@LadyNeptune
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Your SO and having friends of the opposite sex/desirable sex (Page 2)
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Apparently this is a thing. Lots of people are in an uproar and can't tolerate their lover having friends of the opposite sex (or same sex if gay).
I don't get it. Whats the problem. Why does this bother you all so much?
Give me the reasons...
I will soon be successfully fucking a girl who is in a committed relationship atm with some other dude. She wants it badly... I am playing hard to get just for the sake of it. But sooon
You keep recycling the same tired story. Just fuck her already so we don’t have to keep hearing the same shit.
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LOL!!!
I think it's "catching." If your friends cheat, and if you think your SO might cheat, you're way more likely to cheat. If your friends abhor cheating and think people who cheat are weak-willed, you're less likely to do it.
Peer pressure strikes again.
And given the right circumstances or enough alcohol people would take the chance with the friend.
That's just real life.
If you think your boyfriend hasn't jerked off to his hot female friend or you haven't wanted to curl up and cry to your guy friend when you boyfriend is being a bitch. You are lying to yourself.
Nope, I have respect for a thing called boundaries. I would never hit on a man of my female friends or have sex with them, and no amount of drugs/drinking etc would change that.
Also, a male friend as a shoulder to cry on is far different than having sex with him.
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Exactly. Alcohol doesn’t create intent, it amplifies it. People need to stop using it as an excuse for their choices.
It comes down to just " hope "
You have to hope your significant other respects you enough to not cheat emotionally or physically with a friend of the opposite sex.
Because the truth is most of the time attraction is there. And given the right circumstances or enough alcohol people would take the chance with the friend.
That's just real life.
If you think your boyfriend hasn't jerked off to his hot female friend or you haven't wanted to curl up and cry to your guy friend when you boyfriend is being a bitch. You are lying to yourself.
That's different for different people. There are people who cannot have a platonic relationship with an attractive person without constantly fantasizing about having sex with them, and there are people who do not have that problem. I notice that people who have the problem assume everyone else is like them. I do think it's a problem, a flaw in character, if you will, to not be able to put sexual feelings aside and see other more important and valid reasons to value a person, even if you're NOT in a relationship. It's self control just like any other mind over matter issue.
I don't need male friends and I have none. They can't relate to me in a deep way because they are a different gender.
I have aquatinces and that's it. Which are usually built from work or activities I would never call them a friend.
I have several male friends, but they're all friends with my husband too. *shrugs*
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That's a bit a different as they are mutual. There is loyalty to him as well. But they may find you attractive may not but just sayin everything is in a realm of possibility.
Apparently this is a thing. Lots of people are in an uproar and can't tolerate their lover having friends of the opposite sex (or same sex if gay).
I don't get it. Whats the problem. Why does this bother you all so much?
Give me the reasons...
I will soon be successfully fucking a girl who is in a committed relationship atm with some other dude. She wants it badly... I am playing hard to get just for the sake of it. But sooon
You keep recycling the same tired story. Just fuck her already so we don’t have to keep hearing the same shit.
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Lmaaaao
It doesn't bother me really.
Someone wants to cheat, they are going to cheat. Someone wants to lie, they will lie. All I ever tell my gfs is if they cheat and I find out, it will be the end of the relationship.
It makes more sense for me to pour my time and energy in being the type of partner that will fulfill and uplift them rather than worrying about what they would do in an unfulfilling relationship.
Such an interesting read, I forgot what the actual topic was
HA!
shoulder crying seems deeper than sex to me.
*inserts small dick joke
There is no such thing as “friends” between men and women, especially if you’re attractive person.
You see them as your friends and trust them, when actually they’re in love with you and wanna fk you.
There’s definitely a difference between a friendship built over time where you have passions in common to bond over. Vs the dude you swiped right on but you weren’t feeling the date so now he’s a ‘friend’. For example.
I’m talking about the latter.
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You keep recycling the same tired story. Just fuck her already so we don’t have to keep hearing the same shit.