Arizonatea
@Arizonatea
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scorpio guy can't get over ex?
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I think he's a bit of a wuss. Ye bro, shit happened. 3 years ago. Time to move on.
Or if he isn't a wuss, you're just there so he empties his ballsack from time to time and hides behind this story to mask it all infront of you, so you get onto to him that you're there just to alleviate his physical needs.
It's nice if a cumdumpster has a shoulder to cry onto after sex.
Or if he isn't a wuss, you're just there so he empties his ballsack from time to time and hides behind this story to mask it all infront of you, so you get onto to him that you're there just to alleviate his physical needs.
It's nice if a cumdumpster has a shoulder to cry onto after sex.
Posted by Victorious
Maybe stop moving so fast with him?
He literally said that.
I dont know how because everything I do seems to be interpreted as moving too fast and he backs off from my actions before I can even know what I did wrong! For example I love talking about the future and I was discussing us taking trips together and that made him feel like we were moving too fast.
How am I supposed to know that!
Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
Cut him off.
I'm beginning to believe this is the best option unfortunately. I don't want to but it seems like he's toying with me.
Posted by Mr_Pinchy
I think he's a bit of a wuss. Ye bro, shit happened. 3 years ago. Time to move on.
Or if he isn't a wuss, you're just there so he empties his ballsack from time to time and hides behind this story to mask it all infront of you, so you get onto to him that you're there just to alleviate his physical needs.
It's nice if a cumdumpster has a shoulder to cry onto after sex.
we have mindblowing sex but now he wants to be abstinent because he's a troubled soul who is seeking God and feels sex has become a distraction. So we aren't even physically intimate anymore.
Posted by VictoriousPosted by ArizonateaPosted by Victorious
Maybe stop moving so fast with him?
He literally said that.
I dont know how because everything I do seems to be interpreted as moving too fast and he backs off from my actions before I can even know what I did wrong! For example I love talking about the future and I was discussing us taking trips together and that made him feel like we were moving too fast.
How am I supposed to know that!
How long have you been dating?click to expand
we've been dating for a month recently. years ago we dated in these short bursts and then would fall out passionately then reunite. its an ongoing thing...
Posted by ArizonateaPosted by Mr_Pinchy
I think he's a bit of a wuss. Ye bro, shit happened. 3 years ago. Time to move on.
Or if he isn't a wuss, you're just there so he empties his ballsack from time to time and hides behind this story to mask it all infront of you, so you get onto to him that you're there just to alleviate his physical needs.
It's nice if a cumdumpster has a shoulder to cry onto after sex.
we have mindblowing sex but now he wants to be abstinent because he's a troubled soul who is seeking God and feels sex has become a distraction. So we aren't even physically intimate anymore.click to expand
Let him go off to pester the nuns then.
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by ArizonateaPosted by Victorious
Maybe stop moving so fast with him?
He literally said that.
I dont know how because everything I do seems to be interpreted as moving too fast and he backs off from my actions before I can even know what I did wrong! For example I love talking about the future and I was discussing us taking trips together and that made him feel like we were moving too fast.
How am I supposed to know that!
Wait. How long have you been dating?click to expand
we've been on and off for years but we've been "on" for a month now.
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by ArizonateaPosted by Squishy_Marshmallow
Cut him off.
I'm beginning to believe this is the best option unfortunately. I don't want to but it seems like he's toying with me.
Personal experience, when a Scorp likes you they will be all over you. They literally behave like they have no control, not saying they don't, just that they can get too excited.
I would say cut him off. It's better you end it than let the aliens kidnapped him.click to expand
this is exactly what I thought. he's definitely not all over me. time to put my effort elsewhere
Posted by Arizonatea
we've been dating for a month recently. years ago we dated in these short bursts and then would fall out passionately then reunite. its an ongoing thing...
A month and your talking about future trips? What?
You're in a rush for whatever reason. Hell I wonder if the dude is even your boyfriend yet. You think he's going slow because in your mind "known him for 12 years".
Posted by Victorious
The two scorps are saying chill the fuck out.
Everyone else says end it.
😂
Dude, be real and not prone to clannish scorpio behaviour.
