Posted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!
Posted by scopiooooPosted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptune
Having negative emotions =/= immaturity.
Posted by MoonbutterWhat does he mean?Posted by LadyNeptune
Having negative emotions =/= immaturity.
I think I know what he means by this....click to expand
Posted by scopiooooYou told her she’s immature??! Damn. No wonder she’s got some negative emotions.Posted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!click to expand
Posted by Moonbutter+1000Posted by scopiooooPosted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!
It took being with losers to appreciate a winner 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
Posted by scopiooooPosted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by MoonbutterWhat does he mean?Posted by LadyNeptune
Having negative emotions =/= immaturity.
I think I know what he means by this....click to expand
Posted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!
Errr if she's immature and you told her you'd never give up on her she could be testing you to see if it's true..click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneno i never said that to her. i did now knew before that she was an immature cancer only just now when i read about them. before she just seems like a baby to me. like with tantrums. when i read the description about immature cancers what she does makes perfect sense now. before i was very confused. i've never experienced a girl like her before in my entire life.Posted by scopiooooYou told her she’s immature??! Damn. No wonder she’s got some negative emotions.Posted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!click to expand
Posted by scopiooooDon’t believe everything you read online.Posted by LadyNeptuneno i never said that to her. i did now knew before that she was an immature cancer only just now when i read about them. before she just seems like a baby to me. like with tantrums. when i read the description about immature cancers what she does makes perfect sense now. before i was very confused. i've never experienced a girl like her before in my entire life.Posted by scopiooooYou told her she’s immature??! Damn. No wonder she’s got some negative emotions.Posted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!click to expand
Posted by Crabrais it possible to help her mature not with pain, but with love, patience, understanding and if i just talk to her about it like what you do with children? i've never done that yet.
Mature crabs are also negatively emotional and hypersensitive. They just don't bring the flood over every little thing like an unevolved Cancerian will.
Their shells need to develop and harden. This takes time, and as much as it sucks to say, pain. A Cancerian will never mature and grow until they learn how to process and compartmentalize every single emotion they experience, especially the negative ones. Depending on what they go through and other placements in their chart, this maturity can happen as early as the teens, or never.
Posted by Moonbutterthat's exactly my cancer.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by MoonbutterWhat does he mean?Posted by LadyNeptune
Having negative emotions =/= immaturity.
I think I know what he means by this....
I’m thinking he means being too sensitive, passive aggressiveness, neediness, moodinessclick to expand
Posted by Moonbutterhow long will her testing take until she realizes that i'm serious and not lying? (just curious)Posted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!
Errr if she's immature and you told her you'd never give up on her she could be testing you to see if it's true..
Yup.... 😐click to expand
Posted by scopiooooPosted by Crabrais it possible to help her mature not with pain, but with love, patience, understanding and if i just talk to her about it like what you do with children? i've never done that yet.
Mature crabs are also negatively emotional and hypersensitive. They just don't bring the flood over every little thing like an unevolved Cancerian will.
Their shells need to develop and harden. This takes time, and as much as it sucks to say, pain. A Cancerian will never mature and grow until they learn how to process and compartmentalize every single emotion they experience, especially the negative ones. Depending on what they go through and other placements in their chart, this maturity can happen as early as the teens, or never.click to expand
Posted by Yodi+1
Life experiences and time. Also honest and straightforward friendships/relationships..
Posted by scopiooooPosted by Crabrais it possible to help her mature not with pain, but with love, patience, understanding and if i just talk to her about it like what you do with children? i've never done that yet.
Mature crabs are also negatively emotional and hypersensitive. They just don't bring the flood over every little thing like an unevolved Cancerian will.
Their shells need to develop and harden. This takes time, and as much as it sucks to say, pain. A Cancerian will never mature and grow until they learn how to process and compartmentalize every single emotion they experience, especially the negative ones. Depending on what they go through and other placements in their chart, this maturity can happen as early as the teens, or never.click to expand
Posted by scopiooooI thought Scorpios are the one who test you, but Cancers do that to. Just be there for her, open up to her about your emotions and let her inside. Cancers need lot of assurance to come out of their shells.Posted by Moonbutterhow long will her testing take until she realizes that i'm serious and not lying? (just curious)Posted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by MoonbutterI'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!
Errr if she's immature and you told her you'd never give up on her she could be testing you to see if it's true..
Yup.... 😐click to expand
Posted by Arielle8347 years old. right now she blocks me on instagram to feel loved. she wants to be pursued. or when she is hurt by what i said, she blocks me on instagram and facebook.
How old is this "immature" cancer?
What does she need to change about herself, so you can fill satisfied she is on your level of "maturity"?
Posted by Arielle83doing this blocking thing that she does.Posted by scopiooooHow is she walking all over you?
somebody gave me advice about her to not let her walk all over me because if i let her do that, she will continue doing it. is that right?
