate. Really desperate.
Like you could be anyone it wouldn’t even matter, they are just so determined to be in a relationship they don’t care about getting to know what your about.
That’s why you should date other people until you establish something significant with some one and MUTUALLY agree to be exclusive.
And FYI dating doesn’t always mean fucking. I played the field a lot but am super picky when it comes to sharing my body. I’ll share a meal and convo tho...
I KNEW it...
Don't mind me ...I'm bored and trolling. I have nothing to contribute to this topic but agree with most.
Don't mind me ...I'm bored and trolling. I have nothing to contribute to this topic but agree with most.
Posted by LadyNeptunesooo... just keep dating till you find someone who is desperate for u instead? then you can act uninterested to that person LOL.Posted by besarlalluvia
why is it seen as stupid and weak for a woman to attach herself to one man, but a man must have eyes only for her and chase her to the heavens?
if u wanna be an independent woman with her eggs in several baskets u gotta let the man do that as well... take your standards and eat them
It’s more to do with timeing. You have some men and some women whom after only a few dates want to be all up the persons ass...catching feelings...wanting commitment...etc.
It comes off as desperate. Really desperate.
Like you could be anyone it wouldn’t even matter, they are just so determined to be in a relationship they don’t care about getting to know what your about.
That’s why you should date other people until you establish something significant with some one and MUTUALLY agree to be exclusive.
And FYI dating doesn’t always mean treetrunking. I played the field a lot but am super picky when it comes to sharing my body. I’ll share a meal and convo tho... click to expandclick to expand
imo if the man u want doesn’t reciprocate then learn to be independent.. not hunt a replacement. otherwise what u liked about that man is bs lol
Posted by besarlalluviaNo. No one is replacing anything because what is there to replace?Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by besarlalluvia
why is it seen as stupid and weak for a woman to attach herself to one man, but a man must have eyes only for her and chase her to the heavens?
if u wanna be an independent woman with her eggs in several baskets u gotta let the man do that as well... take your standards and eat them
It’s more to do with timeing. You have some men and some women whom after only a few dates want to be all up the persons ass...catching feelings...wanting commitment...etc.
It comes off as desperate. Really desperate.
Like you could be anyone it wouldn’t even matter, they are just so determined to be in a relationship they don’t care about getting to know what your about.
That’s why you should date other people until you establish something significant with some one and MUTUALLY agree to be exclusive.
And FYI dating doesn’t always mean treetrunking. I played the field a lot but am super picky when it comes to sharing my body. I’ll share a meal and convo tho... click to expand
sooo... just keep dating till you find someone who is desperate for u instead? then you can act uninterested to that person LOL.
imo if the man u want doesn’t reciprocate then learn to be independent.. not hunt a replacement. otherwise what u liked about that man is bs lol click to expandclick to expand
Point is don’t emotionally, mentally and physically invest yourself in someone whose not invested in you.
Don’t give all your time and loyalty to someone who isn’t doing the same for you.
Be open to meeting new people, dating them, and seeing if there is chemistry there and, more importantly, same end game goals.
Not just talking out my ass here. Was dating others when I started dating my bae. Thank god I was too. The contrast actually had me looking at him with new eyes.
Posted by LadyNeptuneok. if you wanna date two ppl at once do u. but u go around on here telling all these women to dump and stop being weak, stop being in love with one man. u live ur own truth, don’t preach it to others. cos i would be hurt if a man was dating another woman alongside me. i’d be wondering why the fuck he’s wasting my time. but then again, i don’t go dating. fuck all that ritual shit.Posted by besarlalluviaPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by besarlalluvia
why is it seen as stupid and weak for a woman to attach herself to one man, but a man must have eyes only for her and chase her to the heavens?
if u wanna be an independent woman with her eggs in several baskets u gotta let the man do that as well... take your standards and eat them
It’s more to do with timeing. You have some men and some women whom after only a few dates want to be all up the persons ass...catching feelings...wanting commitment...etc.
It comes off as desperate. Really desperate.
Like you could be anyone it wouldn’t even matter, they are just so determined to be in a relationship they don’t care about getting to know what your about.
That’s why you should date other people until you establish something significant with some one and MUTUALLY agree to be exclusive.
And FYI dating doesn’t always mean treetrunking. I played the field a lot but am super picky when it comes to sharing my body. I’ll share a meal and convo tho... click to expand
sooo... just keep dating till you find someone who is desperate for u instead? then you can act uninterested to that person LOL.
imo if the man u want doesn’t reciprocate then learn to be independent.. not hunt a replacement. otherwise what u liked about that man is bs lol click to expand
No. No one is replacing anything because what is there to replace?
Point is don’t emotionally, mentally and physically invest yourself in someone whose not invested in you.
Don’t give all your time and loyalty to someone who isn’t doing the same for you.