On and off for years? Withholding sex (lol)? Sounds like his feelings for her are soooooooo biiiiiiiiig.
thanks guys for all of your honesty and input I appreciate it and I have a new outlook on things. I don't know why I'm acting like a water sign lol I've never been told that before. I never said he was my boyfriend.
All I'm saying is, if you want it to work, you need to stop living under whatever timeline you have in your head.
I'd bet everytime he backed off was when you started talking about big future plans that you may have seen as small.
Life isn't some speed track where you have to hit the pit stop as fast as possible. Slow down, and live in the moment for a bit. He's carries the scar of a bad relationship, and that makes him cautious.
I'd bet everytime he backed off was when you started talking about big future plans that you may have seen as small.
Life isn't some speed track where you have to hit the pit stop as fast as possible. Slow down, and live in the moment for a bit. He's carries the scar of a bad relationship, and that makes him cautious.
Posted by VictoriousPosted by Mr_PinchyPosted by Victorious
The two scorps are saying chill the fuck out.
Everyone else says end it.
😂
Dude, be real and not prone to clannish scorpio behaviour.
On and off for years? Withholding sex (lol)? Sounds like his feelings for her are soooooooo biiiiiiiiig.
Dating for one month.
One month.
They were on and off briefly years ago. Probably 10 years ago as he was in a relationship for 7 years and then 3 years of not getting close to anyone.
You need to be real too.
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Look i don't want to argue on behalf of this woman, but all of it is just BS. He knows her for over a decade so she is "vetted" already and still he decided to go on his religious trip. That sounds like she just didn't make the cut to be a viable partner (for whatever reason) and is there for "purposes" only.
Guys honestly I don't talk about future trips with new guys I date but this man has been my friend for 12 years so I felt comfortable discussing such subjects with him. now I know better sheesh you guys are right lol
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by Victorious
The two scorps are saying chill the fuck out.
Everyone else says end it.
😂
Sucks isn't it when air signs know your sign's game better than you all? 😛
On and off for years and he got married to someone else ... If that isn't very telling.
He is withholding being intimate.
I agree she needs to chill. That holiday plans would put anyone off.
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That's the thing though, why only believe what she says? To me, she threw that in to justify her want to speed up the relationship in her head.
She said point blank, " years ago we dated in these short bursts". She never indicates that they were on and off while he was married. The dating on and off most likely happened prior to him being married. If he was married for 7 years, and divorced for 3, that gives a time slot of 2 years of dating on and off. People change in 10 years.
As for the sex, maybe he realizes that sex leads to emotional attachment with her, and has decided to slow down the relationship this way. He's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. If he continued to sleep with her, then people would say hes using her for sex.
he was never married. we are only 26 years old. He was simply in a long term relationship.
Posted by Apis
Are you sure you arent just a booty call and the "religious" part isn't just a copout for saying hes over that?
Just simple math here:
You've known him. 12 years
He wasnt single for. 7 years
He has been single the last 3 years
That would mean you knew him 2 years before he got into the 7 year relationship. And you guys didn't have anything popping in those 2 years?
Hes a pussy. It really is that simple.
in the 2 years prior he cheated on his THEN gf with me. during the 7 years he cheated on that gf with me too. then I proceeded to cheat on my then bf with him (I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship the end of May, that's why he came back after he saw my facebook status)
But I do agree he's a kitty. honestly.
Posted by ApisPosted by ArizonateaPosted by Apis
Are you sure you arent just a booty call and the "religious" part isn't just a copout for saying hes over that?
Just simple math here:
You've known him. 12 years
He wasnt single for. 7 years
He has been single the last 3 years
That would mean you knew him 2 years before he got into the 7 year relationship. And you guys didn't have anything popping in those 2 years?
Hes a pussy. It really is that simple.
in the 2 years prior he cheated on his THEN gf with me. during the 7 years he cheated on that gf with me too. then I proceeded to cheat on my then bf with him (I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship the end of May, that's why he came back after he saw my facebook status)
Sorry, you were a booty call. You're trying to change the terms of the original agreement and he doesnt see you as a long term prospect.
