
Do people take for granted that they'll be emotionally attached to one person till the end of their life (let's say the next 40 years) and that they'll owe each other emotional exclusivity? And is this really desireable? Or even logical?

Posted by Undine
Give me all, baby!

Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88
Isn't a person affectionate while having sex? I will take passionate sex over affection like hand holding and cuddling, any day of the week. I need affection shown to me on the inside, not outside 😄
Lol what is your definition of passionate sex. Is everything before, after or during
Foreplay leading up to sex, then BOTH of us orgasming. The hugs and stuff afterwards, I usually don't do unless the guy wants to.
I'm tired, hot and done. I either want to go to sleep after or go another round. Any type of sexual caressing will lead to another round.
Hmmmm then I guess my girl is right I may be affectionate then because I do that
But I’m ask you same question if you HAD to choose which one would stay and which one would go?
I answered it. I take sex over typical, non sexual affection. But I'm not an affectionate person. I rarely touch my partner, unless we are about to have sex. I don't even hug him. I wasn't raised in an affectionate household, so I naturally don't show it.
Ahh...
Spoken like a true Asian 😆
LMAO
What is all this affection that they speak of—
😂😂
My parents gave me my first hug when I was almost 25
I don't miss it because I rarely had it. I'm glad I can adjust with not needing it.
Damn so you was raised to be a lawyer or doctor! Does foreplay include math problems?click to expand
Posted by hydorah
Do people take for granted that they'll be emotionally attached to one person till the end of their life (let's say the next 40 years) and that they'll owe each other emotional exclusivity? And is this really desireable? Or even logical?

Posted by hydorah
Do people take for granted that they'll be emotionally attached to one person till the end of their life (let's say the next 40 years) and that they'll owe each other emotional exclusivity? And is this really desireable? Or even logical?
Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88
Isn't a person affectionate while having sex? I will take passionate sex over affection like hand holding and cuddling, any day of the week. I need affection shown to me on the inside, not outside 😄
Lol what is your definition of passionate sex. Is everything before, after or during
Foreplay leading up to sex, then BOTH of us orgasming. The hugs and stuff afterwards, I usually don't do unless the guy wants to.
I'm tired, hot and done. I either want to go to sleep after or go another round. Any type of sexual caressing will lead to another round.
Hmmmm then I guess my girl is right I may be affectionate then because I do that
But I’m ask you same question if you HAD to choose which one would stay and which one would go?
I answered it. I take sex over typical, non sexual affection. But I'm not an affectionate person. I rarely touch my partner, unless we are about to have sex. I don't even hug him. I wasn't raised in an affectionate household, so I naturally don't show it.
Ahh...
Spoken like a true Asian 😆
LMAO
What is all this affection that they speak of—
😂😂
My parents gave me my first hug when I was almost 25
I don't miss it because I rarely had it. I'm glad I can adjust with not needing it.
Damn so you was raised to be a lawyer or doctor! Does foreplay include math problems?
Then you seem to like your girl complaining that you don't give it. It's making you feel needed. It's what you were made for.
Service her!click to expand

Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88
Isn't a person affectionate while having sex? I will take passionate sex over affection like hand holding and cuddling, any day of the week. I need affection shown to me on the inside, not outside 😄
Lol what is your definition of passionate sex. Is everything before, after or during
Foreplay leading up to sex, then BOTH of us orgasming. The hugs and stuff afterwards, I usually don't do unless the guy wants to.
I'm tired, hot and done. I either want to go to sleep after or go another round. Any type of sexual caressing will lead to another round.
Hmmmm then I guess my girl is right I may be affectionate then because I do that
But I’m ask you same question if you HAD to choose which one would stay and which one would go?
I answered it. I take sex over typical, non sexual affection. But I'm not an affectionate person. I rarely touch my partner, unless we are about to have sex. I don't even hug him. I wasn't raised in an affectionate household, so I naturally don't show it.
Ahh...
Spoken like a true Asian 😆
LMAO
What is all this affection that they speak of—
😂😂
My parents gave me my first hug when I was almost 25
I don't miss it because I rarely had it. I'm glad I can adjust with not needing it.
Damn so you was raised to be a lawyer or doctor! Does foreplay include math problems?
Then you seem to like your girl complaining that you don't give it. It's making you feel needed. It's what you were made for.
Service her!
Oh I service her first lol
But i love her and I just seem to understand why not just her but women desire affection it literally does nothing for me but I give because she likes it.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88
Isn't a person affectionate while having sex? I will take passionate sex over affection like hand holding and cuddling, any day of the week. I need affection shown to me on the inside, not outside 😄
Lol what is your definition of passionate sex. Is everything before, after or during
Foreplay leading up to sex, then BOTH of us orgasming. The hugs and stuff afterwards, I usually don't do unless the guy wants to.
I'm tired, hot and done. I either want to go to sleep after or go another round. Any type of sexual caressing will lead to another round.
Hmmmm then I guess my girl is right I may be affectionate then because I do that
But I’m ask you same question if you HAD to choose which one would stay and which one would go?
I answered it. I take sex over typical, non sexual affection. But I'm not an affectionate person. I rarely touch my partner, unless we are about to have sex. I don't even hug him. I wasn't raised in an affectionate household, so I naturally don't show it.
Ahh...
Spoken like a true Asian 😆
LMAO
What is all this affection that they speak of—
😂😂
My parents gave me my first hug when I was almost 25
I don't miss it because I rarely had it. I'm glad I can adjust with not needing it.
Damn so you was raised to be a lawyer or doctor! Does foreplay include math problems?
Then you seem to like your girl complaining that you don't give it. It's making you feel needed. It's what you were made for.
Service her!
Oh I service her first lol
But i love her and I just seem to understand why not just her but women desire affection it literally does nothing for me but I give because she likes it.
Then that's all that matters. It's about compromise in relationships. Compromise and communication is what hold relationships together long term. 🙂click to expand

Posted by SuperSize9Posted by Undine
Give me all, baby!
That’s the problem one gotta go pick oneclick to expand

Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88
Isn't a person affectionate while having sex? I will take passionate sex over affection like hand holding and cuddling, any day of the week. I need affection shown to me on the inside, not outside 😄
Lol what is your definition of passionate sex. Is everything before, after or during
Foreplay leading up to sex, then BOTH of us orgasming. The hugs and stuff afterwards, I usually don't do unless the guy wants to.
I'm tired, hot and done. I either want to go to sleep after or go another round. Any type of sexual caressing will lead to another round.
Hmmmm then I guess my girl is right I may be affectionate then because I do that
But I’m ask you same question if you HAD to choose which one would stay and which one would go?
I answered it. I take sex over typical, non sexual affection. But I'm not an affectionate person. I rarely touch my partner, unless we are about to have sex. I don't even hug him. I wasn't raised in an affectionate household, so I naturally don't show it.
Ahh...
Spoken like a true Asian 😆
LMAO
What is all this affection that they speak of—
😂😂
My parents gave me my first hug when I was almost 25
I don't miss it because I rarely had it. I'm glad I can adjust with not needing it.
Damn so you was raised to be a lawyer or doctor! Does foreplay include math problems?
Then you seem to like your girl complaining that you don't give it. It's making you feel needed. It's what you were made for.
Service her!
Oh I service her first lol
But i love her and I just seem to understand why not just her but women desire affection it literally does nothing for me but I give because she likes it.
Then that's all that matters. It's about compromise in relationships. Compromise and communication is what hold relationships together long term. 🙂
I would challenge her to go a month with out sex and only affection but she would win 😂 😂 😂 she already made me wait 3 months.click to expand
Posted by HearttofTopazzPosted by ScheherazadePosted by HearttofTopazzPosted by ScheherazadePosted by HearttofTopazz
Good sex
Thx
After smoking good weed
When the sex is so good you don’t need nothing else Lol
Lol I just figured you’d be into that 😛
Gem and I are affectionate, and it usually leads to sex. We know each other’s bodies well, so it’s always great.
He’s literally the only guy that I ever liked to be affectionate or cuddle with though. Anyone else always felt awkward to me and I could never get away quick enough.
Either way it’s the same answer for me. Good sex. I’m lucky to have both though.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88
Isn't a person affectionate while having sex? I will take passionate sex over affection like hand holding and cuddling, any day of the week. I need affection shown to me on the inside, not outside 😄
Lol what is your definition of passionate sex. Is everything before, after or during
Foreplay leading up to sex, then BOTH of us orgasming. The hugs and stuff afterwards, I usually don't do unless the guy wants to.
I'm tired, hot and done. I either want to go to sleep after or go another round. Any type of sexual caressing will lead to another round.
Hmmmm then I guess my girl is right I may be affectionate then because I do that
But I’m ask you same question if you HAD to choose which one would stay and which one would go?
I answered it. I take sex over typical, non sexual affection. But I'm not an affectionate person. I rarely touch my partner, unless we are about to have sex. I don't even hug him. I wasn't raised in an affectionate household, so I naturally don't show it.
Ahh...
Spoken like a true Asian 😆
LMAO
What is all this affection that they speak of—
😂😂
My parents gave me my first hug when I was almost 25
I don't miss it because I rarely had it. I'm glad I can adjust with not needing it.
Damn so you was raised to be a lawyer or doctor! Does foreplay include math problems?
Then you seem to like your girl complaining that you don't give it. It's making you feel needed. It's what you were made for.
Service her!
Oh I service her first lol
But i love her and I just seem to understand why not just her but women desire affection it literally does nothing for me but I give because she likes it.
Then that's all that matters. It's about compromise in relationships. Compromise and communication is what hold relationships together long term. 🙂
I would challenge her to go a month with out sex and only affection but she would win 😂 😂 😂 she already made me wait 3 months.
There's nothing wrong with a man giving in to a woman that he loves. It's a nice quality to have, especially if it's beneficial to the both of you. More men should be so giving and unselfish 🙂click to expand

Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by Dreamy88Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88
Isn't a person affectionate while having sex? I will take passionate sex over affection like hand holding and cuddling, any day of the week. I need affection shown to me on the inside, not outside 😄
Lol what is your definition of passionate sex. Is everything before, after or during
Foreplay leading up to sex, then BOTH of us orgasming. The hugs and stuff afterwards, I usually don't do unless the guy wants to.
I'm tired, hot and done. I either want to go to sleep after or go another round. Any type of sexual caressing will lead to another round.
Hmmmm then I guess my girl is right I may be affectionate then because I do that
But I’m ask you same question if you HAD to choose which one would stay and which one would go?
I answered it. I take sex over typical, non sexual affection. But I'm not an affectionate person. I rarely touch my partner, unless we are about to have sex. I don't even hug him. I wasn't raised in an affectionate household, so I naturally don't show it.
Ahh...
Spoken like a true Asian 😆
LMAO
What is all this affection that they speak of—
😂😂
My parents gave me my first hug when I was almost 25
I don't miss it because I rarely had it. I'm glad I can adjust with not needing it.
Damn so you was raised to be a lawyer or doctor! Does foreplay include math problems?
Then you seem to like your girl complaining that you don't give it. It's making you feel needed. It's what you were made for.
Service her!
Oh I service her first lol
But i love her and I just seem to understand why not just her but women desire affection it literally does nothing for me but I give because she likes it.
Then that's all that matters. It's about compromise in relationships. Compromise and communication is what hold relationships together long term. 🙂
I would challenge her to go a month with out sex and only affection but she would win 😂 😂 😂 she already made me wait 3 months.
There's nothing wrong with a man giving in to a woman that he loves. It's a nice quality to have, especially if it's beneficial to the both of you. More men should be so giving and unselfish 🙂
Only if we love her. Then a man can compromise because it’s usually against our nature. A typical Fuck is that just feeding temp high. But if I love some one then I will Do moreclick to expand
Posted by ElectronCowboy
It took a while to get to the end but this thread really opened my eyes. 👀
Quietly taking notes over here.