Be open to meeting new people, dating them, and seeing if there is chemistry there and, more importantly, same end game goals.
Not just talking out my ass here. Was dating others when I started dating my bae. Thank god I was too. The contrast actually had me looking at him with new eyes. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by WittyGem88v2Posted by UnicornSag
I remember this sentence from Sex and the City
But yeah, that's pretty much true and easy to understand. No men are too busy for woman they want. It' that simple. If he leaves you hanging on, he's not that into you. If he doesn't respond, he's not that into you. If he's on and off again, he' not that into you...and so on and on for all those random scenarios girls come asking here about. There's no explanation for it in : "oh, he's Cap, that's typical for them, he's probably busy with work", or "he's Pisces, they're too sensitive, you might have hurt his feelings", or "he's Cancer, they disappear all the time" etc...whatever explanation women find for those behaviors it's just not true and they're fooling themselves...
Who wants you will make time for you.
Or, hes an aqua. Hes supposed to be distant and takes ages to respond coz aquas dont like texting but they like stalking. click to expandclick to expand
I cringe when i read this on the aqua boards. sorry but no, most Aquas won't leave a person alone if they are into you, or maybe i am just an oddball. LOL
Posted by besarlalluviaLol so just so I got this right...I shouldn’t go around giving my opinion but you can. Even though you don’t even date. K.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by besarlalluviaPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by besarlalluvia
why is it seen as stupid and weak for a woman to attach herself to one man, but a man must have eyes only for her and chase her to the heavens?
if u wanna be an independent woman with her eggs in several baskets u gotta let the man do that as well... take your standards and eat them
It’s more to do with timeing. You have some men and some women whom after only a few dates want to be all up the persons ass...catching feelings...wanting commitment...etc.
It comes off as desperate. Really desperate.
Like you could be anyone it wouldn’t even matter, they are just so determined to be in a relationship they don’t care about getting to know what your about.
That’s why you should date other people until you establish something significant with some one and MUTUALLY agree to be exclusive.
And FYI dating doesn’t always mean treetrunking. I played the field a lot but am super picky when it comes to sharing my body. I’ll share a meal and convo tho... click to expand
sooo... just keep dating till you find someone who is desperate for u instead? then you can act uninterested to that person LOL.
imo if the man u want doesn’t reciprocate then learn to be independent.. not hunt a replacement. otherwise what u liked about that man is bs lol click to expand
No. No one is replacing anything because what is there to replace?
Point is don’t emotionally, mentally and physically invest yourself in someone whose not invested in you.
Don’t give all your time and loyalty to someone who isn’t doing the same for you.
Be open to meeting new people, dating them, and seeing if there is chemistry there and, more importantly, same end game goals.
Not just talking out my ass here. Was dating others when I started dating my bae. Thank god I was too. The contrast actually had me looking at him with new eyes. click to expand
ok. if you wanna date two ppl at once do u. but u go around on here telling all these women to dump and stop being weak, stop being in love with one man. u live ur own truth, don’t preach it to others. cos i would be hurt if a man was dating another woman alongside me. i’d be wondering why the fuck he’s wasting my time. but then again, i don’t go dating. fuck all that ritual shit. click to expandclick to expand
Btw never said to stop being weak, your the one using that word. Never advised anyone to dump anyone either. Check your projection. Not a cute look.
Posted by WittyGem88v2Posted by justagirlPosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by UnicornSag
I remember this sentence from Sex and the City
But yeah, that's pretty much true and easy to understand. No men are too busy for woman they want. It' that simple. If he leaves you hanging on, he's not that into you. If he doesn't respond, he's not that into you. If he's on and off again, he' not that into you...and so on and on for all those random scenarios girls come asking here about. There's no explanation for it in : "oh, he's Cap, that's typical for them, he's probably busy with work", or "he's Pisces, they're too sensitive, you might have hurt his feelings", or "he's Cancer, they disappear all the time" etc...whatever explanation women find for those behaviors it's just not true and they're fooling themselves...
Who wants you will make time for you.
Or, hes an aqua. Hes supposed to be distant and takes ages to respond coz aquas dont like texting but they like stalking. click to expand
I cringe when i read this on the aqua boards. sorry but no, most Aquas won't leave a person alone if they are into you, or maybe i am just an oddball. LOL click to expand
I know!!! And i have been trying to prove that for a while now (but they think im just showing off :/ ) truth is, aquas arent cold and aloof when they are truly inlove with someone. I read all the possible excuses on the aqua board like hes too busy with work, maybe he doesnt know i like him, i probably said the wrong thing, hes an aqua so he is naturally aloof but he checks my snaps so i think he likes me even if he cant be bothered to see me. Lord, forgive me for judging but I just cannot get past those excuses. click to expandclick to expand
Ya, it's hard when on an Astro forum to not see placements being listed as the culprit and not the person themselves, but it's what happens.
