I lied to my new Capricorn boyfriend

Posted by stillstillwater

awwww i'm so sorry to hear about your mom 😢. I hope you're being forgiving and compassionate with yourself given this major loss.

I think if you share your emotional pain with him, he'll soften up.... and if he doesn't: how horrible! I mean yeah you lied but it was a white lie and surrounding this major loss you made a bad call, so what. It's not like you lied and cheated or did him harm.smh.

Try to explain that you did out of love, not to hurt anyone. He seems like such a hard ass. How long were you together? I think most people would be understanding to your situation ....

Just open up and explain it to him. Then leave it in his court. Like I'd appreciate your support and understanding but if you find this unforgiveable I understand.

that should wake him up that if he can't move past this then he's also risking of losing you.

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by stillstillwater

awwww i'm so sorry to hear about your mom 😢. I hope you're being forgiving and compassionate with yourself given this major loss.

I think if you share your emotional pain with him, he'll soften up.... and if he doesn't: how horrible! I mean yeah you lied but it was a white lie and surrounding this major loss you made a bad call, so what. It's not like you lied and cheated or did him harm.smh.

Try to explain that you did out of love, not to hurt anyone. He seems like such a hard ass. How long were you together? I think most people would be understanding to your situation ....

Just open up and explain it to him. Then leave it in his court. Like I'd appreciate your support and understanding but if you find this unforgiveable I understand.

that should wake him up that if he can't move past this then he's also risking of losing you.

Thank you for your words... you are right... I tried to explain it to him I think he was still angry at me so right now the ball is in his court. If he decides not to forgive me then I’m also ditching a bullet I feel.. if he can’t understand where I was coming from and forgive me in basically the worst year of my life, I deserve someone better...

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He has lied to his friends in front of me... isn’t it understandable that I didn’t want to share the pain I was going through? Why so harsh? I’d understand if he gets mad at me for some days puts me in my place and tells me to never lie again... but cutting off ‘the best connection’ he’s ever had because of this? I feel didn’t love me that much if he is so unforgiving and doesn’t want to understand where I was coming from...

Posted by blackphvse

@stillstillwater Wasn't we just talking about this? Lol

Don't know how to lie? Come on..

Losing a parent would be very painful, I'd think that would be enough to deal with without running after and endlessly explaining yourself to some dude and now posting here about him. You shouldn't have to explain anything, if he doesn't understand that you are in a fragile position then fuck him! But something about this just isn't adding up..

Posted by blackphvse

@stillstillwater Wasn't we just talking about this? Lol

Don't know how to lie? Come on..

Losing a parent would be very painful, I'd think that would be enough to deal with without running after and endlessly explaining yourself to some dude and now posting here about him. You shouldn't have to explain anything, if he doesn't understand that you are in a fragile position then fuck him! But something about this just isn't adding up..

Posted by LibraCancer05

I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

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Posted by LibraCancer05

I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

he hasn't talked to you for weeks— That's just insane...at this point just be ready to say you dodged a bullet.

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

1st vid

2nd vid

Haha thanks

Maybe with the next partner

Or in the next life

the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

1st vid

2nd vid

Haha thanks

Maybe with the next partner

Or in the next life

the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

you'll have another partner, don't worry

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

1st vid

2nd vid

Haha thanks

Maybe with the next partner

Or in the next life

the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

you'll have another partner, don't worry

Not worried, thing is I wanted him long term. We were great together I never thought I’d feel that way towards somebody. And I am responsible for the lie. I just don’t understand why it’s so heavy for him to throw it away if I was the ‘best thing that has happend to Him’ I just don’t get how he’s so unforgiving when I need him abs his forgiveness the most

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

1st vid

2nd vid

Haha thanks

Maybe with the next partner

Or in the next life

the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

you'll have another partner, don't worry

Not worried, thing is I wanted him long term. We were great together I never thought I’d feel that way towards somebody. And I am responsible for the lie. I just don’t understand why it’s so heavy for him to throw it away if I was the ‘best thing that has happend to Him’ I just don’t get how he’s so unforgiving when I need him abs his forgiveness the most

Instead of wanting a deeper connection where you can meet each other's needs and be happy, you wanted long term relationship. You're judging him again in this message.My advice would be to watch these video's, or atleast 1 and reflect after them, you'll have more clarity . Might want to write things down as you watch asw.

