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Cancer man unfollowed me on instagram after a great second date and agreed third date? (Page 2)
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We never spoke on the phone. We started with long email, then text (long text) and in person we talk non stop. We still send long text like we are writing letters haha
I will reach out again if I don't hear from him by Tuesday.
It's instagram, if he's talking to you ,and seeing you in real life, who cares?
He's probably just insecure about the fact that he had followed you, and you both never mentioned it, and didn't follow him back. If it matters so much, go follow him.
@listenlearnteach are you a chart reading by any chance? What do you tihnk of his placement? cancer sun & moon, gem mercury, leo venus, gem mars, aqua rising
Posted by Shellyd238
It's instagram, if he's talking to you ,and seeing you in real life, who cares?He's probably just insecure about the fact that he had followed you, and you both never mentioned it, and didn't follow him back. If it matters so much, go follow him.
I was feeling guilty cos I missed the notification and felt insecure to follow later on... LOL
I will ask to follow him when I see him in person.
Posted by FutureSeeker
I agree with @listenlearnteach don't wait for him to text next- if it has been a little bit, text him something casual. When I was single I didn't play that game of who's turn it was to respond. If I wanted to text something, I did.
Sometimes you may have to take a little initiative... Meaning, text him good morning, hope you have a good day! Or text him something funny. Light hearted and not necessarily about the next date.
I beg to differ. If a guy knows it is his turn to reply and he hasn't written back is because he chose not to.
Posted by Poppyseeds
@listenlearnteach are you a chart reading by any chance? What do you tihnk of his placement? cancer sun & moon, gem mercury, leo venus, gem mars, aqua rising
No I'm not. Sorry. I'm just going off what youre saying. It just seems to me that youre waiting and he's waiting.
I think you are right LOL I will give him a few more days.. just in case if he was stress like he told me he was last week.. just to give him some alone time in his shell like most water sign needs?
Text him...cancer men want to be freinds first before romance anyway plus he was probably take a back by you saying you're going to bake for him. They dig thst!
If he's still texting you then who cares about social media.
Posted by SofiaV87
If he's still texting you then who cares about social media.
He didn't initiate the text after second date, he kept telling me to text him during second date.
I text him, he replied asked how was my day, I replied telling him about my day and that I did some baking and he can sample some when we meet again.
No reply!
Posted by SofiaV87
If he's still texting you then who cares about social media.He didn't initiate the text after second date, he kept telling me to text him during second date.
I text him, he replied asked how was my day, I replied telling him about my day and that I did some baking and he can sample some when we meet again.
No reply!
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Sounds like he's just not that into you or something came up in his personal life that is consuming his thoughts . Don't text him until he contacts you again.
@sofiav87 exactly my thought
Nah I'm not going to text him again, I know his job is really mentally consuming but still he could have reply
When I saw him in person I told him I didn't think I will see him again as he text me to say he really enjoyed first date and like to do it again soon. I replied to that but he didn't. He said he did so he scroll up and see he didn't and he apologized. there was also an occasion that took him 4 days he was like what? you waited 4 days for my reply! I'm so sorry, then he told me how stress he is that it even gave him muscle spams...
Then he told me he declined a weekend away with friends becuase he really wants to see me for second date, he is afraid I would think he is not serious..
I don't think he is serious at all...
@oceanboy88 that's the cancer I was talking about...
No disrespect, but are you getting your 'he is' and 'is he' back to front, I'm confused by your post,
Look if he's not being totally your best buddy, laughing with you, sharing with you, putting you as a priority, hes not interested in anything more, stop hurting yourself, your meant to be with the one its easy to be with, comfortable, deep and easy, but wierdly sexy
Posted by piscespoppy
No disrespect, but are you getting your 'he is' and 'is he' back to front, I'm confused by your post,
Look if he's not being totally your best buddy, laughing with you, sharing with you, putting you as a priority, hes not interested in anything more, stop hurting yourself, your meant to be with the one its easy to be with, comfortable, deep and easy, but wierdly sexy
He does all that in person, we can laugh at and talk about anything, however I do agree with you as I'm not happy with this lack of contact.
When he writes he writes really long text, but that doesn't justify what he is currently doing. I will leave it as this, he has to write back and to ask me the address now if he still wants to come along
Posted by starwars
@poppyseeds
he has similar placements to my ex- how long have you been together? (sometimes crabs dont jump immediately into being best buddies, some of them are a bit awkward.)
- why did you tell him that you think you wont see him again? ( even if he wasnt going to do so, id believe hed get really passive about it and maybe distance himself because some crabs, cant deal with confrontation.)
We are not together, we only been on 2 dates 6 and 6.5 hrs each and 3rd one is coming
I only speak my mind, as he didn't respond to stuff so I thought he was simply being polite when he said he really enjoyed the first date and like to do it again soon.
