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My almost sexless relationship. How can I get the spark back? (Page 3)
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I wonder if this is a truly reciprocal relationship.
As a Venus in Capricorn, this would weigh heavily on me.
He’s the typical goat Venus. Leading with money, gifts, and support meanwhile not getting the return he really wants.
If he is the nerdy geek in IT, this may be his first time at the rodeo and he may have to learn not to lead with his wallet.
As a Venus in Capricorn, this would weigh heavily on me.
He’s the typical goat Venus. Leading with money, gifts, and support meanwhile not getting the return he really wants.
If he is the nerdy geek in IT, this may be his first time at the rodeo and he may have to learn not to lead with his wallet.
Posted by IMNOTEVENREAL
man i miss starwars, i miss uvd even that cringe ass black mamba,
Black mamba was abusive at best.
Posted by DMVPosted by virgenethliac
I also don't understand how you have so much virgo and no desire to be of service. Like I only have the sun and them enjoying what I'm doing will turn me on. I know this because one time I dated this guy who wanted to do everything I did with my ex, not because he enjoyed it, but because he thought I would or something weird but that really turned me off. I cringed about it for months. I'm still cringing actually.
Virgos are only of service to the right Master and he ain’t it.click to expand
i won't even disagree
Posted by SnowsofKilimanjaroPosted by IMNOTEVENREALPosted by SnowsofKilimanjaro
Tfw black mamba/CC stopped posting on here when she deleted shortly after I had her literally defending Hitler quotes
True story
lmao for real ?
Yes like actually lol. There was a NFL receiver named Deion Branch who posted a quote on Instagram or something a couple years back. I brought up the incident and she basically said, "Yes Hitler bad.. but the Jews...!" and it was all hilarious to me. Baiting people into anti-Semitism and/or baiting people into defending Jews/Israel is one of my favorite hobbiesclick to expand
Maybe try touching grass once in awhile, switch it up.
Posted by DMVPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Bumboklaat
Not to downplay what OP felt but I remember the time my woman tried to stick her pinky in my bum.
I was kind of bummed. Ignore the pun.
I told her sternly that I didn't like that and she just kept smiling, if it were someone I wasn't comfortable with I wouldve probably felt bad but I just laughed it off.
So point is, you probably have deep resentment over the fact you're with this guy who you're not fully comfortable with
Haha finger bum led to enlightenment
I don't think she has resentment. He is the one ghosting her and she is chasing after him trying to comfort his ego and asking internet strangers what she can do to get the spark back aka make sure he doesn't break up with her.
My condolences for your bum. I also don't like digits up there.
Must be a trip to Paris that she don’t wanna lose.
It surely ain’t the penis.click to expand
Her love language is gifts, his is physical affection
I do feel for him because I am the same. If my partner didn’t fuck me for weeks I would legit be in my head like, is he cheating? He no longer loves me? Wtf.
Would do a number on my self esteem. Then I’d start to withdraw, turn cold. I need physical touch to connect.
Posted by BumboklaatPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Bumboklaat
Not to downplay what OP felt but I remember the time my woman tried to stick her pinky in my bum.
I was kind of bummed. Ignore the pun.
I told her sternly that I didn't like that and she just kept smiling, if it were someone I wasn't comfortable with I wouldve probably felt bad but I just laughed it off.
So point is, you probably have deep resentment over the fact you're with this guy who you're not fully comfortable with
Haha finger bum led to enlightenment
I don't think she has resentment. He is the one ghosting her and she is chasing after him trying to comfort his ego and asking internet strangers what she can do to get the spark back aka make sure he doesn't break up with her.
My condolences for your bum. I also don't like digits up there.
Yeah true but I'm looking at how it started. OP later released info like saying she didn't find him attractive at first, and that he may still resent it. She also said he's the first different guy cause she had bad experiences with "more attractive" guys. Plus she uses gentle words to describe him and kinda sexless. Could be cause of what happened to her tho.
I mean it technically was the lack of sex that came before the confrontation. And lack of sex is a valid indicator. Dude just got too desperate. It just sounds like he was a rebound and he realized itclick to expand
Perhaps. I notice more so women then men settle for someone they aren’t sexually attracted to. But that’s in part because society conditions men to seek beauty and women to seek stability.
She’s also balancing school and work and very tired. I’d be big mad getting woke up at 3am. Let me catch my rem cycle sleep not your dick. Priorities.
