So I found out there was someone else

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In Aug of this year my boyfriend at the time was so insecure that he broke up with me because he thought I was with someone else when indeed I was over a girlfriends house having a makeup party and just really catching up because I havent seen them in a while. After he (virgo ) found out that I was not cheating which he verified by skyping me he asked to get back together. I suggested that if he doesn't trust lets just hang out and date and rebuild trust and when he feels it then ask me and then we can move forward. I felt by stating this that it would make the long term effects better because he's had the time to figure out whats going on with himself. During this time period I got hired at a new (GREAT)job and I picked up 3 classes for the semester. During this time his grandfather died, on that day I had a friend over my house to get her makeup done and he called me to just "check-in" and I asked him, "hey would you like to come over and just hang out?" my friend is over getting her makeup done and we're having drinks & are going to play card games his reply was "for what" and he sounded so dry. So we ended the call and I figured he just needed time to himself to just deal. To our surprise he popped up and was very moody like he was mad and litteraly left within 3 mins and it was freaking us out. he went down stairs and called me asking why didnt I ask her to leave so I could spend time with him. My friend live a hour away and we were kinda tipsy so I said no that would be so wrong of me by doing that and she's been drinking if she gets in a wreck I would feel responsible because I asked her to leave. I suggested hey just come up and chill out relax and have a beer or two in the morning when she leaves we can go have a coffee and talk. He said I wasnt loyal to him by saying that. So he left. After that we talked and everything seemed like we were on a path of fixings issues until the day I had a car accident. He came by to check on me after work and my girlfriend was keeping my daughter busy while I cooked dinner. Once he came in and saw my friend helping my daughter with her homework he seemed that he got himself mad. When I say he was there for only 3 mins I'm serious he bought me a purse I said thanks babe how are and he was like im going to head out. I just stood there silent and confused like why. He told my lil one he loved her take care of your mom and I'll see you later bye. Once he got down stairs he texts me why didnt you chase after me and as
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(cont) ask me to stay I was like I didnt ask for you to leave all the words that were exchanged was Hi, thank you babe, and then you just left why are you doing this right now I asked? I just had a wreck and I'm trying to fix dinner and to keep my lil one calm like Im okay. He blamed everything on me and I was like huh what did I do? All he would say was it's your fault. In hindsight he was leaving the next day for NY for a wedding that same weekend I had my class reunion so I went back to my hometown. While he was gone we texted a little but upon his return he didnt contact me so I reached out to him he was dry at 1st but then he started acting normal sightly. He started doing a push pull type of thing so I stopped contacting him. Almost a month later on thanksgiving I broke because I missed him so much. We talked and Skyped all night upon me returning into town he expressed that he felt placed on back burner and that he was selfish and wanted me to himself at the moment when all this crap was going on.

He asks to see to me and I agreed so we link up at my house and I asked him like is there someone else in your life because our bank accounts are linked and you've been spending a lot of money on things that seem to be dates. He denied... Very foolish of me I slept with him but it was weird emotionally my energy was off. He stopped talking to me. On 12/6 his sister got married and all in my timeline were tags from the wedding and I saw a familiar face in a cute dress so I clicked on her and on her page and wow I saw date nights in NY she came to our city and spent time with him all over town and then to see them together at this wedding. This was a previous romantic interests from years ago that didnt work because he "couldn't trust her" i remembered an old pic of I seen of her from a long time ago. So I've just been feeling like wtf really?! This whole time I was waiting and you were moving right along with someone out of state spending all of your money and feeding me and my kid bs. I feel like he did it all on purpose just to hurt me because he knew I did not know anything about her. I honestly though we were going to be fine. But it hurts no less. I thought he was soooo loyal and just needed time to deal and come back. So it's like you moved on so soon or that was someone always in the picture and you just blamed everything on me. I feel so played especially by myself.. If a virgo doesnt want you they'll you right so why with the bs and lies to me
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My ex Virgo was full of shit too. Compulsive liar was an understatement, seriously, the amount of crap he used to spill but I stuck it out and was patient for a long while for financial reasons which was hard considering I wanted to stab him in the head! Typical Scorpio... Paid off though, calculated decision. We are actually friends now and do business together so instead of wanting to stab him in the head I use him for positive stuff.

