Cancer sensitivity

i am in a relationship with a cancer woman and she is super sensitive to me (the slightest thing that i say/do hurts her even if i was just being honest with her). i am just worried right now that she might blame her sensitivity to me on me --- like she might say that i am intentionally trying to hurt her, but in reality the reason why she is hurt by what i said and did is because she is super sensitive to me now more than ever before... what i do when she is hurt is that i don't say/do that thing that hurt her again (when i notice that she was hurt by what i said/did) can you cancer women share your stories and experiences about being sensitive to a love one and what happened in your relationship? thanks!

Posted by GC02
I’m really not all that sensitive??

Hmm 😐

when was the last time you were hurt, over what and what happened afterwards? :/

cancer sun/moons can be so exhausting. Most of that "sensitivity" is just manipulation.

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I’m really not all that sensitive??

Hmm 😐

when was the last time you were hurt, over what and what happened afterwards? :/

Funny now that you mention it....today.

I was hanging out with my sister and she started having gallstone pains out of no where. She started squirming around in pain on the bed, I could tell she was in a lot of pain.

I started crying, because it hurt me to see her like that. 😢

The aftermath was me getting her food and herbal tea to help her feel better. 🍵

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do you get offended? because my cancer gets offended a lot and then she retaliates to me in a passive aggressive way (that's when i know that she was hurt)

Posted by Plutonian
cancer sun/moons can be so exhausting. Most of that "sensitivity" is just manipulation.

i always try to understand what's going on inside of her...i actually want to help her with her sensitivity. we haven't talked yet about it...her negative mood is really really bad sometimes...it makes me feel depressed..

The first thing you want to do is let her not take what you say personal... I have known a cancer sun/pisces moon for 5 years.

If you want to talk about sensitivity....

That's not something that will change and you don't want to feel you have to walk on toes.

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Posted by Plutonian
cancer sun/moons can be so exhausting. Most of that "sensitivity" is just manipulation.

i always try to understand what's going on inside of her...i actually want to help her with her sensitivity. we haven't talked yet about it...her negative mood is really really bad sometimes...it makes me feel depressed..

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I understand but just make sure it's not sucking all the fun out of the relationship. If she's as sensitive as you say, it could get to the point where you feel like you're walking on egg shells.

Just hug her if she’s feeling sad, tears in the eyes, or has that look on her face.

Posted by scorpio04
i am in a relationship with a cancer woman and she is super sensitive to me (the slightest thing that i say/do hurts her even if i was just being honest with her).

Can you give an example of something you did or said that hurt her?

Posted by scorpio04
i am in a relationship with a cancer woman and she is super sensitive to me (the slightest thing that i say/do hurts her even if i was just being honest with her). i am just worried right now that she might blame her sensitivity to me on me --- like she might say that i am intentionally trying to hurt her, but in reality the reason why she is hurt by what i said and did is because she is super sensitive to me now more than ever before... what i do when she is hurt is that i don't say/do that thing that hurt her again (when i notice that she was hurt by what i said/did) can you cancer women share your stories and experiences about being sensitive to a love one and what happened in your relationship? thanks!

I am sorry to say this ..but the reality is either you put up with her ..or leave ..she can't change and if she did ..you would not want her ....sensitivity gives her other gifts...and she wouldn't be her.

If you can't gel ...you may not be suited.

If you want to stay you have to learn how to deal with this yourselves.

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cancer sun/moons can be so exhausting. Most of that "sensitivity" is just manipulation.

i always try to understand what's going on inside of her...i actually want to help her with her sensitivity. we haven't talked yet about it...her negative mood is really really bad sometimes...it makes me feel depressed..

I understand but just make sure it's not sucking all the fun out of the relationship. If she's as sensitive as you say, it could get to the point where you feel like you're walking on egg shells.

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i am. but i don't mind because i love her so much. i was just asking how other cancer's are when they are hurt and what happened afterwards because i've never been in a relationship with a cancer (she is my 1st ever relationship and sadly i am learning everything the hard way). when my cancer is hurt and passive aggressive i don't know when we will be okay again (how long) and she's not consistent about what happens after she is hurt (one time we had a really bad moment when she walked out on me and i chased her reaching for her hand until she got to the elevator. and then i tried to stop the elevator door once and then let it go. And then the next time we saw each other right after that, we were okay as if it never happened. but it's not always like that)

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cancer sun/moons can be so exhausting. Most of that "sensitivity" is just manipulation.

i always try to understand what's going on inside of her...i actually want to help her with her sensitivity. we haven't talked yet about it...her negative mood is really really bad sometimes...it makes me feel depressed..

