Denied sex by your SO

Has a man ever said no to you wanting sex?

How has it made you feel if he has declined and what reason did he give you for saying no?

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

He sounds petty lol

Sign?

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

Sounds like something a Scorpio would do 😢

At least you got it in the end 😄

I only got denied after doing it most of the day and me in my needines, demanding more, more, more....the poor guy said "I'm not a machine"

Shame on me

He was in his 20s

Haha.....😛

Posted by MyStarsShine
I only got denied after doing it most of the day and me in my needines, demanding more, more, more....the poor guy said "I'm not a machine"

Shame on me

He was in his 20s

Haha.....

LOL it could be a fair enough decline but lol at 20 you would hope he had a little bit of stamina

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

Sounds like something a Scorpio would do
At least you got it in the end click to expand

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Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

Sounds like something a Scorpio would do
At least you got it in the end click to expand

Scorpio men can't withhold sex lol.
Yeah I'd pribably lose my shit if he didn't. I have a sex temper 😂 click to expand

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LOL you may have a point

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

He sounds petty lol

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Aqua with a petty mars lol click to expand

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Aries mars?

Posted by Lioness18881
Did someone say no to you?

For the first time in my life and I don't know how to feel about that.

I said I want to fuck and right of the bat got two excuses back. I guess it was not a direct no. But a no none the less.

FFS

No one says no to sex surely.

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by MyStarsShine
I only got denied after doing it most of the day and me in my needines, demanding more, more, more....the poor guy said "I'm not a machine"

Shame on me

He was in his 20s

Haha.....

LOL it could be a fair enough decline but lol at 20 you would hope he had a little bit of stamina click to expand

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But to be fair.....I am full on..or was lol

I mean, it was ridiculous of me

Healed now

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

He sounds petty lol

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Aqua with a petty mars lol click to expand

Aries mars? click to expand

Pisces click to expand

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Oh right...is that the one that is the mechanic, living with mother?

😆

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by MyStarsShine
I only got denied after doing it most of the day and me in my needines, demanding more, more, more....the poor guy said "I'm not a machine"

Shame on me

He was in his 20s

Haha.....

LOL it could be a fair enough decline but lol at 20 you would hope he had a little bit of stamina click to expand

But to be fair.....I am full on..or was lol

I mean, it was ridiculous of me

Healed now
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did you not allow for food breaks and toilet breaks in between sessions lol?

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Did someone say no to you?

For the first time in my life and I don't know how to feel about that.

I said I want to fuck and right of the bat got two excuses back. I guess it was not a direct no. But a no none the less.

FFS

No one says no to sex surely. click to expand

🤔 what's his mars? You might need to change your approach click to expand

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SLOW, SLOW and stuck in my way Taurus mars 😢 Maybe I should just show up naked with strawberries and cream on my boobs. But he is Aries Sun and Moon. Aries never say no. Never ever

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Did someone say no to you?

For the first time in my life and I don't know how to feel about that.

I said I want to fuck and right of the bat got two excuses back. I guess it was not a direct no. But a no none the less.

FFS

No one says no to sex surely. click to expand

🤔 what's his mars? You might need to change your approach click to expand

SLOW, SLOW and stuck in my way Taurus mars Maybe I should just show up naked with strawberries and cream on my boobs. But he is Aries Sun and Moon. Aries never say no. Never ever click to expand

lol. Yeah cover yourself in food. I have Aries moon and rising. My moods change really fast and then back again just as fast. What was his excuse? Like were you with him and he said no, or did he say no to meeting up? click to expand

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No to meeting up this evening. It was not a no so to speak, more a case of waiting for the weekend.

Its been a very rough relationship this past two weeks. I feel like the connection we had is gone. I think he has had sex with someone else and the response he gave me just makes me more suspicious of it. /sigh.

I have not seen him in 7 days. he was visiting Rome and I just missed him. Today was the first time I seen him since last week Wed.

or I am just overthinking.

