Chowfun92
@Chowfun92
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Ugh, I don't know how to read this Scorpio Male. (Page 2)
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lockquote>Posted by Chowfun92Posted by Rabbit
1) just because you don't care about, does not mean other people don't care as well. It's not about just you. Relationships are about two people.
2) It's not about insecurity. It's about respect. If you are with someone, it should be about that person, not someone else.
Yes, but I'm not with him that's the problem!
So if I'm not with you and there is no relationship and everyone is teasing each other and you single me out and get mad at me, after you play your games, that's okay?
Alright, I'll bite. I'll say that's okay for you to get upset or well lets say it was more on the lines of agitated to be fair. Well I'm going to assume, until I confront him on it, that he's agitated because he's insecure. He can throw jabs, and I can take a bullet like super man, but my playful jabs rough him up like a punch to the gut from popeye.
He's insecure or maybe only feels insecure when it comes to a few people and I'm one of them.
I want to be friends with him and get closer to him, but he seems to have this preconceived notion that I hate him, due to the sole fact that I invoke something in him. I've told this due I liked him several times, but he assumes I don't due to an insecurity and something I help him with. I ddint' sign up to be his momma and baby him.click to expand
You've thrown a bunch of points into one bag and came up with a lot "what the f*ck" in this post.
Whether you are with him or not is irrelevant, if you are spending time with him respect that this is your time to do just that and get to know him. That is the point that is trying to be made clear to you. Even when I am with my friends, they have all of my attention. You are "there" or you aren't.
As for the jabs...Has he compared you to other women? Did he mention or talk about other women while you were spending time together and getting to know him? This isn't about his inability to take a jab. Stop confusing the two things. It is the fact that you've made it clear that he has other contenders to deal with. Perhaps even gave the impression he's an option or that moment, your mind was thinking about someone else while you were spending time with him.
No one said be the man's momma. However, if you're checkin' for him, then check for him or bounce.
Posted by GetMisted
PR.. Will you marry me?
Deleted your smiley because you know you want some Chocolate in your life 😄.
Sorry I'm taken, but Aqua Mars? My SO has that too and talk about make my toes curl, so bet if it doesn't work out.
Yes, PR he has made the same jabs to me. He has compared me to other women. He did do that type of teasing. I also reiterate soo much that no one is really spending time with ANYONE. This is a work setting at some bs gig we have. This isn't me going on a stroll with him and I just happen to bring up some other guy's name. The other guy was there. We all were there teasing and being silly. I have also reiterated that he teased me in the same manner, hence the fact that I kept saying he can dish it out and can't take it.
Posted by Chowfun92
Yes, PR he has made the same jabs to me. He has compared me to other women. He did do that type of teasing. I also reiterate soo much that no one is really spending time with ANYONE. This is a work setting at some bs gig we have. This isn't me going on a stroll with him and I just happen to bring up some other guy's name. The other guy was there. We all were there teasing and being silly. I have also reiterated that he teased me in the same manner, hence the fact that I kept saying he can dish it out and can't take it.
If he's comparing you to other women and getting mad if you do it, then he's just an asshole. I would advise you never talk to him again.
Can you give an example of how he compared you to other women? Can you remember exactly what he said? Word for word if possible.
Posted by Chowfun92
.It's not about a needing to be right thing. I'm not asking whose right or wrong, I simply tried to understand why he did what he did. Why he is reacting that way and instead people came at me like I committed a grave sin, but saying what I said. Then I came to question well, I don't think I said anything wrong and he teases me the same way. So, I became confused as to how my teasing is bad and his teasing is okay.
This may be addressed by the time I come back, but answer my other questions first. You are still mixing up the points folks are trying to make. As for "people came at you like I committed a grave sin" Eh, Scorps are passionate folks. You always get a side of Stinger when you post here.
You also have a little fire in your belly too (reference your reply to LIB and Impulsv). You can handle it.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Chowfun92
.It's not about a needing to be right thing. I'm not asking whose right or wrong, I simply tried to understand why he did what he did. Why he is reacting that way and instead people came at me like I committed a grave sin, but saying what I said. Then I came to question well, I don't think I said anything wrong and he teases me the same way. So, I became confused as to how my teasing is bad and his teasing is okay.
This may be addressed by the time I come back, but answer my other questions first. You are still mixing up the points folks are trying to make. As for "people came at you like I committed a grave sin" Eh, Scorps are passionate folks. You always get a side of Stinger when you post here.
You also have a little fire in your belly too (reference your reply to LIB and Impulsv). You can handle it.click to expand
I never said I couldn't handle it. I'm just saying how it is! lol I can take a sting and can bring the fire. I'm just letting you know, it was never about whose right or wrong. I just addressed the stoning I received for even saying what I said to him.
Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92
Yes, PR he has made the same jabs to me. He has compared me to other women. He did do that type of teasing. I also reiterate soo much that no one is really spending time with ANYONE. This is a work setting at some bs gig we have. This isn't me going on a stroll with him and I just happen to bring up some other guy's name. The other guy was there. We all were there teasing and being silly. I have also reiterated that he teased me in the same manner, hence the fact that I kept saying he can dish it out and can't take it.
If he's comparing you to other women and getting mad if you do it, then he's just an asshole. I would advise you never talk to him again.
Can you give an example of how he compared you to other women? Can you remember exactly what he said? Word for word if possible.click to expand
Okay, I can only strongly remember this instance. He saw me struggling to reach for something. Goes to his friend and basically lol asks his guy how tall his girl is. The guy says she's pretty tall not short. She's basically chowfun's height. He goes ooh no she's too short I like my women tall. I don't want no short kids. This was a mild instance where he compared me to other women and analyzed a feature of mine and used it as a reference point for the type of women he Doesn't like. He did that in front of me so I could hear him.
Posted by Chowfun92Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Chowfun92
.It's not about a needing to be right thing. I'm not asking whose right or wrong, I simply tried to understand why he did what he did. Why he is reacting that way and instead people came at me like I committed a grave sin, but saying what I said. Then I came to question well, I don't think I said anything wrong and he teases me the same way. So, I became confused as to how my teasing is bad and his teasing is okay.
This may be addressed by the time I come back, but answer my other questions first. You are still mixing up the points folks are trying to make. As for "people came at you like I committed a grave sin" Eh, Scorps are passionate folks. You always get a side of Stinger when you post here.
You also have a little fire in your belly too (reference your reply to LIB and Impulsv). You can handle it.
I never said I couldn't handle it. I'm just saying how it is! lol I can take a sting and can bring the fire. I'm just letting you know, it was never about whose right or wrong. I just addressed the stoning I received for even saying what I said to him.click to expand
Don't look at it as a stoning. Instead, look at the response it brought up from a bunch of random male Scorpio's who don't even know you. Now imagine what he must have felt because he likes you. I'm not saying he's right and you're wrong, what I'm saying is if you want this to work with him take what you're learning here and apply it to him.
Posted by Rambunctious76Posted by Chowfun92Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92
You clearly need to raise up out of my thread with your bullshit. I don't flaunt any attention, as I CANNOT control anything other people say or do. I do not reciprocate any attention from other males, I ignore it and look forward to the conversation that me and the SC have together. I didn't expect him to do no dramatic shit you expressed so stop with your unneeded sarcasm.
First of all, you are in a public forum, if you don't like the feedback you receive...move on.
I stayed away from your first thread because it was shallow and spoke volumes of your mentality.
Posted by Chowfun92
I would consider myself pretty, but the extent to which guys hit on me is crazy. Now I do have a nice shape (think Amber Rose w/o all those breast) but I'm not the only woman with curves and a small waist. It is ridiculous how much attention I get.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/what-is-it-about-scorpios-that-seem-to-attract-5287434/
So I say again....get over yourself. The Scorpio (or any male of any sign) was justified in his response.
Anyone guess this chicks sign yet—click to expand
I'm a scorpio. If you paid attention, I state this many times. You sound like a hater. If I say I'm pretty who the flying fiddle sticks cares that says nothing about me other than I have confidence in my looks and people see that. Why do you care? Your right this is a public forum, and as a fellow member I'm telling you straight up I don't like your judgmental post. You stayed out of my other thread, good for you, now do yourself another favor and stay out of this one. Seriously, why torture yourself. You obviously have a problem with my threads. You addressed it, now move the bullbutter on. Unless you have more to say, and if so, I'm all ears, but don't insinuate you know ANYTHING about me or my character based on a few post on a public form that is miniscule and not even a small facet of ym life or who I am as a person. So please more your rude bullbutter as
Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Chowfun92
.It's not about a needing to be right thing. I'm not asking whose right or wrong, I simply tried to understand why he did what he did. Why he is reacting that way and instead people came at me like I committed a grave sin, but saying what I said. Then I came to question well, I don't think I said anything wrong and he teases me the same way. So, I became confused as to how my teasing is bad and his teasing is okay.
This may be addressed by the time I come back, but answer my other questions first. You are still mixing up the points folks are trying to make. As for "people came at you like I committed a grave sin" Eh, Scorps are passionate folks. You always get a side of Stinger when you post here.
You also have a little fire in your belly too (reference your reply to LIB and Impulsv). You can handle it.
I never said I couldn't handle it. I'm just saying how it is! lol I can take a sting and can bring the fire. I'm just letting you know, it was never about whose right or wrong. I just addressed the stoning I received for even saying what I said to him.
Don't look at it as a stoning. Instead, look at the response it brought up from a bunch of random male Scorpio's who don't even know you. Now imagine what he must have felt because he likes you. I'm not saying he's right and you're wrong, what I'm saying is if you want this to work with him take what you're learning here and apply it to him.click to expand
Now when it's delivered in a manner like this. My guard is down and I can understand that.
