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So my bf has a Leo ex. We all worked together but she left in November. Everyone said it’s because our relationship was too much for her to handle. Me and my guy have been officially together a year. They were together before I started working is what I have heard. He said it was FWB and they partied since he was going through a separation at the time and didn’t want me to be worried since we all work together and made me believe it wasn’t anything when he was with her. He says what he feels for me isn’t what he felt for her. He didn’t tell me about her until I asked him about it either. I know they broke up bc she told my coworkers crying that he left her bc he was in love with me and wanted to pursue me. (I made him wait months). Then she left work months later.. again crying.. I felt bad for her but she is rude to people and malicious so sometimes I don’t feel bad. She is older than him by 7 years and much older than me.

Anyway, she still posts quotes about him. Her recent is “I only have one life and I only wanna live it with you” her profile pic is of her and his face is cropped but I know it’s a pic of him from 3 years ago with her when they partied. I have asked him and he denies anything with her. My gut believes him because we have great chemistry and he gives his free time to either his kids or me. But when I see her posts, I can’t help but be upset and think what if.. what I wanna ask is, are aquas known to cheat?
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I think everyone is prone to cheating. Sorry I can't be of much help to you since I'm not experienced with Aquas, but I will say: try to have more faith in him until you find out otherwise.

Because this whole "what if" thing can drive you absolutely crazy. I'm dealing with the exact same thing right now. Crazy Cancer bish is still obsessed with my boyfriend even though they broke up around 2 years ago. They were in an arranged relationship, betrothed to each other by their families. But they grew apart because they were too young for that kind of thing, and then he began dating a man no less (me). And she's tried her damnedest to cause all kinds of problems. And I hardly knew she existed until several months ago.

He tries to downplay everything, telling me to trust him more and just go easy about it. It's far easier said than done but I'm trying really hard to put it out of my mind. She stalks his siblings on social media, constantly leaving comments everywhere.

Like I said, if you have no misgivings about his loyalty & fidelity, you should try and focus instead on making your relationship with him better. Don't worry about it unless he does something you just can't ignore. Cross that bridge when you get there. And I know how hard that is, I'm a paranoid worrywart myself. But you have to, for your own sanity's sake and your relationship's sake. It's no fun being with a neurotic freak.

Good luck, girl.

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I think everyone is prone to cheating. Sorry I can't be of much help to you since I'm not experienced with Aquas, but I will say: try to have more faith in him until you find out otherwise.

Because this whole "what if" thing can drive you absolutely crazy. I'm dealing with the exact same thing right now. Crazy Cancer bish is still obsessed with my boyfriend even though they broke up around 2 years ago. They were in an arranged relationship, betrothed to each other by their families. But they grew apart because they were too young for that kind of thing, and then he began dating a man no less (me). And she's tried her damnedest to cause all kinds of problems. And I hardly knew she existed until several months ago.

He tries to downplay everything, telling me to trust him more and just go easy about it. It's far easier said than done but I'm trying really hard to put it out of my mind. She stalks his siblings on social media, constantly leaving comments everywhere.

Like I said, if you have no misgivings about his loyalty & fidelity, you should try and focus instead on making your relationship with him better. Don't worry about it unless he does something you just can't ignore. Cross that bridge when you get there. And I know how hard that is, I'm a paranoid worrywart myself. But you have to, for your own sanity's sake and your relationship's sake. It's no fun being with a neurotic freak.

Good luck, girl.

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Wow! You hit in on the spot! Not knowing and wondering is the worst because you go crazy and Deep inside you know that you’re wrong by causing a mess on a suspicion! I hope you also calm down and figure it out! Sometimes exes are crazy and it makes us wonder “why are they so crazy! Maybe there’s something still going on for them to be crazy” but at those time she I have started to meditate. And as odd as it sounds, it really helps my calm down and put things in perspective! Please do so! Pray and meditate! Listen to guided meditation before bed and in the morning so you get rid of bad thoughts! good luck to you 🙂
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I think everyone is prone to cheating. Sorry I can't be of much help to you since I'm not experienced with Aquas, but I will say: try to have more faith in him until you find out otherwise.

Because this whole "what if" thing can drive you absolutely crazy. I'm dealing with the exact same thing right now. Crazy Cancer bish is still obsessed with my boyfriend even though they broke up around 2 years ago. They were in an arranged relationship, betrothed to each other by their families. But they grew apart because they were too young for that kind of thing, and then he began dating a man no less (me). And she's tried her damnedest to cause all kinds of problems. And I hardly knew she existed until several months ago.

He tries to downplay everything, telling me to trust him more and just go easy about it. It's far easier said than done but I'm trying really hard to put it out of my mind. She stalks his siblings on social media, constantly leaving comments everywhere.

Like I said, if you have no misgivings about his loyalty & fidelity, you should try and focus instead on making your relationship with him better. Don't worry about it unless he does something you just can't ignore. Cross that bridge when you get there. And I know how hard that is, I'm a paranoid worrywart myself. But you have to, for your own sanity's sake and your relationship's sake. It's no fun being with a neurotic freak.

Good luck, girl.

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Wow! You hit in on the spot! Not knowing and wondering is the worst because you go crazy and Deep inside you know that you’re wrong by causing a mess on a suspicion! I hope you also calm down and figure it out! Sometimes exes are crazy and it makes us wonder “why are they so crazy! Maybe there’s something still going on for them to be crazy” but at those time she I have started to meditate. And as odd as it sounds, it really helps my calm down and put things in perspective! Please do so! Pray and meditate! Listen to guided meditation before bed and in the morning so you get rid of bad thoughts! good luck to you 🙂
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Has he actually done anything to make you question his loyalty?

Because...........*deep breath*, the bitch actually kissed my man in my presence and I walked out on him for a whole fortnight. I kinda overreacted but on the same day a dear friend of mine died, and I was seeing red everywhere. And he is attracted to women as well, so the memory of the kiss combined with his bisexuality did a real number on my head.