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by MyStarsShine
I only got denied after doing it most of the day and me in my needines, demanding more, more, more....the poor guy said "I'm not a machine"

Shame on me

He was in his 20s

Haha.....

LOL it could be a fair enough decline but lol at 20 you would hope he had a little bit of stamina click to expand

But to be fair.....I am full on..or was lol

I mean, it was ridiculous of me

Healed now
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did you not allow for food breaks and toilet breaks in between sessions lol? click to expand

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Just about, lol

We were Aries and Scorpio...he Scorpio dominant, a once in a lifetime experience so made the most of it for almost 5 years!!

😛

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by MyStarsShine
I only got denied after doing it most of the day and me in my needines, demanding more, more, more....the poor guy said "I'm not a machine"

Shame on me

He was in his 20s

Haha.....

LOL it could be a fair enough decline but lol at 20 you would hope he had a little bit of stamina click to expand

But to be fair.....I am full on..or was lol

I mean, it was ridiculous of me

Healed now
😇😇😇😇 click to expand

did you not allow for food breaks and toilet breaks in between sessions lol? click to expand

Just about, lol

We were Aries and Scorpio...he Scorpio dominant, a once in a lifetime experience so made the most of it for almost 5 years!!

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lol. why run a mile when you can run a marathon.

Good going!

Posted by Arielle83
Yep.

Watched porn and got the vibe out

Really?

I cant even make it into 10 min if I watch porn with a guy lol. I never see the endings

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Arielle83
Yep.

Watched porn and got the vibe out

Really?

I cant even make it into 10 min if I watch porn with a guy lol. I never see the endings

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This is for me.

No guy needs to be there.

I don’t ask twice if a guy says no. click to expand

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Yeah I have that same attitude about someone saying no to me. Not about sex per se as this is a first. But I don't really grasp the word NO (in certain circumstances of course). LOL

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Did someone say no to you?

For the first time in my life and I don't know how to feel about that.

I said I want to treetrunk and right of the bat got two excuses back. I guess it was not a direct no. But a no none the less.

FFS

No one says no to sex surely. click to expand

Yes if they work hard, are tired or stressed. click to expand

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But he will sleep like a baby after sex. And sex takes away stress and tension

Posted by UnicornSag
Well not really...I mean he can try sometimes if I was the one to deny first to get revenge lol but we still end up doing it lol

Do you think its possible for any man to say no to any woman. As a general question and also as a couple in a relationship.

I mean how often would a man say no?

Posted by Superman77
Can’t think of a reason a man would say no, unless he got off sometime within the day.

Yes, now you got me thinking......

How often can a man actually say no

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Did someone say no to you?

For the first time in my life and I don't know how to feel about that.

I said I want to treetrunk and right of the bat got two excuses back. I guess it was not a direct no. But a no none the less.

FFS

No one says no to sex surely. click to expand

Yes if they work hard, are tired or stressed. click to expand

But he will sleep like a baby after sex. And sex takes away stress and tension
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Yes, but men tend to focus on what’s weighing on them. Not the outcome click to expand

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very fair point

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by MyStarsShine
I only got denied after doing it most of the day and me in my needines, demanding more, more, more....the poor guy said "I'm not a machine"

Shame on me

He was in his 20s

Haha.....

LOL it could be a fair enough decline but lol at 20 you would hope he had a little bit of stamina click to expand

But to be fair.....I am full on..or was lol

I mean, it was ridiculous of me

Healed now
😇😇😇😇 click to expand

did you not allow for food breaks and toilet breaks in between sessions lol? click to expand

Just about, lol

We were Aries and Scorpio...he Scorpio dominant, a once in a lifetime experience so made the most of it for almost 5 years!!

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lol. why run a mile when you can run a marathon.

Good going! click to expand

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👍🍆😈🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻😊

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Has a man ever said no to you wanting sex?
How has it made you feel if he has declined and what reason did he give you for saying no?