Posted by Chowfun92Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92
Yes, PR he has made the same jabs to me. He has compared me to other women. He did do that type of teasing. I also reiterate soo much that no one is really spending time with ANYONE. This is a work setting at some bs gig we have. This isn't me going on a stroll with him and I just happen to bring up some other guy's name. The other guy was there. We all were there teasing and being silly. I have also reiterated that he teased me in the same manner, hence the fact that I kept saying he can dish it out and can't take it.
If he's comparing you to other women and getting mad if you do it, then he's just an asshole. I would advise you never talk to him again.
Can you give an example of how he compared you to other women? Can you remember exactly what he said? Word for word if possible.
Okay, I can only strongly remember this instance. He saw me struggling to reach for something. Goes to his friend and basically lol asks his guy how tall his girl is. The guy says she's pretty tall not short. She's basically chowfun's height. He goes ooh no she's too short I like my women tall. I don't want no short kids. This was a mild instance where he compared me to other women and analyzed a feature of mine and used it as a reference point for the type of women he Doesn't like. He did that in front of me so I could hear him.click to expand
Okay. Keep in mind I'm not on his side or against you. But, personally, this again sounds like playful teasing. He's not comparing you to a specific woman. Also, he's not putting you in competition with other women. He's just having a go at your height. Is it nice? No. He's trying to poke fun at you. I do that with women I like. But I would never say I like them more than so and so. If you made fun of anything else of his, he'd probably be fine. I know it doesn't seem fair to you, but that's how I see it.
Posted by Rambunctious76Posted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.
And why are you interested in him? Again? You like insecure guys?click to expand
I like him. It's like trying to explain how you know for a fact that the sun is going to rise tomorrow. Its just something I feel. You ever feel such a strong connection with someone. You can't explain it, but you know it's there like you'd know if an elephant is in the room. You could feel the attraction.
The insecure thing, as of right now, isn't a bad thing. I've been insecure before. I am right now when it comes to him. As long as it doesn't evolve. I don't see why it would be a deal breaker. Were young and have a lot of awkwardness going on.
Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92
Yes, PR he has made the same jabs to me. He has compared me to other women. He did do that type of teasing. I also reiterate soo much that no one is really spending time with ANYONE. This is a work setting at some bs gig we have. This isn't me going on a stroll with him and I just happen to bring up some other guy's name. The other guy was there. We all were there teasing and being silly. I have also reiterated that he teased me in the same manner, hence the fact that I kept saying he can dish it out and can't take it.
If he's comparing you to other women and getting mad if you do it, then he's just an asshole. I would advise you never talk to him again.
Can you give an example of how he compared you to other women? Can you remember exactly what he said? Word for word if possible.
Okay, I can only strongly remember this instance. He saw me struggling to reach for something. Goes to his friend and basically lol asks his guy how tall his girl is. The guy says she's pretty tall not short. She's basically chowfun's height. He goes ooh no she's too short I like my women tall. I don't want no short kids. This was a mild instance where he compared me to other women and analyzed a feature of mine and used it as a reference point for the type of women he Doesn't like. He did that in front of me so I could hear him.
Okay. Keep in mind I'm not on his side or against you. But, personally, this again sounds like playful teasing. He's not comparing you to a specific woman. Also, he's not putting you in competition with other women. He's just having a go at your height. Is it nice? No. He's trying to poke fun at you. I do that with women I like. But I would never say I like them more than so and so. If you made fun of anything else of his, he'd probably be fine. I know it doesn't seem fair to you, but that's how I see it.click to expand
This is a double standard. This guy clearly, playfully or not, put me in a position to feel inferior to other women no doubt in his life past or present. He made a comment on a physical trait that I can
This is a double standard. This guy clearly, playfully or not, put me in a position to feel inferior to other women no doubt in his life past or present. He made a comment on a physical trait that I can't change. He didn't need to compare me to a specific woman because going any further would have been way out of bounds. He basically compared me to any potential girl in his life. You name one and I'm automatically not a contender because of my height.
IF I were to say that shit to a man and tell you guys, yall would stone me and side eye me and shit. If I said that to you, you would call me all sorts of bullbutters. So don't tell me that what he said gets a playful pass, but my simple saying I LIKE YOU more because of xyz is an insult of the highest order worthy of not speaking to me. That is some shit.
IF I were to say that shit to a man and tell you guys, yall would stone me and side eye me and shit. If I said that to you, you would call me all sorts of bullbutters. So don't tell me that what he said gets a playful pass, but my simple saying I LIKE YOU more because of xyz is an insult of the highest order worthy of not speaking to me. That is some shit.
Posted by Chowfun92
This is a double standard. This guy clearly, playfully or not, put me in a position to feel inferior to other women no doubt in his life past or present. He made a comment on a physical trait that I can't change. He didn't need to compare me to a specific woman because going any further would have been way out of bounds. He basically compared me to any potential girl in his life. You name one and I'm automatically not a contender because of my height.
