lisabeth
@lisabethur8
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what type of mother are you?
1) You are a mother and your son and daughter /or either one chooses a bad girl/bad boy.
You have to allow your children to make the mistakes themselves and learn from them. Though I may not like their choice in a partner, it is not for me to decide.
2) are you the type to just allow your child to choose whatever bride or husband she/he wants?
See answer one
3) how controlling are you?
Not.
4) do you tend to vicariously through your children to make them choose a type that you yourself would have chosen?
No. Their life is their own.
5) how much control or lack of do you impose on your child?
I want my son to grow up an independent, successful, well rounded member of society. To do that, I must find a balance between teaching him morals but giving him freedom to flourish. Control does nothing but cause rebellious tendencies.
You have to allow your children to make the mistakes themselves and learn from them. Though I may not like their choice in a partner, it is not for me to decide.
2) are you the type to just allow your child to choose whatever bride or husband she/he wants?
See answer one
3) how controlling are you?
Not.
4) do you tend to vicariously through your children to make them choose a type that you yourself would have chosen?
No. Their life is their own.
5) how much control or lack of do you impose on your child?
I want my son to grow up an independent, successful, well rounded member of society. To do that, I must find a balance between teaching him morals but giving him freedom to flourish. Control does nothing but cause rebellious tendencies.
Posted by KoniuchaaI was going to ask Lisa the same question. how old is your son now.....is he a teen already Lisa ? What are his placements?
What type are you?
1) Hookup with the bad boy myself ?
2) I don't see why not.
3) I like to think I wouldn't be as controlling as my parents were with me.
4) I don't have a type so idk how I'd choose one for my hypothetical kids.
5) Again, I'd like to think I'll be less controlling than my parents were with me.
I don't have kids yet, but I want a full nest one day ?
2) I don't see why not.
3) I like to think I wouldn't be as controlling as my parents were with me.
4) I don't have a type so idk how I'd choose one for my hypothetical kids.
5) Again, I'd like to think I'll be less controlling than my parents were with me.
I don't have kids yet, but I want a full nest one day ?
Posted by Koniuchaai would hope to allow him to choose who he loves.
What type are you?
Posted by Whorpiohm you trolling. 😆
1) Hookup with the bad boy myself ?
2) I don't see why not.
3) I like to think I wouldn't be as controlling as my parents were with me.
4) I don't have a type so idk how I'd choose one for my hypothetical kids.
5) Again, I'd like to think I'll be less controlling than my parents were with me.
I don't have kids yet, but I want a full nest one day ?
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by KoniuchaaI was going to ask Lisa the same question. how old is your son now.....is he a teen already Lisa ? What are his placements?
What type are you?click to expand
not yet, but he's watery/fiery, so i have to be careful.....
@Whorpio, i saw you said you wish or hope that you're LESS controlling than your parents were...well i hope for you too.
Posted by Rindaroo
People learn by making mistakes and their own choices - even children. You cannot do it for them. Oh how I wish I could, but it doesn't work that way.
I have a 21 yo & 16 yo. 21 yo struggling and I really learned this along the way. Try to guide him though.. baby steps. 16 yo boy she has learned the hard way & doing great!! More in terms of life than bf/gf, but same concept applies.
glad to hear you allowed for them to grow. it's hard.
Posted by lisabethur8
if you have children or not.
but i'll give scenerios
1) You are a mother and your son and daughter /or either one chooses a bad girl/bad boy.
what would you do? would you make every effort to destroy their
DEFINITELY!
2) are you the type to just allow your child to choose whatever bride or husband she/he wants?
YES. WITH MY APPROVAL...
3) how controlling are you?
100% and then some
4) do you tend to vicariously through your children to make them choose a type that you yourself would have chosen?
YES. THATS MY GOAL AND DREAM
5) how much control or lack of do you impose on your child]
100%
Posted by lisabethur8What about a freak with earlobes to her shoulders dressed up as a hooker with hay on her head (hair) colored in unimaginable with 2 bull terriers on a leash?Posted by Koniuchaai would hope to allow him to choose who he loves.
What type are you?click to expand
'She is beautiful, son. When is the wedding?'
Posted by drunkghostLemme say...you don't have children...
1) You are a mother and your son and daughter /or either one chooses a bad girl/bad boy.
what would you do? would you make every effort to destroy their relationship?
Nah, evading never works. Makes em unite and might kill me. It also depends if there's abuse tho, than i'm all hands.
2) are you the type to just allow your child to choose whatever bride or husband she/he wants?
Yeah, people should love who they want and learn if it's the wrong choice. Again, same w/ abuse above.
3) How controlling are you?
Not very when it comes to others when it comes to me I am.
4) do you tend to vicariously through your children to make them choose a type that you yourself would have chosen?
Nah
5) how much control or lack of do you impose on your child?
Restrictions and guidelines needed as children to avoid getting hurt but otherwise they should live freely but be watched.
Then again, not sure if I want children I like being the cool aunt.
Posted by RindarooYes it does!!!