Thing is, life only gets busier. If you can’t get on the same page now during the first year of dating how are you gonna connect when your balancing kids, caring for your elderly parents, etc.
I’m a big believer in it should always be easier at the beginning because life is gonna throw enough strife in your way as it is.
It’s him running from the problems and ghosting her that I think is the main problem here. Everything else could be overcome with some effort and compromise. But you can’t resolve shit if your partner checks out.
Posted by IMNOTEVENREALPosted by DMVPosted by IMNOTEVENREAL
man i miss starwars, i miss uvd even that cringe ass black mamba,
Black mamba was abusive at best.
that one masterclass
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🤣 😂 🤣 memories 🎶
Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by IMNOTEVENREALPosted by DMVPosted by IMNOTEVENREAL
man i miss starwars, i miss uvd even that cringe ass black mamba,
Black mamba was abusive at best.
that one masterclass
🤣 😂 🤣 memories 🎶click to expand
You know it sucks after all this years I never made it Daily facts.
Not lol
Posted by BumboklaatPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by BumboklaatPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Bumboklaat
Not to downplay what OP felt but I remember the time my woman tried to stick her pinky in my bum.
I was kind of bummed. Ignore the pun.
I told her sternly that I didn't like that and she just kept smiling, if it were someone I wasn't comfortable with I wouldve probably felt bad but I just laughed it off.
So point is, you probably have deep resentment over the fact you're with this guy who you're not fully comfortable with
Haha finger bum led to enlightenment
I don't think she has resentment. He is the one ghosting her and she is chasing after him trying to comfort his ego and asking internet strangers what she can do to get the spark back aka make sure he doesn't break up with her.
My condolences for your bum. I also don't like digits up there.
Yeah true but I'm looking at how it started. OP later released info like saying she didn't find him attractive at first, and that he may still resent it. She also said he's the first different guy cause she had bad experiences with "more attractive" guys. Plus she uses gentle words to describe him and kinda sexless. Could be cause of what happened to her tho.
I mean it technically was the lack of sex that came before the confrontation. And lack of sex is a valid indicator. Dude just got too desperate. It just sounds like he was a rebound and he realized it
Perhaps. I notice more so women then men settle for someone they aren’t sexually attracted to. But that’s in part because society conditions men to seek beauty and women to seek stability.
She’s also balancing school and work and very tired. I’d be big mad getting woke up at 3am. Let me catch my rem cycle sleep not your dick. Priorities.
Thing is, life only gets busier. If you can’t get on the same page now during the first year of dating how are you gonna connect when your balancing kids, caring for your elderly parents, etc.
I’m a big believer in it should always be easier at the beginning because life is gonna throw enough strife in your way as it is.
It’s him running from the problems and ghosting her that I think is the main problem here. Everything else could be overcome with some effort and compromise. But you can’t resolve shit if your partner checks out.
Yeah. I think she's upset that the nice or different guy turned out unlike she expected. It reminds me of past failed relationships/dates. I think they're totally incompatible. I don't think she will live down that event (Earth sign) and he already knows, actually they both know, it's just so soon so they're in denial. But then again there are people who force relationships like the old days. If I had sex problems, I better have a soul bond or else it's no good.
Also from my experience if I wanted sex I would try my very best. Even if it's not traditional. I recently had this same issue with my girl. Then I realized why am I arguing when I could be shagging? Problem solvedclick to expand
It’s a very good lesson to learn. Looks have nothing to do with character in most people. And lots of good looking people had that awkward ugly teen phase where they were bullied, so they end up being much kinder and down to earth then appearance would suggest.
Posted by DigitalGhost
I bet that's how Jesus was born... Joseph did a little parting of his own red sea in the middle of the night while Mary slept.. the whole Bible could just be tryna cover up Joseph having blue balls, and Mary taking a nap..
It is an age old trope. Og sleeping beauty before Disney bastardized it was her waking up not from the prince kissing her but upon giving birth to twins.
The prince is actually a king who is married and stumbles onto sleeping beauty, rapes and impregnates her.
His wife, the queen, sends for the twins pretending to be the king writing sleeping beauty and then orders her cook to kill and serve the kiddos to her husband. As one does, naturally.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by DigitalGhost
I bet that's how Jesus was born... Joseph did a little parting of his own red sea in the middle of the night while Mary slept.. the whole Bible could just be tryna cover up Joseph having blue balls, and Mary taking a nap..
