Ilovemyaqua
@Ilovemyaqua
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need help asap pls. I'm about to text my date!
Lol I unfriended my aqua ex after a silly row and he point blank refused to add me back. However I was allowed to stay on his MySpace _??_— lol
They get butt hurt and have tantrums like that, it's a pride thing. I'd say get used to it if you're planning on staying with him.
They get butt hurt and have tantrums like that, it's a pride thing. I'd say get used to it if you're planning on staying with him.
Posted by Ilovemyaqua
Firstly,girl,you need to understand that Facebook is just a social media,it isn't your life.Being friends on Facebook or not doesn't mean anything! *snip*
This is complet bullox and you know it. We can see as of late that people really take the internet more seriously than people suggest. And why shouldn't they? What exactly about the internet changes things? Why is this less real than "real life"? You're interacting with other human beings, but apparently people don't really believe that or something because they act like they're interacting with computers. Perhaps it's because we are in fact, monkeys... interacting with computers. To the monkey brain, am I interacting with YOU? Or the computer in front of me? The keyboard I'm typing with? Etc.
But point is. If you say something to someone on the internet, why would they take it less seriously? If you insult me on here I'm not going to excuse it as just being the internet. If we meet in person I'm going to keep it in mind and remember what you said. Similarly... what is the difference between "unfriending" someone on facebook... and unfriending in real life? When you unfriend someone in real life, that is to say you cut off any relationship you have. Be it friendship or dating, it means something. It affects the people involved.
You might be thinking "but a friends list on the internet has nothing to do with your actual relationship" or in other words... the relationship "status" on a website, is not indicative of your actual status with that person IRL. But this is complete nonsense. If you're refusing to add someone to this list, when doing so means trivial effort on your part... to be adverse to such a thing... shows clear signs of damaged relations IMO. The fact that he WON'T just add her back, to this "trivial" list. Clearly shows he's been impacted by everything and by her removing him. Even if the list itself is trivial... that just makes it even more apparent that something is standing in the way of him adding her to even a trivial list ._.
I'm just sayin, old people like to think this shit is different and separate from reality. But it's merely an EXTENSION to reality that we humans created. Soon we will be surfing the web in virtual reality just like in Futurama... what then? Will unfriending someone TO THEIR FACE now be meaningless because it takes place in digital space?
Posted by LordTerraminePosted by Ilovemyaqua
Firstly,girl,you need to understand that Facebook is just a social media,it isn't your life.Being friends on Facebook or not doesn't mean anything! *snip*click to expand
This is complet bullox and you know it. We can see as of late that people really take the internet more seriously than people suggest. And why shouldn't they? What exactly about the internet changes things? Why is this less real than "real life"? You're interacting with other human beings, but apparently people don't really believe that or something because they act like they're interacting with computers. Perhaps it's because we are in fact, monkeys... interacting with computers. To the monkey brain, am I interacting with YOU? Or the computer in front of me? The keyboard I'm typing with? Etc.
But point is. If you say something to someone on the internet, why would they take it less seriously? If you insult me on here I'm not going to excuse it as just being the internet. If we meet in person I'm going to keep it in mind and remember what you said. Similarly... what is the difference between "unfriending" someone on facebook... and unfriending in real life? When you unfriend someone in real life, that is to say you cut off any relationship you have. Be it friendship or dating, it means something. It affects the people involved.
You might be thinking "but a friends list on the internet has nothing to do with your actual relationship" or in other words... the relationship "status" on a website, is not indicative of your actual status with that person IRL. But this is complete nonsense. If you're refusing to add someone to this list, when doing so means trivial effort on your part... to be adverse to such a thing... shows clear signs of damaged relations IMO. The fact that he WON'T just add her back, to this "trivial" list. Clearly shows he's been impacted by everything and by her removing him. Even if the list itself is trivial... that just makes it even more apparent that something is standing in the way of him adding her to even a trivial list ._.
I'm just sayin, old people like to think this shit is different and separate from reality. But it's merely an EXTENSION to reality that we humans created. Soon we will be surfing the web in virtual reality just like in Futurama... what then?
Had the friend list for him been 'trivial',he would've added her back,that's exactly what I mentioned,it's not trivial for him,on one hand,when he's being offended by her unfriending him over a fight,he's doing the exact same thing with her by not adding her back,seems like you got me wrong here Lordterramine,had it been trivial for any of the two,both of them would've been Facebook friends.As far as Facebook is concerned,I've clearly mentioned that it's just a part of life,now,do we talk to everyone on our friendlist on a regular basis? I'm sure this guy talks to this girl more than many of his Facebook friends, so apparently,Facebook is not defining their actual interpersonal contacts,in this age of our,when we're not like the Futurama stuff,when we still are in the 21st century and many people still don't regularly visit the social networking sites or are not even using them,yes,there are many.I agree its an extension of the real life,but as I said,it is not the end all and be all of life.
