Women....Define Good Sex

What constitutes as good sex for you? ( orgasming every time?)

What constitutes as mediocre sex ( feels good at times but you don't climax?)

I just realized women might have different meanings for these terms depending on their experience and sexuality.

Good sex to me has the following components:

Foreplay (and lots of it)

Enough time to let me get aroused

Shit talking...so much shit talking

A guy knowing my body. He knows what spots to kiss, lick, touch.

Eye contact

Oral sex most definitely!

And of course orgasms. It may not be every time, but at least 80% of the time is fine.

Mediocre sex is:

Getting off before I do

Only feels good for a moment and then it's back to nothing

And bad sex is:

Getting off before I do

No feeling of pleasure at all

No foreplay

No oral

Not allowing me to get aroused

Being TOO rough

A minute man

A little dick (that you don't know how to use)

Losing your erection midstream

Good sex:

-Constant stream of pleasure

-Maybe an orgasm or two

-Positive or constructive feedback

-Eye contact

-Receptiveness (i.e. listening to my requests)

Mediocre:

-No pleasure

-Minute man

Bad sex:

-Losing an erection and not being able to get it back up.

Sex for me is really only bad when the guy loses his erection and gets all embarrassed and closed off. Other than that it's mediocre-good.

Posted by Whorpio

Bad sex:

-Losing an erection and not being able to get it back up.

Sex for me is really only bad when the guy loses his erection and gets all embarrassed and closed off. Other than that it's mediocre-good.

Losing an election is the worst. It kills the vibe and even if he tries to make it up with oral or anything else, it just isn't the same.

Great sex- Lots of kissing, touching, massaging whole body with hands, thick dick ??

Posted by Lilianni
Losing an election is the worst. It kills the vibe and even if he tries to make it up with oral or anything else, it just isn't the same.

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Sorry couldn't help myself

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Posted by Whorpio

Bad sex:

-Losing an erection and not being able to get it back up.

Sex for me is really only bad when the guy loses his erection and gets all embarrassed and closed off. Other than that it's mediocre-good.

Losing an erection is the worst. It kills the vibe and even if he tries to make it up with oral or anything else, it just isn't the same.

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If a guy loses his erection I'll try to talk to him. Sometimes we can get it back up, other times we can't so we just talk until time is up.

It's the men who get all insecure about it I have problems with. They get all touchey-feely then something sets them off and they're like little boys —

Posted by pinkbird03
Great sex- Lots of kissing, touching, massaging whole body with hands, thick dick ??

does it matter if you orgasm?

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Posted by bittercupcake
Emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual connection...

I'm quite demanding ?

Me too, except that's ask him to marry you on the spot kind of sex in my book. 😆

true but honestly I'm not too experienced with many partners so ... I can only go based on my relationship standards lol

To me sex is only good when there's an emotional connection... other than that.... it's eh

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what if you have an emotional connection but don't orgasm?

Undressing the mind.

Tasting every thought.

Matching stamina as

we make love cerebrally.

Wet my deep curiosities.

Penetrate my acumen.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by pinkbird03
Great sex- Lots of kissing, touching, massaging whole body with hands, thick dick ??

does it matter if you orgasm?

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Honestly my experience with the two guys that have been really thick, nope. Still feel so amazing either way! I should add that I did/do have a mental connection/chemistry with both guys so that probably helps. But still big difference to sex with other previous boyfriends.

Posted by m200991
You know... I've probably 'been in the intimate company of' way, way, way, more men than two-thirds of the women on here that you're seeking feedback from.... err, wait... that words may have come out... wrong-ish. I think my point was there though. haha.

But this is about women defining good sex, not men.

feelings

Posted by LibraMudra
Kissing really gets me going. That passionate, face touching, neck grabbing, hair pulling between fingers, lip biting/licking/sucking, alternating between tender, soft pressure and hard af mouth to mouth. That chiseled jaw in my hands. Jfc. Tear my clothes off.

