Sex + eye contact in relationships

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Depressed, thanks for asking.

it's called emotional sex a lot of avoiding eye contact and wet face caused by silent tears
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I used to love making eye contact with clients or other NSA partners. It gave me a feeling of control and overall made me feel sexy af.

Now whenever I make eye contact with my bf during sex I feel powerless and awkward so I pull us closer so we don’t have to make eye contact.

How do I fix this? He stares at me the whole time during sex so I feel bad sometimes not having the confidence to stare back. It just doesn’t feel the same. Don’t get me wrong, the sex feels amaaaaazing. Just the eye contact and confidence feels off.
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Should of disregarded my comment I was being sarcastic but I had this same problem with my ex but I realized he'd get more into it when I would steal glances so it made me more comfortable making eye contact in small intervals

may I ask why you feel powerless and self conscious?

Maybe it’s all the attention that makes me feel powerless, or the intensity.
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Maybe the first scenario had a lot more danger to it?

The boys I’ve been accustomed to having sex with for the most part had intimacy issues (it’s a big generalization but I’d say it’s def a common denominator). With intimacy issues comes fear of eye contact, so maybe it just felt more special in those cases, like I won.
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Should of disregarded my comment I was being sarcastic but I had this same problem with my ex but I realized he'd get more into it when I would steal glances so it made me more comfortable making eye contact in small intervals

may I ask why you feel powerless and self conscious?

Maybe it’s all the attention that makes me feel powerless, or the intensity.
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Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.
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Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.

That could be one way to look at it, except he knows my past, so your argument is invalid.
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Perhaps view the eye contact as a form of a challenge, after all you are both laid bare.

To see it as who will dare remain open and vulnerable, during an act where you are both sharing a moment of great intimacy.

Maybe that change of perspective and mindset could help you.

See it as this - You want to see all of me ? Then so be it, but I will see right through you as well, as you are.
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Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.

That could be one way to look at it, except he knows my past, so your argument is invalid.
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That's not what you said previously. Unless you came clean to him. Also, this isn't your past, you still do it. And didn't you also say you were quitting school in January to continue to pursue the life style of being a hooker and in order to make more money? Finally, it isn't invalid for me to say so at all, since you do believe you are worthless and not worthy of love, as you have said so before.
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Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.

That could be one way to look at it, except he knows my past, so your argument is invalid.

That's not what you said previously. Unless you came clean to him. Also, this isn't your past, you still do it. And didn't you also say you were quitting school in January to continue to pursue the life style of being a hooker and in order to make more money? Finally, it isn't invalid for me to say so at all, since you do believe you are worthless and not worthy of love, as you have said so before.
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You must be thinking bout someone else I’ve posted about. This dudes a Gemini, we’ve been together for a month...

I was thinking bout quitting school, until I met him.

Sooo just because I sometimes feel like I’m unworthy of love means it’s true? Sad to see you’re still a bully, Tigre.
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Should of disregarded my comment I was being sarcastic but I had this same problem with my ex but I realized he'd get more into it when I would steal glances so it made me more comfortable making eye contact in small intervals

may I ask why you feel powerless and self conscious?

Maybe it’s all the attention that makes me feel powerless, or the intensity.
Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.
I guess you never saw pretty woman
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Yes exactly. Thank you for pointing out that life is not a movie.
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Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.

That could be one way to look at it, except he knows my past, so your argument is invalid.

That's not what you said previously. Unless you came clean to him. Also, this isn't your past, you still do it. And didn't you also say you were quitting school in January to continue to pursue the life style of being a hooker and in order to make more money? Finally, it isn't invalid for me to say so at all, since you do believe you are worthless and not worthy of love, as you have said so before.

You must be thinking bout someone else I’ve posted about. This dudes a Gemini, we’ve been together for a month...

I was thinking bout quitting school, until I met him.

Sooo just because I sometimes feel like I’m unworthy of love means it’s true? Sad to see you’re still a bully, Tigre.
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Oh yes maybe it was another guy. I can't keep track of all the people you sleep with.

I don't believe you are deserving of love to be honest, simply because of all the things you have done to others. And I know you do believe that to be true deep down. I am not a bully for stating my opinion, but if it helps you feel better and avoid the truth of the matter then so be it.

I don't know who tiger is either. I am not that person.

It doesn't matter anyhow, you are where you are in your life because you run from facts, and avoid listening to anyone with any valid points. If it isn't all fluffed up and in your favor you simply accuse the person of things to make yourself feel better.

At any rate, this relationship will not last long at all so your conundrum is all for nothing.
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Should of disregarded my comment I was being sarcastic but I had this same problem with my ex but I realized he'd get more into it when I would steal glances so it made me more comfortable making eye contact in small intervals

may I ask why you feel powerless and self conscious?

