you think that maybe

there's a pattern of you finding yourself with someone that resembles your father in some way?

notable placements:

saturn conjunct ic

chiron conjunct sun

chiron opposite sun

sun conjunct saturn

sun pluto aspects

my dad's chart is basically fire + water

and i've got this attraction to combinations of aries/pisces (don't ask why, that's just how it is)

maybe they don't exactly resemble each other physically but overall traits match up pretty well

my dad never criticized me (except that one time i disappeared for half a year which he's mostly hurt by than anything else really but i'm a virgo so i gotta ghost from time to time). he supported anything i did no matter how it changed every other week like if i'd get into miniatures then move on to gemcutting/stonecutting then next i'm taking fencing lessons. not one negative nancy word. like you gotta persephone.

if there was anything close to a criticism about him, it would be that he is often distant, an escapist but even then, those are traits that i myself would have. and strangely, traits that guys i date usually have lol very odd.

strange how similarity creates tiffs.

we flake on each other L O L.

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My dad died when I was young, so it's something that I'm aware of consciously. I have compared everyone I've dated to my dad, and I tend to get annoyed when they don't measure up to some trait he had.

My Saturn aspects...

Saturn trine moon

Saturn conjunct Mercury

Saturn inconjunct Neptune

Saturn square Pluto

ohh and i'm not talking about it like he always has to be like faultless

but that he's just VERY similar to your dad

like i know my dad's not perfect but it seems as if he's the standard

if someone for example was too clingy (my dad is affectionate but also can be distant) like that does not fly well with me. it feels fake and suffocating lol. there should be a bit of distance. and i also personally ghost on someone critical of me, who doesn't give me unending support for my ever-changing pursuits.

@Phangus

i know this girl from way back and i'm usually polite but rare timeS i'm too blunt when i'm irritated/upset so i said something mean (not particularly very mean imho) to her in front of our other friends and she bursts into tears and straight up told me that even her parents don't talk to her like that.

initially thought that was weird but then i realized maybe that's like a standard or something.

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My dad died when I was young, so it's something that I'm aware of consciously. I have compared everyone I've dated to my dad, and I tend to get annoyed when they don't measure up to some trait he had.

My Saturn aspects...

Saturn trine moon

Saturn conjunct Mercury

Saturn inconjunct Neptune

Saturn square Pluto

ohh and i'm not talking about it like he always has to be like faultless

but that he's just VERY similar to your dad

like i know my dad's not perfect but it seems as if he's the standard

if someone for example was too clingy (my dad is affectionate but also can be distant) like that does not fly well with me. it feels fake and suffocating lol. there should be a bit of distance. and i also personally ghost on someone critical of me, who doesn't give me unending support for my ever-changing pursuits.

I have a romanticized memory of my father and abandonment issues related to his death, so I don't think my experience is really standard. I also didn't realize I was comparing right away. I'm not sure when I became aware I was doing it, but it's obvious to me now. He was very stereotypically masculine, and he was very funny and enjoyed life a lot. He was also honest in a raw way, a what you see is what you get type.

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my sun is in the 12th house (death of the father)

mine was largely absent but extremely supportive and affectionate the rare times that he's actually around

so now i feel irritated when a guy is always constantly trying to videochat with me or expect me to cling to them or whatever

I think I went the opposite, both in looks and temperament.

My father is very cold and non emotional. My dude is a fountain of affection.

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@Phangus

i know this girl from way back and i'm usually polite but rare timeS i'm too blunt when i'm irritated/upset so i said something mean (not particularly very mean imho) to her in front of our other friends and she bursts into tears and straight up told me that even her parents don't talk to her like that.

initially thought that was weird but then i realized maybe that's like a standard or something.

That's interesting. I'll have to think on that. It probably is a standard for me too. My parents never spoke harshly or meanly to me, and they never insulted me, and I don't take kindly to being spoken to that way.

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my dad had been countless times disappointing to me with the constant absence but not a word of criticism from him (and in fact, i'm mostly the one who would voice out my dismay lol). that's why i immediately reject negging and the men who use them.

