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Posted by FrostedElly
What do you do to chill out the anxiety ridden late nights/early mornings during the tough times?

Sleep doesn't last too long, no one is awake to talk to and I'm trying to make healthier decisions in emotional coping. >.>
Well, I distract* myself with exercise (yes even late at night I'll do yoga), watch something funny so I can laugh a little and I read something related to personal/spiritual growth or suspense/murder (no it's not related, just helpful 😄). I also spend time with friends that need my support and help because it keeps me focused on others vs myself at the moment.

The problem with the personal growth material is while it calms me, it causes me to shift back to dwelling on the issue occasionally. That may just be the way my overactive mind works.

I push through it though and find it very helpful. Forces me to really be honest with the reasons I am sitting where I'm sitting and feeling what I'm feeling (e.g. tough time). Whether it is because I didn't listen to my gut, failed to stick to a principle I hold dear for the sake of *fill in the blank*, or let fear, hurt *fill in the blank* get in the way, or I was holding on too long to the wrong person and I need to figure out why.

We're human and "f*ck up" on occasion, so I try to find the lesson to be learned there. If it involves another, I'm all about personal responsibility, not blame. I own my actions in the demise or issue and try not to take on the other person's stuff. Focusing on what I need to improve makes it better the next go around if the person sticks around or with someone else.

Finally I destroy* all traces of the issue bringing about the anxiety. That can range from throwing out old stuff, deleting photos, text or erasing numbers. Perhaps even blocking the person if it involves an ex (friend, lover). I'm not interested in holding on to the past. Over time, I actually forget about the person unless someone says something to trigger a memory.

*disclaimer: Air moons avoid difficult feelings and detach easier than most.
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Lasty week, I was bored and checked Yahoo answers and read some threads about what the different signs would do to get their revenge(something like that - I don't remember exactly) and there was a surprising amount of scorpio females who said they would start rumours about people. There were also other signs saying that this was their impression of scorpios (mainly women). I was quite surprised to hear this, as it's not in any way the impression I have of scorpio females in general. Some of them can do nasty things if pushed, yes, but I haven't heard that rumour spreading would be a go-to tactics.

I do have experience with one scorpio girl(my arch nemisis in school when we were young) who told a gay classmate of mine that I was a homofob. I did wonder why he was suddenly behaving very strangely around me - we had always got along really well and I can't remember ever having been anything but nice to him(I had no reason not to be). Only last year I found out what she told him and could tell him that was a lie. But other than that, I haven't even heard a rumour of a scorpio female spreading rumours about anyone.

Would you do that and/or have you encountered other scorpio females who has.
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Lasty week, I was bored and checked Yahoo answers and read some threads about what the different signs would do to get their revenge(something like that - I don't remember exactly) and there was a surprising amount of scorpio females who said they would start rumours about people. There were also other signs saying that this was their impression of scorpios (mainly women). I was quite surprised to hear this, as it's not in any way the impression I have of scorpio females in general. Some of them can do nasty things if pushed, yes, but I haven't heard that rumour spreading would be a go-to tactics.

I do have experience with one scorpio girl(my arch nemisis in school when we were young) who told a gay classmate of mine that I was a homofob. I did wonder why he was suddenly behaving very strangely around me - we had always got along really well and I can't remember ever having been anything but nice to him(I had no reason not to be). Only last year I found out what she told him and could tell him that was a lie. But other than that, I haven't even heard a rumour of a scorpio female spreading rumours about anyone.

Would you do that and/or have you encountered other scorpio females who has.
No i don't do this at all and the Scorp women i know and have known don't either and also the men aren't this way.

I have no interest in what people are doing but more how peoples' minds work

Gossip bores the pants off me
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Thank you! I'm not surprised. 🙂
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Lasty week, I was bored and checked Yahoo answers and read some threads about what the different signs would do to get their revenge(something like that - I don't remember exactly) and there was a surprising amount of scorpio females who said they would start rumours about people. There were also other signs saying that this was their impression of scorpios (mainly women). I was quite surprised to hear this, as it's not in any way the impression I have of scorpio females in general. Some of them can do nasty things if pushed, yes, but I haven't heard that rumour spreading would be a go-to tactics.