It is an age old trope. Og sleeping beauty before Disney bastardized it was her waking up not from the prince kissing her but upon giving birth to twins.
The prince is actually a king who is married and stumbles onto sleeping beauty, rapes and impregnates her.
His wife, the queen, sends for the twins pretending to be the king writing sleeping beauty and then orders her cook to kill and serve the kiddos to her husband. As one does, naturally.click to expand
I kind of love how morbid this has gotten….. 😈
Ok im just being asinine.
But really OP you should talk to your bf honestly. Search your your heart and decide if you’re dating him for who his is or who you want him to be.
Posted by DigitalGhostPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by DigitalGhost
I bet that's how Jesus was born... Joseph did a little parting of his own red sea in the middle of the night while Mary slept.. the whole Bible could just be tryna cover up Joseph having blue balls, and Mary taking a nap..
It is an age old trope. Og sleeping beauty before Disney bastardized it was her waking up not from the prince kissing her but upon giving birth to twins.
The prince is actually a king who is married and stumbles onto sleeping beauty, rapes and impregnates her.
His wife, the queen, sends for the twins pretending to be the king writing sleeping beauty and then orders her cook to kill and serve the kiddos to her husband. As one does, naturally.
You saying OP has a fairytale relationship? I'm starting g to understand why sleeping bags were invented.click to expand
Fairytales used to be cautionary tales. Teaching moments about how dark and disgusting the world is. I hope for op it doesn’t have a fairytale ending. It’s always a bleak finish.
Am I the only person that believes things dont need to go into the vagina without lubrication or smooth applicator?
Posted by SnowsofKilimanjaroPosted by virgenethliac
There's something attractive about a man trying to baby trap you though. Like my, my, my, I see you want to spend the rest of your life with me in it. More promising than a marriage proposal imo.
What if they just want to bust inside and pray there's no pregnancy thoclick to expand
yeah there's nothing sexy about that pos running off to San Antonio while you drag his seed around to dance, tumbling, karate an tball all week.
Posted by DMVPosted by DonnaLibra
I don't mind waking up with a dick inside me but fingers, absolutely not.
I’ve heard this beforeclick to expand
That's because most men have no idea how to finger a woman properly anyway and it takes a certain type of finger or it hurts like hell. A penis knows it's place.
You said he's loving, attentive and patient? Not patient enough to wait until you're awake to have sex with you or attentive enough to know that's not what you like after a year. 🤣
I think you're seriously incompatible. If you don't find him attractive then I don't think you should push being together.
I think you're seriously incompatible. If you don't find him attractive then I don't think you should push being together.
Posted by -CapriquariusPosted by Timone
You said he's loving, attentive and patient? Not patient enough to wait until you're awake to have sex with you or attentive enough to know that's not what you like after a year. 🤣
I think you're seriously incompatible. If you don't find him attractive then I don't think you should push being together.
He's waiting until she fall asleep to start action, because apparently he has no balls to sort things out when she's awake. He also knows she works hard and she's tierd. How carring is that? 🤔click to expand
I find it a bit concerning that he's refusing her in the morning. Does he only want to get sexual when she's asleep? 🤔
Hmmm. Being woken up with oral or a ride… I don’t find a problem with that. Definitely different strokes for different folks.
Is that a woman thing maybe? Do women like being licked out their sleep?
Is that a woman thing maybe? Do women like being licked out their sleep?
I mean How old is he? He might find it easier to initiate when you might not chew him out. Do you even want sex. Sounds like an incompatibility issue. I’ve known submissive virgos not sexually uninterested ones. Seems like he’s trying to buy your affection so gifts and attention are your love language. Seems like it’s kind of one sided
Posted by virgenethliacPosted by DonnaLibra
I don't mind waking up with a dick inside me but fingers, absolutely not.
Were his fingernails not clipped because that might change my whole stance lol.click to expand
That would be the worse but I'm not into the fingering thing. The only guy who did it right was my 5th grade boyfriend.
Posted by nanobotz
I’m taking the side of thinking it’s kind of hot personally, but if it’s not lubricated, we are going to have a fucking problem 💀💀
Exactly, this could have been a completely different conversation if he had just used his tongue.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by nanobotz
I’m taking the side of thinking it’s kind of hot personally, but if it’s not lubricated, we are going to have a fucking problem 💀💀
Houston, we have a problem. A sexy problem.click to expand
Or unsexy...