I'm also Aries-dominant lol with a Virgo moon and Fishy sun in III house (Gemini house), which makes me an uber-emotional neurotic freak. And he's Leo-dominant - Leo energy is known to be quite promiscuous. And if I had a dollar for every time he tried to get me to do yoga with him, Donald Trump would be my personal hooker right now lol.

So I ask again, has your Aqua done anything to make you question his loyalty? If not, then you need to meditate harder lol. We both need to, otherwise our crazed blood-stained mugshots will be all over CNN looking something like this.

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Wait......did you say "guided meditation"?? As in spoken word—??

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Monogamy is a choice, first and foremost. An astrological sign doesn't dictate if a person will have the proclivity to do so or not.

However, I will say that in your situation, you have really nothing to worry about. It sounds like his "ex" wasn't really an ex in the first place. She was just another girl, that thought that she could manipulate an FWB situation into something more. She went into it with nefarious motivations that weren't just FWB.

He chose you, and he doesn't even acknowledge her. She isn't worth your time in stalking her, or acknowledging her. You are giving her the power to cause insecurities in you. Don't let her have that power. She is nobody. He chose you. He loves you. Focus on that, and not what some crazy lady is doing.
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Btw aquas totally cheat ...


The least likely tho ...

The one i know i can’t get off my back and he’s married ... still tries to sneak in texts late at night like nooooo stop. Aquas only want you when you don’t want them.
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Only one?

And as an Aqua I don't want you if you don't want me. It's a waste of time.
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Posted by MoonshineLeo

Btw aquas totally cheat ...


The least likely tho ...

The one i know i can’t get off my back and he’s married ... still tries to sneak in texts late at night like nooooo stop. Aquas only want you when you don’t want them.


Only one?

And as an Aqua I don't want you if you don't want me. It's a waste of time.
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Nope i know other aquas who have wives at home and they’re on websites. Lmao they’re a joke
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Jelly much?


Someone calling my name? My eyes are burning.

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and let's see how YOU deal with trust issues that go back a decade.

Lol honestly op shouldn’t be jealous, if the leo wants the aqua trust that she won’t get him lol it’s always a game with Leo’s and aquas. Opposites.
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We don't know the whole story yet, and we don't know if the OP's been cheated on before or dealt with a similar situation.

My ex went back to his ex with barely a second thought for me, so much for his claim that he loved me. That's where my trust issues come from, and this time around I have an obsessed ex hovering around my current man.........familiar with PTSD?

And to make matters worse, I kept finding out that they were even closer than I knew, in like, stages of information being revealed to me over time. Which made it worse, just when I thought I had a handle on my paranoia. First I saw her kiss him. Then I found out that she wasn't just his dance partner, she was his ex girlfriend. And then I found out no she wasn't just his girlfriend, but his fiancee and his family still think the world of her. Now all that's left is me finding out they have a baby together as well, just like my ex did with his ex.

Like I said, getting past all that is easier said than done. And we still don't know the OP's personal history.
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Need better clarity, a simple do they cheat is like yeah they can if they want to is probably what you'll hear as oppose to no they might not. You say you trust his words but then why the question?

If you have her on social media due to being colleagues I suggest removing her. Is he responding to these things that she posts? Is he still within her social media circle, and fuck that noise with social media, do they still hang out and party like they use to?

All these can give you a better gauge as opposed just because she posted a few things on her social media.
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I think everyone is prone to cheating. Sorry I can't be of much help to you since I'm not experienced with Aquas, but I will say: try to have more faith in him until you find out otherwise.

Because this whole "what if" thing can drive you absolutely crazy. I'm dealing with the exact same thing right now. Crazy Cancer bish is still obsessed with my boyfriend even though they broke up around 2 years ago. They were in an arranged relationship, betrothed to each other by their families. But they grew apart because they were too young for that kind of thing, and then he began dating a man no less (me). And she's tried her damnedest to cause all kinds of problems. And I hardly knew she existed until several months ago.

He tries to downplay everything, telling me to trust him more and just go easy about it. It's far easier said than done but I'm trying really hard to put it out of my mind. She stalks his siblings on social media, constantly leaving comments everywhere.

Like I said, if you have no misgivings about his loyalty & fidelity, you should try and focus instead on making your relationship with him better. Don't worry about it unless he does something you just can't ignore. Cross that bridge when you get there. And I know how hard that is, I'm a paranoid worrywart myself. But you have to, for your own sanity's sake and your relationship's sake. It's no fun being with a neurotic freak.

Good luck, girl.

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Wow! You hit in on the spot! Not knowing and wondering is the worst because you go crazy and Deep inside you know that you’re wrong by causing a mess on a suspicion! I hope you also calm down and figure it out! Sometimes exes are crazy and it makes us wonder “why are they so crazy! Maybe there’s something still going on for them to be crazy” but at those time she I have started to meditate. And as odd as it sounds, it really helps my calm down and put things in perspective! Please do so! Pray and meditate! Listen to guided meditation before bed and in the morning so you get rid of bad thoughts! good luck to you 🙂


Has he actually done anything to make you question his loyalty?

Because...........*deep breath*, the bitch actually kissed my man in my presence and I walked out on him for a whole fortnight. I kinda overreacted but on the same day a dear friend of mine died, and I was seeing red everywhere. And he is attracted to women as well, so the memory of the kiss combined with his bisexuality did a real number on my head.

I'm also Aries-dominant lol with a Virgo moon and Fishy sun in III house (Gemini house), which makes me an uber-emotional neurotic freak. And he's Leo-dominant - Leo energy is known to be quite promiscuous. And if I had a dollar for every time he tried to get me to do yoga with him, Donald Trump would be my personal hooker right now lol.

So I ask again, has your Aqua done anything to make you question his loyalty? If not, then you need to meditate harder lol. We both need to, otherwise our crazed blood-stained mugshots will be all over CNN looking something like this.

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Wait......did you say "guided meditation"?? As in spoken word—??