People learn by making mistakes and their own choices - even children. You cannot do it for them. Oh how I wish I could, but it doesn't work
Some parents just too lazy to be involved and 'let' their kids to 'make their own mistakes'...when in reality they just 'let themselves off the hook.
It's easier to 'let' him smoke pot than watch that he doesn't, right?
Or it's easier to let her date an ugly moron than work on her choices and explain that 'this is not to be walking by your side because it is discrace to a human race' until she gets it...
And yep - I dealing with Libra with 5 Scorpio placements so I don't give a damn what you are saying.
Good luck with your 'letting them make their mistakes' attitude!
Posted by drunkghostI'll teach you when you ready!
@gemitati you'd be correct that's why my responses seem to be careless because I know nothing
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Got to keep your fingers on their throat and let go for a short gasp of air when you see you must. Otherwise don't ever let go!
More later...
My son is 7. I'm the type of mother to teach him to be thoughtful and purposeful. I'm teaching him that hard work pays off and that he can achieve whatever he's willing to make the effort to achieve. I can't define for him what will make his life fulfilling and I'd never live vicariously. That's not the point of parenting. We've all made bad decisions I just hope he learns from the small ones. I'm teaching him to be accountable and responsible, that should help him consider consequences and rewards.
Just to add, i had a controlling mother......my sis and i both rebelled . I found it insulting and annoying that when i became a woman, she STILL tried to control....i felt like i couldn't breath half the time
She didn't know how to let go...she cost me quite a lot in therapy....
Luckily i have learned from her mistakes
If you listen carefully, our children will show us the way
She didn't know how to let go...she cost me quite a lot in therapy....
Luckily i have learned from her mistakes
If you listen carefully, our children will show us the way
Posted by GemitatiBeing involved and letting a child make their own mistakes are not seperate. Im very involved, but I also understand the point of self confidence and personal responsibility. Teaching a child HOW to make good decisions is so much more useful than trying to make decisions for them. No matter how many decisions you make for them they will HAVE to make their own. No harm in them knowing how, good or bad, and how to clean up the results if they're messy. They should never feel alone, but they also shouldn't expect someone else to dictate their lives or absorb the consequences of their choices.Posted by RindarooYes it does!!!
People learn by making mistakes and their own choices - even children. You cannot do it for them. Oh how I wish I could, but it doesn't work
Some parents just too lazy to be involved and 'let' their kids to 'make their own mistakes'...when in reality they just 'let themselves off the hook.
It's easier to 'let' him smoke pot than watch that he doesn't, right?
Or it's easier to let her date an ugly moron than work on her choices and explain that 'this is not to be walking by your side because it is discrace to a human race' until she gets it...
And yep - I dealing with Libra with 5 Scorpio placements so I don't give a damn what you are saying.
Good luck with your 'letting them make their mistakes' attitude!click to expand
Posted by SweetestFataleIsn't that why we have so many strays walking the streets because their parents just too hanged up on 'letting them live!'Posted by GemitatiBeing involved and letting a child make their own mistakes are not seperate. Im very involved, but I also understand the point of self confidence and personal responsibility. Teaching a child HOW to make good decisions is so much more useful than trying to make decisions for them. No matter how many decisions you make for them they will HAVE to make their own. No harm in them knowing how, good or bad, and how to clean up the results if they're messy. They should never feel alone, but they also shouldn't expect someone else to dictate their lives or absorb the consequences of their choices.Posted by RindarooYes it does!!!
People learn by making mistakes and their own choices - even children. You cannot do it for them. Oh how I wish I could, but it doesn't work
Some parents just too lazy to be involved and 'let' their kids to 'make their own mistakes'...when in reality they just 'let themselves off the hook.
It's easier to 'let' him smoke pot than watch that he doesn't, right?
Or it's easier to let her date an ugly moron than work on her choices and explain that 'this is not to be walking by your side because it is discrace to a human race' until she gets it...
And yep - I dealing with Libra with 5 Scorpio placements so I don't give a damn what you are saying.
Good luck with your 'letting them make their mistakes' attitude!
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Posted by nikkistarYou sound like a great mother....lucky son
1) You are a mother and your son and daughter /or either one chooses a bad girl/bad boy.
You have to allow your children to make the mistakes themselves and learn from them. Though I may not like their choice in a partner, it is not for me to decide.
2) are you the type to just allow your child to choose whatever bride or husband she/he wants?
See answer one
3) how controlling are you?
Not.
4) do you tend to vicariously through your children to make them choose a type that you yourself would have chosen?
No. Their life is their own.
5) how much control or lack of do you impose on your child?
I want my son to grow up an independent, successful, well rounded member of society. To do that, I must find a balance between teaching him morals but giving him freedom to flourish. Control does nothing but cause rebellious tendencies.