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@Phangus

i know this girl from way back and i'm usually polite but rare timeS i'm too blunt when i'm irritated/upset so i said something mean (not particularly very mean imho) to her in front of our other friends and she bursts into tears and straight up told me that even her parents don't talk to her like that.

initially thought that was weird but then i realized maybe that's like a standard or something.

That's interesting. I'll have to think on that. It probably is a standard for me too. My parents never spoke harshly or meanly to me, and they never insulted me, and I don't take kindly to being spoken to that way.

my dad had been countless times disappointing to me with the constant absence but not a word of criticism from him (and in fact, i'm mostly the one who would voice out my dismay lol). that's why i immediately reject negging and the men who use them.

My dad teased my mom, sometimes the point of making her scream his name and smack him, but it was never insults. He treated her like her shit didn't stink to be honest. Gee, wonder why I expect to be treated like a princess...

I'm glad you don't let the negging work on you.

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i once dated this pisces sun/cancer moon in the past (just the one date and i immediately ghosted) coz he would criticize me over dumb things. they're really cranky and very irritable, not at all chill most of them tbh. and i'm the virgo! i'd rather talk about nonsense and just chill. then when i tried to get a convo going, he tells me to chill! these people so self-unaware sometimes.

that was the most critical person i've ever met besides a cap sun/libra moon. maybe it's the cap/cancer axis i don't know but that's like #1 thing i hate.

any slight to my ego and you get dropped lol coz i'm a type 9 peacemaker personality like i'm not gonna put up with people who don't at least attempt to be as appeasing as i am. like i go out of my way not to make you uncomfortable so i expect the same to be fair.

the beautiful thing with astrology is that there are so many bs factors and variables that you can spend your life finding false correlations like that and convince yourself that they're true.

based scamoomers

@Phangus

honestly better a guy doesn't talk much so less chance of him saying the wrong thing lol

in my case, there's a about a hundred ways you can say the wrong thing to me

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the beautiful thing with astrology is that there are so many bs factors and variables that you can spend your life finding false correlations like that and convince yourself that they're true.

based scamoomers

lol hey i'm not stating these as facts

might convince myself otherwise next week

@HeavyEntertainmentShow

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@Phangus

i know this girl from way back and i'm usually polite but rare timeS i'm too blunt when i'm irritated/upset so i said something mean (not particularly very mean imho) to her in front of our other friends and she bursts into tears and straight up told me that even her parents don't talk to her like that.

initially thought that was weird but then i realized maybe that's like a standard or something.

That's interesting. I'll have to think on that. It probably is a standard for me too. My parents never spoke harshly or meanly to me, and they never insulted me, and I don't take kindly to being spoken to that way.

my dad had been countless times disappointing to me with the constant absence but not a word of criticism from him (and in fact, i'm mostly the one who would voice out my dismay lol). that's why i immediately reject negging and the men who use them.

My dad teased my mom, sometimes the point of making her scream his name and smack him, but it was never insults. He treated her like her shit didn't stink to be honest. Gee, wonder why I expect to be treated like a princess...

I'm glad you don't let the negging work on you.

i once dated this pisces sun/cancer moon in the past (just the one date and i immediately ghosted) coz he would criticize me over dumb things. they're really cranky and very irritable, not at all chill most of them tbh. and i'm the virgo! i'd rather talk about nonsense and just chill. then when i tried to get a convo going, he tells me to chill! these people so self-unaware sometimes.

that was the most critical person i've ever met besides a cap sun/libra moon. maybe it's the cap/cancer axis i don't know but that's like #1 thing i hate.

any slight to my ego and you get dropped lol coz i'm a type 9 peacemaker personality like i'm not gonna put up with people who don't at least attempt to be as appeasing as i am. like i go out of my way not to make you uncomfortable so i expect the same to be fair.

The Pisces can get his manties in a twist sometimes and start being critical of everything. I used to try to defend myself, but that was before my awakening. Now I tell him to stop being a nag (in nicer words than that if I'm not looking for a spat) and try to figure out what he's really upset about.