I do have experience with one scorpio girl(my arch nemisis in school when we were young) who told a gay classmate of mine that I was a homofob. I did wonder why he was suddenly behaving very strangely around me - we had always got along really well and I can't remember ever having been anything but nice to him(I had no reason not to be). Only last year I found out what she told him and could tell him that was a lie. But other than that, I haven't even heard a rumour of a scorpio female spreading rumours about anyone.

Would you do that and/or have you encountered other scorpio females who has.
No i don't do this at all and the Scorp women i know and have known don't either and also the men aren't this way.

I have no interest in what people are doing but more how peoples' minds work

Gossip bores the pants off me
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I agree and am the same. I've never done that, and I'm not vengeful in the first place.
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What do you think of men that can dance?
Adore them, very sexy when they're good at it
Welcome my twin lol
Both have same sun moon n rising
Hello astro twin ^ ^ We meet again right? I think this is the second time we've talked
Damn even the intj! I don't remember but probably lol
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Lol ^ ^
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Hello Scorpio women, I am also a Scorpio male. Hopefully I can get some light onto this situation i'm in. Here it goes. Over the last couple of years I became friends with a younger Scorpio. I am in sales and sold her a hot tub 5 years ago. She was engaged at the time and now isn't. We became Facebook friends and talked through chat, but over the last couple of years we started to talk over the phone. To fast forward, over the last 4 months we've become very close and started to spend time with each other. I am much older, but we hit it off. We are born 2 days apart and even her parents anniversary is on my birthday. Lots of coincidences. I know her parents through my work, but after me and her started to spend time together she told her parents about us and they were good with it. They know i'm a nice guy so they seem okay with the age difference. She's 30, i'm 48. She's always had trust issues and it makes her guarded. We'd go a couple of days without talking then talk for hours on end. Lately, we've been talking everyday as we've hung out as well. We haven't slept together or anything, but we've cuddled a little. I've noticed that the closer we get the more she gets guarded. She's told me that I am her best friend, but is scared to go farther because she doesn't want to ruin what we have. She's wanted "friends with benefits" but is afraid we are to close for that.
To fast forward to the current. We saw each other on a Sunday a couple of weeks ago and we just talked til 3 in the morning then she went home to call me to continue to talk. We talk on average 3 hours each time. We really do have a great connection and she is attracted to me. The fact that she started to tell her family about me and her friends told me that she was starting to have more feelings towards me. Well then this past weekend I sent her Tulips for Easter and she texted me thanking me for them. Now it's been almost 6 days since we last spoke. It's been driving me nuts. I haven't really texted back other than to tell her I miss her, but i'm confused as to why she has become quiet??
This is the closest we've been since we've known each other. She's actually cried in front of me recently which is something she has never done (Her dog was sick and that worried her). So between her opening up with her family about us and her opening up emotionally and spending time with each other I really thought we were growing into something special, but this 6 day gap of not talking just seems so strange and I don't know what to do or what she is thinking. So here I am looking for anything you can add. Thank you 🙂
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Thank you Infinite8. This is something that has taken a long time to get to this point so I know it's a good thing. It is very hard for me because honestly for her to just become invisible isn't the most mature way to handle it knowing how it makes me feel, but I do know one thing is that when she has taken a few days away she'll come back and and act like nothings wrong. I just texted her that I missed her but nothing heavy, but you're saying I should just become silent until I hear from her. I do want her to miss me. I can't imagine when you have someone daily in your life and you go cold turkey it's an easy thing to do. I just hope she thinks about me during this time. She's a nurse at a nursing home so I know she goes through a lot of stress. She's a bit scatterbrained too. Why does she value being best friends with someone over a relationship? Is it because the expectations and fear of failure aren't as bad being best friends and it's easier to survive when there are bad times? I told her most long lasting relationships require being best friends with that person. Thank you for your quick response. I have my work cut out for me. It's tough because I honestly have no understanding as to why she has pulled back. A few days ago we were as close as can be 😢
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Scorp ladies,

Do you find it easy living with others or do you prefer to live alone?
Alone! I only lived with one person since I moved out of my family home in my early 20s. I lived with that person for roughly 5 years. Close to half of my life I've lived alone, by choice. I love it!
Me too.......we are very similar and have quite a few similar placements in our chart ?

