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Posted by WhorpioPosted by alexscariesPosted by Whorpio They have to shower beforehand (or even just the day of), if they don’t want to use a condom I still maintain my own discretion to ask them to wear one (and they have to comply), no photos/videos of me, if they want to choke me they can only use one hand (you’d be surprised how many men think two hands is okay, kind of weird), and I need advanced notice so I can wear a dress/skirt for easy access.
His response: “Okay, my terms have changed. No cell phone, after sunset, and hands zip tied to a pilar”.
I negotiated, saying I need my phone so someone knows my location. That’s when he said “we are done here”.
Surprised you allow choking and bareback.
I’m pretty good at reading people and would not have sex with someone who gave me violent-vibes. Plus I keep my nails sharp and I dig them into men if they get too aggressive.
On the note of bareback, condoms dry me out which creates more problems for me than not using them. Like I said, I’m pretty good at reading people and there’s subtle signs I look for to decide if someone is safe to sleep with raw or if they will be a risk.click to expand


Posted by alexscariesPosted by borednbeautifulPosted by alexscariesPosted by borednbeautifulPosted by alexscariesPosted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
Now I’m curious about what your ground rules are.
They have to shower beforehand (or even just the day of), if they don’t want to use a condom I still maintain my own discretion to ask them to wear one (and they have to comply), no photos/videos of me, if they want to choke me they can only use one hand (you’d be surprised how many men think two hands is okay, kind of weird), and I need advanced notice so I can wear a dress/skirt for easy access.
His response: “Okay, my terms have changed. No cell phone, after sunset, and hands zip tied to a pilar”.
I negotiated, saying I need my phone so someone knows my location. That’s when he said “we are done here”.
Surprised you allow choking and bareback.
It sounds risky and dangerous in many aspects 😕
I'm also not knocking it because they are both things I do. I very rarely do either and I'm very gentle with choking more for the feel of it. Actually more difficult to get someone to choke me. Bareback I don't need my arm twisted much. I know, I'm shameless. 😔
Aren’t you worried about pregnancy and STD/I’s?
I had to ask several times Leo to even pull my hair. To have him “choke” me would even be a bigger deal. And I don’t know if I see the appeal that much? What is so special?
Not really into choking, in the heat of the moment with the right person it could really enhance the experience though. If the person wants it I will give it to them.
TBF if I was worried about pregnancy or diseases I wouldn't have sex. It's a risk reward thing. You can call me mental if you want. In my life I've had bareback with around 10 partners at the most. I'm way more kinkier and experimental than most people it's difficult to understand if you're not wired the same.
Hair pulling is easy. Just grab a big chunk.click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.

Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.
I need to try this choking sensation. But what if things go wrong and he accidentally kills me? 😅
Why don’t you like hair pulling? It’s my favorite!click to expand


Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.
I need to try this choking sensation. But what if things go wrong and he accidentally kills me? 😅
Why don’t you like hair pulling? It’s my favorite!click to expand

Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.
I need to try this choking sensation. But what if things go wrong and he accidentally kills me? 😅
Why don’t you like hair pulling? It’s my favorite!
I like the hair pulling too. I tried it back with Aries and he shouts “ouch”😂. Such a low pain threshold
Choking no....any guy that tried that would get a kick in the nuts
As for non protected sex with strangers “death wish”click to expand

Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.
I need to try this choking sensation. But what if things go wrong and he accidentally kills me? 😅
Why don’t you like hair pulling? It’s my favorite!
I like the hair pulling too. I tried it back with Aries and he shouts “ouch”😂. Such a low pain threshold
Choking no....any guy that tried that would get a kick in the nuts
As for non protected sex with strangers “death wish”
I am also too scared of non protected sex :/
It’s best reserved for the most meaningful connections ❤️click to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.
I need to try this choking sensation. But what if things go wrong and he accidentally kills me? 😅
Why don’t you like hair pulling? It’s my favorite!
I like the hair pulling too. I tried it back with Aries and he shouts “ouch”😂. Such a low pain threshold
Choking no....any guy that tried that would get a kick in the nuts
As for non protected sex with strangers “death wish”
I am also too scared of non protected sex :/
It’s best reserved for the most meaningful connections ❤️
Some people would say that about form of sex. 🎶A cliché is still a cliché 🎶click to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.
I need to try this choking sensation. But what if things go wrong and he accidentally kills me? 😅
Why don’t you like hair pulling? It’s my favorite!
I like the hair pulling too. I tried it back with Aries and he shouts “ouch”😂. Such a low pain threshold
Choking no....any guy that tried that would get a kick in the nuts
As for non protected sex with strangers “death wish”
I am also too scared of non protected sex :/
It’s best reserved for the most meaningful connections ❤️
Some people would say that about form of sex. 🎶A cliché is still a cliché 🎶
What does that mean?
Some people would say kissing is best reserved for a relationship, unprotected oral sex or even something like sleeping in the same bed with someone. Is it not stating the obvious?click to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.
I need to try this choking sensation. But what if things go wrong and he accidentally kills me? 😅
Why don’t you like hair pulling? It’s my favorite!
I like the hair pulling too. I tried it back with Aries and he shouts “ouch”😂. Such a low pain threshold
Choking no....any guy that tried that would get a kick in the nuts
As for non protected sex with strangers “death wish”
I am also too scared of non protected sex :/
It’s best reserved for the most meaningful connections ❤️
Some people would say that about form of sex. 🎶A cliché is still a cliché 🎶
What does that mean?
Some people would say kissing is best reserved for a relationship, unprotected oral sex or even something like sleeping in the same bed with someone. Is it not stating the obvious?
It’s what some people choose
People who prefer a deeper connection ..
Sex to some people is sacred
We're not going to agree on this. I do do relationships, but I also do casual sex if I am single. I see beauty in being able to share myself with multiple people and give them a good time. There's beauty in obtaining a spiritual loving kinship, but if I only went after that I would have been celibate for most of my life.click to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.
I need to try this choking sensation. But what if things go wrong and he accidentally kills me? 😅
Why don’t you like hair pulling? It’s my favorite!
I like the hair pulling too. I tried it back with Aries and he shouts “ouch”😂. Such a low pain threshold
Choking no....any guy that tried that would get a kick in the nuts
As for non protected sex with strangers “death wish”
I am also too scared of non protected sex :/
It’s best reserved for the most meaningful connections ❤️
Some people would say that about form of sex. 🎶A cliché is still a cliché 🎶
What does that mean?
Some people would say kissing is best reserved for a relationship, unprotected oral sex or even something like sleeping in the same bed with someone. Is it not stating the obvious?
It’s what some people choose
People who prefer a deeper connection ..
Sex to some people is sacred
We're not going to agree on this. I do do relationships, but I also do casual sex if I am single. I see beauty in being able to share myself with multiple people and give them a good time. There's beauty in obtaining a spiritual loving kinship, but if I only went after that I would have been celibate for most of my life.
No we are not
I think you are more needy than me
I get that...was there once but it was something i chose to change....
Being so dependent on anything isnt a good thing...
Or maybe I just really like sex and have a lot of free time? 🤯click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by WhorpioI’m pretty good at reading people and would not have sex with someone who gave me violent-vibes. Plus I keep my nails sharp and I dig them into men if they get too aggressive.
On the note of bareback, condoms dry me out which creates more problems for me than not using them. Like I said, I’m pretty good at reading people and there’s subtle signs I look for to decide if someone is safe to sleep with raw or if they will be a risk.
Girl that is truly wild. I know your not stupid so why are you saying you can gauge whether someone is clean with a look.
Most people are unaware they have stds because oftentimes you don't know until you get a breakout. Especially chlamydia, as majority of men don't have symptoms and if they do its several weeks after the infection develops.
It can affect your reproduction so if you are trying to have kids in the future this life style could be a huge risk to that. Increased risk for ectopic pregnancy and even infertility.
I don't get the appeal of putting your health at risk for some raw dick. Buy some water based lube for like $ 7.99.click to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by LadyNeptune
@borednbeautiful calling it choking sounds a bit scary. But having some light restriction on your airflow really enhances all the sensations. The warmth of his hands on your neck grounds you in the moment and o hits harder. I am a fan.
Not into hair pulling tho.
I need to try this choking sensation. But what if things go wrong and he accidentally kills me? 😅
Why don’t you like hair pulling? It’s my favorite!
I like the hair pulling too. I tried it back with Aries and he shouts “ouch”😂. Such a low pain threshold
Choking no....any guy that tried that would get a kick in the nuts
As for non protected sex with strangers “death wish”
I am also too scared of non protected sex :/
It’s best reserved for the most meaningful connections ❤️
Some people would say that about form of sex. 🎶A cliché is still a cliché 🎶
What does that mean?
Some people would say kissing is best reserved for a relationship, unprotected oral sex or even something like sleeping in the same bed with someone. Is it not stating the obvious?
It’s what some people choose
People who prefer a deeper connection ..
Sex to some people is sacred
We're not going to agree on this. I do do relationships, but I also do casual sex if I am single. I see beauty in being able to share myself with multiple people and give them a good time. There's beauty in obtaining a spiritual loving kinship, but if I only went after that I would have been celibate for most of my life.
No we are not
I think you are more needy than me
I get that...was there once but it was something i chose to change....
Being so dependent on anything isnt a good thing...
Or maybe I just really like sex and have a lot of free time? 🤯
Maybe
I just found it was becoming a bit too important ....
I'm not as bad as I was. I didn't have sex for nearly 3 weeks recently 🙀click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptune
Op is in texas if I'm remembering correctly. Abortion rights are gutted. You're not worried about some precum swimmers doing their thing and then having to chase after some fling for child support? That would be the stuff of nightmares for me.
Actually the story I heard last night was nightmarish. Dude fell in his home, hoarder, and had an open wound on his leg. When the family friend checked in on him and realized she took him to the hospital. The nurses there pull her to the side and ask her about the cleanliness in his home. She tells them its pretty bad. They say... we figured because there were maggots in his wound. MAGGOTS! the horror