IF I were to say that shit to a man and tell you guys, yall would stone me and side eye me and shit. If I said that to you, you would call me all sorts of bullbutters. So don't tell me that what he said gets a playful pass, but my simple saying I LIKE YOU more because of xyz is an insult of the highest order worthy of not speaking to me. That is some shit.
Okay, I hear you. But I've never once said that what you said was of the highest order of worthy of not speaking to you. Again, I'm only trying to help you by telling you how I see it. Let me explain.... to me, making fun of your height is ridiculous. You're right you can't control it. That's why it's playful teasing. He's not putting you in competition with every girl in his life over height cause again, that would be ridiculous. So it shouldn't be taken literal.
In my life, I have had women play with me about my height or accent or the way I do things. It's never offended me before. I've also had women say virtually what you said to him and it hurt my feelings deeply. If he's like me, I understand it. It may not seem fair, but I'm just trying to show you how me may feel. I'm not attacking you in the slightest.
Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92
This is a double standard. This guy clearly, playfully or not, put me in a position to feel inferior to other women no doubt in his life past or present. He made a comment on a physical trait that I can't change. He didn't need to compare me to a specific woman because going any further would have been way out of bounds. He basically compared me to any potential girl in his life. You name one and I'm automatically not a contender because of my height.
IF I were to say that shit to a man and tell you guys, yall would stone me and side eye me and shit. If I said that to you, you would call me all sorts of bullbutters. So don't tell me that what he said gets a playful pass, but my simple saying I LIKE YOU more because of xyz is an insult of the highest order worthy of not speaking to me. That is some shit.
Okay, I hear you. But I've never once said that what you said was of the highest order of worthy of not speaking to you. Again, I'm only trying to help you by telling you how I see it. Let me explain.... to me, making fun of your height is ridiculous. You're right you can't control it. That's why it's playful teasing. He's not putting you in competition with every girl in his life over height cause again, that would be ridiculous. So it shouldn't be taken literal.
In my life, I have had women play with me about my height or accent or the way I do things. It's never offended me before. I've also had women say virtually what you said to him and it hurt my feelings deeply. If he's like me, I understand it. It may not seem fair, but I'm just trying to show you how me may feel. I'm not attacking you in the slightest.click to expand
LOL that's too funny, because me saying I like you better is virtually a compliment versus telling someone they aren't a match because something they cant' control and it isnt' ridiculous to believe.! As people don't date others due to all sorts of things people can't control. For instance, people don't date people for skin color reasons, height reasons, weight reasons, religious reasons, etc...the list goes on. People actually do it no matter how ridiculous it sounds. Its' called personal preference. So when he said that he was indirectly letting me know that he didn't like me as I did not fit his personal pr
just please...
don't think about these small conversations so much, don't attach too much meaning to them.
If you like him(as a friend or whatever), from now on, for a couple of weeks, act real friendly, invite him to places etc
When you hate his jokes, tell him you do in a joking manner..
Then this tension will resolve by itself, when you get to know each other.
don't think about these small conversations so much, don't attach too much meaning to them.
If you like him(as a friend or whatever), from now on, for a couple of weeks, act real friendly, invite him to places etc
When you hate his jokes, tell him you do in a joking manner..
Then this tension will resolve by itself, when you get to know each other.
Posted by Chowfun92
Yes, PR he has made the same jabs to me. He has compared me to other women. He did do that type of teasing.
How did I know you were going to answer at page six ^^^^that response?
Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92
Yes, PR he has made the same jabs to me. He has compared me to other women. He did do that type of teasing.
How did I know you were going to answer at page six ^^^^that response?click to expand
I don't know or maybe somewhere deep your brain processed the fact that I mentioned several times that we did the same teasing as each other. He dished it out and can't take it. Therefore, part of you brain registered or figured somewhere along the line I'd mention same.
LetItBe how old are you?
Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by tiziani
What it looks like it boils down to, for me, is you trying to understand your feelings for someone. I don't see why that means he is insecure. You also went as far as insinuating he is a child. Who says that? If you really do "like" someone....
Each time he doesn't react in the way you want him to, you talk about him like someone you have zero respect for... now would I take that deal? Not me. But he for whatever reason he is still talking with you and reacting to you, only he's doing it on his terms. And you want your terms.
A more mature would have put an end to these wagons going around in circles a long time ago. I do think he is interested in you and feels something strong towards you like you said, but you're both abusing it rather than respecting it.
I insinuated that he was like a child, I don't even remember that, but I can believe it. I guess I'm not taking these things that I'm saying as harshly as you. I don't even find what I'm saying bad in the slightest. So I guess that says something about me potentially, but hopefully not. I guess I have thicker skin or w.e. it may be.
I don't want him to react the way I want, but in a way that I understand so rather than communicate this to him like an adult. I'm weaseling out and asking you guys to decipher his actions. It's not a win win situation, but since im immature in this sense, I dont' have the balls to be myself, because I for some reason can't be myself which is odd.