Posted by nanobotzPosted by AstrobynPosted by SnowsofKilimanjaroPosted by virgenethliac
There's something attractive about a man trying to baby trap you though. Like my, my, my, I see you want to spend the rest of your life with me in it. More promising than a marriage proposal imo.
What if they just want to bust inside and pray there's no pregnancy tho
yeah there's nothing sexy about that pos running off to San Antonio while you drag his seed around to dance, tumbling, karate an tball all week.
As I’m observing this thread, my biggest concern was the idea of just dry fingers fucking you in your sleep when you’re probably not prepared because you’re not fucking conscious lol *shudders* I hope he used lube at least 😒😒click to expand
Bets on he didn’t
Posted by MareInfamePosted by xxAjuxxPosted by MareInfamePosted by xxAjuxx
I'm not sure if I would call him
(or a woman in his shoes) a rapist* in this situation.
That's a bit much. Because if she enjoyed it, then would that still be rape after realizing what he's done?
If he kept going when she didn't want it,
That's rape..
This is a sexual* relationship that is going through
a dryspell at the moment and both parties should
see eye to eye and meet halfway. That's it.
@virgal_perfectionist // that being said //
You are meeting him halfway,doing everything you can and he should be grateful you're even still trying in the morning even after what all you have to do. And I commend you for even posting this here on this site. I know it's not easy.
Ajuuuuuuu💕💕💕💕🤗
It's a war zone in here . Lol
ARNOLDS VOICE: "Get down!!!!"
Seriously 🙄😵💫….🤣😂
Btw Aju… I didn’t get this notification from you, either 😤🤬
What is going on @Dxpnet !!! FIX IT!!!click to expand
Idk 😞
You may have to check and see if your tag settings are on as I'm just starting to tag others with my responses just incase the bug is only with quoting.
I hope this gets fixed soon. 🙏
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptune
"Fast forward to this past weekend, I stayed the night at his place on Friday. I fell asleep early after watching a movie and woke up about 3AM to him fingering me abruptly which scared the living c**p out me. I never felt so violated and of course it started an small argument to the point he slept on the couch. I got up and left that morning and he's barely reached out to me since. I don't want to think the worse but I do think he's planning to break up with me because of this"
This is not a good relationship if you feel he will break up with you because you reacted poorly to him sexually assaulting you. You can't give consent if you are sleeping.
That in and of itself is icky. But what is the biggest red flag is the how he reacted to your reaction. Seems like the kinda dude who feels he owns your body. But no amount of gifts give you the right to finger someone when they are unconscious.
You were freaked out because you felt violated. He gets mad cause he feels rejected. This is not a healthy relationship.
That's bullshit. It isn't rape or sexual assault. By your logic I have been raped numerous times bc my girlfriend initiated sex while I was sleeping. 🙄
That's what couples do. May I suggest don't fucking sleep next to someone if you are that touchy about them initiating sex with you. If he hadn't stopped then yes, that would have been rape. But that's not the case here, is it, Lisa Simpson?click to expand
Not surprised you have this take.
You also victim blame and shame women for their own rapes because of how they dress.
Now its, you shouldn't go to sleep next to your own bf because if you do your consenting to them using your body while asleep. Very on brand for you.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by nanobotz
I’m taking the side of thinking it’s kind of hot personally, but if it’s not lubricated, we are going to have a fucking problem 💀💀
Houston, we have a problem. A sexy problem.
Or unsexy...
Simpsons reference.click to expand
D’oh
🤪
For her own sake, I hope OP turned off her notifications. lol
Posted by -CapriquariusPosted by TimonePosted by -CapriquariusPosted by Timone
You said he's loving, attentive and patient? Not patient enough to wait until you're awake to have sex with you or attentive enough to know that's not what you like after a year. 🤣
I think you're seriously incompatible. If you don't find him attractive then I don't think you should push being together.
He's waiting until she fall asleep to start action, because apparently he has no balls to sort things out when she's awake. He also knows she works hard and she's tierd. How carring is that? 🤔
I find it a bit concerning that he's refusing her in the morning. Does he only want to get sexual when she's asleep? 🤔
That was one time. And first time she reacted like this from what is she saing. If mostly get what he wants, and reacts like spoiled brat this one time he doesn't get what he want think about what he's capable off.
