Donttouchme
@Donttouchme
2 Years
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Posted by ATGR
You should go to the police. Posting the same exact thing 5 times on DXP is not going to help you.

Posted by IceStorm
I’m sorry that this happened to you.. unfortunately it is very common. But you can turn it around and use it as a learning experience instead of allowing it to make you feel ashamed, afraid, helpless, etc.. experiences like this are painful but empower us to make different decisions going forward. The keyword here is **empower**. You are not helpless to anyone or anything.. just don’t put yourself in circumstances where you are at the mercy of someone else. limit yourself to having one drink, don’t go to a bedroom with strangers, trust your judgment and gut instinct when it’s screaming NO if someone is trying to talk you into doing something or going somewhere you don’t want to go etc..
Also re-evaluate that “friendship” if you haven’t already…
Posted by Stony
"why didn't he do that to me?" is a CRAZYYYYYYYYYY response to your friend telling you she's been assaulted..
Posted by nanochip
As a woman, sadly this is not at all uncommon and you can never be too careful. It has happened to me before, at a friends house as well. I went to sleep alone in a room and woke up with a man I did not know on top of me in the middle of the night. He found me asleep in the room and thought that was his chance. Report this guy to the police immediately and never follow strange men to bedrooms again. It’s upsetting and disgusting that statistically most women have to experience this, but it’s just our reality.
Posted by DonttouchmePosted by IceStorm
I’m sorry that this happened to you.. unfortunately it is very common. But you can turn it around and use it as a learning experience instead of allowing it to make you feel ashamed, afraid, helpless, etc.. experiences like this are painful but empower us to make different decisions going forward. The keyword here is **empower**. You are not helpless to anyone or anything.. just don’t put yourself in circumstances where you are at the mercy of someone else. limit yourself to having one drink, don’t go to a bedroom with strangers, trust your judgment and gut instinct when it’s screaming NO if someone is trying to talk you into doing something or going somewhere you don’t want to go etc..
Also re-evaluate that “friendship” if you haven’t already…
Thanks ice storm . Your Kind words are comfortingclick to expand

Posted by StubbornSag
This is so horrible to read but I'm really glad you stayed strong and you're doing much better now. I found myself in similar situations a few times in life so I do know how it makes you feel. Luckily for me however, it never got that far and they stopped before it got to this kind of situation. Yes, they - multiple. So yeah, woman has to be careful who she goes out with and where she goes. And as for your "friend" - I hope someone beats her ass really badly, just because. She's a shitty human being and doesn't deserve any good in her pathetic life for the actions towards you in that situation. I would defend my friend with my own life if needed, would never ever question their words or their integrity when it comes to such matters. Well, it wouldn't even need to be a friend, it would be enough that it's a another human being who's in trouble...
Posted by Timone
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. You're so strong for overcoming it and not let a creep let you live in fear. After all you did nothing wrong. Good for you for cutting of your so called "friend". Hope only good things happen to you onwards. ❤️



Posted by StubbornSagPosted by DonttouchmePosted by StubbornSag
This is so horrible to read but I'm really glad you stayed strong and you're doing much better now. I found myself in similar situations a few times in life so I do know how it makes you feel. Luckily for me however, it never got that far and they stopped before it got to this kind of situation. Yes, they - multiple. So yeah, woman has to be careful who she goes out with and where she goes. And as for your "friend" - I hope someone beats her ass really badly, just because. She's a shitty human being and doesn't deserve any good in her pathetic life for the actions towards you in that situation. I would defend my friend with my own life if needed, would never ever question their words or their integrity when it comes to such matters. Well, it wouldn't even need to be a friend, it would be enough that it's a another human being who's in trouble...
You know I read somewhere we choose the people we want to surround ourselves with . I kept asking myself after this incident why was I even friends with her . Initially I remember that she would invite me to parties in club , I dint have much of a social life at that point . But I saw those red flags . I chose to ignore it cos I believed in the good in her .
We as human beings are so delusional. We get close to snakes thinking they would not bite us . But they would and It will come at a time you least expect it .