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Yay, I'm glad that you relate!

Yes I think we do have some similarities in our charts. This is mine:


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Posted by starlover
Copper Dove,

We have the Sun, Jupiter, Venus, Pluto and MC in the same signs and we both have Venus ruled Mars

I thought you were Moon in Taurus? Do you know your exact birth time?

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Great. 🙂 My birth time is exact, to the minute. My rising is Taurus, not my moon. My moon is in my 1st house, but my first house has both Taurus and Gemini in it. My moon is barely in Gemini - just over 0 degrees.
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Copper Dove,

We have the Sun, Jupiter, Venus, Pluto and MC in the same signs and we both have Venus ruled Mars

I thought you were Moon in Taurus? Do you know your exact birth time?

🙂
Great. 🙂 My birth time is exact, to the minute. My rising is Taurus, not my moon. My moon is in my 1st house, but my first house has both Taurus and Gemini in it. My moon is barely in Gemini - just over 0 degrees.
We still have the same flavour chart

Witch in the woods. 😛
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Indeed. 🙂

'Carnelian Moon' by Diane Kremmer

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Copper Dove,

We have the Sun, Jupiter, Venus, Pluto and MC in the same signs and we both have Venus ruled Mars

I thought you were Moon in Taurus? Do you know your exact birth time?

🙂
Great. 🙂 My birth time is exact, to the minute. My rising is Taurus, not my moon. My moon is in my 1st house, but my first house has both Taurus and Gemini in it. My moon is barely in Gemini - just over 0 degrees.
We still have the same flavour chart

Witch in the woods. 😛
Indeed. 🙂

'Carnelian Moon' by Diane Kremmer

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Aahhh that a lovely image CopperWitch....thanks for posting 🙂
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You're welcome. 🙂 I like my new user name that you created!
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Posted by Admiral
Is vulnerability a good way to making a Scorpio woman attracted to you?
When I say vulnerable I mean sticking your neck out but setting boundaries too.
This is hard to answer because it's a little vague. What I will say is if you're "being" vulnerable to "make" her feel something or attract her, you've already become unattractive in my eyes and this will ultimately be picked up by your intended as it can not be maintain over time if it's not really who you are. Be vulnerable, because you are and you are willing to show that side of yourself without an end game. Anything else will be read as fake and a turn off, to me anyway.
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What are your thoughts on 7th house Scorps?
I'm not fully understanding what you're asking. Do you mean my idea of what the 7th house represents (principles of partnership, cooperation etc) or something else?

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Okay, well I guess I'm an idealist when it comes to this particular area. I desire the closest thing to true partnership as one can hope to achieve. I'm not a fan of traditional roles. I believe that my partner and I are a team and like the idea of supporting each other as such. For example, if I cook or tend to the house, I do so because I take pride in where I live and want you to feel loved and cared for. It would be nice (and desired) that my partner steps up in that area on occasion and not because I've asked or nag. He's doing so because similarly he cares for me and want to contribute to the smoothness of our household. If my partner recognizes I've had a long day, a rough week or hell, I've cooked for the past 3-4 days, he'll step up and take over that chore "just because". We both support each other in this way.

We are independent, but do a number of things together or support each other from that pov. I've never been one to sit in an air conditioned house while my man is burning outside in the Sun doing yard work. I'm out there too if necessary, as long as I can assists vs hinder the process. If it's best he do it alone, at the very least I'm making sure he's taken care of. Make sure he's hydrated, fed while he's breaking his back to tend to our home.