Secondly,I really couldn't understand why OP said that they were not friends because they were not on each other's friendlist,overlooking the fact that both of them were talking otherwise.If unfriending on facebook meant no talks otherwise and vice versa,I would havr been stressing about the unfriending thing too,but what is more important is communication which is happening regardless of the fact of them being facebook friends or not.Also,Ofcourse exchange of thoughts over the internet means a lot,I wouldn't have been on this site otherwise,I understand it is a strong means of communication between people worldwide,but what you fail to interpret from what I have written is,I and not just me,everyone appreciates and should appreciate this medium of interaction between people all over the world,ie,the social media,but other stuff that comes with it,friendlist,likes-(oh you said you like Simpsons but haven't liked them on Facebook) and all,aren't always updated with what you actually are and what you feel,they maybe,but chances are,they aren't at times,like in this case,and that's when insecurities creep in.At that time,one should be more logical and rely on the understanding between two people rather than what they see on profiles.Also,I never mentioned about not paying attention to praises or insults hurled at you on such platforms,that form a part of the interactive stuff,not the trivial stuff which I mentioned.On social networking sites,Many things do define you
Secondly,I really couldn't understand why OP said that they were not friends because they were not on each other's friendlist,overlooking the fact that both of them were talking otherwise.If unfriending on facebook meant no talks otherwise and vice versa,I would havr been stressing about the unfriending thing too,but what is more important is communication which is happening regardless of the fact of them being facebook friends or not.Also,Ofcourse exchange of thoughts over the internet means a lot,I wouldn't have been on this site otherwise,I understand it is a strong means of communication between people worldwide,but what you fail to interpret from what I have written is,I and not just me,everyone appreciates and should appreciate this medium of interaction between people all over the world,ie,the social media,but other stuff that comes with it,friendlist,likes-(oh you said you like Simpsons but haven't liked them on Facebook) and all,aren't always updated with what you actually are and what you feel,they maybe,but chances are,they aren't at times,like in this case,and that's when insecurities creep in.At that time,one should be more logical and rely on the understanding between two people rather than what they see on profiles.Also,I never mentioned about not paying attention to praises or insults hurled at you on such platforms,that form a part of the interactive stuff,not the trivial stuff which I mentioned.On social networking sites,Many things do define you
Contd... On social networking sites,Many things do define you and many don't, that's what I wanted to say 🙂
I hear what you're saying LT, I think young people take social media more seriously than older folks. Things like social media status and friends lists etc, seem more important than real life interaction.
But in all honesty I reckon the more she keeps on the more stubborn he'll be about it. He's wounded as he was probably doing the aqua disappearing act, and feels like she wanted to erase him from her life. He's teaching her a lesson.
But in all honesty I reckon the more she keeps on the more stubborn he'll be about it. He's wounded as he was probably doing the aqua disappearing act, and feels like she wanted to erase him from her life. He's teaching her a lesson.
Posted by Ilovemyaqua
Contd... On social networking sites,Many things do define you and many don't, that's what I wanted to say 🙂
Welp, then we agree I guess. So @OP, he's clearly hurt. So... what would you do if someone was actually hurt? In this case he's avoiding it. So I'd say, give it time.
Posted by MadMarchRam
I hear what you're saying LT, I think young people take social media more seriously than older folks. Things like social media status and friends lists etc, seem more important than real life interaction.
But in all honesty I reckon the more she keeps on the more stubborn he'll be about it. He's wounded as he was probably doing the aqua disappearing act, and feels like she wanted to erase him from her life. He's teaching her a lesson.
Yeah I agree, so she should back up. Give him breathing room, and give him time to actually feel like she's not just gonna leave again.
Posted by papparazi
I once deleted my cancerian ex from fb , she was so upset she started crying. wtf! From then on I would let her block me in fb, skype or anything that was blockable. The ball was always on her court.So everytime we had argument she would block me from all social media.I didn't mind the blocking as she would have to unblock and friend me again (which she would initiate after one week) But I didn't like people talking about how many times she and i kept on adding and deleting. It wasstarting to become a joke lol. And also she was too stalkarish like I once liked a picture of mutual friend ( she was wearing a nice mini ) and she got upset over that and we had a argument on that. Another time she would bring up some girl in an argument (who frequently liked my pics or status) . From then on I blocked her fb not because I had anything to hide but because she was too insecure and was good move as it stopped some unnecessary fights lol.
