@brianafay
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Spank banks
Understanding the Concept of a Spank Bank in Relationships
A spank bank refers to the collection of images or thoughts used for sexual arousal outside of intimacy with a partner. While some see it as harmless, others view it as a breach of trust. Open communication about boundaries and feelings can help address concerns about its impact on relationships.
Don't get married.
Don't get married.
😅stop
He’s making so many horrible jokes right now like a typical Libra... stirring the pot
Also though...there's plenty of porn of all kinds online.
Wtf do you need a spank bank for?
Is this 1998?
Right?! They were Facebook pics he downloaded too...like nothing even racy.
😅 he’s a Cap
They’re born grandpas
This isn’t going to end well.
This is like when a woman asks you if she looks fat and you get nervous because there isn’t a good answer.
Now I’m feeling some type of way ...so I ask him what’s in your “spank bank” ?
🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
He says “I don’t have one ON THIS PHONE” 😒(strike one)
“But 70% of the time I just think about your titties - you know I love titties” 😒😒 (strike two)
70% ?? what about the other 30% ?
Then I’m like NO, DO NOT ANSWER THAT, I don’t need to know
Dis gonna be a blowout
Are you really that surprised by this? Men are always checking girls out and being pervs. Doesn’t matter if they are single or in a relationship. At least he does it secretly and has never offended u until now.
I try to purge my bank once a month. I also like to keep something like a cheap password protected table or old phone for porn. Women are quite easy to fool. Most of the time acting like you can't remember the password saves some time, then you can factory reset it later and act like you had to contact the manufacturer. Women tend to buy that. If they notice cleared internet history you can play the "I'm connected to Google on an old/ new email, thats why there is no history." Card
I'd be pissed to the highest level of pisstivity if I found pics of people I knew on my dudes phone, laptop, Polaroids, hand drawn etc. Idk why but it would...anyone else not so much.
Can you come DJ for us on Zoom?
her cousin though, lmao
Try another husband.
Are you really that surprised by this? Men are always checking girls out and being pervs. Doesn’t matter if they are single or in a relationship. At least he does it secretly and has never offended u until now.
The ick factor is these aren’t just rando girls he’s jerking off too, they are family. Having your husband jack off to your cousin is a little to Jerry springer for my tastes personally.
3-4 billion women in the world and you choose my family to fantasize about? Not today satan
This is so trifling. She’s desperate for marrying him.
3-4 billion women in the world and you choose my family to fantasize about?
This is the biggest lie that men have been told. The average man only meets like a couple of hundred women in his life and 99.98% of them don't want anything to do with him. 😢
As for the guy with the quick hands, I actually think he confessed about it to not get married or say he was indifferent about marrying her.
“men go through life thinking about banging everyone, and getting the nudes, it’s not the serious”
Gross, immature and disrespectful to you 😐
you must live in a very small community
her cousin though, lmao
And she is so close to her ! They’re like sisters, they’re always together 🤦🏼♀️
you must live in a very small community
They live in NJ! It’s not that small
I'm pretty sure masturbating to your spouse's family member or best friend is not how to keep the sparks flying in your marriage. Maybe for some people, but I wouldn't associate with them.
im disgusted
white people am i rite?
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I agree!
I said I don’t know if I could come back from that
I can’t believe they’re still together
And she has the same birthday Rocky, she’s not a meek woman. She’s very A type. I can’t believe she was able to let that go
“men go through life thinking about banging everyone, and getting the nudes, it’s not the serious”
Gross, immature and disrespectful to you 😐
Meh, he’s a little troll.
He did finally admit that he agrees it’s wrong and her husband can never recover from this...only after he cracked jokes about it for an hour
Men fantasize all the time, it doesn't mean anything. Married men masturbate all the time.
“men go through life thinking about banging everyone, and getting the nudes, it’s not the serious”
Gross, immature and disrespectful to you 😐
Meh, he’s a little troll.
He did finally admit that he agrees it’s wrong and her husband can never recover from this...only after he cracked jokes about it for an hour
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Oh good 😀
The sister is an Aries?
Men fantasize all the time, it doesn't mean anything. Married men masturbate all the time.
This was basically my husband’s answer and he couldn’t stop laughing about it and calling women crazy for getting upset over it
But in the end he did admit it’s fucked up who it was because his sister will never be able to forget it
The sister is an Aries?
Yes! Like all Aries too
her cousin though, lmao
And she is so close to her ! They’re like sisters, they’re always together 🤦🏼♀️
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way too close to home. randoms okay, but not fam. i would end it.
interesting. the internet has had a strange way of making society more naive and less innocent at the same time.
The sister is an Aries?
Yes! Like all Aries too
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She’s very tolerant lol :::::::::::: maybe she’s something planned 😈
I guess the offense wasn’t doing it or fantasizing about family but not having more discretion in hiding the pix.