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No one would expect that to happen for sure. Specially cause you said you even liked that guy at first. So how could you expect him to turn out to be like that? How could you expect someone you consider a friend to act that way when she was the one who lead you in that situation in the first place. I had one "wild" friend that I loved to go out clubbing cause she was very casual and outgoing but once she got us in trouble, I never went out with her like that and it wasn't even that severe. Just some guys who gave us ride home, expected to hook up with us or whatever. I didn't resent them, I resented her only, because she lied to me she knew them and that they were some guys from her work. Luckily it stopped at one of them trying to kiss me only and me rejecting him, but because she put us in that situation if they happened to be like that guy from your situation we could have ended up God knows where and how. Now you know you have to be careful even with who you befriend. But valuable lessons learned, lesser of harm done at least and you got out of it stronger than everclick to expand
Posted by x-
"just telling my heart it’s okay , to breathe"
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im so sorry you had to experience
Posted by MysteriousHeart
So sorry you had to experience this.😔 I went through it a couple times. Once with a family member when I was about 12. It’s horrible. 😔
Posted by SomPosted by DonttouchmePosted by Som
What about TW?
What’s TW
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Posted by poppyflower
I stand corrected lol @Walk_on_by
@OP Welcome back. A lot of new posters here tend to post, see no response, and then never comes back. 😛
I’m so sorry what you had to go through. Even though he got away with it this time, I believe karma will come around to him eventually and he will fully get what he deserves.
Posted by AbbyNormal
You need a self defense class to empower yourself. Sadly, there are bad people out there. And this is a fucking horrible thing that happens all the time. So just be ready. You did well for fighting and using your head. It’s a very scary situation and I’m glad you made it out okay. It’s very jarring and you’ll feel shaken up, but you have to get your inner power back. Get all of it out somehow, via creative pursuits and/or physical ones. Big hugs, I’m sorry.
Posted by xxAjuxx
I'm really sorry, @Donttouchme.
Words here are not even enough.
This world, sometimes I have to just turn everything off. It's everywhere. Even driving, people will speed and care only about themselves.
--Take and Take.
All I can say is that this hellish event from this demon (who I am happily judging him in this way) shall not break you. Every event gives us knowledge, makes us smarter, but not every event ((has)) the right to take our light. Please continue to shine and not let this, demon take your heart --your light.
The energy we give off is the energy we get back.
He will recieve his.
Posted by Stony
"why didn't he do that to me?" is a CRAZYYYYYYYYYY response to your friend telling you she's been assaulted..

Posted by DonttouchmePosted by Stony
"why didn't he do that to me?" is a CRAZYYYYYYYYYY response to your friend telling you she's been assaulted..
Not only that she gave me a vibe that am creating a drama . Like I am not speaking the truth cos her answer was like why he dint do that to me . Then she was like why didn’t you just stand up and leave . And you know what was maddening that I trying to prove to her in that situation that am speaking the truth . She dint believe me very much . I just cut her off later . I needed to heal myself . Not validate my reality to her .I was explaining to her again and again that I was calling you . I was kicking him off me , doing everything I had the strength to . Crying , begging . Telling him that god is watching like a little stupid kid . Just used my wits at the end or he would have completed his act and beaten me up as wellclick to expand

Posted by DonttouchmePosted by xxAjuxx
I'm really sorry, @Donttouchme.
Words here are not even enough.
This world, sometimes I have to just turn everything off. It's everywhere. Even driving, people will speed and care only about themselves.
--Take and Take.
All I can say is that this hellish event from this demon (who I am happily judging him in this way) shall not break you. Every event gives us knowledge, makes us smarter, but not every event ((has)) the right to take our light. Please continue to shine and not let this, demon take your heart --your light.
The energy we give off is the energy we get back.
He will recieve his.
Wow what a beautiful message . It’s like am healing again . I really needed this . Which is why I had posted . 🤗I am thankful for your kind words . Thank you I really needed this . I have no words but tears of gratitude in my eyes by reading all the support am getting . Am thankful 🙏click to expand
Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by DonttouchmePosted by StonyNot only that she gave me a vibe that am creating a drama . Like I am not speaking the truth cos her answer was like why he dint do that to me . Then she was like why didn’t you just stand up and leave . And you know what was maddening that I trying to prove to her in that situation that am speaking the truth . She dint believe me very much . I just cut her off later . I needed to heal myself . Not validate my reality to her .I was explaining to her again and again that I was calling you . I was kicking him off me , doing everything I had the strength to . Crying , begging . Telling him that god is watching like a little stupid kid . Just used my wits at the end or he would have completed his act and beaten me up as well
"why didn't he do that to me?" is a CRAZYYYYYYYYYY response to your friend telling you she's been assaulted..
