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Confused with Sagittarius Man
ALSO, at one point which was a month ago he said “yes” to wanting to be friends but needs space and time. This was before his moods changed and failed to give some space for a while. But this last month I’ve been distant.
Why is he mad at you?
Keep being distant and live your life.
He will come back around when your life gets interesting but by then, you won't want him 2.
He will come back around when your life gets interesting but by then, you won't want him 2.
And I'm assuming you're a cancer.
Count your blessings, hes too insensitive for you.
Count your blessings, hes too insensitive for you.
Posted by EveryOunceWe both have mental issues. I wish he told me how I was making him feel at times cause then I would’ve changed my attitude. Not going into extreme details because there was “a lot” that went in. I was having a bad semester because of something and it caused my expections to get high with him. He said he enjoys hanging out but I got him feeling afraid to say that he couldn’t at times because his schedule was booked with events that night and such. Then felt getting judged for everything that he did but really I wasn’t and that was a miscommunication. And called him out a few times and one thing I didn’t drop and then I screwed up when rushed while drinking with a friend. He hates people texting while hanging out and so I couldn’t put thought and detail into my sentence. And so it hit my sag friend really hard because of lack of sleep, work, wanting to relax and everything that I was unaware of making him feel built up that night and made him feel crazy. I apologized to him and says he needs time to heal. Doesn’t know how long it’ll take. I honestly never wanted to hurt him, I broke down inside for a few days when I heard how I made him feel. And so I’ve been, since then, working on my own kinks so that if he does want to continue being friends I won’t ever do it again.
Why is he mad at you?
Posted by DMVActually, quite the opposite. He’s the funniest, charming, generous and most caring person towards others that I’ve ever seen. Even at times, cause we work together, when he’s irritated and everything if I accidentally hurt myself his mood changes rapidly to see if I’m alright but if it wasn’t serious he goes back to his agitated mood.
And I'm assuming you're a cancer.
Count your blessings, hes too insensitive for you.
Try giving him space to come to you. Regardless of signs he seems to want that and you should respect that. If it is meant to be he will come back to you.
Posted by GanonBecause I catch him looking right at me from a distance. He does it the most when I’m interacting with others.Posted by cancertheropyBut how do you know he watches your every move?
Plainly, he’s mad at me/hurt. Ignores me completely unless it’s in person then he only responds if I say hi. I’ve distance myself. He gets very moody around me. As I’ve been taking this as a sign he doesn’t want to be friends anymore but he never answered my question if that’s the case. Just ignored it. So I just look at it as he’s moving on and doesn’t want to.
The part I’m wondering though, for someone that ignores me he WATCHES my every move all the time. Monitors what I’m doing, who I’m talking to and such. As if he tries talking and getting close to these people after I have no idea. Basically, for someone that’s moving, Why does he do this?click to expand
Posted by GanonThe plot thickens
I think ,as a true cancer, you're making too big of a drama of the whole situation.
It really isn't that deep.
This is the same Sag men with the Pisces girlfriend? Is he still with her?
You're in love with him, and you keep pressuring him to 'feel' emotions he doesn't feel even though he isn't gay. He probably does want to be your friend but you're making it difficult with your emotional outbursts and drama. You behave like a lover and not a guy friend and he isn't having it.
Stop seeing him as an potential love interest and start behaving like a actual friend without the emotional bs.
As we already advised you in previous threads, let him be and move on.
Posted by cancertheropyWe are naturally curious but he will keep his distance cause he doesn’t want to be near you. He moves in to find out what goes on after you left cause he’s nosy. That’s it. LolPosted by GanonBecause I catch him looking right at me from a distance. He does it the most when I’m interacting with others.Posted by cancertheropyBut how do you know he watches your every move?
Plainly, he’s mad at me/hurt. Ignores me completely unless it’s in person then he only responds if I say hi. I’ve distance myself. He gets very moody around me. As I’ve been taking this as a sign he doesn’t want to be friends anymore but he never answered my question if that’s the case. Just ignored it. So I just look at it as he’s moving on and doesn’t want to.
