I need a little advice

I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Posted by tiziani
Only he would know. We'd just be making stuff up.

Shhh, don't tell em secrets like this.

Posted by Cg2016
I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Careful of the ‘it’s going so great’ or the ‘it’s perfect’ and the ‘it’s 10’s across the board’ type because there’s always a ‘but’ that follows the oh so great, perfect, 10 score... and it’s always a little, minor, teensey tiny problem that just gnaws the shit out of you... such as... he might not be on the same page as you...

Maybe you’ve been too busy scoring this situation as a 10 and keeping your rose tinted on that you’ve failed to see or not wanted to see some things?

Maybe he gave you a key so you could feed his cat when he’s away!

If it’s going so amazingly wonderful then you shouldn’t have any problems asking him about it and having an honest conversation... as the others have suggested.

His answer may not shatter you as much as you think. He may be quite frank, level headed (well one of you needs to be) and tell you the answer.

Come back and let us know how it goes. Good luck 😊👍🏼

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Careful of the ‘it’s going so great’ or the ‘it’s perfect’ and the ‘it’s 10’s across the board’ type because there’s always a ‘but’ that follows the oh so great, perfect, 10 score... and it’s always a little, minor, teensey tiny problem that just gnaws the shit out of you... such as... he might not be on the same page as you...

Maybe you’ve been too busy scoring this situation as a 10 and keeping your rose tinted on that you’ve failed to see or not wanted to see some things?

Maybe he gave you a key so you could feed his cat when he’s away!

If it’s going so amazingly wonderful then you shouldn’t have any problems asking him about it and having an honest conversation... as the others have suggested.

His answer may not shatter you as much as you think. He may be quite frank, level headed (well one of you needs to be) and tell you the answer.

Come back and let us know how it goes. Good luck 😊👍🏼

I just don't wanna press it. I'm notorious for being impatient lol. I mean if he wanted the key back he could ask for it, he would lol.

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

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Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

Perhaps he’s still emotionally unavailable?

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

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soooooo - just let it go - actions speak volumes - he sounds sort of like he just can't be totally committed to this in his head even though all his actions say he is - it's like admitting it would cause a ripple effect in the space / time continuum or some sheet ... men ! ...

I could tell you what I would do and that is to pull back and not be so "committed" myself - because then if anything happens on his end, you are not so "invested" ... I wouldn't cheat, not that - just pull back on the "feels" ... but that is me and my O

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

soooooo - just let it go - actions speak volumes - he sounds sort of like he just can't be totally committed to this in his head even though all his actions say he is - it's like admitting it would cause a ripple effect in the space / time continuum or some sheet ... men ! ...

I could tell you what I would do and that is to pull back and not be so "committed" myself - because then if anything happens on his end, you are not so "invested" ... I wouldn't cheat, not that - just pull back on the "feels" ... but that is me and my O

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Yessss omg lol. So what I was gonna do was give him til December cuz that's 6 months we'd have been dating. I feel like if I do have to pull back it may just turn me off from the whole thing because I'll feel like why do I even have to go through these measures for you to give me my respect. My bday is in about 2 weeks and then comes holiday season so I was gonna wait to see what he'll do then. You think it's a good idea to give him until december or am I just wasting time?

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

soooooo - just let it go - actions speak volumes - he sounds sort of like he just can't be totally committed to this in his head even though all his actions say he is - it's like admitting it would cause a ripple effect in the space / time continuum or some sheet ... men ! ...

I could tell you what I would do and that is to pull back and not be so "committed" myself - because then if anything happens on his end, you are not so "invested" ... I wouldn't cheat, not that - just pull back on the "feels" ... but that is me and my O

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Also, he does do everything I want and need like I have no complaints. Anything I ask he does it. This is the only thing I'm like hmmm about.

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

soooooo - just let it go - actions speak volumes - he sounds sort of like he just can't be totally committed to this in his head even though all his actions say he is - it's like admitting it would cause a ripple effect in the space / time continuum or some sheet ... men ! ...

I could tell you what I would do and that is to pull back and not be so "committed" myself - because then if anything happens on his end, you are not so "invested" ... I wouldn't cheat, not that - just pull back on the "feels" ... but that is me and my O

Yessss omg lol. So what I was gonna do was give him til December cuz that's 6 months we'd have been dating. I feel like if I do have to pull back it may just turn me off from the whole thing because I'll feel like why do I even have to go through these measures for you to give me my respect. My bday is in about 2 weeks and then comes holiday season so I was gonna wait to see what he'll do then. You think it's a good idea to give him until december or am I just wasting time?

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I think you should tell him exactly how you feel

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

soooooo - just let it go - actions speak volumes - he sounds sort of like he just can't be totally committed to this in his head even though all his actions say he is - it's like admitting it would cause a ripple effect in the space / time continuum or some sheet ... men ! ...

I could tell you what I would do and that is to pull back and not be so "committed" myself - because then if anything happens on his end, you are not so "invested" ... I wouldn't cheat, not that - just pull back on the "feels" ... but that is me and my O

Yessss omg lol. So what I was gonna do was give him til December cuz that's 6 months we'd have been dating. I feel like if I do have to pull back it may just turn me off from the whole thing because I'll feel like why do I even have to go through these measures for you to give me my respect. My bday is in about 2 weeks and then comes holiday season so I was gonna wait to see what he'll do then. You think it's a good idea to give him until december or am I just wasting time?

