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Get the police so you can get back your things.
I was wondering what to do about that legally. I'm worried about my animals too
Tell people. Find someone to stay with ...and get your things as soon as you can. Have someone get them for you. And if he is violent or even aggressive get the police maybe they can get your stuff. Make a report.



I think also make your mind strong. It's not uncommon for guys to try and entice you back. He thinks ..oh she won't like sleeping in her car ..she'll come crawling back etc.





He thinks because he's isolated me I don't have anyone anymore


He is wrong. There are shelters.

You have friends.

The FIRST and FOREMOST thing ..is GET HIM OUT OF YOUR HEAD.

You should not be embarrassed. Please tell people. It's the no 1 mistake women make.

Tell all your friends. Text them.

Family too. Explain..tell them the abuse too. Don't be afraid of his reputation ..he should have thought of that.

Ask the police for no's of women's shelters..it might not come to that ..but just in case.
Okay I will do all of that. My family and friends were so happy and made them believe it was all a fairy tale. So embarrassed. And the girl he's messaging we've fought about for months. He will delete all her messages and say he doesn't know what happened and I've read some real shitty things between them. Kind of kickes me in my gut and I had just moved in. Didn't have the emotional energy to fight back hard enough
Think about all of that in a few days. Just find somewhere and some people for now.
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it

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Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.
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Is this true ?
Yes he threw me out after he got caught. I guess he was to emabarrased to face up to it
That's terrible .. Where will u go?
Idk maybe friends tonight maybe shelter or sleep in my car
Jesus Christ , what kind of person does that ?!
I'm still in shock
I'm sorry this has happened .. How long has it been since he kicked u out ? Has he contacted u?


Two hours. And yes he said to come back, but he's getting more and more violent everyday.
Oh my.. Does he hit u? Throw things at u? Talk nasty to u?


He traps me in my bedroom and pushes me and yells for hours. I'm like five two and he's 6'3. It's gone on for months
Ok, that is abuse .. He won't change , I'm sorry hunnie .. How old are u may I ask ?



29 old enough to know Better I guess


Stop that..I told you ...GET HIS LIES OUT OF YOUR HEAD.

He is 100% to blame.
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Yea just feel broken down. I just wanted a decent guy and thought he was one. But I don't think they exist
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Get the police so you can get back your things.
I was wondering what to do about that legally. I'm worried about my animals too
Tell people. Find someone to stay with ...and get your things as soon as you can. Have someone get them for you. And if he is violent or even aggressive get the police maybe they can get your stuff. Make a report.



I think also make your mind strong. It's not uncommon for guys to try and entice you back. He thinks ..oh she won't like sleeping in her car ..she'll come crawling back etc.





He thinks because he's isolated me I don't have anyone anymore


He is wrong. There are shelters.

You have friends.

The FIRST and FOREMOST thing ..is GET HIM OUT OF YOUR HEAD.

You should not be embarrassed. Please tell people. It's the no 1 mistake women make.

Tell all your friends. Text them.

Family too. Explain..tell them the abuse too. Don't be afraid of his reputation ..he should have thought of that.

Ask the police for no's of women's shelters..it might not come to that ..but just in case.
Okay I will do all of that. My family and friends were so happy and made them believe it was all a fairy tale. So embarrassed. And the girl he's messaging we've fought about for months. He will delete all her messages and say he doesn't know what happened and I've read some real shitty things between them. Kind of kickes me in my gut and I had just moved in. Didn't have the emotional energy to fight back hard enough
Think about all of that in a few days. Just find somewhere and some people for now.
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I will leave it there. I hope your coming year is happier. xx {:-)
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Thank you. I hope so too
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.

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My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
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Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


She is 5'2 he is 6'3 get real ...stop trolling.
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lol instead of calling me a troll just give her a better advise lol
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Get someone else to get your stuff...to be honest ..perhaps you don't need it just now.

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Is this true ?
Yes he threw me out after he got caught. I guess he was to emabarrased to face up to it
That's terrible .. Where will u go?
Idk maybe friends tonight maybe shelter or sleep in my car
Jesus Christ , what kind of person does that ?!
I'm still in shock
I'm sorry this has happened .. How long has it been since he kicked u out ? Has he contacted u?


Two hours. And yes he said to come back, but he's getting more and more violent everyday.
Oh my.. Does he hit u? Throw things at u? Talk nasty to u?


He traps me in my bedroom and pushes me and yells for hours. I'm like five two and he's 6'3. It's gone on for months
Ok, that is abuse .. He won't change , I'm sorry hunnie .. How old are u may I ask ?