Posted by GemitatiNo, it's because their parents don't show them enough lovePosted by SweetestFataleIsn't that why we have so many strays walking the streets because their parents just too hanged up on 'letting them live!'Posted by GemitatiBeing involved and letting a child make their own mistakes are not seperate. Im very involved, but I also understand the point of self confidence and personal responsibility. Teaching a child HOW to make good decisions is so much more useful than trying to make decisions for them. No matter how many decisions you make for them they will HAVE to make their own. No harm in them knowing how, good or bad, and how to clean up the results if they're messy. They should never feel alone, but they also shouldn't expect someone else to dictate their lives or absorb the consequences of their choices.Posted by RindarooYes it does!!!
People learn by making mistakes and their own choices - even children. You cannot do it for them. Oh how I wish I could, but it doesn't work
Some parents just too lazy to be involved and 'let' their kids to 'make their own mistakes'...when in reality they just 'let themselves off the hook.
It's easier to 'let' him smoke pot than watch that he doesn't, right?
Or it's easier to let her date an ugly moron than work on her choices and explain that 'this is not to be walking by your side because it is discrace to a human race' until she gets it...
And yep - I dealing with Libra with 5 Scorpio placements so I don't give a damn what you are saying.
Good luck with your 'letting them make their mistakes' attitude!
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Control and love don't belong in the same sentence
A friend of our son is struggling with her over controlling mother. She is 18 and is being treated like a baby
She has started to use drugs because she feels overpowered by her mother who tries to keep a tight leash on her. She is trying to numb it all out.....bless her
She has started to use drugs because she feels overpowered by her mother who tries to keep a tight leash on her. She is trying to numb it all out.....bless her
Posted by GemitatiPosted by lisabethur8What about a freak with earlobes to her shoulders dressed up as a hooker with hay on her head (hair) colored in unimaginable with 2 bull terriers on a leash?Posted by Koniuchaai would hope to allow him to choose who he loves.
What type are you?
'She is beautiful, son. When is the wedding?'click to expand
😆 omg.
i would say...
wow. um hm well that was unexpected....
Posted by bittercupcake
1) You are a mother and your son and daughter /or either one chooses a bad girl/bad boy.
what would you do? would you make every effort to destroy their relationshiip?
I'd do what any good air sing would do... use my logic to direct my child into someone less destructive... children most of the time are seeking some sort of rebellion especially my children... and being the Rebel of the zodiac, I know what works and what doesn't ... so I'd play a very astute game of meeting the guy, speaking to him, and scaring him into commitment with my daughter... possible ask him when he's planning to marry him and interrogate him continuously... hopefully he'll take the hint and scram... or think I'm crazy which suits me just as find as long as they leave my daughter alone...
For my son... I'd probably put pressure on him to take on more of responsibilities around the house and have him, support his sister ... possible even harass him about the wedding with that girl... hopefully he'll get the gist that courting women, should be treated with respect and not as some Fck toy
2) are you the type to just allow your child to choose whatever bride or husband she/he wants?
yes and no... I already know that when my son comes of sexual age (14-20) and my daughter as well... I will begin to ingrained in their minds, and I do it now too, of what should be expected of them... and seeing how my nephews and nieces do not settle for lowclass individuals... I'm confident that I will instruct my kids to do the same
3) how controlling are you?
Very
4) do you tend to vicariously through your children to make them choose a type that you yourself would have chosen?
In a way yes...
5) how much control or lack of do you impose on your child?
I do control my children... but I always try to give them a reason as to why I've made that decision... or they'll ask and I'll answer... but I'm pretty flexible as well.
lol @ making them sure for no class citizen.
what is low class? a hillbilly? 😛 someone who picks his nose in public? poops in bed? 😆
Posted by MyStarsShine
Just to add, i had a controlling mother......my sis and i both rebelled . I found it insulting and annoying that when i became a woman, she STILL tried to control....i felt like i couldn't breath half the time
She didn't know how to let go...she cost me quite a lot in therapy....
Luckily i have learned from her mistakes
If you listen carefully, our children will show us the way
Posted by MyStarsShinethat is horrible about your son's friend.
A friend of our son is struggling with her over controlling mother. She is 18 and is being treated like a baby
She has started to use drugs because she feels overpowered by her mother who tries to keep a tight leash on her. She is trying to numb it all out.....bless her
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i've honestly heard of this in real life...
where the mother is very domineering and controlling. severely so, and she is alone (this has notihng to do with any single women who are great mothers) but it is part of the theme, where no man can stand to be around her. And if she is with someone she harasses him and berates him like a harpy.
and the young woman, the young daughter becomes addicted to drugs because she tries to escape the harbinger controlling woman who has raised her with no love.
it's weird cause when you meet these women, you think they are awesome and cool peeps.
then later, if you live with them for a short while and see their daughters and sons become drug addicts and abandon their babies to her, you wonder what has gone wrong? but i dont know...some would say blame it on her, but we are all responsible for raising our children and part of that is to hope they dont get addicted to drugs or alcohol.
but i dont know, i am just a messenger of mercury...at times from what i've witnessed in life...
also, to add, it is also the fact that the daughter is weakened, and cannot hold herself up, and she needs her mother..
but the mother cannot give her the support and love she needs and that is a travesty. 😢
who is the fault? Sometimes the mother who has become a harbinger of harpy abuse, has a troubled past and upbringing herself. 😢
Posted by GC02we have an aquarius nephew but his father is a scorpio sun, leo moon. what do you think will happen?