#triggered

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He has never cheated or done anything to make me think he has. She has however tried to be malicious and try to spread rumors about us dating to everyone. I just need to stop letting her get to me. Once she posted pics of them from 3 yrs ago with his face on it with a quote as a profile pic and I told him it made me feel uncomfortable and he reached out to her to remove it. He’s a good guy, I’ve been hurt before so I just need to learn to trust
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Need better clarity, a simple do they cheat is like yeah they can if they want to is probably what you'll hear as oppose to no they might not. You say you trust his words but then why the question?

If you have her on social media due to being colleagues I suggest removing her. Is he responding to these things that she posts? Is he still within her social media circle, and fuck that noise with social media, do they still hang out and party like they use to?

All these can give you a better gauge as opposed just because she posted a few things on her social media.


They do not hang out st all and they stripped talking after she tried spreading rumors about me and he found out. She tried to make him believe I was going behind his back but he knows me well and promised me he won’t talk to her. Before that incident, she would msg him once a month and that was it as friends but after that, he told me he sees how messed up she is and doesn’t want her around even as friends.

I don’t follow her, but I admit to stalking. I just blocked her to stop that! He doesn’t use social media so he doesn’t have any clue on her doings
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Need better clarity, a simple do they cheat is like yeah they can if they want to is probably what you'll hear as oppose to no they might not. You say you trust his words but then why the question?

If you have her on social media due to being colleagues I suggest removing her. Is he responding to these things that she posts? Is he still within her social media circle, and fuck that noise with social media, do they still hang out and party like they use to?

All these can give you a better gauge as opposed just because she posted a few things on her social media.


They do not hang out st all and they stripped talking after she tried spreading rumors about me and he found out. She tried to make him believe I was going behind his back but he knows me well and promised me he won’t talk to her. Before that incident, she would msg him once a month and that was it as friends but after that, he told me he sees how messed up she is and doesn’t want her around even as friends.

I don’t follow her, but I admit to stalking. I just blocked her to stop that! He doesn’t use social media so he doesn’t have any clue on her doings
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Then you got nothing to worry about! You got yourself an aqua that actually communicates and does things to actively make you feel better you're already in a much better position than the other ladies on this forum.
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Need better clarity, a simple do they cheat is like yeah they can if they want to is probably what you'll hear as oppose to no they might not. You say you trust his words but then why the question?

If you have her on social media due to being colleagues I suggest removing her. Is he responding to these things that she posts? Is he still within her social media circle, and fuck that noise with social media, do they still hang out and party like they use to?

All these can give you a better gauge as opposed just because she posted a few things on her social media.


They do not hang out st all and they stripped talking after she tried spreading rumors about me and he found out. She tried to make him believe I was going behind his back but he knows me well and promised me he won’t talk to her. Before that incident, she would msg him once a month and that was it as friends but after that, he told me he sees how messed up she is and doesn’t want her around even as friends.

I don’t follow her, but I admit to stalking. I just blocked her to stop that! He doesn’t use social media so he doesn’t have any clue on her doings


Then you got nothing to worry about! You got yourself an aqua that actually communicates and does things to actively make you feel better you're already in a much better position than the other ladies on this forum.
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Thank you and yes he’s a great catch 🙂 just have to stop my own brain from creating drama! Thank you
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Posted by MoonshineLeo

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Posted by MoonshineLeo

Btw aquas totally cheat ...


The least likely tho ...

The one i know i can’t get off my back and he’s married ... still tries to sneak in texts late at night like nooooo stop. Aquas only want you when you don’t want them.


Only one?

And as an Aqua I don't want you if you don't want me. It's a waste of time.

Nope i know other aquas who have wives at home and they’re on websites. Lmao they’re a joke
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They're cheat cause they're on websites? Lmao
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Monogamy is a choice, first and foremost. An astrological sign doesn't dictate if a person will have the proclivity to do so or not.

However, I will say that in your situation, you have really nothing to worry about. It sounds like his "ex" wasn't really an ex in the first place. She was just another girl, that thought that she could manipulate an FWB situation into something more. She went into it with nefarious motivations that weren't just FWB.

He chose you, and he doesn't even acknowledge her. She isn't worth your time in stalking her, or acknowledging her. You are giving her the power to cause insecurities in you. Don't let her have that power. She is nobody. He chose you. He loves you. Focus on that, and not what some crazy lady is doing.


I see you using second semester words
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Don't you have better things to do? Like get married?

Always trying to incite reactions.
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Monogamy is a choice, first and foremost. An astrological sign doesn't dictate if a person will have the proclivity to do so or not.

However, I will say that in your situation, you have really nothing to worry about. It sounds like his "ex" wasn't really an ex in the first place. She was just another girl, that thought that she could manipulate an FWB situation into something more. She went into it with nefarious motivations that weren't just FWB.

He chose you, and he doesn't even acknowledge her. She isn't worth your time in stalking her, or acknowledging her. You are giving her the power to cause insecurities in you. Don't let her have that power. She is nobody. He chose you. He loves you. Focus on that, and not what some crazy lady is doing.


I see you using second semester words


Don't you have better things to do? Like get married?

Always trying to incite reactions.


That was inciting something? Literally all I did was applause your vocabulary. Wtf
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Oh. My bad.

I'm short lately. It's not you. Temper is bad.
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Posted by Superman77

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Superman77

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Superman77

Posted by nikkistar

Monogamy is a choice, first and foremost. An astrological sign doesn't dictate if a person will have the proclivity to do so or not.

However, I will say that in your situation, you have really nothing to worry about. It sounds like his "ex" wasn't really an ex in the first place. She was just another girl, that thought that she could manipulate an FWB situation into something more. She went into it with nefarious motivations that weren't just FWB.

He chose you, and he doesn't even acknowledge her. She isn't worth your time in stalking her, or acknowledging her. You are giving her the power to cause insecurities in you. Don't let her have that power. She is nobody. He chose you. He loves you. Focus on that, and not what some crazy lady is doing.


I see you using second semester words


Don't you have better things to do? Like get married?

Always trying to incite reactions.


That was inciting something? Literally all I did was applause your vocabulary. Wtf


Oh. My bad.

I'm short lately. It's not you. Temper is bad.


