2yrs rel with cancer and he broke off when i got pregnant, will he come back? how?

we travelled most of the time in those years, so we have been sort of living together. He never used one and i thought he was fine with it. we're both 30+ yrs old already have jobs except that of course he resigned from his work to travel. we never have big fights and for small fights like he's the only one making reservations (while when i do it alone, its totally fine), or i ddnt throw the garbage. like really smallll fights.

We are not together when i told im pregnant. and i just got home from our christmas holiday.

He wasn’t happy about it and told me he wasn’t ready for kids and that he don’t want kids and he said i know that. It was a shock for me bec sometime ago he said that on his next bday, he wanted and pointed to a couple with a baby. He did say if he’ll have a kid, he’ll only have 1 becit is expensive. (He lives in the states of Chinese parents) He’s American born. We ended the night in a bad note.

The following day, he asked if im keeping the baby which confused me. I said, “why? Are you leaving me?”. Then he asked again “are you keeping the baby? Probably yes since you know for so long”. So I asked again, “why? are you leaving me?”. Then he said yes, but I will support the baby. I called him and he picked up and he was steady about the breakup. He said our relationship is one sided. I really didn’t know it was like that. I did nothing but serve and love him with all my heart. I don’t know what made him say this but I know I made my best to make him feel loved. Sometimes I would ask him if he loves me and he would say yes. And I would cry because it swells my heart. now he claims that he did his best to make me happy while he was never the same! i really cant believe it.



Now he accused me of knowing it for so long to the point where theres nothing we can do about it, that I had it my way, he said I manipulate him. Which is really painful. He wanted to abort the baby and I say I can’t its big already. I’m innocent and i really ddnt know i ws pregnant at 17wks! if i knew it i would have told him in xmas or new year while together not when we're apart. i never thought he would abort or smthing. its not in our culture. and i wouldnt have cycled for 300km in the cold if i knew i was pregnant. I loved him deeply and serious about our relationship. We never used protection ever since we met. He suddenly said he wasn’t happy in all our travels. Then he said this isn’t a fight, This is a breakup. I was so dumbfounded. I did nothing but , serve him, cook for him, everything. I made special gestures every monthsary. sometimes when we go out he pays. But in his stay here in my house, i paid for everything bec i know he doesnt have work and his money is budgeted.

By evening, he said again that we should abort the baby bec it is unfair to bring a baby between our dispute. To be honest, we never had big fights, I never say bad words or cuss at him. I just cry when he lies to me when he travelled to Myanmar with a woman but he said nothing happened. he just suddenly he's not happy. i asked how? and he really cant say anything. in the end he just say we're 2 different people. days before i left he said he loves me. a day before i told him i was pregnant he was lovey dovey.

Now, he just asks if I had a checkup or hows the baby.. what’s the gender. I said it’s a girl. I asked him “how do you feel” then he said “I want to cry but I don’t know why”. then he left the chat.

i want him to comeback to me and our baby. he said weve broken up and we will raise her independently. but how? we live in different countries 16hrs away. i feel bad asking for financial support. this is not how planned it. but its here already. he said "this instance is lack of family planning. kids should come after marriage". as if i dont know that.

ita been a month, he just reads my crying texts. i cant help it. im very emotional with a growing baby inside.

will he come around?

"kasi"

Pinay ka?

i ddnt keep the pregnancy.. i really ddnt know i was pregnant. if i knew then i would have told him on xmas or new years! and i wouldnt have cycled 300km with him in Taiwan. my periods are irregular even thats why. so No, i ddnt keep the pregnancy. He just accused me..

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i ddnt keep the pregnancy.. i really ddnt know i was pregnant. if i knew then i would have told him on xmas or new years! and i wouldnt have cycled 300km with him in Taiwan. my periods are irregular even thats why. so No, i ddnt keep the pregnancy. He just accused me..

Weren't you pregnant 3 hours ago?

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Sh!t happens lol

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Posted by gemini619
i ddnt keep the pregnancy.. i really ddnt know i was pregnant. if i knew then i would have told him on xmas or new years! and i wouldnt have cycled 300km with him in Taiwan. my periods are irregular even thats why. so No, i ddnt keep the pregnancy. He just accused me..

Weren't you pregnant 3 hours ago?

Sh!t happens lol

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Cause she's a Gem? 😜

He doesn’t want a child or relationship with you. Sadly, I’ve seen a lot of unplanned pregnancys end relationships

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i ddnt keep the pregnancy.. i really ddnt know i was pregnant. if i knew then i would have told him on xmas or new years! and i wouldnt have cycled 300km with him in Taiwan. my periods are irregular even thats why. so No, i ddnt keep the pregnancy. He just accused me..

Weren't you pregnant 3 hours ago?

Sh!t happens lol

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Cause she's a Gem? 😜

And the guy is a Cancer 😝

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Should have been a Sagittarius man 😆

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i ddnt keep the pregnancy.. i really ddnt know i was pregnant. if i knew then i would have told him on xmas or new years! and i wouldnt have cycled 300km with him in Taiwan. my periods are irregular even thats why. so No, i ddnt keep the pregnancy. He just accused me..

Weren't you pregnant 3 hours ago?

Sh!t happens lol

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Cause she's a Gem? 😜

And the guy is a Cancer 😝

Should have been a Sagittarius man 😆

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Hilarious!

Posted by pinkbird03
He doesn’t want a child or relationship with you. Sadly, I’ve seen a lot of unplanned pregnancys end relationships

True, but the other way around. He doesn't want a relationship with you, so he doesn't want a child with you.

If we really love you, the child is a gift to our life and not a burden.