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Self defense teaches you how to hit🎯. Strength does not beat skill. Self defense classes are very useful to everyone.
Yes there are people out there with bad intentions. This is why woman are careful and measure males intentions before putting themselves in a vulnerable position with them. Freezing or fighting ( fight or flight ) is a normal response to threatening situations.
This friend of yours does not believe you or want to believe you because it goes against her own interests.
What country are you in?click to expand

Posted by DonttouchmePosted by AbbyNormal
You need a self defense class to empower yourself. Sadly, there are bad people out there. And this is a fucking horrible thing that happens all the time. So just be ready. You did well for fighting and using your head. It’s a very scary situation and I’m glad you made it out okay. It’s very jarring and you’ll feel shaken up, but you have to get your inner power back. Get all of it out somehow, via creative pursuits and/or physical ones. Big hugs, I’m sorry.
Hi thank you for the hugs . I thought about the self defense class and then realized. Men are built stronger. Physically stronger .Even a man that looks thin is stronger . Self defense classes can give you a temporary comfort that are things under control and you will be able to handle man but believe me I know how i fought with him . I put everything in that fight . And i was exhausted. It wasn’t the same for me . He was mildly irritated that he can’t do what he wants to . But he could have raped me that night . Had the sound out of the door not come , and the whole part in the end where I kissed him back and hugged him . Making him believe that am liking what he’s doing . He wouldn’t have stopped . I had to use my brain and tell him that I ll be waiting for you . Because you know I didn’t have the strength left in me . He was even saying to me to stop moving or he ll punch me . He was planning to punch me .
It’s a physical science they have a higher bone density . Women are physically the weaker gender and after this incident I researched a lot of survivor documentaries . All those women escaped just cos of luck or their wits . You can’t beat them physically but you gotta be clever . Wolves everywhereclick to expand

Posted by Donttouchme
I was invited to a house party with a Virgo female friend . The 2 boys present there . One of them she knew . The one she knew assaulted me. It was 11 in the night she called me up said she was planning to hangout with these 2 guys . She knew one of them from 3 years. So I go there we all have drinks in the living room , just chill . This guy starts showing interest in me . I was flirting back as well . I told him I need to wake up early the next day so he got a blanket in the living room . He was funny and he seemed kind . After a while he said to me you can rest in the bedroom so I went with him there . That’s when things got bad . From the sweet , funny guy he turned into a guy who gave me nightmares.
Men are strong like really strong I know this now cos I fought his advances physically for an hour. With his words like stop moving or “you will be raped “. He kept telling me to stop fighting him . Twice i told him he can get a prostitude so he should just leave me. He said I ll punch you . The second Time when I said that he ll punch me . I believed him. I just wanted to get out of the bed . But no amount of effort or fight was helping .I kept telling him to stop putting his hand in my shirt , I kept telling him to let me go as he kept forcing his kiss on me . For an hour .The more I said no the more he violated me . I kicked I pushed all to no end . I cried , I begged , I told him he was scaring me . The only way he stopped is when I stopped kicking and pushing & told him I liked him too .I thought that my energy isn’t working maybe just playing along will. Cos I didn’t want to have sex with him . I was sure about that. When he asked me to kiss him I kissed him back. Cos I was tired of fighting him and being hurt . We heard some noise in the living room , thats when my opportunity struck and I told him to check what it was , and that I would stay here waiting for him . That’s why he stopped and left . The moment he left I leapt after a minute or 2 . Pushing my friend to leave with me . I was scared .
I screamed and shouted in attempts so my friend could hear me in the living room . She told me the next day she couldn’t hear me , infact she told me “why didn’t he do that to me”. She told me “why didn’t I just come out the bedroom” , she told me “ why dint I tell her the same Time “ .I was scared , she doesn’t understand what I mean scared I don’t know how to articulate it . Explain it . I was scared . Scared he would punch me like he said he would . Scared he would break me . Scared they are 2 and me and my friend are just women .