Yeah. I upset him and he was using it as a way to manipulate some degree of control. I felt horny lol. I couldn't feel much else since I knew it wouldn't last long and he was being irrational and needed some space to realize that.

I noticed from the men I've dated air men tend to react to anger this way.

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

Sounds like something a Scorpio would do
At least you got it in the end click to expand

Scorpio men can't withhold sex lol.
Yeah I'd pribably lose my butter if he didn't. I have a sex temper 😂 click to expand

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lol then u dont know scorpio ;p

https://www.elsaelsa.com/astrology/scorpio-men-withhold-sex/

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
No one says no to sex surely.

You mean no GUY says no to sex. We should always be available and ready to perform for you, right?

Posted by Lala1393

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

Sounds like something a Scorpio would do
At least you got it in the end click to expand

Scorpio men can't withhold sex lol.
Yeah I'd pribably lose my butter if he didn't. I have a sex temper 😂 click to expand

lol then u dont know scorpio ;p

https://www.elsaelsa.com/astrology/scorpio-men-withhold-sex/ click to expand

That's what I'M saying. My scorp ex used to revenge tease his bit.chy exes or groupies ALL the time. And show them just how satisfied he was with me.

If I ever made the mistake of doing somethimg wrong, he would use sex to punish me in some way shape or form. click to expand

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the revenge thing in relationships can be too much xd

i always call my husband out and we fight. lol

then grumble and things are back to normal and we LOL ...life is weird...

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
No one says no to sex surely.

You mean no GUY says no to sex. We should always be available and ready to perform for you, right?

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How do you feel if a woman denies you sex?

More guys should say no 🙂 so many men out there fucking with no one behind the engine just bc they think as men, they are suppose to be willing at all times no matter what shit goes on in their life or how they feel.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Has a man ever said no to you wanting sex?
How has it made you feel if he has declined and what reason did he give you for saying no?

Yeah. I upset him and he was using it as a way to manipulate some degree of control. I felt horny lol. I couldn't feel much else since I knew it wouldn't last long and he was being irrational and needed some space to realize that.

I noticed from the men I've dated air men tend to react to anger this way. click to expand

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So most of the cases when you get a no seems to be revenge sex withholding. At least from 90% of the replies here.

Hmm, I suppose I should give the Aries the benefit of the doubt as his excuses were nothing related to revenge with holding.

Sigh. I just cant shake the feeling though that there is more to this.

Posted by Lala1393

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
No one says no to sex surely.

You mean no GUY says no to sex. We should always be available and ready to perform for you, right?

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To be honest I found this rethoric as shocking and gross as when men think women should be DTF all the time. It's rather degrading to men.

As women, we expect to be treated as ladies and not just "holes" and if WE refuse sex and the guy insists we attribute rapey, terrible "worst scum of the earth" values to him, yet some of the ladies posting here seem to EXPECT men to perform and serve them sexually at ALL times....

Sounds a little dodgy, selfish and almost rapey.
I hope they're joking. 😊

I'm not takimg it too seriously. I think they're talking about their SOs. Not just random men. click to expand

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Yeah I think most are SO and not just random one night stands or random sex

More horny..

Because he's tired or has to get up early tomorrow 😤

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Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
No one says no to sex surely.

You mean no GUY says no to sex. We should always be available and ready to perform for you, right?

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How do you feel if a woman denies you sex? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

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Like we're playing the parts we were indoctrinated to play. I'd much rather be denied than be the one to deny.. cuz then this thread happens and I have a lot of explaining to do, as a man.

Lol you really have no clue about what it's like on the other side, do you?