I know stories like this, dude were pushing limits, it was sex once a day, then twice a day, then 3 times and finaly he started waking up her in the middle of the night. When she really fused he called her whore and acused her of cheating, then as a punishment he didn't take care of a kid. Just saing 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
I don't think they should be together. You're suppose to feel safe with your partner. IMO If there's no trust then there's no relationship.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptune
"Fast forward to this past weekend, I stayed the night at his place on Friday. I fell asleep early after watching a movie and woke up about 3AM to him fingering me abruptly which scared the living c**p out me. I never felt so violated and of course it started an small argument to the point he slept on the couch. I got up and left that morning and he's barely reached out to me since. I don't want to think the worse but I do think he's planning to break up with me because of this"
This is not a good relationship if you feel he will break up with you because you reacted poorly to him sexually assaulting you. You can't give consent if you are sleeping.
That in and of itself is icky. But what is the biggest red flag is the how he reacted to your reaction. Seems like the kinda dude who feels he owns your body. But no amount of gifts give you the right to finger someone when they are unconscious.
You were freaked out because you felt violated. He gets mad cause he feels rejected. This is not a healthy relationship.
That's bullshit. It isn't rape or sexual assault. By your logic I have been raped numerous times bc my girlfriend initiated sex while I was sleeping. 🙄
That's what couples do. May I suggest don't fucking sleep next to someone if you are that touchy about them initiating sex with you. If he hadn't stopped then yes, that would have been rape. But that's not the case here, is it, Lisa Simpson?
Not surprised you have this take.
You also victim blame and shame women for their own rapes because of how they dress.
Now its, you shouldn't go to sleep next to your own bf because if you do your consenting to them using your body while asleep. Very on brand for you.
Ok then, by your definition I have been raped /sexually assaulted numerous times bc I woke up with my dick in my gfs mouth?
You must be fun at parties 🙄
And show me where I'm blaming/shaming women for getting raped bc of how they dress. Go ahead. You can't bc it didn't happen outside of your delusional head. You should probably stop interpreting things and listen to what's actually said. You're so fucking tone deaf it's sad
I woke up with my dick in my mouth. Never done Pilates since.click to expand
😂
Try yoga next time lol
Posted by virgenethliacPosted by nanobotz
I’m taking the side of thinking it’s kind of hot personally, but if it’s not lubricated, we are going to have a fucking problem 💀💀
What if he lubricated them like this while you were asleep?
https://gifimage.net/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/lana-del-rey-blue-jeans-gif-6.gif<div class="bqfade">click to expand
It's hot when you're awake but I don't think any man would risk losing his fingers doing this while she's asleep. 🤞🤣
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptune
"Fast forward to this past weekend, I stayed the night at his place on Friday. I fell asleep early after watching a movie and woke up about 3AM to him fingering me abruptly which scared the living c**p out me. I never felt so violated and of course it started an small argument to the point he slept on the couch. I got up and left that morning and he's barely reached out to me since. I don't want to think the worse but I do think he's planning to break up with me because of this"
This is not a good relationship if you feel he will break up with you because you reacted poorly to him sexually assaulting you. You can't give consent if you are sleeping.
That in and of itself is icky. But what is the biggest red flag is the how he reacted to your reaction. Seems like the kinda dude who feels he owns your body. But no amount of gifts give you the right to finger someone when they are unconscious.
You were freaked out because you felt violated. He gets mad cause he feels rejected. This is not a healthy relationship.
That's bullshit. It isn't rape or sexual assault. By your logic I have been raped numerous times bc my girlfriend initiated sex while I was sleeping. 🙄
That's what couples do. May I suggest don't fucking sleep next to someone if you are that touchy about them initiating sex with you. If he hadn't stopped then yes, that would have been rape. But that's not the case here, is it, Lisa Simpson?
Not surprised you have this take.
You also victim blame and shame women for their own rapes because of how they dress.
Now its, you shouldn't go to sleep next to your own bf because if you do your consenting to them using your body while asleep. Very on brand for you.
Ok then, by your definition I have been raped /sexually assaulted numerous times bc I woke up with my dick in my gfs mouth?
You must be fun at parties 🙄
And show me where I'm blaming/shaming women for getting raped bc of how they dress. Go ahead. You can't bc it didn't happen outside of your delusional head. You should probably stop interpreting things and listen to what's actually said. You're so fucking tone deaf it's sad
I woke up with my dick in my mouth. Never done Pilates since.
😂
Try yoga next time lol
You don't want to know what happened when I did downward dog.click to expand
I do 😃
Posted by virgenethliacPosted by TimonePosted by virgenethliacPosted by nanobotz
I’m taking the side of thinking it’s kind of hot personally, but if it’s not lubricated, we are going to have a fucking problem 💀💀
What if he lubricated them like this while you were asleep?
