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@Rimzy
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Why would an ex continuously reach out years later?
Most of mine do this, not just Virgos. They usually just want sex and to chat because they say I'm easy to talk to.
I had to block a Virgo though, he kept coming back and then would try to guilt trip me because I wouldn't meet up with him- and he had a girlfriend and a baby and was still trying to meet up with me on the side.
Mostly I think guys do this because they are bored and a women keeps allowing them access.
I don't mind it because I love telling a guy no, once we are done. If they keep trying to apply pressure and it gets annoying, I block them.
He mouthed off to me and I didn't like his energy or him, so I blocked him for good and made it so he can't find me on social media.
Guys either get blocked or ignored if they piss me off enough.
I'm actually tired of exes holding on. But I keep allowing them access to me, so It's my fault as well. I'm just too nice to tell them to stop messaging or calling. I can tolerate once in a while.
I had to block a Virgo though, he kept coming back and then would try to guilt trip me because I wouldn't meet up with him- and he had a girlfriend and a baby and was still trying to meet up with me on the side.
Mostly I think guys do this because they are bored and a women keeps allowing them access.
I don't mind it because I love telling a guy no, once we are done. If they keep trying to apply pressure and it gets annoying, I block them.
He mouthed off to me and I didn't like his energy or him, so I blocked him for good and made it so he can't find me on social media.
Guys either get blocked or ignored if they piss me off enough.
I'm actually tired of exes holding on. But I keep allowing them access to me, so It's my fault as well. I'm just too nice to tell them to stop messaging or calling. I can tolerate once in a while.
Posted by slug
Just block him.
Because the last time he reached out, he blocked first 😂
Like he messaged and sent a ton of messages and then blocked. Somehow I can’t block him when he blocks me first.
Posted by StubbornSagittarius
Question is, why haven't you blocked him yet if he's that boring?
No, it's not a Virgo thing. It's maybe an early dementia thing lol
I’ve blocked him on IG and he made a new account and messaged me and then blocked me again.
He’s quick with the block
Posted by BunnyMacDougal
He seems like a nice guy lol
Lol 😂 it’s YOU ands…we talking about you, I know you do this to your womens 👀
It’s not a sign thing. It’s a lack of respect thing. You’ve laid the stage for how he can treat you. He knows you’re kind and cordial and responsive, until you make clear boundaries it will continue. And even then, don’t be surprised if he throws a fit or straight up ignores them, because it sounds like his only concern is for his own feelings. I say block him and be done with it. I’ve had to do it before and yet sometimes they still find new ways to pop up, so I know it’s frustrating. Just be proactive about it. Make it an environment he does not want to or can not return to.
Posted by slug
@Rimzy
Well that's annoying. You're in a blocking race 😂
Also idk why I can't quote people but it's starting to piss me off. HELLO DXP PLZ.
You can only quote from the main post, not from the notification area if you clicked on that to see the post. Yes it is annoying though
It’s easier to go back for sex than work towards convincing a new women for sexual without the dating spending money ect first
Posted by Truemara
It’s easier to go back for sex than work towards convincing a new women for sexual without the dating spending money ect first
+1
Posted by Rimzy
I have an ex who does this like routine reach out that’s always spaced out a few years between contact who tries to rekindle something and then somehow fades into obscurity and then returns again like some dementia patient 😂
I no longer find this funny btw. I’m very serious right now. I really just don’t understand his situation and it’s just don’t know why or wtf?
So he’s someone I dated off and on a while back and he’s a virgo. The man has a kid who’s a teen now and I don’t know much else about his life besides that we live in the same city and he’s really into fitness and is going far in his career. We have mutual friends but they know I don’t care to talk about him or know anything.
This pattern he does where he circles back to me is confusing. Since we know one another socially he just kind of messages me and it’s almost always with an apology for how we last spoke and then he gets into details of his life and asks about me, my life etc. Hes known for sometime now that I have a husband and a son and he has not been deterred by this before 👀.
Previously I’ve responded that I forgive him and our history is in the past and he doesn’t need to apologize because we’re both very grown and we both understand that we just didn’t work well together.
Yet he keeps returning. Always with the same kind of apology and tries to get cute and flirty. I’ve been very nice and supportive and tried to neutralize the convo but he doesn’t seem to care- and tries to be sexual or intimate and when he doesn’t get what he wants he vanishes lol AND blocks me.
A year or years go by and he returns- like herpes and just tries to cycle the same shit again.
I don’t understand people who do this shit. Why? There’s clearly no emotional connection. Clearly he doesn’t have an issue with blocking me lol 😂. I’m honestly not even reading any of his messages which are filtered now. This was a little comical to me before but now I’m just curious what his problem is. Why waste the time doing this?
My guess is I’m one of the girls in his rotation and when I don’t respond the way he wants, he moves onto the next girl in rotation to see if he’ll get the validation he wants.
This is like the ghost of exes past….coming back to shake his chains ⛓️ and act like him talking about our past means something.
Is this a Virgo thing?
It is a Virgo thing. He is still into you, holds a flame for you in some way.
