Found out Aqua Might be Moving Away

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Don't overreact, I think he will be staying there, and he's just looking for confirmation based on your reactions. I tend to do that also. On the other hand, if he does leave, I think he's assuring you that he will comeback, given the fact the he tells you that his sister also lives near you. It's just an excuse.

Well sounds like neither of you care

Why would you avoid deep conversations in the first place, that's how you connect on a deeper level. I can have a good time with literally anyone full of laughter and fun, but I won't bother with them any longer than couple of days, until I get bored. So sounds like you have kept too much, not opening up, not being interested in serious stuff. Well blame yourself. If it's not too late talk to him.

If memory serves you were in the same predicament (more or less) 3 months ago. You still haven't told him how you feel, but have been actively hooking up with him. Also I believe you mentioned that he didn't consider the two of you dating. Has that changed? If you didn't think that you were attached 3 months ago, you definitely are now. So playing it cool doesn't make a lot of sense if you're not being honest.

Yes more than likely the Aqua mentioned the job opportunity to gauge your emotion and response. Aquas like to observe since they can be fairly detached from their own emotions. Likewise Aquas observe those closest to them to gauge whether or not any of those people would make a good match for them. Maybe he wanted to see if you'd cared enough to say something in light of this recent news. Aquas are indeed rebels, so it's possible he might decide to take this job, even if it doesn't pay $ 200k. Is it likely? Then again, that's robably not the case based on what you've said.

I'm trying to figure out why you've held back for so long?

@libragirl1988 tell him, its all about timing, for example if he does open up again on the "leaving" situation, tell him how you feel. After that show him how you feel. and that's consistentcy.

@bumboklatt Shes a lawyer, have her pay a lil bit more! hahahahaha

I have to agree with @Chuckchem. In the first months of dating with my Aqua, it happened on a few occasions to tell me quite decisive that he wanted to move to a different country due to work related issues. Obviously, nothing happened, not even close. The next day the "work related incidents" were forgotten. Since your guy has a house of his own, a steady well paid job and family in the present location, there would be no real reason for him to move away.

As a matter of fact, job opportunities came to me too. Whenever I tell my Aqua I might consider moving away (also to another country), he has quite a similar reaction to yours, well hidden, anyway. He won't tell me not to go, but he would say, with a slightly saddened voice, "You know better".

Telling you about the job opportunity is a way for him to boost his ego a little bit. Mine does it quite often 🙂

Posted by tiziani
It sounds like you're more afraid of losing an opportunity with him rather than actually wanting something with him.

Bingo

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Posted by tiziani
It sounds like you're more afraid of losing an opportunity with him rather than actually wanting something with him.

Bingo

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.. and that's one of the worst things anyone can do to themselves or someone else.

Posted by tiziani
It sounds like you're more afraid of losing an opportunity with him rather than actually wanting something with him.

Kinda Sorta..

Also seems as if she was waiting for the perfect place or time, or was trying to let "what's meant to be.. find its way"



Don't wait too long.. And even if it doesn't work out; You won't have any regrets. Good Luck. ?

Posted by bumboklatt
So you're gonna be a lawyer and you can't solve a simple relationship issue?

This is why we're screwed hahaha

All jokes aside, yes you should speak up

Also, that will be 400 dollars please

IMAO... yes,,, iq smart doesn't always mean EQ smart.... that is a long time to be denying ones feelings.... I do agree, Aqua is observing your reaction... he won't be the one spewing all his feelings for you... you need to step up, be vulnerable and express your feelings in a non demanding way... good

Luck... what are you truly scared of?

Posted by tiziani
It sounds like you're more afraid of losing an opportunity with him rather than actually wanting something with him.

What kind of opportunity are we talking about here!

Posted by compy
I have to agree with @Chuckchem. In the first months of dating with my Aqua, it happened on a few occasions to tell me quite decisive that he wanted to move to a different country due to work related issues. Obviously, nothing happened, not even close. The next day the "work related incidents" were forgotten. Since your guy has a house of his own, a steady well paid job and family in the present location, there would be no real reason for him to move away.

As a matter of fact, job opportunities came to me too. Whenever I tell my Aqua I might consider moving away (also to another country), he has quite a similar reaction to yours, well hidden, anyway. He won't tell me not to go, but he would say, with a slightly saddened voice, "You know better".

Telling you about the job opportunity is a way for him to boost his ego a little bit. Mine does it quite often 🙂

Hehe boosting ego... this is funny.. reminds me of when my Aqua . I used to ask him when he's going away on a holiday coz I wanna c him happy though he didn't like that. He asked why I wanted to go away so badly lol... they r funny beings

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Posted by bumboklatt
So you're gonna be a lawyer and you can't solve a simple relationship issue?