The part I’m wondering though, for someone that ignores me he WATCHES my every move all the time. Monitors what I’m doing, who I’m talking to and such. As if he tries talking and getting close to these people after I have no idea. Basically, for someone that’s moving, Why does he do this?click to expand
You hurting yourself for attention is gonna get old quick and he’ll just start ignoring you. We are nice to a point.
This is why I have issues with Cancers. The mind games and fake attention getting gets old and I can only be so nice. Sending dumb texts just to get a response. Smh. It’s easier to move on and just ignore you.
He has to work with you, he’s not gonna be super rude but he still may avoid you. You seem to be in your head thinking about the possibility when I really don’t see one.
Posted by UnicornSagWell, tbh he confronted a week after hurting him saying he wants to be friends. Then I pushed it a bit. And then he said again in a few weeks that he laid out how he was feeling and there’s no subtext and just really needed the space. And (I’m working on my personality to help improve myself because I don’t want to do these things again) because of small amounts of neediness I texted him here and there. And that’s when the moods began and ignoring. After that, I got myself to stop and haven’t texted him for a long time. But he still get agitated if I happen to move around him. I don’t talk to him or anything as if he wants to talk then he’s the one that should make the initiations. But I only end up around him either because of choreo blocking stuff, or because my friends are literally hovering over him and to talk to them I have to go near. Im not going to let his moods get in the way of my personal relationships with others and my freedom. I think everyone has the wrong idea that I’m chasing him. Yes I want him in my life, not because I had feelings for him or anything. It’s more when you grow up your entire life looking for someone. A small blurry vision of a person, looks, characteristics, quirks, and then this person shows up and nearly identical to it is what makes it difficult. I don’t know if anyone else experiences those things. I was satisfied just having the person in my life. The only reason I posted this forum was for one simple question, why is he observing me when in fact I know he’s moving on? As I understand a Sagittarius won’t pay any attention to you if they are. That’s why I’m asking. I have a curious mind, the feel the need to understand things, and since I can’t sit here and talk to him because I’m distancing myself and he needs his space, I’m going with the next best options. Sorry this ended up on yours, and I agree with what you’re saying. I just want to know why he’s observing.
Sags are too good to tell you to gtfo unless you went over the every possible line of tolerance and they can no longer take it. So if he's ignoring you take a hint and go away. He's being nice for not telling you what he has on his mind cause he just wants to spare your feelings. So when a sag ignores you it's safe to assume you're no longer wanted in their life. Sag who wants you close will get over the argument sooner than most other people will so if he's being distant constantly, he's just removing you in softer way from his life.
@cancertheropy
From what you are explaining, he doesn't seem to be paying attention to you. He seems to be acting like his natural fun self and you think it's towards you. I don't think it is. The times that he pulls back and starts acting weird are the times when you're doing too much and he has to remember that you take things too far and he needs to stop being himself.
You have things flipped are are thinking they are different meanings when they aren't. We don't play mind games or do one thing and say another. We are very straight forward. He would be all over you if he was interested. Right now it just seems like he's trying to keep the peace because you guys work together and have mutual friends.
The stuff that usually works with other signs will not work with us. If you buy lunches for him, try to intrude and do him favors, basically go the extra mile to help. He's not gonna want it. He knows you like him and won't entertain it just for "free" gifts. We aren't materialistic. He may have accepted it in the past because he thought it was a nice gesture but you cancers are too much inching closer and closer and if we don't like you, it just feels suffocating and he will naturally want to push you away. He's not playing games when he does this. He really doesn't like you but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings cause he's nice. Once he knows the gifts come at a price, he won't want them anymore. That's how you all get time out of people but he will cut it all out just to NOT spend any time with you.
From what you are explaining, he doesn't seem to be paying attention to you. He seems to be acting like his natural fun self and you think it's towards you. I don't think it is. The times that he pulls back and starts acting weird are the times when you're doing too much and he has to remember that you take things too far and he needs to stop being himself.
You have things flipped are are thinking they are different meanings when they aren't. We don't play mind games or do one thing and say another. We are very straight forward. He would be all over you if he was interested. Right now it just seems like he's trying to keep the peace because you guys work together and have mutual friends.