I have an aqua son who has a pisces venus, theirs no hope in me trying to control his love life one day lol, but he's only two so it's hard to imagine.
I'll let his libra dad with scorpio venus be the one to advise him, they'll probably be best friends anyways.
you think they wont be good friends?
Posted by bittercupcakei'm all for that but if my children just want to be hair stylists, i'm all for that too. lol
Lol... as my papa says "chusma!" Basically people who don't behave, think, or have the same ambitions as the people in my family...
what is low class? a hillbilly? 😛 someone who picks his nose in public? poops in bed? 😆
I just don't want them to end up with someone who will corrupt their good deeds or intentions... I'm working hard as a parent to make sure they grow up to be descent, hard working, ambitious adults... who are in touch with their spirituality and I don't want them to end up in a relationship with a dead beat, smoker, lazy, or dependent person.
Everyone in my family is a hard worker... my nephew broke up with his high school girlfriend of 4-5 years because she had ZERO ambition... he basically told her "in my family we don't want people who aren't planning to do anything with their lives... you don't want to finish school (she wanted to get married right after high school and be a house wife) and do something with their lives" so he dropped her and is now dating some other chick ? ... he's studying to become a respiratory therapist
My other nephew is also the same way... he's dating his high school sweetheart and they're both in the army located in different bases but they're still going strong... he's intending to marry her after he finishes school.. he wants to be an architect - not sure what she wants to do, can't remember.
My other nieces are studying to become lawyers and speech therapists....
Still don't know what my son and daughter are going to be when they grow up... but I'm pretty sure with our high expectations they will do something better - my daughter wants to be a cop ... my son is the one that doesn't know yet lol all he says is that he wants to make money (since his dad makes good $ $ ).... but he has expressed interest in artistic pursuits, so idkclick to expand
you're pretty ambitious for a mother. too high expectations.
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Lol... my dad had REAALLY high expectations on me... on all my sisters so he rubbed off on me... I just want my kids to do something meaningful and be able to provide for their families... but I also don't want them to end up with someone who will suck them dry, in case it ends in divorce...Posted by bittercupcakei'm all for that but if my children just want to be hair stylists, i'm all for that too. lol
Lol... as my papa says "chusma!" Basically people who don't behave, think, or have the same ambitions as the people in my family...
what is low class? a hillbilly? 😛 someone who picks his nose in public? poops in bed? 😆
I just don't want them to end up with someone who will corrupt their good deeds or intentions... I'm working hard as a parent to make sure they grow up to be descent, hard working, ambitious adults... who are in touch with their spirituality and I don't want them to end up in a relationship with a dead beat, smoker, lazy, or dependent person.
Everyone in my family is a hard worker... my nephew broke up with his high school girlfriend of 4-5 years because she had ZERO ambition... he basically told her "in my family we don't want people who aren't planning to do anything with their lives... you don't want to finish school (she wanted to get married right after high school and be a house wife) and do something with their lives" so he dropped her and is now dating some other chick ? ... he's studying to become a respiratory therapist
My other nephew is also the same way... he's dating his high school sweetheart and they're both in the army located in different bases but they're still going strong... he's intending to marry her after he finishes school.. he wants to be an architect - not sure what she wants to do, can't remember.
My other nieces are studying to become lawyers and speech therapists....
Still don't know what my son and daughter are going to be when they grow up... but I'm pretty sure with our high expectations they will do something better - my daughter wants to be a cop ... my son is the one that doesn't know yet lol all he says is that he wants to make money (since his dad makes good $ $ ).... but he has expressed interest in artistic pursuits, so idk
you're pretty ambitious for a mother. too high expectations.
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that's really not your control is it?
if my boy has alot of money and is wealthy, i dont care if he marries a simple country girl with small ambitions because that's not how i was raised.
your thought of training would really make me not like you personally.
and i have ambitious family members too, but they dont impose their control or are snobby like your ideals.
so the verdict is..you're a very very CONTROLLING mother...
ewwww...
to bittercakecups. lol
ewwww...
to bittercakecups. lol
Posted by GC02you're married to a libra with scorpio venus but you dont know his moon? no account of his rising? 😕Posted by lisabethur8Theirs a possibility with the father having a Leo moon ☺️??Posted by GC02we have an aquarius nephew but his father is a scorpio sun, leo moon. what do you think will happen?
I have an aqua son who has a pisces venus, theirs no hope in me trying to control his love life one day lol, but he's only two so it's hard to imagine.
I'll let his libra dad with scorpio venus be the one to advise him, they'll probably be best friends anyways.
you think they wont be good friends?
