NotUrTypicalGemini
@NotUrTypicalGemini
4 Years
Comments: 39 · Posts: 77 · Topics: 2
Taurus man, is it over?
You are on page out of 2 | Reverse Order
I don't see what you could have done differently to have had a better outcome. He seems to be going through a burnout. The main worry is that this is your second "disconnect", since you two "lost touch" before, quite early on. You can't blame everything on his new job, it wasn't an issue first time it happened. Also, why there is no sex? Is this an LDR?
I would leave him alone to find his feet for now. He clearly likes you, but he doesn't love you or see you as a priority atm. He doesn't appreciate the things you do for him, the fact that you were patient, undemanding and understanding. He's not afraid of losing you. Obviously, the burnout complicates things, but he could have snapped out of it by now...even the most challenging things eventually become routine.
Give him a few more weeks and then move on, if he's not back in force, wanting to date you.
I would leave him alone to find his feet for now. He clearly likes you, but he doesn't love you or see you as a priority atm. He doesn't appreciate the things you do for him, the fact that you were patient, undemanding and understanding. He's not afraid of losing you. Obviously, the burnout complicates things, but he could have snapped out of it by now...even the most challenging things eventually become routine.
Give him a few more weeks and then move on, if he's not back in force, wanting to date you.
Lots of Gemini pain for sale it seems...
@Undine
When we first connected we hadn't met yet, had just started getting to know each other then Covid hit the world LOL and some other things happened that wasn't anything on either side. Life just kind of happened but like I sd we hadnt met at that point had only just started texting and getting to know each other. At that time he was running his company of 9yrs so he ran his own schedule as well.
The disconnect came after he started this new job with an insane schedule. 6 days on and some double shifts meaning he works like 18hrs, gets 3hrs sleep then will do another 18hrs. Hence why I completely understood and let him make plans when he felt rested on his days off, if he could. He definitely was/is burnt out. I felt bad and wished I could have done something to help in some capacity.
No sex as we really wanted to take the time to get to know each other on a deep level. We DEFINITELY have chemistry and did...other things. I'm a highly sensual & sexual person as well as him. We didn't want that to cloud anything and not get to know each other properly. You know hoe you can get lost in the sex haze then 1yr in you find out the person you were with wasn't who you thought? We didn't want that to happen. Was hard not to have sex.
Yeah the part with no being afraid to lose me hurts a lot. When he was talking about just wanting me to be happy and if I found a man who could give me everything I deserve, he would understand. I couldn't even fathom dating anyone else, I asked how he would FEEL if he knew I was not what he would think because we know each other and I knew his answer to that. He sd he'd be really hurt and really jealous if he knew I was dating someone else. So I was like...—? So confused.
I won't reach out then and continue to give him his space. Thank you for your perspective and response. I really do appreciate it. 😊
When we first connected we hadn't met yet, had just started getting to know each other then Covid hit the world LOL and some other things happened that wasn't anything on either side. Life just kind of happened but like I sd we hadnt met at that point had only just started texting and getting to know each other. At that time he was running his company of 9yrs so he ran his own schedule as well.
The disconnect came after he started this new job with an insane schedule. 6 days on and some double shifts meaning he works like 18hrs, gets 3hrs sleep then will do another 18hrs. Hence why I completely understood and let him make plans when he felt rested on his days off, if he could. He definitely was/is burnt out. I felt bad and wished I could have done something to help in some capacity.
No sex as we really wanted to take the time to get to know each other on a deep level. We DEFINITELY have chemistry and did...other things. I'm a highly sensual & sexual person as well as him. We didn't want that to cloud anything and not get to know each other properly. You know hoe you can get lost in the sex haze then 1yr in you find out the person you were with wasn't who you thought? We didn't want that to happen. Was hard not to have sex.
Yeah the part with no being afraid to lose me hurts a lot. When he was talking about just wanting me to be happy and if I found a man who could give me everything I deserve, he would understand. I couldn't even fathom dating anyone else, I asked how he would FEEL if he knew I was not what he would think because we know each other and I knew his answer to that. He sd he'd be really hurt and really jealous if he knew I was dating someone else. So I was like...—? So confused.
I won't reach out then and continue to give him his space. Thank you for your perspective and response. I really do appreciate it. 😊
@NotMadHatter
Yep! You sound just like my Taurus and it's one of the things I admire and like about him is his dedication to his purpose. That's why I was so supportive. I want him to win. He's still running his business and pursuing this new career. Going to the gym is HUGE for him too which is another thing that was bothering him that he had no time to go. He wants to reestablish his routine, well, new routine. Just really crappy timing for us.
I get it though, I'm a single mum to an 8yr old 100% , 365/yr, no support, its all on me. I work Full-time and am doing a full-time 2yr Diploma program right now so I get being so busy and overwhelmed it makes your head spin.
I hear you and it sounds like exactly what my Taurus is going through.
No we haven't, only about 4 months. But I can tell you I've never met a man that could keep up with me the way he can. Or that I had such a unique, intense connection with. It's different, that's all I know.
That's a brilliant idea however his lunch breaks are whenever he can take 5mins, here and there. They're short staff (hence the doubles) and he works in a prison so can't go have lunch with him....unless he's processing me....hmmmmm....strip search....maybe ur on to something there 🤔 LOL!
Also there's the part where he said he needs space so we haven't talked since Saturday and I'm giving him what he sd he needs
Yep! You sound just like my Taurus and it's one of the things I admire and like about him is his dedication to his purpose. That's why I was so supportive. I want him to win. He's still running his business and pursuing this new career. Going to the gym is HUGE for him too which is another thing that was bothering him that he had no time to go. He wants to reestablish his routine, well, new routine. Just really crappy timing for us.
I get it though, I'm a single mum to an 8yr old 100% , 365/yr, no support, its all on me. I work Full-time and am doing a full-time 2yr Diploma program right now so I get being so busy and overwhelmed it makes your head spin.
I hear you and it sounds like exactly what my Taurus is going through.
No we haven't, only about 4 months. But I can tell you I've never met a man that could keep up with me the way he can. Or that I had such a unique, intense connection with. It's different, that's all I know.
That's a brilliant idea however his lunch breaks are whenever he can take 5mins, here and there. They're short staff (hence the doubles) and he works in a prison so can't go have lunch with him....unless he's processing me....hmmmmm....strip search....maybe ur on to something there 🤔 LOL!
Also there's the part where he said he needs space so we haven't talked since Saturday and I'm giving him what he sd he needs
Posted by Wizardz_
His dream job is working in a prison??!?
😮😶😑🤐😧😧😧😧😵😵😵🥴🥴😱😱😱🤥🤥🤫😳😳😬😬😧😦😨😨🙁🥺🥺🤨🤨🤨
LOL! No, he wants to help troubled youth and in order to get the next level training they have to work certain positions to obtain it. Its a year position he will be able to transfer from once he has his training "under his belt".
Posted by bmoon8Posted by Parilicium
@bmoon8 another taurux x gemini couple without sex lol
Literally…
https://media0.giphy.com/media/l0MYunAI4j10uWbFm/200.gif<div class="bqfade">click to expand
That's WHY air shouldn't be with Earth. Heavy, boring Earth...Air should be with Fire!
Posted by NotUrTypicalGemini
Need advice on Taurus man
He's 40, I'm 38.
Sorry this is long, I tried to make it shorter. Gemini problems LOL!
We initially met online over a year ago. Had INSTANT connection like we had known each other our whole lives. Laughing constantly, unmatched banter on both sides. It actually scared me. We talked for a couple weeks but Life things came up and we lost touch.
By chance completely out of the blue at the end of July we reconnected and it was as if a day hadn't passed. The energy was insane. We started talking every night and had 3-4hr convos and text all day. Then after 2 weeks we had our first date. Best date of my life, he felt the same. I have NEVER in my life experienced a connection like this. We both kept saying it felt surreal. Kept reminding ourselves we only just met. Scary! But when we were together it was magnetic. I am a VERY affectionate person and was delighted that he was the same. He was very intense in pursuit of me. Consistent. Open. Communicative. All the things which I love and I showed him all the same. He wanted to be exclusive. Showed signs of jealousy etc. We got a little intimate but never had sex and both agreed we wanted to build a connection. We're both Demisexual. Things were going amazing. Then 2 months in he started a new job that was VERY intense and a HUGE shift for him. We talked about it in the beginning and he just asked that I be patient while he adjusts to the job & demanding schedule. Despite being a Gemini, I am Virgo ascendant which means I CRAVE stability and I've been told I am patient to a fault. Of course I want him to succeed and believe in him. I was so proud he got his dream job and encouraged and supported him 100% .
Fast forward a 1.5 months into his job he is struggling. Struggling to find balance between work and home life. The schedule ended up being so much more demanding than he thought it would be. We've only been able to see each other twice since he started his job. He ended up getting really sick, having to work doubles and canceling plans due to his other business that he also is still running. During all of this I have been patient, understanding, was calm, not demanding anything of him and giving him his space. Respecting his needs and allowing him to make the plans as I knew he had much going on. We would still text daily, talk on his days off and I was completely good with that. Again, I know this is his dream and fully support his drive and want to see him succeed. I just tried to check in and be a calm happy space for him. A place to vent if he needed and be there for him. 2 weeks ago he cancels our date due to work, I say so worries I understand, we'll raincheck for another day. He calls me and vents everything he's feeling, feeling very overwhelmed. I tried to just listen and reassured him this was just a transition and he'd find his balance. Things are strained due to Covid. Hes working way more than he should be. I told him in months to come, more staff should come in and not to worry things would level out. Told him he's doing a great job.
Things continue to be our new normal then this past weekend we had plans for him to come over. We had talked the night before and he was a little short but other than that normal. I just chalked it up to him having a long work week and didn't bring it up. I'm extremely empathetic so I get it which is why I said nothing. Day of our date he texts me in the am like his normal happy, sweet self. We chat a bit, all positive. A friend of mine was coming for a play date with our daughters before my date. He texts me asking to call him. So when my friend leaves I do thinking he was asking what snacks I wanted for our date.
Not what he had to say at all. I was in shock. He sd he was feeling disconnected. I sd yeah that will happen as we haven't been able to see each other but I understand and am willing to be patient and we'll figure it out. He brought up my best guy friend and he feels jealous of how close we are and he wishes he had that with me. I sd we can but it will takr time and seeing each other but it would be more than that as I have a connection with him (my Taurus) thats so unique and nothing like what I could ever have with my friend. I told him our connection was different, special. He sd he missed how we were in the beginning, misses us, and doesn't like how he feels now. He sd he doesn't feel like himself, feels like he's not giving me what I need. He sd the man I met then is him and hes not himself right now. I give him these long texts that are witty and make him laugh and he wants to respond in kind but hes too tired or overwhelmed or doesn't have time. He says I deserve more. I deserve to be with a man who can give me everything I need and want. He sd he does care about me. He sd he had mentioned in the beginning how he likes when his woman also makes plans but I haven't. I sd yes I usually do but only reason I haven't is because I do understand the amount of workload etc on your right now and wad just trying to respect your time and giving you that space as I didn't want to stress him. He asked for time and patience, I thought thats what I was providing and I apologized. I sd of course I want to see you and miss you, I just know you have to focus on things right now. He sd a lot of other things but Then he sd he can't commit and needs me not to expect anything because he's just feeling overwhelmed. He misses his friends and family and going to the gym and doesnt feel like himself because hes had to neglect all of that. So he sd he needs to get all of that in balance again and focus on getting this new career off the ground and be successful. BUT says he still wants my daughter & I to be in his life. I asked in what capacity, as a friend? He sd well no. I sd you want to talk in a week or something, he sd no, I still want you in my life I just need you to not expect anything. Said he needs space, he needs to get back to himself. We end our call, he says I'll talk to your later. That was Saturday, it's been 3 days. I haven't text or called because he sd he wants space so I'm respecting his needs.