Why would you want to be though? He has proven himself to be unfaithful. Also may be a reason why he says hes turning religious - to BS into thinking hes not gonna be a ho-no-mo.click to expand
that's sneaky and manipulative i never thought of that before
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by ArizonateaPosted by Apis
Are you sure you arent just a booty call and the "religious" part isn't just a copout for saying hes over that?
Just simple math here:
You've known him. 12 years
He wasnt single for. 7 years
He has been single the last 3 years
That would mean you knew him 2 years before he got into the 7 year relationship. And you guys didn't have anything popping in those 2 years?
Hes a pussy. It really is that simple.
in the 2 years prior he cheated on his THEN gf with me. during the 7 years he cheated on that gf with me too. then I proceeded to cheat on my then bf with him (I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship the end of May, that's why he came back after he saw my facebook status)
You two should continue to fuck each other and stay away from others.
Please work hard and build this relationship or whatever you have.
Leave others out of this shit.click to expand
no way I'm not sticking to a scorpio who doesn't even really want me. you opened my eyes. I'm done trying
Le derrttyyyy laundry is out of the bag. 😂😂😂
Posted by Unwording
So basically, you've become each others safety net-- I don't know what you thought would come out of this.
honestly? my dumb ass thought he was my "soulmate" since we've known each other since the 6th grade and been on and off for so long I thought that "meant" something, the fact that we "kept coming back to each other" as if it was "meant to be"
yeah, what a load of bullshit
Posted by ArizonateaPosted by Apis
Are you sure you arent just a booty call and the "religious" part isn't just a copout for saying hes over that?
Just simple math here:
You've known him. 12 years
He wasnt single for. 7 years
He has been single the last 3 years
That would mean you knew him 2 years before he got into the 7 year relationship. And you guys didn't have anything popping in those 2 years?
Hes a pussy. It really is that simple.
in the 2 years prior he cheated on his THEN gf with me. during the 7 years he cheated on that gf with me too. then I proceeded to cheat on my then bf with him (I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship the end of May, that's why he came back after he saw my facebook status)click to expand
Such an upstanding set of people.
Yes I'm judging 🤷♀️
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by nikkistarPosted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by Victorious
The two scorps are saying chill the fuck out.
Everyone else says end it.
😂
Sucks isn't it when air signs know your sign's game better than you all? 😛
On and off for years and he got married to someone else ... If that isn't very telling.
He is withholding being intimate.
I agree she needs to chill. That holiday plans would put anyone off.
That's the thing though, why only believe what she says? To me, she threw that in to justify her want to speed up the relationship in her head.
She said point blank, " years ago we dated in these short bursts". She never indicates that they were on and off while he was married. The dating on and off most likely happened prior to him being married. If he was married for 7 years, and divorced for 3, that gives a time slot of 2 years of dating on and off. People change in 10 years.
As for the sex, maybe he realizes that sex leads to emotional attachment with her, and has decided to slow down the relationship this way. He's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. If he continued to sleep with her, then people would say hes using her for sex.
I agree but why does he ghost? It never made sense to me when a Scorp ghosts. I tend to read it as no interest/back burner girl.
It's like one day he will be all over you( maybe not sexually but wants your attention) and then disappears and then comes back stronger.
One month and he has already ghosted on her few times.
It isn't about sex. He can get to know her and give her time.
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That depends on the person's definition of ghosting.
Logically, in 30 days, I doubt he ghosted her for a week or more at a time. So the most rational conclusion is he didn't communicate with her for a few days at a time. That's not ghosting to me, but how most people operate that have jobs, and life to deal with. That also is common for people that are dating and not in a committed relationship.
People will sometimes think that others should act in a fashion they would. And often time demand priority treatment when they aren't yet.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by nikkistarPosted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by Victorious
The two scorps are saying chill the fuck out.
Everyone else says end it.
😂
Sucks isn't it when air signs know your sign's game better than you all? 😛
On and off for years and he got married to someone else ... If that isn't very telling.
He is withholding being intimate.
I agree she needs to chill. That holiday plans would put anyone off.
That's the thing though, why only believe what she says? To me, she threw that in to justify her want to speed up the relationship in her head.