She can’t understand and guest what blames me .
I am suffering now from post assault symptoms. Spent 2 days crying , drinking , numb , thoughts that would take me back to him bed . That feeling of helplessness. Numbness . That humiliation. That anger of how dare he . I thought of reporting him to the authorities. But here’s the thing . My friend is a non believer, I entered the bed room with my wish .
I never thought this would happen to me . When I looked online 1 out of 3 women . 1 out of 8 men . It’s that common ?? What world are we living in

Posted by TruemaraPosted by Donttouchme
I was invited to a house party with a Virgo female friend . The 2 boys present there . One of them she knew . The one she knew assaulted me. It was 11 in the night she called me up said she was planning to hangout with these 2 guys . She knew one of them from 3 years. So I go there we all have drinks in the living room , just chill . This guy starts showing interest in me . I was flirting back as well . I told him I need to wake up early the next day so he got a blanket in the living room . He was funny and he seemed kind . After a while he said to me you can rest in the bedroom so I went with him there . That’s when things got bad . From the sweet , funny guy he turned into a guy who gave me nightmares.
Men are strong like really strong I know this now cos I fought his advances physically for an hour. With his words like stop moving or “you will be raped “. He kept telling me to stop fighting him . Twice i told him he can get a prostitude so he should just leave me. He said I ll punch you . The second Time when I said that he ll punch me . I believed him. I just wanted to get out of the bed . But no amount of effort or fight was helping .I kept telling him to stop putting his hand in my shirt , I kept telling him to let me go as he kept forcing his kiss on me . For an hour .The more I said no the more he violated me . I kicked I pushed all to no end . I cried , I begged , I told him he was scaring me . The only way he stopped is when I stopped kicking and pushing & told him I liked him too .I thought that my energy isn’t working maybe just playing along will. Cos I didn’t want to have sex with him . I was sure about that. When he asked me to kiss him I kissed him back. Cos I was tired of fighting him and being hurt . We heard some noise in the living room , thats when my opportunity struck and I told him to check what it was , and that I would stay here waiting for him . That’s why he stopped and left . The moment he left I leapt after a minute or 2 . Pushing my friend to leave with me . I was scared .
I screamed and shouted in attempts so my friend could hear me in the living room . She told me the next day she couldn’t hear me , infact she told me “why didn’t he do that to me”. She told me “why didn’t I just come out the bedroom” , she told me “ why dint I tell her the same Time “ .I was scared , she doesn’t understand what I mean scared I don’t know how to articulate it . Explain it . I was scared . Scared he would punch me like he said he would . Scared he would break me . Scared they are 2 and me and my friend are just women .
She can’t understand and guest what blames me .
I am suffering now from post assault symptoms. Spent 2 days crying , drinking , numb , thoughts that would take me back to him bed . That feeling of helplessness. Numbness . That humiliation. That anger of how dare he . I thought of reporting him to the authorities. But here’s the thing . My friend is a non believer, I entered the bed room with my wish .
I never thought this would happen to me . When I looked online 1 out of 3 women . 1 out of 8 men . It’s that common ?? What world are we living in
Go to the police asap. Before his scratches healclick to expand
Posted by TruemaraPosted by TruemaraPosted by Donttouchme
I was invited to a house party with a Virgo female friend . The 2 boys present there . One of them she knew . The one she knew assaulted me. It was 11 in the night she called me up said she was planning to hangout with these 2 guys . She knew one of them from 3 years. So I go there we all have drinks in the living room , just chill . This guy starts showing interest in me . I was flirting back as well . I told him I need to wake up early the next day so he got a blanket in the living room . He was funny and he seemed kind . After a while he said to me you can rest in the bedroom so I went with him there . That’s when things got bad . From the sweet , funny guy he turned into a guy who gave me nightmares.