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

1st vid

2nd vid

Haha thanks

Maybe with the next partner

Or in the next life

the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

you'll have another partner, don't worry

Not worried, thing is I wanted him long term. We were great together I never thought I’d feel that way towards somebody. And I am responsible for the lie. I just don’t understand why it’s so heavy for him to throw it away if I was the ‘best thing that has happend to Him’ I just don’t get how he’s so unforgiving when I need him abs his forgiveness the most

Instead of wanting a deeper connection where you can meet each other's needs and be happy, you wanted long term relationship. You're judging him again in this message.My advice would be to watch these video's, or atleast 1 and reflect after them, you'll have more clarity . Might want to write things down as you watch asw.

I’m not explaining myself propoerly my apologies English is not my first language... when I say I wanted him long term in my life I mean I wanted to develop that deep connection over time. I wanted to meet him on all levels and get to know each other as we are and I was not in a hurry. I was happy before him and I am

Happy after him. I wanted to be happy together while getting to know each other.

I don’t understand why he’s neglecting my words and actions that show what he means to me and got closed off so fast and doesn’t want to listen to me

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When you lost your mom and you're dating a BYTCH for a man

good Lord almighty

forget dropping him I'd curse his raggedy ass out

block him on EVERYTHING

and get a doll so I can do voodoo on him

how selfish is this fucker

you lost your mom for God's sake

focus on that

wth fuk this NIGGA

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He's trash. Lying isn't good but you just lost someone in your life, sounds like he'd piss his panties if you asked for space anyways. You did what you had to do, take everyone's advice and let the trash float down the river. My condolences to you and your family!

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

1st vid

2nd vid

Haha thanks

Maybe with the next partner

Or in the next life

the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

you'll have another partner, don't worry

Not worried, thing is I wanted him long term. We were great together I never thought I’d feel that way towards somebody. And I am responsible for the lie. I just don’t understand why it’s so heavy for him to throw it away if I was the ‘best thing that has happend to Him’ I just don’t get how he’s so unforgiving when I need him abs his forgiveness the most

Great together means nothing when they can t hang during your bad times.

If you had your daughter mourning you n this guy is making you cry what would u tell your daughter.

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

1st vid

2nd vid

Haha thanks

Maybe with the next partner

Or in the next life

the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

you'll have another partner, don't worry

Not worried, thing is I wanted him long term. We were great together I never thought I’d feel that way towards somebody. And I am responsible for the lie. I just don’t understand why it’s so heavy for him to throw it away if I was the ‘best thing that has happend to Him’ I just don’t get how he’s so unforgiving when I need him abs his forgiveness the most

Great together means nothing when they can t hang during your bad times.

If you had your daughter mourning you n this guy is making you cry what would u tell your daughter.

I was gonna leave this one be, but as usual, you chicks have taken it way out of hand. You are all completely clueless and should keep your 2 cents to yourselves unless you have a clear grasp on things in general.

OP is wishy-washy and too clueless about her own feelings for the guy. My mother died recently and I only told 2 people in my life, who were not my ex. When he found out from someone else, he hounded me to give me support but I told him to stick it because I don't want his support. Because I'm fully aware of my feelings towards him and I'm not shy about expressing them.

The OP chose to lie to her guy because he clearly isn't worth a damn in her book, and she lacked the testicular fortitude to show him. Made even worse by his existing trust issues due to having been cheated on in the past.

This is classic Libra bullshit, and she's coming in here to be coddled by a bunch of idiots.

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

1st vid

2nd vid

Haha thanks

Maybe with the next partner

Or in the next life

the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

you'll have another partner, don't worry

Not worried, thing is I wanted him long term. We were great together I never thought I’d feel that way towards somebody. And I am responsible for the lie. I just don’t understand why it’s so heavy for him to throw it away if I was the ‘best thing that has happend to Him’ I just don’t get how he’s so unforgiving when I need him abs his forgiveness the most

Great together means nothing when they can t hang during your bad times.

If you had your daughter mourning you n this guy is making you cry what would u tell your daughter.

I was gonna leave this one be, but as usual, you chicks have taken it way out of hand. You are all completely clueless and should keep your 2 cents to yourselves unless you have a clear grasp on things in general.

OP is wishy-washy and too clueless about her own feelings for the guy. My mother died recently and I only told 2 people in my life, who were not my ex. When he found out from someone else, he hounded me to give me support but I told him to stick it because I don't want his support. Because I'm fully aware of my feelings towards him and I'm not shy about expressing them.

