Cake AND ice cream too?

Honestly, to end the situation I know what needs to happen. I don't want a lecture. I already know I'm fucked

Here is how it all pans out.

November 7th I noticed a guy. I took interest in his mind. That was as far as it went AN interest. He had a girlfriend. I took 1,000 steps back, and carried on with my life.

Last week he messages me telling me things about his mind, how he loves writing. We clicked on a common ground. As just two people

We started talking everyday platonically. Then the unexpected. He caught feelings for me ...mean while I was hiding all of mine. He has no idea the extent of how I feel.


Now today. We've talked over the phone. We literally talk all throughout the day, still has his girlfriend,but doesn't want to be irrational, and break up with her.

Which I don't want him to either, they are having issues, but what relationship doesn't.

I know I'm about to get hurt I can just feel it, damn every time I see him say something to her, she is like really sweet, and I see her respond back so pleasantly...

My heart hitS the pit of my stomach. I'm so determined to keep my heart in check..

Fucking stupid...

(Vent over)

just. don't.

I don't really want to be with him. I suppose its just the thrill. To communicate everyday. The smile he gives me, I'm just hanging onto my heart. The funny part about it is that he doesn't appear to feel guilty about it. That should tell me something. Nothing has happened.

The feelings are there clearly, but there is no other evidence.

I'm literally holding my heart captive, if I did get hurt by this stupidity, it wouldn't hurt so badly...

I feel stupid as hell.

I'm an aqua male.

If I thought of you as anything more than a thrilling hook up experience (assuming here you are after more than just this) then I would end my current relationship and start a new one with you. Nothing irrational there, I'm simply going with the relationship that I feel better in. But since I'm not doing it (your Aqua flirt) then I'm simply keeping you aside as maybe runner up or if we end up hitting it off one night. Yeah it sounds sleazy but you want a real perspective this is it.

Thank you for the insight. He texted me earlier saying that he still wants me. I responded saying I wasn't sure. I don't want anything at the moment. I don't think this will begin well..hm

I'm in the same situation. Take it from me, your best bet is to just quit while you're ahead. While your feelings secretly get more and more passionate for him, his feelings will get more and more passionate for her and he will continue to cling to her and continue to give you second rate treatment. It's obvious that they really like or love each other and aren't leaving each other anytime soon . And next thing you know you're a depressed mess.

Starchild63. I don't know. I don't want to say NOT TRUE. shit it could be lol


This situation in general has me confused. I'm trying to understand. I've dealt with Aquarius folk, you guys are so sweet, I love you guys, but I'm like wtf lol

Before he sent me a message, we had never spoken. Not enough for him to FULL on express to me his deepest of thoughts, all of his interests, insecurities, and SO much personal shit. We were literally nothing. He was like the unused lamp in my room. He just comes out of no where. NO WHERE. He's got a pretty exclusive amount of friends, AND a girlfriend. Who the hell am I for him to just PICK from a bunch of people?

He does mention that his girlfriend does not give him a thrill anymore, and does not please him as sexually as he likes. So I assume he's trying to "get laid"

Less than a week later. He tells me he likes me. We were platonic the entire time we spoke over text. He's apologized for bringing me into his feelings when he has a girlfriend. Then we talk over the phone, platonically still. We clicked, I admit it. He says he really wants to be with me.

I'm not mentally ready for a commitment. I tell him that, Ok @Huldra I DO want something, when I am ready.

After the phone conversation our talks are more intimate,yet he keeps reminding me he likes me, he wants to be with me. He returns back to our hometown (He travels for work) We talk for about 4 hours, up until he lands.

He IGNORES me that entire day. Next thing I see is a picture of him, and her looking into each others eyes on FB . She posted it, and she tagged him. I was literally JUST scrolling, wasn't looking for anything . I thought I was doing a pretty swell job of protecting my heart, nope, slap in the face. I was so hurt. I am not going to lie.

Then he texts me early in the morning the next day trying to talk to me. Saying to me "I had to see if my feelings were real. I still feel the same about you" I don't know what that means, but I'm pretty sure he fucked her or kissed her.

The whole day today, I'm just not here. Today we barely speak, its the hoildays, he's with his family, or whoever he is with, that doesn't bother me, the situation does. He says things here and there, and then texts me early in the morning today, we are all lovey dovey again, but I am now damaged over the stupidest shit.



I feel like a fucking lunatic lol


and YES he still with her to my knowledge, but does not put her in the spot light

I see him on Saturday, I suppose I do need to see him, we need to talk, I need to watch his face.

Usually when you're nothing and then suddenly become something out of the blue you're being rebounded. He's had a falling out with his girl and he needs someone close nearby to emote to, get his emotions out and also fixes his bruised ego she fucked up, then he feels better and is now prepared and confident enough to face her again....they make up, he's happy, she's happy...and you're left wondering what happened to you guys wonderful "connection". This shit is real and people do get used just for emotional support or sex whenever needed.

Don't get it confused. I'm an Aqua male and I often times talk to complete strangers about my deepest emotions and business. It's the ones who I really deeply love that I won't open up to so quickly.

If he really liked you like that you would see him more often and during the times that matter, especially during the holidays. He is hers and it sounds like he comes to you when she's probably ignoring him or busy. You fall in love with his "potential" but all in all this guy is a cowardly liar and he will never love you. He will just use you as a soundboard. You take up his idle time, time he doesn't have much to do and is too much of a codependent loser that he doesn't feel comfortable being idle alone.

We'll I don't know him well enough to spend the holidays with, and damn that is a low blow, ooo eee ouch, but I thank you. I wish my feelings would fade, but every time I wake up he is ready, and attentive. I suppose you all are alright. :/

I truly am being used for two of his needs, we haven't had sex, we talk about it though. The rest she provides. Can I just say again how much this sucks. Can I please turn back around and start this over, and say " maybe Instead of talking to me... You should go work it out with her." That's what he said anyways well 2 weeks ago... Idk..I've been broken once, it hurts more than I can bare, definitely leaving this alone

I don't want to do this, but what do I matter anyway. Gotta get this over wilt

Done, he hasn't said anything, I almost want him to be like noo, and fight, but fuck all that. Gawh

Lol thank you. I appreciate that. I'm trying to shake it, and that right there helped me.

Hmm, day one of hurt and get over it.

I'm not giving myself, As of right now he is texting and texting and texting asking me not to leave. I'm not clingy.

My moon is an Aquarius as well

Pretty much. Lol. Oh shit. I'm feel crazy as hell