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Why are Virgo men so hard to figure out? (Page 3)
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So the virgo wrote me today flirting w me saying if I sold him a house he would be flirting his ass off (I'm a realtor)... and asked me what's been up w me I said I have a bf now( kinda we are on a break still don't want to disrespect him) and he said how he had gotten into a relationship and that he's not used to it and misses being single and I said that he will get used to it. Then he said that he wishes we could have had "fun" before all this happened ( I'm guessing our relationships and me moving) (I moved from the town I lived in for seven years where he lives) and I said "I think we had a good run" because I didn't want to disrespect his girl or my guy by flirting w him then he once again changes his profile pic to him and his girl thirty min later when it was just a pic of him w friends... ugh what the hell
well i really would do the same too
this is so frustrating
Yea I don't get it
a.) I started out flirting with you then you tell me that you have a boyfriend now. (my mind is like okay bad move I shouldn't have flirted).
b.) So then I share that I also got into a relationship recently then I hint that I'm unhappy and wanna be single then you say I'd get used to it. (I'd think damn that's rejection right there).
c.) You say: "I think we had a good run." (I'd think wow I guess this is the end, she moved far away from me, shuts down my flirting, is in a relationship with someone else and she thinks I'd be happier with whoever I am with right now).
After hitting on you for 9 years, I think my heart would break a little.
Yea I can see all of that but keep in mind I was trying to be respectful of the other ppl my guy and his girl so that adds another layer of bullshit and my profile pic is w a guy lol so I can only assume he had an idea I had someone
Yeah I know you were being respectful and that's really awesome of you 🙂
But have you forgotten that this guy is obsessed with you?
And that you also really like this guy?
But then again.. 9 years.
Does he seem the type to give up?
Yea but I still can't do that it's shady and makes me think less of him honestly
And of course I kind of got nervous what should I have said?
Okay fine so you can't flirt with him. That makes you feel uncomfortable and you get nervous. That's alright but you could have at least asked why he's unhappy with his current relationship. You seem so distant to me with the way you described how you interacted with him.
You should not have said: "I think we had a good run." (damn I think my heart just broke for him).
There's nothing wrong with admitting like you miss him at least as a friend you know.
At least try to salvage what remains of your relationship with him- get that connection going.
Yea I just have a wall up
You don't....
trust him?
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No I don't trust him lol
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So the virgo wrote me today flirting w me saying if I sold him a house he would be flirting his ass off (I'm a realtor)... and asked me what's been up w me I said I have a bf now( kinda we are on a break still don't want to disrespect him) and he said how he had gotten into a relationship and that he's not used to it and misses being single and I said that he will get used to it. Then he said that he wishes we could have had "fun" before all this happened ( I'm guessing our relationships and me moving) (I moved from the town I lived in for seven years where he lives) and I said "I think we had a good run" because I didn't want to disrespect his girl or my guy by flirting w him then he once again changes his profile pic to him and his girl thirty min later when it was just a pic of him w friends... ugh what the hell
well i really would do the same too
this is so frustrating
Yea I don't get it
a.) I started out flirting with you then you tell me that you have a boyfriend now. (my mind is like okay bad move I shouldn't have flirted).
b.) So then I share that I also got into a relationship recently then I hint that I'm unhappy and wanna be single then you say I'd get used to it. (I'd think damn that's rejection right there).
c.) You say: "I think we had a good run." (I'd think wow I guess this is the end, she moved far away from me, shuts down my flirting, is in a relationship with someone else and she thinks I'd be happier with whoever I am with right now).
After hitting on you for 9 years, I think my heart would break a little.
Yea I can see all of that but keep in mind I was trying to be respectful of the other ppl my guy and his girl so that adds another layer of bullshit and my profile pic is w a guy lol so I can only assume he had an idea I had someone
Yeah I know you were being respectful and that's really awesome of you 🙂
But have you forgotten that this guy is obsessed with you?
And that you also really like this guy?
But then again.. 9 years.
Does he seem the type to give up?
Yea but I still can't do that it's shady and makes me think less of him honestly
And of course I kind of got nervous what should I have said?
Okay fine so you can't flirt with him. That makes you feel uncomfortable and you get nervous. That's alright but you could have at least asked why he's unhappy with his current relationship. You seem so distant to me with the way you described how you interacted with him.
You should not have said: "I think we had a good run." (damn I think my heart just broke for him).
There's nothing wrong with admitting like you miss him at least as a friend you know.
At least try to salvage what remains of your relationship with him- get that connection going.
Yea I just have a wall up
You don't....
trust him?
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No and I like him to much bad combo
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Actually tbh, I would not want to go see a women and then get there and she wants us to hang with all her friends. That's crazy to me also and I see her point when she chatted them up all week prior to seeing me.