I've dated some pretty dishonest men with intentions that weren't true. I'm a very loyal, devoted partner. Very old school. I guess my question is, was all of this just the typical thing men say to a woman you're no longer interested in to let her off easy? Or does he just need space and he will come back when he feels grounded again? I feel its the latter, he's always been true to his word but I'm feeling very sidelined and confused.
I miss him terribly but again, I haven't reached out to respect his request for space but am so confused I don't even know if that is the right thing to do. I don't want him to think I don't care and am not thinking about him but I don't want to impose and stress him out when he's trying to regain balance.
Taurus man thoughts? Would greatly appreciate it.
You've known each other for a year. You ARE attracted to each other and STILL you dont have sex and he is withdrawing.
You are fooling yourself. Run!
Posted by NotMadHatterPosted by NotUrTypicalGeminiPosted by Wizardz_
His dream job is working in a prison??!?
😮😶😑🤐😧😧😧😧😵😵😵🥴🥴😱😱😱🤥🤥🤫😳😳😬😬😧😦😨😨🙁🥺🥺🤨🤨🤨
LOL! No, he wants to help troubled youth and in order to get the next level training they have to work certain positions to obtain it. Its a year position he will be able to transfer from once he has his training "under his belt".
Wow! What is this guys birthday? My first degree was in Criminal Justice for that very reason. Then went on to become a police officer for a short period before transferring to the Fire Dept. Was he a trouble maker as a youth?click to expand
He's May 11.
He wants to be a peace officer as well. LOL! And his business he owns/runs is Property Developement. That's even crazier as I sae you're in Real Estate as well. I was actually a leasing agent at one point then was promoted to Property Manager for 2 Regions before I moved. Small world we live in.
No he wasn't, just always been a passion of his to help. It's one of the things we have in common. We're both givers who want to help people. I always go above & beyond to give & protect my people. He's the same. Huge hearts.
He worked with Big Brothers Big Sisters for years.
Policing is tough! I thought about getting into it years ago. The weight of how it affects ones life is hitting him right now. I know what that means and the compartmentalization that has to happen. He heard in his studies how much it can affect ones family life but you don't know until you know and you're in it. I knew and was prepared to stand strong & solid. My placement in Virgo allows me to be very logical & patient when it's called for. That's part of what is hard for me, I'm strong enough to make it through. But, it's out of my control. Only he knows what's good for him right now.
What led you to leave the Police force?
Aaaaannnnd in True Gemini fashion I have rambled on, so I digress LOL!
Posted by NotMadHatterPosted by NotUrTypicalGemini
@NotMadHatter
Yep! You sound just like my Taurus and it's one of the things I admire and like about him is his dedication to his purpose. That's why I was so supportive. I want him to win. He's still running his business and pursuing this new career. Going to the gym is HUGE for him too which is another thing that was bothering him that he had no time to go. He wants to reestablish his routine, well, new routine. Just really crappy timing for us.
I get it though, I'm a single mum to an 8yr old 100% , 365/yr, no support, its all on me. I work Full-time and am doing a full-time 2yr Diploma program right now so I get being so busy and overwhelmed it makes your head spin.
I hear you and it sounds like exactly what my Taurus is going through.
No we haven't, only about 4 months. But I can tell you I've never met a man that could keep up with me the way he can. Or that I had such a unique, intense connection with. It's different, that's all I know.
That's a brilliant idea however his lunch breaks are whenever he can take 5mins, here and there. They're short staff (hence the doubles) and he works in a prison so can't go have lunch with him....unless he's processing me....hmmmmm....strip search....maybe ur on to something there 🤔 LOL!
Also there's the part where he said he needs space so we haven't talked since Saturday and I'm giving him what he sd he needs
Hahaha thats a rough one since there is no access to him during work regardless of how limited. I'm sure he gets off work, takes a shower, and goes to sleep.
Some of the insecurities id say can honestly be chalked up to literal FOMO. His imagination is probably your worst enemy right now.click to expand
Yep it is rough! We're both of the mind that quality is more important than quantity. I'm a very busy woman too so I get it. I don't have a lot of "free" time so I'd be much more happy to make a good hearty lunch and spend even 45mins sharing a meal just the 2 of us no distractions and connecting, being present and enjoying the moment than 100hrs of meh time. The former is much more appealing to me.
Yes you're probably right, our minds are very similar. One of our first convos was about society today having a fixation on grass is greener. As I put it in one of my poems, not paraphrasing but basically it says, people forget that the grass is greener where it is tended to. One must care for, remove the weeds, water. That's where the grass is greener. It only appears greener on the other side as you aren't in it. There are weeds to be tended there too.
I know he's overthinking right now for sure.
Thank you! I appreciate your insights/perspectives & responses😊
Wait until the kids never had daddy around n start going to jail for it.
I think take him at face value.
Working 18hr shifts barely leaves him time to shit let alone date.
Working 18hr shifts barely leaves him time to shit let alone date.
Listen although all you think it’s commendable the thing is if he doesn’t balance this he won’t make to retirement. He’s is burning himself out not even a year into it. What good will he do. I don’t subscribe to this total commitment cuz this job will spit you out and eat you
Why law enforcement have great retirement you won’t make it past five years after retirement
That’s the statistic.
Taurus need to learn this
He’s volunteering for the OT they can mandate only so much.
Fuck if your an accountant n you want this life probably won’t kill yah
But law enforcement is already stressful in itself. Let alone working to the bone.
Why law enforcement have great retirement you won’t make it past five years after retirement
That’s the statistic.
Taurus need to learn this
He’s volunteering for the OT they can mandate only so much.
Fuck if your an accountant n you want this life probably won’t kill yah
But law enforcement is already stressful in itself. Let alone working to the bone.
No offense but even madhatter left. Real estate is a different kind of stress. And good for him.
Your Taurus Actually needs to learn to work smart not work to death.
Your Taurus Actually needs to learn to work smart not work to death.
Posted by MareInfamePosted by Truemara
Listen although all you think it’s commendable the thing is if he doesn’t balance this he won’t make to retirement. He’s is burning himself out not even a year into it. What good will he do. I don’t subscribe to this total commitment cuz this job will spit you out and eat you
Why law enforcement have great retirement you won’t make it past five years after retirement
That’s the statistic.
Taurus need to learn this
He’s volunteering for the OT they can mandate only so much.
I’m guilty of this behavior whenever I start something, though 🤭. So, I get it to a degree😬.
You have to completely immerse yourself enough to become a pro. Then you can relax and balance it all out.
I don’t think it’s a life time but at least the first year on the job. And hey, if you love what you are doing, it’s sometimes a pleasure to work to the point that you get into THE ZONE. It’s like that second wind for runners.
That also happens in dance, sports, sex. It’s an axis thing. 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
Yes but that’s the difference Taurus doesn’t know this they’ll work to be bone for ever lol in LE balance is super important if you want to make it alive n not die from heart issues , cancer ect. No joke
I really recommend if you’ll be his partner to read this book
In fact it’s important he read it as well
Bulletproof spirit by captain Dan Willis
In fact it’s important he read it as well
Bulletproof spirit by captain Dan Willis
Posted by NotMadHatterPosted by NotUrTypicalGeminiPosted by NotMadHatterPosted by NotUrTypicalGeminiPosted by Wizardz_
His dream job is working in a prison??!?
😮😶😑🤐😧😧😧😧😵😵😵🥴🥴😱😱😱🤥🤥🤫😳😳😬😬😧😦😨😨🙁🥺🥺🤨🤨🤨
LOL! No, he wants to help troubled youth and in order to get the next level training they have to work certain positions to obtain it. Its a year position he will be able to transfer from once he has his training "under his belt".
Wow! What is this guys birthday? My first degree was in Criminal Justice for that very reason. Then went on to become a police officer for a short period before transferring to the Fire Dept. Was he a trouble maker as a youth?
He's May 11.
He wants to be a peace officer as well. LOL! And his business he owns/runs is Property Developement. That's even crazier as I sae you're in Real Estate as well. I was actually a leasing agent at one point then was promoted to Property Manager for 2 Regions before I moved. Small world we live in.
No he wasn't, just always been a passion of his to help. It's one of the things we have in common. We're both givers who want to help people. I always go above & beyond to give & protect my people. He's the same. Huge hearts.
He worked with Big Brothers Big Sisters for years.
Policing is tough! I thought about getting into it years ago. The weight of how it affects ones life is hitting him right now. I know what that means and the compartmentalization that has to happen. He heard in his studies how much it can affect ones family life but you don't know until you know and you're in it. I knew and was prepared to stand strong & solid. My placement in Virgo allows me to be very logical & patient when it's called for. That's part of what is hard for me, I'm strong enough to make it through. But, it's out of my control. Only he knows what's good for him right now.
What led you to leave the Police force?
Aaaaannnnd in True Gemini fashion I have rambled on, so I digress LOL!
Haha wow! That is a coincidence. Haha yes, yes I am. I retired early from the FD to go into real estate/property development - so kinda the reverse of your bull lol. Ah, well that's good. I had tonlearn the hard way. I was a trouble maker when I was younger 😆. I did all my law breaking between 8 and 13 🤣. But I did bigger shit when I was 8 than most adults. Which got me in trouble. And that's how I got the behind the scenes look. A probation officer saved my ass and I always wanted to pay that forward knowing both sides of that coin. I left policing because the amount of money you make, vs the risk you take, vs the kind of people you run into day in and day out vs trying to treat people equally when they don't act equally or are equal.. it just wasn't worth it. On the Fire Dept we worked directly with kids on probation doing community service. It was just more laid back.
I wish I had some magic answer to help you along, but unfortunately I dont. Taurus is notorious for delayed gratification. We'll go through absolute hell knowing the end justifies the means. All the things he want along with the career change will be set aside temporarily. Taurus is the literal beast of burden. Mick Jagger was married to a Taurus at the time he wrote that song... coincidence? I dont think so lol.click to expand
LOL! That's crazy.
Hahaha a little bull headed were ya? 😉JK. Had to try to do all the things because you wanted to and no one could tell you any different eh?.....yep! Sounds about right.🤣 I'm glad it was just a push the limits and a case of hmmmm, lets just see what will happen if, and not a permanent direction or trajectory in your case. After all we only know what we know and can only grow from our mistakes and our trials. Well if we're smart that is. Intelligence comes from being self reflective and in tune with ones self and where you want to be. Taking the past as a catalyst to propel you in that direction not to keep you stuck where you are.
I can just imagine all the premature grey hair you must have given your parents. Care to share what sd bigger shit was?😏 That's amazing that officer came into your life like that. That's what my bull wants to do for others. I do too but am going another direction with my studies.