Do you see that mirror yet?click to expand
Eh not really unless he is doing the same thing I am and I just don't realize it yet.
Posted by Chowfun92Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92
Yes, PR he has made the same jabs to me. He has compared me to other women. He did do that type of teasing.
How did I know you were going to answer at page six ^^^^that response?
I don't know or maybe somewhere deep your brain processed the fact that I mentioned several times that we did the same teasing as each other. He dished it out and can't take it. Therefore, part of you brain registered or figured somewhere along the line I'd mention same.
LetItBe how old are you?click to expand
Wise enough to know bullshit when I hear it and see it. Carry on drama queen.
Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92
Yes, PR he has made the same jabs to me. He has compared me to other women. He did do that type of teasing.
How did I know you were going to answer at page six ^^^^that response?
I don't know or maybe somewhere deep your brain processed the fact that I mentioned several times that we did the same teasing as each other. He dished it out and can't take it. Therefore, part of you brain registered or figured somewhere along the line I'd mention same.
LetItBe how old are you?
Wise enough to know bullshit when I hear it and see it. Carry on drama queen.click to expand
Come on LetItBe don't be so snippy, pull that wrench out your puss so we can play. I'll tell you we can do this all day... make me happy and keep it coming.
Posted by FrostAndBitePosted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.
If that's the case, then you need to just back away.
Scorp men.. No matter how old, or how mature.. Need that ego stroked from time to time.
That is why I preach over and over.. Give him the "illusion of control". Don't act like his mama. Know what you want, be confident, and make him believe everything was his doing.
Yah. So true.
Still, I kinda feel for everyone ripping into chow. I get if he didn't take it as joke and was put off, fine, but his reaction seems overdone.
based off my bias anyways. I joked early on with my scorp about similar things and it was all in good fun. Difference might be actions though, scorp knew I was very much into him and secure with where we stood, even before we were exclusive. Maybe this dude still can't tell.click to expand
Thank you F&B. I got people like LetItBe flipping out on me like she got hot sauce on her puss. I can't deal. It was all in good fun. He took it the hard way, fine. However, I do think his reaction was over done. So you assume I hate you after I just said I like you? Alright, but somewhere off in scorpio land it makes quasi since.
Posted by GetMisted
FFS.. It's not about you liking him or not.
It's about you putting him in a competition with another man.
You don't listen.
How many times I got to write that I see that, but ALL IM SAYING IS THAT IF WE ARE ALL TEASING AND YOUR ALSO TEASING ME THE SAMEWAY, WHY ARE YOU UPSET.
Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by GetMisted
FFS.. It's not about you liking him or not.
It's about you putting him in a competition with another man.
You don't listen.
How many times I got to write that I see that, but ALL IM SAYING IS THAT IF WE ARE ALL TEASING AND YOUR ALSO TEASING ME THE SAMEWAY, WHY ARE YOU UPSET.
Is there really another man you are entertaining?click to expand
No AND EVERYONE KNOWS THAT! I have no bf..no boo..no anything. Lol
Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by GetMisted
FFS.. It's not about you liking him or not.
It's about you putting him in a competition with another man.
You don't listen.
How many times I got to write that I see that, but ALL IM SAYING IS THAT IF WE ARE ALL TEASING AND YOUR ALSO TEASING ME THE SAMEWAY, WHY ARE YOU UPSET.
Is there really another man you are entertaining?
No AND EVERYONE KNOWS THAT! I have no bf..no boo..no anything. Lol
Maybe he doesn't know that. My guess is he isn't a mind reader.click to expand
Lol that's okay, but him getting upset that I said that is fine, but the only reason I can think of is that he was insecure or jealous that I could like someone else. I mean just like he isn't a mind reader neither am I. If you play I'm going to assume you can handle it.
Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by GetMisted
FFS.. It's not about you liking him or not.
It's about you putting him in a competition with another man.
You don't listen.
How many times I got to write that I see that, but ALL IM SAYING IS THAT IF WE ARE ALL TEASING AND YOUR ALSO TEASING ME THE SAMEWAY, WHY ARE YOU UPSET.
Is there really another man you are entertaining?
No AND EVERYONE KNOWS THAT! I have no bf..no boo..no anything. Lol
Maybe he doesn't know that. My guess is he isn't a mind reader.
Lol that's okay, but him getting upset that I said that is fine, but the only reason I can think of is that he was insecure or jealous that I could like someone else. I mean just like he isn't a mind reader neither am I. If you play I'm going to assume you can handle it.
Again.. The insecurity and jealousy sounds more like projection. But what do I know?
You don't listen anyway. Thread #2 on this guy, and we're getting no where.click to expand
Lol of course it is an assumption. It's not like I asked him.