I understand but just make sure it's not sucking all the fun out of the relationship. If she's as sensitive as you say, it could get to the point where you feel like you're walking on egg shells.

i am. but i don't mind because i love her so much. i was just asking how other cancer's are when they are hurt and what happened afterwards because i've never been in a relationship with a cancer (she is my 1st ever relationship and sadly i am learning everything the hard way). when my cancer is hurt and passive aggressive i don't know when we will be okay again (how long) and she's not consistent about what happens after she is hurt (one time we had a really bad moment when she walked out on me and i chased her reaching for her hand until she got to the elevator. and then i tried to stop the elevator door once and then let it go. And then the next time we saw each other right after that, we were okay as if it never happened. but it's not always like that)

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what's her moon/mars/mercury in?

what is you part in it what did you do to make her run to the lift?

Posted by scorpio04
i am in a relationship with a cancer woman and she is super sensitive to me (the slightest thing that i say/do hurts her even if i was just being honest with her). i am just worried right now that she might blame her sensitivity to me on me --- like she might say that i am intentionally trying to hurt her, but in reality the reason why she is hurt by what i said and did is because she is super sensitive to me now more than ever before... what i do when she is hurt is that i don't say/do that thing that hurt her again (when i notice that she was hurt by what i said/did) can you cancer women share your stories and experiences about being sensitive to a love one and what happened in your relationship? thanks!

It all depends on in what houses the planets are placed and what moon sign she has

Posted by LittleFairy
what is you part in it what did you do to make her run to the lift?

she wanted to see my phone (she wanted to see my messages) and i didn't gave it to her when she tried to grab it from me. i didn't do that again.

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cancer sun/moons can be so exhausting. Most of that "sensitivity" is just manipulation.

i always try to understand what's going on inside of her...i actually want to help her with her sensitivity. we haven't talked yet about it...her negative mood is really really bad sometimes...it makes me feel depressed..

I understand but just make sure it's not sucking all the fun out of the relationship. If she's as sensitive as you say, it could get to the point where you feel like you're walking on egg shells.

i am. but i don't mind because i love her so much. i was just asking how other cancer's are when they are hurt and what happened afterwards because i've never been in a relationship with a cancer (she is my 1st ever relationship and sadly i am learning everything the hard way). when my cancer is hurt and passive aggressive i don't know when we will be okay again (how long) and she's not consistent about what happens after she is hurt (one time we had a really bad moment when she walked out on me and i chased her reaching for her hand until she got to the elevator. and then i tried to stop the elevator door once and then let it go. And then the next time we saw each other right after that, we were okay as if it never happened. but it's not always like that)

what's her moon/mars/mercury in?

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i don't know... i'm just hoping other people share their experiences so that i have at least an idea on what to expect?

Posted by Weeds
The first thing you want to do is let her not take what you say personal... I have known a cancer sun/pisces moon for 5 years.

If you want to talk about sensitivity....

That's not something that will change and you don't want to feel you have to walk on toes.

how was it? how are your experiences with the cancer you know?

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Posted by Weeds
The first thing you want to do is let her not take what you say personal... I have known a cancer sun/pisces moon for 5 years.

If you want to talk about sensitivity....

That's not something that will change and you don't want to feel you have to walk on toes.

how was it? how are your experiences with the cancer you know?

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I like to think of it like your getting to know 5 different people.

There are layers upon layers before you get to that core center.

Once you get to that core center you find its only two people.

On one hand there is a very soft sensitive warm hearted woman. But on the other hand she is a hard headed argumentative pain in my ass.

And these two people fluctuate so.... you can learn to roll with the tide they are on and adjust or not.

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Posted by Weeds
The first thing you want to do is let her not take what you say personal... I have known a cancer sun/pisces moon for 5 years.

If you want to talk about sensitivity....