Just take it as he enjoyed it then, don't worry just chill, and take it as it comes, oh and keep laughing with him.
Posted by piscespoppy
Just take it as he enjoyed it then, don't worry just chill, and take it as it comes, oh and keep laughing with him.
Yes we laugh a lot in person 😄
Anyway it's only a few days until I see him. Worse case scenario is he doesn't reply then I will just give him the details of the event. If he still ignores then NEXT
You said he writes really long texts. ?? Hes a man, not just a cancer sign, hes taken time to sit and write these for you, he must care, chill, take it as it comes, I wouldn't write 'jack' to someone I didn't give a rats about! Š
Posted by piscespoppy
You said he writes really long texts. ?? Hes a man, not just a cancer sign, hes taken time to sit and write these for you, he must care, chill, take it as it comes, I wouldn't write 'jack' to someone I didn't give a rats about! Š
yes he writes really long text I would actually call it a letter haha
What if his job involves writing? could it contribute to why he writes long text?
When we are in person he told me he really enjoys reading my text because I also write long ones. He thinks I'm a very good communicator because I'm really writing, he thinks others write shallow stuff and he doesn't like it.
Just chill lol! You sound a little unsure, it sounds nice, enjoy x
Posted by piscespoppy
Just chill lol! You sound a little unsure, it sounds nice, enjoy x
yes I was unsure LOL can I blame being a Virgo and probably that time of the month? hahaha x
Love virgos, my hubbys daughter is a Virgo as was his mum, they get on so well, always laughing, gritty, deep relationship, and very strong, cancer men love strong loving women.
Posted by piscespoppy
Love virgos, my hubbys daughter is a Virgo as was his mum, they get on so well, always laughing, gritty, deep relationship, and very strong, cancer men love strong loving women.
Thanks my mom is a Virgo too, we are like best friends
Me and my husband have played together loads, and stayed together ultimately 16 years, just enjoy your togetherness, just enjoy, things will progress if you stop worrying and just keep laughing and connecting, your cool Ž
Posted by piscespoppy
Me and my husband have played together loads, and stayed together ultimately 16 years, just enjoy your togetherness, just enjoy, things will progress if you stop worrying and just keep laughing and connecting, your cool Ž
True worrying doens't add any value, anyway a few days to go!
Posted by piscespoppy
Me and my husband have played together loads, and stayed together ultimately 16 years, just enjoy your togetherness, just enjoy, things will progress if you stop worrying and just keep laughing and connecting, your cool Ž
True worrying doens't add any value, anyway a few days to go!
Aww, hope it all goes ok sweet, positive thinking works wonders ‰
Aww, hope it all goes ok sweet, positive thinking works wonders ‰
I had to actually read through some of this bullshit nonsense in order to believe that the thread name was even for real.
Soon you guys will use photo apps to build perfect baby pics and put them on FB and IG - 21st century version of having a family. Smdh
Posted by piscespoppy
Aww, hope it all goes ok sweet, positive thinking works wonders ‰
🙂
Posted by victoriagemini
Hmm you brought up and asked him if he is following you.he said thats him them he unfollows you. Maybe he thought you didn't like that? Anyway is he still texting you or he stopped?I meant I brought my phone out and show him photos on my instagram, I didn't ask if he was following. I think most people would say yes I saw those photos and i'm already following you
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Not necessarily. In fact you showing him those photos probably gave him the impression that you didn't realize he followed you.
He probably felt awkward about it and unfollowed you so you wouldn't think that he stalkishly followed you.
Idk. This social media bullshit makes my head hurt.
Be patient. Don't over think things.
Wait and see if he shows up for the 3rd date. And it's early days, you may find your incompatible anyways...
Posted by victoriagemini
Hmm you brought up and asked him if he is following you.he said thats him them he unfollows you. Maybe he thought you didn't like that? Anyway is he still texting you or he stopped?I meant I brought my phone out and show him photos on my instagram, I didn't ask if he was following. I think most people would say yes I saw those photos and i'm already following you
Not necessarily. In fact you showing him those photos probably gave him the impression that you didn't realize he followed you.
He probably felt awkward about it and unfollowed you so you wouldn't think that he stalkishly followed you.
Idk. This social media bullshit makes my head hurt.
Be patient. Don't over think things.
Wait and see if he shows up for the 3rd date. And it's early days, you may find your incompatible anyways...
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He probably is embarrassed about following me after only meeting me once haha
Yea if he shows up it shows he is a man of his word, if not it's better he stay gone.
@futureseeker
He responded and seems excited about the baking haha
Posted by Poppyseeds
@futureseekerHe responded and seems excited about the baking haha
I made mine a brownie/cookie/PB cup thing. Oh he felt special. I love making someone feel special- so it made me happy that I did that.