Posted by UnicornSag

Posted by enfant_terrible
More guys should say no so many men out there treetrunking with no one behind the engine just bc they think as men, they are suppose to be willing at all times no matter what butter goes on in their life or how they feel.

well that's not actually woman's wrong impression, it's how majority of men actually are. And I'm talking from experience, not my own assumption cause they did have some pretty f..ed up situations and they were still all up for it🤷 click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

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Yes, the majority of men not in a long-term relationship. If Im single, carefree and horny and feel like treetrunk treetrunk treetrunking the night away, clearly you're going to find me at some club with all the other tools. It's not however representative of how often I need it and when or why I don't.

And yes, many men do compensate a lack of libido or whatever by compulsively engaging in sex talk with others just to feel normal or included. Take the red pill.

To put it in a language you'll understand: Men feel like always having sex as much as women see sex as a chore and would prefer to fold laundry instead.

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Posted by UnicornSag

Posted by enfant_terrible
More guys should say no so many men out there treetrunking with no one behind the engine just bc they think as men, they are suppose to be willing at all times no matter what butter goes on in their life or how they feel.

well that's not actually woman's wrong impression, it's how majority of men actually are. And I'm talking from experience, not my own assumption cause they did have some pretty f..ed up situations and they were still all up for it🤷 click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

Yes, the majority of men not in a long-term relationship. If Im single, carefree and horny and feel like treetrunk treetrunk treetrunking the night away, clearly you're going to find me at some club with all the other tools. It's not however representative of how often I need it and when or why I don't.

And yes, many men do compensate a lack of libido or whatever by compulsively engaging in sex talk with others just to feel normal or included. Take the red pill. click to expand

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i think what u're being confused...is that these men have AIR mars./Air mercury. lol

they need pillow talk.

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

Sounds like something a Scorpio would do
At least you got it in the end click to expand

Scorpio men can't withhold sex lol.
Yeah I'd pribably lose my butter if he didn't. I have a sex temper 😂 click to expand

lol then u dont know scorpio ;p

https://www.elsaelsa.com/astrology/scorpio-men-withhold-sex/ click to expand

I have mars square pluto so it's always been intense and magnetic when it comes to sex with scorpio so i can't imagine them having the self control for withholding. Aqua on the other hand, i have no power in that domain. click to expand

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my capricorn parts can withhold just like a scorpio. or maybe because i'm pluto dom/8th house.

lol i once heard an old woman answering the question what kept her marriage alive all these years when so many others failed.

She said something along the lines of "i told my man that i'm available anyime he wants".

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

Sounds like something a Scorpio would do
At least you got it in the end click to expand

Scorpio men can't withhold sex lol.
Yeah I'd pribably lose my shit if he didn't. I have a sex temper 😂 click to expandclick to expand

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by UnicornSag
Well not really...I mean he can try sometimes if I was the one to deny first to get revenge lol but we still end up doing it lol

Do you think its possible for any man to say no to any woman. As a general question and also as a couple in a relationship.

I mean how often would a man say no? click to expand

Damn what kind of question is this

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Just curious. I have never been told no. I feel rejected lol.

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
No one says no to sex surely.

You mean no GUY says no to sex. We should always be available and ready to perform for you, right?

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How do you feel if a woman denies you sex? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

Like we're playing the parts we were indoctrinated to play. I'd much rather be denied than be the one to deny.. cuz then this thread happens and I have a lot of explaining to do, as a man.

Lol you really have no clue about what it's like on the other side, do you?

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Do you mean to be denied?

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Yeah. I didn't want to have sex one time so after that he said we're not having sex anymore because i didn't want to and he was being a jerk. But we did the next time we saw each other anyway. It was like revenge withholding.

Sounds like something a Scorpio would do
At least you got it in the end click to expand

Scorpio men can't withhold sex lol.
Yeah I'd pribably lose my butter if he didn't. I have a sex temper 😂 click to expand

lol then u dont know scorpio ;p

https://www.elsaelsa.com/astrology/scorpio-men-withhold-sex/ click to expand

I have mars square pluto so it's always been intense and magnetic when it comes to sex with scorpio so i can't imagine them having the self control for withholding. Aqua on the other hand, i have no power in that domain. click to expand

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FFS you see. I also have mars square pluto and Sun conjuct pluto. Sex and someone saying no, I just dont understand.