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they spend a lot of time talking about how chill they are though

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@Phangus

i know this girl from way back and i'm usually polite but rare timeS i'm too blunt when i'm irritated/upset so i said something mean (not particularly very mean imho) to her in front of our other friends and she bursts into tears and straight up told me that even her parents don't talk to her like that.

initially thought that was weird but then i realized maybe that's like a standard or something.

That's interesting. I'll have to think on that. It probably is a standard for me too. My parents never spoke harshly or meanly to me, and they never insulted me, and I don't take kindly to being spoken to that way.

my dad had been countless times disappointing to me with the constant absence but not a word of criticism from him (and in fact, i'm mostly the one who would voice out my dismay lol). that's why i immediately reject negging and the men who use them.

My dad teased my mom, sometimes the point of making her scream his name and smack him, but it was never insults. He treated her like her shit didn't stink to be honest. Gee, wonder why I expect to be treated like a princess...

I'm glad you don't let the negging work on you.

i once dated this pisces sun/cancer moon in the past (just the one date and i immediately ghosted) coz he would criticize me over dumb things. they're really cranky and very irritable, not at all chill most of them tbh. and i'm the virgo! i'd rather talk about nonsense and just chill. then when i tried to get a convo going, he tells me to chill! these people so self-unaware sometimes.

that was the most critical person i've ever met besides a cap sun/libra moon. maybe it's the cap/cancer axis i don't know but that's like #1 thing i hate.

any slight to my ego and you get dropped lol coz i'm a type 9 peacemaker personality like i'm not gonna put up with people who don't at least attempt to be as appeasing as i am. like i go out of my way not to make you uncomfortable so i expect the same to be fair.

The Pisces can get his manties in a twist sometimes and start being critical of everything. I used to try to defend myself, but that was before my awakening. Now I tell him to stop being a nag (in nicer words than that if I'm not looking for a spat) and try to figure out what he's really upset about.

they spend a lot of time talking about how chill they are though

He spent several years pretending to be chill with me before I cracked him. Before that I only saw his Aries Mars a lot in traffic. He gets terrible road rage.

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that's something i can't stand about aries placements

the sudden impulse to rage

though i actually do well with it coz i'm very calm when someone's losing their mind

it's almost like i NEED to be for the balance lol

but i lose my mind at weird times too so..... L O L

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@HeavyEntertainmentShow

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Huh?

Oh. I was just saying that there are astrological & behavioral parallels between my current & my dad, and that I've beat the crap out of both of them. But these kinds of posts get deleted by the nazi who runs the site lol. Another time I wasn't even allowed to talk about my sexual assault. Funny to see what he draws the line at, and what he allows to go on. The latter is always far worse than the former.

So I'll just respond to pm's and keep my 2 cents on the topic to myself. This post will most likely get ganked as well. Oh and I used this gif concerning the idea of being with someone who's anything like my dad.



PS: I failed to notice the section this was posted at. I have a penis, which automatically disqualifies me anyway.

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@HeavyEntertainmentShow

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Huh?

Oh. I was just saying that there are astrological & behavioral parallels between my current & my dad, and that I've beat the crap out of both of them. But these kinds of posts get deleted by the nazi who runs the site lol. Another time I wasn't even allowed to talk about my sexual assault. Funny to see what he draws the line at, and what he allows to go on. The latter is always far worse than the former.

So I'll just respond to pm's and keep my 2 cents on the topic to myself. This post will most likely get ganked as well. Oh and I used this gif concerning the idea of being with someone who's anything like my dad.



PS: I failed to notice the section this was posted at. I have a penis, which automatically disqualifies me anyway.

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i make so many posts that i probably don't even notice what gets deleted lol

but i totally believe in the parental figure as a standard for relationships

Posted by BathHouseCulture

Interesting

I’ve been taking notes of Saturn oppositions.

I have a Sun - Saturn Opposition I was curious what could you share on that? I even have Chiron- Saturn Opposition too.

My first couple marriages more like my stepdad or an issue related to him came out anyway.. the cap very similar in some ways to my dad. Personality not looks. They are both Caps, earth moons, water mars. Could be that.

Saturn square Neptune is my only Saturn aspect