It's hot when you're awake but I don't think any man would risk losing his fingers doing this while she's asleep. 🤞🤣
haha I said it thinking people would see it as a joke, but I guess not...... if both are into it, then nothings wrong. For me personally, don't wake me up for any reason. If there's a fire, let me get that good sleep.click to expand
Yeh I understood that you were joking. I kinda was too...about her biting his fingers off. 😜
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptune
"Fast forward to this past weekend, I stayed the night at his place on Friday. I fell asleep early after watching a movie and woke up about 3AM to him fingering me abruptly which scared the living c**p out me. I never felt so violated and of course it started an small argument to the point he slept on the couch. I got up and left that morning and he's barely reached out to me since. I don't want to think the worse but I do think he's planning to break up with me because of this"
This is not a good relationship if you feel he will break up with you because you reacted poorly to him sexually assaulting you. You can't give consent if you are sleeping.
That in and of itself is icky. But what is the biggest red flag is the how he reacted to your reaction. Seems like the kinda dude who feels he owns your body. But no amount of gifts give you the right to finger someone when they are unconscious.
You were freaked out because you felt violated. He gets mad cause he feels rejected. This is not a healthy relationship.
That's bullshit. It isn't rape or sexual assault. By your logic I have been raped numerous times bc my girlfriend initiated sex while I was sleeping. 🙄
That's what couples do. May I suggest don't fucking sleep next to someone if you are that touchy about them initiating sex with you. If he hadn't stopped then yes, that would have been rape. But that's not the case here, is it, Lisa Simpson?
Not surprised you have this take.
You also victim blame and shame women for their own rapes because of how they dress.
Now its, you shouldn't go to sleep next to your own bf because if you do your consenting to them using your body while asleep. Very on brand for you.
Ok then, by your definition I have been raped /sexually assaulted numerous times bc I woke up with my dick in my gfs mouth?
You must be fun at parties 🙄
And show me where I'm blaming/shaming women for getting raped bc of how they dress. Go ahead. You can't bc it didn't happen outside of your delusional head. You should probably stop interpreting things and listen to what's actually said. You're so fucking tone deaf it's sadclick to expand
No need. You come with the self report each time you open your mouth here.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptune
"Fast forward to this past weekend, I stayed the night at his place on Friday. I fell asleep early after watching a movie and woke up about 3AM to him fingering me abruptly which scared the living c**p out me. I never felt so violated and of course it started an small argument to the point he slept on the couch. I got up and left that morning and he's barely reached out to me since. I don't want to think the worse but I do think he's planning to break up with me because of this"
This is not a good relationship if you feel he will break up with you because you reacted poorly to him sexually assaulting you. You can't give consent if you are sleeping.
That in and of itself is icky. But what is the biggest red flag is the how he reacted to your reaction. Seems like the kinda dude who feels he owns your body. But no amount of gifts give you the right to finger someone when they are unconscious.
You were freaked out because you felt violated. He gets mad cause he feels rejected. This is not a healthy relationship.
That's bullshit. It isn't rape or sexual assault. By your logic I have been raped numerous times bc my girlfriend initiated sex while I was sleeping. 🙄
That's what couples do. May I suggest don't fucking sleep next to someone if you are that touchy about them initiating sex with you. If he hadn't stopped then yes, that would have been rape. But that's not the case here, is it, Lisa Simpson?
Not surprised you have this take.
You also victim blame and shame women for their own rapes because of how they dress.
Now its, you shouldn't go to sleep next to your own bf because if you do your consenting to them using your body while asleep. Very on brand for you.
Ok then, by your definition I have been raped /sexually assaulted numerous times bc I woke up with my dick in my gfs mouth?
You must be fun at parties 🙄
And show me where I'm blaming/shaming women for getting raped bc of how they dress. Go ahead. You can't bc it didn't happen outside of your delusional head. You should probably stop interpreting things and listen to what's actually said. You're so fucking tone deaf it's sad
No need. You come with the self report each time you open your mouth here.click to expand
Exactly, you cannot quote me bc I didn't say it. It's all in your head.
Are you gonna break it to me or not, was I sexually assaulted/raped in pretty much every relationship I was in? I mean I didn't sign any papers stating my gfs cannot initiate sex while I'm sleeping so it means I was sexually assaulted according to you?