The OP chose to lie to her guy because he clearly isn't worth a damn in her book, and she lacked the testicular fortitude to show him. Made even worse by his existing trust issues due to having been cheated on in the past.

This is classic Libra bullshit, and she's coming in here to be coddled by a bunch of idiots.

That's a really good perspective... but ya know they'll say that everyone griefs differently.

So may be if she acknowledged his feelings he might come back around. When you love someone and they can't trust you to open up to you, it does hurt and can be seen as rejection.

I remember when the Libra had gone through loss of a parent, he did all kinds of nonsense in the name of "everyone griefs differently" but it hurt me a lot thinking that I'm not part of his inner circle, someone he can go to for support.... so yeah i understand your point too.

Relationships do take two people to understand each other's feelings. This kind of feels like "two wrongs don't make a right".

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw, so you'll def enojy, try it out, and see what you think. 😉 will improve quality of life, because you'll have less bad thoughts in your head overall, about people and everything.

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the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

you'll have another partner, don't worry

Not worried, thing is I wanted him long term. We were great together I never thought I’d feel that way towards somebody. And I am responsible for the lie. I just don’t understand why it’s so heavy for him to throw it away if I was the ‘best thing that has happend to Him’ I just don’t get how he’s so unforgiving when I need him abs his forgiveness the most

Great together means nothing when they can t hang during your bad times.

If you had your daughter mourning you n this guy is making you cry what would u tell your daughter.

I was gonna leave this one be, but as usual, you chicks have taken it way out of hand. You are all completely clueless and should keep your 2 cents to yourselves unless you have a clear grasp on things in general.

OP is wishy-washy and too clueless about her own feelings for the guy. My mother died recently and I only told 2 people in my life, who were not my ex. When he found out from someone else, he hounded me to give me support but I told him to stick it because I don't want his support. Because I'm fully aware of my feelings towards him and I'm not shy about expressing them.

The OP chose to lie to her guy because he clearly isn't worth a damn in her book, and she lacked the testicular fortitude to show him. Made even worse by his existing trust issues due to having been cheated on in the past.

This is classic Libra bullshit, and she's coming in here to be coddled by a bunch of idiots.

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

Lies are bad root for any relationship. You might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're making up stories in your head so you can justify the lies you tell him. I don't know why you do it, but sounds like you don't want take responsibility what comes with telling person the truth, so you make it seem like it's for hi's own good, but in reality, honesty is what's good for people. If i had an advice i'd say express your feelings , how hard it is for you, and you'd like him to be there for you, what he does, is out of your hands either way. I see in this chat everyone's trying to understand and care for the woman, but 0 people seem to care about how the guy feels, just shows that people seem to think that just because someone has harder time that validates behaving in a way that can hurt other's feelings and that somehow the feelings of another person is less. You 2 don't sound connected.

Thanks for your input. I do understand him. And we were falling for each other when I lied so I get the disappointment. He told me he had never felt this for anybody and I told him the same. I am being honest when I am saying I wanted to be alone and not give explanations or talk to anybody. I told him I was with friends so he wouldn’t come over or tell me to meet up cus he was quite needy compared to me those days... I didn’t wanted to worry him and wanted to cry and think on my own, that’s the truth.

I do get his hurt but somehow I still feel that it’s forgivable. He could have been mad at me for days but we haven’t talked for weeks now.. I am aware lying is bad and I am sorry for it, I regret it... but he doesn’t wanna be here for me during one of the worst times of my life and there’s nothing I can do to change his mind... I honestly think he didn’t find me that special if he’s so unforgiving now...

Communication is nr1 thing in relationship, and healthy communication, not communication with judgements, communication with understanding and compassion. Even in this message i can see you're evaluating and judging person by how he act's instead of trying to understand and connect with him. You should express that you feel really sad that you couldn't meet your own need to cumunicate in a respectful way in that period of time.

I mean in this world we're living everyone's using head judgment, instead of heart . It's rare thing to see people being able to connect with the heart and observe their behaviour and notice the emotions and needs in these words instead of using head and trying to rationalize these things . There's a really good quote, to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence, and that's true, because most people put labels on things that people do using their brain , instead of trying to see what's behind these words, what person is feeling, needing etc. There are powerful books and seminar video's on communication like this. It's so unnatural these day's that it's really weird once you hear it tho. 😄

I believe I have connected to him that’s why I have felt so much sorrow and regret. I feel he is the one who can’t step into my shoes for a minute. I have a knowledge my poor behavior I have told the truth and apologized. Last time I heard about him he said he couldn’t forgive such a lie...