Yep, why you left makes complete sense. I agree those in the field aren't compensated nearly enough. Not only monitarily but mentally, emotionally etc. It takes a toll on ones entire being. There needs to be entire fields and programs set into place to support them in my opinion that simply aren't. Most forget its people we're talking about. Humans can be so simple or SOOO complexe. And what each individual needs in any given situation especially stressful or traumatic ones is incomprehensible to most. Sounds like the FD was a good transition for you before you retired.
Thank you! And that's exactly where his head is at. He sd he's willing to work 100hrs per shift if he has to because he has his goal set and nothing stops him. I would never want to prevent him from attaining his goal either. I only want to support.
Bahahaha Beast of Burden....You're not wrong🤣
Posted by MareInfamePosted by NotUrTypicalGemini
Need advice on Taurus man
He's 40, I'm 38.
Sorry this is long, I tried to make it shorter. Gemini problems LOL!
We initially met online over a year ago. Had INSTANT connection like we had known each other our whole lives. Laughing constantly, unmatched banter on both sides. It actually scared me. We talked for a couple weeks but Life things came up and we lost touch.
By chance completely out of the blue at the end of July we reconnected and it was as if a day hadn't passed. The energy was insane. We started talking every night and had 3-4hr convos and text all day. Then after 2 weeks we had our first date. Best date of my life, he felt the same. I have NEVER in my life experienced a connection like this. We both kept saying it felt surreal. Kept reminding ourselves we only just met. Scary! But when we were together it was magnetic. I am a VERY affectionate person and was delighted that he was the same. He was very intense in pursuit of me. Consistent. Open. Communicative. All the things which I love and I showed him all the same. He wanted to be exclusive. Showed signs of jealousy etc. We got a little intimate but never had sex and both agreed we wanted to build a connection. We're both Demisexual. Things were going amazing. Then 2 months in he started a new job that was VERY intense and a HUGE shift for him. We talked about it in the beginning and he just asked that I be patient while he adjusts to the job & demanding schedule. Despite being a Gemini, I am Virgo ascendant which means I CRAVE stability and I've been told I am patient to a fault. Of course I want him to succeed and believe in him. I was so proud he got his dream job and encouraged and supported him 100% .
Fast forward a 1.5 months into his job he is struggling. Struggling to find balance between work and home life. The schedule ended up being so much more demanding than he thought it would be. We've only been able to see each other twice since he started his job. He ended up getting really sick, having to work doubles and canceling plans due to his other business that he also is still running. During all of this I have been patient, understanding, was calm, not demanding anything of him and giving him his space. Respecting his needs and allowing him to make the plans as I knew he had much going on. We would still text daily, talk on his days off and I was completely good with that. Again, I know this is his dream and fully support his drive and want to see him succeed. I just tried to check in and be a calm happy space for him. A place to vent if he needed and be there for him. 2 weeks ago he cancels our date due to work, I say so worries I understand, we'll raincheck for another day. He calls me and vents everything he's feeling, feeling very overwhelmed. I tried to just listen and reassured him this was just a transition and he'd find his balance. Things are strained due to Covid. Hes working way more than he should be. I told him in months to come, more staff should come in and not to worry things would level out. Told him he's doing a great job.
Things continue to be our new normal then this past weekend we had plans for him to come over. We had talked the night before and he was a little short but other than that normal. I just chalked it up to him having a long work week and didn't bring it up. I'm extremely empathetic so I get it which is why I said nothing. Day of our date he texts me in the am like his normal happy, sweet self. We chat a bit, all positive. A friend of mine was coming for a play date with our daughters before my date. He texts me asking to call him. So when my friend leaves I do thinking he was asking what snacks I wanted for our date.
Not what he had to say at all. I was in shock. He sd he was feeling disconnected. I sd yeah that will happen as we haven't been able to see each other but I understand and am willing to be patient and we'll figure it out. He brought up my best guy friend and he feels jealous of how close we are and he wishes he had that with me. I sd we can but it will takr time and seeing each other but it would be more than that as I have a connection with him (my Taurus) thats so unique and nothing like what I could ever have with my friend. I told him our connection was different, special. He sd he missed how we were in the beginning, misses us, and doesn't like how he feels now. He sd he doesn't feel like himself, feels like he's not giving me what I need. He sd the man I met then is him and hes not himself right now. I give him these long texts that are witty and make him laugh and he wants to respond in kind but hes too tired or overwhelmed or doesn't have time. He says I deserve more. I deserve to be with a man who can give me everything I need and want. He sd he does care about me. He sd he had mentioned in the beginning how he likes when his woman also makes plans but I haven't. I sd yes I usually do but only reason I haven't is because I do understand the amount of workload etc on your right now and wad just trying to respect your time and giving you that space as I didn't want to stress him. He asked for time and patience, I thought thats what I was providing and I apologized. I sd of course I want to see you and miss you, I just know you have to focus on things right now. He sd a lot of other things but Then he sd he can't commit and needs me not to expect anything because he's just feeling overwhelmed. He misses his friends and family and going to the gym and doesnt feel like himself because hes had to neglect all of that. So he sd he needs to get all of that in balance again and focus on getting this new career off the ground and be successful. BUT says he still wants my daughter & I to be in his life. I asked in what capacity, as a friend? He sd well no. I sd you want to talk in a week or something, he sd no, I still want you in my life I just need you to not expect anything. Said he needs space, he needs to get back to himself. We end our call, he says I'll talk to your later. That was Saturday, it's been 3 days. I haven't text or called because he sd he wants space so I'm respecting his needs.
I've dated some pretty dishonest men with intentions that weren't true. I'm a very loyal, devoted partner. Very old school. I guess my question is, was all of this just the typical thing men say to a woman you're no longer interested in to let her off easy? Or does he just need space and he will come back when he feels grounded again? I feel its the latter, he's always been true to his word but I'm feeling very sidelined and confused.
I miss him terribly but again, I haven't reached out to respect his request for space but am so confused I don't even know if that is the right thing to do. I don't want him to think I don't care and am not thinking about him but I don't want to impose and stress him out when he's trying to regain balance.
Taurus man thoughts? Would greatly appreciate it.
I think you are handling it wonderfully. You are getting confused because he is confused… overwhelmed and not thinking straight. He wants you, but doesn’t want to ask that sacrifice of you as it isn’t fair.
I suggest you put your mind and heart at ease. I believe he is being truthful and his feelings/desires for you are real. He just can’t handle any pressure, he needs to focus on much more immediate things at work.
I suggest you reach out to him once every, 2-3 weeks… just to drop a line of kindness, love - you thinking of him.
And you see how it feels for you. If at any point you change your mind of that life style , then it’s no longer for you. But at least you both gave it your all.click to expand
Thank you! It's that Cancer Moon of mine that just wants to care for the people I care about. I want my people to have what they want & need.
OMG it's like you were in the convo. He sd that to me. He sd he knows I'm the type of woman who would patiently wait for 2 months if that's what he needed but that he could never ask that of me. He sd all of the things he likes about me are the reason he won't. That I deserve someone who can give me everything I want/need.
Seriously you're saying some of the exact same things he said.
Really think I should reach out? He doesn't just want me to leave him be? I don't want to cross his boundary.
I know I'll still be missing him in a couple weeks, for many to come in fact.
Thank you for your kind words and your advice. I truly appreciate it😊
Posted by NotUrTypicalGemini
Need advice on Taurus man
He's 40, I'm 38.
Sorry this is long, I tried to make it shorter. Gemini problems LOL!
We initially met online over a year ago. Had INSTANT connection like we had known each other our whole lives. Laughing constantly, unmatched banter on both sides. It actually scared me. We talked for a couple weeks but Life things came up and we lost touch.
By chance completely out of the blue at the end of July we reconnected and it was as if a day hadn't passed. The energy was insane. We started talking every night and had 3-4hr convos and text all day. Then after 2 weeks we had our first date. Best date of my life, he felt the same. I have NEVER in my life experienced a connection like this. We both kept saying it felt surreal. Kept reminding ourselves we only just met. Scary! But when we were together it was magnetic. I am a VERY affectionate person and was delighted that he was the same. He was very intense in pursuit of me. Consistent. Open. Communicative. All the things which I love and I showed him all the same. He wanted to be exclusive. Showed signs of jealousy etc. We got a little intimate but never had sex and both agreed we wanted to build a connection. We're both Demisexual. Things were going amazing. Then 2 months in he started a new job that was VERY intense and a HUGE shift for him. We talked about it in the beginning and he just asked that I be patient while he adjusts to the job & demanding schedule. Despite being a Gemini, I am Virgo ascendant which means I CRAVE stability and I've been told I am patient to a fault. Of course I want him to succeed and believe in him. I was so proud he got his dream job and encouraged and supported him 100% .
Fast forward a 1.5 months into his job he is struggling. Struggling to find balance between work and home life. The schedule ended up being so much more demanding than he thought it would be. We've only been able to see each other twice since he started his job. He ended up getting really sick, having to work doubles and canceling plans due to his other business that he also is still running. During all of this I have been patient, understanding, was calm, not demanding anything of him and giving him his space. Respecting his needs and allowing him to make the plans as I knew he had much going on. We would still text daily, talk on his days off and I was completely good with that. Again, I know this is his dream and fully support his drive and want to see him succeed. I just tried to check in and be a calm happy space for him. A place to vent if he needed and be there for him. 2 weeks ago he cancels our date due to work, I say so worries I understand, we'll raincheck for another day. He calls me and vents everything he's feeling, feeling very overwhelmed. I tried to just listen and reassured him this was just a transition and he'd find his balance. Things are strained due to Covid. Hes working way more than he should be. I told him in months to come, more staff should come in and not to worry things would level out. Told him he's doing a great job.
Things continue to be our new normal then this past weekend we had plans for him to come over. We had talked the night before and he was a little short but other than that normal. I just chalked it up to him having a long work week and didn't bring it up. I'm extremely empathetic so I get it which is why I said nothing. Day of our date he texts me in the am like his normal happy, sweet self. We chat a bit, all positive. A friend of mine was coming for a play date with our daughters before my date. He texts me asking to call him. So when my friend leaves I do thinking he was asking what snacks I wanted for our date.
Not what he had to say at all. I was in shock. He sd he was feeling disconnected. I sd yeah that will happen as we haven't been able to see each other but I understand and am willing to be patient and we'll figure it out. He brought up my best guy friend and he feels jealous of how close we are and he wishes he had that with me. I sd we can but it will takr time and seeing each other but it would be more than that as I have a connection with him (my Taurus) thats so unique and nothing like what I could ever have with my friend. I told him our connection was different, special. He sd he missed how we were in the beginning, misses us, and doesn't like how he feels now. He sd he doesn't feel like himself, feels like he's not giving me what I need. He sd the man I met then is him and hes not himself right now. I give him these long texts that are witty and make him laugh and he wants to respond in kind but hes too tired or overwhelmed or doesn't have time. He says I deserve more. I deserve to be with a man who can give me everything I need and want. He sd he does care about me. He sd he had mentioned in the beginning how he likes when his woman also makes plans but I haven't. I sd yes I usually do but only reason I haven't is because I do understand the amount of workload etc on your right now and wad just trying to respect your time and giving you that space as I didn't want to stress him. He asked for time and patience, I thought thats what I was providing and I apologized. I sd of course I want to see you and miss you, I just know you have to focus on things right now. He sd a lot of other things but Then he sd he can't commit and needs me not to expect anything because he's just feeling overwhelmed. He misses his friends and family and going to the gym and doesnt feel like himself because hes had to neglect all of that. So he sd he needs to get all of that in balance again and focus on getting this new career off the ground and be successful. BUT says he still wants my daughter & I to be in his life. I asked in what capacity, as a friend? He sd well no. I sd you want to talk in a week or something, he sd no, I still want you in my life I just need you to not expect anything. Said he needs space, he needs to get back to himself. We end our call, he says I'll talk to your later. That was Saturday, it's been 3 days. I haven't text or called because he sd he wants space so I'm respecting his needs.