For the most part, I have no disagreements for scenarios 1-3. It's the 4th one I'd dispute. If a friend chose to remain neutral between two other friends' arguments and the Pisces is upset by that friend's neutrality then the Pisces should not take it out on said friend. If I was in her shoes I'd have enough respect and trust to believe that my friend will prevent the negative talk about me or walk away. Not will her emotionally to my side. That type of subjective thinking is manipulative.
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Stensco21, they are not hard to understand at all.What did you find perplexing about them?
I agree.They are not hard at all to understand. They just play mind games at times trying to figure you out..but nothing we Scorpios can't understand! 😛
I'm not sure what mind games you're referring to? Can you please elaborate?
I don't think I play mind games at all. I believe I'm pretty straight forward when I'm pursuing a romantic interest.
All the virgos I came across.. literally all of them..try playing games!They are pretty straightforward in expressing their interest n feelings for someone.But that stops there.N then they keep playing this back n forth (i dunno if it's the fear of rejection or just wanting a reaction)They then start beating around the bush for almost everything.They try to analyze n dig things when there's really nothing.I dunno how to put this simply... I just have had too many situations owing to the fact that I'm surrounded by Virgos.There was this one situation where a Virgo friend of mine manipulated our whole damn friendship which includes one other guy for over months.I always had my doubts but he made it all so believable.This guy was the best friend of that other guy(they have been friends for over 12years) n still managed to make the other guy look bad.He legit twisted each n every moment we 3 of us shared showing the other guy in the bad light while every time it was this guy at fault.It is appalling how he could twist things so much for so long.N there's this other gf of mine who kinda mangles things instead of being upfront about them(She is my bff since 8years ).. I've seen this pattern in all my other virgo friends as well.They wanna know something? No straight questions asked!They feel this need to play.If I have any questions for them.. no straight answers given! They just tiptoe around the topic.Sometimes all their analysis is not even needed.Dont get me wrong though.. it is my favorite sign. I absolutely adore Virgos.
Hey Teena,
I agree with you and @VirgoGent
I've definitely met the type that you mentioned and their behavior is so obvious, I would friend zone before anything serious ever happened.
BUT, I've also gone out with the type that VirgoGent describes... I don't remember his exact birthdate but I do remember that it was late August. He was SUPER earthy, mellow and a straight shooter. Never played any mind games, which was VERY attractive and admirable to me.
I don't know if my straight forwardness comes from my birthday Sept 2nd, or that I grew up in a yes or no environment. Maybe my placements have something to do with it as well, ikd.
Today and even back in high school if I liked a girl I would try and make her my girlfriend as fast as possible. No games, no time delays, and no wishy washy type of behavior.
Early in life I recognized that if I delay, I could lose what I want. If I have an interest in a woman, I let it be known and close the deal.
I learned in my personal life as well as in my business life that time kills all deals. Always be closing.
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You're birthday is a day before mine
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Stensco21, they are not hard to understand at all.What did you find perplexing about them?
I agree.They are not hard at all to understand. They just play mind games at times trying to figure you out..but nothing we Scorpios can't understand! 😛
I'm not sure what mind games you're referring to? Can you please elaborate?
I don't think I play mind games at all. I believe I'm pretty straight forward when I'm pursuing a romantic interest.
All the virgos I came across.. literally all of them..try playing games!They are pretty straightforward in expressing their interest n feelings for someone.But that stops there.N then they keep playing this back n forth (i dunno if it's the fear of rejection or just wanting a reaction)They then start beating around the bush for almost everything.They try to analyze n dig things when there's really nothing.I dunno how to put this simply... I just have had too many situations owing to the fact that I'm surrounded by Virgos.There was this one situation where a Virgo friend of mine manipulated our whole damn friendship which includes one other guy for over months.I always had my doubts but he made it all so believable.This guy was the best friend of that other guy(they have been friends for over 12years) n still managed to make the other guy look bad.He legit twisted each n every moment we 3 of us shared showing the other guy in the bad light while every time it was this guy at fault.It is appalling how he could twist things so much for so long.N there's this other gf of mine who kinda mangles things instead of being upfront about them(She is my bff since 8years ).. I've seen this pattern in all my other virgo friends as well.They wanna know something? No straight questions asked!They feel this need to play.If I have any questions for them.. no straight answers given! They just tiptoe around the topic.Sometimes all their analysis is not even needed.Dont get me wrong though.. it is my favorite sign. I absolutely adore Virgos.
Do you have any unanswered questions that you need an answer to? Just asking, lol.... 😉
btw.. there is a certain batch of virgos that excell in what your talking about. we can bring the drama and we are the best at it.
Haha.. why? You'd answer them for me?
Lol! Oh I know all the drama.That was one time I fell for it...for a while at that. I figured it out eventually...he didn't see that coming 😛
Questions?
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Yeah the questions..
But I don't have any for you I guess 😛
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@Teena Your google research skills are excellent.Well, google helped me find dxp afterall..so
I see but you still did not answer what it meant?
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Stensco21, they are not hard to understand at all.What did you find perplexing about them?