That's not something that will change and you don't want to feel you have to walk on toes.

how was it? how are your experiences with the cancer you know?

I like to think of it like your getting to know 5 different people.

There are layers upon layers before you get to that core center.

Once you get to that core center you find its only two people.

On one hand there is a very soft sensitive warm hearted woman. But on the other hand she is a hard headed argumentative pain in my ass.

And these two people fluctuate so.... you can learn to roll with the tide they are on and adjust or not.

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i see. thanks for that. what i noticed about my caner is that she has a public persona (what she wants other people to perceive her) that is what i believed about her initially. and then as time passed i saw another side of her (that those things that she wants other people to perceive about her is not entirely true)... i don't mind that other side of her (that sensitive, passive aggressive, side, etc.) it's just that i have never experienced her like that and i have never experienced a person like her in my entire life... and sometimes i don't know what to do and what to expect... i've read that once you get to know a cancer woman, they are actually predictable... i just can't predict mine yet?

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Posted by Weeds
The first thing you want to do is let her not take what you say personal... I have known a cancer sun/pisces moon for 5 years.

If you want to talk about sensitivity....

That's not something that will change and you don't want to feel you have to walk on toes.

how was it? how are your experiences with the cancer you know?

I like to think of it like your getting to know 5 different people.

There are layers upon layers before you get to that core center.

Once you get to that core center you find its only two people.

On one hand there is a very soft sensitive warm hearted woman. But on the other hand she is a hard headed argumentative pain in my ass.

And these two people fluctuate so.... you can learn to roll with the tide they are on and adjust or not.

i see. thanks for that. what i noticed about my caner is that she has a public persona (what she wants other people to perceive her) that is what i believed about her initially. and then as time passed i saw another side of her (that those things that she wants other people to perceive about her is not entirely true)... i don't mind that other side of her (that sensitive, passive aggressive, side, etc.) it's just that i have never experienced her like that and i have never experienced a person like her in my entire life... and sometimes i don't know what to do and what to expect... i've read that once you get to know a cancer woman, they are actually predictable... i just can't predict mine yet?

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How long have you known her/dated?

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The first thing you want to do is let her not take what you say personal... I have known a cancer sun/pisces moon for 5 years.

If you want to talk about sensitivity....

That's not something that will change and you don't want to feel you have to walk on toes.

how was it? how are your experiences with the cancer you know?

I like to think of it like your getting to know 5 different people.

There are layers upon layers before you get to that core center.

Once you get to that core center you find its only two people.

On one hand there is a very soft sensitive warm hearted woman. But on the other hand she is a hard headed argumentative pain in my ass.

And these two people fluctuate so.... you can learn to roll with the tide they are on and adjust or not.

i see. thanks for that. what i noticed about my caner is that she has a public persona (what she wants other people to perceive her) that is what i believed about her initially. and then as time passed i saw another side of her (that those things that she wants other people to perceive about her is not entirely true)... i don't mind that other side of her (that sensitive, passive aggressive, side, etc.) it's just that i have never experienced her like that and i have never experienced a person like her in my entire life... and sometimes i don't know what to do and what to expect... i've read that once you get to know a cancer woman, they are actually predictable... i just can't predict mine yet?

How long have you known her/dated?

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6 years. i noticed how she changed towards me over time... year after year she got more sensitive to me than the year before... and her reactions to being hurt by what i said/do becomes more extreme too. at first when she is hurt she just says something that she thinks can hurt me and then the elevator thing happened late 2015 and it has been like that ever since (i feel that the emotions that she felt was stronger than before...that's why it's more extreme)

Posted by hollyhock
Cancers don't take accountability for themselves. At all. They will blame you for everything.

absolutely not. Being a cancer myself along with having a cancer best friend/many cancer friends, I feel that we are the ones who tend to take responsibility for everything and always apologize. I always take the blame and feel immense guilt if I feel like I've ever hurt anyone.

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The first thing you want to do is let her not take what you say personal... I have known a cancer sun/pisces moon for 5 years.

If you want to talk about sensitivity....

That's not something that will change and you don't want to feel you have to walk on toes.

how was it? how are your experiences with the cancer you know?

I like to think of it like your getting to know 5 different people.

There are layers upon layers before you get to that core center.

Once you get to that core center you find its only two people.

