@sweet_cancer
9 Years
How can I be mysterious for a Scorpio?
Yup. Don’t do all the typical cancer stuff like texting randomly just for attention and curiosity. I don’t think you guys can be mysterious though. You are so cut and dry. What you see is what you get types. Lol.
It’s not a bad thing, but just saying. You guys are too caring to be mysterious.
My advice is to NOT BE "mysterious".
We are not "attracted to" mystery - we solve mysteries because they annoy us. like a dripping faucet that compels us to get out of bed and shut it off. Once we crack a "mysterious" girl, we have no more interest.
Write down what you want in life 10 years from now.
Write down what you want in life 1 to 2 years from now...and where ( location - actually city & state ) you'll be.(eg. if you're leaving for school )
Simply ask him what he wants in life a year and a half from now. Yup, just out of the blue.
If his goals don't mesh with yours, tell him so and that you were really hoping he might be
a long term boyfriend but now that dream is over
... and then tell him you should just have sex,.
I think I understand the nature of your question. But honestly if you’re trying to maintain a level of mystery or orchestrate a false sense of attraction it’s not going to work.
Either a) he sees right through the facade and loses respect/interest for you or B) he gets to know you better, realizes you’re not who he thought you were and loses respect/interest for you. Just be yourself, secure in yourself as a confident sexy woman. If it’s suppose to happen it will happen.
DO NOT try to make him jealous. Be interesting. Have interesting things to share and talk about. Keep a level of independenc and keep your own life together with your own friends. If your ambitious share your ambition, if your passionate share your passion. If you’re creative share your art. Be attentive to him but don’t make it all about him. Don’t “try” to do anything that isn’t 110% authentic or he’ll sense something is off.
it's hard because he can have many women and one of them has a stronger" connection..."
the one he feels the most, is the one he will always choose. and the others are always also interesting..
If he already likes you why change who you are?
Be yourself is my advice. No games.
1) Scorpios are overrated-af.
2) if you think you need to be mysterious to get his attention, you've already lost.
No person is worth the headache of a dynamic based on mimicry. I get your feelings but all those strategies only fuel fake interest, if being yourself is not enough you simply don't match, if it is enough why try anything else? If he gets bored quickly anyways, is he worth it?
Save yourself weeks and threads of 'what if' and 'why did he' and enjoy being yourself.
You all are attracted to mystery.
I already have a Scorpio guy's interest but I want to KEEP it.
How can I keep him intrigued and be curious about me? If I'm independent and not too available will he chase me more?
And for how long do you expect to keep this facade?
You all are attracted to mystery....
We are?
I think you may be confusing this with being interesting.
Are any Scorpios here attracted to mysterious people? So far it seems no Scorpios who have posted in this topic are. I definitely am not, even though my Venus is Scorpio too and my 7th house is ruled by Scorpio which according to some astrologers might suggest a draw to that kind of thing.
If I know that someone is putting on some kind of act with me or other people to try to get me to fall for them, I'm not attracted at all because it's dishonest.
Ok maybe I didn't explain myself well. I want to be independent because of my own decision but not to play a game. The thing with this Scorpio is that sometimes he's hot and cold and it makes me wonder how much interested he is.
I'm an insecure Cancer and if I don't feel that someone is into me, I withdraw for my own sake and to avoid getting hurt. I consider myself totally transparent and honest but I feel like I need reassurance.
I want to try not being needy and keeping some space to see if he's really that interested or I'm making things up in my head.
Sit in a corner of a room staring longingly into the distance, smoking a cigarette, reading some existential philosophy. If he talks to you just talk to him about how existence is suffering and there's no hope for the world. Wear dark eye shadow, dark eyeliner, dark clothes...
lmao jk don't do any of that, just be yourself. If he likes you he likes you. Don't try to change for anyone because the facade doesn't last. Only time you should ever change is to improve yourself for yourself (which can also benefit other people, but you're doing it because you want to)
I can't 😄 😄 😄
Ok maybe I didn't explain myself well. I want to be independent because of my own decision but not to play a game. The thing with this Scorpio is that sometimes he's hot and cold and it makes me wonder how much interested he is.
I'm an insecure Cancer and if I don't feel that someone is into me, I withdraw for my own sake and to avoid getting hurt. I consider myself totally transparent and honest but I feel like I need reassurance.
I want to try not being needy and keeping some space to see if he's really that interested or I'm making things up in my head.
This, in a form, is playing a game. Testing someone by trying to create artificial space is a game that many play. And it usually never works out.
Sometimes, you just have to risk getting hurt, in order to have the relationship you desire. Don't let your demons and insecurities control you.
Be elusive
So true. Scorp solve mysteries...
They smell game players miles away and it humours them if anything...
I challenge him cerebrally on most fronts and this is ultimately where you hold and keep a Scorp.
Communication and emotional honesty they need. Mental agility and sexual dominion is what they want.
*like*
...The thing with this Scorpio is that sometimes he's hot and cold and it makes me wonder how much interested he is.
I'm an insecure Cancer and if I don't feel that someone is into me, I withdraw for my own sake and to avoid getting hurt.... I feel like I need reassurance.
This isn't a good combination. Move on for your own sake.
But should I be honest with him?
Like ask him why he's being cold or telling him that I missed him if we don't talk for a while?
I prefer straight answers but that will show that I'm weak and needy. Is that bad?
But should I be honest with him?
Like ask him why he's being cold or telling him that I missed him if we don't talk for a while?
I prefer straight answers but that will show that I'm weak and needy. Is that bad?
Be yourself at all times, direct & straightforward. Don’t tolerate any BS
Did you try wearing a bag on your head?! 🤨 Holes for seeing and breathing are not necessary tho (if you suffocate - that might turn him on / Scorpios are weird like that - they fancy the taboo).
Lol it doesn’t matter what you do. If he’s interested he will pursue. As long as you keep it real and no game playing it’s all good. I’m just playing I really don’t know 🤷♂️ Lol
Hey boo. Why are you gonna post under me and not say hi— WTF! 🙂
But should I be honest with him?
Like ask him why he's being cold or telling him that I missed him if we don't talk for a while?
I prefer straight answers but that will show that I'm weak and needy. Is that bad?
This is not mysterious lol
Can you find other ways of saying it? Like "We haven't talked for a while, did you miss me?" Don't tell him you miss him just yet. You can do that later, once he's interested.
As far as being cold, I ignored it and didn't really mention it, it always seems to work. What type of things is he doing that's cold to you?
You all are attracted to mystery.
I already have a Scorpio guy's interest but I want to KEEP it.
How can I keep him intrigued and be curious about me? If I'm independent and not too available will he chase me more?
Just be your crab self.
I'm an insecure ...... and if I don't feel that someone is into me, I withdraw for my own sake and to avoid getting hurt. .....I feel like I need reassurance.
This is how Scorpios are when they are in love, too. They are super hard on the outside and get softer and softer the more they fall. They end up being extremely sweet and will stick by you and be there in the end, when they trust you.
The thing is 2 insecure people don't make for good relationships. Scorpios will dominate you and treat you bad if you are like that. I think they need strong, stable partners.
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You all are attracted to mystery.
I already have a Scorpio guy's interest but I want to KEEP it.
How can I keep him intrigued and be curious about me? If I'm independent and not too available will he chase me more?