Posted by LadyNeptune
I get that he probably said this in a joking manner but the whole no cell phone and I zip tie you is screaming serial killer. And this guy knows where you work, vehicle you drive.
Tell your bf about this dude so if you go missing he has a name to give to police. And never take off your fit bit.

Posted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
Op is in texas if I'm remembering correctly. Abortion rights are gutted. You're not worried about some precum swimmers doing their thing and then having to chase after some fling for child support? That would be the stuff of nightmares for me.
Actually the story I heard last night was nightmarish. Dude fell in his home, hoarder, and had an open wound on his leg. When the family friend checked in on him and realized she took him to the hospital. The nurses there pull her to the side and ask her about the cleanliness in his home. She tells them its pretty bad. They say... we figured because there were maggots in his wound. MAGGOTS! the horror
I am on two birth controls: mirena IUD and the pill.
But I also have family in Colorado who is very pro-choice so I know they would help me out if I needed it.click to expand

Posted by Reincarnation4Posted by Whorpio
I’m tryna smash this Sagittarius who has cap venus.
It all started in April when I asked for his #. He turned me down, saying he’s married but thanks for the offer.
One month later he started leaving notes on my car, some cryptic messages, others flat out mirroring my responses to them.
Just wondering how long this back and forth is going to go on for before we can finally do the bang bang boom. He’s super hot, and these love letters are turning me on unexpectedly.
Capricorn Venus values classiness. A classy person.
I am a Cap Venus.click to expand

Posted by StonyPosted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
I get that he probably said this in a joking manner but the whole no cell phone and I zip tie you is screaming serial killer. And this guy knows where you work, vehicle you drive.
Tell your bf about this dude so if you go missing he has a name to give to police. And never take off your fit bit.
Yeah yeah, I know. He would say he’d never go to Vegas with me because you can’t dig a hole easily out there…and he’d make comments about a hole in the woods he’s working on for me.
I knew he wasn’t serious though, because he’d make few attempts to talk to me face to face. The men I’ve encountered who really are dangerous all would rush me into isolating situations, not drag out a friendship/courtship over notes/texts for two months.
Again this doesn't really mean shit because he could just be a STUPID criminal. I worry for you...click to expand


Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by StonyPosted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
I get that he probably said this in a joking manner but the whole no cell phone and I zip tie you is screaming serial killer. And this guy knows where you work, vehicle you drive.
Tell your bf about this dude so if you go missing he has a name to give to police. And never take off your fit bit.
Yeah yeah, I know. He would say he’d never go to Vegas with me because you can’t dig a hole easily out there…and he’d make comments about a hole in the woods he’s working on for me.
I knew he wasn’t serious though, because he’d make few attempts to talk to me face to face. The men I’ve encountered who really are dangerous all would rush me into isolating situations, not drag out a friendship/courtship over notes/texts for two months.
Again this doesn't really mean shit because he could just be a STUPID criminal. I worry for you...
So do I 😲click to expand