29 old enough to know Better I guess

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There's always lessons to be learned no matter how old we are. The same lessons will repeat until u learn & stop.. When I was 18 my ex BF would verbally abuse me & accuse me of cheating all the time. It was no fun .. He wouldn't change so I broke up with him after 2 years

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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
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I have nowhere to put it
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Is this true ?
Yes he threw me out after he got caught. I guess he was to emabarrased to face up to it
That's terrible .. Where will u go?
Idk maybe friends tonight maybe shelter or sleep in my car
Jesus Christ , what kind of person does that ?!
I'm still in shock
I'm sorry this has happened .. How long has it been since he kicked u out ? Has he contacted u?


Two hours. And yes he said to come back, but he's getting more and more violent everyday.
Oh my.. Does he hit u? Throw things at u? Talk nasty to u?


He traps me in my bedroom and pushes me and yells for hours. I'm like five two and he's 6'3. It's gone on for months
Ok, that is abuse .. He won't change , I'm sorry hunnie .. How old are u may I ask ?



29 old enough to know Better I guess


There's always lessons to be learned no matter how old we are. The same lessons will repeat until u learn & stop.. When I was 18 my ex BF would verbally abuse me & accuse me of cheating all the time. It was no fun .. He wouldn't change so I broke up with him after 2 years

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I'm glad I saw this before I married him. You're right girl
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I moved three hours from home to live in the middle of nowhere. With hardly any phone service. That's why I type really fast and misspell because my phone cuts out all day. So I just literally crawled out of a black hole with some guy screaming at me for weeks

He is a fucking psycho ..and he planned this shit...
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I think that too. I tried to break up w him before and he slept on my doorstep and would sit in my parking lot and watch me. And at the time I was to depressed to fight him.
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
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That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.
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Is this true ?
Yes he threw me out after he got caught. I guess he was to emabarrased to face up to it
That's terrible .. Where will u go?
Idk maybe friends tonight maybe shelter or sleep in my car
Jesus Christ , what kind of person does that ?!
I'm still in shock
I'm sorry this has happened .. How long has it been since he kicked u out ? Has he contacted u?


Two hours. And yes he said to come back, but he's getting more and more violent everyday.
Oh my.. Does he hit u? Throw things at u? Talk nasty to u?


He traps me in my bedroom and pushes me and yells for hours. I'm like five two and he's 6'3. It's gone on for months
Ok, that is abuse .. He won't change , I'm sorry hunnie .. How old are u may I ask ?



29 old enough to know Better I guess


There's always lessons to be learned no matter how old we are. The same lessons will repeat until u learn & stop.. When I was 18 my ex BF would verbally abuse me & accuse me of cheating all the time. It was no fun .. He wouldn't change so I broke up with him after 2 years


Been there ...younger than the op you have nothing to be embarrassed about...i had way more warning signs...i don't blame myself one bit...he did that shit not me...you learn but you also learn ..it's never what you deserved...
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Exactly, u learn that it's not what u deserve , ever ... I stayed as long as I did cuz I had nowhere else to go & no job at the time.. I was looking while staying with him at his moms but couldn't find one, certainly not one to make the rent & bills.. My parents kicked me out.. When I was finally able to come home, I left him
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
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It's either plan or just take off and take your chances.
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
It's either plan or just take off and take your chances.
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Yea I'm debating on if I should go back and plan. I can't stand looking at him though. The house and him depresses me
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.

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No I see your point and I can play dumb. But at this point I'm so filled with disgust going back would be like mental suicide. I almost want to say screw everything there and start over, but I might end up having to go back. Just not tonight
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


No I see your point and I can play dumb. But at this point I'm so filled with disgust going back would be like mental suicide. I almost want to say screw everything there and start over, but I might end up having to go back. Just not tonight
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The thing is you can't go to war without a plan same thing applies here. But if your safety is threatened then you should really consider moving out completely.
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


No I see your point and I can play dumb. But at this point I'm so filled with disgust going back would be like mental suicide. I almost want to say screw everything there and start over, but I might end up having to go back. Just not tonight
The thing is you can't go to war without a plan same thing applies here. But if your safety is threatened then you should really consider moving out completely.

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My best friend just said I could live with her. I'm fine now
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


No I see your point and I can play dumb. But at this point I'm so filled with disgust going back would be like mental suicide. I almost want to say screw everything there and start over, but I might end up having to go back. Just not tonight
The thing is you can't go to war without a plan same thing applies here. But if your safety is threatened then you should really consider moving out completely.