On one hand there is a very soft sensitive warm hearted woman. But on the other hand she is a hard headed argumentative pain in my ass.

And these two people fluctuate so.... you can learn to roll with the tide they are on and adjust or not.

i see. thanks for that. what i noticed about my caner is that she has a public persona (what she wants other people to perceive her) that is what i believed about her initially. and then as time passed i saw another side of her (that those things that she wants other people to perceive about her is not entirely true)... i don't mind that other side of her (that sensitive, passive aggressive, side, etc.) it's just that i have never experienced her like that and i have never experienced a person like her in my entire life... and sometimes i don't know what to do and what to expect... i've read that once you get to know a cancer woman, they are actually predictable... i just can't predict mine yet?

How long have you known her/dated?

6 years. i noticed how she changed towards me over time... year after year she got more sensitive to me than the year before... and her reactions to being hurt by what i said/do becomes more extreme too. at first when she is hurt she just says something that she thinks can hurt me and then the elevator thing happened late 2015 and it has been like that ever since (i feel that the emotions that she felt was stronger than before...that's why it's more extreme)

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It is a bit perplexing though... After that long she should be a lil callus towards anything unintentionally hurtful but instead she is more open and sensitive to it hmm.

Posted by scorpio04
i am in a relationship with a cancer woman and she is super sensitive to me (the slightest thing that i say/do hurts her even if i was just being honest with her). i am just worried right now that she might blame her sensitivity to me on me --- like she might say that i am intentionally trying to hurt her, but in reality the reason why she is hurt by what i said and did is because she is super sensitive to me now more than ever before... what i do when she is hurt is that i don't say/do that thing that hurt her again (when i notice that she was hurt by what i said/did) can you cancer women share your stories and experiences about being sensitive to a love one and what happened in your relationship? thanks!

Cancers are very sensitive yes (I'm one and I'm in a relationship with a cancer girl). Depending on other aspects I often think that cancers never stay hurt for too long. Is that the case with your girlfriend or does she hold grudges for a long time?

You say that she's getting more sensitive with time. Not knowing none of you my gut feeling tells me that she's missing something from your side. Something that will make secure with you - which doesn't seem to be the case otherwise she wouldn't be so sensitive. Cancers crave security even more in a long term relationship. You said that you've been together for six years? Have you talked about marriage and children? Do you live together? How old are both of you?

Posted by HaziiFlo
I don’t have the right to say cancers are sensitive because I’m highly sensitive and it takes a special man in my life to handle it right... lol

Between me and my cancer sister, we’re both cry babies. Our cap sun cap moon sister just ignores us.

The best you can do is place your ego aside and listen carefully to what she is saying because she most likely is talking with her emotions. Hug her, and give her a safe comfort environment to open up. Throwing more accusations or try to bring your reasoning/logic’s will only make it worse. You want her to trust you not throw you to the side. For people who are that sensitive, every word holds a vibration, it either makes us or breaks us. I have repeated certain words and/or phrases in my head because it hurt so bad. Those exact things you say, I’ll throw back at you when you least expect it.

when you and your sister feel hurt, how long do you feel that way? and what happened afterwards that made you guys feel better? thanks!

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Posted by Plutonian
cancer sun/moons can be so exhausting. Most of that "sensitivity" is just manipulation.

i always try to understand what's going on inside of her...i actually want to help her with her sensitivity. we haven't talked yet about it...her negative mood is really really bad sometimes...it makes me feel depressed..

Wait... Didn't you made a thread a couple of weeks ago about her?

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i think so? i have a lot of issues with her that i need help with. i make different threads because they are about different things that i am dealing with her at the moment. her sensitivity, her mood swings, her demanding attitude, her insecurities...

Scorpio i think if we knew what actually happened that made your cancer girl hurt, we might be able to give you a more direct answers on how to make it better or how long it takes to get over. words are powerful, not only to cancers but all people. what was actually said between you both when you noticed she became upset and mooody?

Posted by HaziiFlo
I think it would be a lie for cancers to say that they’re not sensitive, your moods change like the waves.

One of the most moody and irrational people on this board is a Cancer

I’m sensitive. I get emotional easy. I started to take a new pill. I think it will help. I hope. I think it’s caused trouble in my relationships. I just overthink everything. What I need from my boyfriends is to leave me alone for 15 mind then just hug me. Tell me it’s ok. And that’s it!