Posted by oneday
Yeah sag ex
After awhile he started saying no.
I was butthurt because I felt something was up. To be fair I wanted sex too much lol but...

What do you know, intuition is always right
He was seeing escorts.

THAT!!!! I always trust my intuition. Always

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Has a man ever said no to you wanting sex?
How has it made you feel if he has declined and what reason did he give you for saying no?

Yeah. I upset him and he was using it as a way to manipulate some degree of control. I felt horny lol. I couldn't feel much else since I knew it wouldn't last long and he was being irrational and needed some space to realize that.

I noticed from the men I've dated air men tend to react to anger this way. click to expand

So most of the cases when you get a no seems to be revenge sex withholding. At least from 90% of the replies here.

Hmm, I suppose I should give the Aries the benefit of the doubt as his excuses were nothing related to revenge with holding.

Sigh. I just cant shake the feeling though that there is more to this.

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I have no idea what that means and my moon is acting funky so I'm not about the explore by reading through this thread. I will simply point out that drawing a poll on DXP probably won't give you the answers you want. Your Ram may simply be tired or have a lot on his mind. Little monster may need some tlc because it got caught up in a zipper, who knows. Whatever it may be, in each case on this thread I am sure there is context that don't apply to your case. Just a thought.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Has a man ever said no to you wanting sex?
How has it made you feel if he has declined and what reason did he give you for saying no?

Yeah. I upset him and he was using it as a way to manipulate some degree of control. I felt horny lol. I couldn't feel much else since I knew it wouldn't last long and he was being irrational and needed some space to realize that.

I noticed from the men I've dated air men tend to react to anger this way. click to expand

So most of the cases when you get a no seems to be revenge sex withholding. At least from 90% of the replies here.

Hmm, I suppose I should give the Aries the benefit of the doubt as his excuses were nothing related to revenge with holding.

Sigh. I just cant shake the feeling though that there is more to this.

I have no idea what that means and my moon is acting funky so I'm not about the explore by reading through this thread. I will simply point out that drawing a poll on DXP probably won't give you the answers you want. Your Ram may simply be tired or have a lot on his mind. Little monster may need some tlc because it got caught up in a zipper, who knows. Whatever it may be, in each case on this thread I am sure there is context that don't apply to your case. Just a thought.
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You are correct. the context is very different. Thanks for your reply

I get really pissed off. But I read that is a Virgo Venus/Mars thing.

Posted by heliumfiasco
I get really pissed off. But I read that is a Virgo Venus/Mars thing.

I hate my virgo venus 😢

Posted by MyStarsShine
I only got denied after doing it most of the day and me in my needines, demanding more, more, more....the poor guy said "I'm not a machine"

Shame on me

He was in his 20s

Haha.....

Too bad he couldn't rise to the occasion.

wait, is everyone in the mood 100% of the time all the time...?!

damn, I have days when i'm just like "Hell naw"...

guess i'm an odd ball...

And I have been denied a bunch of times by my s,o (different ones)

I don't take offense, sometimes they are tired, haven't showered, just not feeling "sexy"

I think its normal, but apparently not

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Lioness18881
Did someone say no to you?

For the first time in my life and I don't know how to feel about that.

I said I want to treetrunk and right of the bat got two excuses back. I guess it was not a direct no. But a no none the less.

FFS

No one says no to sex surely. click to expand

🤔 what's his mars? You might need to change your approach click to expand

SLOW, SLOW and stuck in my way Taurus mars Maybe I should just show up naked with strawberries and cream on my boobs. But he is Aries Sun and Moon. Aries never say no. Never ever

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I was with an Aries that said no - obviously he is a thing of the past - he had a social anxiety disorder and didn't like it when I was aggressive, he wanted to be the one to control that - he was very strange