Damnata
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Happy 2017!
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
1) Allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind. Cultivate that capacity for “negative capability.” We live in a culture where one of the greatest social disgraces is not having an opinion, so we often form our “opinions” based on superficial impressions or the borrowed ideas of others, without investing the time and thought that cultivating true conviction necessitates. We then go around asserting these donned opinions and clinging to them as anchors to our own reality. It’s enormously disorienting to simply say, “I don’t know.” But it’s infinitely more rewarding to understand than to be right — even if that means changing your mind about a topic, an ideology, or, above all, yourself.
2) Do nothing for prestige or status or money or approval alone. As Paul Graham observed, “prestige is like a powerful magnet that warps even your beliefs about what you enjoy. It causes you to work not on what you like, but what you’d like to like.” Those extrinsic motivators are fine and can feel life-affirming in the moment, but they ultimately don’t make it thrilling to get up in the morning and gratifying to go to sleep at night — and, in fact, they can often distract and detract from the things that do offer those deeper rewards.
3) Be generous. Be generous with your time and your resources and with giving credit and, especially, with your words. It’s so much easier to be a critic than a celebrator. Always remember there is a human being on the other end of every exchange and behind every cultural artifact being critiqued. To understand and be understood, those are among life’s greatest gifts, and every interaction is an opportunity to exchange them.
4) Build pockets of stillness into your life. Meditate. Go for walks. Ride your bike going nowhere in particular. There is a creative purpose to daydreaming, even to boredom. The best ideas come to us when we stop actively trying to coax the muse into manifesting and let the fragments of experience float around our unconscious mind in order to click into new combinations. Without this essential stage of unconscious processing, the entire flow of the creative process is broken.
Most important, sleep. Besides being the greatest creative aphrodisiac, sleep also affects our every waking moment, dictates our social rhythm, and even mediates our negative moods. Be as religious and disciplined about your sleep as you are about your work. We tend to wear our ability to get by on little sleep as some sort of badge of honor that validates our work ethic. But what it really is is a profound failure of self-respect and of priorities. What could possibly be more important than your health and your sanity, from which all else springs?
5) When people tell you who they are, Maya Angelou famously advised, believe them. Just as important, however, when people try to tell you who you are, don’t believe them. You are the only custodian of your own integrity, and the assumptions made by those that misunderstand who you are and what you stand for reveal a great deal about them and absolutely nothing about you.
6) Presence is far more intricate and rewarding an art than productivity. Ours is a culture that measures our worth as human beings by our efficiency, our earnings, our ability to perform this or that. The cult of productivity has its place, but worshipping at its altar daily robs us of the very capacity for joy and wonder that makes life worth living — for, as Annie Dillard memorably put it, “how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
7)"Expect anything worthwhile to take a long time.” This is borrowed from the wise and wonderful Debbie Millman, for it’s hard to better capture something so fundamental yet so impatiently overlooked in our culture of immediacy. The myth of the overnight success is just that — a myth — as well as a reminder that our present definition of success needs serious retuning. As I’ve reflected elsewhere, the flower doesn’t go from bud to blossom in one spritely burst and yet, as a culture, we’re disinterested in the tedium of the blossoming. But that’s where all the real magic unfolds in the making of one’s character and destiny.
8)Seek out what magnifies your spirit. Patti Smith, in discussing William Blake and her creative influences, talks about writers and artists who magnified her spirit — it’s a beautiful phrase and a beautiful notion. Who are the people, ideas, and books that magnify your spirit? Find them, hold on to them, and visit them often. Use them not only as a remedy once spiritual malaise has already infected your vitality but as a vaccine administered while you are healthy to protect your radiance.
9)Don’t be afraid to be an idealist. There is much to be said for our responsibility as creators and consumers of that constant dynamic interaction we call culture — which side of the fault line between catering and creating are we to stand on? The commercial enterprise is conditioning us to believe that the road to success is paved with catering to existing demands — give the people cat GIFs, the narrative goes, because cat GIFs are what the people want. But E.B. White, one of our last great idealists, was eternally right when he asserted half a century ago that the role of the writer is “to lift people up, not lower them down” — a role each of us is called to with increasing urgency, whatever cog we may be in the machinery of society. Supply creates its own demand. Only by consistently supplying it can we hope to increase the demand for the substantive over the superficial — in our individual lives and in the collective dream called culture.