The stuff that usually works with other signs will not work with us. If you buy lunches for him, try to intrude and do him favors, basically go the extra mile to help. He's not gonna want it. He knows you like him and won't entertain it just for "free" gifts. We aren't materialistic. He may have accepted it in the past because he thought it was a nice gesture but you cancers are too much inching closer and closer and if we don't like you, it just feels suffocating and he will naturally want to push you away. He's not playing games when he does this. He really doesn't like you but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings cause he's nice. Once he knows the gifts come at a price, he won't want them anymore. That's how you all get time out of people but he will cut it all out just to NOT spend any time with you.
Posted by saggurl88I don’t play games. Nor seek his attention in a crowded room. I’m simply being myself. Observations I laid out are behaviors that he had before things went bad between us. Except moodiness and distance now. He has depression and he even explains that he’s a recluse that shuts down when overwhelmed and needs space from people. And you can’t say every cancer is the same. We aren’t. Every Sagittarius isn’t the same. Every person of every sign isn’t the same. If that were the case then we all literally would be attracted to only set people. Yes, I don’t have a doubt that he’s moving on. In, fact I feel that he hates me. What’s you’re saying is the truth, and I see it in his behavior, but please do not link every individual to their zodiac sign and that’s it. One person is genuine, another is not.
@cancertheropy
From what you are explaining, he doesn't seem to be paying attention to you. He seems to be acting like his natural fun self and you think it's towards you. I don't think it is. The times that he pulls back and starts acting weird are the times when you're doing too much and he has to remember that you take things too far and he needs to stop being himself.
You have things flipped are are thinking they are different meanings when they aren't. We don't play mind games or do one thing and say another. We are very straight forward. He would be all over you if he was interested. Right now it just seems like he's trying to keep the peace because you guys work together and have mutual friends.
The stuff that usually works with other signs will not work with us. If you buy lunches for him, try to intrude and do him favors, basically go the extra mile to help. He's not gonna want it. He knows you like him and won't entertain it just for "free" gifts. We aren't materialistic. He may have accepted it in the past because he thought it was a nice gesture but you cancers are too much inching closer and closer and if we don't like you, it just feels suffocating and he will naturally want to push you away. He's not playing games when he does this. He really doesn't like you but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings cause he's nice. Once he knows the gifts come at a price, he won't want them anymore. That's how you all get time out of people but he will cut it all out just to NOT spend any time with you.
Posted by cancertheropyQuit getting butt hurt and taking things personal. I was just telling you based off what my experiences in dealing with Cancers was. Did I say they all were the same? Please point me in that direction if I did. You said yourself that what I said resonates with you, so you know what you're doing and what is happening between you two. I was just letting you know that it wont work. and that you should give him some space.Posted by saggurl88I don’t play games. Nor seek his attention in a crowded room. I’m simply being myself. Observations I laid out are behaviors that he had before things went bad between us. Except moodiness and distance now. He has depression and he even explains that he’s a recluse that shuts down when overwhelmed and needs space from people. And you can’t say every cancer is the same. We aren’t. Every Sagittarius isn’t the same. Every person of every sign isn’t the same. If that were the case then we all literally would be attracted to only set people. Yes, I don’t have a doubt that he’s moving on. In, fact I feel that he hates me. What’s you’re saying is the truth, and I see it in his behavior, but please do not link every individual to their zodiac sign and that’s it. One person is genuine, another is not.
@cancertheropy
From what you are explaining, he doesn't seem to be paying attention to you. He seems to be acting like his natural fun self and you think it's towards you. I don't think it is. The times that he pulls back and starts acting weird are the times when you're doing too much and he has to remember that you take things too far and he needs to stop being himself.
You have things flipped are are thinking they are different meanings when they aren't. We don't play mind games or do one thing and say another. We are very straight forward. He would be all over you if he was interested. Right now it just seems like he's trying to keep the peace because you guys work together and have mutual friends.
The stuff that usually works with other signs will not work with us. If you buy lunches for him, try to intrude and do him favors, basically go the extra mile to help. He's not gonna want it. He knows you like him and won't entertain it just for "free" gifts. We aren't materialistic. He may have accepted it in the past because he thought it was a nice gesture but you cancers are too much inching closer and closer and if we don't like you, it just feels suffocating and he will naturally want to push you away. He's not playing games when he does this. He really doesn't like you but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings cause he's nice. Once he knows the gifts come at a price, he won't want them anymore. That's how you all get time out of people but he will cut it all out just to NOT spend any time with you.