I've heard good things about aqua and leo friendship.click to expand
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Well it is what it is... i am who I am, and that's how I was raised and that is our expectations.. if you are content with your son settling for someone like that then that's on you...but i wasn't raised that way. My father had high expectations, my family as a whole has high expectations because we Know we can do better... it's also about realistically speaking... a girl who has no ambition will not fit into the mold of my son, it just doesn't work. You always have one feeling unappreciated or lower than the other... I've lived it with my ex and seen it in other couples...Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Lol... my dad had REAALLY high expectations on me... on all my sisters so he rubbed off on me... I just want my kids to do something meaningful and be able to provide for their families... but I also don't want them to end up with someone who will suck them dry, in case it ends in divorce...Posted by bittercupcakei'm all for that but if my children just want to be hair stylists, i'm all for that too. lol
Lol... as my papa says "chusma!" Basically people who don't behave, think, or have the same ambitions as the people in my family...
what is low class? a hillbilly? 😛 someone who picks his nose in public? poops in bed? 😆
I just don't want them to end up with someone who will corrupt their good deeds or intentions... I'm working hard as a parent to make sure they grow up to be descent, hard working, ambitious adults... who are in touch with their spirituality and I don't want them to end up in a relationship with a dead beat, smoker, lazy, or dependent person.
Everyone in my family is a hard worker... my nephew broke up with his high school girlfriend of 4-5 years because she had ZERO ambition... he basically told her "in my family we don't want people who aren't planning to do anything with their lives... you don't want to finish school (she wanted to get married right after high school and be a house wife) and do something with their lives" so he dropped her and is now dating some other chick ? ... he's studying to become a respiratory therapist
My other nephew is also the same way... he's dating his high school sweetheart and they're both in the army located in different bases but they're still going strong... he's intending to marry her after he finishes school.. he wants to be an architect - not sure what she wants to do, can't remember.
My other nieces are studying to become lawyers and speech therapists....
Still don't know what my son and daughter are going to be when they grow up... but I'm pretty sure with our high expectations they will do something better - my daughter wants to be a cop ... my son is the one that doesn't know yet lol all he says is that he wants to make money (since his dad makes good $ $ ).... but he has expressed interest in artistic pursuits, so idk
you're pretty ambitious for a mother. too high expectations.
that's really not your control is it?
if my boy has alot of money and is wealthy, i dont care if he marries a simple country girl with small ambitions because that's not how i was raised.
your thought of training would really make me not like you personally.
and i have ambitious family members too, but they dont impose their control or are snobby like your ideals.
While it would be ideal to live in past times with a housewife... reality is different nowadays. That mindset is antiquated... and being ambitious does in no way equate to being simple. You can still be driven and be humble... but nowadays even simple girls are NOT humble... so might as well find someone who fits your mold.click to expand
do you really hear yourself?? "My son will not fit into the mold....."
you are very controlling.
GROSS.
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Lol I can be like I said... but it's more of having high expectations for my children...
so the verdict is..you're a very very CONTROLLING mother...
ewwww...
to bittercakecups. lol
And who are you to say?... lol as if you're mold is ok? Seriously? ?
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there's actually plenty of housewives in my family and my husband's. lol
and they are doing very well. 😛
so whatever, don't knock it.
if people are doing fine, you shouldnt worry about it.
Posted by bittercupcake
I wanted to add that you @lisabethur are not taking into account family dynamic.... if you are raised in an environment where it's toxic, chances are as you grow up, you will seek out toxic relationships....
It's also the same with people who have certain expectations... if your family is held to a certain regard... coming across someone who doesn't fit your parents mold.. will not sit with you...
It's one of the reasons why all my sisters and I have no end up with a certain type of man... because we use our fathers template on what a man should be... and this could be with anyone including mothers... so the fact that i have high expectations for myself, my son will see that as the mold that he needs to seek out, especially if it's consistent in the females in our family. My mother was also this way... it's the reason why my parents have built a small empire of fortune... so my son will seek out relationships like this as well...
But if he does happen to become enamored with someone who isn't good for him... as a mother i will not stand idly by... while I may not force him to break up as this never works... I will try and reason with him, if he's adamant. So in that regard yes, I am very controlling. Because I'm not about to allow my son to chose a woman who's not good for them...
And good as in, druggie, violent, toxic .. you know
don't you have Scorpio and Aquarius placements?
because Aquarius is the sign of breaking ALL the rules.. (especially for love)
and Scorpio is EXALTED in uranus....
Posted by bittercupcakebecause i'm not dumb. lolPosted by lisabethur8OMg ??♂️I'm not worried about YOUR life! Do you seriously talk out of your ass?? LolPosted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Lol I can be like I said... but it's more of having high expectations for my children...
so the verdict is..you're a very very CONTROLLING mother...
ewwww...
to bittercakecups. lol
And who are you to say?... lol as if you're mold is ok? Seriously? ?
there's actually plenty of housewives in my family and my husband's. lol
and they are doing very well. 😛
so whatever, don't knock it.
if people are doing fine, you shouldnt worry about it.
You asked a question about MY kids...and I simply answered the dynamic of my family and now you're talking about YOUR family ?