Posted by borednbeautiful
I just read something in the news about singer Ne-Yo.
Apparently, even though he has a wife and 3 children and she is beautiful and all that, he still likes to frequent hookers. Well, his wife is very upset at him and these women who sell their bodies. She wrote a lengthy Instagram rant about it.
This man was living a paradise life style and yet he wanted more. A dirty nasty sex. Are men that cheap and addicted to sex? Is their whole meaning just about who to fuck next?

Posted by StonyPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by StonyPosted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
I get that he probably said this in a joking manner but the whole no cell phone and I zip tie you is screaming serial killer. And this guy knows where you work, vehicle you drive.
Tell your bf about this dude so if you go missing he has a name to give to police. And never take off your fit bit.
Yeah yeah, I know. He would say he’d never go to Vegas with me because you can’t dig a hole easily out there…and he’d make comments about a hole in the woods he’s working on for me.
I knew he wasn’t serious though, because he’d make few attempts to talk to me face to face. The men I’ve encountered who really are dangerous all would rush me into isolating situations, not drag out a friendship/courtship over notes/texts for two months.
Again this doesn't really mean shit because he could just be a STUPID criminal. I worry for you...
So do I 😲
People really don't have a clue on how to move and that's why I advise people to stay out of illicit activities. When I was into shit (a long time ago now), I NEVER got caught. I can't think of a friend or acquaintance that's done dirt that HASN'T been caught. Even down to being caught smoking weed. Which they think isn't a big deal, but it is. 1. It's a fine. 2. It's a record iirc. 3. Now they know to look for you. They can "follow" you / if they see you they can put together your social group putting other people in jeopardy possibly. Stuff like that. People are NOT paranoid enough and think shit is sweet when it is NOT. It's fucking EMBARASSING. I've literally warned people how to move and they tell me "Oh, I'm not doing enough to be bothered with. They don't watch facebook." stuff like that. Yes, they do watch facebook and other socials. It's literally a FACT. Yes, they WILL bother you if they fucking feel like it.
People have everything all fucked up.click to expand

Posted by StonyPosted by borednbeautiful
I just read something in the news about singer Ne-Yo.
Apparently, even though he has a wife and 3 children and she is beautiful and all that, he still likes to frequent hookers. Well, his wife is very upset at him and these women who sell their bodies. She wrote a lengthy Instagram rant about it.
This man was living a paradise life style and yet he wanted more. A dirty nasty sex. Are men that cheap and addicted to sex? Is their whole meaning just about who to fuck next?
Not that I condone it, but maybe she wouldn't fuck him how he wanted? Idk
Sex is nice tho, no doubtclick to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by borednbeautiful
I just read something in the news about singer Ne-Yo.
Apparently, even though he has a wife and 3 children and she is beautiful and all that, he still likes to frequent hookers. Well, his wife is very upset at him and these women who sell their bodies. She wrote a lengthy Instagram rant about it.
This man was living a paradise life style and yet he wanted more. A dirty nasty sex. Are men that cheap and addicted to sex? Is their whole meaning just about who to fuck next?
Better he has sex with prostitutes were is very little attachment involved than say someone who becomes his lover like say a fan.click to expand

Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by LadyNeptune
Op is in texas if I'm remembering correctly. Abortion rights are gutted. You're not worried about some precum swimmers doing their thing and then having to chase after some fling for child support? That would be the stuff of nightmares for me.
Actually the story I heard last night was nightmarish. Dude fell in his home, hoarder, and had an open wound on his leg. When the family friend checked in on him and realized she took him to the hospital. The nurses there pull her to the side and ask her about the cleanliness in his home. She tells them its pretty bad. They say... we figured because there were maggots in his wound. MAGGOTS! the horror
What is the biggest amount you had gotten paid for sex?
See?
So you cant even participate in this conversation. And I am sure you have price as everybody else.
But nobody offered it yet...awwwclick to expand