I agree.They are not hard at all to understand. They just play mind games at times trying to figure you out..but nothing we Scorpios can't understand! 😛
I'm not sure what mind games you're referring to? Can you please elaborate?
I don't think I play mind games at all. I believe I'm pretty straight forward when I'm pursuing a romantic interest.
All the virgos I came across.. literally all of them..try playing games!They are pretty straightforward in expressing their interest n feelings for someone.But that stops there.N then they keep playing this back n forth (i dunno if it's the fear of rejection or just wanting a reaction)They then start beating around the bush for almost everything.They try to analyze n dig things when there's really nothing.I dunno how to put this simply... I just have had too many situations owing to the fact that I'm surrounded by Virgos.There was this one situation where a Virgo friend of mine manipulated our whole damn friendship which includes one other guy for over months.I always had my doubts but he made it all so believable.This guy was the best friend of that other guy(they have been friends for over 12years) n still managed to make the other guy look bad.He legit twisted each n every moment we 3 of us shared showing the other guy in the bad light while every time it was this guy at fault.It is appalling how he could twist things so much for so long.N there's this other gf of mine who kinda mangles things instead of being upfront about them(She is my bff since 8years ).. I've seen this pattern in all my other virgo friends as well.They wanna know something? No straight questions asked!They feel this need to play.If I have any questions for them.. no straight answers given! They just tiptoe around the topic.Sometimes all their analysis is not even needed.Dont get me wrong though.. it is my favorite sign. I absolutely adore Virgos.
Hey Teena,
I agree with you and @VirgoGent
I've definitely met the type that you mentioned and their behavior is so obvious, I would friend zone before anything serious ever happened.
BUT, I've also gone out with the type that VirgoGent describes... I don't remember his exact birthdate but I do remember that it was late August. He was SUPER earthy, mellow and a straight shooter. Never played any mind games, which was VERY attractive and admirable to me.
I don't know if my straight forwardness comes from my birthday Sept 2nd, or that I grew up in a yes or no environment. Maybe my placements have something to do with it as well, ikd.
Today and even back in high school if I liked a girl I would try and make her my girlfriend as fast as possible. No games, no time delays, and no wishy washy type of behavior.
Early in life I recognized that if I delay, I could lose what I want. If I have an interest in a woman, I let it be known and close the deal.
I learned in my personal life as well as in my business life that time kills all deals. Always be closing.
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The Virgo I dated was 8/29 and was very upfront about wanting a relationship. It was like he had a check list and once I met the requirements he had to lock the deal immediately. It was nice to be wanted but a little overwhelming... I always assumed he had some Leo or fire in his sign. That's how fire signs I've dated are (sans the checklist).
The 9/12 guy I dated... I'm not sure if he's had an exclusive committed relationship his entire adult life. Not sure what that's from lol
Posted by Stensco21
I've dated three and I don't understand them at all!
I'm a little late to this one, but I find Virgo men kinda easy to figure out.
Feel free to ask if you have any questions.
I have two Virgo brothers and a Virgo sister.
And a Virgo close friend.
I understand them very well.
Was hoping to date one soon. :/
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I have two Virgo brothers and a Virgo sister.And a Virgo close friend.
I understand them very well.
Was hoping to date one soon. :/
What is your sun sign?
Are you a Cancer or a Scorpio?
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Cancer why?
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I have two Virgo brothers and a Virgo sister.And a Virgo close friend.
I understand them very well.
Was hoping to date one soon. :/
What is your sun sign?
Are you a Cancer or a Scorpio?
Cancer why?
just curious
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I knew this would be your answer. 😛
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I have two Virgo brothers and a Virgo sister.And a Virgo close friend.
I understand them very well.
Was hoping to date one soon. :/
What is your sun sign?
Are you a Cancer or a Scorpio?
Cancer why?
just curious
I knew this would be your answer. 😛
water signs are such mind readers lol
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I thought about just asking you Why, in order to get you to answer my question.
Then decided to not play along with Virgo's need to play hide and go seek.
Doh, just remembered there is a Virgo at work who likes to flirt and complain that I don't call him
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I have two Virgo brothers and a Virgo sister.And a Virgo close friend.
I understand them very well.
Was hoping to date one soon. :/
What is your sun sign?
Are you a Cancer or a Scorpio?
Cancer why?
just curious
I knew this would be your answer. 😛
water signs are such mind readers lol
I thought about just asking you Why, in order to get you to answer my question.
Then decided to not play along with Virgo's need to play hide and go seek.
Doh, just remembered there is a Virgo at work who likes to flirt and complain that I don't call him
Why don't you call him tho?
Does he flirt with everyone else besides you too?
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He's not what I want.
you cant figure a virgo out, because they are always mirroring you, unless they like you.
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you cant figure a virgo out, because they are always mirroring you, unless they like you.
Then they don't mirror?
You have to be blunt with them that is the only way to eleminate the guessing game.
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No lol not after him writing while he has a girl that's trashy