I've dated some pretty dishonest men with intentions that weren't true. I'm a very loyal, devoted partner. Very old school. I guess my question is, was all of this just the typical thing men say to a woman you're no longer interested in to let her off easy? Or does he just need space and he will come back when he feels grounded again? I feel its the latter, he's always been true to his word but I'm feeling very sidelined and confused.
I miss him terribly but again, I haven't reached out to respect his request for space but am so confused I don't even know if that is the right thing to do. I don't want him to think I don't care and am not thinking about him but I don't want to impose and stress him out when he's trying to regain balance.
Taurus man thoughts? Would greatly appreciate it.
I'm not a Taurus dude so I'm afraid I can't help here, but I just had to say, is being extremely talkative a Gemini quality? :0 I never knew that. I mean I know it's ruled by Mercury as is Virgo so both are good in communication, but damn. That would explain why I can't control how talkative I am lol I'm a Virgo Sun and Gemini Rising and other Gemini placements lol anyway hope your situation gets sorted!
Posted by NotMadHatterPosted by NotUrTypicalGeminiPosted by NotMadHatterPosted by NotUrTypicalGemini
@NotMadHatter
Yep! You sound just like my Taurus and it's one of the things I admire and like about him is his dedication to his purpose. That's why I was so supportive. I want him to win. He's still running his business and pursuing this new career. Going to the gym is HUGE for him too which is another thing that was bothering him that he had no time to go. He wants to reestablish his routine, well, new routine. Just really crappy timing for us.
I get it though, I'm a single mum to an 8yr old 100% , 365/yr, no support, its all on me. I work Full-time and am doing a full-time 2yr Diploma program right now so I get being so busy and overwhelmed it makes your head spin.
I hear you and it sounds like exactly what my Taurus is going through.
No we haven't, only about 4 months. But I can tell you I've never met a man that could keep up with me the way he can. Or that I had such a unique, intense connection with. It's different, that's all I know.
That's a brilliant idea however his lunch breaks are whenever he can take 5mins, here and there. They're short staff (hence the doubles) and he works in a prison so can't go have lunch with him....unless he's processing me....hmmmmm....strip search....maybe ur on to something there 🤔 LOL!
Also there's the part where he said he needs space so we haven't talked since Saturday and I'm giving him what he sd he needs
Hahaha thats a rough one since there is no access to him during work regardless of how limited. I'm sure he gets off work, takes a shower, and goes to sleep.
Some of the insecurities id say can honestly be chalked up to literal FOMO. His imagination is probably your worst enemy right now.
Yep it is rough! We're both of the mind that quality is more important than quantity. I'm a very busy woman too so I get it. I don't have a lot of "free" time so I'd be much more happy to make a good hearty lunch and spend even 45mins sharing a meal just the 2 of us no distractions and connecting, being present and enjoying the moment than 100hrs of meh time. The former is much more appealing to me.
Yes you're probably right, our minds are very similar. One of our first convos was about society today having a fixation on grass is greener. As I put it in one of my poems, not paraphrasing but basically it says, people forget that the grass is greener where it is tended to. One must care for, remove the weeds, water. That's where the grass is greener. It only appears greener on the other side as you aren't in it. There are weeds to be tended there too.
I know he's overthinking right now for sure.
Thank you! I appreciate your insights/perspectives & responses😊
Maybe try to surprise him on a day off if he has one. Wake his ass up with breakfast or something? Just throwing out ideas.
Haha 😄 sounds like a familiar topic of conversation. I could go on for days about how society has been brainwashed by commercial and political BS to believe if they buy this product or vote for this person their lives will be magically changed for the better. They never mention if you want to be more intelligent you need to spend hours and hours studying, if you want to be stronger you have more days where you're sore and weak than you do where you feel strong (that was a actual joke as an amateur bodybuilder - a toddler could kick our ass when preparing for a competition), when you're constantly told you deserve the best, but never told there is work that goes with it... you end up with a society of whiny people, who feel entitled, and want to dictate to others how to speak and act because they're fragile and can't handle any dirt. From the dirt is where growth and life comes from. The hard shit is where the results come from. The discomfort is what makes us stronger.click to expand
LOL! Couldn't agree with you more. The poetry I write talks alot about human behavior, the falsehoods they tell themselves, fascades, perceptions. How so many are living life on the surface level. Etc. I feel you. I have written quite a few on that very topic and principal of personal growth & development. There are no Genies in this world. The Genie lies within you and your willingness to dig deep, observe yourself daily and figure out how you want to improve. Improve your internal and not for anyone other than for yourself so you can be your best self. And not for show. Not for acalades but simply for the want to be a better version of yourself. The positive effect it has on others is a bonus. And you should want to be better so that anyone you interact with will hopefully leave you feeling rejuvinated, not drained.
OMG YES! The sense of entitlement has gotten out of hand. And everyone being offended if your view point differs. What happened to the days where you could disagree with someone opinion, share your own and then you both could possibly have an intellectual conversation about it. May have some take aways and both leave content at the end? When did the idea come in that said we all have to leave every conversation with the same thoughts, mindsets, morals etc? And the idea that they showed up so thats good enough. No you don't have to be here but if you are and I'm grinding, if we're on a team, pull your sleeves up and let's do this thing. Everyone wants more for less. More for doing nothing.
I'm told all the time I'm such a strong woman, many people have approached me to help them overcome difficult in their lives. They always ask why I'm so strong, I say because life hasn't been easy. But I don't talk about it because it doesn't matter. I took the lessons I needed from it along the way. Even if lots of it was bad, I'm grateful for it. It has made me who I am. I have such a broad perspective and understanding for many things. It's made me extremely resilient and given me the ability to problem solve and move through difficulty quickly. It's taught me to be adaptable, and always get up. Tomorrow is another day. Yesterday didn't take me down, neither will today. The one thing in life we truly have control over is our own perspective. I wish more people saw that. It's the most powerful thing because something that you hold in you alone hold in your hands. And you can change it in a instant and completely chamge your life for the better.
What @MareInFame said: "I suggest you put your mind and heart at ease. I believe he is being truthful and his feelings/desires for you are real. He just can’t handle any pressure, he needs to focus on much more immediate things at work.
I suggest you reach out to him once every, 2-3 weeks… just to drop a line of kindness, love - you thinking of him."
I'm also a Gem with a Cancer moon so good luck with that.
I lost a workaholic partner thinking I could handle all of the absences. I'm a workaholic myself so I get it! I don't know how many events were cancelled, dinners put away uneaten, and long nights alone before my heart couldn't take it anymore.
It was incredibly painful because the subliminal message is "you are not worth my time". But because he HAS no time, I know it's not really "his fault", right? Your emotions know no logic - they just feel, and after I couldn't stand being on the edge of his life anymore and devouring whatever scraps of time he could throw to me - I left for my own sanity. It sucks because we were so good together. This went on for a year until I broke. Unless there is a CLEAR end in sight, this is what you're looking at, too.
I suggest you reach out to him once every, 2-3 weeks… just to drop a line of kindness, love - you thinking of him."
I'm also a Gem with a Cancer moon so good luck with that.
I lost a workaholic partner thinking I could handle all of the absences. I'm a workaholic myself so I get it! I don't know how many events were cancelled, dinners put away uneaten, and long nights alone before my heart couldn't take it anymore.
It was incredibly painful because the subliminal message is "you are not worth my time". But because he HAS no time, I know it's not really "his fault", right? Your emotions know no logic - they just feel, and after I couldn't stand being on the edge of his life anymore and devouring whatever scraps of time he could throw to me - I left for my own sanity. It sucks because we were so good together. This went on for a year until I broke. Unless there is a CLEAR end in sight, this is what you're looking at, too.
Posted by allrounderPosted by NotUrTypicalGemini
Need advice on Taurus man
He's 40, I'm 38.
Sorry this is long, I tried to make it shorter. Gemini problems LOL!
We initially met online over a year ago. Had INSTANT connection like we had known each other our whole lives. Laughing constantly, unmatched banter on both sides. It actually scared me. We talked for a couple weeks but Life things came up and we lost touch.
By chance completely out of the blue at the end of July we reconnected and it was as if a day hadn't passed. The energy was insane. We started talking every night and had 3-4hr convos and text all day. Then after 2 weeks we had our first date. Best date of my life, he felt the same. I have NEVER in my life experienced a connection like this. We both kept saying it felt surreal. Kept reminding ourselves we only just met. Scary! But when we were together it was magnetic. I am a VERY affectionate person and was delighted that he was the same. He was very intense in pursuit of me. Consistent. Open. Communicative. All the things which I love and I showed him all the same. He wanted to be exclusive. Showed signs of jealousy etc. We got a little intimate but never had sex and both agreed we wanted to build a connection. We're both Demisexual. Things were going amazing. Then 2 months in he started a new job that was VERY intense and a HUGE shift for him. We talked about it in the beginning and he just asked that I be patient while he adjusts to the job & demanding schedule. Despite being a Gemini, I am Virgo ascendant which means I CRAVE stability and I've been told I am patient to a fault. Of course I want him to succeed and believe in him. I was so proud he got his dream job and encouraged and supported him 100% .
Fast forward a 1.5 months into his job he is struggling. Struggling to find balance between work and home life. The schedule ended up being so much more demanding than he thought it would be. We've only been able to see each other twice since he started his job. He ended up getting really sick, having to work doubles and canceling plans due to his other business that he also is still running. During all of this I have been patient, understanding, was calm, not demanding anything of him and giving him his space. Respecting his needs and allowing him to make the plans as I knew he had much going on. We would still text daily, talk on his days off and I was completely good with that. Again, I know this is his dream and fully support his drive and want to see him succeed. I just tried to check in and be a calm happy space for him. A place to vent if he needed and be there for him. 2 weeks ago he cancels our date due to work, I say so worries I understand, we'll raincheck for another day. He calls me and vents everything he's feeling, feeling very overwhelmed. I tried to just listen and reassured him this was just a transition and he'd find his balance. Things are strained due to Covid. Hes working way more than he should be. I told him in months to come, more staff should come in and not to worry things would level out. Told him he's doing a great job.