This is why we're screwed hahaha

All jokes aside, yes you should speak up

Also, that will be 400 dollars please

IMAO... yes,,, iq smart doesn't always mean EQ smart.... that is a long time to be denying ones feelings.... I do agree, Aqua is observing your reaction... he won't be the one spewing all his feelings for you... you need to step up, be vulnerable and express your feelings in a non demanding way... good

Luck... what are you truly scared of?

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I dont get it why she is soo afraid, the aqua already knows, and he is just provoking her to be vulnerable and looking for confirmation. Hahahaha.. :p

Posted by Chuckcem
If memory serves you were in the same predicament (more or less) 3 months ago. You still haven't told him how you feel, but have been actively hooking up with him. Also I believe you mentioned that he didn't consider the two of you dating. Has that changed? If you didn't think that you were attached 3 months ago, you definitely are now. So playing it cool doesn't make a lot of sense if you're not being honest.

Yes more than likely the Aqua mentioned the job opportunity to gauge your emotion and response. Aquas like to observe since they can be fairly detached from their own emotions. Likewise Aquas observe those closest to them to gauge whether or not any of those people would make a good match for them. Maybe he wanted to see if you'd cared enough to say something in light of this recent news. Aquas are indeed rebels, so it's possible he might decide to take this job, even if it doesn't pay $ 200k. Is it likely? Then again, that's robably not the case based on what you've said.

I'm trying to figure out why you've held back for so long?

I don't know what we are -- dating or not? I'm not sure. We went on a date a week ago, where we saw a comedy show and did not hook up or anything and then he walked me to my car and it was really nice.

Maybe that is why he told me, I can only hope. It is motivating me to tell him my true feelings, but I don't know how or when or where.

I've held back for so long I suppose because I enjoy what we have now. And I've always read about Aquas they don't like to talk about their feelings and they like things to naturally progress. Then again, that's not smart because he probably has no idea I'm even interested in something more with him.

Another issue is vulnerability - I am afraid. I am afraid of being rejected but then again, it would be better than to never say anything at all. I just don't want this to end, but something has to happen eventually.

I'm also worried he's not interested in relationships in general. He hasn't said anything like that, but his last relationship ended terribly about 5 years ago. She turned out to be very abusive and attacked him. He hasn't seemed to look for a relationship since then.

Thank you for your reply 🙂

Posted by compy
I have to agree with @Chuckchem. In the first months of dating with my Aqua, it happened on a few occasions to tell me quite decisive that he wanted to move to a different country due to work related issues. Obviously, nothing happened, not even close. The next day the "work related incidents" were forgotten. Since your guy has a house of his own, a steady well paid job and family in the present location, there would be no real reason for him to move away.

As a matter of fact, job opportunities came to me too. Whenever I tell my Aqua I might consider moving away (also to another country), he has quite a similar reaction to yours, well hidden, anyway. He won't tell me not to go, but he would say, with a slightly saddened voice, "You know better".

Telling you about the job opportunity is a way for him to boost his ego a little bit. Mine does it quite often 🙂

Aw thanks this makes me feel a lot better actually. Yeah, there is no reason at all for him to move. He is so close to his family and sees them every day. He constantly talks about them and their lives. He has never expressed interest in moving. I've heard him say before "born here and staying here." And he even thought it was crazy my cousins wanted to move to the state he's talking about a few years ago since the cost of living is so high.

Yeah, I would never tell him not to go and I did try to hide my reaction but it hit me like a bag of rocks.

Thanks for the encouragement! 🙂

Posted by tiziani
It sounds like you're more afraid of losing an opportunity with him rather than actually wanting something with him.

I could understand how it could come off that way --- but I guess I am both afraid of losing the opportunity AND wanting a relationship. I definitely want a relationship with him, more than I've ever wanted anything. I know I don't show it but maybe that is because I want it so badly that I don't want to ruin my chances but going all emotional on him.

I don't know how to show it without scaring him or freaking him out. We have had a few emotional conversations in the past. The last was about a year ago. I was basically telling him I wanted to see him more and stuff and he said "are you saying you want more?" and I said "no" very quickly. That was a really dumb decision on my part, but I was just too scared to deal with that conversation right then and there.

I really really really want to be with him more than anyone else but I don't know how to express that without freaking him out since i've never shown it.

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Posted by bumboklatt
So you're gonna be a lawyer and you can't solve a simple relationship issue?