What do you think? Your a guy? Would you react like that and why would you, considering the circumstances. If we're all teasing, you compare me to girls and I compare you to guys by saying I like you more. You get mad and say yea but other times you hate me. So why say that? Why be mad? What conclusion would you draw?
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Posted by Chowfun92
This is a double standard. This guy clearly, playfully or not, put me in a position to feel inferior to other women no doubt in his life past or present. He made a comment on a physical trait that I can't change. He didn't need to compare me to a specific woman because going any further would have been way out of bounds. He basically compared me to any potential girl in his life. You name one and I'm automatically not a contender because of my height.
IF I were to say that shit to a man...my simple saying I LIKE YOU more because of xyz is an insult of the highest order worthy of not speaking to me. That is some shit.
😆! Geese you're dramatic. Context is everything. When he made the comment you were in a weird place right? Giving each other weird eyes and he was akwardly trying to get your attention. He's unsure about you and your interest. Fast forward to "we had a good day today" (I believe that's what you wrote in your other thread). You are approaching him differently letting your guard down. He lets his down. Opening up and you throw a curve ball*insert comment*---at least from his pov. Said due to your insecurity mind you. So now dude is like "wait....I thought she liked me".
The context is different. This is why I stated it looks like you haven't let some stuff go (e.g. the teasing, the confusion). You already stated several times you like him and believe the feeling is mutual. Why bring anyone else up? Why not let this mutual interest blossom? When he mentioned said girl this was prior to you getting to this stage. Double standard to you. Natural progression to anyone else truly interested in pursuing something with another.
His reaction may have been overdone. However I thought this thread was about you gaining insight and figuring out why he reacted this way, not validation about your feelings regarding his response.
So now you have that insight. Now what?
So now you have that insight. Now what?
Posted by PhoenixRising
His reaction may have been overdone. However I thought this thread was about you gaining insight and figuring out why he reacted this way, not validation about your feelings regarding his response.
So now you have that insight. Now what?
I have insight and now I have to push and show him I like HIM. I get it. I always have. I'm doing it wrong. Life is forcing me to come at it direct. I never did this before. I never even dreamed that Id ever walk up to a guy and let him know straight up that I like him. I want the right moment and the right time and work doesn't seem like the appropriate place. We are never alone for long or anything like that. Tomorrow maybe a better shot.
Also this boy was saying "I thought you didn't like me/hate me" but for quite some times even before our good day he said that and even after our good day he said that. There is no end with that. Scorpio ego needs stroking. I get that now. He wants to be reminded or know that I like him despite the fact that I try to show him in other ways.
This is a beautiful learning experience.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Chowfun92
This is a double standard. This guy clearly, playfully or not, put me in a position to feel inferior to other women no doubt in his life past or present. He made a comment on a physical trait that I can't change. He didn't need to compare me to a specific woman because going any further would have been way out of bounds. He basically compared me to any potential girl in his life. You name one and I'm automatically not a contender because of my height.
IF I were to say that shit to a man...my simple saying I LIKE YOU more because of xyz is an insult of the highest order worthy of not speaking to me. That is some shit.
😆! Geese you're dramatic. Context is everything. When he made the comment you were in a weird place right? Giving each other weird eyes and he was akwardly trying to get your attention. He's unsure about you and your interest. Fast forward to "we had a good day today" (I believe that's what you wrote in your other thread). You are approaching him differently letting your guard down. He lets his down. Opening up and you throw a curve ball*insert comment*---at least from his pov. Said due to your insecurity mind you. So now dude is like "wait....I thought she liked me".
The context is different. This is why I stated it looks like you haven't let some stuff go (e.g. the teasing, the confusion). You already stated several times you like him and believe the feeling is mutual. Why bring anyone else up? Why not let this mutual interest blossom? When he mentioned said girl this was prior to you getting to this stage. Double standard to you. Natural progression to anyone else truly interested in pursuing something with another.click to expand
Wrong it wasn't in a weird place. He was being an ass flat out. I know he was trying to get my attention because I'm not an idiot. It's a technique to get a reaction out of me so I'd pay attention to him. I did the same thing to him. In the same setting and in the same context. He didn't get the hint that we were both doing the same thing. I did it to get his attention and to give him a hint and it WENT OVER HIS HEAD.
I mean ts obvious there is justification for his actions, but mine were out of the water or just weird. If the roles were reversed Yall still would have sa
Said that's bullbutter. Damn chow your out of line. If I was him I would have ignored you. Chow you suck. Lol
Posted by Chowfun92
Wrong it wasn't in a weird place. He was being an ass flat out. I know he was trying to get my attention because I'm not an idiot. It's a technique to get a reaction out of me so I'd pay attention to him. I did the same thing to him. In the same setting and in the same context. He didn't get the hint that we were both doing the same thing. I did it to get his attention and to give him a hint and it WENT OVER HIS HEAD.
I mean ts obvious there is justification for his actions, but mine were out of the water or just weird...