Your situation sounds crap but lies are always hard to forgive and move on from. His loss!
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Posted by magma
What do you want? It seems that people can't get satisfaction, reconciliation, revenge, or closure with the dastardly Virgo that did them dirt, so people like you come in here to extract a pound of flesh from the other bazillion Virgos who weren't involved?

No one, not even a non-Virgo, can fix your past. Apparently you made a poor choice, sorry about that, next time don't choose a Virgo, simple, and then be grateful that you learned your lesson.

For some reason, people won't stay away. You can live without us, we can live without you.





I don't want revenge or anything It just hurts. I don't believe all Virgos are like this I just wasn't expecting this behavior from him at all it threw me far left when it all came to light which was this pervious Friday. I know I'll be fine I've just never seen someone move from a serious relationship to another ex or whatever that doesn't even live in this state. Maybe I'm just jealous because I always thought no matter what if we gave each other enough time to calm down especially him because he has a short fuse that we would be okay. It just hurts me to see my daughter(she's 7) ask for him and ask me why did he tell me this mom and I don't have an answer. He was the 1st guy I ever allowed to be around her that I'm romantically involved with. So I'm just taking it pretty hard because at her age now she will remember him, if she was younger (3 or 4) in a couple of years from now she wouldn't. I wish I could turn off my emotions off like a switch like others I know but I'm just forcing myself to accept it all. it just hurts that when you finally allow someone to get close to you, it ends like this.
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I'm guessing I'm just pissed about the whole thing because he changed and seemed so jealous after I got my new job. I had to change my way of dress because it very professional and he would little random remarks that he isn't up to par for me and he just made it seem like everything was my fault. I'd be like huh I'm just trying to do better for the future. I wasn't happy at my dead end job so I got back in school and got a new one. I just thought he would be proud of me stepping up to the plate to be equal. But after I got my job everything went south fast.
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are you crying or just being annoying? I've seen you throughout this site. You put up that you really don't care for others emotional state as if you've never been hurt or no one has ever broken my heart which I find it to be very fake. Everyone feels and goes through situations differently so have some respect because you're no robot and before you became soooooo happy with your partner you've been through heartache so stop. Stop fronting for the internet behind a keyboard. Some people come here to release and you don't have respect for other peoples emotions which is fine but just stop. I've seen the way you type to people like you're some saint that has all this self respect thats never been done wrong. so back off
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Posted by magma
I don't justify anything he did, it takes a real scumbag to cheat if that's what happened. In fact, he sounds like one. But I'll take a SWAG, a hunch tells me he didn't feel like number one.



You're right, he said I pushed on the back burner which to a degree I did. I pushed away because he kept embarrassing me when I actually got friends and would hang out he would call me shouting and yelling at me that I was cheating when he knew where I was. He would skype me to verify where I was but would make it seem that he just wanted to see my face. But he would go out to the bar for a beer with friends or co workers and I would never act that way like ever.. I would just wait from him to come home make him something to eat so he wouldn't have a hang over and we'd go to bed.. It's like when I got my job my makeup clients wanted to celebrate for new journey for me I'll invite him he'll decline and while I'm out he would just text me all these horrible things and make me feel like crap and I'm just like why aren't you happy for me why aren't you here to see for yourself what I'm doing. I've never been just out with girlfriends for a drink I normally stay at home with the kiddo, but I always invited him everywhere.

He would just pop up at my house just to see if someone was there and then laugh it off like he wasn't acting crazy when I would ask him what's wrong we've been together almost 2 years you have a key to my place your more than welcomed to be here, like what am I doing to you? I even allowed my phone to be on his plan just to prove you can have access because I don't care it's all about us and I would never do anything to lose what we have but he would still accuse me every other day. I just felt so embarrassed by his behavior . I went to church and he made a problem out of that. So I pulled away because I was hurting so bad and he couldn't see that. So everything became my fault
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Posted by magma
I don't justify anything he did, it takes a real scumbag to cheat if that's what happened. In fact, he sounds like one. But I'll take a SWAG, a hunch tells me he didn't feel like number one.