This is why we're screwed hahaha

All jokes aside, yes you should speak up

Also, that will be 400 dollars please

IMAO... yes,,, iq smart doesn't always mean EQ smart.... that is a long time to be denying ones feelings.... I do agree, Aqua is observing your reaction... he won't be the one spewing all his feelings for you... you need to step up, be vulnerable and express your feelings in a non demanding way... good

Luck... what are you truly scared of?

I dont get it why she is soo afraid, the aqua already knows, and he is just provoking her to be vulnerable and looking for confirmation. Hahahaha.. :p

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Haha I don't know if he already knows... maybe he can tell I like him. I have been asking him to hang out these days and I never used to so maybe..

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Posted by bumboklatt
So you're gonna be a lawyer and you can't solve a simple relationship issue?

This is why we're screwed hahaha

All jokes aside, yes you should speak up

Also, that will be 400 dollars please

IMAO... yes,,, iq smart doesn't always mean EQ smart.... that is a long time to be denying ones feelings.... I do agree, Aqua is observing your reaction... he won't be the one spewing all his feelings for you... you need to step up, be vulnerable and express your feelings in a non demanding way... good

Luck... what are you truly scared of?

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How do I express my feelings in a non demanding way?? I'm scared of him getting freaked out or not feeling the same and then we never talk again. I think he has feelings for me, I mean I don't know how he couldn't, we are intimate together it's not just "hooking up" type situation. But even if he does have feelings it doesn't mean he wants a relationship.

What do I do?? text him and say I need to speak with him? I mean that sounds like a bad way to start. I don't know.

Thanks for your reply!

I really want to tell him how I feel. Does anyone have any advice on how to do that? What do I say?

I mean, my bar exam is in 2 weeks and I really have to study. I'm just worried that if he was trying to get a reaction then I should tell him quickly. Plus, within 2 weeks he may have decided to move. It feels urgent.

But I doubt he will ask to see me soon because he knows I'm studying. If I did ask him, he might be busy and I don't want to say things like "I NEED TO SEE YOU ITS URGENT" because then I sound crazy.

And then once I do see him, how do I say it? "Hey I really like you and I want to try a relationship." That seems to casual given how long this thing has been going on - but then again I don't want to be too dramatic either.

Maybe I should tell him how i felt when he said he might be moving and it made me realize I want to be with him? But then that's not true because I already knew I want to be with him and it sounds bad to say I didn't realize it until he said he might move. But then it sounds bad that I never had the courage/motivation to tell him until I hear he might be moving.

Any advice on that? I feel like I need to choose my words carefully.

Posted by libragirl1988
I really want to tell him how I feel. Does anyone have any advice on how to do that? What do I say?

I mean, my bar exam is in 2 weeks and I really have to study. I'm just worried that if he was trying to get a reaction then I should tell him quickly. Plus, within 2 weeks he may have decided to move. It feels urgent.

But I doubt he will ask to see me soon because he knows I'm studying. If I did ask him, he might be busy and I don't want to say things like "I NEED TO SEE YOU ITS URGENT" because then I sound crazy.

And then once I do see him, how do I say it? "Hey I really like you and I want to try a relationship." That seems to casual given how long this thing has been going on - but then again I don't want to be too dramatic either.

Maybe I should tell him how i felt when he said he might be moving and it made me realize I want to be with him? But then that's not true because I already knew I want to be with him and it sounds bad to say I didn't realize it until he said he might move. But then it sounds bad that I never had the courage/motivation to tell him until I hear he might be moving.

Any advice on that? I feel like I need to choose my words carefully.

Hahaha.. no need to choose your words carefully.. just be yourself.. theres a reason why he has his eye on you.. because youre special.. and what ever you say should be the authentic you.. vulnerability is what he wants.. actually.. i did the same thing to a libra girl way back then..

@libragirl1988 If i may add, how not to be demanding while saying you want him? I think you know the answer.. because youre already doing it.. youre loving him without expecting anything in return..

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Posted by libragirl1988
I really want to tell him how I feel. Does anyone have any advice on how to do that? What do I say?

I mean, my bar exam is in 2 weeks and I really have to study. I'm just worried that if he was trying to get a reaction then I should tell him quickly. Plus, within 2 weeks he may have decided to move. It feels urgent.

But I doubt he will ask to see me soon because he knows I'm studying. If I did ask him, he might be busy and I don't want to say things like "I NEED TO SEE YOU ITS URGENT" because then I sound crazy.

And then once I do see him, how do I say it? "Hey I really like you and I want to try a relationship." That seems to casual given how long this thing has been going on - but then again I don't want to be too dramatic either.