My best friend just said I could live with her. I'm fine now

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— don't be that girl tho and try the go back to him when he pleads.
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


No I see your point and I can play dumb. But at this point I'm so filled with disgust going back would be like mental suicide. I almost want to say screw everything there and start over, but I might end up having to go back. Just not tonight
The thing is you can't go to war without a plan same thing applies here. But if your safety is threatened then you should really consider moving out completely.



My best friend just said I could live with her. I'm fine now


— don't be that girl tho and try the go back to him when he pleads.
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I'm not lol this is best thing he could have done for me thanks for your help
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.

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Sounds like something I would do
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Posted by Stensco21
Posted by Stinger408scorp
He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


No I see your point and I can play dumb. But at this point I'm so filled with disgust going back would be like mental suicide. I almost want to say screw everything there and start over, but I might end up having to go back. Just not tonight
The thing is you can't go to war without a plan same thing applies here. But if your safety is threatened then you should really consider moving out completely.



My best friend just said I could live with her. I'm fine now


— don't be that girl tho and try the go back to him when he pleads.

I'm not lol this is best thing he could have done for me thanks for your help

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This issue is something I wouldn't even dare think about trolling wish you luck op
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Posted by Stinger408scorp
He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.



Sounds like something I would do

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Lol scorpios are methodical I will never go to war without a plan.
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Posted by Stensco21
Posted by Stinger408scorp
He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.

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What stinger408 said.. U have to really want to get away though. If u don't really want to get away from him & half ass it , it won't work.. U will be trapped again & for a long time.
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


No I see your point and I can play dumb. But at this point I'm so filled with disgust going back would be like mental suicide. I almost want to say screw everything there and start over, but I might end up having to go back. Just not tonight
The thing is you can't go to war without a plan same thing applies here. But if your safety is threatened then you should really consider moving out completely.



My best friend just said I could live with her. I'm fine now


— don't be that girl tho and try the go back to him when he pleads.

I'm not lol this is best thing he could have done for me thanks for your help


This issue is something I wouldn't even dare think about trolling wish you luck op
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Thank you I feel a lot better. Thanks for your support
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Posted by Stinger408scorp
He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


What stinger408 said.. U have to really want to get away though. If u don't really want to get away from him & half ass it , it won't work.. U will be trapped again & for a long time.
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Posted by Stinger408scorp
He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


What stinger408 said.. U have to really want to get away though. If u don't really want to get away from him & half ass it , it won't work.. U will be trapped again & for a long time.
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Not going back promise
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Posted by Stinger408scorp
He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


What stinger408 said.. U have to really want to get away though. If u don't really want to get away from him & half ass it , it won't work.. U will be trapped again & for a long time.
Not going back promise
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Make a promise to yourself for yourself.. I truly wish u the best , I know it's not easy
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.


My guilt will kick in while I'm there and I'll be trapped again
Then involve the cops and get your stuff if you don't want any more issues.
I have nowhere to put it
That's why you gotta have a plan get yourself together and try to get your own place or rent a room. I'm looking at every possible angle here I'm not just giving you stupid advise and I'm definitely not trolling. When I say play dumb you have to make him think he still has control but at the same time you wanna make sure you have a plan to gtfo of that relationship I know it's not easy but it's doable that's if you don't wanna be living on the streets.


What stinger408 said.. U have to really want to get away though. If u don't really want to get away from him & half ass it , it won't work.. U will be trapped again & for a long time.
Not going back promise
Make a promise to yourself for yourself.. I truly wish u the best , I know it's not easy

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Thank you I already feel a huge weight lifted
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Is this true ?
Yes he threw me out after he got caught. I guess he was to emabarrased to face up to it
That's sounds kind of bizarre!

We're you contributing to rent or anything?

And how long was 'the girl' there for him?

Something doesn't add up here sorry
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Ha! Coming from you that's rich.
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Is this true ?
Yes he threw me out after he got caught. I guess he was to emabarrased to face up to it
That's sounds kind of bizarre!

We're you contributing to rent or anything?

And how long was 'the girl' there for him?

Something doesn't add up here sorry
Ha! Coming from you that's rich.
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Like I give a rats patooty about your opinion! Hahaha
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Posted by Stensco21
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He prolly did you a favor by kicking you out so you could stay away and think better.
I think so too. Feel relieved actually
So just try to get your shit together and use the downtime to think and move forward.

