Maianm's Breakdown (Page 8)

Whats the matter with you then?

I don't know

guys think I'm hot sure....but they don't LIKE me - there's a big difference......I'd prefer the latter......

Well do you think your attractive and possess a great personality?

You should take time to show them theres more to your 'hotness'.

I would love to - but they aren't interested in finding out more than that.
they just want to look at me....no need to talk or anything.....

Maybe try down playing the hotness a bit.

Are you sure you just overlook the guys that really want to get to know you??

I've done that....for a long time I never wore any make-up, I practically hid behind my hair and dressed VERY conservatively.....the only thing that changed was that I became even more self concious than I already was. And actually most people got mad at me because they thought I was just being self-deprecating.
I don't over look anyone, I get over-looked..... I'm always that girl some guy wants to date while he's waiting for someone better to come along.

and I don't care what ANYONE says - I'm not acting "cool and aloof" just to get someone's attention.....

"I'm always that girl some guy wants to date while he's waiting for someone better to come along."

What. Are you sure your hot then?

okay - this isn't helping.... I appreciate the thoughts on the subject - but the more I think about it the worse I feel..... I don't want to turn this into the "angelfish feels sorry for herself thread" - so on that note I think I'll go to bed.

Good night.

I didn't say I thought so..... I'm very self concious, but I'm not talking about what I think of myself - I'm talking about what other people - men specifically - say to me.

You should go after who you want then. Dont wait for JUST any man to approach you. Take what you want!

and I didn't mean better looking..... I'm the one they want to show off....not the one they want to curl up on the couch and watch a movie with - which incidentally is what I'd prefer to do more than anything else....except maybe a walk in the park at night or on the beach.... I'm a hopeless romantic....

ahhhh.....clearly you didn't read my thread when lady scorp revived it last night.....

May I suggest a pisces man then.

You should explain to these men that you are a homely kinda gal then. Love it or leave it.
Be more assertive and confident.

no I dont know which thread your speaking of.

pisces....no.... my last boyfriend [which was two years ago....] was a pisces.... he hurt me more than anyone else.....cheated on me and broke up with me - I met the girl before he broke up with me and at first I was nervous when he said there was someone at his place - then when I saw her I was relieb=ved....she was REALLY unnattractive and I thought there was no way he was cheating on me with her.... I was wonrg.....

Maybe its your personality....your lack of confidence shows. You need to work on yourself first.

Then find yourself a virgo.

the question for cansir thread - krobe and tiki accused me of being TOO aggressive - I really don't think I was ..... they also accused me of being "easy"... emotionally that is - but it;s still a negative connotation....

I broke up with my virgo ex because he had three other girlfriends....
no I'm not usually so down - it's just that I come in here and though I love everyone thy're great here - I feel so bad.... people are upset [and rightfully so !] because their guys are being distant or acting strange - but I'd be happy to have strange behavior be my boggest problem.
I'm usually very positive and people make the mistake of thinking I'm VERY confidant - I come off that way in general, but internally I'm not - what I say here I don't usually say to people.

Oh I know the emotionally easy types....its just as bad as being a whore.

The only thing is they arent in control of their relations.

I'm not sure what you mean notso - why do you think Im not "#1" ?

Well use your intuition and logic (clearly not your emotions) to weed out the men with ill motives towards you. Dont rush into anything. With time and patience the right one will be there for you.

well I tried to get them to explain how exactly I was being emotionally easy.... because I let a guy that I've known for four years [who is my best friend's brother] hug me ?

you have no idea how careful I am..... I don't date a guy until I've gotten to know him very well - I'm trusting with friendship and consideration, but not when it comes to romantic attachments. I usually don't even date guys I haven't known for years. And the guys that are soooooo good to their girlfriends and treat women so respectfully still treat me like I'm just there to amuse them.

I do think too much.

Hell...Use them then!

Get yours.

no...... I can't do that. I would feel guilty about it for the rest of my life - I'm not exaggerating

some guys dont know how to like women

I would say that was the case with my friend's brother...... I NEVER thought he was interested in me - I'd get so nervous around him because I really liked him but never considered him as an option for someone I'd date because....well.... I never thought he was interested.... when he started flirting with me I was COMPLETELY surprised.... and his sister said he doesn't act like that......but the very moment I let him know I was interested..... he acted like every other guy.....

which comments? I don't let them get to me - except when quo vadis was calling me a bogot....that really hurt my feelings...other wise it doesn't - the only thing that makes me sad is that I wish a little attention was the only thing I had to worry about.... it's not so much sad, I guess, jealus really.....

"some guys dont know how to like women"

ALOT of them dont...you cant blame them usually, there strategy has had to work at some point or another.

I know exactly what you're talkin about Angel. I had a convo with my Cancer about rejection and by the end of the convo it was sounding like I didnt like myself, but what I was really saying was that I understand everyone wont like me but that wont stop me from being me although I wish more people could appreciate what I have to offer (other than something nice to look at)

I meant bigot - I keep hitting the o when I mean to hit the i

youre right, it has worked and has gotten them what they wanted.

It could be in the way you carry yourself.
Not demure self deprecating like...but more stern and serious (dont fuck with me), but yet friendly to those who deserve it.

like I said - you are EXACTLY like me..... hee hee... and gorgeous too - lady M doesn't believe me - asked me if I'M sure I'm really hot ;0)

well, I know what you mean - but I'm really only serious and "don't fuck with me" when I feel like I'm being taken advantage of or or someone I care about is

Most of the good guys are intimidated by hotness...so we do have to deal with arrogant and crazies usually.

that too could be the issue notso.

I would agree with you, but that's why I asked cansir for advice - to see if I was only seeing what I wanted to see, also, my friend has her share of bad things to say about her brother - but she also thinks that when it comes to women he is the sweetest most respectful guy on earth - she suggested I should date him because he has the same problem with women that I have with men and she was absolutely convinced he liked me.....and so wqas everyone else who saw how he acted around me....that's why I was so surprised when things turned out the way they did....

I think he might like her but he had something else to deal with that right now is more important. I was interested in my Cancer guy from the day I met him, but twice...twice I got with my ex over him because I thought I was being loyal and dedicated. I felt really really bad about the situation, but at the time my ex and I had history and we shared a lot of experiences that ill probably never forget. But when I broke up with him the last time I really got him out of my system (unlike the other 2 times) so I was really ready to move on. I say give him time, you never know. I actually read something that said when Cancer and Taurus meet they are often in other relationships

when something like that happens to me I'm not usually surprised by it..... but this really shocked me.

okay but that's why I didn't get it - he was acting like he liied me - I would NEVER have thought he had a girlfriend - and I don't just mean flirting with me.... I mean things like being VERY sweet and attentive, and he works at abar, but he would act like I was the only person there and his customers were inconveniencing him ! and as I've mentioned, telling me things he won't even talk to his family about....

no - I don't cling - but I love being clinged to.

o jeez. A cancer should be just fine then.

lol yeah notso, I'll say we're clingy. But one can learn when to cling and when to let go

I think male taurus are clingy - I've noticed that about my friends husband and some other male taurus friend's I've had, and a taurus I dated once - but none of the female taurus I know are clingy

Angel I think its a case of unresolved feelings with his ex. hes interested in you but he's invested in her. I cant say it will turn around and yall will get another chance but I wouldnt think of it as he doesnt like you so much as he's being loyal and dedicated to an investment.