Maybe I should tell him how i felt when he said he might be moving and it made me realize I want to be with him? But then that's not true because I already knew I want to be with him and it sounds bad to say I didn't realize it until he said he might move. But then it sounds bad that I never had the courage/motivation to tell him until I hear he might be moving.

Any advice on that? I feel like I need to choose my words carefully.

Hahaha.. no need to choose your words carefully.. just be yourself.. theres a reason why he has his eye on you.. because youre special.. and what ever you say should be the authentic you.. vulnerability is what he wants.. actually.. i did the same thing to a libra girl way back then..

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Thank you. I'm not sure if he has his eye on me persay haha but we'll see.

How did it work out with the libra girl?

Posted by Aqua0209
@libragirl1988 If i may add, how not to be demanding while saying you want him? I think you know the answer.. because youre already doing it.. youre loving him without expecting anything in return..

True.. .thank you! Although, he doesn't know how I feel so if he does he might feel I expect something. But I just want him to know

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Posted by libragirl1988
I really want to tell him how I feel. Does anyone have any advice on how to do that? What do I say?

I mean, my bar exam is in 2 weeks and I really have to study. I'm just worried that if he was trying to get a reaction then I should tell him quickly. Plus, within 2 weeks he may have decided to move. It feels urgent.

But I doubt he will ask to see me soon because he knows I'm studying. If I did ask him, he might be busy and I don't want to say things like "I NEED TO SEE YOU ITS URGENT" because then I sound crazy.

And then once I do see him, how do I say it? "Hey I really like you and I want to try a relationship." That seems to casual given how long this thing has been going on - but then again I don't want to be too dramatic either.

Maybe I should tell him how i felt when he said he might be moving and it made me realize I want to be with him? But then that's not true because I already knew I want to be with him and it sounds bad to say I didn't realize it until he said he might move. But then it sounds bad that I never had the courage/motivation to tell him until I hear he might be moving.

Any advice on that? I feel like I need to choose my words carefully.

Hahaha.. no need to choose your words carefully.. just be yourself.. theres a reason why he has his eye on you.. because youre special.. and what ever you say should be the authentic you.. vulnerability is what he wants.. actually.. i did the same thing to a libra girl way back then..

Thank you. I'm not sure if he has his eye on me persay haha but we'll see.

How did it work out with the libra girl?

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Well, i was waiting for the words, then she backed down, she changed the topic.. but I can see it in her eyes what she wanted to say that night. If only she would have said those words.. hahahhaa.. so ghost her.. cut all connections and move on.. but my story is different from yours, lets see what will happen.. goodluck!! 🙂

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I really want to tell him how I feel. Does anyone have any advice on how to do that? What do I say?

I mean, my bar exam is in 2 weeks and I really have to study. I'm just worried that if he was trying to get a reaction then I should tell him quickly. Plus, within 2 weeks he may have decided to move. It feels urgent.

But I doubt he will ask to see me soon because he knows I'm studying. If I did ask him, he might be busy and I don't want to say things like "I NEED TO SEE YOU ITS URGENT" because then I sound crazy.

And then once I do see him, how do I say it? "Hey I really like you and I want to try a relationship." That seems to casual given how long this thing has been going on - but then again I don't want to be too dramatic either.

Maybe I should tell him how i felt when he said he might be moving and it made me realize I want to be with him? But then that's not true because I already knew I want to be with him and it sounds bad to say I didn't realize it until he said he might move. But then it sounds bad that I never had the courage/motivation to tell him until I hear he might be moving.

Any advice on that? I feel like I need to choose my words carefully.

Hahaha.. no need to choose your words carefully.. just be yourself.. theres a reason why he has his eye on you.. because youre special.. and what ever you say should be the authentic you.. vulnerability is what he wants.. actually.. i did the same thing to a libra girl way back then..

Thank you. I'm not sure if he has his eye on me persay haha but we'll see.

How did it work out with the libra girl?

Well, i was waiting for the words, then she backed down, she changed the topic.. but I can see it in her eyes what she wanted to say that night. If only she would have said those words.. hahahhaa.. so ghost her.. cut all connections and move on.. but my story is different from yours, lets see what will happen.. goodluck!! 🙂

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wow you never spoke to her again even though you could tell she wanted you??

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I really want to tell him how I feel. Does anyone have any advice on how to do that? What do I say?

I mean, my bar exam is in 2 weeks and I really have to study. I'm just worried that if he was trying to get a reaction then I should tell him quickly. Plus, within 2 weeks he may have decided to move. It feels urgent.