10)Don’t just resist cynicism — fight it actively. Fight it in yourself, for this ungainly beast lays dormant in each of us, and counter it in those you love and engage with, by modeling its opposite. Cynicism often masquerades as nobler faculties and dispositions, but is categorically inferior. Unlike that great Rilkean life-expanding doubt, it is a contracting force. Unlike critical thinking, that pillar of reason and necessary counterpart to hope, it is inherently uncreative, unconstructive, and spiritually corrosive. Life, like the universe itself, tolerates no stasis — in the absence of growth, decay usurps the order. Like all forms of destruction, cynicism is infinitely easier and lazier than construction. There is nothing more difficult yet more gratifying in our society than living with sincerity and acting from a place of largehearted, constructive, rational faith in the human spirit, continually bending toward growth and betterment. This remains the most potent antidote to cynicism. Today, especially, it is an act of courage and resistance.
Source: https://www.brainpickings.org/2016/10/23/10-years-of-brain-pickings/
2) Do nothing for prestige or status or money or approval alone. As Paul Graham observed, “prestige is like a powerful magnet that warps even your beliefs about what you enjoy. It causes you to work not on what you like, but what you’d like to like.” Those extrinsic motivators are fine and can feel life-affirming in the moment, but they ultimately don’t make it thrilling to get up in the morning and gratifying to go to sleep at night — and, in fact, they can often distract and detract from the things that do offer those deeper rewards.
3) Be generous. Be generous with your time and your resources and with giving credit and, especially, with your words. It’s so much easier to be a critic than a celebrator. Always remember there is a human being on the other end of every exchange and behind every cultural artifact being critiqued. To understand and be understood, those are among life’s greatest gifts, and every interaction is an opportunity to exchange them.
4) Build pockets of stillness into your life. Meditate. Go for walks. Ride your bike going nowhere in particular. There is a creative purpose to daydreaming, even to boredom. The best ideas come to us when we stop actively trying to coax the muse into manifesting and let the fragments of experience float around our unconscious mind in order to click into new combinations. Without this essential stage of unconscious processing, the entire flow of the creative process is broken.
Most important, sleep. Besides being the greatest creative aphrodisiac, sleep also affects our every waking moment, dictates our social rhythm, and even mediates our negative moods. Be as religious and disciplined about your sleep as you are about your work. We tend to wear our ability to get by on little sleep as some sort of badge of honor that validates our work ethic. But what it really is is a profound failure of self-respect and of priorities. What could possibly be more important than your health and your sanity, from which all else springs?
5) When people tell you who they are, Maya Angelou famously advised, believe them. Just as important, however, when people try to tell you who you are, don’t believe them. You are the only custodian of your own integrity, and the assumptions made by those that misunderstand who you are and what you stand for reveal a great deal about them and absolutely nothing about you.
6) Presence is far more intricate and rewarding an art than productivity. Ours is a culture that measures our worth as human beings by our efficiency, our earnings, our ability to perform this or that. The cult of productivity has its place, but worshipping at its altar daily robs us of the very capacity for joy and wonder that makes life worth living — for, as Annie Dillard memorably put it, “how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
7)"Expect anything worthwhile to take a long time.” This is borrowed from the wise and wonderful Debbie Millman, for it’s hard to better capture something so fundamental yet so impatiently overlooked in our culture of immediacy. The myth of the overnight success is just that — a myth — as well as a reminder that our present definition of success needs serious retuning. As I’ve reflected elsewhere, the flower doesn’t go from bud to blossom in one spritely burst and yet, as a culture, we’re disinterested in the tedium of the blossoming. But that’s where all the real magic unfolds in the making of one’s character and destiny.
8)Seek out what magnifies your spirit. Patti Smith, in discussing William Blake and her creative influences, talks about writers and artists who magnified her spirit — it’s a beautiful phrase and a beautiful notion. Who are the people, ideas, and books that magnify your spirit? Find them, hold on to them, and visit them often. Use them not only as a remedy once spiritual malaise has already infected your vitality but as a vaccine administered while you are healthy to protect your radiance.