I think you should tell him exactly how you feel

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Okay I'm going to try not to be a pussy and tell him. It's come up in subtle ways but I'm just scared of looking like I'm pushing or forcing. Maybe because the first time around I brought up the relationship thing and I didn't like his answer so I left. This time he does treat me really well but idk what's going on here still.

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

soooooo - just let it go - actions speak volumes - he sounds sort of like he just can't be totally committed to this in his head even though all his actions say he is - it's like admitting it would cause a ripple effect in the space / time continuum or some sheet ... men ! ...

I could tell you what I would do and that is to pull back and not be so "committed" myself - because then if anything happens on his end, you are not so "invested" ... I wouldn't cheat, not that - just pull back on the "feels" ... but that is me and my O

Yessss omg lol. So what I was gonna do was give him til December cuz that's 6 months we'd have been dating. I feel like if I do have to pull back it may just turn me off from the whole thing because I'll feel like why do I even have to go through these measures for you to give me my respect. My bday is in about 2 weeks and then comes holiday season so I was gonna wait to see what he'll do then. You think it's a good idea to give him until december or am I just wasting time?

I think you should tell him exactly how you feel

Okay I'm going to try not to be a pussy and tell him. It's come up in subtle ways but I'm just scared of looking like I'm pushing or forcing. Maybe because the first time around I brought up the relationship thing and I didn't like his answer so I left. This time he does treat me really well but idk what's going on here still.

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that would be a good example to bring up in the conversation

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

soooooo - just let it go - actions speak volumes - he sounds sort of like he just can't be totally committed to this in his head even though all his actions say he is - it's like admitting it would cause a ripple effect in the space / time continuum or some sheet ... men ! ...

I could tell you what I would do and that is to pull back and not be so "committed" myself - because then if anything happens on his end, you are not so "invested" ... I wouldn't cheat, not that - just pull back on the "feels" ... but that is me and my O

Yessss omg lol. So what I was gonna do was give him til December cuz that's 6 months we'd have been dating. I feel like if I do have to pull back it may just turn me off from the whole thing because I'll feel like why do I even have to go through these measures for you to give me my respect. My bday is in about 2 weeks and then comes holiday season so I was gonna wait to see what he'll do then. You think it's a good idea to give him until december or am I just wasting time?

I think you should tell him exactly how you feel

Okay I'm going to try not to be a pussy and tell him. It's come up in subtle ways but I'm just scared of looking like I'm pushing or forcing. Maybe because the first time around I brought up the relationship thing and I didn't like his answer so I left. This time he does treat me really well but idk what's going on here still.

that would be a good example to bring up in the conversation

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Very true. Okay damn I need to write lol. Thanks for your advice.

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Will saying its an official relationship change anything since you say you guys are acting like a couple? Hes probably still judging you.

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Well that's what my bff asked and I was like idk. Then I told him what she asked and he said she has a good point. That's all I got lol.

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

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Stating what you want does not equate to rushing.

You can sleep with him but you can't talk to him?

If you ask a direct question, you'll get a direct answer.

With my partner I told him what I was looking for and then asked him if he was on board.

If he wasn't then we could have ended it right then without any hurt feelings. There seems no sense in dragging it out.

I think 4 months is long enough to discuss what you are both looking for. Jesus, some people do it on the first date.

^^ this

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I'm a scorpio sun/libra moon. He's a Taurus sun/ libra moon. I like everything about him and it seems to be mutual. We dated in 2014 but i left him cuz he was emotionally unavailable. Now we're older and we've tried again and everything is going great. We function like a couple. 10s in all areas I even have the key to his apartment. We're on month 4. One thing though...he says we're not in an official relationship yet. I'm wondering why only because we already act like we do. I'm wondering what else is he waiting for? Or is he just being a slow Taurus and I'm being an impatience Scorpio?

Have you asked him? I would ask him before you ask us.

Sorta kinda but I don't wanna seem like I'm trying to rush him into anything either but I mean we literally act like a couple already. Even my bff asked what would be the difference between now & then I said idk. I told him & he even said she has a point lol. But I still don't know what he's waiting for. I haven't seen any signs of there being someone else and he told me there isn't soooo idfk lol

Stating what you want does not equate to rushing.

You can sleep with him but you can't talk to him?

If you ask a direct question, you'll get a direct answer.

With my partner I told him what I was looking for and then asked him if he was on board.

If he wasn't then we could have ended it right then without any hurt feelings. There seems no sense in dragging it out.

I think 4 months is long enough to discuss what you are both looking for. Jesus, some people do it on the first date.

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You're absolutely right. I feel like we did have that conversation before early on but since we've progressed I'm kinda like hmm well wtf are you waiting for bro? Lmao. So yeah okay I'll bring it up lol.

Okay he answered my question without me forcing the topic up. He thinks I'm wifey material. So I know his intentions now & I'm happy lmao. Thanks to all the ppl who talked me through it lol. Shoutouts to all the smartassed too! Bless.

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