But I doubt he will ask to see me soon because he knows I'm studying. If I did ask him, he might be busy and I don't want to say things like "I NEED TO SEE YOU ITS URGENT" because then I sound crazy.

And then once I do see him, how do I say it? "Hey I really like you and I want to try a relationship." That seems to casual given how long this thing has been going on - but then again I don't want to be too dramatic either.

Maybe I should tell him how i felt when he said he might be moving and it made me realize I want to be with him? But then that's not true because I already knew I want to be with him and it sounds bad to say I didn't realize it until he said he might move. But then it sounds bad that I never had the courage/motivation to tell him until I hear he might be moving.

Any advice on that? I feel like I need to choose my words carefully.

Hahaha.. no need to choose your words carefully.. just be yourself.. theres a reason why he has his eye on you.. because youre special.. and what ever you say should be the authentic you.. vulnerability is what he wants.. actually.. i did the same thing to a libra girl way back then..

Thank you. I'm not sure if he has his eye on me persay haha but we'll see.

How did it work out with the libra girl?

Well, i was waiting for the words, then she backed down, she changed the topic.. but I can see it in her eyes what she wanted to say that night. If only she would have said those words.. hahahhaa.. so ghost her.. cut all connections and move on.. but my story is different from yours, lets see what will happen.. goodluck!! 🙂

wow you never spoke to her again even though you could tell she wanted you??

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Yes, because the chasing game lasted for six months.. i was soo freaking tired thinking.. soo better let go.. hahaha.. i dont like to waste time and effort. But given the chance to talk to her today. I would love to be her friend and "just friends" hahahhaa.. 🙂

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I really want to tell him how I feel. Does anyone have any advice on how to do that? What do I say?

I mean, my bar exam is in 2 weeks and I really have to study. I'm just worried that if he was trying to get a reaction then I should tell him quickly. Plus, within 2 weeks he may have decided to move. It feels urgent.

But I doubt he will ask to see me soon because he knows I'm studying. If I did ask him, he might be busy and I don't want to say things like "I NEED TO SEE YOU ITS URGENT" because then I sound crazy.

And then once I do see him, how do I say it? "Hey I really like you and I want to try a relationship." That seems to casual given how long this thing has been going on - but then again I don't want to be too dramatic either.

Maybe I should tell him how i felt when he said he might be moving and it made me realize I want to be with him? But then that's not true because I already knew I want to be with him and it sounds bad to say I didn't realize it until he said he might move. But then it sounds bad that I never had the courage/motivation to tell him until I hear he might be moving.

Any advice on that? I feel like I need to choose my words carefully.

Hahaha.. no need to choose your words carefully.. just be yourself.. theres a reason why he has his eye on you.. because youre special.. and what ever you say should be the authentic you.. vulnerability is what he wants.. actually.. i did the same thing to a libra girl way back then..

Thank you. I'm not sure if he has his eye on me persay haha but we'll see.

How did it work out with the libra girl?

Well, i was waiting for the words, then she backed down, she changed the topic.. but I can see it in her eyes what she wanted to say that night. If only she would have said those words.. hahahhaa.. so ghost her.. cut all connections and move on.. but my story is different from yours, lets see what will happen.. goodluck!! 🙂

wow you never spoke to her again even though you could tell she wanted you??

Yes, because the chasing game lasted for six months.. i was soo freaking tired thinking.. soo better let go.. hahaha.. i dont like to waste time and effort. But given the chance to talk to her today. I would love to be her friend and "just friends" hahahhaa.. 🙂

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Haha that makes more sense then.. Hopefully he doesn't think the same!! Although I've been making an effort to ask him to hang out and I never used to, it was always him, and he didn't give up yet lol. I don't know. THanks for all your perspective!

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Posted by Chuckcem
If memory serves you were in the same predicament (more or less) 3 months ago. You still haven't told him how you feel, but have been actively hooking up with him. Also I believe you mentioned that he didn't consider the two of you dating. Has that changed? If you didn't think that you were attached 3 months ago, you definitely are now. So playing it cool doesn't make a lot of sense if you're not being honest.

Yes more than likely the Aqua mentioned the job opportunity to gauge your emotion and response. Aquas like to observe since they can be fairly detached from their own emotions. Likewise Aquas observe those closest to them to gauge whether or not any of those people would make a good match for them. Maybe he wanted to see if you'd cared enough to say something in light of this recent news. Aquas are indeed rebels, so it's possible he might decide to take this job, even if it doesn't pay $ 200k. Is it likely? Then again, that's robably not the case based on what you've said.

I'm trying to figure out why you've held back for so long?