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That’s inciting something
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Dude. Stop lol

That shit went sour REAL quick.
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Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Superman77

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Superman77

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Superman77

Posted by nikkistar

Monogamy is a choice, first and foremost. An astrological sign doesn't dictate if a person will have the proclivity to do so or not.

However, I will say that in your situation, you have really nothing to worry about. It sounds like his "ex" wasn't really an ex in the first place. She was just another girl, that thought that she could manipulate an FWB situation into something more. She went into it with nefarious motivations that weren't just FWB.

He chose you, and he doesn't even acknowledge her. She isn't worth your time in stalking her, or acknowledging her. You are giving her the power to cause insecurities in you. Don't let her have that power. She is nobody. He chose you. He loves you. Focus on that, and not what some crazy lady is doing.


I see you using second semester words


Don't you have better things to do? Like get married?

Always trying to incite reactions.


That was inciting something? Literally all I did was applause your vocabulary. Wtf


Oh. My bad.

I'm short lately. It's not you. Temper is bad.


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That’s inciting something


Dude. Stop lol

That shit went sour REAL quick.


Yea it did. People always take me wrong!
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Eh. Most of the time you're just trolling. Lol
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I think everyone is prone to cheating. Sorry I can't be of much help to you since I'm not experienced with Aquas, but I will say: try to have more faith in him until you find out otherwise.

Because this whole "what if" thing can drive you absolutely crazy. I'm dealing with the exact same thing right now. Crazy Cancer bish is still obsessed with my boyfriend even though they broke up around 2 years ago. They were in an arranged relationship, betrothed to each other by their families. But they grew apart because they were too young for that kind of thing, and then he began dating a man no less (me). And she's tried her damnedest to cause all kinds of problems. And I hardly knew she existed until several months ago.

He tries to downplay everything, telling me to trust him more and just go easy about it. It's far easier said than done but I'm trying really hard to put it out of my mind. She stalks his siblings on social media, constantly leaving comments everywhere.

Like I said, if you have no misgivings about his loyalty & fidelity, you should try and focus instead on making your relationship with him better. Don't worry about it unless he does something you just can't ignore. Cross that bridge when you get there. And I know how hard that is, I'm a paranoid worrywart myself. But you have to, for your own sanity's sake and your relationship's sake. It's no fun being with a neurotic freak.

Good luck, girl.

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Wow! You hit in on the spot! Not knowing and wondering is the worst because you go crazy and Deep inside you know that you’re wrong by causing a mess on a suspicion! I hope you also calm down and figure it out! Sometimes exes are crazy and it makes us wonder “why are they so crazy! Maybe there’s something still going on for them to be crazy” but at those time she I have started to meditate. And as odd as it sounds, it really helps my calm down and put things in perspective! Please do so! Pray and meditate! Listen to guided meditation before bed and in the morning so you get rid of bad thoughts! good luck to you 🙂


Has he actually done anything to make you question his loyalty?

Because...........*deep breath*, the bitch actually kissed my man in my presence and I walked out on him for a whole fortnight. I kinda overreacted but on the same day a dear friend of mine died, and I was seeing red everywhere. And he is attracted to women as well, so the memory of the kiss combined with his bisexuality did a real number on my head.

I'm also Aries-dominant lol with a Virgo moon and Fishy sun in III house (Gemini house), which makes me an uber-emotional neurotic freak. And he's Leo-dominant - Leo energy is known to be quite promiscuous. And if I had a dollar for every time he tried to get me to do yoga with him, Donald Trump would be my personal hooker right now lol.

So I ask again, has your Aqua done anything to make you question his loyalty? If not, then you need to meditate harder lol. We both need to, otherwise our crazed blood-stained mugshots will be all over CNN looking something like this.

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Wait......did you say "guided meditation"?? As in spoken word—??

#triggered

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He has never cheated or done anything to make me think he has. She has however tried to be malicious and try to spread rumors about us dating to everyone. I just need to stop letting her get to me. Once she posted pics of them from 3 yrs ago with his face on it with a quote as a profile pic and I told him it made me feel uncomfortable and he reached out to her to remove it. He’s a good guy, I’ve been hurt before so I just need to learn to trust
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Uh huh. Makes it for us real hard to believe anything anyone says anymore. Because talk is cheap and everyone's got a silvery tongue these days.

My boy also has a mild tendency to withhold information I actually need to know, because he says he doesn't want me to worry about it. She was also going around calling him her boyfriend while all that was going on, and I can assure you: it sucked being me at the time.

But you and me have a choice to make. We can either:

1) keep living in a paranoia-tinted world.

2) leave and restore our peace of mind.

3) trust & believe our guys when they say they are where they want to be.

I chose to believe mine and I strive to lead a healthier life with him. As long as he knows what's gonna happen if he betrays me.....

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What are you gonna do?
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Monogamy is a choice, first and foremost. An astrological sign doesn't dictate if a person will have the proclivity to do so or not.

However, I will say that in your situation, you have really nothing to worry about. It sounds like his "ex" wasn't really an ex in the first place. She was just another girl, that thought that she could manipulate an FWB situation into something more. She went into it with nefarious motivations that weren't just FWB.

He chose you, and he doesn't even acknowledge her. She isn't worth your time in stalking her, or acknowledging her. You are giving her the power to cause insecurities in you. Don't let her have that power. She is nobody. He chose you. He loves you. Focus on that, and not what some crazy lady is doing.


I see you using second semester words


Don't you have better things to do? Like get married?

Always trying to incite reactions.


That was inciting something? Literally all I did was applause your vocabulary. Wtf


Oh. My bad.

I'm short lately. It's not you. Temper is bad.


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That’s inciting something


Dude. Stop lol

That shit went sour REAL quick.


Yea it did. People always take me wrong!
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So how do you explain making out with Crowley only days before the big day?

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Posted by nikkistar

Monogamy is a choice, first and foremost. An astrological sign doesn't dictate if a person will have the proclivity to do so or not.

However, I will say that in your situation, you have really nothing to worry about. It sounds like his "ex" wasn't really an ex in the first place. She was just another girl, that thought that she could manipulate an FWB situation into something more. She went into it with nefarious motivations that weren't just FWB.

