Are all Cancers emotionally sensitive like me?

Hi

I'm a Cancer and I want to vent because I'm tired of being sensitive when I'm in a relationship. I think that's the reason why I've failed so many times with men and I don't last with them.

I expect everything to be a fairytale and as soon as a guy has a flaw, I feel like I need to keep on searching for prince charming. I feel so stupid being like this because I feel like I'm going to end up alone. All guys are going to have flaws and I need to be more realistic.

Right now I have an amazing boyfriend who treats me so well. Just because he stopped using smiley faces and calls me less I'm already thinking something is not right. The idea of a guy taking me for granted scares me. But I don't want to leave another guy because of something stupid and assume that there's a perfect guy without 1 flaw. I don't want to continue living in a fantasy world that I had to write a list of all the good things my boyfriend has so that when bad thoughts come into my head I remind myself that he's not a prince but a normal guy that loves me. Is there a way that I can be less sensitive and more realistic and emotionally strong?

Im super sensitive, l stay at home most the time...need sweetness in relationships... But l wouldn't leave immediately if a guy seems a little less keen, we're men, we're doing our best. Try and tell him what you need tho, he'l surely make an effort.

This is more of having too much expectations in a relationship and being let down.

You're only thinking of your own fantasy and whatnot. Once reality hits you, you'll find any small action of that individual changed overtime, and assume for the worst.

Honestly, I've been there during my high school times expecting all these with my Virgo ex since he was my first serious relationship.

You get what you are offered.

Girl smiley faces? LOL

Come on now

I’m emotional and I hate it

Cancer is the most sensitive of the signs, ruled by the moon, intuitive, moody and feminine. The phases of the moon have a huge effect on our moods so being born with it either in the sun or moon will feel innate sensitivity 🌝

Oh hell no.. unacceptable.

Once he stop using cute emojis cut him loose. He's being way too disrespectful.

Posted by Rainbow87

Hi

I'm a Cancer and I want to vent because I'm tired of being sensitive when I'm in a relationship. I think that's the reason why I've failed so many times with men and I don't last with them.

I expect everything to be a fairytale and as soon as a guy has a flaw, I feel like I need to keep on searching for prince charming. I feel so stupid being like this because I feel like I'm going to end up alone. All guys are going to have flaws and I need to be more realistic.

Right now I have an amazing boyfriend who treats me so well. Just because he stopped using smiley faces and calls me less I'm already thinking something is not right. The idea of a guy taking me for granted scares me. But I don't want to leave another guy because of something stupid and assume that there's a perfect guy without 1 flaw. I don't want to continue living in a fantasy world that I had to write a list of all the good things my boyfriend has so that when bad thoughts come into my head I remind myself that he's not a prince but a normal guy that loves me. Is there a way that I can be less sensitive and more realistic and emotionally strong?

Go with ur instincts. If you feel something's off than ur probably right.

In regards to sensitivity, I cant help u there 😁

Posted by vivi4656

Hi, cutie pie : )! Maybe I can help! I know where you're coming from to an extent. I am emotional too and I receive feelings that I may not understand until I conceptualize them. When my boyfriend does something that bothers me, I may not understand why until I truly look within < 3! The day my boyfriend told me he watches porn, I thought I was going to keel over and die. The day that I realize men don't stop finding other women attractive even if they are in a relationship made me distance myself from my boyfriend and take away all emotional vulnerability from the relationship. Why you may ask? Honestly.. I have no idea why. It was just a feeling in my gut. I'm super sensitive and I cannot imagine my boyfriend being more intimate with someone other than me. It hurts my feelings. I really had to conceptualize my thoughts and apply it with not only emotion, but logic. It has really helped me out < 3! You have more of an impact on your boyfriend than you know! He has chosen to be with you! Maybe your fear of being hurt is what is causing you to find flaws within him. Cancers are really about security. When we feel like we don't have security, we run. Maybe you're afraid since he's a flawed human, he has the capability of messing up and hurting you as well in the process.

What has helped me is sitting down and focusing more internally on myself and how I can be a light in the relationship. We all have flaws (every human does)... so, what are your flaws and how can you overcome them to be a better girlfriend? We never stop growing and learning until the day we die. I can see that one of your strengths is self-realization. Maybe, something you can work on is seeing things from other people's points of view so you can better have empathy for them < 3! Maybe it is learning what scares you so you can better understand your boyfriend. Your boyfriend loves you very much and relationships aren't perfect. They are about learning, growing, and forgiving one another. Through our flaws, we learn and grow to be better people. So, really, relationships are growth experiences to help mature us as people. I think once you focus on the bigger picture of it all, it can help you see the purpose. Once you have your purpose, you can work through your flaws < 3! I hope this helps and best of luck to you and your boyfriend! xo

Ur the first cancer woman I've ever heard of trying to understand & compartmentalize own emotions. Virgo moon must help u understand ur feelings, instead from being ignorant to ur own actions.

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Posted by Yodi

Oh hell no.. unacceptable.

Once he stop using cute emojis cut him loose. He's being way too disrespectful.

Emojis are annoying, like why you need them at every sentence

kind of gay

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Lol I was being a jerk..

But I find emojis neccessary sometimes especially on the internet.. because ppl are quick to take offense to sarcasm.

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Posted by Yodi

Oh hell no.. unacceptable.

Once he stop using cute emojis cut him loose. He's being way too disrespectful.

Emojis are annoying, like why you need them at every sentence

kind of gay

Lol I was being a jerk..

But I find emojis neccessary sometimes especially on the internet.. because ppl are quick to take offense to sarcasm.

How do you convey seriousness

Its kind of corny to overuse them like grown adults do here

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I don't lol.. I like to confuse ppl and let them wonder if I'm being serious or not. In RL I'm easier to read.

I like corny.. but I would be turned off by a man that used to many emojis in RL. On the Internet not so much.

Posted by Rainbow87

Right now I have an amazing boyfriend who treats me so well. Just because he stopped using smiley faces and calls me less I'm already thinking something is not right. The idea of a guy taking me for granted scares me. But I don't want to leave another guy because of something stupid and assume that there's a perfect guy without 1 flaw. I don't want to continue living in a fantasy world that I had to write a list of all the good things my boyfriend has so that when bad thoughts come into my head I remind myself that he's not a prince but a normal guy that loves me. Is there a way that I can be less sensitive and more realistic and emotionally strong?

Its totally normal for communication to trickle off once you get comfy in the relationship.

Its also COMPLETELY understandable that you are bummed that you aren't getting the same bits of attention he was showing before. Thing is... you gotta communicate this to him. You can't just get upset, spiral, and then discard him cause its not perfect.

Men can't read minds. Women can't either.

Let him know you miss his smiley faces and calls. If he cares hes gonna step up and make the effort to keep the smile on your face and in your heart.

Posted by MissKrabs

What you describe is not sensitivity.

Yeah, OP's describing more so fantasy vs reality IMO which could be a cancer thing too, I've had the habit of creating scenarios in my head which may or not be grounded in reality.