Hi Scorpio04.

I think I've read some of your threads about the cancer woman you are interested in. I believe, if I'm not mistaken she has some Leo on her chart too.

Well i'm a Cancer sun and my moon and ascendant are Leo. And I'm going through ups and downs with a Scorpio guy too. Hahaha 🤣 I've always liked him but I don't know if he likes me back and its just painful. But to answer your question heck yessss. I'm SUPER sensitive. I get hurt over the smallest things. Like if the Scorpio I like ignores me or acts like he doesn't care it makes me think he doesn't love me because Cancers are very insecure. I know I am. We don't like to feel like people are playing with us or taking us for granted. I'm also very proud and I think its my Leo moon. I will rather die in pain rather than put my feelings out there. Again because I don't want to get hurt. I'm sensitive and it hurts!!!

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Posted by Weeds
The first thing you want to do is let her not take what you say personal... I have known a cancer sun/pisces moon for 5 years.

If you want to talk about sensitivity....

That's not something that will change and you don't want to feel you have to walk on toes.

how was it? how are your experiences with the cancer you know?

I like to think of it like your getting to know 5 different people.

There are layers upon layers before you get to that core center.

Once you get to that core center you find its only two people.

On one hand there is a very soft sensitive warm hearted woman. But on the other hand she is a hard headed argumentative pain in my ass.

And these two people fluctuate so.... you can learn to roll with the tide they are on and adjust or not.

i see. thanks for that. what i noticed about my caner is that she has a public persona (what she wants other people to perceive her) that is what i believed about her initially. and then as time passed i saw another side of her (that those things that she wants other people to perceive about her is not entirely true)... i don't mind that other side of her (that sensitive, passive aggressive, side, etc.) it's just that i have never experienced her like that and i have never experienced a person like her in my entire life... and sometimes i don't know what to do and what to expect... i've read that once you get to know a cancer woman, they are actually predictable... i just can't predict mine yet?

How long have you known her/dated?

6 years. i noticed how she changed towards me over time... year after year she got more sensitive to me than the year before... and her reactions to being hurt by what i said/do becomes more extreme too. at first when she is hurt she just says something that she thinks can hurt me and then the elevator thing happened late 2015 and it has been like that ever since (i feel that the emotions that she felt was stronger than before...that's why it's more extreme)

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Heh, don’t take this the wrong way, but wtf? 6 years of LDR? (mentioned in your other threads)

Sure, you two both got problems...

Posted by MoonyEYES88
Scorpio i think if we knew what actually happened that made your cancer girl hurt, we might be able to give you a more direct answers on how to make it better or how long it takes to get over. words are powerful, not only to cancers but all people. what was actually said between you both when you noticed she became upset and mooody?

i just want to know in general what other people are experiencing with cancer women so that i have an idea and know what to expect in the future with mine... it's not every day she is upset and hurt...it's just that i have experienced her like that before and i want to be prepared next time it happens... like will this be our new normal, are cancers like this, what can i do if it ever happens again... what have other people who have experienced the same things did that i can do with my cancer...my ultimate goal is that she won't get hurt ever again but just in case it happens again i know what to do... unlike before when i first experienced her like that i didn't knew what to do... what i did was i literally just prayed about it and ask what should i do in prayer (no joke)

Posted by sweet_cancer
Hi Scorpio04.

I think I've read some of your threads about the cancer woman you are interested in. I believe, if I'm not mistaken she has some Leo on her chart too.

Well i'm a Cancer sun and my moon and ascendant are Leo. And I'm going through ups and downs with a Scorpio guy too. Hahaha 🤣 I've always liked him but I don't know if he likes me back and its just painful. But to answer your question heck yessss. I'm SUPER sensitive. I get hurt over the smallest things. Like if the Scorpio I like ignores me or acts like he doesn't care it makes me think he doesn't love me because Cancers are very insecure. I know I am. We don't like to feel like people are playing with us or taking us for granted. I'm also very proud and I think its my Leo moon. I will rather die in pain rather than put my feelings out there. Again because I don't want to get hurt. I'm sensitive and it hurts!!!

what happens when you're hurt? and what made you feel better?