Posted by WhorpioPosted by MyStarsShine
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You
I read this book when I was like 13 years old and gave fire relationship advice on Yahoo Answers afterwards click to expandclick to expand
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I promise my self to stop give aother people advices about their relationships, Its just fkd up
Posted by LadyNeptuneyou do it in everyone’s relationship threadPosted by besarlalluviaPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by besarlalluviaPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by besarlalluvia
why is it seen as stupid and weak for a woman to attach herself to one man, but a man must have eyes only for her and chase her to the heavens?
if u wanna be an independent woman with her eggs in several baskets u gotta let the man do that as well... take your standards and eat them
It’s more to do with timeing. You have some men and some women whom after only a few dates want to be all up the persons ass...catching feelings...wanting commitment...etc.
It comes off as desperate. Really desperate.
Like you could be anyone it wouldn’t even matter, they are just so determined to be in a relationship they don’t care about getting to know what your about.
That’s why you should date other people until you establish something significant with some one and MUTUALLY agree to be exclusive.
And FYI dating doesn’t always mean treetrunking. I played the field a lot but am super picky when it comes to sharing my body. I’ll share a meal and convo tho... click to expand
sooo... just keep dating till you find someone who is desperate for u instead? then you can act uninterested to that person LOL.
imo if the man u want doesn’t reciprocate then learn to be independent.. not hunt a replacement. otherwise what u liked about that man is bs lol click to expand
No. No one is replacing anything because what is there to replace?
Point is don’t emotionally, mentally and physically invest yourself in someone whose not invested in you.
Don’t give all your time and loyalty to someone who isn’t doing the same for you.
Be open to meeting new people, dating them, and seeing if there is chemistry there and, more importantly, same end game goals.
Not just talking out my ass here. Was dating others when I started dating my bae. Thank god I was too. The contrast actually had me looking at him with new eyes. click to expand
ok. if you wanna date two ppl at once do u. but u go around on here telling all these women to dump and stop being weak, stop being in love with one man. u live ur own truth, don’t preach it to others. cos i would be hurt if a man was dating another woman alongside me. i’d be wondering why the treetrunk he’s wasting my time. but then again, i don’t go dating. treetrunk all that ritual butter. click to expand
Lol so just so I got this right...I shouldn’t go around giving my opinion but you can. Even though you don’t even date. K.
Btw never said to stop being weak, your the one using that word. Never advised anyone to dump anyone either. Check your projection. Not a cute look. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by WittyGem88v2ok i agree with that but that’s not what i see ppl sayingPosted by besarlalluvia
if u can move onto another man that quickly because he is too independent for you to not wanna chase you after u chose to travel away.. then u can’t have liked him that much and just want attention
There is a disconnect on this thing that you are mentioning. Not chasing a man who dosnt like you does not mean you have to move on to another guy. Its more about loving yourself and beig content with yourself so you dont fill the void with the weong relationships with the wrong men aka men who are not that into you. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by WittyGem88v2They will always blame you, even if they’re asked you for it 🙅🏻♀️Posted by Haruuka
I promise my self to stop give aother people advices about their relationships, Its just fkd up
Its a very wise decision. Sometimes wanting to help by being honest results to dislike. Based on my own experience here lol click to expandclick to expand
There is some great wisdom in the book.....great that it's written by a man too...I've ordered it from the library
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Posted by HaruukaSo truePosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by Haruuka
I promise my self to stop give aother people advices about their relationships, Its just fkd up
Its a very wise decision. Sometimes wanting to help by being honest results to dislike. Based on my own experience here lol click to expand
They will always blame you, even if they’re asked you for it 🙅🏻♀️ click to expandclick to expand
Why bother asking.....really?
Posted by WittyGem88v2Some people want you to enable them to carry on chasing an elusive dream....to me, supporting that is more cruel than kindPosted by Haruuka
I promise my self to stop give aother people advices about their relationships, Its just fkd up
Its a very wise decision. Sometimes wanting to help by being honest results to dislike. Based on my own experience here lol click to expandclick to expand
In the long run, it's better to see the truth
Posted by WittyGem88v2They are extremely draining .....Posted by HaruukaPosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by Haruuka
I promise my self to stop give aother people advices about their relationships, Its just fkd up
Its a very wise decision. Sometimes wanting to help by being honest results to dislike. Based on my own experience here lol click to expand
They will always blame you, even if they’re asked you for it 🙅🏻♀️ click to expand
Those people are called ask-holes. They ask but they didnt wanna listen lol click to expandclick to expand
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I didn't read the book, but a guy wrote it.....maybe he explains a few things in there that are useful to know?
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10412.He_s_Just_Not_That_Into_You