She said point blank, " years ago we dated in these short bursts". She never indicates that they were on and off while he was married. The dating on and off most likely happened prior to him being married. If he was married for 7 years, and divorced for 3, that gives a time slot of 2 years of dating on and off. People change in 10 years.
As for the sex, maybe he realizes that sex leads to emotional attachment with her, and has decided to slow down the relationship this way. He's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. If he continued to sleep with her, then people would say hes using her for sex.
I agree but why does he ghost? It never made sense to me when a Scorp ghosts. I tend to read it as no interest/back burner girl.
It's like one day he will be all over you( maybe not sexually but wants your attention) and then disappears and then comes back stronger.
One month and he has already ghosted on her few times.
It isn't about sex. He can get to know her and give her time.
That depends on the person's definition of ghosting.
Logically, in 30 days, I doubt he ghosted her for a week or more at a time. So the most rational conclusion is he didn't communicate with her for a few days at a time. That's not ghosting to me, but how most people operate that have jobs, and life to deal with. That also is common for people that are dating and not in a committed relationship.
People will sometimes think that others should act in a fashion they would. And often time demand priority treatment when they aren't yet.click to expand
prime example: me
I prefer to be talked to everyday during the dating phase and then a few times a week during a relationship
he feels the opposite
we've had this discussion.
I still feel ghosted when I'm not talked to in 24 hours. the most it's been is 3 days. which is far too long to me to go without talking to someone you're dating
Posted by ApisPosted by ArizonateaPosted by ApisPosted by ArizonateaPosted by Apis
Are you sure you arent just a booty call and the "religious" part isn't just a copout for saying hes over that?
Just simple math here:
You've known him. 12 years
He wasnt single for. 7 years
He has been single the last 3 years
That would mean you knew him 2 years before he got into the 7 year relationship. And you guys didn't have anything popping in those 2 years?
Hes a pussy. It really is that simple.
in the 2 years prior he cheated on his THEN gf with me. during the 7 years he cheated on that gf with me too. then I proceeded to cheat on my then bf with him (I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship the end of May, that's why he came back after he saw my facebook status)
Sorry, you were a booty call. You're trying to change the terms of the original agreement and he doesnt see you as a long term prospect.
Why would you want to be though? He has proven himself to be unfaithful. Also may be a reason why he says hes turning religious - to BS into thinking hes not gonna be a ho-no-mo.
that's sneaky and manipulative i never thought of that before
I can see in the first part of a relationship paying no mind to the FACT that hes a serial cheater - you won, the excitement of the victory and all that blinds your logic.
But what happens 1 year down the road? You get this nagging feeling hes cheating on you too. And you have solid ground to stand on, hes done it multiple times in the past with you.
All I see are 2 options when you applied pressure:
Cut bait and run because he doesn't see long term with you.
Or, lie like a motherfucker in hope that he can erase the slate in your brain.
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I feel like he puts a lot of emotion behind having sex, we never just hooked up just to "hook up" it was always deeper than that but regardless it was cheating....during low points in both our relationships where we believed the grass was greener....
I dont know if he's testing me to see how much i can take or if he's just being a dick. I know he's a good person when it comes to our friendship. He's done so much for me. I just would hate to believe he would switch up beceause we are talking romantically.
Posted by Apis
All im saying is I believe you were the alter boy for his priestly ways.
Doggy style to sainthood. 😂😂😂
Posted by ApisPosted by ArizonateaPosted by ApisPosted by ArizonateaPosted by ApisPosted by ArizonateaPosted by Apis
Are you sure you arent just a booty call and the "religious" part isn't just a copout for saying hes over that?
Just simple math here:
You've known him. 12 years
He wasnt single for. 7 years
He has been single the last 3 years
That would mean you knew him 2 years before he got into the 7 year relationship. And you guys didn't have anything popping in those 2 years?
Hes a pussy. It really is that simple.
in the 2 years prior he cheated on his THEN gf with me. during the 7 years he cheated on that gf with me too. then I proceeded to cheat on my then bf with him (I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship the end of May, that's why he came back after he saw my facebook status)
Sorry, you were a booty call. You're trying to change the terms of the original agreement and he doesnt see you as a long term prospect.