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It's not to hurt your feelings, just to let you know my opinion on the matter. I didn't say Cancers play games. You guys just try to do manipulative crap to push your way in. That doesn't work with us.
This opinion is based on what you've already wrote in here. I recognized what you were doing and commented on it. You cancers also have a way of back tracking and creating excuses of why you do certain things once you get called out on your shit. I don't care either way. I was just letting you know bluntly what my thoughts were on the situation. Take it how you want. You questioned his actions, and I gave my opinion based on me being a Sag and dealing with Cancers.
If he's depressed, hes going to want to deal with it on his own. He wont need any help or a helping hand. He needs to work through it privately.
BTW- I have a Cancer currently after me at work and I shut his ass down on a regular basis. There are sometimes that I'm friendly and crack jokes but then he starts trying to show interest again and trying to buzz around me and I have to go back to square 1 with him and distance myself and avoid him. He's told other people that we just don't mesh well, but for some reason he just "Has" to make sure I have coffee every morning.
I pour it down the drain as soon as I get in and make a fresh pot. He's annoying and I don't get why he keeps trying lol
Posted by saggurl88I apologize for my behavior. I was just getting tired of hearing the same bash over and over and it’s nothing personal towards you. I’m sorry to hear about this cancer guy annoyance constantly giving you coffee. I think there’s an attitude in your behavior that he’s looking at that concerns him even if it shouldn’t. And so feels that he needs to do something to help out, and that’s what he’s finding is the coffee.Posted by cancertheropyQuit getting butt hurt and taking things personal. I was just telling you based off what my experiences in dealing with Cancers was. Did I say they all were the same? Please point me in that direction if I did. You said yourself that what I said resonates with you, so you know what you're doing and what is happening between you two. I was just letting you know that it wont work. and that you should give him some space.Posted by saggurl88I don’t play games. Nor seek his attention in a crowded room. I’m simply being myself. Observations I laid out are behaviors that he had before things went bad between us. Except moodiness and distance now. He has depression and he even explains that he’s a recluse that shuts down when overwhelmed and needs space from people. And you can’t say every cancer is the same. We aren’t. Every Sagittarius isn’t the same. Every person of every sign isn’t the same. If that were the case then we all literally would be attracted to only set people. Yes, I don’t have a doubt that he’s moving on. In, fact I feel that he hates me. What’s you’re saying is the truth, and I see it in his behavior, but please do not link every individual to their zodiac sign and that’s it. One person is genuine, another is not.
@cancertheropy
From what you are explaining, he doesn't seem to be paying attention to you. He seems to be acting like his natural fun self and you think it's towards you. I don't think it is. The times that he pulls back and starts acting weird are the times when you're doing too much and he has to remember that you take things too far and he needs to stop being himself.
You have things flipped are are thinking they are different meanings when they aren't. We don't play mind games or do one thing and say another. We are very straight forward. He would be all over you if he was interested. Right now it just seems like he's trying to keep the peace because you guys work together and have mutual friends.
The stuff that usually works with other signs will not work with us. If you buy lunches for him, try to intrude and do him favors, basically go the extra mile to help. He's not gonna want it. He knows you like him and won't entertain it just for "free" gifts. We aren't materialistic. He may have accepted it in the past because he thought it was a nice gesture but you cancers are too much inching closer and closer and if we don't like you, it just feels suffocating and he will naturally want to push you away. He's not playing games when he does this. He really doesn't like you but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings cause he's nice. Once he knows the gifts come at a price, he won't want them anymore. That's how you all get time out of people but he will cut it all out just to NOT spend any time with you.
It's not to hurt your feelings, just to let you know my opinion on the matter. I didn't say Cancers play games. You guys just try to do manipulative crap to push your way in. That doesn't work with us.
This opinion is based on what you've already wrote in here. I recognized what you were doing and commented on it. You cancers also have a way of back tracking and creating excuses of why you do certain things once you get called out on your shit. I don't care either way. I was just letting you know bluntly what my thoughts were on the situation. Take it how you want. You questioned his actions, and I gave my opinion based on me being a Sag and dealing with Cancers.