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Did you learn anything from this thread Scorpio04?

No he just keeps begging for help in an unstable relationship. It's kinda annoying. I swear he is a libra

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Hi Scorpio04.

I think I've read some of your threads about the cancer woman you are interested in. I believe, if I'm not mistaken she has some Leo on her chart too.

Well i'm a Cancer sun and my moon and ascendant are Leo. And I'm going through ups and downs with a Scorpio guy too. Hahaha 🤣 I've always liked him but I don't know if he likes me back and its just painful. But to answer your question heck yessss. I'm SUPER sensitive. I get hurt over the smallest things. Like if the Scorpio I like ignores me or acts like he doesn't care it makes me think he doesn't love me because Cancers are very insecure. I know I am. We don't like to feel like people are playing with us or taking us for granted. I'm also very proud and I think its my Leo moon. I will rather die in pain rather than put my feelings out there. Again because I don't want to get hurt. I'm sensitive and it hurts!!!

what happens when you're hurt? and what made you feel better?

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Dude what actually did you DO? what did you say that you thought was being honest?

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Did you learn anything from this thread Scorpio04?

yeah a lot. thanks for asking. i learned that how long she will feel hurt and what i can do depends on what hurt her in the 1st place. at least i'm glad i can tell when she is hurt, so i guess that's a starting point of it all. when i noticed that she is hurt, i then try to figure out what she is hurt about and then i try to do my best to make her feel better. i don't feel good when she feels bad too. and i think that it's my responsibility to take care of her emotionally.

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Did you learn anything from this thread Scorpio04?

yeah a lot. thanks for asking. i learned that how long she will feel hurt and what i can do depends on what hurt her in the 1st place. at least i'm glad i can tell when she is hurt, so i guess that's a starting point of it all. when i noticed that she is hurt, i then try to figure out what she is hurt about and then i try to do my best to make her feel better. i don't feel good when she feels bad too. and i think that it's my responsibility to take care of her emotionally.

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Did it ever occur to you to ASK HER ..i feel you ignore cancers on here.

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Did you learn anything from this thread Scorpio04?

and i think that it's my responsibility to take care of her emotionally.

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it is ..you are not cut out for it though..

By the way if i found out my bf was asking for advice on a forum and saying I was too sensitive ....yeah ..that would hurt me....

OP you should stop THINKING she is too sensitive. SHe isn't ..she is just being herself....accept her...

That is the true answer to your problem.

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Did you learn anything from this thread Scorpio04?

yeah a lot. thanks for asking. i learned that how long she will feel hurt and what i can do depends on what hurt her in the 1st place. at least i'm glad i can tell when she is hurt, so i guess that's a starting point of it all. when i noticed that she is hurt, i then try to figure out what she is hurt about and then i try to do my best to make her feel better. i don't feel good when she feels bad too. and i think that it's my responsibility to take care of her emotionally.

Did it ever occur to you to ASK HER ..i feel you ignore cancers on here.

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yes i will. when we see each other again. to be really honest, when i learned that what i believed about her initially (that public persona of her) is not really true...i can't help but feel doubt sometimes about what she says after that... like when she says something, at the back of my mind i think "is it really true?" i'm still trying to figure out how to overcome that feeling of doubt....

Posted by LittleFairy
By the way if i found out my bf was asking for advice on a forum and saying I was too sensitive ....yeah ..that would hurt me....

i'm not saying that she is too sensitive nor am i complaining...i always tell her that i love her so much and that i appreciate her for who she is and i have never been mad at her.

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By the way if i found out my bf was asking for advice on a forum and saying I was too sensitive ....yeah ..that would hurt me....

i'm not saying that she is too sensitive nor am i complaining...i always tell her that i love her so much and that i appreciate her for who she is and i have never been mad at her.

Just to be fair, in the beginning it did seam like you were complaining & like it was turinung into a cancer hate thread.

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i see. i never meant it to seem like that way... i'm just being honest about our experiences and what i feel... i let her know those things too like i tell her that when she is acts mean it makes me feel sad... but i never asked her/i don't demand her to be a certain way. i never told her to stop being who she is or things like that..i just want to know what to do... i guess we've never had that heart to heart talk yet because our relationship has always been really great and we never fight. or at least i never fight back when she hurts me. everything started happening just last year... thanks for all of you guys inputs too. it helps.