That’s a big pet peeve for me though. Men will follow porn accounts on their Instagram...same Instagram they follow their nieces and nephews on. Come on...not everyone needs to know your masturbation habits and that you like big busted Asians.
Have more discretion. Delete the pix after you wank. Otherwise it’s a big fuck you to your spouses feelings.
Right?
I was like why would he admit that?! He could have made any other excuse and she might still have thought it was weird but she wouldn’t feel so bad. She honestly wasn’t thinking he saved them for anything sexual
When I was in a relationship I never wanked to other women, why would I do that? Never followed porn on Instagram either.
I only follow one porn star, on twitter, because she is smart, funny, and she looks like my ex. April O' Neil in case someone cares to know.
I guess it's only married men who do that or men who are unhappy about their sex life and want more and different.
Nothing wrong with being attracted to your cousin - it happens - but wanking to her then saying it's nothing to worry about is just rude, crude, and plain disrespectful. Also machist, in the worst sense
Idk a lot of people have some really weird fucked up fantasies (even porn choices) and you would never know nor do you need to know or get your feelings hurt over it
Are you really that surprised by this? Men are always checking girls out and being pervs. Doesn’t matter if they are single or in a relationship. At least he does it secretly and has never offended u until now.
Yeah everyone wants to fuck everyone. We like animals in that way..
I mean women too. I generally going into shame mode about it though lol cause of conditioning right?
For men it's always been socially acceptable for them to act like animals so it probably just comes more naturally
Posted by brianafayIdk a lot of people have some really weird fucked up fantasies (even porn choices) and you would never know nor do you need to know or get your feelings hurt over it
well but am sure you know there s a difference between fantasy and reality. there was this episode in south park when randy was desperately searching for porn and once he had internet access he started watching all sorts of feet fetishes (nothing wrong about this, i like feet and toes) , brazilian she males and whatnot. this didn't mean that he stopped loving sharon, though. i like women who squirt, for instance, but this doesn't mean that if you don't squirt im going to be frustrated or love you less.
so no, you should have no hurt feelings about it, but i understand why your ego can be a bit bruised
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Yeah you just don’t need to know that! It’s only going to make you feel bad
I really think he’s a moron for admitting it to her
I would have taken it to the grave.
Are you really that surprised by this? Men are always checking girls out and being pervs. Doesn’t matter if they are single or in a relationship. At least he does it secretly and has never offended u until now.
Her cousin and best friend though?
🤮🤮
He’s basically fantasizing about doinking her BFF and her family. Family gatherings will be awkward af now.
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Well the BFF isnt surprising. But yes, it will now be uncomfortable for you when u see them.
Posted by brianafayIdk a lot of people have some really weird fucked up fantasies (even porn choices) and you would never know nor do you need to know or get your feelings hurt over it
well but am sure you know there s a difference between fantasy and reality. there was this episode in south park when randy was desperately searching for porn and once he had internet access he started watching all sorts of feet fetishes (nothing wrong about this, i like feet and toes) , brazilian she males and whatnot. this didn't mean that he stopped loving sharon, though. i like women who squirt, for instance, but this doesn't mean that if you don't squirt im going to be frustrated or love you less.
so no, you should have no hurt feelings about it, but i understand why your ego can be a bit bruised
Yeah you just don’t need to know that! It’s only going to make you feel bad
I really think he’s a moron for admitting it to her
I would have taken it to the grave.
i agree w you
but then again, lets take you for instance. you can still have a dxp crush on brazilian men (fantasy), and still love your husband (reality). you also lead a 'double' life, for lack of a better term but im sure you dont share with him everything you post on dxp
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I’m not following
If you find a photo of a person attractive you are leading a double life ?
Are you a Scorpio moon too? 😅
wait, your husband already played devil's advocate
I'm too late
The worst
He started back pedaling bad when he saw where it was going 😅
I'd tell him to stop using my family to jerk off. Ew.
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My husband and I are having a debate
His sister told me before she married her husband she found pictures of her cousin and best friend saved on his laptop and when she asked him why he had them saved he admitted he used them to jerk off to.
Why he would ever admit that to her, especially when she honestly didn’t even suspect that, is beyond me. Like what an idiot.
Anyway, she was obviously upset and though she forgave him and still married him...it’s something that still bothers her from time to time.
I was talking to my husband about it and he thinks she has no right to be mad, and I quote, “it’s just a spank bank” “there’s no connection there” “women are so crazy”
I suggested if he found pics of his brother or best friend I had saved and I told him I was playing DJ to them he would be super salty about it. He agreed. But it’s “different” (Of course, Libra Venus double standards)
“men go through life thinking about banging everyone, and getting the nudes, it’s not the serious”
Thoughts?