He chose you, and he doesn't even acknowledge her. She isn't worth your time in stalking her, or acknowledging her. You are giving her the power to cause insecurities in you. Don't let her have that power. She is nobody. He chose you. He loves you. Focus on that, and not what some crazy lady is doing.


I see you using second semester words


Don't you have better things to do? Like get married?

Always trying to incite reactions.


That was inciting something? Literally all I did was applause your vocabulary. Wtf


Oh. My bad.

I'm short lately. It's not you. Temper is bad.


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That’s inciting something


Dude. Stop lol

That shit went sour REAL quick.


Yea it did. People always take me wrong!


Eh. Most of the time you're just trolling. Lol


My trolling game has drastically improved over the past year.

I’ll be more hated than rom in 3 weeks.
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Lol why you wanna do that for?
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Yes


No


I just baited you with a 3 letter word, you make it too easy for me


Saying Aquas are cheaters is like saying 2+2=3

I had to corrected it no matter what 😣


Every sign cheats.

YOURE NOT DIFFERENT AQUA

no matter how hard you try
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Yes that's true but we're the least likely to cheat.

Probably 1 every 100.
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So my bf has a Leo ex. We all worked together but she left in November. Everyone said it’s because our relationship was too much for her to handle. Me and my guy have been officially together a year. They were together before I started working is what I have heard. He said it was FWB and they partied since he was going through a separation at the time and didn’t want me to be worried since we all work together and made me believe it wasn’t anything when he was with her. He says what he feels for me isn’t what he felt for her. He didn’t tell me about her until I asked him about it either. I know they broke up bc she told my coworkers crying that he left her bc he was in love with me and wanted to pursue me. (I made him wait months). Then she left work months later.. again crying.. I felt bad for her but she is rude to people and malicious so sometimes I don’t feel bad. She is older than him by 7 years and much older than me.

Anyway, she still posts quotes about him. Her recent is “I only have one life and I only wanna live it with you” her profile pic is of her and his face is cropped but I know it’s a pic of him from 3 years ago with her when they partied. I have asked him and he denies anything with her. My gut believes him because we have great chemistry and he gives his free time to either his kids or me. But when I see her posts, I can’t help but be upset and think what if.. what I wanna ask is, are aquas known to cheat?


why he has her around??



thats just having an "entourage" ...

she's just being really creepy with u and making u paranoid..



you know what i'd do—

take a photo of me and my guy, (your guy) and kiss him hard... and put your hand down there 😄

and post it LOL



jahahah xd that's right biaatcchhhh.. he's OWNeD>

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I suspect my aqua ex had a gf for less than two months and the whole time was looking at my sexy/nude pictures daily. Now it’s over and he just began sharing his location with me...

I’ve read many stories that he aqua Still talk to exes or girls they like when they have a gf. Depending on the situation, I think it’s emotionally cheating. But I haven’t read many stories about aquas physically cheating. None that I recall.
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I suspect my aqua ex had a gf for less than two months and the whole time was looking at my sexy/nude pictures daily. Now it’s over and he just began sharing his location with me me...

I’ve read many stories that he aqua Still talk to exes or girls they like when they have a gf. Depending on the situation, I think it’s emotionally cheating. But I haven’t read many stories about aquas physically cheating. None that I recall.


your aqua is now an ex?



i remember u posted alot about him in the past.



if he feels something for those girls.then it's emotionally cheating.



if he's just look at porn...naw i dont think so.

i mean men look at naked ladies all the day long . but they are not emotionally invested.



i dont really like it to be honest. I get jealous ....but it's double standard on my part in alot of ways.

i dont like watching porn or anything or following male celebitrities... but if i talk to another man platonically...

he gets kind of jealous if i laugh at his jokes.

(actually not kind of.. SUPER JEALOUS.. ... he will get very very angry) we will end up fighting too.

but i'm NOT into the man...jeez. no effing way. jesus christ.

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I suspect my aqua ex had a gf for less than two months and the whole time was looking at my sexy/nude pictures daily. Now it’s over and he just began sharing his location with me me...

I’ve read many stories that he aqua Still talk to exes or girls they like when they have a gf. Depending on the situation, I think it’s emotionally cheating. But I haven’t read many stories about aquas physically cheating. None that I recall.


your aqua is now an ex?



i remember u posted alot about him in the past.



if he feels something for those girls.then it's emotionally cheating.



if he's just look at porn...naw i dont think so.

i mean men look at naked ladies all the day long . but they are not emotionally invested.



i dont really like it to be honest. I get jealous ....but it's double standard on my part in alot of ways.

i dont like watching porn or anything or following male celebitrities... but if i talk to another man platonically...

he gets kind of jealous if i laugh at his jokes.

(actually not kind of.. SUPER JEALOUS.. ... he will get very very angry) we will end up fighting too.

but i'm NOT into the man...jeez. no effing way. jesus christ.

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Porn doesn’t bother me, but real girls do. In this situation I was the ex he was secretly following. I believe he was being sneaky about opening my snaps at times she couldn’t see. Like he would never look at them between 6 pm (after work) and 12 am. But always around midnight for one example. Now he’s opening them right away like within an hour but usually 20 minutes. I post all day for my followers so it’s his choice to look. I only dm him a few nude pictures because of the lingerie was super sexy and revealing so I didn’t want it as a story.

Not quite sure yet why he’s sharing his location with me. Maybe so I trust him again?? I’ve been sharing mine with him since May
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I suspect my aqua ex had a gf for less than two months and the whole time was looking at my sexy/nude pictures daily. Now it’s over and he just began sharing his location with me me...

I’ve read many stories that he aqua Still talk to exes or girls they like when they have a gf. Depending on the situation, I think it’s emotionally cheating. But I haven’t read many stories about aquas physically cheating. None that I recall.


your aqua is now an ex?



i remember u posted alot about him in the past.



if he feels something for those girls.then it's emotionally cheating.



if he's just look at porn...naw i dont think so.

i mean men look at naked ladies all the day long . but they are not emotionally invested.



i dont really like it to be honest. I get jealous ....but it's double standard on my part in alot of ways.

i dont like watching porn or anything or following male celebitrities... but if i talk to another man platonically...

he gets kind of jealous if i laugh at his jokes.