Okay, we're clearly not understanding each other, so I'll try this again. I'm not gonna go back and forth either. Let's use what you written here. There was a point when he was being an ass. Okay. When you and he had that nice day you made reference to, had you not moved passed the "acting like an ass" stage? Things were progressing, he was mellowing out. He thinks you like him and then your comment gives the impression you might not/be playing games/care about attention/whatever. Can you not see the difference? Guard up. I'll be "mean" because we're not cool like that. Girl approaches guy, guard down he and she open up a bit. I like her. She likes me---actaully nope "fuck this, why did I let my guard down?" *overreaction*
You keep saying he's insecure, so let's say he is, why is any of this a surprise then? If things are progressing well, why go back to the "poking jabs" stage if it was a source of weird tension for the you and the Scorp? Who cares what everyone else was doing---it created a weird dynamic for you and the Scorp. You moved past that, but you felt the need to go back there. And let's be real, you threw this comment out there because you felt insecure. Is that not what you wrote on pg 1? Yet, this is now being spinned into "well he should be able to take a joke". When that wasn't flying with the board it was "well we all throw jabs". Then it was this and that *fill in the blank* because you're so stuck on "I need to be heard". We heard you. Now what? How does that help you move forward? Isn't that the point?
The point I am making is you were at one stage, began to progress to another and it made you feel uncomfortable because of all of your feels and you feel back to stage one. That is what this is about. His sensitivity is not the only issue at play despite what the OP states.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Chowfun92
Wrong it wasn't in a weird place. He was being an ass flat out. I know he was trying to get my attention because I'm not an idiot. It's a technique to get a reaction out of me so I'd pay attention to him. I did the same thing to him. In the same setting and in the same context. He didn't get the hint that we were both doing the same thing. I did it to get his attention and to give him a hint and it WENT OVER HIS HEAD.
I mean ts obvious there is justification for his actions, but mine were out of the water or just weird...click to expand
Okay, we're clearly not understanding each other, so I'll try this again. I'm not gonna go back and forth either. Let's use what you written here. There was a point when he was being an ass. Okay. When you and he had that nice day you made reference to, had you not moved passed the "acting like an ass" stage? Things were progressing, he was mellowing out. He thinks you like him and then your comment gives the impression you might not/be playing games/care about attention/whatever. Can you not see the difference? Guard up. I'll be "mean" because we're not cool like that. Girl approaches guy, guard down he and she open up a bit. I like her. She likes me---actaully nope "fuck this, why did I let my guard down?" *overreaction*
You keep saying he's insecure, so let's say he is, why is any of this a surprise then? If things are progressing well, why go back to the "poking jabs" stage if it was a source of weird tension for the you and the Scorp? Who cares what everyone else was doing---it created a weird dynamic for you and the Scorp. You moved past that, but you felt the need to go back there. And let's be real, you threw this comment out there because you felt insecure. Is that not what you wrote on pg 1? Yet, this is now being spinned into "well he should be able to take a joke". When that wasn't flying with the board it was "well we all throw jabs". Then it was this and that *fill in the blank* because you're so stuck on "I need to be heard". We heard you. Now what? How does that help you move forward? Isn't that the point?
The point I am making is you were at one stage, began to progress to another and it made you feel uncomfortable because of all of your feels and you feel back to stage one. That
No, just because we had a nice day didn't mean he left being an ass or goofball stage. We just had one good day, but he was still insecure/immature, don't you remember? We never left that space. We may not have been awkward, but the insecure and immature part remained I told you. I told you it was a good day but we were still dancing around each other. I also told you I thought he was being difficult about his approach. I could see right through him, but he wasn't being clear. Should I have helped him, sure maybe, but I wasn't secure enough to make that leap. I wrote all of this. We never left the forest we just went over one one hurdle which was we spoke way more and we were able to joke and have fun.
This is the same setting but different day. I tried to do the same thing. Have a nice joke and give him a hint. Almost similar behavior to him, if you want to insert mirroring this would be the time, and it back fired. This is no more and no less.
My timing wasn't off. I didn't back track in steps. I didn't do anything out of the ordinary. It wasn't random. I didn't go back anywhere. Again, I didn't back track in steps. I didn't do anything out of the ordinary. It wasn't random. I didn't go back anywhere. I didn't catch him off guard. This was all routine and this was all expected. This is how we play. It was how we got on. His reaction however was not anticipated BC his usual:"you hate me/dislike me" mantra is done in private. I also wrote the first time he did this and people glazed over this comment. So it was left untouched in the original discussions.
There is no magic here. He even admitted in a round about way when I confronted him that he can dish but but can't take it. He didn't like when I did the same thing to him. It wasn't acceptable. To him I was being mean. To me, I was playing with him and being flirty. It didn't read that way to him, but he had to concede when he was reminded all too well that he was the ring leader when it came to yanking my chain
This is the same setting but different day. I tried to do the same thing. Have a nice joke and give him a hint. Almost similar behavior to him, if you want to insert mirroring this would be the time, and it back fired. This is no more and no less.