So what do u do to make her stop?
How long you been together?click to expand
Posted by Arielle83she's super sensitive to me though. the slightest thing can hurt her even if what i was saying was not about her, she takes it personally and reacts to it. but what i do is that once i figure out what hurt her, i just don't say it again. and like i said i explain to her what i meant if i think that she misunderstood what i said. will she be open to talk about it to improve our situation? i've never done that before yet.
Of course it will get worse if you keep acting as the catalyst that makes her hurt.
You aren't learning from her distance.
Posted by WildatHeartLol we know why and that's why we let them be without us.Posted by Yodi
Life experiences and time. Also honest and straightforward friendships/relationships..
+1
Totally in agreement with this statement.
Pretty much we go through life alienating people until we figure out whyclick to expand
Posted by scopiooooIt's hard to say really but don't tolerate her behavior either.. she probably doesn't true you as of yetPosted by MoonbutterPosted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by Moonbutter
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!
I'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Errr if she's immature and you told her you'd never give up on her she could be testing you to see if it's true..
Yup.... 😐
how long will her testing take until she realizes that i'm serious and not lying? (just curious)click to expand
class="bqexpand"> Posted by Yodishe's actually very very demanding right now. if she does not get what she wants when she wants it, she gets passive aggressive. but i think it's because of her insecurities. she is afraid that i don't love her despite everything that i have gone through for her.Posted by scopiooooPosted by MoonbutterPosted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by Moonbutter
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!
I'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Errr if she's immature and you told her you'd never give up on her she could be testing you to see if it's true..
Yup.... 😐
how long will her testing take until she realizes that i'm serious and not lying? (just curious)
It's hard to say really but don't tolerate her behavior either.. she probably doesn't true you as of yet click to expandclick to expand
class="bqexpand"> Posted by Yodithanks. what i do with her is that when i feel that she's taking advantage of me i don't allow her to do that. when i know that i am right about a decision, she can't make me do the opposite just because she wants me to even if she is passive aggressive about it. i stand my ground. and eventually it turns out that i am right all along and i would feel glad i did not followed what she wants. it's just that her passive aggressiveness gets worse over time. i've read that cancers are manipulative emotionally. maybe this is more true for an immature cancer. if what she wants is reasonable, pure and genuine, i give it to her. but if i feel that she just wants something on a whim for no good reason i explain to her why my decision is the way that it is and i don't budge no matter how passive agressive she is. am i doing it right?Posted by scopiooooPosted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by MoonbutterPosted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by Moonbutter
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!
I'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Errr if she's immature and you told her you'd never give up on her she could be testing you to see if it's true..
Yup.... 😐
how long will her testing take until she realizes that i'm serious and not lying? (just curious)
It's hard to say really but don't tolerate her behavior either.. she probably doesn't true you as of yet click to expand
she's actually very very demanding right now. if she does not get what she wants when she wants it, she gets passive aggressive. but i think it's because of her insecurities. she is afraid that i don't love her despite everything that i have gone through for her.
Ok im going to break it down into two scenarios based on me and how I used to act or still do lol.
1. If she's not into you.. she knows you'll let her get away with treating you like ish so she does it. If I know you'll jump when I ask imma keep asking. If she doesn't apologize later then she's playing you.
Think of it as "you're not yourself when you're hungry".. if you snap at a love one when you're hungry then after you've ate you regret how you acted so apologize..make sense?
2. If she loves you.. she probably just want some reassurance. A I miss you or I'm thinking about you text will cool her down. You need to have a heart to heart with her and own up to your faults in the pass so she can let go of it and start a new again.
To resolve #1.. I personally like it when my dude put me in my place in a nice way. it's all about how you say it..
Ex: yodi your acting like a brat and it's turning me off stop that ish or call me when you act right.
she might not text back in a day or two but she's reflecting.
I don't know ya'll so it's hard to not talk about my own experiences with men and how i grew out of it..
Ps: I'm still kinda like that 🤫 but I'm aware of it 😂😂 click to expandclick to expand
Posted by scopiooooThat's perfect.. the fact that you explain why its a no and not just a flat out no is great.Posted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by MoonbutterPosted by YodiPosted by scopiooooPosted by Moonbutter
Everyone is different, but it took me some failed relationships to rid myself of acting out so emotionally and following my ID all the time. Good luck!
I'm willing to stick it out with her and i told her that i will never give up on her and i guess i'm trying to help her get past her immature stage. Do you think that would help? What happened with your failed relationships?
Errr if she's immature and you told her you'd never give up on her she could be testing you to see if it's true..
Yup.... 😐
how long will her testing take until she realizes that i'm serious and not lying? (just curious)
It's hard to say really but don't tolerate her behavior either.. she probably doesn't true you as of yet click to expand
she's actually very very demanding right now. if she does not get what she wants when she wants it, she gets passive aggressive. but i think it's because of her insecurities. she is afraid that i don't love her despite everything that i have gone through for her.