For the longest time (6months) I would leave him little notes, cook for him, etc. he is not as demonstrative with gifts and stuff. However, this past month it's changed. I love sunflowers- and he bought me a huge sunflower tin thing for my garden. Then a few days ago he did some woodworking and made me a wood thing that read "True Love Blossoms" and burned in a sunflower design. Today- I went to shower and he drew a huge heart on the shower door. These are all things he had never done before. I didn't smother him ever- but I showed him he is special to me.
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Your baking sounds delicious!
So I get the sense that you had to put more effort in at the beginning for him to open up?
Posted by Poppyseeds
@futureseekerHe responded and seems excited about the baking haha
I made mine a brownie/cookie/PB cup thing. Oh he felt special. I love making someone feel special- so it made me happy that I did that.
For the longest time (6months) I would leave him little notes, cook for him, etc. he is not as demonstrative with gifts and stuff. However, this past month it's changed. I love sunflowers- and he bought me a huge sunflower tin thing for my garden. Then a few days ago he did some woodworking and made me a wood thing that read "True Love Blossoms" and burned in a sunflower design. Today- I went to shower and he drew a huge heart on the shower door. These are all things he had never done before. I didn't smother him ever- but I showed him he is special to me.
Your baking sounds delicious!
So I get the sense that you had to put more effort in at the beginning for him to open up?
I just show him that I'm not going anywhere, I'm consistent, independent, but want that partner to share my life with. In the beginning he put out effort, but didn't verbalize it as much, not physically expressive. I knew he cared for me. Instead of demanding, I stay patient- but I don't put more energy into things than he does. When I put too much- I take away his opportunity to do work on the relationship.
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Thanks for the tips, sounds like we are on the right track comparing to your story.
Home cooked food! 👠melt his heart ♥
Posted by piscespoppy
Home cooked food! 👠melt his heart ♥
he is excited about it, can't wait to see his reaction when he actually eats it!
Plz do update US what happened later :-)
Hubby just said to me, ye home cooked food, ill love you forever lol!
But my hubby is bias, he loves Virgo women with there straight talking lol!
@victoriagemini @sensitiveblues @piscespoppy @FutureSeeker
He tried my baking on third date, he liked it. When he gave me a lift home he said we have to see each other soon. I said yes, keep it touch. His face dropped .I said that out of nervousness LOL
Then I told him I actually meant for him to contact me again, He said he like that because it allows him to be masculine.
We kissed but I got shy, he laughed at me and then say it's cute and he likes it. I'm not around others but I get shy when it comes to kissing or getting close to a guy... >
Posted by FutureSeeker
My famous "orgasmic" brownies.
In a deep pan press a tube of chocolate chip cookie dough.
Next, lay Reese's PB cups over the cookie dough layer- so basically you won't see the cookie dough anymore.
Then- mix 2 packs of brownie mix as package directs. Then pour it over the PB cups evenly.Bake at 325- check at 40 mins. You will have to keep checking thereafter because the edges bake faster than the middle. It's a fine science.
I have friends all over the world who ask me to make these and mail them- deployed friends, friends stationed in diff countries- but I make these yummy things when I want to have someone feel special- cause they are gooooood!
I just had an orgasm from reading your recipe!!!
By the way, I'm not sure if this is a red flag... he doesn't believe that man and woman can be friends unless they are ex.
He said he is only in touch with one ex, an ex he dated for 4 years, and broke up 4 years ago...
He said they broke up because they got too familiar with each other and they were getting married. He wanted to move to different city (now back) The moment he broke up he saw her as a sister... he now sees her once a year like catching up with a family member..
I'm not buying it.. i said to him one side always want more..
Mercury retrograde damn. It is working alright.
Posted by FutureSeeker
My famous "orgasmic" brownies.
In a deep pan press a tube of chocolate chip cookie dough.
Next, lay Reese's PB cups over the cookie dough layer- so basically you won't see the cookie dough anymore.
Then- mix 2 packs of brownie mix as package directs. Then pour it over the PB cups evenly.Bake at 325- check at 40 mins. You will have to keep checking thereafter because the edges bake faster than the middle. It's a fine science.
I have friends all over the world who ask me to make these and mail them- deployed friends, friends stationed in diff countries- but I make these yummy things when I want to have someone feel special- cause they are gooooood!
I just had an orgasm from reading your recipe!!!
By the way, I'm not sure if this is a red flag... he doesn't believe that man and woman can be friends unless they are ex.
He said he is only in touch with one ex, an ex he dated for 4 years, and broke up 4 years ago...
He said they broke up because they got too familiar with each other and they were getting married. He wanted to move to different city (now back) The moment he broke up he saw her as a sister... he now sees her once a year like catching up with a family member..
I'm not buying it.. i said to him one side always want more..
MESSY ...hmmmmmm watch that story closely
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Messy as hell. she probably is a fuck buddy or planning on making you one.
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Just saying reach out again. No harm in that.