My timing wasn't off. I didn't back track in steps. I didn't do anything out of the ordinary. It wasn't random. I didn't go back anywhere. Again, I didn't back track in steps. I didn't do anything out of the ordinary. It wasn't random. I didn't go back anywhere. I didn't catch him off guard. This was all routine and this was all expected. This is how we play. It was how we got on. His reaction however was not anticipated BC his usual:"you hate me/dislike me" mantra is done in private. I also wrote the first time he did this and people glazed over this comment. So it was left untouched in the original discussions.
There is no magic here. He even admitted in a round about way when I confronted him that he can dish but but can't take it. He didn't like when I did the same thing to him. It wasn't acceptable. To him I was being mean. To me, I was playing with him and being flirty. It didn't read that way to him, but he had to concede when he was reminded all too well that he was the ring leader when it came to yanking my chain
Posted by exoskeleton
whiskey please.
I poor out a glass for you and every participant of this thread!
Posted by GetMisted
You know what?
All I keep hearing is you complaining about him being immature/insecure/an ass.
Get rid of your own insecurities and immaturity before attempting to understand this Scorp man. I'm done listening to you put all of this on him without admitting, or working on your own faults.
Good luck.
You obviously chose to ignore all the points I made about me also being insecure and immature. Alright, I see some people read and others selectively read. I know which type you are.
Posted by exoskeleton
what a retarded way of flirting.
Welp what can i do, but try to be normal. It's hard around him. I've said it so many times before. It's like I turn to mush and he turns to bullbutter. I know he's got better game than this. I know he's asked for girls numbers straight out or exuse me but would you like to hang out blah blah...
Posted by GetMisted
You know what?
All I keep hearing is you complaining about him being immature/insecure/an ass.
Get rid of your own insecurities and immaturity before attempting to understand this Scorp man. I'm done listening to you put all of this on him without admitting, or working on your own faults.
Good luck.
Is it a trait for scorpio men to process only what they want to and just churn the rest of the stuff as null and void/bullbutter, because this seems to be a trait I'm noticing.
I tell a guy I like him. He translates it to I hate him.
I tell a poster Me and the guy are both insecure/immature. He flips it and says why are you only blaming him.
Then I look up from my computer like da fuq?!
Posted by exoskeleton
two immature and insecure people looking for romance.
lol.
Yes, isn't it great to be young and awkward?! I'll look back on this when I'm 90 and smile, like girl you were so dumb at that age
Posted by Rambunctious76Posted by Chowfun92Posted by exoskeleton
what a retarded way of flirting.
Welp what can i do, but try to be normal. It's hard around him. I've said it so many times before. It's like I turn to mush and he turns to bullbutter. I know he's got better game than this. I know he's asked for girls numbers straight out or exuse me but would you like to hang out blah blah...
Is that what's stopping you from being upfront and direct with him?click to expand
YES! I literally die inside. I suffer mini heart papatations lmao. In my head I'm like ITS NOT THAT SERIOUS but emotionally it must be because I feel like my body wants to convulse. Lmao
Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by GetMisted
You know what?
All I keep hearing is you complaining about him being immature/insecure/an ass.
Get rid of your own insecurities and immaturity before attempting to understand this Scorp man. I'm done listening to you put all of this on him without admitting, or working on your own faults.
Good luck.
You obviously chose to ignore all the points I made about me also being insecure and immature. Alright, I see some people read and others selectively read. I know which type you are.
Selective reading you say?
We've offered up what.. 25 pages of help so far? And we've gotten no where.
Try posting a thread here next time if you need help.. you might get better results.
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Yes selective reading, which you successfully managed to do again, by glossing over the fact that your advice has been based in an erroneous assumption that I blamed this dude 100 for our actions. Whereas I've spent this whole time trying to remind you that how your seeing it, isn't how I'm tell it.
Posted by exoskeleton
get him drunk and naked?
You know it's ran across my mind, but I'm not in the business of sexually violating someone. Lol
Posted by exoskeleton
why not? 😛
Bc it's wrong and subjects the person to vulnerability and being taken advantage of. I'm not in the business of doing that. Lol are you?
Posted by exoskeleton
yea, i molest my man all the time.
one minute he's mad at me and refuses to put out. so i put his dick in my mouth and he's all "baby, i love youuu!"
Lol well that's okay bc he's your man. I can't randomly run up to this guy im trying to build something with; at least a foundation of friendship by fondling him. Lmao could you imagine. I don't have the guts to talk but fondling is all second nature.
Posted by exoskeleton
kiss him!
Why do he can punch me in the face and be totally justified because I violated him?
Well all I see is that she started and ended in control. I see no illusion.
This is ridiculous.
Stay still. Make a decision. Stick to it.
Go and kiss him or let this thing go.
Stay still. Make a decision. Stick to it.
Go and kiss him or let this thing go.
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