Why would you want to be though? He has proven himself to be unfaithful. Also may be a reason why he says hes turning religious - to BS into thinking hes not gonna be a ho-no-mo.
that's sneaky and manipulative i never thought of that before
I can see in the first part of a relationship paying no mind to the FACT that hes a serial cheater - you won, the excitement of the victory and all that blinds your logic.
But what happens 1 year down the road? You get this nagging feeling hes cheating on you too. And you have solid ground to stand on, hes done it multiple times in the past with you.
All I see are 2 options when you applied pressure:
Cut bait and run because he doesn't see long term with you.
Or, lie like a motherfucker in hope that he can erase the slate in your brain.
I feel like he puts a lot of emotion behind having sex, we never just hooked up just to "hook up" it was always deeper than that but regardless it was cheating....during low points in both our relationships where we believed the grass was greener....
I dont know if he's testing me to see how much i can take or if he's just being a dick. I know he's a good person when it comes to our friendship. He's done so much for me. I just would hate to believe he would switch up beceause we are talking romantically.
Dont equate being a nice guy with being a good man. Bill Cosby was a nice guy..... until he got caught being a terrible man. Those women felt like he helped them also.. the catholic church is full of good guys who are terrible men.
All im saying is I believe you were the alter boy for his priestly ways.click to expand
you're right when you put it like that. nothing but truth.
Posted by ApisPosted by Mr_PinchyPosted by Apis
All im saying is I believe you were the alter boy for his priestly ways.
Doggy style to sainthood. 😂😂😂
Is that the All Dogs Go to Heaven sequel?click to expand
Knock knock knocking on heavens door.
the crazy thing is he keeps wanting to be abstinent, breaks down and has sex with me, then proceeds to feel guilty afterwards, then wants to abstinent again. its like a strange cycle of weird.
When you say he’s ‘cautious because of his ex’ did he tell you this? Or is it something you’re assuming.
It’s been 1 month. You’ve waited 12 years. Be patient a little longer. If he’s not living up to your expectations in 3 months time then close the chapter for good.
Posted by LadyNeptune
When you say he’s ‘cautious because of his ex’ did he tell you this? Or is it something you’re assuming.
no he said that verbatim. everytime we talk about what exactly is moving too fast he always explains and then ends with "I wasted damn near 7 years in a relationship, I'm cautious because I've felt this same way before and look how it ended"
Posted by Arizonatea
the crazy thing is he keeps wanting to be abstinent, breaks down and has sex with me, then proceeds to feel guilty afterwards, then wants to abstinent again. its like a strange cycle of weird.
How many times has that happened? Kinda weird to me that he had no problem fucking you when you were both in a relationship with others. Now that your single and available he wants to be abstinent?!
Maybe he needs it to feel illicit. Like he enjoyed it more when he was fucking a girl with a boyfriend. He needs that same thrill. He needs it to feel wrong. Hence the abstinence.
Posted by ApisPosted by Arizonatea
the crazy thing is he keeps wanting to be abstinent, breaks down and has sex with me, then proceeds to feel guilty afterwards, then wants to abstinent again. its like a strange cycle of weird.
Is he an athlete?
Sex and masturbation actually decreases testosterone temporarily and many athletes do this to enhance performance. Maybe there's a practical explanation
Did he recently run a 5K then knock the brakes off you after?click to expand
he's in the army and we had sex the day before his pt test and he failed his 2 mile run by 3 minutes.
Sooo y'all having twins soon?
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Arizonatea
the crazy thing is he keeps wanting to be abstinent, breaks down and has sex with me, then proceeds to feel guilty afterwards, then wants to abstinent again. its like a strange cycle of weird.
How many times has that happened? Kinda weird to me that he had no problem fucking you when you where both in a relationship with others. Now that your single and available he wants to be abstinent?!
Maybe he needs it to feel illicit. Like he enjoyed it more when he was fucking a girl with a boyfriend. He needs that same thrill. He needs it to feel wrong. Hence the abstinence.click to expand
when we first linked up a month ago we had sex 5 times in one night and he was totally cool with it.
two weeks later he starts this abstinence thing and every single time we've been intimate after that point he sits on the side of the bed and goes "fuuuuuuuck" with his head in his hands, feeling all this guilt.