9)Don’t be afraid to be an idealist. There is much to be said for our responsibility as creators and consumers of that constant dynamic interaction we call culture — which side of the fault line between catering and creating are we to stand on? The commercial enterprise is conditioning us to believe that the road to success is paved with catering to existing demands — give the people cat GIFs, the narrative goes, because cat GIFs are what the people want. But E.B. White, one of our last great idealists, was eternally right when he asserted half a century ago that the role of the writer is “to lift people up, not lower them down” — a role each of us is called to with increasing urgency, whatever cog we may be in the machinery of society. Supply creates its own demand. Only by consistently supplying it can we hope to increase the demand for the substantive over the superficial — in our individual lives and in the collective dream called culture.
10)Don’t just resist cynicism — fight it actively. Fight it in yourself, for this ungainly beast lays dormant in each of us, and counter it in those you love and engage with, by modeling its opposite. Cynicism often masquerades as nobler faculties and dispositions, but is categorically inferior. Unlike that great Rilkean life-expanding doubt, it is a contracting force. Unlike critical thinking, that pillar of reason and necessary counterpart to hope, it is inherently uncreative, unconstructive, and spiritually corrosive. Life, like the universe itself, tolerates no stasis — in the absence of growth, decay usurps the order. Like all forms of destruction, cynicism is infinitely easier and lazier than construction. There is nothing more difficult yet more gratifying in our society than living with sincerity and acting from a place of largehearted, constructive, rational faith in the human spirit, continually bending toward growth and betterment. This remains the most potent antidote to cynicism. Today, especially, it is an act of courage and resistance.
Source: https://www.brainpickings.org/2016/10/23/10-years-of-brain-pickings/
Posted by AfternoonDelights22Not much longer now 😄.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
Is Lucky excited?
Posted by Damnatastill have 6 hours!Posted by AfternoonDelights22Not much longer now 😄.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
Is Lucky excited?click to expand
He is asleep already
Posted by starwarsohPosted by AfternoonDelights22you just ruined the thread' posts order, hope you're happy now
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yetclick to expand
I am
Posted by AfternoonDelights22Hah, it should not matter. I was receiving such messages even before New Years Eve.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
People have been saying so for days now. It is almost now a well wishing message to be said in between Christmas and the New Year itself. 😆
Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut virgos are so damn technicalPosted by AfternoonDelights22Hah, it should not matter. I was receiving such messages even before New Years Eve.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
People have been saying so for days now. It is almost now a well wishing message to be said in between Christmas and the New Year itself. 😆
click to expand
You never know with them!
Posted by AfternoonDelights22I dare say to hell with their technicality.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut virgos are so damn technicalPosted by AfternoonDelights22Hah, it should not matter. I was receiving such messages even before New Years Eve.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
People have been saying so for days now. It is almost now a well wishing message to be said in between Christmas and the New Year itself. 😆
You never know with them!click to expand
Besides, what fun would there be if we (the rest of the zodiac) do not antagonise the Virgins in return. 😆
Posted by TheLadyScorpioThis is why I antagonise them the way I doPosted by AfternoonDelights22I dare say to hell with their technicality.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut virgos are so damn technicalPosted by AfternoonDelights22Hah, it should not matter. I was receiving such messages even before New Years Eve.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
People have been saying so for days now. It is almost now a well wishing message to be said in between Christmas and the New Year itself. 😆
You never know with them!
Besides, what fun would there be if we (the rest of the zodiac) do not antagonise the Virgins in return. 😆
click to expand
Its Gods work really
Posted by TheLadyScorpioI'd agree about most of the zodiac but do you honestly feel Pisces need encouragement to do that to us? Lol, our mere nature is antagonistical to one another 😆Posted by AfternoonDelights22I dare say to hell with their technicality.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut virgos are so damn technicalPosted by AfternoonDelights22Hah, it should not matter. I was receiving such messages even before New Years Eve.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
People have been saying so for days now. It is almost now a well wishing message to be said in between Christmas and the New Year itself. 😆
You never know with them!
