WHY IS IT SOOOO DIFFICULT TO MOVE ON

He sounds like trash. He's married and lied so he's out. Take your glasses off

Don't waste anymore time. Better now than years later. Months is enough time you won't be able to get back.

Thanksgiving.. enough to stop the divorce proceedings

I know it’s going to be real hard to leave someone u love so much , but, this guy 110% can’t be trusted .. there’s a reason he won’t get divorced .. is it cuz he needed papers to be a US citizen & needs to stay married for a certain amount of time? Even then, the thanksgiving thing is real bad 😕🤷🏻‍♀️

You think it’s another woman already? You JUST put him out! Anything is possible. I don’t put anything past anyone.

Maybe he was with his wife on Thanksgiving. Do they share children together? Family is family. It is the time of year ppl set their differences aside for the greater good, whatever that may be.

Him being hesitant to start divorce proceedings is normal. Believe it or not, men, especially fixed sign men, don’t take the dissolution of serious relationships/marriages lightly at all.

How long have they been married?

Posted by Leogirl27
first let say I'm in love with a compulsive liar. Didn't put a name to it until recently. I found out 6 months into it he was legally married. I should have left but he promised he was going to fix it. a year later we're here. We lived together and he was my best friend and did everything together. very lovable and likable and helpful. There at my worst and I helped him change a lot. I've ended a few times before over this marriage situation and every time he said he was going to fix it. he would start the process but it was always SOMETHING. After while I became obsessed with him over it. So I finally put him out again two months ago.( the longest). I told him he couldn't come back and we wont deal with each other until it's finished. again he started and nothing. He draws me back in every time. We will still hang out, go out, and I will admit had sex twice. Up until two weeks ago he still treated me like his gf even tho we don't live together any longer. but on Thanksgiving he acted distant. He stood me up. but made promises that he wouldn't keep, still saying he loves me and wants to move back with me but he still was distant. We argued all day thanksgiving it was out first not together so I was emotional. He had excuses of course but I feel he's seeing someone else. The only thing confuses me let me go. I've said this to him and he never would. It's like he wants the door open but he don't want me to move on and he don't want to close the door on his divorce. it's weird. He's haven't gone quiet or ghosted on me since we started living together. I blocked him just incase but I so miss him. I feel stupid for wasting my time and used. I never could understand him fully.

It's simple, you've been played. He's conjuring up all of the excuses and technicalities he can to keep you around so that he can have his cake and eat it too. He also probably doesn't want to look like a "bad person" even though he's been stringing you along. Time for your Leo pride to kick in and to start acting with some self respect.

If he was truly your friend he wouldn't be doing this to you. He'd care about your needs and feelings. By continuing to interact with him the way you have been, you're only validating his behavior. He literally has no reason (or intention) to change anything for you.

Why should he? If you think he loves you back, he's shown through his actions that he doesn't. He's a guy who wants you for sex. As you've mentioned he's lied to you and is married as well. Likewise he has issues with YOU being with anyone else, but it's completely fine for him to stand you up and possibly be with another woman. Does that sound like the actions of a man who loves you? You're basically the side woman (because that's what you are in this scenario).

Also a tip for the future, never expect a married person to get a divorce for you. Getting involved with a person who is still married has a much higher chance backfiring on you, not them. Another tip is most people hate closed doors, which is especially true for people who run hot/cold. Time to shut this door and walk away. He'll come chasing with all of his promises because that's he does, but you'll need to be smart enough to know that his words are cheap at this point.

Work on your self esteem a bit and come to the realization that you deserve a partner who will make the effort to be with you. Just know that this Aqua guy will probably chase you for a LONG time if you break things off, so you'll need to be strong enough to resist. He isn't worth your time.

Posted by tiziani
You sound like you're a little in over your head on this one. If he really is a compulsive liar then he obviously has a lot to be defensive about.

He was already a mess when you met him, but your "you're in" "you're out" thing would only make it worse. Difficult to move on from it.... sounds like you have a controlling side to you.

I have been so much so with this relationship. I’ll admit it. Me being controlling was my way of showing him how serious I was. It’s ironic because this is the very reason he says he’s “scared” now because I’ve put him out a few times over this divorce situation. I’ve always given him reasonable amount of times. He’s stressed me out a lot. We should have stayed friends. He has a history of cheating on the wife and she allowed him to come and go as he pleased. There were no rules and I on the other had was too controlling and had many rules.

Posted by aquarius_man
Hmm I didnt read the entire post and I didnt even know in which board I was but I thought this man could be an Aquarius.

Having said that, I think @saggurl88 went through a similar situation with her Aquarius who was going through a divorce.

Nope. Lol. Nothing like this at all. My aqua friend doesn't live with me and his divorce will be final next month. He tried to make it even faster but he couldn't. But that doesn't have anything to do with me anyways. We don't fight at all and that's none of my business. Lol

He doesn't treat me like a girl friend either. Who knows what he treats me like. But things are progressing so I can't complain.

Posted by miriyahhh
He sounds like trash. He's married and lied so he's out. Take your glasses off

Lied, trash, curveball, period.

What were the excuses he gave for not finalizing the divorce?

I’m telling everyone, Aquarius becomes the most attached to the ones they love- more than any other sign

Nothing but your own fault sorry.

Posted by pinkbird03
I’m telling everyone, Aquarius becomes the most attached to the ones they love- more than any other sign

Hmmmm

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Posted by pinkbird03
I’m telling everyone, Aquarius becomes the most attached to the ones they love- more than any other sign

Hmmmm

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Lollllll ur reaction