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Proof #374858585 that women cannot take anything they perceive as rejection on any level whatsoever.
Yes, recently by my what I thought was a casual connection with a Ram gent.
He has denied me, twice so far. At first, it felt like a power play to regain power but now it feels like a challenge, to challenge me to feel. Now, that he has taken away the sex. I am forced to get to know him, his personality, understand him even more so. There is nothing for me to escape into, the physicality of sex allowed for disconnection and an endorphin/oxytocin rush, which I now no longer have.
Frankly, it has been creating panic in me, to feel. He took away the one thing that allowed for my release without having responsibility, thinking, nor feeling. Ironic, considering he initially told me he was not ready for anything serious. Yet, here he is, pushing me, to learn to get to know him. Sex no longer being the focus, I have nothing left to do but that.
Yup! Every Aqua that I have a sexual encounter with denies me once they know that I want it from them. They want communication, I want sex, I don't know why we just can't have pillow talk after sex. For some reason the men end up feeling a little used, which I don't get 😢 It's annoying, why can't they just want sex like all other men on the planet!!!
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
He has denied me, twice so far. At first, it felt like a power play to regain power but now it feels like a challenge, to challenge me to feel. Now, that he has taken away the sex. I am forced to get to know him, his personality, understand him even more so. There is nothing for me to escape into, the physicality of sex allowed for disconnection and an endorphin/oxytocin rush.
This is what Aquas do to me. I hate it.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
He has denied me, twice so far. At first, it felt like a power play to regain power but now it feels like a challenge, to challenge me to feel. Now, that he has taken away the sex. I am forced to get to know him, his personality, understand him even more so. There is nothing for me to escape into, the physicality of sex allowed for disconnection and an endorphin/oxytocin rush.This is what Aquas do to me. I hate it. click to expand
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I hate him for doing so, but I know that if I am angry at him it is only because I beginning to care. He made me feel again, not quite sure what to do with it to be honest. For once, I felt a spark, and tension around him I had never felt before. It was a nice connection prior, chemistry, but nothing that took my breathe away. Now, he has got me.
When it was merely focused on sex before, I could easily up and go as I pleased. Now, that he is forcing me to go beyond that threshold. Ah, the difficulties. @saggurl88, therefore I do sympathise.
Girl, more times than I can count.
Not all men want it all the time and not all women fake headaches to get out of it.
I have what would conventionally be viewed as the more “masculine” sex drive out of the two of us and as a result get turned down all the time...
He always try to do so lovingly or with a joke so I don’t feel bad.
I used to get really bent out of shape over it and think there must be something wrong with me but now I’ve learned it’s just not always about me 😂
He’s allowed to be tired or stressed out and thinking about other things. God knows there have been plenty of times the roles were reversed
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by Lioness18881
Did someone say no to you?For the first time in my life and I don't know how to feel about that.
I said I want to fuck and right of the bat got two excuses back. I guess it was not a direct no. But a no none the less.
FFS
No one says no to sex surely. click to expand
🤔 what's his mars? You might need to change your approach click to expand
SLOW, SLOW and stuck in my way Taurus mars Maybe I should just show up naked with strawberries and cream on my boobs. But he is Aries Sun and Moon. Aries never say no. Never ever click to expand
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Ah, same Mars as the Ram Gent I am dealing with as well. Very slow indeed, but their Ram side takes over from the onset, initially so. Then therein after, good luck. 😆
I got the excuses as you did as well, without a direct no. That made it all the more confusing, was he rejecting me or ... ? more importantly, why ?
Hah @Queenofthepheasantfairies, I am about as close to tearing his suit apart whenever he is within my personal bubble. What a tease he has been, and he has been bloody damn well close.
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by Lioness18881
Did someone say no to you?For the first time in my life and I don't know how to feel about that.
I said I want to fuck and right of the bat got two excuses back. I guess it was not a direct no. But a no none the less.
FFS
No one says no to sex surely. click to expand
🤔 what's his mars? You might need to change your approach click to expand
SLOW, SLOW and stuck in my way Taurus mars Maybe I should just show up naked with strawberries and cream on my boobs. But he is Aries Sun and Moon. Aries never say no. Never ever click to expand
lol. Yeah cover yourself in food. I have Aries moon and rising. My moods change really fast and then back again just as fast. What was his excuse? Like were you with him and he said no, or did he say no to meeting up? click to expand
No to meeting up this evening. It was not a no so to speak, more a case of waiting for the weekend.
Its been a very rough relationship this past two weeks. I feel like the connection we had is gone. I think he has had sex with someone else and the response he gave me just makes me more suspicious of it. /sigh.
I have not seen him in 7 days. he was visiting Rome and I just missed him. Today was the first time I seen him since last week Wed.
or I am just overthinking. click to expand
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Oh dear Libran, do I strongly empathise with your plight.
Posted by Damnata
Proof #374858585 that women cannot take anything they perceive as rejection on any level whatsoever.
Proof, that women could be a hypocritical as men.
Sometimes, we need to take our own medicine in order to take our heads out of our own bottoms. 😆
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