I don't know what we are -- dating or not? I'm not sure. We went on a date a week ago, where we saw a comedy show and did not hook up or anything and then he walked me to my car and it was really nice.

Maybe that is why he told me, I can only hope. It is motivating me to tell him my true feelings, but I don't know how or when or where.

I've held back for so long I suppose because I enjoy what we have now. And I've always read about Aquas they don't like to talk about their feelings and they like things to naturally progress. Then again, that's not smart because he probably has no idea I'm even interested in something more with him.

Another issue is vulnerability - I am afraid. I am afraid of being rejected but then again, it would be better than to never say anything at all. I just don't want this to end, but something has to happen eventually.

I'm also worried he's not interested in relationships in general. He hasn't said anything like that, but his last relationship ended terribly about 5 years ago. She turned out to be very abusive and attacked him. He hasn't seemed to look for a relationship since then.

Thank you for your reply 🙂

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Getting some clarity and being clear about your intentions will serve you well here (and in general). One thing to know is that if you aren't clear whether you're dating a person or not, you're probably not dating them.

Also what's your end goal? Sounds like you are in a friends with benefits situation, which is fine if you aren't looking for anything serious. If your feelings are involved though, this is not an ideal position to be in because you have to stifle your emotions to keep things status quo.

Also remember that Aquas want to know (own) your mind inside and out. They want to know that you can connect with them on the deep mental level. They want to know you can bond deep down. Yes they can be detached and logical, but that hides a deeper emotion that is belied by their airy nature. He's keeping things light because you're keeping things light. Playing it cool is fine up to a point, but to really catch an Aqua, you'll have to go beyond being aloof.

There's no point in fearing rejection. This guy either likes you or he doesn't. If he likes you, then you've wasted a lot of time being afraid for no reason. If he doesn't like you, then you can stop wasting your time and a find a guy who does. The real key is that you need to let go of your fear. It's clearly holding you back from being honest with yourself.

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Posted by Chuckcem
If memory serves you were in the same predicament (more or less) 3 months ago. You still haven't told him how you feel, but have been actively hooking up with him. Also I believe you mentioned that he didn't consider the two of you dating. Has that changed? If you didn't think that you were attached 3 months ago, you definitely are now. So playing it cool doesn't make a lot of sense if you're not being honest.

Yes more than likely the Aqua mentioned the job opportunity to gauge your emotion and response. Aquas like to observe since they can be fairly detached from their own emotions. Likewise Aquas observe those closest to them to gauge whether or not any of those people would make a good match for them. Maybe he wanted to see if you'd cared enough to say something in light of this recent news. Aquas are indeed rebels, so it's possible he might decide to take this job, even if it doesn't pay $ 200k. Is it likely? Then again, that's robably not the case based on what you've said.

I'm trying to figure out why you've held back for so long?

I don't know what we are -- dating or not? I'm not sure. We went on a date a week ago, where we saw a comedy show and did not hook up or anything and then he walked me to my car and it was really nice.

Maybe that is why he told me, I can only hope. It is motivating me to tell him my true feelings, but I don't know how or when or where.

I've held back for so long I suppose because I enjoy what we have now. And I've always read about Aquas they don't like to talk about their feelings and they like things to naturally progress. Then again, that's not smart because he probably has no idea I'm even interested in something more with him.

Another issue is vulnerability - I am afraid. I am afraid of being rejected but then again, it would be better than to never say anything at all. I just don't want this to end, but something has to happen eventually.

I'm also worried he's not interested in relationships in general. He hasn't said anything like that, but his last relationship ended terribly about 5 years ago. She turned out to be very abusive and attacked him. He hasn't seemed to look for a relationship since then.

Thank you for your reply 🙂

Getting some clarity and being clear about your intentions will serve you well here (and in general). One thing to know is that if you aren't clear whether you're dating a person or not, you're probably not dating them.

Also what's your end goal? Sounds like you are in a friends with benefits situation, which is fine if you aren't looking for anything serious. If your feelings are involved though, this is not an ideal position to be in because you have to stifle your emotions to keep things status quo.

Also remember that Aquas want to know (own) your mind inside and out. They want to know that you can connect with them on the deep mental level. They want to know you can bond deep down. Yes they can be detached and logical, but that hides a deeper emotion that is belied by their airy nature. He's keeping things light because you're keeping things light. Playing it cool is fine up to a point, but to really catch an Aqua, you'll have to go beyond being aloof.

There's no point in fearing rejection. This guy either likes you or he doesn't. If he likes you, then you've wasted a lot of time being afraid for no reason. If he doesn't like you, then you can stop wasting your time and a find a guy who does. The real key is that you need to let go of your fear. It's clearly holding you back from being honest with yourself.