Posted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
I get that he probably said this in a joking manner but the whole no cell phone and I zip tie you is screaming serial killer. And this guy knows where you work, vehicle you drive.
Tell your bf about this dude so if you go missing he has a name to give to police. And never take off your fit bit.
Yeah yeah, I know. He would say he’d never go to Vegas with me because you can’t dig a hole easily out there…and he’d make comments about a hole in the woods he’s working on for me.
I knew he wasn’t serious though, because he’d make few attempts to talk to me face to face. The men I’ve encountered who really are dangerous all would rush me into isolating situations, not drag out a friendship/courtship over notes/texts for two months.click to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
I get that he probably said this in a joking manner but the whole no cell phone and I zip tie you is screaming serial killer. And this guy knows where you work, vehicle you drive.
Tell your bf about this dude so if you go missing he has a name to give to police. And never take off your fit bit.
Yeah yeah, I know. He would say he’d never go to Vegas with me because you can’t dig a hole easily out there…and he’d make comments about a hole in the woods he’s working on for me.
I knew he wasn’t serious though, because he’d make few attempts to talk to me face to face. The men I’ve encountered who really are dangerous all would rush me into isolating situations, not drag out a friendship/courtship over notes/texts for two months.
One thing that all serial murders and rapists have in common is their friends and family and neighbors doing a surprise Pikachu face and saying, " wow we would've never suspected, he was such a nice guy". You have to have a base level of charm to be a truly dangerous person who gets away with it.
I am truly worried about your judgement. But its your life to live. I just hope when you engage in these situations someone knows who and where you are so they can give police somewhere to start if you go missing.
All of my neighbours think I'm an arsehole. They're in for a shock when they find a torso in a dumpster.click to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by alexscariesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
I get that he probably said this in a joking manner but the whole no cell phone and I zip tie you is screaming serial killer. And this guy knows where you work, vehicle you drive.
Tell your bf about this dude so if you go missing he has a name to give to police. And never take off your fit bit.
Yeah yeah, I know. He would say he’d never go to Vegas with me because you can’t dig a hole easily out there…and he’d make comments about a hole in the woods he’s working on for me.
I knew he wasn’t serious though, because he’d make few attempts to talk to me face to face. The men I’ve encountered who really are dangerous all would rush me into isolating situations, not drag out a friendship/courtship over notes/texts for two months.
One thing that all serial murders and rapists have in common is their friends and family and neighbors doing a surprise Pikachu face and saying, " wow we would've never suspected, he was such a nice guy". You have to have a base level of charm to be a truly dangerous person who gets away with it.
I am truly worried about your judgement. But its your life to live. I just hope when you engage in these situations someone knows who and where you are so they can give police somewhere to start if you go missing.
All of my neighbours think I'm an arsehole. They're in for a shock when they find a torso in a dumpster.
Plot twist, the torso is yours.
The question is which part do they keep mouth or legs and arse? There's some sick fucks out there.click to expand

Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by MonaLisa26Posted by LadyNeptune
Op is in texas if I'm remembering correctly. Abortion rights are gutted. You're not worried about some precum swimmers doing their thing and then having to chase after some fling for child support? That would be the stuff of nightmares for me.
Actually the story I heard last night was nightmarish. Dude fell in his home, hoarder, and had an open wound on his leg. When the family friend checked in on him and realized she took him to the hospital. The nurses there pull her to the side and ask her about the cleanliness in his home. She tells them its pretty bad. They say... we figured because there were maggots in his wound. MAGGOTS! the horror
What is the biggest amount you had gotten paid for sex?
See?
So you cant even participate in this conversation. And I am sure you have price as everybody else.
But nobody offered it yet...awww
What are you rambling about?
Do you really believe that only sex workers need to care about stds or unwanted pregnancy. Jesus woman. Here I am thinking you can't be more dumb and then you one up the brain dead. Its honestly impressive.
Gotta love liberals who dont even replying to the QUESTION!
Ill repeat:
What is the biggest amount you had gotten paid for sex?
See?
So you cant even participate in this conversation. And I am sure you have price as everybody else.
But nobody offered it yet...awwwclick to expand


Posted by StonyYou cannot. Sorry. You'd like to think you can. You're just risking it and getting lucky. Just like I have. Even when I ask them if they're clean, I'm just accepting a yes and feeling like they're not lying. I don't know shit. Look at serial killers and shit, no one knows about them. The fact that you cannot acknowledge that you don't actually know means you're less on point than you think you are. That dude didn't want anyone to know where you were and wanted your hands tied, bullet dodged.