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By the way if i found out my bf was asking for advice on a forum and saying I was too sensitive ....yeah ..that would hurt me....

i'm not saying that she is too sensitive nor am i complaining...i always tell her that i love her so much and that i appreciate her for who she is and i have never been mad at her.

Just to be fair, in the beginning it did seam like you were complaining & like it was turinung into a cancer hate thread.

.. i guess we've never had that heart to heart talk yet because our relationship has always been really great and we never fight.

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By the way if i found out my bf was asking for advice on a forum and saying I was too sensitive ....yeah ..that would hurt me....

i'm not saying that she is too sensitive nor am i complaining...i always tell her that i love her so much and that i appreciate her for who she is and i have never been mad at her.

Just to be fair, in the beginning it did seam like you were complaining & like it was turinung into a cancer hate thread.

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Now he is saying it's the perfect relationship and they never fight??

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By the way if i found out my bf was asking for advice on a forum and saying I was too sensitive ....yeah ..that would hurt me....

i'm not saying that she is too sensitive nor am i complaining...i always tell her that i love her so much and that i appreciate her for who she is and i have never been mad at her.

Just to be fair, in the beginning it did seam like you were complaining & like it was turinung into a cancer hate thread.

Now he is saying it's the perfect relationship and they never fight??

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it's true. we never fight. i never shout at her. i'm never violent with her. because i've been a subject of physical and verbal abuse since i was young. she just gets hurt and retaliates. and depending what i think made her feel hurt it's either i clarify to her what i meant in a gentle way, i say sorry to her, i don't do it again/i don't say it again. with this forum i am thinking "is there anything more that i can do besides what i have been doing; can i improve on the way i handle the situation when she is hurt; am i doing it right"

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Scorpio i think if we knew what actually happened that made your cancer girl hurt, we might be able to give you a more direct answers on how to make it better or how long it takes to get over. words are powerful, not only to cancers but all people. what was actually said between you both when you noticed she became upset and mooody?

i just want to know in general what other people are experiencing with cancer women so that i have an idea and know what to expect in the future with mine... it's not every day she is upset and hurt...it's just that i have experienced her like that before and i want to be prepared next time it happens... like will this be our new normal, are cancers like this, what can i do if it ever happens again... what have other people who have experienced the same things did that i can do with my cancer...my ultimate goal is that she won't get hurt ever again but just in case it happens again i know what to do... unlike before when i first experienced her like that i didn't knew what to do... what i did was i literally just prayed about it and ask what should i do in prayer (no joke)

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lol "pray"...ill admit it, im a sensitive ass cancer. sometimes to demise, but also to my benefit and the benefit of others, the door swings both ways on this. when im particularly upset with my SO its because he said something hurtful, or i feel unappreciated ....ok unloved lol. i may not always be logical on that last part lol. if its words, i need an apology and clarification on what was said. I am never the type that needs to win, more the type that needs to be understood. i tell him "when x,y,z was said it made me feel....." as long as i can see he's listening and not trying to dominate me with his capricorn ways then we get somewhere. hell usually throw an offer out on what he should do next time, or ask. in no way does he ever become submissive. thank goodness lol! my favorite trait in my closest friends is that a lot of them know when something is bothering me. they dont sweep it under the rug and try to distract me, what they do is ask me whats going on,without any sarcasm. its a non judgemental listening ear... this disarms me. hope you can find some use out of this post.

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By the way if i found out my bf was asking for advice on a forum and saying I was too sensitive ....yeah ..that would hurt me....

i'm not saying that she is too sensitive nor am i complaining...i always tell her that i love her so much and that i appreciate her for who she is and i have never been mad at her.

Just to be fair, in the beginning it did seam like you were complaining & like it was turinung into a cancer hate thread.

Now he is saying it's the perfect relationship and they never fight??

i'm never violent with her.

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lucky girl

It's either you that's the problem ..or her. I dunno which ..but if it's her leave. If it's you she will leave you.

Peace.

when i am hurt, and it's really bad, i just cry and pray to help me overcome the pain from being hurt. i don't retaliate, i don't take revenge.