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the crazy thing is he keeps wanting to be abstinent, breaks down and has sex with me, then proceeds to feel guilty afterwards, then wants to abstinent again. its like a strange cycle of weird.
Is he an athlete?
Sex and masturbation actually decreases testosterone temporarily and many athletes do this to enhance performance. Maybe there's a practical explanation
Did he recently run a 5K then knock the brakes off you after?
he's in the army and we had sex the day before his pt test and he failed his 2 mile run by 3 minutes.
Makes sense.
Everything you've said makes me think he has no real self control (probably the root of his feeling guilty). I'd even stretch as far as saying you are a toy to him, a saftey net of guaranteed sex, but he doesnt see a future with you.
It's hard to date and meet new people while in the army, but he still has needs.. that's where you enter (or vice versa). Then he feels guilty all over again.click to expand
that sucks so hard. I thought he was different. UGH. I feel so dumb.
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowPosted by justagirl
Sooo y'all having twins soon?
Troll right? Scorp and Geminis don't have good sex.
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says who?
sex with him is the only time I ever orgasm during actual intercourse.
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the crazy thing is he keeps wanting to be abstinent, breaks down and has sex with me, then proceeds to feel guilty afterwards, then wants to abstinent again. its like a strange cycle of weird.
Is he an athlete?
Sex and masturbation actually decreases testosterone temporarily and many athletes do this to enhance performance. Maybe there's a practical explanation
Did he recently run a 5K then knock the brakes off you after?
he's in the army and we had sex the day before his pt test and he failed his 2 mile run by 3 minutes.
Makes sense.
Everything you've said makes me think he has no real self control (probably the root of his feeling guilty). I'd even stretch as far as saying you are a toy to him, a saftey net of guaranteed sex, but he doesnt see a future with you.
It's hard to date and meet new people while in the army, but he still has needs.. that's where you enter (or vice versa). Then he feels guilty all over again.
that sucks so hard. I thought he was different. UGH. I feel so dumb.
Dude, don't get all down. All I'm trying to do is show you where i believe his power is. Take it away from him by not putting out. Next time he wants to tell him you took his advice and closed up shop for a few months. Change the dynamic and see what his response is. That will tell you everything you need to know.click to expand
thats incredibly smart. ill see him this weekend.
Posted by ArizonateaPosted by Apis
Are you sure you arent just a booty call and the "religious" part isn't just a copout for saying hes over that?
Just simple math here:
You've known him. 12 years
He wasnt single for. 7 years
He has been single the last 3 years
That would mean you knew him 2 years before he got into the 7 year relationship. And you guys didn't have anything popping in those 2 years?
Hes a pussy. It really is that simple.
in the 2 years prior he cheated on his THEN gf with me. during the 7 years he cheated on that gf with me too. then I proceeded to cheat on my then bf with him (I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship the end of May, that's why he came back after he saw my facebook status)click to expand
Sis what
Imma be real with you chief, this relationship with this Scorp, this ain’t it
Posted by Apis
Tell him you've decided to save yourself for marriage.. see what happens.
i'm gonna start by not contacting him and seeing exactly how long it takes him to contact me.
the last time we met up he said we can't hang out at my place anymore because it leads to sex, he will likely change his mind and try one last time.
i'm going to tell him i'm saving myself for marriage
Posted by ArizonateaPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Arizonatea
the crazy thing is he keeps wanting to be abstinent, breaks down and has sex with me, then proceeds to feel guilty afterwards, then wants to abstinent again. its like a strange cycle of weird.
How many times has that happened? Kinda weird to me that he had no problem fucking you when you where both in a relationship with others. Now that your single and available he wants to be abstinent?!
Maybe he needs it to feel illicit. Like he enjoyed it more when he was fucking a girl with a boyfriend. He needs that same thrill. He needs it to feel wrong. Hence the abstinence.
when we first linked up a month ago we had sex 5 times in one night and he was totally cool with it.
two weeks later he starts this abstinence thing and every single time we've been intimate after that point he sits on the side of the bed and goes "fuuuuuuuck" with his head in his hands, feeling all this guilt.click to expand
Weirdo. I’m sure that makes you feel amazing too 🙄
👆 sarcasm
Honestly abstinence might not be the worst thing for you. Continue to sleep with him and get pulled further in...