Posted by alexscaries I think people think any unprotected sex is unsafe. I've said what I think and do it based on how I feel.

Posted by Maxian
Didn't follow this thread fully, but did you say you're polyamorous once before?
I'm polyamorous and I need consent from the partner of the person that I'm about to see, just for my own sanity. It's also not really polyamory if not all parties in the setup/dynamic are consenting. Cause you're kinda taking the 'amour' out of the poly-amory.
No dig, just wondering what your thoughts are.
How long have you been living polyamorous and what is your setup? V? KTP? Something else.
Cool there's more people from DXP living the polyglamorous life!

Posted by WhorpioPosted by StonyYou cannot. Sorry. You'd like to think you can. You're just risking it and getting lucky. Just like I have. Even when I ask them if they're clean, I'm just accepting a yes and feeling like they're not lying. I don't know shit. Look at serial killers and shit, no one knows about them. The fact that you cannot acknowledge that you don't actually know means you're less on point than you think you are. That dude didn't want anyone to know where you were and wanted your hands tied, bullet dodged.
I get the impression a lot of people here are assuming I have more unprotected sex than I do, or I have more partners than I do, or both. (This could also go the other way: maybe I don’t think I have a high enough volume of partners to really be concerned, or enough unprotected sex to be concerned, whereas someone else may think my numbers are high enough to be concerned).
Along the same lines, I think some of y’all (@LadyNeptune I’m tagging you so I don’t have to write out a separate response) also think I get myself involved with random creeps more than I do.click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by WhorpioPosted by StonyYou cannot. Sorry. You'd like to think you can. You're just risking it and getting lucky. Just like I have. Even when I ask them if they're clean, I'm just accepting a yes and feeling like they're not lying. I don't know shit. Look at serial killers and shit, no one knows about them. The fact that you cannot acknowledge that you don't actually know means you're less on point than you think you are. That dude didn't want anyone to know where you were and wanted your hands tied, bullet dodged.
I get the impression a lot of people here are assuming I have more unprotected sex than I do, or I have more partners than I do, or both. (This could also go the other way: maybe I don’t think I have a high enough volume of partners to really be concerned, or enough unprotected sex to be concerned, whereas someone else may think my numbers are high enough to be concerned).
Along the same lines, I think some of y’all (@LadyNeptune I’m tagging you so I don’t have to write out a separate response) also think I get myself involved with random creeps more than I do.
No I wasn't thinking a ton. It only takes one.
Bareback is really rolling the dice with your health and going off of vibes seems much too risky. Maybe add std test/clean bill proof as one of your prerequisites. Life is short but the herpes is forever.
Same with the random creeps thing. It only takes one.
And my advice to you is the same I would give to someone casually dating. Make sure someone knows who you are meeting and where. The only thing worse than having a loved one murdered is not being able to find the remains to have closure. Dark I know, but this is our reality.click to expand

Posted by alexscariesPosted by WhorpioPosted by alexscaries I think people think any unprotected sex is unsafe. I've said what I think and do it based on how I feel.
You got plans to visit Texas bby?
Not anytime soon. Everything is bigger and better in Texas at least according to a T-shirt I had.click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptune
No I wasn't thinking a ton. It only takes one.
Bareback is really rolling the dice with your health and going off of vibes seems much too risky. Maybe add std test/clean bill proof as one of your prerequisites. Life is short but the herpes is forever.
Same with the random creeps thing. It only takes one.
And my advice to you is the same I would give to someone casually dating. Make sure someone knows who you are meeting and where. The only thing worse than having a loved one murdered is not being able to find the remains to have closure. Dark I know, but this is our reality.