When special attention is made to the skin of my body especially around the booty/lower back.

The caring passion of pleasing me. Rubbing me and licking me will make me seriously go crazy on that dick. Just slave over it.

I like to pretend I am shy then finally have him take over and consume me. All of me. Rough. Real rough with naughty smiles and laughs. Eye contact during naughty talk. Hard and fast switched up to slow and sensual.

Welp, now I am gonna get some after work

Hot

😛

Send him over to me lol.

Let's get cheesy...

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
What constitutes as good sex for you? ( orgasming every time?)

What constitutes as mediocre sex ( feels good at times but you don't climax?)

I just realized women might have different meanings for these terms depending on their experience and sexuality.

Remote orgazm. While on the phone...listening to the VOICE...

Why did you have to ask that? ❤️

Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Good sex is when you constantly get wet every single pounding.

Do you think he likes swimming?

Great sex ?

The anticipation, mind sex (if you stimulate me mentally by talking to me constantly I will keep wanting you) and then A good mix of dominance and sweetness... I'm submissive.

i feel like the majority of women on here have low expectations and subsequently low standards.

Posted by Astrology101

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i feel like the majority of women on here have low expectations.

How so?

What is good, great, bad sex for you?

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an emotional connection is required just to even have sex in my book

that aside

mediocre sex = 1 orgasm...(weak in stregnth)

good sex = 1 orgasm ( medium --> strong)

great sex = multiple orgasms , emotionally freeing , sharing of similar kinks , addictive

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
i feel like the majority of women on here have low expectations.

How so?

What is good, great, bad sex for you?

an emotional connection is required just to even have sex in my book

that aside

mediocre sex = 1 orgasm...(weak in stregnth)

good sex = 1 orgasm ( medium --> strong)

great sex = multiple orgasms , emotionally freeing , sharing of similar kinks , addictive

I didn't say in so many words before but l agree. I think this might be a standard for everyone too.

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i started this topic because i have a lot of straight friends that would often describe sex with who they were dating ...differently after they had broken up

it use to confuse the hell out of me.

when they were with the guy and "in love" the sex was good...supposedly

after they had broken up...it was mediocre..or even bad.

in reality the sex was always really one sided affair and they rarely got off unless they were on top and if their partners could last long enough

i think a lot of women are settling for mediocre sex and calling it good because of the feel good chemicals ( emotional bonding) and their age ( younger inexperienced women tend to not know any better)

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Good sex is when you constantly get wet every single pounding.

Do you think he likes swimming?

His tadpoles does.

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How many does he have?

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
i feel like the majority of women on here have low expectations.

How so?

What is good, great, bad sex for you?

an emotional connection is required just to even have sex in my book

that aside

mediocre sex = 1 orgasm...(weak in stregnth)

good sex = 1 orgasm ( medium --> strong)

great sex = multiple orgasms , emotionally freeing , sharing of similar kinks , addictive

I didn't say in so many words before but l agree. I think this might be a standard for everyone too.

i started this topic because i have a lot of straight friends that would often describe sex with who they were dating ...differently after they had broken up

it use to confuse the hell out of me.

when they were with the guy and "in love" the sex was good...supposedly

after they had broken up...it was mediocre..or even bad.

in reality the sex was always really one sided affair and they rarely got off unless they were on top and if their partners could last long enough

i think a lot of women are settling for mediocre sex and calling it good because of the feel good chemicals ( emotional bonding) and their age ( younger inexperienced women tend to not know any better)

I agree.. I think it could be the bonding... however I think women are aware of the bad/mediocre sex... but we tend to undervalue sex for emotional bonding.

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but you can get the bonding from just cuddling and a close friendhsip.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
i feel like the majority of women on here have low expectations.

How so?