It's a simple question of yes or no. But I understand you prefer to be vague cuz making arguments based on reality is not your strong suit.
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptune
"Fast forward to this past weekend, I stayed the night at his place on Friday. I fell asleep early after watching a movie and woke up about 3AM to him fingering me abruptly which scared the living c**p out me. I never felt so violated and of course it started an small argument to the point he slept on the couch. I got up and left that morning and he's barely reached out to me since. I don't want to think the worse but I do think he's planning to break up with me because of this"
This is not a good relationship if you feel he will break up with you because you reacted poorly to him sexually assaulting you. You can't give consent if you are sleeping.
That in and of itself is icky. But what is the biggest red flag is the how he reacted to your reaction. Seems like the kinda dude who feels he owns your body. But no amount of gifts give you the right to finger someone when they are unconscious.
You were freaked out because you felt violated. He gets mad cause he feels rejected. This is not a healthy relationship.
That's bullshit. It isn't rape or sexual assault. By your logic I have been raped numerous times bc my girlfriend initiated sex while I was sleeping. 🙄
That's what couples do. May I suggest don't fucking sleep next to someone if you are that touchy about them initiating sex with you. If he hadn't stopped then yes, that would have been rape. But that's not the case here, is it, Lisa Simpson?
Not surprised you have this take.
You also victim blame and shame women for their own rapes because of how they dress.
Now its, you shouldn't go to sleep next to your own bf because if you do your consenting to them using your body while asleep. Very on brand for you.
Ok then, by your definition I have been raped /sexually assaulted numerous times bc I woke up with my dick in my gfs mouth?
You must be fun at parties 🙄
And show me where I'm blaming/shaming women for getting raped bc of how they dress. Go ahead. You can't bc it didn't happen outside of your delusional head. You should probably stop interpreting things and listen to what's actually said. You're so fucking tone deaf it's sad
No need. You come with the self report each time you open your mouth here.
Exactly, you cannot quote me bc I didn't say it. It's all in your head.
Are you gonna break it to me or not, was I sexually assaulted/raped in pretty much every relationship I was in? I mean I didn't sign any papers stating my gfs cannot initiate sex while I'm sleeping so it means I was sexually assaulted according to you?
It's a simple question of yes or no. But I understand you prefer to be vague cuz making arguments based on reality is not your strong suit.click to expand
'That's bullshit' ... yea, the one you're spewing here.
She is full of shit half the time, but so are you. When did she say this was rape? That wasn't her definition nor her logic. Oh, you must have 'made it all up in your delusional head' then.
Not all sexual assault classifies as rape. How did that escaped you? Except it didn't. You maliciously conflated their meanings to make a strawman argument hoping to attack a sensible inference/observation by making it seem outrageous and absurd.
-10 points for intellectual dishonesty.
Posted by Dastard2020
'That's bullshit' ... yea, the one you're spewing here.
She is full of shit half the time, but so are you. When did she say this was rape? That wasn't her definition nor her logic. Oh, you must have 'made it all up in your delusional head' then.
Not all sexual assault classifies as rape. How did that escaped you? Except it didn't. You maliciously conflated their meanings to make a strawman argument hoping to attack a sensible inference/observation by making it seem outrageous and absurd.
-10 points for intellectual dishonesty.
Wtf are you talking about? She literally said it was rape 👇
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Hypnotoad
That's rape yo
yes it isclick to expand
Posted by BumboklaatPosted by Dastard2020Posted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by LadyNeptune
"Fast forward to this past weekend, I stayed the night at his place on Friday. I fell asleep early after watching a movie and woke up about 3AM to him fingering me abruptly which scared the living c**p out me. I never felt so violated and of course it started an small argument to the point he slept on the couch. I got up and left that morning and he's barely reached out to me since. I don't want to think the worse but I do think he's planning to break up with me because of this"
This is not a good relationship if you feel he will break up with you because you reacted poorly to him sexually assaulting you. You can't give consent if you are sleeping.
That in and of itself is icky. But what is the biggest red flag is the how he reacted to your reaction. Seems like the kinda dude who feels he owns your body. But no amount of gifts give you the right to finger someone when they are unconscious.
You were freaked out because you felt violated. He gets mad cause he feels rejected. This is not a healthy relationship.