Unlike you missy, I'm not judging your family based on my expectations... i could care less! I'm talking about MY family and the fact that you're calling my family gross shows how ignorant you are lol... seriously you ask then get defensive... like wth ?click to expand
i know whatcha doing. lol
lmao@ you being an Aquarius hahahaha.
because you are soooooo NOT being the little rebel you are, telling your family to fuck you if they try to control you when it comes to love....
😛 😆
because you are soooooo NOT being the little rebel you are, telling your family to fuck you if they try to control you when it comes to love....
😛 😆
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8-_- yes ... but this isn't about astrology Lisa! This is about psychology... we emulate our upbringing seeking out relationships like those of our parents.... everyone in my family is ambitious therefore the probably of my son being ambitious, which I'm beginning to see it now more and more, shows that he will be the same way....Posted by bittercupcake
I wanted to add that you @lisabethur are not taking into account family dynamic.... if you are raised in an environment where it's toxic, chances are as you grow up, you will seek out toxic relationships....
It's also the same with people who have certain expectations... if your family is held to a certain regard... coming across someone who doesn't fit your parents mold.. will not sit with you...
It's one of the reasons why all my sisters and I have no end up with a certain type of man... because we use our fathers template on what a man should be... and this could be with anyone including mothers... so the fact that i have high expectations for myself, my son will see that as the mold that he needs to seek out, especially if it's consistent in the females in our family. My mother was also this way... it's the reason why my parents have built a small empire of fortune... so my son will seek out relationships like this as well...
But if he does happen to become enamored with someone who isn't good for him... as a mother i will not stand idly by... while I may not force him to break up as this never works... I will try and reason with him, if he's adamant. So in that regard yes, I am very controlling. Because I'm not about to allow my son to chose a woman who's not good for them...
And good as in, druggie, violent, toxic .. you know
don't you have Scorpio and Aquarius placements?
because Aquarius is the sign of breaking ALL the rules.. (especially for love)
and Scorpio is EXALTED in uranus....
That's what I'm trying to tell you! Lol
But to answer your Q yes... Scorpio 4th dominant, MC / Pluto Scorpio ... square to Aqua sun/Venus, opposition Marsclick to expand
no you choose your own life and choices...
but hey, if you are under arranged marraiges. you gotta do what you gotta do. *shrug*
i would totally run away... but i'm not dumb i would make money and save up and run away with my man...
Posted by GC02Posted by lisabethur8I know his whole chart hunny!! Das my man?Posted by GC02you're married to a libra with scorpio venus but you dont know his moon? no account of his rising? 😕Posted by lisabethur8Theirs a possibility with the father having a Leo moon ☺️??Posted by GC02we have an aquarius nephew but his father is a scorpio sun, leo moon. what do you think will happen?
I have an aqua son who has a pisces venus, theirs no hope in me trying to control his love life one day lol, but he's only two so it's hard to imagine.
I'll let his libra dad with scorpio venus be the one to advise him, they'll probably be best friends anyways.
you think they wont be good friends?
I've heard good things about aqua and leo friendship.
He has a Taurus moon like me, and a cap rising while I'm Taurus rising.
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i like the gif. lol
Posted by GC02I'm aqua with Pisces Venus. I bet he's a cutie ?
I have an aqua son who has a pisces venus, theirs no hope in me trying to control his love life one day lol, but he's only two so it's hard to imagine.
I'll let his libra dad with scorpio venus be the one to advise him, they'll probably be best friends anyways.
Posted by bittercupcakei'm a total NIGHTMARE to parents if i am in LOVE....Posted by lisabethur8Lol doing what? I'm talking about MY family... how the hell would I know about yours? ?Posted by bittercupcakebecause i'm not dumb. lolPosted by lisabethur8OMg ??♂️I'm not worried about YOUR life! Do you seriously talk out of your ass?? LolPosted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Lol I can be like I said... but it's more of having high expectations for my children...
so the verdict is..you're a very very CONTROLLING mother...
ewwww...
to bittercakecups. lol
And who are you to say?... lol as if you're mold is ok? Seriously? ?
there's actually plenty of housewives in my family and my husband's. lol
and they are doing very well. 😛
so whatever, don't knock it.
if people are doing fine, you shouldnt worry about it.
You asked a question about MY kids...and I simply answered the dynamic of my family and now you're talking about YOUR family ?
Unlike you missy, I'm not judging your family based on my expectations... i could care less! I'm talking about MY family and the fact that you're calling my family gross shows how ignorant you are lol... seriously you ask then get defensive... like wth ?
i know whatcha doing. lol
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i will totally break the rules.
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Ugh ? I could careless about me being an Aquarius if I'm not going to do anything with my life... besides I never fit into the typical Aquarius mold... I can be a rebel but when it comes my financial security... then yeah I'm not about to be unpractical...
lmao@ you being an Aquarius hahahaha.
because you are soooooo NOT being the little rebel you are, telling your family to fuck you if they try to control you when it comes to love....