Things continue to be our new normal then this past weekend we had plans for him to come over. We had talked the night before and he was a little short but other than that normal. I just chalked it up to him having a long work week and didn't bring it up. I'm extremely empathetic so I get it which is why I said nothing. Day of our date he texts me in the am like his normal happy, sweet self. We chat a bit, all positive. A friend of mine was coming for a play date with our daughters before my date. He texts me asking to call him. So when my friend leaves I do thinking he was asking what snacks I wanted for our date.
Not what he had to say at all. I was in shock. He sd he was feeling disconnected. I sd yeah that will happen as we haven't been able to see each other but I understand and am willing to be patient and we'll figure it out. He brought up my best guy friend and he feels jealous of how close we are and he wishes he had that with me. I sd we can but it will takr time and seeing each other but it would be more than that as I have a connection with him (my Taurus) thats so unique and nothing like what I could ever have with my friend. I told him our connection was different, special. He sd he missed how we were in the beginning, misses us, and doesn't like how he feels now. He sd he doesn't feel like himself, feels like he's not giving me what I need. He sd the man I met then is him and hes not himself right now. I give him these long texts that are witty and make him laugh and he wants to respond in kind but hes too tired or overwhelmed or doesn't have time. He says I deserve more. I deserve to be with a man who can give me everything I need and want. He sd he does care about me. He sd he had mentioned in the beginning how he likes when his woman also makes plans but I haven't. I sd yes I usually do but only reason I haven't is because I do understand the amount of workload etc on your right now and wad just trying to respect your time and giving you that space as I didn't want to stress him. He asked for time and patience, I thought thats what I was providing and I apologized. I sd of course I want to see you and miss you, I just know you have to focus on things right now. He sd a lot of other things but Then he sd he can't commit and needs me not to expect anything because he's just feeling overwhelmed. He misses his friends and family and going to the gym and doesnt feel like himself because hes had to neglect all of that. So he sd he needs to get all of that in balance again and focus on getting this new career off the ground and be successful. BUT says he still wants my daughter & I to be in his life. I asked in what capacity, as a friend? He sd well no. I sd you want to talk in a week or something, he sd no, I still want you in my life I just need you to not expect anything. Said he needs space, he needs to get back to himself. We end our call, he says I'll talk to your later. That was Saturday, it's been 3 days. I haven't text or called because he sd he wants space so I'm respecting his needs.
I've dated some pretty dishonest men with intentions that weren't true. I'm a very loyal, devoted partner. Very old school. I guess my question is, was all of this just the typical thing men say to a woman you're no longer interested in to let her off easy? Or does he just need space and he will come back when he feels grounded again? I feel its the latter, he's always been true to his word but I'm feeling very sidelined and confused.
I miss him terribly but again, I haven't reached out to respect his request for space but am so confused I don't even know if that is the right thing to do. I don't want him to think I don't care and am not thinking about him but I don't want to impose and stress him out when he's trying to regain balance.
Taurus man thoughts? Would greatly appreciate it.
I'm not a Taurus dude so I'm afraid I can't help here, but I just had to say, is being extremely talkative a Gemini quality? :0 I never knew that. I mean I know it's ruled by Mercury as is Virgo so both are good in communication, but damn. That would explain why I can't control how talkative I am lol I'm a Virgo Sun and Gemini Rising and other Gemini placements lol anyway hope your situation gets sorted!click to expand
Hahahaha! 🤣 Yes, we most certainly are. We thrive on communication and intellectual stimulation. We want to know all the things. Deep conversation gets our synapsis firing on all cylinders. Yes, Virgo and Gems usually have amazing conversations and nothing is off limits which is great. My ascendant is in Virgo😁 So maybe that's why I'm a little extra chatty. Haha! Definitely explains your inclination to be a chatterbox.
Thank you! Appreciate the kind words.
Posted by geminiflyby
What @MareInFame said: "I suggest you put your mind and heart at ease. I believe he is being truthful and his feelings/desires for you are real. He just can’t handle any pressure, he needs to focus on much more immediate things at work.
I suggest you reach out to him once every, 2-3 weeks… just to drop a line of kindness, love - you thinking of him."
I'm also a Gem with a Cancer moon so good luck with that.
I lost a workaholic partner thinking I could handle all of the absences. I'm a workaholic myself so I get it! I don't know how many events were cancelled, dinners put away uneaten, and long nights alone before my heart couldn't take it anymore.
It was incredibly painful because the subliminal message is "you are not worth my time". But because he HAS no time, I know it's not really "his fault", right? Your emotions know no logic - they just feel, and after I couldn't stand being on the edge of his life anymore and devouring whatever scraps of time he could throw to me - I left for my own sanity. It sucks because we were so good together. This went on for a year until I broke. Unless there is a CLEAR end in sight, this is what you're looking at, too.
Thank you for sharing that. I feel you & I are similar. I am a workaholic too and I have seen what it does. My father was one too and it broke my parents relationship.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
I've definitely been taking the time as well as everyones advice to heart to figure out what's best should he return.
Posted by Truemara
I really recommend if you’ll be his partner to read this book
In fact it’s important he read it as well
Bulletproof spirit by captain Dan Willis
Thank you for sharing this. If he and I reconnect again I think I'll give this book to him. I would read it as well. Although I myself have dealt with PTSD as well as some other things so I get it. He and I talked a few times about this and how he will have to ensure he balances his mental, emotional and physical well being due to his job. He'll have to check in with himself often and then make sure he takes time to put energy into himself for his own well-being.
The other guy that started at the same time as him was already having marital issues due to the job. I think that's partly why he did what he did too. He felt that was us. But on my end I knew what he was going through with work and wasn't letting it affect me.
my gemini aunt used to cry over a taurus guy she dated for like a heartbeat. i completely understand if he was a balding but brooding capricorn man but this dude was stick thin and had the longest, most dagger-like chin (plus a gold digger) i've ever seen. at least i cry over elvis presley instead of Pointy McChin but this woman dared to call my boyfriends 'penniless trash' when she had this history.
but i never see her cry about a pisces she's been with for yearsss, had a house and cats with. this dude was LOADED too but i guess she had more power in that dynamic, huh? now she's trying to date a virgo.
geminis always have the upperhand except when they're dealing with taurus. keeps the balance in this world. but mehh i basically see gemini women as catwoman anyway. if i were one, i'd go on a heist.
but i never see her cry about a pisces she's been with for yearsss, had a house and cats with. this dude was LOADED too but i guess she had more power in that dynamic, huh? now she's trying to date a virgo.
geminis always have the upperhand except when they're dealing with taurus. keeps the balance in this world. but mehh i basically see gemini women as catwoman anyway. if i were one, i'd go on a heist.
Please don't use your insane Gemini aunt as an example for anything!
Posted by PariliciumPosted by virgoOPPP
geminis always have the upperhand except when they're dealing with taurus. keeps the balance in this world
But geminis dont try to control us
They just respect
I respect them too, they make other signs cry in the shower, i love their careless attitudeclick to expand
even though i hate my aunt most times, my venus and mars can be real airy. i'm very forgiving when she so much as says 'hi' lmao.
but there's something about occasional flakiness that i like so much, doesn't feel suffocating.
Posted by virgoOPPP
my gemini aunt used to cry over a taurus guy she dated for like a heartbeat. i completely understand if he was a balding but brooding capricorn man but this dude was stick thin and had the longest, most dagger-like chin (plus a gold digger) i've ever seen. at least i cry over elvis presley instead of Pointy McChin but this woman dared to call my boyfriends 'penniless trash' when she had this history.
but i never see her cry about a pisces she's been with for yearsss, had a house and cats with. this dude was LOADED too but i guess she had more power in that dynamic, huh? now she's trying to date a virgo.
geminis always have the upperhand except when they're dealing with taurus. keeps the balance in this world. but mehh i basically see gemini women as catwoman anyway. if i were one, i'd go on a heist.
BAAAHAHAHA Pointy McChin🤣
Posted by PariliciumPosted by virgoOPPP
but this woman dared to call my boyfriends 'penniless trash' when she had this history.
Hahaha savage btwclick to expand
i feel like geminis get used by signs like taurus and sag in the past so they turn into these people who demands that you buy them appliances and send them weekly allowances to get their teeth fixed.
@Wizardz_ and I are Gem sun/Cancer moon. We are needy af.
OP is strong but she'll break over this. Cancer moons unite!! 🌖🌗🌘
Tell him you are not that couple they had problems before he started work. And that it’s not fair to make that decision for you.
Posted by MareInfamePosted by PariliciumPosted by MareInfamePosted by PariliciumPosted by MareInfamePosted by PariliciumPosted by MareInfamePosted by geminiflyby
@Wizardz_ and I are Gem sun/Cancer moon. We are needy af.
Aaahhhh… yeah, that wouldn’t work well with an independent bull ☹️
What would then?
Honestly … the woods. Independent Bulls find heaven in the woods, and I see heaven when I find them in the woods…
🤨
🤣😂…. What?!?! 🙃😝
If is literally in the woods
I always loved primitive technology channel lol, the guy building houses with raw nature material only without tools
I wonder what his sign is
Yeah… literally in the woods!
Do you know how attractive a bull looks when he knows his way around nature?!? Damn… it’s unbelievably HOT.
Bull + Woods = match made in Heavenclick to expand
Another thing my bully & I connected on. I grew up with woods as my back yard quite literally. Nature is my sanctuary, it's where I seek & find peace. I hike all the time, 99% of the time alone. Out in the woods daily during spring, summer & fall. Take solo trips to the mountains. He obviously loves the outdoors too. We went on a beautiful hike together on our 6th date, it was amazing! He was surprised because I kept tucking off into random off trails, my inquisitive Gemini minds has to explore all the things or climb all over the fallen trees.
I seriously get so confused when people say they don't like hiking. Like what? Whats not to love? The smells, the trees the animals, fresh air, blue skies, the silence except for birds or random little critters scurrying around in the underbrush. If we throw in some mountains & waterfalls well forget about it. Come find me in 12hrs, I'm gone all day....hopefully because I just never want to leave and not because a bear found me though (GULP) LOL!🤣
Posted by MareInfamePosted by Wizardz_Posted by geminiflyby
What @MareInFame said: "I suggest you put your mind and heart at ease. I believe he is being truthful and his feelings/desires for you are real. He just can’t handle any pressure, he needs to focus on much more immediate things at work.
I suggest you reach out to him once every, 2-3 weeks… just to drop a line of kindness, love - you thinking of him."
I'm also a Gem with a Cancer moon so good luck with that.
I lost a workaholic partner thinking I could handle all of the absences. I'm a workaholic myself so I get it! I don't know how many events were cancelled, dinners put away uneaten, and long nights alone before my heart couldn't take it anymore.
It was incredibly painful because the subliminal message is "you are not worth my time". But because he HAS no time, I know it's not really "his fault", right? Your emotions know no logic - they just feel, and after I couldn't stand being on the edge of his life anymore and devouring whatever scraps of time he could throw to me - I left for my own sanity. It sucks because we were so good together. This went on for a year until I broke. Unless there is a CLEAR end in sight, this is what you're looking at, too.
Yeh I think you should move on with Gem sun/Cancer moon it's not worth the mental torture
Why do you say that? OP sounds sweet and pretty grounded.click to expand
Thank you😊
IF you don’t communicate with him, and IF he texts/calls later in to say “you haven’t reached out!” You can say “you said you needed space. What did you expect?!”
