Chance encounter or Intentional —

OK so Mr aqua that I was seeing for a year as fwb, decided 4 wks ago that, for his development and well being it was best we stopped seeing each other.

No contact since then, but on Friday night while I was out with friends for my bday there he was! In a place where he never goes I might add.

Towards end of the night he made his presence known to me. I had no idea he was there until he was stood in front of me just looking at me waiting for me to notice him.
He told me he had seen me a while before he came over. When i asked why he never came over to say hi before he said I looked busy.
I'm assuming the fact that another man was sat chatting me up for quite some time stopped him from coming over sooner. By this point the guy had gone to the other side of the bar to talk to friends.

I decided this was my chance to tell him I do like him a bit more than casual and am aware he feels the same. And can't understand why he stopped it.

He replies 'it run it's course' and feelings were not the case. I'm quite sensitive to other peoples feelings and know I'm not wrong. So I just said OK fine, you keep telling yourself that.
Even though he was trying really hard to see me 3 days before his descion, and he was in a bar 4wks later that he never goes to.


I feel actions speak louder than words and don't think he was there randomly as he rarely does things on a whim.

Is it me seeing what I want to see in this situation. Or could he have been there in the hope of bumping into me?

I'm really confused _—

Posted by cancerdreamer9
@madmarchram,i like your confidence. I think Aqua's are one of the "creeps" of the zodiac and I mean that with love as in they can be a bit odd and out there and doing things like what yours did. As a matter of fact,I had an Aqua do very similar to that before a few years ago. I think there's a good chance he was there on purpose. As for his intentions,i cannot be sure,i am not quite so well versed in Aquas however,if it were me,i'd be a little on guard,as it is weird thing to do. Idk why he is playing games with you,though.

I get what you're saying.
I don't know what he's playing at. Only thing I can think of is, maybe he missed me and rather than feel silly messaging after ending it he would 'bump' into me. Making it easier for his pride lol.

Idk I'm too old to play games. I don't put myself out there without knowing for sure how the other person feels. But alcohol had something to do with the free flowing words lol.

Oh well it's been said now, can't unring that bell lol

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Posted by cancerdreamer9
@madmarchram,i like your confidence. I think Aqua's are one of the "creeps" of the zodiac and I mean that with love as in they can be a bit odd and out there and doing things like what yours did. As a matter of fact,I had an Aqua do very similar to that before a few years ago. I think there's a good chance he was there on purpose. As for his intentions,i cannot be sure,i am not quite so well versed in Aquas however,if it were me,i'd be a little on guard,as it is weird thing to do. Idk why he is playing games with you,though.

I get what you're saying.
I don't know what he's playing at. Only thing I can think of is, maybe he missed me and rather than feel silly messaging after ending it he would 'bump' into me. Making it easier for his pride lol.

Idk I'm too old to play games. I don't put myself out there without knowing for sure how the other person feels. But alcohol had something to do with the free flowing words lol.

Oh well it's been said now, can't unring that bell lol

Everything happens for a reason. I think it's good you said that. Guys are weird,i'm convinced sometimes they play more games then women. On top of that,I feel they just don't seem to grow up,they just act like children even when way past it.

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Boys don't grow up they just get bigger lol

I'm not into games myself, if you like me tell me, don't do or say indirect things in the hope I'll notice.
If you wanna know something ask me direct, not with hypothetical questions or scenarios.

Being an Aries I find this stuff irritating.

Direct communication saves time. Once you know where you are you can get on with the relationship.

Still, definitely seems like he was there for /you/. Shrug.

Posted by LordTerramine
Still, definitely seems like he was there for /you/. Shrug.

Yes this was my thinking too. But god forbid he admits to it lol.
Why not just be honest, saves time and energy and then we can go back to happy times.

Posted by starlover
I was with two aqua men. One told me he had a *death wish* on me....he pushed me so far to see if he would lose me and then pull me back.....weirdo

The other one couldnt look me in the eye because he was scared of falling too deeply in love with me


They were both interesting guys but not what you would call relationship material


I would run like hell if I was you girl

Actually this one had problems looking me in the eye the other night lol

I should run for the hills I know, the last one I was with left me an emotional mess.
But with this one I'm more in check emotionally, and aware of his ways. Also I've had more control of this situation, last one barged into my life like a bulldozer.
I've never chased him and don't intend to start. So if he wants more he's gonna have to man up! Lol
I'm not going to lie though I find it hard to resist him. It's quite a strong, intense attraction.