(actually not kind of.. SUPER JEALOUS.. ... he will get very very angry) we will end up fighting too.

but i'm NOT into the man...jeez. no effing way. jesus christ.



Porn doesn’t bother me, but real girls do. In this situation I was the ex he was secretly following. I believe he was being sneaky about opening my snaps at times she couldn’t see. Like he would never look at them between 6 pm (after work) and 12 am. But always around midnight for one example. Now he’s opening them right away like within an hour but usually 20 minutes. I post all day for my followers so it’s his choice to look. I only dm him a few nude pictures because of the lingerie was super sexy and revealing so I didn’t want it as a story.

Not quite sure yet why he’s sharing his location with me. Maybe so I trust him again?? I’ve been sharing mine with him since May
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hm if he has a girlfriend,she probably doesn't give him love.

men don't usually go looking for other women unless they are not getting love at home.

he wants you to reach out to him and love him and take a risk on him maybe??

but i dont know why he don't leave his girlfirned (if he has one)

most likely he invested alot of time with her, but now he's unhappy.

i have no idea, really.



and of course many can cheat, but it depends.... they can emotionally cheat or physically cheat.



anyone that says they can't...they aren't human. (robots)

they can be vulnerable too.
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I suspect my aqua ex had a gf for less than two months and the whole time was looking at my sexy/nude pictures daily. Now it’s over and he just began sharing his location with me me...

I’ve read many stories that he aqua Still talk to exes or girls they like when they have a gf. Depending on the situation, I think it’s emotionally cheating. But I haven’t read many stories about aquas physically cheating. None that I recall.


your aqua is now an ex?



i remember u posted alot about him in the past.



if he feels something for those girls.then it's emotionally cheating.



if he's just look at porn...naw i dont think so.

i mean men look at naked ladies all the day long . but they are not emotionally invested.



i dont really like it to be honest. I get jealous ....but it's double standard on my part in alot of ways.

i dont like watching porn or anything or following male celebitrities... but if i talk to another man platonically...

he gets kind of jealous if i laugh at his jokes.

(actually not kind of.. SUPER JEALOUS.. ... he will get very very angry) we will end up fighting too.

but i'm NOT into the man...jeez. no effing way. jesus christ.



Porn doesn’t bother me, but real girls do. In this situation I was the ex he was secretly following. I believe he was being sneaky about opening my snaps at times she couldn’t see. Like he would never look at them between 6 pm (after work) and 12 am. But always around midnight for one example. Now he’s opening them right away like within an hour but usually 20 minutes. I post all day for my followers so it’s his choice to look. I only dm him a few nude pictures because of the lingerie was super sexy and revealing so I didn’t want it as a story.

Not quite sure yet why he’s sharing his location with me. Maybe so I trust him again?? I’ve been sharing mine with him since May


hm if he has a girlfriend,she probably doesn't give him love.

men don't usually go looking for other women unless they are not getting love at home.

he wants you to reach out to him and love him and take a risk on him maybe??

but i dont know why he don't leave his girlfirned (if he has one)

most likely he invested alot of time with her, but now he's unhappy.

i have no idea, really.



and of course many can cheat, but it depends.... they can emotionally cheat or physically cheat.



anyone that says they can't...they aren't human. (robots)

they can be vulnerable too.
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They definitely aren’t together anymore. He shares his location with me so I can see where he is all day. And it was less than 2 month relationship so I don’t believe he was invested at all in her. He got with her when I went no contact with him.... probably an ego thing I’m assuming
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Posted by pinkbird03

I suspect my aqua ex had a gf for less than two months and the whole time was looking at my sexy/nude pictures daily. Now it’s over and he just began sharing his location with me me...

I’ve read many stories that he aqua Still talk to exes or girls they like when they have a gf. Depending on the situation, I think it’s emotionally cheating. But I haven’t read many stories about aquas physically cheating. None that I recall.


your aqua is now an ex?



i remember u posted alot about him in the past.



if he feels something for those girls.then it's emotionally cheating.



if he's just look at porn...naw i dont think so.

i mean men look at naked ladies all the day long . but they are not emotionally invested.



i dont really like it to be honest. I get jealous ....but it's double standard on my part in alot of ways.

i dont like watching porn or anything or following male celebitrities... but if i talk to another man platonically...

he gets kind of jealous if i laugh at his jokes.

(actually not kind of.. SUPER JEALOUS.. ... he will get very very angry) we will end up fighting too.

but i'm NOT into the man...jeez. no effing way. jesus christ.



Porn doesn’t bother me, but real girls do. In this situation I was the ex he was secretly following. I believe he was being sneaky about opening my snaps at times she couldn’t see. Like he would never look at them between 6 pm (after work) and 12 am. But always around midnight for one example. Now he’s opening them right away like within an hour but usually 20 minutes. I post all day for my followers so it’s his choice to look. I only dm him a few nude pictures because of the lingerie was super sexy and revealing so I didn’t want it as a story.

Not quite sure yet why he’s sharing his location with me. Maybe so I trust him again?? I’ve been sharing mine with him since May


hm if he has a girlfriend,she probably doesn't give him love.

men don't usually go looking for other women unless they are not getting love at home.

he wants you to reach out to him and love him and take a risk on him maybe??

but i dont know why he don't leave his girlfirned (if he has one)

most likely he invested alot of time with her, but now he's unhappy.

i have no idea, really.



and of course many can cheat, but it depends.... they can emotionally cheat or physically cheat.



anyone that says they can't...they aren't human. (robots)

they can be vulnerable too.