But I don’t think Taurus will do that.
I don’t understand the earth signs in one regard (especially Taurus); they need and want to be loved, yet they only make time for career, money making, and “themselves.” This is where Taurus is kind of an idiot. Either devote your time for BOTH love and money, or pick one or the other, and don’t cry about feeling “disconnected,” “out of touch,” or “I’m broke.”
And he’s jealous of your best guy friend already? That isn’t cute. I suppose if you two were to get together long term he’d make you see less if your best guy friend. Men, I tell ya. I don’t think I’d want ANY man in my life jealous over any male friend of mine. How old is this Taurus guy again? 16? 🙄
Also, he said he wishes he had the connection with you that you and your best guy friend have? Well, again, if he’s not going to invest the TIME because it’s more lucrative to be working all day long then…. I mean… 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
How Taurus doesn’t see this is beyond me. It isn’t rocket science, you know.
Earth signs are the best narcissists and psychopaths. I like Taurus the best out of the three, but, Move on, Gemini. You’re better off with a man who will make your relationship with him the priority, not money or a “career.” 🙄
But I don’t think Taurus will do that.
I don’t understand the earth signs in one regard (especially Taurus); they need and want to be loved, yet they only make time for career, money making, and “themselves.” This is where Taurus is kind of an idiot. Either devote your time for BOTH love and money, or pick one or the other, and don’t cry about feeling “disconnected,” “out of touch,” or “I’m broke.”
And he’s jealous of your best guy friend already? That isn’t cute. I suppose if you two were to get together long term he’d make you see less if your best guy friend. Men, I tell ya. I don’t think I’d want ANY man in my life jealous over any male friend of mine. How old is this Taurus guy again? 16? 🙄
Also, he said he wishes he had the connection with you that you and your best guy friend have? Well, again, if he’s not going to invest the TIME because it’s more lucrative to be working all day long then…. I mean… 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
How Taurus doesn’t see this is beyond me. It isn’t rocket science, you know.
Earth signs are the best narcissists and psychopaths. I like Taurus the best out of the three, but, Move on, Gemini. You’re better off with a man who will make your relationship with him the priority, not money or a “career.” 🙄
The man has his priorities and it's not her. She has to come to terms with that. If that's what he wants to pursue then go for it. But also know that he has nothing left in terms of time or energy to have a healthy relationship.
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by geminiflyby
OP is strong but she'll break over this. Cancer moons unite!! 🌖🌗🌘
💜💜 we can both hear the eternal hopefulness and the coming disappointment lolclick to expand
You understand completely. ❤️
Posted by NotMadHatter
This thread has turned bizarre to me. He is a person. A whole ass person with goals and dreams. Goals and dreams he is pursuing. Goals and dreams he has had a loooong time before Op and he met. He switched from his own company.. see he owns it. Starting a business is easy,, keeping one going is not.. Most people cannot run a successful business when they try. This man makes decisions and stcks to them. Sets goals and sets out to accomplish them.
Are you guys that fucking lonely that the only thing that gives you fulfillment is a relationship? No goals you'll sacrifice yourself for? You'll set all your hopes and dreams you've had on the back burner for a connection you've had for a month? That is PEAK catlady shit. Especially when 50% of relationships end within the first 3 years... like most businesses. Or do you not have any hopes and dreams of your own and need someone else to give you a sense of purpose?
He's a prison guard... where is this money everyone keeps mentioning? Who gets wealthy as a prison guard? The only reason someone decides to leave THEIR OWN BUSINESS to be a prison guard is if it somehow fits their overall goal.. his is helping troubled youth.. that makes logical fucking sense.
How codependent are you people?
He didn’t leave his Buisness tho, if I recall correctly from op. He started a new career as a prison guard all the while running his Buisness. Hence the 18hr shifts and no time to work out, date, spend time with friends and family.
I see this as him giving her and out. Letting her know that he doesn’t have adequate time to give her and she doesn’t have to wait around for him.
@Wizardz_ It's like looking in a fucking mirror.
I'm a Sag and think you should move on and cut the connection altogether. Let him know that you will be around if he finds some stability in his life, because like he said- Things were great in the beginning.
Tell him you would love to get back to how things were, so it's goodbye for now and if you're still single if he comes back, you would love to give it another shot.
Fuck being friendzoned lol
I had a Taurus tell me he was gonna marry his best friend, because I wasn't giving him the time of day. I said good luck with it and I'm happy for you and blocked him. He waited a few months and just added me on other social media accounts.
Moral of the story, men will make things happen if they want you. So be nice and polite and cut him lose until he makes time.
Tell him you would love to get back to how things were, so it's goodbye for now and if you're still single if he comes back, you would love to give it another shot.
Fuck being friendzoned lol
I had a Taurus tell me he was gonna marry his best friend, because I wasn't giving him the time of day. I said good luck with it and I'm happy for you and blocked him. He waited a few months and just added me on other social media accounts.
Moral of the story, men will make things happen if they want you. So be nice and polite and cut him lose until he makes time.
Or tell him you can move in with him and cook dinner nightly and give him foot massages since he's on his feet for long hours lol
Posted by MareInfamePosted by NotMadHatter
This thread has turned bizarre to me. He is a person. A whole ass person with goals and dreams. Goals and dreams he is pursuing. Goals and dreams he has had a loooong time before Op and he met. He switched from his own company.. see he owns it. Starting a business is easy,, keeping one going is not.. Most people cannot run a successful business when they try. This man makes decisions and stcks to them. Sets goals and sets out to accomplish them.
Are you guys that fucking lonely that the only thing that gives you fulfillment is a relationship? No goals you'll sacrifice yourself for? You'll set all your hopes and dreams you've had on the back burner for a connection you've had for a month? That is PEAK catlady shit. Especially when 50% of relationships end within the first 3 years... like most businesses. Or do you not have any hopes and dreams of your own and need someone else to give you a sense of purpose?
He's a prison guard... where is this money everyone keeps mentioning? Who gets wealthy as a prison guard? The only reason someone decides to leave THEIR OWN BUSINESS to be a prison guard is if it somehow fits their overall goal.. his is helping troubled youth.. that makes logical fucking sense.
How codependent are you people?
Yeah, I think this bull has a heart of gold. He is dedicating himself to the greater good.
OP… you see that right? You see he is a good man?
It is a sacrifice for him too. I don’t believe he is full of shit when he says he wished he had more time with you. It’s just that he has a strong calling for a bigger mission, and he’s got to get that done.
Even if you two end up friends, I think he will always admire you for supporting him through tough times.
That jealousy isn’t narcissism… it’s that he wishes he had the time to spend with you too. Right now he is working his ass off, and you are pleasure to him. You are the sweetness in his life.
I jus think there are different perspectives and I believe all should be seen and considered.click to expand
I 100% agree he is an amazing man. And I liked @NotMadHatter comment because I agree with everything he sd. My bull is a GOOD, hardworking man. I supported him through his interview process, cheering him on. I knew he'd get the position. Was with him through his first day and subsequent jump start into it. What he's doing is not easy at all. He faces a lot of stress at work. I did my best to just hold space and hopefully be a soft place for him at the end of the day or week.
I did say it before I fully support him in his goal, I admire his drive and I always want him to go after it. I told him time and time again how proud I was of him and that all I wanted was for him to win. I had/have no doubt he'll succeed. That's why I was patient and never asked of him or his time and allowed him to set the pace because I knew, understood and respected that he has was going through a huge transition and was focusing on his work and trying to establish his new routine. I never got upset if he had to cancel plans which only happened twice, because I got it. We never once fought. We always communicated really well in fact we were always laughing and teasing even if we were having a deeper serious convo. Being open & honest in a calm manner was always "us". I am very capable of being logical and being very empathetic none of that was an issue on either side. I too am a very busy single mom, like I sd, work full-time and doing a 2yr diploma so I get it. I know how hard it can be to find that balance for everything. That's the other reason I find quality time more important than quantity. When you're working hard to attain goals sometimes theres not much time but what time there is should be well invested.
I wasn't even looking to or wanting to date when we reconnected. I was focused on my work, daughter and studies, but with him, there was just something, different ( I know cliché) but its true.
I guess at the end of the day, I was just feeling a little stuck, shocked by the abrupt end and confused. I'm giving him his space because that's what he sd he needs and I fully respect that. There's just that voice in the back of my head wondering if he will reach out or if I try to push him from my mind.
Even though we didn't know each other long, we had extremely deep conversations, talked daily and he had become my best friend. I miss my friend and just wonder if he's ok. But I'm respecting his wishes and will allow him to reach out if he chooses to do so.
And I 100% agree with your statement on the jealousy part. He in no way sd it in a way that was narcissistic. I agree with you, it came from a place of seeing how close my friend and I are and wanting us to be like that because he misses how we were so close before he started this job. I told him only time spent together would do that but that what he & I would have would be so much more because my friend is just my friend and could never connect with me as deeply as my bull could. I was the sweetness anyhow. We haven't talked since. You get it though I feel. But I digress.
Haha! @Wizardz_ "Don't you think if he loved you he could find 5 minutes a day to get in touch with you?"
The most Cancer moon statement EVER!
The most Cancer moon statement EVER!
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by NotUrTypicalGeminiPosted by MareInfamePosted by NotMadHatter
This thread has turned bizarre to me. He is a person. A whole ass person with goals and dreams. Goals and dreams he is pursuing. Goals and dreams he has had a loooong time before Op and he met. He switched from his own company.. see he owns it. Starting a business is easy,, keeping one going is not.. Most people cannot run a successful business when they try. This man makes decisions and stcks to them. Sets goals and sets out to accomplish them.
Are you guys that fucking lonely that the only thing that gives you fulfillment is a relationship? No goals you'll sacrifice yourself for? You'll set all your hopes and dreams you've had on the back burner for a connection you've had for a month? That is PEAK catlady shit. Especially when 50% of relationships end within the first 3 years... like most businesses. Or do you not have any hopes and dreams of your own and need someone else to give you a sense of purpose?
He's a prison guard... where is this money everyone keeps mentioning? Who gets wealthy as a prison guard? The only reason someone decides to leave THEIR OWN BUSINESS to be a prison guard is if it somehow fits their overall goal.. his is helping troubled youth.. that makes logical fucking sense.
How codependent are you people?
Yeah, I think this bull has a heart of gold. He is dedicating himself to the greater good.
OP… you see that right? You see he is a good man?
It is a sacrifice for him too. I don’t believe he is full of shit when he says he wished he had more time with you. It’s just that he has a strong calling for a bigger mission, and he’s got to get that done.
Even if you two end up friends, I think he will always admire you for supporting him through tough times.
That jealousy isn’t narcissism… it’s that he wishes he had the time to spend with you too. Right now he is working his ass off, and you are pleasure to him. You are the sweetness in his life.
I jus think there are different perspectives and I believe all should be seen and considered.
I 100% agree he is an amazing man. And I liked @NotMadHatter comment because I agree with everything he sd. My bull is a GOOD, hardworking man. I supported him through his interview process, cheering him on. I knew he'd get the position. Was with him through his first day and subsequent jump start into it. What he's doing is not easy at all. He faces a lot of stress at work. I did my best to just hold space and hopefully be a soft place for him at the end of the day or week.