As long as I don't start seeing him around all the time I'll be alright

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Posted by cancerdreamer9
@madmarchram,i like your confidence. I think Aqua's are one of the "creeps" of the zodiac and I mean that with love as in they can be a bit odd and out there and doing things like what yours did. As a matter of fact,I had an Aqua do very similar to that before a few years ago. I think there's a good chance he was there on purpose. As for his intentions,i cannot be sure,i am not quite so well versed in Aquas however,if it were me,i'd be a little on guard,as it is weird thing to do. Idk why he is playing games with you,though.

I get what you're saying.
I don't know what he's playing at. Only thing I can think of is, maybe he missed me and rather than feel silly messaging after ending it he would 'bump' into me. Making it easier for his pride lol.

Idk I'm too old to play games. I don't put myself out there without knowing for sure how the other person feels. But alcohol had something to do with the free flowing words lol.

Oh well it's been said now, can't unring that bell lol

Everything happens for a reason. I think it's good you said that. Guys are weird,i'm convinced sometimes they play more games then women. On top of that,I feel they just don't seem to grow up,they just act like children even when way past it.

We scare them. 😱

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Lol he did look uncomfortable when I served it up for him. But I was drunk and he's never seen me drunk before lol I must have seemed like a different person. He thinks I'm a quiet ish submissive woman.

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Feby everything you've just said is on point!
If I thought for 1 second I would ever have seen him there I might have been prepared with the why and what questions.
I was so shocked I did a tripple take and even after he left, I was like did that really just happen—

I put it out as best I could and have kinda left myself wide open. I never do that, but nothing ventured and all that.
Yes I do hold back and I know he was too. Calling him out on it probably caught him off guard. But hell I thought I was hallucinating lol

Ohh I'm not getting the same vibe you guys are. He quit the fwb that lasted one year. You tell him your feelings and he tells you it's run it's course. I think he's done. I don't get what actions are speaking louder than words. He was at a place you were, could be a huge coincidence.

If his actions spoke louder than words you wouldn't be wondering about his motives.

f* $ & no.he didnt go there to 'bump into u' —? are you serious? you need 2 get knocked back into reality.

Posted by staelz
f* $ & no.he didnt go there to 'bump into u' —? are you serious? you need 2 get knocked back into reality.

Damn I thought I was direct lol

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Ohh I'm not getting the same vibe you guys are. He quit the fwb that lasted one year. You tell him your feelings and he tells you it's run it's course. I think he's done. I don't get what actions are speaking louder than words. He was at a place you were, could be a huge coincidence.

If his actions spoke louder than words you wouldn't be wondering about his motives.

I appreciate your opinion and did consider the same thing. However he never goes to this place he always drinks on the other side of town. He knows fine well that's where I always go, so would have been more than aware of the possibility of bumping into me.

In fairness though he might well have meant every word. If he felt that way he could have just left without me ever having known he was there. But instead went out of his way to let me know he was there.
Maybe he was just being polite though.

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Posted by MadMarchRam

Posted by cancerdreamer9
@madmarchram,i like your confidence. I think Aqua's are one of the "creeps" of the zodiac and I mean that with love as in they can be a bit odd and out there and doing things like what yours did. As a matter of fact,I had an Aqua do very similar to that before a few years ago. I think there's a good chance he was there on purpose. As for his intentions,i cannot be sure,i am not quite so well versed in Aquas however,if it were me,i'd be a little on guard,as it is weird thing to do. Idk why he is playing games with you,though.

I get what you're saying.
I don't know what he's playing at. Only thing I can think of is, maybe he missed me and rather than feel silly messaging after ending it he would 'bump' into me. Making it easier for his pride lol.

Idk I'm too old to play games. I don't put myself out there without knowing for sure how the other person feels. But alcohol had something to do with the free flowing words lol.

Oh well it's been said now, can't unring that bell lol

Everything happens for a reason. I think it's good you said that. Guys are weird,i'm convinced sometimes they play more games then women. On top of that,I feel they just don't seem to grow up,they just act like children even when way past it.

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You can say that again! If I ever came across a mature man, I'd say I finally found a unicorn and I'll marry him on the spot! Lol

Sometimes we like someone so much that we start to see things where there is nothing.

