What do you gain from men you can't get elsewhere? (Page 2)

Posted by SirHorns
I'm seriously asking this. What do you get out of relationships (Friendships included) from males that you find risking your mental/emotional/spiritual independence and stability for? Just because your hormones demand you have someone with a Y chromozone that can breed if needed?

Hope my question is clear enough for you all to answer without any need for clarification.

Yeah this first part need more clarification, but as I read the thread it may become more clear. As for this:

Posted by SirHorns
What do men bring to the table for you mentally, emotionally and spiritually that you can't get for women or from yourself internally?

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I don't know if I'd say it's about what a man "brings to the table" and rather what type of experience I am more open to. I mean taking the physical aspect out of the equation, the right woman can offer everything a man can, with less push pull in some ways. If I was open to it.

With a man I have found that I tend be more open to an experience where I can let down my guard and truly connect on an emotional and sexual level. Come to a place in life where I am more willing to let someone else take the lead or have a true partnership while I exhale and chill out. He brings a different level of excitement oppose to the drama that can sometimes come with female-female dynamics. There is also a push to be more balanced. A push to approach life dynamics differently.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
I tend to think as much like a man as I do a woman. The majority of my hobbies are enjoyed by/with men more than most women. I'm more at ease around my male friends/acquaintances than I am their female counterparts. When I'm hanging out with a group of only women, I feel low level stressed. Like they're going to realize I'm a fraud. An imposter. Like I don't belong.

Gosh all of this! I have always had more male friends during my life. When I have tried to build them with females it's rough.

I feel the same as you do at the end, Cheeky. Do you think that has to do with how many women drag each other or tear each other down instead of building each other up? Wonder if that plays a factor.

Maybe? I've never overthought it.

It's hard for me to make girl friends. The times I tried to make friends with other moms at school didn't go too well. Even if you get on while cheering on your kids at volleyball or whatever, it's hard to connect in a way that transcends school functions.

All the girl friends I have, I met though my guy friends. They were the girlfriends and wives that realized I didn't wanna bang their dudes, they were just fun to hang out with because we shared so many of the same interests.

Those are the kinds of girls I get on with. The ones that don't see me as a threat. That realize I'm not trying to be a certain way to attract male attention, but that I'm just being me. These are the ladies that tend to share my same interests or, at the very least, don't judge me for them.

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It's such a fucking pain that women see each other as competition and/or threats in that regard. i only have a handful of female friends, we don't try to one up each other or ever perceive that the other would ever go after each others men. These are my ride or die friends. I'm blessed to have such friends.

Posted by SirHorns
I'm seriously asking this. What do you get out of relationships (Friendships included) from males that you find risking your mental/emotional/spiritual independence and stability for? Just because your hormones demand you have someone with a Y chromozone that can breed if needed? What do men bring to the table for you mentally, emotionally and spiritually that you can't get for women or from yourself internally?

Hope my question is clear enough for you all to answer without any need for clarification.

With my virgo, I wanted marriage, sex, and a family. He was also very good looking (I mean tall, dimples, and a six pack), so that would have increased my status, socially. He came from a big family who were ALL BEAUTIFUL, and that family was looked at as having higher status. I wanted to be part of that. That "sacrifice" you speak of was something I just assumed was part of the territory of pursing a relationship. He was the first guy I "loved" and I didn't know jack sh it.

The only thing I risked when being with my Se-Goat is living in my bubble alone. I have learned a lot from my experience with my Virgo and my experiences with the Scorpio. I find I have to sacrifice little, save for flaunting my taste in music, my food, and the time it used to take me to do laundry for just one person.