I am. I think we'll under pressure. Worried about my cats there.


Just be nice to him kiss ass a lil Get your things then move.

I could try but I cringe when he touches me. I can't hide it


Just play dumb till you get all your stuff show him he still in control then take off when he least expect it.



Sounds like something I would do


Lol scorpios are methodical I will never go to war without a plan.
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Exactly!! I'm not huge on ego for one thing. So anything which can get the work done works for me.

I'm so sorry you are going through this OP.People gave you enough advices from what I see. I wish you luck...Stay strong.
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Only 2 stupid comments in this thread. I am proud of you guys!

OP I hope you get your babies back. I have a friend who went through all kinds of abuse from an ex. Sounds like the same damn guy. Is he a drug addict?
I hope so too and he used to be a huge drug dealer only stopped for probation
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Well it's good your friend has a place for you to stay. Now you just need to regroup, have a sleep and tomorrow you can start to think about what to do next.

Do be prepared for shit to hit the fan on his end though. Do you have a cell phone? Is he blowing it up with texts? Keep anything and everything he has sent you as evidence of his abuse from here on out. Take care of yourself.
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Only 2 stupid comments in this thread. I am proud of you guys!

OP I hope you get your babies back. I have a friend who went through all kinds of abuse from an ex. Sounds like the same damn guy. Is he a drug addict?
I hope so too and he used to be a huge drug dealer only stopped for probation
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So you are out of your mind as i suspected?

He was making illegal money and you were his kept woman and now you are sitting in Mazeratti he bought for you and typing all this on your last model of iphone or there is some better ones?

What are you wearing? Jimmy Choo?
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Only 2 stupid comments in this thread. I am proud of you guys!

OP I hope you get your babies back. I have a friend who went through all kinds of abuse from an ex. Sounds like the same damn guy. Is he a drug addict?
I hope so too and he used to be a huge drug dealer only stopped for probation
Well it's good your friend has a place for you to stay. Now you just need to regroup, have a sleep and tomorrow you can start to think about what to do next.

Do be prepared for shit to hit the fan on his end though. Do you have a cell phone? Is he blowing it up with texts? Keep anything and everything he has sent you as evidence of his abuse from here on out. Take care of yourself.
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Yes he is blowing up my phone. Saying he's going to kill him self.
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Only 2 stupid comments in this thread. I am proud of you guys!

OP I hope you get your babies back. I have a friend who went through all kinds of abuse from an ex. Sounds like the same damn guy. Is he a drug addict?
I hope so too and he used to be a huge drug dealer only stopped for probation
Well it's good your friend has a place for you to stay. Now you just need to regroup, have a sleep and tomorrow you can start to think about what to do next.

Do be prepared for shit to hit the fan on his end though. Do you have a cell phone? Is he blowing it up with texts? Keep anything and everything he has sent you as evidence of his abuse from here on out. Take care of yourself.

Yes he is blowing up my phone. Saying he's going to kill him self.

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Typical.... keep that. Do not respond. If he can find out your whereabouts, he can create problems for you and your friend, and the more records you have of him being crazy, the better your case. Especially if you have anything from the past with him, emails, anything written down, even any dates and times he has been abusive to you.

Right now, though, the best you can do is just not message him at all.

If you ever find yourself with a lawyer, they would tell you the same thing. Do not respond, and take records.
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Only 2 stupid comments in this thread. I am proud of you guys!

OP I hope you get your babies back. I have a friend who went through all kinds of abuse from an ex. Sounds like the same damn guy. Is he a drug addict?
I hope so too and he used to be a huge drug dealer only stopped for probation
Well it's good your friend has a place for you to stay. Now you just need to regroup, have a sleep and tomorrow you can start to think about what to do next.

Do be prepared for shit to hit the fan on his end though. Do you have a cell phone? Is he blowing it up with texts? Keep anything and everything he has sent you as evidence of his abuse from here on out. Take care of yourself.

Yes he is blowing up my phone. Saying he's going to kill him self.




Typical.... keep that. Do not respond. If he can find out your whereabouts, he can create problems for you and your friend, and the more records you have of him being crazy, the better your case. Especially if you have anything from the past with him, emails, anything written down, even any dates and times he has been abusive to you.

Right now, though, the best you can do is just not message him at all.

If you ever find yourself with a lawyer, they would tell you the same thing. Do not respond, and take records.
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Okay I'll keep all that in mind. I haven't responded since I left and just gotta get through tonight and I'll be ok. Thanks for being so sweet