I personally feel that if a guy wants you bad enough, then he comes to get you, no ifs and buts like he must be shy or whatever. That's a general rule of thumb women should go by. If he wants you, set him free and he will come find you.

Lol @ Aquarius09
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Posted by aquarius09
Sometimes we like someone so much that we start to see things where there is nothing.

I personally feel that if a guy wants you bad enough, then he comes to get you, no ifs and buts like he must be shy or whatever. That's a general rule of thumb women should go by. If he wants you, set him free and he will come find you.

I have indeed done this, I will leave him be now. I can resist the urge to msg or call.

If he comes back then great if not then at least I've got out before I got hurt.

Posted by feby
But I am getting more sensitive progressively about the Aqua weirdo stereotype. Yes some things are weird but there is always a reason why lol.

I think aries ppl hold back a lot too. Something really similar with that fear of vulnerability I tell ya.

I don't think Aquariuses are weirdos at all... weirdos? More like cuties.

Posted by flowingwater
He's playing games with you. Now you're thinking of him, he's stuck in your head right?

Yep!
Mostly because I was caught off guard.
If it's games he's after he's picked the wrong chick, I'm too old for that carry on now and I won't engage. I'm too direct and impatient for that.

The only games I will play with him are of the carnal variety 😉

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Posted by feby
But I am getting more sensitive progressively about the Aqua weirdo stereotype. Yes some things are weird but there is always a reason why lol.

I think aries ppl hold back a lot too. Something really similar with that fear of vulnerability I tell ya.

I don't think Aquariuses are weirdos at all... weirdos? More like cuties.

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I don't find them weird either, but then I have a few Aqua's in my life, my dad, a few friends male and female and my son too _??_

Posted by Huldra
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Correlation_does_not_imply_causation

+1

Seems like something I would have done...and what that one person said aquas really are the creeps in a lovey type of way.
Intentional all the way.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Ohh I'm not getting the same vibe you guys are. He quit the fwb that lasted one year. You tell him your feelings and he tells you it's run it's course. I think he's done. I don't get what actions are speaking louder than words. He was at a place you were, could be a huge coincidence.

If his actions spoke louder than words you wouldn't be wondering about his motives.

i agree w/ aquapiscescusp, aquarius09 & feby. it's a bar, a public place people go to, it could've been a coincidence. if u don't feel that way, u should've asked what brought him there & how u never see him there (i wonder what his answer would've been! then that would've for sure given u your answer). people complain of mind games, but they participate in it when trying to interpret what someone's "secret motives" are too. take everything @ face value & u never have to bother w/ it. if he said your fwb situation had run its course -- then take it as okay, this encounter IS a coincidence & we're done.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Ohh I'm not getting the same vibe you guys are. He quit the fwb that lasted one year. You tell him your feelings and he tells you it's run it's course. I think he's done. I don't get what actions are speaking louder than words. He was at a place you were, could be a huge coincidence.

If his actions spoke louder than words you wouldn't be wondering about his motives.

i agree w/ aquapiscescusp, aquarius09 & feby. it's a bar, a public place people go to, it could've been a coincidence. if u don't feel that way, u should've asked what brought him there & how u never see him there (i wonder what his answer would've been! then that would've for sure given u your answer). people complain of mind games, but they participate in it when trying to interpret what someone's "secret motives" are too. take everything @ face value & u never have to bother w/ it. if he said your fwb situation had run its course -- then take it as okay, this encounter IS a coincidence & we're done.

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Thanks for your input.

I've had a few days to ponder on it now and I probably did over think it a bit too much.
We didn't part on bad terms so there was no reason for him not to come and say hello.

I accepted it when he initially ended it. I think unexpectedly seeing him was such a shock that my mind started doing overtime.

I've thought about it logically now and have accepted that it is what it is. Sometimes s*!t happens for no reason.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Ohh I'm not getting the same vibe you guys are. He quit the fwb that lasted one year. You tell him your feelings and he tells you it's run it's course. I think he's done. I don't get what actions are speaking louder than words. He was at a place you were, could be a huge coincidence.

If his actions spoke louder than words you wouldn't be wondering about his motives.

i agree w/ aquapiscescusp, aquarius09 & feby. it's a bar, a public place people go to, it could've been a coincidence. if u don't feel that way, u should've asked what brought him there & how u never see him there (i wonder what his answer would've been! then that would've for sure given u your answer). people complain of mind games, but they participate in it when trying to interpret what someone's "secret motives" are too. take everything @ face value & u never have to bother w/ it. if he said your fwb situation had run its course -- then take it as okay, this encounter IS a coincidence & we're done.