You're right, he said I pushed on the back burner which to a degree I did. I pushed away because he kept embarrassing me when I actually got friends and would hang out he would call me shouting and yelling at me that I was cheating when he knew where I was. He would skype me to verify where I was but would make it seem that he just wanted to see my face. But he would go out to the bar for a beer with friends or co workers and I would never act that way like ever.. I would just wait from him to come home make him something to eat so he wouldn't have a hang over and we'd go to bed.. It's like when I got my job my makeup clients wanted to celebrate for new journey for me I'll invite him he'll decline and while I'm out he would just text me all these horrible things and make me feel like crap and I'm just like why aren't you happy for me why aren't you here to see for yourself what I'm doing. I've never been just out with girlfriends for a drink I normally stay at home with the kiddo, but I always invited him everywhere.

He would just pop up at my house just to see if someone was there and then laugh it off like he wasn't acting crazy when I would ask him what's wrong we've been together almost 2 years you have a key to my place your more than welcomed to be here, like what am I doing to you? I even allowed my phone to be on his plan just to prove you can have access because I don't care it's all about us and I would never do anything to lose what we have but he would still accuse me every other day. I just felt so embarrassed by his behavior . I went to church and he made a problem out of that. So I pulled away because I was hurting so bad and he couldn't see that. So everything became my fault
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Sounds similar to my Virgo ex. He's 25th Aug, Leo/Virgo cusp too.

Texting horrible shit to grind me down etc but that's just the person. Probably not much to do with Astrology. He wasn't happy with his life and situation but did nothing to change it. He's still unhappy with his personal life and that's nothing to do with me.

Some people are
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It's cliche but the cliche is often true that people who accuse you of infidelity are the unfaithful ones. This man sounds not only dishonest but insecure. He can't be happy with one woman. He needs the attention of multiple woman to feel like "he's the man."

WHY IS YOUR BANKING ACCOUNTS LINKED? Change that like pronto and never give anyone but your future husband that kind of power. Do this TODAY.

You deserve better than an unfaithful man in your life. You really are better off without him and he's not going to make the other woman or any woman happy playing this game. And he'll be on the receiving end of a whole lotta angry hurt drama that HE CREATED.

It hurts now but move on. Unfriend him. If he texts you, when he texts you, tell him you don't ever want to be in contact with him again. Give him no explanation. He'll be dying to know if you know. Don't even give him that. Deep in his heart he'll know and respect you more for kicking his sorry azz to the curb. But do not under any circumstances take him back. He'll try to win you back to validate his ego & then drop you again.
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Posted by Este8
It's cliche but the cliche is often true that people who accuse you of infidelity are the unfaithful ones. This man sounds not only dishonest but insecure. He can't be happy with one woman. He needs the attention of multiple woman to feel like "he's the man."

WHY IS YOUR BANKING ACCOUNTS LINKED? Change that like pronto and never give anyone but your future husband that kind of power. Do this TODAY.

You deserve better than an unfaithful man in your life. You really are better off without him and he's not going to make the other woman or any woman happy playing this game. And he'll be on the receiving end of a whole lotta angry hurt drama that HE CREATED.

It hurts now but move on. Unfriend him. If he texts you, when he texts you, tell him you don't ever want to be in contact with him again. Give him no explanation. He'll be dying to know if you know. Don't even give him that. Deep in his heart he'll know and respect you more for kicking his sorry azz to the curb. But do not under any circumstances take him back. He'll try to win you back to validate his ego & then drop you again.



Whats crazy is my daughters dad told me the same thing. He said he did on purpose and when he calls because he will call or look for you, you tell him to go f off and never come back around again. Her dad was even in his corner with co parenting and everything he was so pissed and told me to just take a shot of jack build a bridge and that I knew the rest. lol I'm linked on his acct but he isn't linked on mine, now I just have to pay a lot of money to transfer my line off his phone bill. From what I learned is I have to be more careful in selecting a partner for me and my kiddo and to pay attention to the signs of a controlling man. And to also never break my back to prove my love to someone thats never happy. I thought if thats what it takes fine no biggie but I won't allow it again. what goes around comes back just as hard.
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No point in my post did I imply your child was a nugget. LOL

so this wasn't you? granted both the ops are now hidden, but it was almost the same story, except the part of the cheating.

I think it's funny this Aries chick also had him bring a purse and only stay for a few minutes, the friend over after an accident, the child.. it's oddly similar is all I was saying. You say it's not you. okay.


https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/virgos-do-they-return-when-they-re-wrong-5203402/#5203403

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/virgos-do-they-return-when-they-re-wrong-2-5203420/