This behaviour is highly amusing to me lol one of my friends does that all the time if ppl annoy her she's 35 hahaha.
I done it once years ago in the heat of the moment.
But since then if I go to the trouble of blocking someone it's because they have seriously pissed me off and I have no intention of ever having anything to do with them again.
If I get blocked or unfriended I rarely even notice, when it's happened it's someone I have little to do with anyway so it has no effect on me whatsoever.
But it seems to be the thing to do if someone upsets you these days. I find it all rather petty but slightly amusing at how hurt ppl get over it lol
Thank you very much, guys!
I know I shouldn't make it a big deal
So should I text him explain everything OR just leave it at that?
I know I shouldn't make it a big deal
So should I text him explain everything OR just leave it at that?
I planned to text like:
I didn't mean to make it a big deal, butt I just wanted to make everything back to normal like before. I'm sorry if this made you uncomfortable. Again, I didn't mean to unfriended you t all, Of course, I really regret it. I won't blame anyone buy myself. I'll wait until you're ready like you said. I will never ask about facebook again bc I don't want to bother you. I respect your decision, and I don't want to push you to do anything that you don't want to.
Is it good?
I didn't mean to make it a big deal, butt I just wanted to make everything back to normal like before. I'm sorry if this made you uncomfortable. Again, I didn't mean to unfriended you t all, Of course, I really regret it. I won't blame anyone buy myself. I'll wait until you're ready like you said. I will never ask about facebook again bc I don't want to bother you. I respect your decision, and I don't want to push you to do anything that you don't want to.
Is it good?
Posted by 1thgirls
I planned to text like:
I didn't mean to make it a big deal, butt I just wanted to make everything back to normal like before. I'm sorry if this made you uncomfortable. Again, I didn't mean to unfriended you t all, Of course, I really regret it. I won't blame anyone buy myself. I'll wait until you're ready like you said. I will never ask about facebook again bc I don't want to bother you. I respect your decision, and I don't want to push you to do anything that you don't want to.
Is it good?
I seriously recommended that you don't text him anything to do with it at all. Leave the whole fb drama alone now. You are back together, surely that's more important to you then being friends on fb, no?
Don't mention it again, he might just accept your friend request in his own time, just leave him to decide to do so.
It seems like you're pressuring him and in my experience Aqua's don't respond well to being pressured. They're stubborn and will do the opposite.
Just enjoy being back together.
Posted by 1thgirls
I planned to text like:
I didn't mean to make it a big deal, butt I just wanted to make everything back to normal like before. I'm sorry if this made you uncomfortable. Again, I didn't mean to unfriended you t all, Of course, I really regret it. I won't blame anyone buy myself. I'll wait until you're ready like you said. I will never ask about facebook again bc I don't want to bother you. I respect your decision, and I don't want to push you to do anything that you don't want to.
Is it good?
Nah, if you're gonna text anything just be like "You know what it's not even a big deal, I'm sorry for pestering". If anything, you want to DROP this basically. You've pushed about it, like whatsherface said Aquariuses don't like when you pressure them. Although I think they only do the opposite when they feel like you're against them. As in, you're at fault for the pressure. If it's circumstantial they'll just want space to process.
Anyways, I wouldn't just leave it at that like whatsherface is saying. Specifically, say 1 thing, say what I said. Then leave complete silence for a bit. Leave it like that... I'm not sure if he'll message you first afterwards, but give it a week and if he doesn't message you... then you can message him again and just be like "hey what's up" or whatever.
Posted by feby
No. Don't text him at all about Facebook.
I wouldn't mention it again but when you see him in person you can do whatever you want him to do together.
She already did. She needs to do something to essentially reverse the damage she's caused. If she leaves it as is, it'll probably be fine, but she could do even better by rendering any potential damage inert.
Thanks guys for ALL suggestions!
I ended up texting him.... 😢
He responded: "hahaha cute"
I'm trying to act cool about it now. And he keeps making conversation with me lately.
I ended up texting him.... 😢
He responded: "hahaha cute"
I'm trying to act cool about it now. And he keeps making conversation with me lately.
Posted by 1thgirls
Thanks guys for ALL suggestions!
I ended up texting him.... 😢
He responded: "hahaha cute"
I'm trying to act cool about it now. And he keeps making conversation with me lately.
Then go with the flow of conversation whatever it may be about and now leave the fb thing alone.