Men are strong like really strong I know this now cos I fought his advances physically for an hour. With his words like stop moving or “you will be raped “. He kept telling me to stop fighting him . Twice i told him he can get a prostitude so he should just leave me. He said I ll punch you . The second Time when I said that he ll punch me . I believed him. I just wanted to get out of the bed . But no amount of effort or fight was helping .I kept telling him to stop putting his hand in my shirt , I kept telling him to let me go as he kept forcing his kiss on me . For an hour .The more I said no the more he violated me . I kicked I pushed all to no end . I cried , I begged , I told him he was scaring me . The only way he stopped is when I stopped kicking and pushing & told him I liked him too .I thought that my energy isn’t working maybe just playing along will. Cos I didn’t want to have sex with him . I was sure about that. When he asked me to kiss him I kissed him back. Cos I was tired of fighting him and being hurt . We heard some noise in the living room , thats when my opportunity struck and I told him to check what it was , and that I would stay here waiting for him . That’s why he stopped and left . The moment he left I leapt after a minute or 2 . Pushing my friend to leave with me . I was scared .
I screamed and shouted in attempts so my friend could hear me in the living room . She told me the next day she couldn’t hear me , infact she told me “why didn’t he do that to me”. She told me “why didn’t I just come out the bedroom” , she told me “ why dint I tell her the same Time “ .I was scared , she doesn’t understand what I mean scared I don’t know how to articulate it . Explain it . I was scared . Scared he would punch me like he said he would . Scared he would break me . Scared they are 2 and me and my friend are just women .
She can’t understand and guest what blames me .
I am suffering now from post assault symptoms. Spent 2 days crying , drinking , numb , thoughts that would take me back to him bed . That feeling of helplessness. Numbness . That humiliation. That anger of how dare he . I thought of reporting him to the authorities. But here’s the thing . My friend is a non believer, I entered the bed room with my wish .
I never thought this would happen to me . When I looked online 1 out of 3 women . 1 out of 8 men . It’s that common ?? What world are we living in
Go to the police asap. Before his scratches heal
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Oh just read the rest. Sorry this happened. Even though you went in it doesn’t negate the assault despite not succeeding in raping . Kidnapping could be charged. Since he held you in that room against your will.
Seek therapy, and it’s not your fault for going out with friends. In my youth I did the same make out and got to the room and was never assaulted or pushed to do more than what I felt comfortable. so it is him not you.
This friend dump her.click to expand
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Men are strong like really strong I know this now cos I fought his advances physically for an hour. With his words like stop moving or “you will be raped “. He kept telling me to stop fighting him . Twice i told him he can get a prostitude so he should just leave me. He said I ll punch you . The second Time when I said that he ll punch me . I believed him. I just wanted to get out of the bed . But no amount of effort or fight was helping .I kept telling him to stop putting his hand in my shirt , I kept telling him to let me go as he kept forcing his kiss on me . For an hour .The more I said no the more he violated me . I kicked I pushed all to no end . I cried , I begged , I told him he was scaring me . The only way he stopped is when I stopped kicking and pushing & told him I liked him too .I thought that my energy isn’t working maybe just playing along will. Cos I didn’t want to have sex with him . I was sure about that. When he asked me to kiss him I kissed him back. Cos I was tired of fighting him and being hurt . We heard some noise in the living room , thats when my opportunity struck and I told him to check what it was , and that I would stay here waiting for him . That’s why he stopped and left . The moment he left I leapt after a minute or 2 . Pushing my friend to leave with me . I was scared .
I screamed and shouted in attempts so my friend could hear me in the living room . She told me the next day she couldn’t hear me , infact she told me “why didn’t he do that to me”. She told me “why didn’t I just come out the bedroom” , she told me “ why dint I tell her the same Time “ .I was scared , she doesn’t understand what I mean scared I don’t know how to articulate it . Explain it . I was scared . Scared he would punch me like he said he would . Scared he would break me . Scared they are 2 and me and my friend are just women .
She can’t understand and guest what blames me .
I am suffering now from post assault symptoms. Spent 2 days crying , drinking , numb , thoughts that would take me back to him bed . That feeling of helplessness. Numbness . That humiliation. That anger of how dare he . I thought of reporting him to the authorities. But here’s the thing . My friend is a non believer, I entered the bed room with my wish .
I never thought this would happen to me . When I looked online 1 out of 3 women . 1 out of 8 men . It’s that common ?? What world are we living in