Posted by SuperSize9
Had a conversation with my girl and few Other female friend's. Could affection be important then the actual act of sex. So far 2 women and 3 guys say No it isn’t and 1 guys and 4 women say yes it is more important.
How can a feeling of affection be as satisfying then Having an orgasam.
And could someone stay in a relationship with a person that sex is basic but is very affectionate. Vs someone who can deliver satisfaction sexually but is detached affectionately.
I would like to settle this argument.

Posted by SuperSize9
Had a conversation with my girl and few Other female friend's. Could affection be important then the actual act of sex. So far 2 women and 3 guys say No it isn’t and 1 guys and 4 women say yes it is more important.
How can a feeling of affection be as satisfying then Having an orgasam.
And could someone stay in a relationship with a person that sex is basic but is very affectionate. Vs someone who can deliver satisfaction sexually but is detached affectionately.
I would like to settle this argument.

Posted by Snakes_N_Ladders
No let's just social distance.

Posted by Snakes_N_LaddersPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Snakes_N_Ladders
No let's just social distance.
It beats the "not tonight darling, I've got a headache" excuse
😀
Sorry I'm tryna save my grandma.click to expand




Posted by saggurl88
Isn't a person affectionate while having sex? I will take passionate sex over affection like hand holding and cuddling, any day of the week. I need affection shown to me on the inside, not outside 😄

Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88Posted by SuperSize9Posted by saggurl88
Isn't a person affectionate while having sex? I will take passionate sex over affection like hand holding and cuddling, any day of the week. I need affection shown to me on the inside, not outside 😄
Lol what is your definition of passionate sex. Is everything before, after or during
Foreplay leading up to sex, then BOTH of us orgasming. The hugs and stuff afterwards, I usually don't do unless the guy wants to.
I'm tired, hot and done. I either want to go to sleep after or go another round. Any type of sexual caressing will lead to another round.
Hmmmm then I guess my girl is right I may be affectionate then because I do that
But I’m ask you same question if you HAD to choose which one would stay and which one would go?
I answered it. I take sex over typical, non sexual affection. But I'm not an affectionate person. I rarely touch my partner, unless we are about to have sex. I don't even hug him. I wasn't raised in an affectionate household, so I naturally don't show it.
That’s how I am. I thought it was my detached signs.
What’s your moon and Venus?
My moon is in Cancer and my Venus is in Scorpio- You would think I wouldn't be as detached, but I was raised in a cold environment, so I am cold. I think it has to do with upbringing.click to expand





Posted by SuperSize9Posted by dillpickle
affection is important, definitely.
But it’s not real
Sex is real
Some Women are confusing I guess, affection is all in the head. Anybody can do with out affection but I doubt if A women/man can do with out sex.click to expand

Posted by jezzyboo21Posted by SuperSize9Posted by dillpickle
affection is important, definitely.
But it’s not real
Sex is real
Some Women are confusing I guess, affection is all in the head. Anybody can do with out affection but I doubt if A women/man can do with out sex.
boy, fuck outta here. I once went 4 yrs without, 4 YEARS. Yes it can be done. It's difficult but not impossible.click to expand


Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by jezzyboo21Posted by SuperSize9Posted by dillpickle
affection is important, definitely.
But it’s not real
Sex is real
Some Women are confusing I guess, affection is all in the head. Anybody can do with out affection but I doubt if A women/man can do with out sex.
boy, fuck outta here. I once went 4 yrs without, 4 YEARS. Yes it can be done. It's difficult but not impossible.
I've been celibate for longer
After a llfe of depending on sex to make me feel whole (which it never did) i have now healed the yearning/addiction. It took me a long time to realise that nothing/nobody else or what they offer you can fix you...wherher it's sex, drugs, booze, food etc.click to expand
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