Maybe it’s all the attention that makes me feel powerless, or the intensity.
Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.
I guess you never saw pretty woman
Yes exactly. Thank you for pointing out that life is not a movie.
I still want to see your data on the number of hookers that find love

Until you have analytics data like modern basketball coaches you’re just coaching team spirit which doesn’t win championships
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I'm not confident actual case studies have been done. Also, I doubt any hookers would take part, as this would need to be a study done later in life, in order to truly determine the presence of "love" throughout ones life.

As a result of the shorter than average life span of hookers due to drug overdoses, suicide, or murder, as well as homelessness, I doubt there would be an adequate number of study group participants.

Well that's an interesting study to think about.
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Oh yes maybe it was another guy. I can't keep track of all the people you sleep with.

I don't believe you are deserving of love to be honest, simply because of all the things you have done to others. And I know you do believe that to be true deep down. I am not a bully for stating my opinion, but if it helps you feel better and avoid the truth of the matter then so be it.

I don't know who tiger is either. I am not that person.

You don’t know “all the things [I’ve] done to others”. I’ve lived my life to what I feel is morally correct, but that’s a whole other chat in itself.



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It doesn't matter anyhow, you are where you are in your life because you run from facts, and avoid listening to anyone with any valid points. If it isn't all fluffed up and in your favor you simply accuse the person of things to make yourself feel better.

At any rate, this relationship will not last long at all so your conundrum is all for nothing.
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Now I’m 100% convinced you’re reflecting. Work on yourself before judging others.
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Posted by Whiskey_in_a_barrel_for_sale
I hate eye contact during sex... I would be like literally praying he has his eyes closed. It would be a shame if he were to see my face and lose a hard on... Esp knowing how difficult it must have been to get it up with me -_-

No homo, but I find it hard to believe you’d make a guys hard on go down.
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I hate eye contact during sex... I would be like literally praying he has his eyes closed. It would be a shame if he were to see my face and lose a hard on... Esp knowing how difficult it must have been to get it up with me -_-

No homo, but I find it hard to believe you’d make a guys hard on go down.

Being ugly helps a lot
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But you’re not ugly 🤔🤔
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Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.

That could be one way to look at it, except he knows my past, so your argument is invalid.
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What do you mean past? Are you a nurse now?
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Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.

That could be one way to look at it, except he knows my past, so your argument is invalid.

What do you mean past? Are you a nurse now?
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🤫 I quit selling sex.
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Sounds like a female version of the Madonna whore complex. Maybe you actually like your bf and can't relax during sex, because it means more to you now than just having sex.

Dr. Sag

Sometimes I wish I could think I’m just using him for sex and fun dates.

Why? Are you scared?
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Very. I know he can do so much better than me. All these girls check him out or slide into his DM’s online. It’s a matter of time before he finds someone better 😢
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Sounds like a female version of the Madonna whore complex. Maybe you actually like your bf and can't relax during sex, because it means more to you now than just having sex.

Dr. Sag

Sometimes I wish I could think I’m just using him for sex and fun dates.

Why? Are you scared?

Very. I know he can do so much better than me. All these girls check him out or slide into his DM’s online. It’s a matter of time before he finds someone better 😢
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Sounds normal to me. That's why I assumed you liked him more than you thought.
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Very. I know he can do so much better than me. All these girls check him out or slide into his DM’s online. It’s a matter of time before he finds someone better 😢

Sounds normal to me. That's why I assumed you liked him more than you thought.
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So how do I get over this fear of him leaving me or cheating? Rn Xanax is the only thing that keeps my mind out of the gutter. It helps until I see another shady hoe.
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Eye contact can be very personal for some people.

I agree during sex it can be a little awk like okay were staring at each other.....then when they do the ‘ohhh face’. Lmao.

Sometimes I’m mistrustful of the things you say & your intentions. But I’m starting to think we relate on a few levels 👯‍♀️
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Very. I know he can do so much better than me. All these girls check him out or slide into his DM’s online. It’s a matter of time before he finds someone better 😢

Sounds normal to me. That's why I assumed you liked him more than you thought.

So how do I get over this fear of him leaving me or cheating? Rn Xanax is the only thing that keeps my mind out of the gutter. It helps until I see another shady hoe.
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You won't like my answer: you have to go through it, even if he ever really left or cheated. Anybody who claims to not have that fear in the beginning is either lying or not just that into her/his so.
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So how do I get over this fear of him leaving me or cheating? Rn Xanax is the only thing that keeps my mind out of the gutter. It helps until I see another shady hoe.

You won't like my answer: you have to go through it, even if he ever really left or cheated. Anybody who claims to not have that fear in the beginning is either lying or not just that into her/his so.
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Welp, I’m glad to hear this is at least normal, that I’m not crazy for being this invested so early on.
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Or maybe it's because he doesn't know you're a hooker and you know the truth deep down, that you don't deserve anybodies love. How many hookers do you know that find love? Not many. This is just the cold hard truth, so no need to get upset, it's just simple facts.

That could be one way to look at it, except he knows my past, so your argument is invalid.

What do you mean past? Are you a nurse now?

🤫 I quit selling sex.
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Oh! You must tell me that in detailes...🙂

Wow girl! Just wow!