You've apologised, he's given you his short response, I suggest you move on from it now. Unless of course he brings it up.
't mention about it again...
I don't know that his respond is a good respond or not though 😢 I totally can't tell
Posted by MadMarchRamPosted by 1thgirls
Thanks guys for ALL suggestions!
I ended up texting him.... 😢
He responded: "hahaha cute"
I'm trying to act cool about it now. And he keeps making conversation with me lately.
Then go with the flow of conversation whatever it may be about and now leave the fb thing alone.
You've apologised, he's given you his short response, I suggest you move on from it now. Unless of course he brings it up.click to expand
I wouldn't worry too much about it now as he's still talking to you, which is a good sign. 🙂
Good golly, Miss Molly!!!! Stop apologizing to him! It sounds so desparate. You unfriended him. Own it and stop begging him to refriend you. Stand strong and independent. If you can't, he will just string you along.
Posted by truecap
Good golly, Miss Molly!!!! Stop apologizing to him! It sounds so desparate. You unfriended him. Own it and stop begging him to refriend you. Stand strong and independent. If you can't, he will just string you along.
this.
omg. this girl is really something.
i'm not a man but my god, if i were a man i'd already have called the police for a restraining order or harassment. you'd have a criminal record for your harassment.
if a man is NOT into you, why are you women so fucking desperate??
some of these folks are so into aquarian energy, and they are NOT into you.
this is why some of you all don't have enough water to "get it".
watery peeps usually know not to pressure.
some of these folks are so into aquarian energy, and they are NOT into you.
this is why some of you all don't have enough water to "get it".
watery peeps usually know not to pressure.
Updated:
He finally added me on Facebook and apologized that he wasn't done it earlier. He told me that it looked like I didn't care for him like I used to.
So he was waiting on me to see if I will remind him to friend me on Facebook.... but I didn't until 3 days ago.
So...
Thanks guys! I think I worried about this situation too much.
Everything is good now 🙂
He finally added me on Facebook and apologized that he wasn't done it earlier. He told me that it looked like I didn't care for him like I used to.
So he was waiting on me to see if I will remind him to friend me on Facebook.... but I didn't until 3 days ago.
So...
Thanks guys! I think I worried about this situation too much.
Everything is good now 🙂
your obsession with aqua is ridiculous. and you have no boundaries whatsoever.
Posted by 1thgirls
Updated:
He finally added me on Facebook and apologized that he wasn't done it earlier. He told me that it looked like I didn't care for him like I used to.
So he was waiting on me to see if I will remind him to friend me on Facebook.... but I didn't until 3 days ago.
So...
Thanks guys! I think I worried about this situation too much.
Everything is good now 🙂
Nice to hear it all worked out in the end! 🙂
I don't know what's wrong with you.
At least everything is alright to me and him now.
I'm happy
At least everything is alright to me and him now.
I'm happy
Posted by lisabethur8
your obsession with aqua is ridiculous. and you have no boundaries whatsoever.
🙂
Posted by MadMarchRamPosted by 1thgirls
Updated:
He finally added me on Facebook and apologized that he wasn't done it earlier. He told me that it looked like I didn't care for him like I used to.
So he was waiting on me to see if I will remind him to friend me on Facebook.... but I didn't until 3 days ago.
So...
Thanks guys! I think I worried about this situation too much.
Everything is good now 🙂
Nice to hear it all worked out in the end! 🙂click to expand
Posted by 1thgirls
Updated:
He finally added me on Facebook and apologized that he wasn't done it earlier. He told me that it looked like I didn't care for him like I used to.
So he was waiting on me to see if I will remind him to friend me on Facebook.... but I didn't until 3 days ago.
So...
Thanks guys! I think I worried about this situation too much.
Everything is good now 🙂
Good to know 🙂 All the best 🙂
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As far as your question goes,well,perhaps he was bewildered when you 'unfriended him on Facebook' over a fight,which again is immaturity on both your part and his which is why he's upset over that and not accepting it again,but again,considering you're still in school and this stuff matters alot to you,I'll say,its okay that you've told him that you regret unfriending him but now,accepting it or not is his choice,so just let him be.He may or may not accept it.Your telling him to won't affect his decision.But hon,realise what's more important is that you both are back together 🙂 all such things are just trivial stuff.You may send him that message but be sure never again to bug him with it.Just focus on your relationship.Maybe if maturity sinks in him,he'll accept your request.But OP,you need to realise that life has so much more to it than Facebook.Rise above all this. 🙂 Good Luck,God bless 🙂