That's bullshit. It isn't rape or sexual assault. By your logic I have been raped numerous times bc my girlfriend initiated sex while I was sleeping. 🙄
That's what couples do. May I suggest don't fucking sleep next to someone if you are that touchy about them initiating sex with you. If he hadn't stopped then yes, that would have been rape. But that's not the case here, is it, Lisa Simpson?
Not surprised you have this take.
You also victim blame and shame women for their own rapes because of how they dress.
Now its, you shouldn't go to sleep next to your own bf because if you do your consenting to them using your body while asleep. Very on brand for you.
Ok then, by your definition I have been raped /sexually assaulted numerous times bc I woke up with my dick in my gfs mouth?
You must be fun at parties 🙄
And show me where I'm blaming/shaming women for getting raped bc of how they dress. Go ahead. You can't bc it didn't happen outside of your delusional head. You should probably stop interpreting things and listen to what's actually said. You're so fucking tone deaf it's sad
No need. You come with the self report each time you open your mouth here.
Exactly, you cannot quote me bc I didn't say it. It's all in your head.
Are you gonna break it to me or not, was I sexually assaulted/raped in pretty much every relationship I was in? I mean I didn't sign any papers stating my gfs cannot initiate sex while I'm sleeping so it means I was sexually assaulted according to you?
It's a simple question of yes or no. But I understand you prefer to be vague cuz making arguments based on reality is not your strong suit.
'That's bullshit' ... yea, the one you're spewing here.
She is full of shit half the time, but so are you. When did she say this was rape? That wasn't her definition nor her logic. Oh, you must have 'made it all up in your delusional head' then.
Not all sexual assault classifies as rape. How did that escaped you? Except it didn't. You maliciously conflated their meanings to make a strawman argument hoping to attack a sensible inference/observation by making it seem outrageous and absurd.
-10 points for intellectual dishonesty.
I sense a sexual tension between them. Like the kind you see in Turkish soap operasclick to expand
You're right. Lmao
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by Dastard2020
'That's bullshit' ... yea, the one you're spewing here.
She is full of shit half the time, but so are you. When did she say this was rape? That wasn't her definition nor her logic. Oh, you must have 'made it all up in your delusional head' then.
Not all sexual assault classifies as rape. How did that escaped you? Except it didn't. You maliciously conflated their meanings to make a strawman argument hoping to attack a sensible inference/observation by making it seem outrageous and absurd.
-10 points for intellectual dishonesty.
Wtf are you talking about? She literally said it was rape 👇Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Hypnotoad
That's rape yo
yes it isclick to expand
@Dastard2020
I don’t get people sometimes. They are in an intimate relationship, sharing their bodies and bodily fluid but they can’t even communicate or pussy foot around setting boundaries to the point that it gets to sexual assault. What’s the point of a relationship or opening yourself up intimately when you can set boundaries or talk consent?
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Hypnotoad
That's rape yo
yes it isclick to expand
Actually agreeing with the literal meaning of a hyperbolic comment to push your deranged, feminazi/libral agenda has got to be cherry on top of the cake. You have no integrity and no shame.
Do you even know what rape is? Actual victims of rape would be disgusted by you agreeing, implying or claiming that what took place here was an actual rape.
Again, sexual assault is an umbrella term and does not always equates rape. It is YOU who needed the tongue-lashing and schooling. Because as always, you talk out of your ass like a donkey.
Posted by DMV
Poor guy is getting called all kinds of names.
Ugh. Sexual incompatibility with the wrong person could get you into a world of trouble.
Taurus and Aqua in his chart makes for a freaky man. Hedonistic Alien.
He probably has so many fantasies and his stupid Venus in Capricorn hasn’t given him the permission to move on from you. He feels duty over his own needs.
With the right ho, she woulda had a secret camera rolling to record the whole jab and honest reactions.
I dated a sun in Taurus and if an unsolicited finger up your pusssssy scares you, whew Chile.
I’m guessing you’ve never woken him up with a blowjob.
Real talk @LadyNeptune 👉(())
The legal and criminally recognized definition of rape is as follows:
"The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim".
What happened to you was intimate partner sexual violence also known as acquaintance rape. You are absolutely valid in feeling violated.
Op don't listen to these idiots. Ignore the willfully ignorant rape apologists in this thread.
"The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim".
What happened to you was intimate partner sexual violence also known as acquaintance rape. You are absolutely valid in feeling violated.
Op don't listen to these idiots. Ignore the willfully ignorant rape apologists in this thread.
Posted by Hypnotoad
Porn addiction I'm guessing
This place never change lol 😆
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