They definitely aren’t together anymore. He shares his location with me so I can see where he is all day. And it was less than 2 month relationship so I don’t believe he was invested at all in her. He got with her when I went no contact with him.... probably an ego thing I’m assuming
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maybe.

but he is physically with her....

you and him are not together...it's virtual reality for him and a longing maybe.



but he probably realizes that he doesn't feel the same way with her as with you.

or else he'd stop.

and u said he got with her when he didnt see you. Probably got discouraged that you didnt love him /want him/desire him.



and well it's that song...

"if you can't be with the one you want, love the one you're with"









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I suspect my aqua ex had a gf for less than two months and the whole time was looking at my sexy/nude pictures daily. Now it’s over and he just began sharing his location with me me...

I’ve read many stories that he aqua Still talk to exes or girls they like when they have a gf. Depending on the situation, I think it’s emotionally cheating. But I haven’t read many stories about aquas physically cheating. None that I recall.


your aqua is now an ex?



i remember u posted alot about him in the past.



if he feels something for those girls.then it's emotionally cheating.



if he's just look at porn...naw i dont think so.

i mean men look at naked ladies all the day long . but they are not emotionally invested.



i dont really like it to be honest. I get jealous ....but it's double standard on my part in alot of ways.

i dont like watching porn or anything or following male celebitrities... but if i talk to another man platonically...

he gets kind of jealous if i laugh at his jokes.

(actually not kind of.. SUPER JEALOUS.. ... he will get very very angry) we will end up fighting too.

but i'm NOT into the man...jeez. no effing way. jesus christ.



Porn doesn’t bother me, but real girls do. In this situation I was the ex he was secretly following. I believe he was being sneaky about opening my snaps at times she couldn’t see. Like he would never look at them between 6 pm (after work) and 12 am. But always around midnight for one example. Now he’s opening them right away like within an hour but usually 20 minutes. I post all day for my followers so it’s his choice to look. I only dm him a few nude pictures because of the lingerie was super sexy and revealing so I didn’t want it as a story.

Not quite sure yet why he’s sharing his location with me. Maybe so I trust him again?? I’ve been sharing mine with him since May


hm if he has a girlfriend,she probably doesn't give him love.

men don't usually go looking for other women unless they are not getting love at home.

he wants you to reach out to him and love him and take a risk on him maybe??

but i dont know why he don't leave his girlfirned (if he has one)

most likely he invested alot of time with her, but now he's unhappy.

i have no idea, really.



and of course many can cheat, but it depends.... they can emotionally cheat or physically cheat.



anyone that says they can't...they aren't human. (robots)

they can be vulnerable too.


They definitely aren’t together anymore. He shares his location with me so I can see where he is all day. And it was less than 2 month relationship so I don’t believe he was invested at all in her. He got with her when I went no contact with him.... probably an ego thing I’m assuming


maybe.

but he is physically with her....

you and him are not together...it's virtual reality for him and a longing maybe.



but he probably realizes that he doesn't feel the same way with her as with you.

or else he'd stop.

and u said he got with her when he didnt see you. Probably got discouraged that you didnt love him /want him/desire him.



and well it's that song...

"if you can't be with the one you want, love the one you're with"









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I’m telling you they aren’t together. There was never even proof he had a gf. I’m just assuming there was another girl and now there’s definitely not or else he wouldn’t share his location with me
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Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by pinkbird03

I suspect my aqua ex had a gf for less than two months and the whole time was looking at my sexy/nude pictures daily. Now it’s over and he just began sharing his location with me me...

I’ve read many stories that he aqua Still talk to exes or girls they like when they have a gf. Depending on the situation, I think it’s emotionally cheating. But I haven’t read many stories about aquas physically cheating. None that I recall.


your aqua is now an ex?



i remember u posted alot about him in the past.



if he feels something for those girls.then it's emotionally cheating.



if he's just look at porn...naw i dont think so.

i mean men look at naked ladies all the day long . but they are not emotionally invested.



i dont really like it to be honest. I get jealous ....but it's double standard on my part in alot of ways.

i dont like watching porn or anything or following male celebitrities... but if i talk to another man platonically...

he gets kind of jealous if i laugh at his jokes.

(actually not kind of.. SUPER JEALOUS.. ... he will get very very angry) we will end up fighting too.

but i'm NOT into the man...jeez. no effing way. jesus christ.



Porn doesn’t bother me, but real girls do. In this situation I was the ex he was secretly following. I believe he was being sneaky about opening my snaps at times she couldn’t see. Like he would never look at them between 6 pm (after work) and 12 am. But always around midnight for one example. Now he’s opening them right away like within an hour but usually 20 minutes. I post all day for my followers so it’s his choice to look. I only dm him a few nude pictures because of the lingerie was super sexy and revealing so I didn’t want it as a story.

Not quite sure yet why he’s sharing his location with me. Maybe so I trust him again?? I’ve been sharing mine with him since May


hm if he has a girlfriend,she probably doesn't give him love.

men don't usually go looking for other women unless they are not getting love at home.

he wants you to reach out to him and love him and take a risk on him maybe??

but i dont know why he don't leave his girlfirned (if he has one)

most likely he invested alot of time with her, but now he's unhappy.

i have no idea, really.



and of course many can cheat, but it depends.... they can emotionally cheat or physically cheat.



anyone that says they can't...they aren't human. (robots)

they can be vulnerable too.


They definitely aren’t together anymore. He shares his location with me so I can see where he is all day. And it was less than 2 month relationship so I don’t believe he was invested at all in her. He got with her when I went no contact with him.... probably an ego thing I’m assuming


maybe.

but he is physically with her....

you and him are not together...it's virtual reality for him and a longing maybe.



but he probably realizes that he doesn't feel the same way with her as with you.

or else he'd stop.

and u said he got with her when he didnt see you. Probably got discouraged that you didnt love him /want him/desire him.



and well it's that song...

"if you can't be with the one you want, love the one you're with"












I’m telling you they aren’t together. There was never even proof he had a gf. I’m just assuming there was another girl and now there’s definitely not or else he wouldn’t share his location with me
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lol



paranoia ;p

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I think everyone is prone to cheating. Sorry I can't be of much help to you since I'm not experienced with Aquas, but I will say: try to have more faith in him until you find out otherwise.

