Men, if a woman told you not to contact her anymore would you still do it if you cared??

So this guy and I were texting and getting to know each other. We’ve known each other for a while but we got closer.

We got into an argument and out of anger I told him to not contact me that much. I didn’t use the word “anymore” but I know guys can be insecure so to them it probably translates to “leave me alone”. Well, that’s exactly what he did. He stopped all communication and I feel so stupid for telling him that. I didn’t mean it but I let my emotions get the best of me that day.

Now I don’t know what to do because I miss talking to him and I doubt he’ll contact me again. A part of me wants to reach out to him but now I’m confused. Is he not reaching out because he genuinely doesn’t care and doesn’t like me that much or because I said not to contact me? I need to know how guys operate when it comes to things like this. If you REALLY really like a girl, would give up easily? Did he just give up on me? Look, I wasn’t playing games but I said something I didn’t mean out of anger. Is it better to reach out or move on?

Apologise

You got exactly what you asked for.

If you want to talk to him, call him up and apologize to him and let him know you over reacted and miss chatting with him.

Get over your ego since it's confusing you.

Be prepared for what ever happens either way.

It's better to reach out!

If you feel love then go after it.

Update: I also agree 100% with

@saggurl88. @MyStarsShine. @dragonh0rsecvck

apologize. And always keep it about love.

Unpopular opinion. But I wouldn’t bother with someone who doesn’t care to reach out after an argument. Most times arguments are trivial.

Hell no. Who tf does that? That's like if you're out in public with friends, and some random person tries to follow your crew around even though you don't want them to. Like who the fuck actually does that?

I absolutely hate the type of men who forcefully bother a woman, even though shes shown she isn't interested. Like if that woman was my friend, or family, I'd literally tell that guy to go tf away, and If he refused or had an attitude, I'd literally beat the fuck out of him on the spot. If she doesn't want you, she doesn't want you. Respect her decision and move the fuck on.

If we were getting to know each other and had an argument ALREADY and you said leave me alone. I'd leave you alone. No don't contact him, you've put him through rejection, which is hard on a person. You don't get to then decide, oh I miss him I want him back in my life. You're gonna argue again if you already have lmao, that's what getting to know someone is, now you know.

Don't be too shy or too proud to apologize.

Respect his answer,good or bad,he did respect you by not reaching out,after you told him not to contact you.

Try not to expect too much if you can, because it could be that he moved on immediately.

Mindful communication is key.

Good luck 🤞

“We got into an argument and out of anger I told him to not contact me that much.“

I have never known someone to say “don’t contact me that much” out of anger. Do you think people were born yesterday? A man acknowledged and respected your demand and he is insecure for that? No, he is not. If I were him, I would keep the door closed. I doubt you would respect someone who did that to you.

Depends where she falls on the matrix

The thing is that I told him something about his smile that seemed to bother him. I told him he had a naughty smile, like a bad boy type.

he started being dramatic about it and then said: “I don’t want to talk about this anymore”. I felt offended because I didn’t think I said anything offensive. I was just being playful so I told him that maybe he shouldn’t talk to me that much then since I didn’t want to make him uncomfortable. So I don’t know if I should be the one apologizing or him.

Posted by Lizz549
The thing is that I told him something about his smile that seemed to bother him. I told him he had a naughty smile, like a bad boy type.

he started being dramatic about it and then said: “I don’t want to talk about this anymore”. I felt offended because I didn’t think I said anything offensive. I was just being playful so I told him that maybe he shouldn’t talk to me that much then since I didn’t want to make him uncomfortable. So I don’t know if I should be the one apologizing or him.

LMAO- You finding excuses not to apologize? It's your ego that is bothered by it.

Seems like you flirted and he brought you back into the friend zone.

Move on and let this one go.

I agree with the other person who says he may not care that much.

Try it and see, if he leaves you on read, you know he isn't up for making amends with you.

Posted by Lizz549
The thing is that I told him something about his smile that seemed to bother him. I told him he had a naughty smile, like a bad boy type.

he started being dramatic about it and then said: “I don’t want to talk about this anymore”. I felt offended because I didn’t think I said anything offensive. I was just being playful so I told him that maybe he shouldn’t talk to me that much then since I didn’t want to make him uncomfortable. So I don’t know if I should be the one apologizing or him.

Huh...? You have nothing to apologise for. He is thin-skinned and unable to respond to banter. He doesn't seem a good match for you, and he most likely knows it.

Meh. Let him go.

Posted by Lizz549
So this guy and I were texting and getting to know each other. We’ve known each other for a while but we got closer.

We got into an argument and out of anger I told him to not contact me that much. I didn’t use the word “anymore” but I know guys can be insecure so to them it probably translates to “leave me alone”. Well, that’s exactly what he did. He stopped all communication and I feel so stupid for telling him that. I didn’t mean it but I let my emotions get the best of me that day.


Now I don’t know what to do because I miss talking to him and I doubt he’ll contact me again. A part of me wants to reach out to him but now I’m confused. Is he not reaching out because he genuinely doesn’t care and doesn’t like me that much or because I said not to contact me? I need to know how guys operate when it comes to things like this. If you REALLY really like a girl, would give up easily? Did he just give up on me? Look, I wasn’t playing games but I said something I didn’t mean out of anger. Is it better to reach out or move on?

Hmm, you are just texting and getting to know each other, I question both of your levels of attachment at that stage. Attachment compels people to put effort into making amends and repair issues in relationships.

That bring said,

Yup this is on you. Apologize and make amends.

Doesn't matter how much a man cares, there is a breaking point involving self respect and what someone did and how treated us.

Whatever the reason.

If he genuinely cares a lot, he is dealing with this loss too, in his own way.

Something I've noticed woman don't understand about men.

We have feelings and emotions too, we just handle them differently.

Whatever happens with this, you have the opportunity to learn a lesson here going forward. To be clear, how you felt is besides the point, it's how you handled it that's the issue here. Learn from this.

Humans are wonderfully complex creatures. A blessing with it's own caviats.