I did say it before I fully support him in his goal, I admire his drive and I always want him to go after it. I told him time and time again how proud I was of him and that all I wanted was for him to win. I had/have no doubt he'll succeed. That's why I was patient and never asked of him or his time and allowed him to set the pace because I knew, understood and respected that he has was going through a huge transition and was focusing on his work and trying to establish his new routine. I never got upset if he had to cancel plans which only happened twice, because I got it. We never once fought. We always communicated really well in fact we were always laughing and teasing even if we were having a deeper serious convo. Being open & honest in a calm manner was always "us". I am very capable of being logical and being very empathetic none of that was an issue on either side. I too am a very busy single mom, like I sd, work full-time and doing a 2yr diploma so I get it. I know how hard it can be to find that balance for everything. That's the other reason I find quality time more important than quantity. When you're working hard to attain goals sometimes theres not much time but what time there is should be well invested.
I wasn't even looking to or wanting to date when we reconnected. I was focused on my work, daughter and studies, but with him, there was just something, different ( I know cliché) but its true.
I guess at the end of the day, I was just feeling a little stuck, shocked by the abrupt end and confused. I'm giving him his space because that's what he sd he needs and I fully respect that. There's just that voice in the back of my head wondering if he will reach out or if I try to push him from my mind.
Even though we didn't know each other long, we had extremely deep conversations, talked daily and he had become my best friend. I miss my friend and just wonder if he's ok. But I'm respecting his wishes and will allow him to reach out if he chooses to do so.
And I 100% agree with your statement on the jealousy part. He in no way sd it in a way that was narcissistic. I agree with you, it came from a place of seeing how close my friend and I are and wanting us to be like that because he misses how we were so close before he started this job. I told him only time spent together would do that but that what he & I would have would be so much more because my friend is just my friend and could never connect with me as deeply as my bull could. I was the sweetness anyhow. We haven't talked since. You get it though I feel. But I digress.
Don't you think if he loved you he could find 5 minutes a day to get in touch with you?click to expand
Exactly. If he can "love" from afar, so can she! 😆
Posted by geminiflyby
Haha! @Wizardz_ "Don't you think if he loved you he could find 5 minutes a day to get in touch with you?"
The most Cancer moon statement EVER!
It's this type of logic that makes Cancer Moons seem unreasonable. But it's very true!!!
Just make us #1
Why is this so hard to comprehend!??
Posted by MareInfamePosted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by NotUrTypicalGeminiPosted by MareInfamePosted by NotMadHatter
This thread has turned bizarre to me. He is a person. A whole ass person with goals and dreams. Goals and dreams he is pursuing. Goals and dreams he has had a loooong time before Op and he met. He switched from his own company.. see he owns it. Starting a business is easy,, keeping one going is not.. Most people cannot run a successful business when they try. This man makes decisions and stcks to them. Sets goals and sets out to accomplish them.
Are you guys that fucking lonely that the only thing that gives you fulfillment is a relationship? No goals you'll sacrifice yourself for? You'll set all your hopes and dreams you've had on the back burner for a connection you've had for a month? That is PEAK catlady shit. Especially when 50% of relationships end within the first 3 years... like most businesses. Or do you not have any hopes and dreams of your own and need someone else to give you a sense of purpose?
He's a prison guard... where is this money everyone keeps mentioning? Who gets wealthy as a prison guard? The only reason someone decides to leave THEIR OWN BUSINESS to be a prison guard is if it somehow fits their overall goal.. his is helping troubled youth.. that makes logical fucking sense.
How codependent are you people?
Yeah, I think this bull has a heart of gold. He is dedicating himself to the greater good.
OP… you see that right? You see he is a good man?
It is a sacrifice for him too. I don’t believe he is full of shit when he says he wished he had more time with you. It’s just that he has a strong calling for a bigger mission, and he’s got to get that done.
Even if you two end up friends, I think he will always admire you for supporting him through tough times.
That jealousy isn’t narcissism… it’s that he wishes he had the time to spend with you too. Right now he is working his ass off, and you are pleasure to him. You are the sweetness in his life.
I jus think there are different perspectives and I believe all should be seen and considered.
I 100% agree he is an amazing man. And I liked @NotMadHatter comment because I agree with everything he sd. My bull is a GOOD, hardworking man. I supported him through his interview process, cheering him on. I knew he'd get the position. Was with him through his first day and subsequent jump start into it. What he's doing is not easy at all. He faces a lot of stress at work. I did my best to just hold space and hopefully be a soft place for him at the end of the day or week.
I did say it before I fully support him in his goal, I admire his drive and I always want him to go after it. I told him time and time again how proud I was of him and that all I wanted was for him to win. I had/have no doubt he'll succeed. That's why I was patient and never asked of him or his time and allowed him to set the pace because I knew, understood and respected that he has was going through a huge transition and was focusing on his work and trying to establish his new routine. I never got upset if he had to cancel plans which only happened twice, because I got it. We never once fought. We always communicated really well in fact we were always laughing and teasing even if we were having a deeper serious convo. Being open & honest in a calm manner was always "us". I am very capable of being logical and being very empathetic none of that was an issue on either side. I too am a very busy single mom, like I sd, work full-time and doing a 2yr diploma so I get it. I know how hard it can be to find that balance for everything. That's the other reason I find quality time more important than quantity. When you're working hard to attain goals sometimes theres not much time but what time there is should be well invested.
I wasn't even looking to or wanting to date when we reconnected. I was focused on my work, daughter and studies, but with him, there was just something, different ( I know cliché) but its true.
I guess at the end of the day, I was just feeling a little stuck, shocked by the abrupt end and confused. I'm giving him his space because that's what he sd he needs and I fully respect that. There's just that voice in the back of my head wondering if he will reach out or if I try to push him from my mind.
Even though we didn't know each other long, we had extremely deep conversations, talked daily and he had become my best friend. I miss my friend and just wonder if he's ok. But I'm respecting his wishes and will allow him to reach out if he chooses to do so.
And I 100% agree with your statement on the jealousy part. He in no way sd it in a way that was narcissistic. I agree with you, it came from a place of seeing how close my friend and I are and wanting us to be like that because he misses how we were so close before he started this job. I told him only time spent together would do that but that what he & I would have would be so much more because my friend is just my friend and could never connect with me as deeply as my bull could. I was the sweetness anyhow. We haven't talked since. You get it though I feel. But I digress.
Don't you think if he loved you he could find 5 minutes a day to get in touch with you?
Exactly. If he can "love" from afar, so can she! 😆
🤣😂… OMG you’re a cancer moon too right?!?? You guys are hilariously similar!click to expand
Are we? LMAO
I would never baby sit and reach out every 2-3 weeks in hopes to catch his eye. lol
Craziness!
Posted by MareInfamePosted by saggurl88Posted by MareInfamePosted by saggurl88Posted by Wizardz_Posted by NotUrTypicalGeminiPosted by MareInfamePosted by NotMadHatter
This thread has turned bizarre to me. He is a person. A whole ass person with goals and dreams. Goals and dreams he is pursuing. Goals and dreams he has had a loooong time before Op and he met. He switched from his own company.. see he owns it. Starting a business is easy,, keeping one going is not.. Most people cannot run a successful business when they try. This man makes decisions and stcks to them. Sets goals and sets out to accomplish them.
Are you guys that fucking lonely that the only thing that gives you fulfillment is a relationship? No goals you'll sacrifice yourself for? You'll set all your hopes and dreams you've had on the back burner for a connection you've had for a month? That is PEAK catlady shit. Especially when 50% of relationships end within the first 3 years... like most businesses. Or do you not have any hopes and dreams of your own and need someone else to give you a sense of purpose?
He's a prison guard... where is this money everyone keeps mentioning? Who gets wealthy as a prison guard? The only reason someone decides to leave THEIR OWN BUSINESS to be a prison guard is if it somehow fits their overall goal.. his is helping troubled youth.. that makes logical fucking sense.
How codependent are you people?
Yeah, I think this bull has a heart of gold. He is dedicating himself to the greater good.
OP… you see that right? You see he is a good man?
It is a sacrifice for him too. I don’t believe he is full of shit when he says he wished he had more time with you. It’s just that he has a strong calling for a bigger mission, and he’s got to get that done.
Even if you two end up friends, I think he will always admire you for supporting him through tough times.
That jealousy isn’t narcissism… it’s that he wishes he had the time to spend with you too. Right now he is working his ass off, and you are pleasure to him. You are the sweetness in his life.
I jus think there are different perspectives and I believe all should be seen and considered.
I 100% agree he is an amazing man. And I liked @NotMadHatter comment because I agree with everything he sd. My bull is a GOOD, hardworking man. I supported him through his interview process, cheering him on. I knew he'd get the position. Was with him through his first day and subsequent jump start into it. What he's doing is not easy at all. He faces a lot of stress at work. I did my best to just hold space and hopefully be a soft place for him at the end of the day or week.
I did say it before I fully support him in his goal, I admire his drive and I always want him to go after it. I told him time and time again how proud I was of him and that all I wanted was for him to win. I had/have no doubt he'll succeed. That's why I was patient and never asked of him or his time and allowed him to set the pace because I knew, understood and respected that he has was going through a huge transition and was focusing on his work and trying to establish his new routine. I never got upset if he had to cancel plans which only happened twice, because I got it. We never once fought. We always communicated really well in fact we were always laughing and teasing even if we were having a deeper serious convo. Being open & honest in a calm manner was always "us". I am very capable of being logical and being very empathetic none of that was an issue on either side. I too am a very busy single mom, like I sd, work full-time and doing a 2yr diploma so I get it. I know how hard it can be to find that balance for everything. That's the other reason I find quality time more important than quantity. When you're working hard to attain goals sometimes theres not much time but what time there is should be well invested.
I wasn't even looking to or wanting to date when we reconnected. I was focused on my work, daughter and studies, but with him, there was just something, different ( I know cliché) but its true.
I guess at the end of the day, I was just feeling a little stuck, shocked by the abrupt end and confused. I'm giving him his space because that's what he sd he needs and I fully respect that. There's just that voice in the back of my head wondering if he will reach out or if I try to push him from my mind.
Even though we didn't know each other long, we had extremely deep conversations, talked daily and he had become my best friend. I miss my friend and just wonder if he's ok. But I'm respecting his wishes and will allow him to reach out if he chooses to do so.
And I 100% agree with your statement on the jealousy part. He in no way sd it in a way that was narcissistic. I agree with you, it came from a place of seeing how close my friend and I are and wanting us to be like that because he misses how we were so close before he started this job. I told him only time spent together would do that but that what he & I would have would be so much more because my friend is just my friend and could never connect with me as deeply as my bull could. I was the sweetness anyhow. We haven't talked since. You get it though I feel. But I digress.
Don't you think if he loved you he could find 5 minutes a day to get in touch with you?
Exactly. If he can "love" from afar, so can she! 😆
🤣😂… OMG you’re a cancer moon too right?!?? You guys are hilariously similar!
Are we? LMAO
I would never baby sit and reach out every 2-3 weeks in hopes to catch his eye. lol
Craziness!
In hopes of catching his eye?!?? What an ODD thought 🤔
Babysit?