Because this whole "what if" thing can drive you absolutely crazy. I'm dealing with the exact same thing right now. Crazy Cancer bish is still obsessed with my boyfriend even though they broke up around 2 years ago. They were in an arranged relationship, betrothed to each other by their families. But they grew apart because they were too young for that kind of thing, and then he began dating a man no less (me). And she's tried her damnedest to cause all kinds of problems. And I hardly knew she existed until several months ago.

He tries to downplay everything, telling me to trust him more and just go easy about it. It's far easier said than done but I'm trying really hard to put it out of my mind. She stalks his siblings on social media, constantly leaving comments everywhere.

Like I said, if you have no misgivings about his loyalty & fidelity, you should try and focus instead on making your relationship with him better. Don't worry about it unless he does something you just can't ignore. Cross that bridge when you get there. And I know how hard that is, I'm a paranoid worrywart myself. But you have to, for your own sanity's sake and your relationship's sake. It's no fun being with a neurotic freak.

Good luck, girl.

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Wow! You hit in on the spot! Not knowing and wondering is the worst because you go crazy and Deep inside you know that you’re wrong by causing a mess on a suspicion! I hope you also calm down and figure it out! Sometimes exes are crazy and it makes us wonder “why are they so crazy! Maybe there’s something still going on for them to be crazy” but at those time she I have started to meditate. And as odd as it sounds, it really helps my calm down and put things in perspective! Please do so! Pray and meditate! Listen to guided meditation before bed and in the morning so you get rid of bad thoughts! good luck to you 🙂


Has he actually done anything to make you question his loyalty?

Because...........*deep breath*, the bitch actually kissed my man in my presence and I walked out on him for a whole fortnight. I kinda overreacted but on the same day a dear friend of mine died, and I was seeing red everywhere. And he is attracted to women as well, so the memory of the kiss combined with his bisexuality did a real number on my head.

I'm also Aries-dominant lol with a Virgo moon and Fishy sun in III house (Gemini house), which makes me an uber-emotional neurotic freak. And he's Leo-dominant - Leo energy is known to be quite promiscuous. And if I had a dollar for every time he tried to get me to do yoga with him, Donald Trump would be my personal hooker right now lol.

So I ask again, has your Aqua done anything to make you question his loyalty? If not, then you need to meditate harder lol. We both need to, otherwise our crazed blood-stained mugshots will be all over CNN looking something like this.

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Wait......did you say "guided meditation"?? As in spoken word—??

#triggered

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He has never cheated or done anything to make me think he has. She has however tried to be malicious and try to spread rumors about us dating to everyone. I just need to stop letting her get to me. Once she posted pics of them from 3 yrs ago with his face on it with a quote as a profile pic and I told him it made me feel uncomfortable and he reached out to her to remove it. He’s a good guy, I’ve been hurt before so I just need to learn to trust


Uh huh. Makes it for us real hard to believe anything anyone says anymore. Because talk is cheap and everyone's got a silvery tongue these days.

My boy also has a mild tendency to withhold information I actually need to know, because he says he doesn't want me to worry about it. She was also going around calling him her boyfriend while all that was going on, and I can assure you: it sucked being me at the time.

But you and me have a choice to make. We can either:

1) keep living in a paranoia-tinted world.

2) leave and restore our peace of mind.

3) trust & believe our guys when they say they are where they want to be.

I chose to believe mine and I strive to lead a healthier life with him. As long as he knows what's gonna happen if he betrays me.....

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What are you gonna do?
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Lol that’s the worst when they withhold info bc they don’t want to stir a pot, but it makes you think there’s a reason they are hiding the info!! Lol the psycho thoughts hit me fast and hard lol but I agree about your options. I have decided I will not let’s her mess with my relationship and I will trust him and move forward with him. If along the way he hurts me, his loss 🙂 but he won’t and I trust him. I was at his last night and as I slept on his lap, he just said he’s in love with my honesty and how good of a person I am. Says I make him better and I fully believe he’s very in love with me. He won’t risk her for what we have! You and I need to stay sane and trust!!
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Posted by nikkistar

Monogamy is a choice, first and foremost. An astrological sign doesn't dictate if a person will have the proclivity to do so or not.

However, I will say that in your situation, you have really nothing to worry about. It sounds like his "ex" wasn't really an ex in the first place. She was just another girl, that thought that she could manipulate an FWB situation into something more. She went into it with nefarious motivations that weren't just FWB.

He chose you, and he doesn't even acknowledge her. She isn't worth your time in stalking her, or acknowledging her. You are giving her the power to cause insecurities in you. Don't let her have that power. She is nobody. He chose you. He loves you. Focus on that, and not what some crazy lady is doing.


Thank you! I appreciate your input. I agree! At times it made me feel vulnerable because I would question “can any woman really be this crazy about an ex? Maybe he’s giving her hopes” but then I spend time with him and all the worries go away. When I don’t see him is when I think of these thoughts. But I realize it’s on me and not him. Working on it to not eat it affect me 🙂
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Posted by Earthcapgirl

Posted by nikkistar

Monogamy is a choice, first and foremost. An astrological sign doesn't dictate if a person will have the proclivity to do so or not.

However, I will say that in your situation, you have really nothing to worry about. It sounds like his "ex" wasn't really an ex in the first place. She was just another girl, that thought that she could manipulate an FWB situation into something more. She went into it with nefarious motivations that weren't just FWB.

He chose you, and he doesn't even acknowledge her. She isn't worth your time in stalking her, or acknowledging her. You are giving her the power to cause insecurities in you. Don't let her have that power. She is nobody. He chose you. He loves you. Focus on that, and not what some crazy lady is doing.


Thank you! I appreciate your input. I agree! At times it made me feel vulnerable because I would question “can any woman really be this crazy about an ex? Maybe he’s giving her hopes” but then I spend time with him and all the worries go away. When I don’t see him is when I think of these thoughts. But I realize it’s on me and not him. Working on it to not eat it affect me 🙂
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Good for you. Just remember that, any time your insecurities arise. Don't let her be an uninvited 3rd wheel in your relationship.
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