😛 😆
I think your problem is that you assume love cures all... which is fine, for YOU! You're content with being on your husbands Beck and call, which I am NOT... love for me is not enough to sustain a relationship... I HAD that... love doesn't put food on the table, doesn't pay the bills, nor is it any guarantees of love and respect.. love alone doesn't make a relationship work, if you have NO financial stability, or any other stability, love dies quickly... and the couples that have sticking power tend to be the ones that stayed because they had similar mindset/goals.click to expand
ugh....girl
you can't sleep with your money.
youre too much in the MIND.
and i understand about financial stability. lol
and yeah i agree, to be with someone with the SAME goals/mindset.
😛
Posted by bittercupcakewell i'm ALREADY married and i love it. lolPosted by lisabethur8Lol I'm talking to a brick wall... now you're talking about arranged marriages?? ... ?Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8-_- yes ... but this isn't about astrology Lisa! This is about psychology... we emulate our upbringing seeking out relationships like those of our parents.... everyone in my family is ambitious therefore the probably of my son being ambitious, which I'm beginning to see it now more and more, shows that he will be the same way....Posted by bittercupcake
I wanted to add that you @lisabethur are not taking into account family dynamic.... if you are raised in an environment where it's toxic, chances are as you grow up, you will seek out toxic relationships....
It's also the same with people who have certain expectations... if your family is held to a certain regard... coming across someone who doesn't fit your parents mold.. will not sit with you...
It's one of the reasons why all my sisters and I have no end up with a certain type of man... because we use our fathers template on what a man should be... and this could be with anyone including mothers... so the fact that i have high expectations for myself, my son will see that as the mold that he needs to seek out, especially if it's consistent in the females in our family. My mother was also this way... it's the reason why my parents have built a small empire of fortune... so my son will seek out relationships like this as well...
But if he does happen to become enamored with someone who isn't good for him... as a mother i will not stand idly by... while I may not force him to break up as this never works... I will try and reason with him, if he's adamant. So in that regard yes, I am very controlling. Because I'm not about to allow my son to chose a woman who's not good for them...
And good as in, druggie, violent, toxic .. you know
don't you have Scorpio and Aquarius placements?
because Aquarius is the sign of breaking ALL the rules.. (especially for love)
and Scorpio is EXALTED in uranus....
That's what I'm trying to tell you! Lol
But to answer your Q yes... Scorpio 4th dominant, MC / Pluto Scorpio ... square to Aqua sun/Venus, opposition Mars
no you choose your own life and choices...
but hey, if you are under arranged marraiges. you gotta do what you gotta do. *shrug*
i would totally run away... but i'm not dumb i would make money and save up and run away with my man...
I'm done, typical Aqua... can't reason with one.click to expand
so of course im gonna be bias.
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8It's not about being stuck in the mind girl... I gave up everything for LOVE and I got screwed over twice lol... noooot gonna do that again... gotta make sure I got me a way out. Eventually I will find it, but it ain't my focus right nowPosted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Ugh ? I could careless about me being an Aquarius if I'm not going to do anything with my life... besides I never fit into the typical Aquarius mold... I can be a rebel but when it comes my financial security... then yeah I'm not about to be unpractical...
lmao@ you being an Aquarius hahahaha.
because you are soooooo NOT being the little rebel you are, telling your family to fuck you if they try to control you when it comes to love....
😛 😆
I think your problem is that you assume love cures all... which is fine, for YOU! You're content with being on your husbands Beck and call, which I am NOT... love for me is not enough to sustain a relationship... I HAD that... love doesn't put food on the table, doesn't pay the bills, nor is it any guarantees of love and respect.. love alone doesn't make a relationship work, if you have NO financial stability, or any other stability, love dies quickly... and the couples that have sticking power tend to be the ones that stayed because they had similar mindset/goals.
ugh....girl
you can't sleep with your money.
youre too much in the MIND.
and i understand about financial stability. lol
and yeah i agree, to be with someone with the SAME goals/mindset.
😛
Gotta make the $ $click to expand
ahhh okkkayy i see what you mean. well that fucking sucks. twice!!? i did too. 2x unlucky...
well yeah of course make the $ $ cause there are some men out there that won't give you the stability.
3rd times the charm.
then youre gonna be singing...
& everything feels magical. 😄
Posted by GC02
I have an aqua son who has a pisces venus, theirs no hope in me trying to control his love life one day lol, but he's only two so it's hard to imagine.
How long of a maternity leave did you take for this?
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Yuuuupp.... so I'm just focusing on having my career and making the money... I figure God will eventually put everything into place for me... *fingers crossed*Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8It's not about being stuck in the mind girl... I gave up everything for LOVE and I got screwed over twice lol... noooot gonna do that again... gotta make sure I got me a way out. Eventually I will find it, but it ain't my focus right nowPosted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Ugh ? I could careless about me being an Aquarius if I'm not going to do anything with my life... besides I never fit into the typical Aquarius mold... I can be a rebel but when it comes my financial security... then yeah I'm not about to be unpractical...
lmao@ you being an Aquarius hahahaha.
because you are soooooo NOT being the little rebel you are, telling your family to fuck you if they try to control you when it comes to love....