Lol… the whole interpretation seems skewed. And intentions are completely OFF - I don’t even know where to start with that 🤣😂click to expand
I don’t understand the logic of checking in with someone who is telling you that he won’t have any time for you and that he can’t commit to anything.
Maybe that’s why I think this way. lol
If she’s fine with being friends then it doesn’t matter.
You see how a little neglect can cause someone doubt and make them want to chase? Smh
I always call their bluffs and tell them dueces ✌️
🤣🤣
Posted by Wizardz_
He's literally doing nothing for her? and she's saying what a wonderful man he is and how she wants to support him and be patient and he's saying "find someone else, I don't have time for you"
I was being supportive etc while we were dating, before our conversation where he expressed he was overwhelmed with work etc and needed to focus and needed some space. After he sd that, I stepped back and have given him the space he needs. We haven't spoke since.
He didn't tell me to find someone else, he sd I deserve more than what he's giving me right now. He sd he'd be upset & jealous if I did meet someone else.
When he sd he still wanted me to be in his life, and to see me. I asked in what capacity? As friends then? and he sd NO he doesn't like the idea of us just being friends, that he cares about me and has feelings for me. I just tried to clarify because I like boundaries and well...clarity lol! But he couldn't say. Hence the confusion on my part and why I just sd ok at the end and left it there.
Gem sun/Cancer moon is FAR more psychotic than Sag sun/Cancer moon
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by NotUrTypicalGeminiPosted by Wizardz_
He's literally doing nothing for her? and she's saying what a wonderful man he is and how she wants to support him and be patient and he's saying "find someone else, I don't have time for you"
I was being supportive etc while we were dating, before our conversation where he expressed he was overwhelmed with work etc and needed to focus and needed some space. After he sd that, I stepped back and have given him the space he needs. We haven't spoke since.
He didn't tell me to find someone else, he sd I deserve more than what he's giving me right now. He sd he'd be upset & jealous if I did meet someone else.
When he sd he still wanted me to be in his life, and to see me. I asked in what capacity? As friends then? and he sd NO he doesn't like the idea of us just being friends, that he cares about me and has feelings for me. I just tried to clarify because I like boundaries and well...clarity lol! But he couldn't say. Hence the confusion on my part and why I just sd ok at the end and left it there.
Doesn't sound like you have much say in anythingclick to expand
You're not wrong
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →Related Topics
Tell me about your experiences with Taurus guys who talk big game lol
I just have a Taurus guy friend from Cali and I'm in a different country. But anyway, we were just catching up by text after not talking for over a year.
And it was all fine, then he
If you've read my previous forums detailing my experience with a Taurus man I'm here to provide yet another update.
He started resurfacing again in late August. He sent me a message on IG saying he hopes I do well in school this semester. A few days lat
I have know this Taurus man since we were very young children, mothers were friends, moving states were involved. 11 years later he came to visit while we were both teenagers, it was awkward but ok. Fast forward another 11 years, long story short we ended
Bonsoir,
need your support,
your advice,your thoughts & feelings about a dream and a situation connected to it.
Few days back
I had an argument with this Taurus man.
He has moon in Sagittarius.
Mars in Taurus.
&
Venus in Gemini.
We were dating
I know this site is known for smirky but I’m looking for solid responses.
Been seeing a Taurus man for 5 months. He has kids (one at home all the time, other 2 gone). We live less than 90 min away and usually just spend a day together on the weekend. Its
Hi. Hope you all are safe and sound. I wanted to share about a situation I am in and I want taurus experts to decode this not so expressive man for me.
I have been friends with a taurus man for 7 years now. I have always had a crush on him and he knows a
Ok Taurus Sun Virgo Moon Pisces Venus and Mars.
Let me first start off by saying until this summer this guy had not talked with or slept with a woman for 6 years. He was someone I liked as a teenager and we made out years ago but it never went anywhere.
I have had this friend for 17 years. Love and respect him always have. Been through hell and back with DOMESTIC VIOLENCE with my sons dad been free from him for 2 and half years my sons 3 and half. Any way me and my friend 3 months ago decided to make a
Now let's go to the romantic side of things 😆
I read Taurus people are known to be great lovers generally (obviously everything depends on everything in your chart, especially Venus sign when it comes to romance).
Preferably the positive experiences, pl
Capricorn woman here. Long story short I met this Taurus man through work a year ago. We are both in our early thirties. We added each other to social media and Snapchat seemed to be our go to for communication. Since my birthday we would send each other
Bad with this Taurus guy. I don’t want to bore anyone with the details but pleaseeeee I’m begging for some help. I will give more details if there’s any help out there
This is an update from my first post a few months ago.
I broke up with a Taurus guy I had an amazing connection with because I felt like he was blatantly ignoring me. We're both busy and stressed and at first I thought he was distancing himself from me,
Hello, A good friend of mine told me to log on here to get some insight on the astrological side. Some facts:
My husband and I met in high school, we were together and then broke up and got back together, I got pregnant at 18 and he decided he wanted to
Taurus sun, Scorpio moon here. Too much affection from a friend or family makes me want to run for the hills. Still can't say anything to them other than small hints, which not everyone gets, specially guys.
What triggered it is a taurus guy I got to kn
So i was talking to a guy , and yea know he had some ex problems so i kinda fell back ghosted him go into something didnt work out but we kept in contacted and he would mention how i disappeared and now im trying to show im serious but i dont think he wil
Hi,
I have met over christmal younger and older friends and relatives so I saw both man and woman cooking for the family, one older couple
where the women always cooks, and whenever I read up on what others have to say about taurus men, I am surprised
Curiosity purposes :)
I’m noticing this is a trend with these Taurs so I like to give him the benefit of the doubt that it’s just how he is but seeking another opinion before I fool myself!
Me & my Taur met via a dating app back in August. We live in different states and
IMO, I think a Taurus man and Scorpio woman would light up the bedroom.
He's my husband. He's very caring and loving. But recently he started comparing me with other women. He will just say something and then laugh when i get angry. He doesn't appreciate what i do for him. But appreciate other women when they do same thing wh
He's 40, I'm 38.
Sorry this is long, I tried to make it shorter. Gemini problems LOL!
We initially met online over a year ago. Had INSTANT connection like we had known each other our whole lives. Laughing constantly, unmatched banter on both sides. It actually scared me. We talked for a couple weeks but Life things came up and we lost touch.
By chance completely out of the blue at the end of July we reconnected and it was as if a day hadn't passed. The energy was insane. We started talking every night and had 3-4hr convos and text all day. Then after 2 weeks we had our first date. Best date of my life, he felt the same. I have NEVER in my life experienced a connection like this. We both kept saying it felt surreal. Kept reminding ourselves we only just met. Scary! But when we were together it was magnetic. I am a VERY affectionate person and was delighted that he was the same. He was very intense in pursuit of me. Consistent. Open. Communicative. All the things which I love and I showed him all the same. He wanted to be exclusive. Showed signs of jealousy etc. We got a little intimate but never had sex and both agreed we wanted to build a connection. We're both Demisexual. Things were going amazing. Then 2 months in he started a new job that was VERY intense and a HUGE shift for him. We talked about it in the beginning and he just asked that I be patient while he adjusts to the job & demanding schedule. Despite being a Gemini, I am Virgo ascendant which means I CRAVE stability and I've been told I am patient to a fault. Of course I want him to succeed and believe in him. I was so proud he got his dream job and encouraged and supported him 100% .
Fast forward a 1.5 months into his job he is struggling. Struggling to find balance between work and home life. The schedule ended up being so much more demanding than he thought it would be. We've only been able to see each other twice since he started his job. He ended up getting really sick, having to work doubles and canceling plans due to his other business that he also is still running. During all of this I have been patient, understanding, was calm, not demanding anything of him and giving him his space. Respecting his needs and allowing him to make the plans as I knew he had much going on. We would still text daily, talk on his days off and I was completely good with that. Again, I know this is his dream and fully support his drive and want to see him succeed. I just tried to check in and be a calm happy space for him. A place to vent if he needed and be there for him. 2 weeks ago he cancels our date due to work, I say so worries I understand, we'll raincheck for another day. He calls me and vents everything he's feeling, feeling very overwhelmed. I tried to just listen and reassured him this was just a transition and he'd find his balance. Things are strained due to Covid. Hes working way more than he should be. I told him in months to come, more staff should come in and not to worry things would level out. Told him he's doing a great job.
Things continue to be our new normal then this past weekend we had plans for him to come over. We had talked the night before and he was a little short but other than that normal. I just chalked it up to him having a long work week and didn't bring it up. I'm extremely empathetic so I get it which is why I said nothing. Day of our date he texts me in the am like his normal happy, sweet self. We chat a bit, all positive. A friend of mine was coming for a play date with our daughters before my date. He texts me asking to call him. So when my friend leaves I do thinking he was asking what snacks I wanted for our date.
Not what he had to say at all. I was in shock. He sd he was feeling disconnected. I sd yeah that will happen as we haven't been able to see each other but I understand and am willing to be patient and we'll figure it out. He brought up my best guy friend and he feels jealous of how close we are and he wishes he had that with me. I sd we can but it will takr time and seeing each other but it would be more than that as I have a connection with him (my Taurus) thats so unique and nothing like what I could ever have with my friend. I told him our connection was different, special. He sd he missed how we were in the beginning, misses us, and doesn't like how he feels now. He sd he doesn't feel like himself, feels like he's not giving me what I need. He sd the man I met then is him and hes not himself right now. I give him these long texts that are witty and make him laugh and he wants to respond in kind but hes too tired or overwhelmed or doesn't have time. He says I deserve more. I deserve to be with a man who can give me everything I need and want. He sd he does care about me. He sd he had mentioned in the beginning how he likes when his woman also makes plans but I haven't. I sd yes I usually do but only reason I haven't is because I do understand the amount of workload etc on your right now and wad just trying to respect your time and giving you that space as I didn't want to stress him. He asked for time and patience, I thought thats what I was providing and I apologized. I sd of course I want to see you and miss you, I just know you have to focus on things right now. He sd a lot of other things but Then he sd he can't commit and needs me not to expect anything because he's just feeling overwhelmed. He misses his friends and family and going to the gym and doesnt feel like himself because hes had to neglect all of that. So he sd he needs to get all of that in balance again and focus on getting this new career off the ground and be successful. BUT says he still wants my daughter & I to be in his life. I asked in what capacity, as a friend? He sd well no. I sd you want to talk in a week or something, he sd no, I still want you in my life I just need you to not expect anything. Said he needs space, he needs to get back to himself. We end our call, he says I'll talk to your later. That was Saturday, it's been 3 days. I haven't text or called because he sd he wants space so I'm respecting his needs.
I've dated some pretty dishonest men with intentions that weren't true. I'm a very loyal, devoted partner. Very old school. I guess my question is, was all of this just the typical thing men say to a woman you're no longer interested in to let her off easy? Or does he just need space and he will come back when he feels grounded again? I feel its the latter, he's always been true to his word but I'm feeling very sidelined and confused.
I miss him terribly but again, I haven't reached out to respect his request for space but am so confused I don't even know if that is the right thing to do. I don't want him to think I don't care and am not thinking about him but I don't want to impose and stress him out when he's trying to regain balance.
Taurus man thoughts? Would greatly appreciate it.