It also sounds like he is trying to rekindle/reconnect and gets frustrated but he can't get over/passed it.
I'm guessing you don't question him directly about why and just blow him off.
Throw me your natsls and I'll tell you what's up with him.
Posted by IceStorm
Have your husband respond next time, that will hopefully break the pattern. Lol
My husband knows about this actually. His analysis is scathing….and his idea is that my ex is just trying to conquer something he thinks he lost and once he gets that he’ll stop.
Posted by Eyeroll
I have a Capricorn that does this. He will just text me “hi” and nothing else. Sometimes I respond hi back and he disappears lol. Other times he tells me how he misses our connection which usually means he wants to talk sexual. I annoy him by talking about cuddling and intimacy and he nopes on out.
I think there are some men who are tired of porn and want you to talk them through a wank.
Your summary is exactly what I’m thinking this is tbh. It’s just a reach out to liven his fap session lol 😆.
So basic
Posted by TXCowboy
Not specifically a Virgo thing. I think they miss the energy between you, some even think they can remain friends.
That's absolutely a bad idea with people moving on into new relationships/families.
If that’s so then he still has a complete lack of morals as he did then to now.
I respected him when he started a family. I completely stopped speaking to him. You’d think the same would apply for me but he’s just disrespectful. One of the last times he messaged me he sent a ton of nudes and then when I didn’t read these messages until weeks and weeks later, he blocked in advance 😂
Posted by BunnyMacDougalPosted by Truemara
It’s easier to go back for sex than work towards convincing a new women for sexual without the dating spending money ect first
That sounds like a Taurus mind
But it might be just the same price
$ 12 pumpkin spice latte for ex gf rom = sex
$ 12 pumpkin spice latte for new girl = sex on 1st latte
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You think I’m bussin 🍑 for PSL?
I feel like my next partner in my next life needs to be a Taurus. We can be round and in love together.
Bae ♥️
Posted by Truemara
It’s easier to go back for sex than work towards convincing a new women for sexual without the dating spending money ect first
Ayyy lol but his old flames all think he’s a massive whore still. I wonder how bleak his life is if that’s the case.
Posted by GeminiJim
It's about him not you, I think that is clear
Something to do with how you were together, how he was at the time and maybe he's lost something he wants to rekindle and he sees you as a link to that state of being
I doubt he knows "why" he does it, seems like a subconscious searching kind of thing
and then once he has re-connected he feels the "failure" of rekindling said emotional state and so deletes it all, until next time
That’s deep. Except I think he’s a very shallow person. He doesn’t do anything unless it benefits him and he has zero morals even for a Virgo.
So I feel like he’s probably trying to capture a moment when he was younger and probably had decent sex with someone and then tries to make a new start with that, but I’m guessing his odds are not favourable since he keeps returning expecting something new each time. That is imo insanity.
Posted by Lionheart917
Lol, even with my fixed sign, I have yet to chase someone that got away. When I shut the door, I know it's over and there's no turning back, but I know a few who have reached out to their ex years later.
I really feel like men do this more often than they’ll admit because it comes off as weak or submissive even.
When women do it the typical response is “she’s a psycho, she can’t move on” but when men do it somehow he’s “attached to something”.
I’ve thought about it and I really feel like it’s all ego. Protecting and projecting what the ego wants, it’s not even about the person and it’s more or less about feeding something within them that desires the idea of being wanted. Winning the admiration of a new partner is much less of a win than winning over someone you did wrong, who then reignites something you had that burned pretty hot….it’s all about ego and getting what you desire.
I highly doubt he’s doing this to just me. I’m just one of the women in his rotation. It’s why he blocks and moves on. Simple.
I’m a cardinal sign and I’m not even sure how this plays into my relationship style tbh. I have a Taurus Mars which is pretty clingy 😂 and a Pisces moon that’s also pretty emotional and idyllic and retarded enough to keep thinking a romantic entanglement is going to work when it won’t.
So I’ve got all the measurements to really hold out for a while with a love interest, but even then….I don’t.
So I’m not sure what aspects are needed to keep circling back and trying again and again but there’s gotta be something to it. Personally I think it’s insanity or a form of a mental illness.
Posted by StonyPosted by RimzyPosted by BunnyMacDougalYou think I’m bussin 🍑 for PSL?Posted by Truemara
It’s easier to go back for sex than work towards convincing a new women for sexual without the dating spending money ect first
That sounds like a Taurus mind
But it might be just the same price
$ 12 pumpkin spice latte for ex gf rom = sex
$ 12 pumpkin spice latte for new girl = sex on 1st latte
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I feel like my next partner in my next life needs to be a Taurus. We can be round and in love together.
Bae ♥️
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She took 'em to the spot cuz he got her a PSL.
Posted by Lionheart917Posted by RimzyPosted by Lionheart917I really feel like men do this more often than they’ll admit because it comes off as weak or submissive even.
Lol, even with my fixed sign, I have yet to chase someone that got away. When I shut the door, I know it's over and there's no turning back, but I know a few who have reached out to their ex years later.