Where he falls short, I step up and where I fall short he does the same. Again, not based on roles, but we simply got each other's back. I'm not trying to wear the pants in the family and have no problem falling back while he leads if he's the best one for the particular job that needs to be done. I may be. I need a partner that is humble enough to recognize that may be the case and will allow me to step forward.

I use the same principle at work or on a team project. We all contribute, hold it down. Anything less, or you're more focused on having your ego molested and stroked, I'm not impressed with you at all.
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would you get back with an ex, and if yes on what grounds, and why?
No. Time moves forward. So do I.
Hm I like this actually.
I reached out to me ex she left me know she was in a relationship. I was in one too with another scorpio. She asked me if I loved my new gf I think I told her yes.
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Riiiiight. I already see where this is going.

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...we sparingly email, I do initiate. Yet she's still with her gf, im asingle, so the last email I told her its fine she doesnt have to reply. id like if she would but i respect her and her relationship.....
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BS. If you respected her relationship you wouldn't have been creeping around, let alone asking if Scorp women go back to an ex.

Just once I would love it if people would be straight and not mask their selfishness under "love", some "deep connection" or what have you and simply say "look, I'm feeling this girl/guy. They are involved with someone else, I own being a "home wrecker", so let's skip the judgment. Can y'all just tell me how to break the relationship up or if I even have a chance here?"
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Posted by Infinite8
I did have an ex-boyfriend try to rekindle with me, but I found it a bit foolish... I didn't understand his feelings at all because mine were completely gone in THAT sense. I still cared about him and loved him, but.... It was like family. So, I do a lot of emotional disconnecting when I break up...


Okay, so it isn't just cold detached moons that do this 😄. This pretty much sums up my process as well. Especially not being able to understand the other person's feelings. It's like: "😕, why haven't you moved on?"
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Wow seven years
I do believe in timing n if he did do horrific disrespectful n end horrible I would try again
Without grudges clean slate
I still have one grudge that I will forever hold on to......😄

I don't know if anyone remembers the carpet shampooer thread that I plastered all over the cap board years ago. 😱

Short story....he borrowed it and never returned it.....even after several attempts of me asking for it back.....I even contemplated a home invasion to rescue it. 😆 I was hella pissed off.

Yes, I brought it up to him.....

He told me returning it would have made things "final" and he just wasn't having that *typical mars in taurus stubborness*

I told him, me buying a new one.....that's what was part of finally finalizing things for me. The purchase was quite symbolic for me.

I have told him that even if we are together for the next 100 years....he will NEVER EVER NEVER EVER have permission to touch it. 😄 I may even impose a fine if he even goes so far as to look at it. 😛
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Reminds me of a time I broke up with someone before he could return my glass tupperware. It was the only thing I held against him despite the shitty break up 😆. I had it for a long time and it's part of a set.

No lie, Saturday I made pesto and opened my cabinets to find a container to store it and thought *Hmph, it would be nice if I had a glass container large enough to hold this.*

Yeah, I can and should just replace it (with something that doesn't match the set!), but I'd rather be salty for another year.
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Posted by UmiSays
is that a scorpio thing? to bring in judgement? home wrecker? sheesh... she text me a few months ag, she initiated me going out of my way to email her. we had been emailing before because i wanted to make sure she was doing good.
hey listen, i know we havent talked on here before but you need to take a step back. im here to get advice not get gif replies. if youre gonna give me a serious hones answers then thank you i will definitely take your advice into consideration, but if youre just going to reply with a bitter remark i will ask other level headed scorpios. please and thank you.
😆! Right. We haven't exchanged words before, so no that wasn't "judgement" it was sarcasm. You missed the point entirely. If you have feelings, which you clearly do, then don't try to play it off as "I just want to be friends". Being disingenuous is what will get you booted to the back of the line with any Scorp.

In plain text, keep coming at her like "I just want to be friends" and the Scorp will be turned off by that and just as I did, will sense it a mile away. Probably already does, hence the silence. The mere fact that you asked her if her girlfriend knew you were chatting through email told her all she needs to know. She knows where you're going (or trying because we don't know what she wants) with this.

How is that for advice?