Besides, what fun would there be if we (the rest of the zodiac) do not antagonise the Virgins in return. 😆
click to expand
Posted by DamnataVirgal, hard to say.Posted by TheLadyScorpioI'd agree about most of the zodiac but do you honestly feel Pisces need encouragement to do that to us? Lol, our mere nature is antagonistical to one another 😆Posted by AfternoonDelights22I dare say to hell with their technicality.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut virgos are so damn technicalPosted by AfternoonDelights22Hah, it should not matter. I was receiving such messages even before New Years Eve.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
People have been saying so for days now. It is almost now a well wishing message to be said in between Christmas and the New Year itself. 😆
You never know with them!
Besides, what fun would there be if we (the rest of the zodiac) do not antagonise the Virgins in return. 😆
click to expand
After all, Virgins and Merfolk either perfectly meld into one another, both utterly in love with the axis or it is outright war and hatred for one another. One thing is for certain, it never lacks 'excitement'. 😆
Posted by TheLadyScorpioNever a dull moment indeed.Posted by DamnataVirgal, hard to say.Posted by TheLadyScorpioI'd agree about most of the zodiac but do you honestly feel Pisces need encouragement to do that to us? Lol, our mere nature is antagonistical to one another 😆Posted by AfternoonDelights22I dare say to hell with their technicality.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut virgos are so damn technicalPosted by AfternoonDelights22Hah, it should not matter. I was receiving such messages even before New Years Eve.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
People have been saying so for days now. It is almost now a well wishing message to be said in between Christmas and the New Year itself. 😆
You never know with them!
Besides, what fun would there be if we (the rest of the zodiac) do not antagonise the Virgins in return. 😆
After all, Virgins and Merfolk either perfectly meld into one another, both utterly in love with the axis or it is outright war and hatred for one another. One thing is for certain, it never lacks 'excitement'. 😆
click to expand
I feel in my Virgo heart of hearts that we're the one axis where there is never malicious intent despite all the battles. We're not out to screw the other side of the axis over. That would be..not biblical.
Posted by DamnataOh, it happens. I have witnessed it before.Posted by TheLadyScorpioNever a dull moment indeed.Posted by DamnataVirgal, hard to say.Posted by TheLadyScorpioI'd agree about most of the zodiac but do you honestly feel Pisces need encouragement to do that to us? Lol, our mere nature is antagonistical to one another 😆Posted by AfternoonDelights22I dare say to hell with their technicality.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobut virgos are so damn technicalPosted by AfternoonDelights22Hah, it should not matter. I was receiving such messages even before New Years Eve.
Its not midnight here so I cannot wish u a happy new years back yet
People have been saying so for days now. It is almost now a well wishing message to be said in between Christmas and the New Year itself. 😆
You never know with them!
Besides, what fun would there be if we (the rest of the zodiac) do not antagonise the Virgins in return. 😆
After all, Virgins and Merfolk either perfectly meld into one another, both utterly in love with the axis or it is outright war and hatred for one another. One thing is for certain, it never lacks 'excitement'. 😆
I feel in my Virgo heart of hearts that we're the one axis where there is never malicious intent despite all the battles. We're not out to screw the other side of the axis over. That would be..not biblical.click to expand
Whether or not, it was malicious, that would depend on the perspective one wishes to view it from.
However, that is always only an exception.
Happy 2017 !!!
It's now 1:24 AM and I just watched the ball drop!! LMFAOO slightly tipsy but that's okay 🙂
Happy New Year to all, hope it's a good one for everyone !!!!!!!!!!!!!1!!1!1!1!1!1!1!!1
It's now 1:24 AM and I just watched the ball drop!! LMFAOO slightly tipsy but that's okay 🙂
Happy New Year to all, hope it's a good one for everyone !!!!!!!!!!!!!1!!1!1!1!1!1!1!!1
Well not JUST watched the ball drop. Like an hour and 25 mins ago. But y'all know what I mean LMFAOO haha yeah I'm gone
Happy New Year 🙂
Happy New Year 🙂
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