If you're connected with a person he wouldn't be saying that, it's that simple. And your beliefs doesn't mean you're connected in a healthy and connecting way. In every message you're judging him, as he does with you, you're not hearing each other.

Okey! Any useful advice? I should text him again right? It’s up to him now?

My advice would be to learn to cumminicate in a way that you both don't judge each other's behaviour, and come with understanding and compassion, don't talk with him until you have idea of what that is. At first ofc you might struggle, but if you're willing to give it some effort, i bet you'll both do well, it's hard thing to do tho. If you'd like to understand some of things that i'm talking about, i'll link 2video's here, they are not short, around 2hour seminars , but these are really useful, either for love relationship or close family etc. That guy also has a book, so if you find this interesting and useful, you might want to buy it. These seminars are real quality material, and not just useful, but funny asw,

Maybe with the next partner

Or in the next life

the guy I was dating is still not talking to me

you'll have another partner, don't worry

Not worried, thing is I wanted him long term. We were great together I never thought I’d feel that way towards somebody. And I am responsible for the lie. I just don’t understand why it’s so heavy for him to throw it away if I was the ‘best thing that has happend to Him’ I just don’t get how he’s so unforgiving when I need him abs his forgiveness the most

Great together means nothing when they can t hang during your bad times.

If you had your daughter mourning you n this guy is making you cry what would u tell your daughter.

I was gonna leave this one be, but as usual, you chicks have taken it way out of hand. You are all completely clueless and should keep your 2 cents to yourselves unless you have a clear grasp on things in general.

OP is wishy-washy and too clueless about her own feelings for the guy. My mother died recently and I only told 2 people in my life, who were not my ex. When he found out from someone else, he hounded me to give me support but I told him to stick it because I don't want his support. Because I'm fully aware of my feelings towards him and I'm not shy about expressing them.

The OP chose to lie to her guy because he clearly isn't worth a damn in her book, and she lacked the testicular fortitude to show him. Made even worse by his existing trust issues due to having been cheated on in the past.

This is classic Libra bullshit, and she's coming in here to be coddled by a bunch of idiots.

That's a really good perspective... but ya know they'll say that everyone griefs differently.

So may be if she acknowledged his feelings he might come back around. When you love someone and they can't trust you to open up to you, it does hurt and can be seen as rejection.

I remember when the Libra had gone through loss of a parent, he did all kinds of nonsense in the name of "everyone griefs differently" but it hurt me a lot thinking that I'm not part of his inner circle, someone he can go to for support.... so yeah i understand your point too.

Relationships do take two people to understand each other's feelings. This kind of feels like "two wrongs don't make a right".

She doesn't care enough about him to let him in, so she lied to him, which aggravated his lingering trust issues (which are hard to get over as it is, and he clearly hadn't). End of the story.

It’s not true, He’s literally the first person who saw me cry in 4 years and he knew. I needed to be alone I was heartbroken to another level and didn’t want to share anything with anybody I needed to be on my own and find my balance without worrying anybody

I didn’t want him to think I was seeking attention or anything like that I don’t like when people see me as needy or crybaby

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I don’t know how to lie, first of all I’m really bad at it. I lied to him I told him I was out with friends when I was actually home alone, dealing with the pain that I was feeling because of my mums death. I didn’t wanted to worry him or anybody else I wanted him to think that I was fine. The day after he told me something was up and I told him my plans got cancelled and I lied because I didn’t wanted to worry him. It’s been two weeks. I run after him for days after this explaining him everything several times and reminding him of what he meant to me. He’s still not talking to me, he told me he didn’t want to have nothing to do with me but he still has me on instagrams best friends and has tried to make me jealous. I don’t get it. I know lying is wrong but i don’t think it’s that unforgivable. Before the lie we were both so happy with each other and we said non of us had felt this way before... is it really that unforgivable?

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He has lied to his friends in front of me... isn’t it understandable that I didn’t want to share the pain I was going through? Why so harsh? I’d understand if he gets mad at me for some days puts me in my place and tells me to never lie again... but cutting off ‘the best connection’ he’s ever had because of this? I feel didn’t love me that much if he is so unforgiving and doesn’t want to understand where I was coming from...