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Yeah you are right. We aren't dating but it's sort of this unspoken thing between us I think. He would never talk about another girl in front of me - at least he never has. He would never bring another girl around me or anything like that. When we are together it really feels like we are in a relationship but maybe it's only me who feels that way.

We talked about our 'status' maybe a year ago, and he asked if I was saying I wanted more, and I said no, I just want to hang out more often. I didn't know if he was saying he wanted more but I wasn't ready to deal with that conversation at that point I guess. It was really dumb of me.

I know he is a very sensitive person because he got upset very easily when we were friends in high school/middle school. I think he's just learned to hide it very well.

But yeah, there's no point in guessing here anymore. I just have to tell him. Hopefully it can wait until after my exam because I can't get too distracted or else I will fail. And I have a feeling it will be an emotional conversation.

Thank you!

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If memory serves you were in the same predicament (more or less) 3 months ago. You still haven't told him how you feel, but have been actively hooking up with him. Also I believe you mentioned that he didn't consider the two of you dating. Has that changed? If you didn't think that you were attached 3 months ago, you definitely are now. So playing it cool doesn't make a lot of sense if you're not being honest.

Yes more than likely the Aqua mentioned the job opportunity to gauge your emotion and response. Aquas like to observe since they can be fairly detached from their own emotions. Likewise Aquas observe those closest to them to gauge whether or not any of those people would make a good match for them. Maybe he wanted to see if you'd cared enough to say something in light of this recent news. Aquas are indeed rebels, so it's possible he might decide to take this job, even if it doesn't pay $ 200k. Is it likely? Then again, that's robably not the case based on what you've said.

I'm trying to figure out why you've held back for so long?

I don't know what we are -- dating or not? I'm not sure. We went on a date a week ago, where we saw a comedy show and did not hook up or anything and then he walked me to my car and it was really nice.

Maybe that is why he told me, I can only hope. It is motivating me to tell him my true feelings, but I don't know how or when or where.

I've held back for so long I suppose because I enjoy what we have now. And I've always read about Aquas they don't like to talk about their feelings and they like things to naturally progress. Then again, that's not smart because he probably has no idea I'm even interested in something more with him.

Another issue is vulnerability - I am afraid. I am afraid of being rejected but then again, it would be better than to never say anything at all. I just don't want this to end, but something has to happen eventually.

I'm also worried he's not interested in relationships in general. He hasn't said anything like that, but his last relationship ended terribly about 5 years ago. She turned out to be very abusive and attacked him. He hasn't seemed to look for a relationship since then.

Thank you for your reply 🙂

Getting some clarity and being clear about your intentions will serve you well here (and in general). One thing to know is that if you aren't clear whether you're dating a person or not, you're probably not dating them.

Also what's your end goal? Sounds like you are in a friends with benefits situation, which is fine if you aren't looking for anything serious. If your feelings are involved though, this is not an ideal position to be in because you have to stifle your emotions to keep things status quo.

Also remember that Aquas want to know (own) your mind inside and out. They want to know that you can connect with them on the deep mental level. They want to know you can bond deep down. Yes they can be detached and logical, but that hides a deeper emotion that is belied by their airy nature. He's keeping things light because you're keeping things light. Playing it cool is fine up to a point, but to really catch an Aqua, you'll have to go beyond being aloof.

There's no point in fearing rejection. This guy either likes you or he doesn't. If he likes you, then you've wasted a lot of time being afraid for no reason. If he doesn't like you, then you can stop wasting your time and a find a guy who does. The real key is that you need to let go of your fear. It's clearly holding you back from being honest with yourself.

Yeah you are right. We aren't dating but it's sort of this unspoken thing between us I think. He would never talk about another girl in front of me - at least he never has. He would never bring another girl around me or anything like that. When we are together it really feels like we are in a relationship but maybe it's only me who feels that way.

We talked about our 'status' maybe a year ago, and he asked if I was saying I wanted more, and I said no, I just want to hang out more often. I didn't know if he was saying he wanted more but I wasn't ready to deal with that conversation at that point I guess. It was really dumb of me.

I know he is a very sensitive person because he got upset very easily when we were friends in high school/middle school. I think he's just learned to hide it very well.

But yeah, there's no point in guessing here anymore. I just have to tell him. Hopefully it can wait until after my exam because I can't get too distracted or else I will fail. And I have a feeling it will be an emotional conversation.

Thank you!