Thanks for your input.

I've had a few days to ponder on it now and I probably did over think it a bit too much.
We didn't part on bad terms so there was no reason for him not to come and say hello.

I accepted it when he initially ended it. I think unexpectedly seeing him was such a shock that my mind started doing overtime.

I've thought about it logically now and have accepted that it is what it is. Sometimes s*!t happens for no reason.

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Sounds like it's his loss 🙂

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Ohh I'm not getting the same vibe you guys are. He quit the fwb that lasted one year. You tell him your feelings and he tells you it's run it's course. I think he's done. I don't get what actions are speaking louder than words. He was at a place you were, could be a huge coincidence.

If his actions spoke louder than words you wouldn't be wondering about his motives.

i agree w/ aquapiscescusp, aquarius09 & feby. it's a bar, a public place people go to, it could've been a coincidence. if u don't feel that way, u should've asked what brought him there & how u never see him there (i wonder what his answer would've been! then that would've for sure given u your answer). people complain of mind games, but they participate in it when trying to interpret what someone's "secret motives" are too. take everything @ face value & u never have to bother w/ it. if he said your fwb situation had run its course -- then take it as okay, this encounter IS a coincidence & we're done.

Thanks for your input.

I've had a few days to ponder on it now and I probably did over think it a bit too much.
We didn't part on bad terms so there was no reason for him not to come and say hello.

I accepted it when he initially ended it. I think unexpectedly seeing him was such a shock that my mind started doing overtime.

I've thought about it logically now and have accepted that it is what it is. Sometimes s*!t happens for no reason.

Sounds like it's his loss 🙂

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Thanks 🙂

Posted by Sammy20
I do that sometimes when I really miss the person. Go to places where I know there's a high possibly I'd run into them. Kinda stalkerish actually lol but apparently lots of people do it :p

I am confused though do u want this guy or not? Sounds like he has/had feelings for u while u sort of have feelings for him. Am I getting that right? No offense but yall Aries can be pretty dry in the way you express your feelings. Also you tend to wait for others to text first, say hi first etc. Its only until someone's no longer paying you attention you want them, sometimes too late.
Aquas want to hear an "I miss you" or a simple "hi" every few days to know we're actually being thought about. Only by the people we like though.
If you dont want him in a non-fwb way dont bother saying those words. If he walked away saying it was best for his wellbeing it means he knows he can possibly fall for you or has already.

This is just my thoughts. I could be wrong. But I hope you two work out. For once I'd like to hear of a successful aries/aqua peering.

Thanks for your input

Yes I do like him and would have liked to get to know him better and take it from there really.
Before he ended it for his 'well being' I was planning on having this chat with him face to face and put it all out there. We didn't get to see each other for a while due to being busy. Alternative times were offered, but we had conflicting schedules. So I assume he felt slightly rejected and ended it

I'm very guarded with my feelings in general more so in a fwb situation for obvious reasons.
I did make a point of telling him I wasn't interested in seeing anyone else as I was happy with the situation we had. My way of saying 'I like you' I suppose. Lol

Guilty of always waiting for someone to text first mostly for fear of no response and not wanting to bug or harass lol but I always tell someone that if we swap numbers so they know in advance.

I've told him quite clearly where I am on the situation now. So it's up to him to make the next move if that's what he wants.

If anything occurs I'll do an update lol

Thinking he would've initially came for you though would come up in my mind for a bit too, especially if it really wasn't a place he frequents. Totally understandable. We're girls. We're allowed to daydream or ponder what if lol. Either way, definitely his loss =P

Posted by aquastyle15
Thinking he would've initially came for you though would come up in my mind for a bit too, especially if it really wasn't a place he frequents. Totally understandable. We're girls. We're allowed to daydream or ponder what if lol. Either way, definitely his loss =P

As far as I'm aware he has never been there before hence the train of thought. Lol

Like I said any updates will be posted. Not holding my breath though lol think I'm too direct for him lol

Thanks for saying so though _—

@Sammy - that would make life so much easier and save a lot of time in the long run.

I don't get offended easily and quite frankly am more offended when it's assumed I'll take offence. Rather than someone being direct and giving me the chance to digest things.