Take sex out of the equation until he can decide whether or not he wants to be with you. Actually commit. Cause this senerio isn’t healthy for you. At. All.
Ewwwww. Just saw he’s in the army. I’ve dated army dudes (2) in the past and they were huge cheaters. Everyone I know (over 10ppl) who’ve dated military guys or are military guys were cheated on/cheated.
Do you live nearby his home base? Or in his home state where he visits on leave?
I wouldn’t date a military dude again. You see them 3 months a year if lucky. Then the stress and loneliness when they are deployed. Nope! Not for me.
Do you live nearby his home base? Or in his home state where he visits on leave?
I wouldn’t date a military dude again. You see them 3 months a year if lucky. Then the stress and loneliness when they are deployed. Nope! Not for me.
Posted by ArizonateaPosted by LadyNeptune
When you say he’s ‘cautious because of his ex’ did he tell you this? Or is it something you’re assuming.
no he said that verbatim. everytime we talk about what exactly is moving too fast he always explains and then ends with "I wasted damn near 7 years in a relationship, I'm cautious because I've felt this same way before and look how it ended"click to expand
Messy. But then again how is his baggage with his ex your problem? It isn’t.
Not fair to you to have to pay penance for his failings.
Honestly I’d say start dating others. Don’t settle for someone whose known you for half their lifetime and is still unsure. Your not responsible for his demons, only your own.
If he comes around and you want to move forward, cool. In the meantime put yourself out there. I have the feeling he’ll only continue to disappoint. Time to meet other people.
Sometimes you have to let the past die in order to embrace your future.
Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
Fair enough.
My idea of ghosting is simple. I was ghosted once so I go with what happened. When the guy disappeared and came back after three days, explained to me why he disappeared because he felt guilty (?) or he thought I would be angry and he wanted to placate my feelings, so he could be all over me? I see that as ghosting because I feel he knew he didn't want me long term or didn't feel anything for me but was wasting my time and he knew he would get kidnapped or join the Church.
Honestly nobody else ghosted me. So idk. I go by dxp terms.
Posted by Arizonatea
I prefer to be talked to everyday during the dating phase and then a few times a week during a relationship
he feels the opposite
we've had this discussion.
I still feel ghosted when I'm not talked to in 24 hours. the most it's been is 3 days. which is far too long to me to go without talking to someone you're datingclick to expand
See, the OP's definition is the vastly different from what you and I would deem as ghosting. And she even states the guy's opinion on the matter as well. People have very varying terms of "ghosting" and what they believe in the appropriate way of communication.
At the end of the day, she wants priority treatment on her terms.
He was IN a relationship for 7 years, he was committed to that person and emotionally attached, hes not ready for you. You're expecting too much from him if you've only been dating a month.
What was the deciding factor for you guys to be dating again? Does he ask you? Does he take you out on dates? What differs than your friendship—
You've known him for 12 years but that means nothing.
Also ghosting happens when its been a month or more of no contact, Im over people saying they were "ghosted" and its been a couple of days, get real. Not everyone wants to talk to someone 24/7. Let it build. But you're pushing, pushing, pushing. I would've ran from you too honestly. I think he's being upfront by letting you know you're moving too fast, thats simply what it is, YOU are moving too fast. HE's not there yet.
What was the deciding factor for you guys to be dating again? Does he ask you? Does he take you out on dates? What differs than your friendship—
You've known him for 12 years but that means nothing.
Also ghosting happens when its been a month or more of no contact, Im over people saying they were "ghosted" and its been a couple of days, get real. Not everyone wants to talk to someone 24/7. Let it build. But you're pushing, pushing, pushing. I would've ran from you too honestly. I think he's being upfront by letting you know you're moving too fast, thats simply what it is, YOU are moving too fast. HE's not there yet.
Posted by TheRabbit
Seriously...whose alt account is this?
She's just here spilling the tea....
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