When women do it the typical response is “she’s a psycho, she can’t move on” but when men do it somehow he’s “attached to something”.
I’ve thought about it and I really feel like it’s all ego. Protecting and projecting what the ego wants, it’s not even about the person and it’s more or less about feeding something within them that desires the idea of being wanted. Winning the admiration of a new partner is much less of a win than winning over someone you did wrong, who then reignites something you had that burned pretty hot….it’s all about ego and getting what you desire.
I highly doubt he’s doing this to just me. I’m just one of the women in his rotation. It’s why he blocks and moves on. Simple.
I’m a cardinal sign and I’m not even sure how this plays into my relationship style tbh. I have a Taurus Mars which is pretty clingy 😂 and a Pisces moon that’s also pretty emotional and idyllic and retarded enough to keep thinking a romantic entanglement is going to work when it won’t.
So I’ve got all the measurements to really hold out for a while with a love interest, but even then….I don’t.
So I’m not sure what aspects are needed to keep circling back and trying again and again but there’s gotta be something to it. Personally I think it’s insanity or a form of a mental illness.
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Lol, you'd be surprised that both sexes actually do it more often than they'd like to admit. I know a lot of females, and they stalk their ex's Instagram like crazy.click to expand
Wild 👀….I’d never do that 💅🏼 🥹
Posted by BunnyMacDougalPosted by RimzyPosted by BunnyMacDougalLol 😂 it’s YOU ands…we talking about you, I know you do this to your womens 👀
He seems like a nice guy lol
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He sounds more like Firebunny 🤣click to expand
Ands you’re a Taurus, you never break up. FB would have to first have a gf.
Rejection breeds obession. He can't fathom in his mind why you're still rejecting him.
One of my friends is experiencing something similiar currently, only the Leo is extremely obessive. He sends her paragraphs to which she does not respond and there are times where he called 50+ times in one evening. He'll go MIA for 2-3 weeks then he'll attempt to do a peace offering with a gift. She declines and he rages again.
Thankfully they're in different states, but he has emailed her and called from multiple numbers. It's absolutely ridiculous. She ended things in November with him and here we are in April, and he won't stop bothering her.
One of my friends is experiencing something similiar currently, only the Leo is extremely obessive. He sends her paragraphs to which she does not respond and there are times where he called 50+ times in one evening. He'll go MIA for 2-3 weeks then he'll attempt to do a peace offering with a gift. She declines and he rages again.
Thankfully they're in different states, but he has emailed her and called from multiple numbers. It's absolutely ridiculous. She ended things in November with him and here we are in April, and he won't stop bothering her.
Posted by StonyPosted by BunnyMacDougalPosted by RimzyNo but that’s what it cost me to bang the last girl eons ago now. 😅 the banging did come before the Starbucks and the Starbucks was almost one of the only decent places open at 2am.Posted by BunnyMacDougalPosted by Truemara
It’s easier to go back for sex than work towards convincing a new women for sexual without the dating spending money ect first
That sounds like a Taurus mind
But it might be just the same price
$ 12 pumpkin spice latte for ex gf rom = sex
$ 12 pumpkin spice latte for new girl = sex on 1st latte
click to expand
You think I’m bussin 🍑 for PSL?
I feel like my next partner in my next life needs to be a Taurus. We can be round and in love together.
Bae ♥️
click to expand
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$ 12 or nice words, what's worse on the psyche?click to expand
You see you got sex before the coffe with the ex
With the new you’d get coffee first with no guarantee of sex
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So he’s someone I dated off and on a while back and he’s a virgo. The man has a kid who’s a teen now and I don’t know much else about his life besides that we live in the same city and he’s really into fitness and is going far in his career. We have mutual friends but they know I don’t care to talk about him or know anything.
This pattern he does where he circles back to me is confusing. Since we know one another socially he just kind of messages me and it’s almost always with an apology for how we last spoke and then he gets into details of his life and asks about me, my life etc. Hes known for sometime now that I have a husband and a son and he has not been deterred by this before 👀.
Previously I’ve responded that I forgive him and our history is in the past and he doesn’t need to apologize because we’re both very grown and we both understand that we just didn’t work well together.
Yet he keeps returning. Always with the same kind of apology and tries to get cute and flirty. I’ve been very nice and supportive and tried to neutralize the convo but he doesn’t seem to care- and tries to be sexual or intimate and when he doesn’t get what he wants he vanishes lol AND blocks me.
A year or years go by and he returns- like herpes and just tries to cycle the same shit again.
I don’t understand people who do this shit. Why? There’s clearly no emotional connection. Clearly he doesn’t have an issue with blocking me lol 😂. I’m honestly not even reading any of his messages which are filtered now. This was a little comical to me before but now I’m just curious what his problem is. Why waste the time doing this?
My guess is I’m one of the girls in his rotation and when I don’t respond the way he wants, he moves onto the next girl in rotation to see if he’ll get the validation he wants.
This is like the ghost of exes past….coming back to shake his chains ⛓️ and act like him talking about our past means something.
Is this a Virgo thing?