Am I an Arsehole?

Sooooo quick overview of the situation... My dad's a Gemini, we've never really seen eye to eye but get a long despite everything. So my sister get's a hold of me yesterday asking if I got an email from our dad, no I hadn't... well apparently it was a wedding invitation, to his wedding he's planning next year. With a woman he's only been dating less than a year. Now normally most people wouldn't care, I care because this will be his 4th marriage. I care that he didn't talk to any of us kids first about it, and I care that he did it via email when he sees us all the time... well minus me cause I didn't get the invite hahaha. I dunno, I Just feel like he's rushing,, again. Maybe I am a jerk and should just be happy for him, but yeah I'm kinda just really not at the moment.

Rushing again you say. Have you spoken to him in the past about this with any of his previous relationships as that could explain why he didnt bother to let you know. Either way i would share same view as you

Well what exactly can you do or say - it's his life to mess up. did he figure your sister would tell you anyway or are you really not invited ? maybe he wanted to tell you by himself; maybe he knows you are more sensitive to these things. My sister was more sensitive. My Dad knew I didn't give a shit what he did because after all he did nothing phased me. I had my own life to live as I wanted to live. Sounds like a lot of drama but I understand there are a lot of people more sensitive to these things. It doesn't make you an asshole though. Give yourself more credit. You are who and what you are. Thank god we are not all the same or it would be boring.

No your not an ass to be feeling a type of way on being excluded from the news.

But if you made a big fuss over marriage #2 and #3 maybe he is just trying to spare himself from the drama.

I actually didn't say anything about the other marriages which is quite surprising because I'm the only one in my family who voices there opinion. He almost married another lady 2 years ago that pretty much told me she was after him for his house and money (albeit she was drunk but still). In the end they are going to do what they are going to do. I do feel that they should have maybe spoke to us about it in person instead of via email. I'm not really butt hurt about not getting the invitation, just kinda wish he would take his time to get to know the women in his life better. I'm tired of cleaning up the mess after. All my siblings (which we all pretty much have different moms and there's 6 of us) can attest to the fact that I'm the only reliable one... so I feel like I'm stuck picking up the pieces after. So yes, I'm a little resentful I guess.