Um...he's mad at you cause he didn't use protection, and now that thing that happens when unprotected sex occurs and sperm meets egg, has happened? And somehow that's your fault? What a complete idiot.

Just reread. Uh yeahhh...I call bs on the whole damn thing. Lol

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Posted by pinkbird03
He doesn’t want a child or relationship with you. Sadly, I’ve seen a lot of unplanned pregnancys end relationships

True, but the other way around. He doesn't want a relationship with you, so he doesn't want a child with you.

If we really love you, the child is a gift to our life and not a burden.

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but we were okay even before i told him i ws pregnant. we were lovey dovey and he even said he loves me. then when i told him, he said he's digesting and asking me how i feel. i said, you dont seem happy. then the following day, he asked if im keeping the baby.. then i asked him "why? are you leavig me?" i asked him 3x and he nswered on the third YES... i should have not asked..

Posted by TaurusFlower22
Um...he's mad at you cause he didn't use protection, and now that thing that happens when unprotected sex occurs and sperm meets egg, has happened? And somehow that's your fault? What a complete idiot.

well he knows this now thats why now he's saying he will be paying child support.

at first he wanted it aborted (nd repeated it at night time) then now he's saying it kills him that he cant raise his own daughter and hes paying for a child he'll never see (bec we live in different countries).

eventually he is saying that i ddnt make him happy and that we're different people. somthing that im really dumbfounded...when i am confused if he reallly love me, he says its just in my head. he really ddnt say anything about him beingh unhappy. we only have small fights really..

i am hoping he'll come around.. he's cancer sign.. i dont know what to do..

Posted by Fortuna
I tell this story without fully understanding it. I have a male Chinese friend that has talked about the stigma around Chinese males dating Filipinas or any women older than the male.

(I am only repeating this story because I see the OPs reply to Dolluxe. I could be wrong about this though! My thoughts are that maybe the Chinese guy is ashamed to be with a different race due to family pressures?)

My Chinese male friend who is a scientist met another female scientist in the US, but she was Filipina. He knew his Chinese parents would not approve because in his home town Filipinos are seen as lower class, and the women are prostitutes. His family is very wealthy in China and they are indispensably depraved by allowing the stereotypes to cloud any truth. My friend eventually broke it off with the Filipina due to the family pressures. He then married an American woman, but she was older than him, he lied to his parents about her age. They eventually divorced, yet still his parents do not know the truth about her age. 😱

His brother has married an amercianized filipina (migrated to US when young). besides his family knew about us. so race is not an issue. he was in our province and he showed my family members.. theare not rich so is our family but i have a good job ang graduated from a good school.

he said one time "you are dating the wrong american" pertaining that he's not rich. but he cannot say i made him bf just so i could go to the US. my life here is ok. i ddnt dream the american dream but of course i want a good life.

Posted by TaurusFlower22
Just reread. Uh yeahhh...I call bs on the whole damn thing. Lol

bs that he decided to breakup? which part..

Posted by ScorpioTruth
I’m not even going to allow myself to read this, it will just piss me off to see a woman begging a man to come back after he’s left her. If anything, he should be begging you to come back.

The same intensity of love that you feel for him, try turning that inward toward yourself and your baby. You deserve better.

Thank you...

i try...

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i ddnt keep the pregnancy.. i really ddnt know i was pregnant. if i knew then i would have told him on xmas or new years! and i wouldnt have cycled 300km with him in Taiwan. my periods are irregular even thats why. so No, i ddnt keep the pregnancy. He just accused me..

Weren't you pregnant 3 hours ago?

Sh!t happens lol

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Cause she's a Gem? 😜

And the guy is a Cancer 😝

Should have been a Sagittarius man 😆

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what do you mean?

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Gemitati is that you

Lmao! Done being pregnant about...24 years ago! But...now I’ll be more careful. Thanks. And my Cancer isn’t Asian...so...thanks God! It’s not me...

Why? Do you wanted to be a God Mather? Lol

Posted by Fortuna
I tell this story without fully understanding it. I have a male Chinese friend that has talked about the stigma around Chinese males dating Filipinas or any women older than the male.

(I am only repeating this story because I see the OPs reply to Dolluxe. I could be wrong about this though! My thoughts are that maybe the Chinese guy is ashamed to be with a different race due to family pressures?)

My Chinese male friend who is a scientist met another female scientist in the US, but she was Filipina. He knew his Chinese parents would not approve because in his home town Filipinos are seen as lower class, and the women are prostitutes. His family is very wealthy in China and they are indispensably depraved by allowing the stereotypes to cloud any truth. My friend eventually broke it off with the Filipina due to the family pressures. He then married an American woman, but she was older than him, he lied to his parents about her age. They eventually divorced, yet still his parents do not know the truth about her age. 😱

I knew Asians fucked up! Look at fire bunny and ands! Need I say more?

Posted by Impulsv
WHY DID you get pregnant?

HES ANGRY U had unprotected

He’s as much fault

But why did you not use protection

i dont know.. guess we talk of future togetherness. he said he wouldnt leave me. he asked one time if he's gonna be a dad. maybe a joke but he wsnt afraid. i was sure of him.

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i ddnt keep the pregnancy.. i really ddnt know i was pregnant. if i knew then i would have told him on xmas or new years! and i wouldnt have cycled 300km with him in Taiwan. my periods are irregular even thats why. so No, i ddnt keep the pregnancy. He just accused me..

Weren't you pregnant 3 hours ago?

Sh!t happens lol

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Cause she's a Gem? 😜

And the guy is a Cancer 😝

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YES so what does that mean? he's clammed in his shell?