If he's depressed, hes going to want to deal with it on his own. He wont need any help or a helping hand. He needs to work through it privately.
BTW- I have a Cancer currently after me at work and I shut his ass down on a regular basis. There are sometimes that I'm friendly and crack jokes but then he starts trying to show interest again and trying to buzz around me and I have to go back to square 1 with him and distance myself and avoid him. He's told other people that we just don't mesh well, but for some reason he just "Has" to make sure I have coffee every morning.
I pour it down the drain as soon as I get in and make a fresh pot. He's annoying and I don't get why he keeps trying lolclick to expand
I’ve seen a very bad cancer behavior that happened between my Sagittarius friend and him. She dumped him and he went extremely crazy. He kept sending her strange messages, sometimes sex messages, and kept dropping off flowers and cards, calling and texting nonstop. It drove her insane and she shut down from him completely. She’s one to be on good terms with all her ex’s, but this one she avoids as much as possible because as soon as he sees her, he clings to her. I get pissed because he treated her like shit while they were dating and then when the stakes became high he got like this.
So I completely understand what you’re saying about cancers. Yea, emotions go crazy at times but I don’t like to be defined just by my zodiac. I give presents only when I’m on good turns with people and see that they need something and I give something meaningful. Not something that’s just an object. Bad terms to me, it comes across as crossing the space line and becoming a stalker/creeper when I can easily tell if someone doesn’t like that.
Point taken, I don’t really do gifts, not much anymore. I do like to help those I like or care about. And it’s not just to people I have romantic feelings for, it’s towards people I would like to get to know as people and hang out with because I think they’re heckin cool. I don’t know if this is the case with your annoying cancer and I’m sorry you have to deal with it. Aha, I didn’t mean to make you feel like I was throwing off what you were saying and I appreciate your honesty and your opinions with your perspectives.
@cancertheropy
You don’t have to apologize for anything. I don’t take things personal or get my feelings hurt by strangers lol. Hopefully you don’t take offense to anything I’ve said as well.
This is becoming a me and you thread. Hopefully you get more Sag opinions. Lol.
My advice would just be to follow his lead and not overthink his actions. If he backs off then you do the same. Give him a little room.
He obviously likes you as a person cause he still interacts with you and he keeps giving you chances cause you must be a cool guy. But when he’s friendly, treat it like that.
Just cause he’s friendly to you doesn’t mean he wants your balls in his mouth lol.
So just go with the follow and act normal. We generally accept everyone so we wouldn’t care about your sexual preference as long as you don’t cross the line.
You don’t have to apologize for anything. I don’t take things personal or get my feelings hurt by strangers lol. Hopefully you don’t take offense to anything I’ve said as well.
This is becoming a me and you thread. Hopefully you get more Sag opinions. Lol.
My advice would just be to follow his lead and not overthink his actions. If he backs off then you do the same. Give him a little room.
He obviously likes you as a person cause he still interacts with you and he keeps giving you chances cause you must be a cool guy. But when he’s friendly, treat it like that.
Just cause he’s friendly to you doesn’t mean he wants your balls in his mouth lol.
So just go with the follow and act normal. We generally accept everyone so we wouldn’t care about your sexual preference as long as you don’t cross the line.
Posted by saggurl88Thanks for that. I agree with the fact that it is becoming a me and you thread lol. I didn’t really take it personally, in fact, even if it hurts I’d rather be told if I’m wrong and such because I’d rather learn from it and figure out to improve myself and my behavior then to be repetitious and make the same mistakes over and over. It was nice talking!
@cancertheropy
You don’t have to apologize for anything. I don’t take things personal or get my feelings hurt by strangers lol. Hopefully you don’t take offense to anything I’ve said as well.
This is becoming a me and you thread. Hopefully you get more Sag opinions. Lol.
My advice would just be to follow his lead and not overthink his actions. If he backs off then you do the same. Give him a little room.
He obviously likes you as a person cause he still interacts with you and he keeps giving you chances cause you must be a cool guy. But when he’s friendly, treat it like that.
Just cause he’s friendly to you doesn’t mean he wants your balls in his mouth lol.
So just go with the follow and act normal. We generally accept everyone so we wouldn’t care about your sexual preference as long as you don’t cross the line.
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