Ok im going to break it down into two scenarios based on me and how I used to act or still do lol.
1. If she's not into you.. she knows you'll let her get away with treating you like ish so she does it. If I know you'll jump when I ask imma keep asking. If she doesn't apologize later then she's playing you.
Think of it as "you're not yourself when you're hungry".. if you snap at a love one when you're hungry then after you've ate you regret how you acted so apologize..make sense?
2. If she loves you.. she probably just want some reassurance. A I miss you or I'm thinking about you text will cool her down. You need to have a heart to heart with her and own up to your faults in the pass so she can let go of it and start a new again.
To resolve #1.. I personally like it when my dude put me in my place in a nice way. it's all about how you say it..
Ex: yodi your acting like a brat and it's turning me off stop that ish or call me when you act right.
she might not text back in a day or two but she's reflecting.
I don't know ya'll so it's hard to not talk about my own experiences with men and how i grew out of it..
Ps: I'm still kinda like that 🤫 but I'm aware of it 😂😂 click to expand
thanks. what i do with her is that when i feel that she's taking advantage of me i don't allow her to do that. when i know that i am right about a decision, she can't make me do the opposite just because she wants me to even if she is passive aggressive about it. i stand my ground. and eventually it turns out that i am right all along and i would feel glad i did not followed what she wants. it's just that her passive aggressiveness gets worse over time. i've read that cancers are manipulative emotionally. maybe this is more true for an immature cancer. if what she wants is reasonable, pure and genuine, i give it to her. but if i feel that she just wants something on a whim for no good reason i explain to her why my decision is the way that it is and i don't budge no matter how passive agressive she is. am i doing it right?click to expand
Posted by Keresthanks for your story. congratulations!
For me it was being on my own. An immature Cancerian will rely on people close to them to take care of them. I stupidly married my high school boyfriend, so my dependence on my mother transferred to my then-husband. We split up right after our daughter turned one, and I moved back in with my mother because I didn't have a job (I was a stay-at-home mom), so my dependence transferred right back to her. I got a job, though, and when I was able, moved out. That was the first time I had ever lived on my own, and I was 26 with a 2-year-old depending on me for her livelihood. I matured as a result of necessity. I didn't have a choice, because there's no room for failure as a single parent. I worked hard to be the best mom for my baby girl, and along the way I figured out who I am and what my place in this world is. Best of all I became someone I'm proud to be. Fast forward 6 years later, my now 8-year-old is thriving, I have a career, and I'm getting married. 😃
Sometimes it takes a nice dose of reality for people to grow up. I think that's the key with Cancerians. As long as there's someone to "mother us" (so-to-speak), why change?
Posted by CrabraVery well said.
Mature crabs are also negatively emotional and hypersensitive. They just don't bring the flood over every little thing like an unevolved Cancerian will.
Their shells need to develop and harden. This takes time, and as much as it sucks to say, pain. A Cancerian will never mature and grow until they learn how to process and compartmentalize every single emotion they experience, especially the negative ones. Depending on what they go through and other placements in their chart, this maturity can happen as early as the teens, or never.
Posted by scopiooooThis is a great question. Unevolved Cancers always get talked about for mood swings and hypersensitivity, but once we evolve, we're stable and awesome. First, how old are you guys? Some maturity will come from age alone. I'm also a guy, so my personal experience was likely a little different.
What does it take for an immature cancer to mature? I'm in love with an immature cancer. She fits the description very well --- every emotion is a negation of the last, hypersensitive, etc. I'm just wondering what does it take for an immature cancer to mature? Are there any cancer women out there who experienced this (immature to mature?) What happened? She is my first love and I have never been in a relationship before with anyone else. Thanks!
Posted by Triple_CPosted by scopioooo
What does it take for an immature cancer to mature? I'm in love with an immature cancer. She fits the description very well --- every emotion is a negation of the last, hypersensitive, etc. I'm just wondering what does it take for an immature cancer to mature? Are there any cancer women out there who experienced this (immature to mature?) What happened? She is my first love and I have never been in a relationship before with anyone else. Thanks!
This is a great question. Unevolved Cancers always get talked about for mood swings and hypersensitivity, but once we evolve, we're stable and awesome. First, how old are you guys? Some maturity will come from age alone. I'm also a guy, so my personal experience was likely a little different.
As soon as school--even college involves development and social influences--ends, people usually do well in terms of finally finding themselves. Things to build confidence are exercise and--if necessary--cosmetic surgery. (No, I'm not hating on your girlfriend, don't worry. I don't know what she looks like, but a lot of people feel better and much more confident after they get some plastic surgery). What's important is just that SHE feels confident.