Posted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
No I wasn't thinking a ton. It only takes one.
Bareback is really rolling the dice with your health and going off of vibes seems much too risky. Maybe add std test/clean bill proof as one of your prerequisites. Life is short but the herpes is forever.
Same with the random creeps thing. It only takes one.
And my advice to you is the same I would give to someone casually dating. Make sure someone knows who you are meeting and where. The only thing worse than having a loved one murdered is not being able to find the remains to have closure. Dark I know, but this is our reality.
I’ve actually thought of this (a lot, because I’ve been through some fucked up shit) and I wouldn’t want my remains to be found anyways. I’d rather have my family live on with hope that I’m somewhere out there alive, living a new life, than face the reality of my death. That’s also why I’ve decided to not get any tattoos, in the event that my face is so badly maimed that they’d have to post pictures of my tattoos on the news in hopes someone would recognize who I am. I’d rather just be a Jane Doe.
Just a little glimpse into my awareness of what I’m doing. I know full well the risks, and that helps me make decisions.
I still haven’t caught an sti/std, even at the peak of my career (though I was using condoms a shit ton more back then). I still have a higher than average body count per year, and still haven’t caught anything, so I’d say my decision making is pretty solid.
Fwiw I do ask my partners when the last time they got tested was, how many partners they’ve had since then, etc. All part of my decision making process.click to expand

Posted by WhorpioPosted by LadyNeptune
No I wasn't thinking a ton. It only takes one.
Bareback is really rolling the dice with your health and going off of vibes seems much too risky. Maybe add std test/clean bill proof as one of your prerequisites. Life is short but the herpes is forever.
Same with the random creeps thing. It only takes one.
And my advice to you is the same I would give to someone casually dating. Make sure someone knows who you are meeting and where. The only thing worse than having a loved one murdered is not being able to find the remains to have closure. Dark I know, but this is our reality.
I’ve actually thought of this (a lot, because I’ve been through some fucked up shit) and I wouldn’t want my remains to be found anyways. I’d rather have my family live on with hope that I’m somewhere out there alive, living a new life, than face the reality of my death. That’s also why I’ve decided to not get any tattoos, in the event that my face is so badly maimed that they’d have to post pictures of my tattoos on the news in hopes someone would recognize who I am. I’d rather just be a Jane Doe.
Just a little glimpse into my awareness of what I’m doing. I know full well the risks, and that helps me make decisions.
I still haven’t caught an sti/std, even at the peak of my career (though I was using condoms a shit ton more back then). I still have a higher than average body count per year, and still haven’t caught anything, so I’d say my decision making is pretty solid.
Fwiw I do ask my partners when the last time they got tested was, how many partners they’ve had since then, etc. All part of my decision making process.click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptune
I mean that's not really how it works. They can identify you through dental records, blood type, prints etc. And if you see interviews or talk to anyone who has a loved one who is missing it is pure hell. No closure. Constant worry. Better to know.
Body count has very little to do with risk. People who are married and only having sex with their spouse for decades get stds cause their partner is stepping out on them. Very common. More common than you would think. Well you do already know because... thread.
Now body count without protection, its only a matter of time. Not a what if, but when.
Your much more trusting than me. People lie. Especially when they have very little to loose (the trust and good opinion of a fling) and much to gain (selfish pleasure).
And even if they are honest HIV only shows up on the test 3months after infection. So its even still risky to accept a clean bill at face value.

Posted by Maxian
That's interesting. So your partner does need a connection of some sort, does it ever go over to love for him? If so, how do you keep that balance as you both have different approach?
Swinging scene in my country is usually tight knit groupings from what I've heard, and lacks depth. If your fella is the emotional kind who needs a connection I doubt it will work for him.


Posted by Lionheart917Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by whoswhoPosted by WhorpioPosted by whoswhoPosted by WhorpioPosted by whoswho
Wish awoman would eat me in office lift.........
Are you hot?
Apparently so...idk.
Meet me on the lift Monday at 9AM 👅
Thank you kindly, but one is happily taken.
Never worked in office Op, you just gave me funny idea for a date though.
Like you’re honesty also
Lot of women like men with wedding rings when they out or looking for casual.
I’m not married but my mate(sagi) used to say he got more offers after he got married just because of a ring on finger.
Ironically some single men I know tried this and it worked......
Personal I would recommend finding a single hot guy and just asking him for no strings hot steamy sex.
There is loads of them.
Yes there are plenty of single blokes out there without wives and children in tow.
Seems a more considerate option.
People always want what they can't have.click to expand


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Aren’t you worried about pregnancy and STD/I’s?
I had to ask several times Leo to even pull my hair. To have him “choke” me would even be a bigger deal. And I don’t know if I see the appeal that much? What is so special?