What is good, great, bad sex for you?

an emotional connection is required just to even have sex in my book

that aside

mediocre sex = 1 orgasm...(weak in stregnth)

good sex = 1 orgasm ( medium --> strong)

great sex = multiple orgasms , emotionally freeing , sharing of similar kinks , addictive

I didn't say in so many words before but l agree. I think this might be a standard for everyone too.

i started this topic because i have a lot of straight friends that would often describe sex with who they were dating ...differently after they had broken up

it use to confuse the hell out of me.

when they were with the guy and "in love" the sex was good...supposedly

after they had broken up...it was mediocre..or even bad.

in reality the sex was always really one sided affair and they rarely got off unless they were on top and if their partners could last long enough

i think a lot of women are settling for mediocre sex and calling it good because of the feel good chemicals ( emotional bonding) and their age ( younger inexperienced women tend to not know any better)

I agree.. I think it could be the bonding... however I think women are aware of the bad/mediocre sex... but we tend to undervalue sex for emotional bonding.

but you can get the bonding from just cuddling and a close friendhsip.

I think people who haven't had great sex have no idea... so they might not realise.

But women do tend to think of other factors when choosing a life partner.

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yeah

great sex won't keep you

but CAN make a relationship last longer than it actually should

Posted by LePetitFisk

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
i feel like the majority of women on here have low expectations.

I think you might want to ask "What does sex in a relationship mean to you?" to get a full grasp of how each female define what is "good."

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No.

I know what sex means to a lot of women.

I just wish that they would expand that definition to be more about having a lover who is willing to listen and put their needs first.

my fear is that women are still taking what they can get..and convincing themselves that sex is supposed to look/ feel a certain way and that they should be happy that they have a partner and that they are desired by their partner.

my point is we haven't made much progress .

ladies you can have it all.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
i feel like the majority of women on here have low expectations.

I think you might want to ask "What does sex in a relationship mean to you?" to get a full grasp of how each female define what is "good."

No.

I know what sex means to a lot of women.

I just wish that they would expand that definition to be more about having a lover who is willing to listen and put their needs first.

my fear is that women are still taking what they can get..and convincing themselves that sex is supposed to look/ feel a certain way and that they should be happy that they have a partner and that they are desired by their partner.

my point is we haven't made much progress .

ladies you can have it all.

lol. Ok, chief.

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You don't agree ?

Sex is not just sex . It's a gauge of how your partner relates to you ...whether they are selfish or not whether they can listen and communicate with you well or not whether they care enough to ask what you want or not

Good sex is first physically satisfying. Im not going to lie and say there is no amazing sex without an emotional connection, there is, but it's like chocolate cake. All frivolity.

Secondly if there is an emotion connection and it's physically satisfying, you're getting into fruit. Nutrition and sweetness, nature's candy.

If there is an emotional connection, physical satisfaction and a soulful connection, you have just won the lottery. Soul food.

The emotional connectedness and physical satisfaction will be different for every person and within every relationship. Soulful connections are hard to find. Don't judge yourself too harshly, 2 out of 3 ain't bad.

I've had some mind blowing sex over the last few years damn

Two people in particular I had almost no emo connection to. I don't enjoy sex unless I get off first from head. And I don't sleep with anyone who doesn't give me head first and makes me cum.

Posted by EnochtheWise
Interesting pov's so far... @LadyNeptune - how would u answer this?

One of my most memorable orgasms happened in the shower pressed up against him while he mercilessly held the shower head to me. Came so hard I blacked out for a bit.

So for me there isn't a perfect equation that equals good sex. The only thing that is universal is finding the O. Good sex has orgasms as the main component...end of.

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Posted by EnochtheWise
Interesting pov's so far... @LadyNeptune - how would u answer this?

One of my most memorable orgasms happened in the shower pressed up against him while he mercilessly held the shower head to me. Came so hard I blacked out for a bit.

So for me there isn't a perfect equation that equals good sex. The only thing that is universal is finding the O. Good sex has orgasms as the main component...end of.

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you always share the best night time stories.lol