As for hypersensitivity, I figured out how to do that myself. She first has to realize that she is not the only one who has to listen to little remarks here and there that could be deemed "hurtful" or "unnecessary." Everyone deals with it. It's just that other people don't care. So... instead of sitting around and being introverted about it and waiting for some annoying extrovert to say something that upsets her, she should try to be more extroverted herself. This part was only difficult at first for me. I never wanted to be one of those people who said annoying things and didn't think before I spoke myself, but once I became one, I never looked back. I'm still a little more conscientious than most extroverts, but I am nevertheless not one who holds back now. If she can't beat them, she has to join them, in other words. Tell her to speak as freely as they speak and to realize that other people operate from a different level of sensitivity. If she can bridge that gap, she will be fine. click to expandclick to expandclick to expand
Posted by scopiooooit takes 1 broken heart
What does it take for an immature cancer to mature? I'm in love with an immature cancer. She fits the description very well --- every emotion is a negation of the last, hypersensitive, etc. I'm just wondering what does it take for an immature cancer to mature? Are there any cancer women out there who experienced this (immature to mature?) What happened? She is my first love and I have never been in a relationship before with anyone else. Thanks!
Posted by butterfly30thank you for that. I'm an evolved scorpio. I am focused on healing. I am never vengeful and never angry nor manipulative or controlling. I never shout at her nor have i been violent with her ever. It's just that most of the time she misinterprets things in a very intense way that she overreacts. before she was not like this. but as time passes on, her reaction gets worse and worse. I thought that maybe the reason for that is because what she feels is stronger now than before and i actually see it as a good thing --- it shows to me that she feels strongly about me. it's just that sometimes it's out of control...like she can't control it? I always wonder how can I help her calm down. Is there a way for me to help her calm her intense emotions.
Sound like me and my scorp relationship years ago..we at the end now. About to be done with his ass..but we dealt with the same problems.
I would go in my shell when he piss me off. He always said I was sensitive. He would sware that he was changing but he just change the way he done certain behavior. Funny thing was he was very sensitive himself but called me sensitive. I was very clear at the beginning of the butter I don't like. Which made him feel controlled...I found out how bad that was for him years later. He felt like with me he had to tiptoe around me. And I felt like it was me demanding respect and protecting myself. But in reality he really wasn't changing behavior he just change the way he did it..or found a new way of doing the same butter. Scorpio are real rebellious and manipulative.. They resist change. Scorpio like to be in control...and they will not admit that. Cancer like to be in control of there emotions. The same butter I complain about he didn't like it being done to himself..because i would mirror his behavior to show him my side of it but he would claim it's not the same or see my side but turn around do the same behavior. There was things that he cool down on for my benefit but years later I heard how those things affect him..it was him secretly holding this anger inside because he couldn't behave the way he wanted too..which I have a deeper theory on what that was all about...too.
I not saying I was perfect..but just wanted to let you hear the other perspective of a similar situation.
Posted by scopiooooYou said most of the times she misinterpret things then overreact. ..what things? Is it the samethings all of the time? Did you every change your delivery so she can receive it better? Did you ever talk about what going on with communication that make you both not on the same page?Posted by butterfly30
Sound like me and my scorp relationship years ago..we at the end now. About to be done with his ass..but we dealt with the same problems.
I would go in my shell when he piss me off. He always said I was sensitive. He would sware that he was changing but he just change the way he done certain behavior. Funny thing was he was very sensitive himself but called me sensitive. I was very clear at the beginning of the butter I don't like. Which made him feel controlled...I found out how bad that was for him years later. He felt like with me he had to tiptoe around me. And I felt like it was me demanding respect and protecting myself. But in reality he really wasn't changing behavior he just change the way he did it..or found a new way of doing the same butter. Scorpio are real rebellious and manipulative.. They resist change. Scorpio like to be in control...and they will not admit that. Cancer like to be in control of there emotions. The same butter I complain about he didn't like it being done to himself..because i would mirror his behavior to show him my side of it but he would claim it's not the same or see my side but turn around do the same behavior. There was things that he cool down on for my benefit but years later I heard how those things affect him..it was him secretly holding this anger inside because he couldn't behave the way he wanted too..which I have a deeper theory on what that was all about...too.
I not saying I was perfect..but just wanted to let you hear the other perspective of a similar situation.
thank you for that. I'm an evolved scorpio. I am focused on healing. I am never vengeful and never angry nor manipulative or controlling. I never shout at her nor have i been violent with her ever. It's just that most of the time she misinterprets things in a very intense way that she overreacts. before she was not like this. but as time passes on, her reaction gets worse and worse. I thought that maybe the reason for that is because what she feels is stronger now than before and i actually see it as a good thing --- it shows to me that she feels strongly about me. it's just that sometimes it's out of control...like she can't control it? I always wonder how can I help her calm down. Is there a way for me to help her calm her intense emotions. click to expandclick to expand
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