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For sure, the bar is serious business, so you don't want to add on any distractions at this point. Also when you do let the Aqua know how you feel, just be relaxed and logical about it. Go in with zero expectations. It's possible he likes the current situation you currently have (what guy wouldn't?), but if you do want something more, be clear about your intentions. Then give him the space to decide what he wants.

I do think the Aqua was probing your feelings a year ago. Since you didn't push things forward, he didn't either. So you've been floating around each other ever since.

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Posted by libragirl1988

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by libragirl1988

Posted by Chuckcem
If memory serves you were in the same predicament (more or less) 3 months ago. You still haven't told him how you feel, but have been actively hooking up with him. Also I believe you mentioned that he didn't consider the two of you dating. Has that changed? If you didn't think that you were attached 3 months ago, you definitely are now. So playing it cool doesn't make a lot of sense if you're not being honest.

Yes more than likely the Aqua mentioned the job opportunity to gauge your emotion and response. Aquas like to observe since they can be fairly detached from their own emotions. Likewise Aquas observe those closest to them to gauge whether or not any of those people would make a good match for them. Maybe he wanted to see if you'd cared enough to say something in light of this recent news. Aquas are indeed rebels, so it's possible he might decide to take this job, even if it doesn't pay $ 200k. Is it likely? Then again, that's robably not the case based on what you've said.

I'm trying to figure out why you've held back for so long?

I don't know what we are -- dating or not? I'm not sure. We went on a date a week ago, where we saw a comedy show and did not hook up or anything and then he walked me to my car and it was really nice.

Maybe that is why he told me, I can only hope. It is motivating me to tell him my true feelings, but I don't know how or when or where.

I've held back for so long I suppose because I enjoy what we have now. And I've always read about Aquas they don't like to talk about their feelings and they like things to naturally progress. Then again, that's not smart because he probably has no idea I'm even interested in something more with him.

Another issue is vulnerability - I am afraid. I am afraid of being rejected but then again, it would be better than to never say anything at all. I just don't want this to end, but something has to happen eventually.

I'm also worried he's not interested in relationships in general. He hasn't said anything like that, but his last relationship ended terribly about 5 years ago. She turned out to be very abusive and attacked him. He hasn't seemed to look for a relationship since then.

Thank you for your reply 🙂

Getting some clarity and being clear about your intentions will serve you well here (and in general). One thing to know is that if you aren't clear whether you're dating a person or not, you're probably not dating them.

Also what's your end goal? Sounds like you are in a friends with benefits situation, which is fine if you aren't looking for anything serious. If your feelings are involved though, this is not an ideal position to be in because you have to stifle your emotions to keep things status quo.

Also remember that Aquas want to know (own) your mind inside and out. They want to know that you can connect with them on the deep mental level. They want to know you can bond deep down. Yes they can be detached and logical, but that hides a deeper emotion that is belied by their airy nature. He's keeping things light because you're keeping things light. Playing it cool is fine up to a point, but to really catch an Aqua, you'll have to go beyond being aloof.

There's no point in fearing rejection. This guy either likes you or he doesn't. If he likes you, then you've wasted a lot of time being afraid for no reason. If he doesn't like you, then you can stop wasting your time and a find a guy who does. The real key is that you need to let go of your fear. It's clearly holding you back from being honest with yourself.

Yeah you are right. We aren't dating but it's sort of this unspoken thing between us I think. He would never talk about another girl in front of me - at least he never has. He would never bring another girl around me or anything like that. When we are together it really feels like we are in a relationship but maybe it's only me who feels that way.

We talked about our 'status' maybe a year ago, and he asked if I was saying I wanted more, and I said no, I just want to hang out more often. I didn't know if he was saying he wanted more but I wasn't ready to deal with that conversation at that point I guess. It was really dumb of me.

I know he is a very sensitive person because he got upset very easily when we were friends in high school/middle school. I think he's just learned to hide it very well.

But yeah, there's no point in guessing here anymore. I just have to tell him. Hopefully it can wait until after my exam because I can't get too distracted or else I will fail. And I have a feeling it will be an emotional conversation.

Thank you!

For sure, the bar is serious business, so you don't want to add on any distractions at this point. Also when you do let the Aqua know how you feel, just be relaxed and logical about it. Go in with zero expectations. It's possible he likes the current situation you currently have (what guy wouldn't?), but if you do want something more, be clear about your intentions. Then give him the space to decide what he wants.

I do think the Aqua was probing your feelings a year ago. Since you didn't push things forward, he didn't either. So you've been floating around each other ever since.

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Thank you, this is really helpful. And yes, I also like the current situation but I can't hide my feelings any longer if he is pondering moving. We definitely have been floating!

Thanks again for your help 🙂

What's his full placement and yours?