😛 😆
I think your problem is that you assume love cures all... which is fine, for YOU! You're content with being on your husbands Beck and call, which I am NOT... love for me is not enough to sustain a relationship... I HAD that... love doesn't put food on the table, doesn't pay the bills, nor is it any guarantees of love and respect.. love alone doesn't make a relationship work, if you have NO financial stability, or any other stability, love dies quickly... and the couples that have sticking power tend to be the ones that stayed because they had similar mindset/goals.
ugh....girl
you can't sleep with your money.
youre too much in the MIND.
and i understand about financial stability. lol
and yeah i agree, to be with someone with the SAME goals/mindset.
😛
Gotta make the $ $
ahhh okkkayy i see what you mean. well that fucking sucks. twice!!? i did too. 2x unlucky...
well yeah of course make the $ $ cause there are some men out there that won't give you the stability.
3rd times the charm.
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my family and i are going on vacation, so i won't be here tomorrow and im gonna be doing an And's announcment of not being around for a long time. lol
but, hip hip hooray, girl. you gotta focus on "You", if you dont have anyone who is worthy of you.
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
1) I'd try my hardest to stay out of the relationship but I'd also try to be non judgmental and approachable so they feel they can come to me if they're having any troubles with the relationship.
2) I don't like the word 'allow' in this context cos it seems silly that a grownup needs their parents permission to marry but I understand what you're saying. It's 100% up to my kid who they marry but if I have any reservations or worries about their partner I would let them know. Again I would try my hardest to let them know in a way that's non judgmental and comes from a place of genuine concern and care.
3) I have no idea how controlling I am.
4) I hope I wouldn't. I would want them to be their own person. But I think it would be cool to share some interests.
5) I guess it would depend on their age. A toddler would need more control over them than a teenager. Generally speaking I would try to find the perfect balance of freedom and control. Don't ask me how I would do that though. Knowing myself, I would probably swing from being a helicopter parent to a free range parent leaving the kid confused.
awareness is an awesome thing!!
i am controlling in a way that i monitor food/nutrition, like i won't give my child sweets, and im more for children eating healthy, and buy foods that aren't high in sugar intake, like no colas, and not much junk food. if for snacks, a bunch of cut up fruits and veggies (like carrot sticks and cucumbers and celery sticks) and of course the crackers with cheese. it all depends.
but as they are adults we're not going to be choosing for them. Unless of course you live in an environment where you have to have arranged marraiges. sometimes that is beneficial in that culture/setting. it will help.
but in cultures where non marriage arrangements are not the norm.... it's they choose but it's good that your child (you general) introduce their SO to the family.
wellll teenagers, i think they need some control too. They can't be out all hours of the night. They need to have some guidance too. And to call in, ect. they are still babies to us, so i can't see how it's gonna change even for teenagers. im talking about when they are past college and meet some nice young woman or nice young man.. lol
in dedication to babies!!
^__^
^__^
Posted by lisabethur8The mother isn't a bad woman, but she is so focused on her career and making money that the kids don't have enough of her attention Lisa. Silly woman doesn't seem to have her priorities in the right orderPosted by MyStarsShine
Just to add, i had a controlling mother......my sis and i both rebelled . I found it insulting and annoying that when i became a woman, she STILL tried to control....i felt like i couldn't breath half the time
She didn't know how to let go...she cost me quite a lot in therapy....
Luckily i have learned from her mistakes
If you listen carefully, our children will show us the way
Posted by MyStarsShinethat is horrible about your son's friend.
A friend of our son is struggling with her over controlling mother. She is 18 and is being treated like a baby
She has started to use drugs because she feels overpowered by her mother who tries to keep a tight leash on her. She is trying to numb it all out.....bless her
i've honestly heard of this in real life...
where the mother is very domineering and controlling. severely so, and she is alone (this has notihng to do with any single women who are great mothers) but it is part of the theme, where no man can stand to be around her. And if she is with someone she harasses him and berates him like a harpy.
and the young woman, the young daughter becomes addicted to drugs because she tries to escape the harbinger controlling woman who has raised her with no love.
it's weird cause when you meet these women, you think they are awesome and cool peeps.
then later, if you live with them for a short while and see their daughters and sons become drug addicts and abandon their babies to her, you wonder what has gone wrong? but i dont know...some would say blame it on her, but we are all responsible for raising our children and part of that is to hope they dont get addicted to drugs or alcohol.
but i dont know, i am just a messenger of mercury...at times from what i've witnessed in life...
also, to add, it is also the fact that the daughter is weakened, and cannot hold herself up, and she needs her mother..
but the mother cannot give her the support and love she needs and that is a travesty. 😢
who is the fault? Sometimes the mother who has become a harbinger of harpy abuse, has a troubled past and upbringing herself. 😢click to expand
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