Need advice.

I'm an Aquarius, my boyfriend is a Leo. Everything. Between us has been completely perfect, he told me he loved me for the first time on Christmas. Then New Year's Eve I started to doubt if he was telling me the truth that night about something, so I asked him about it. Well on Monday he left for work fine kept saying he loved me and kept kissing me, and then all the sudden he told me he felt like every move was being watched and he wanted us to take a step back and not live together this quickly. Said he's definitely not breaking up with me and that he loves me and I'm not losing him, but yet he's been distant..... not very talkative. I feel like I've already lost him? Have I? 😢 it's breaking my heart

Any thoughts?

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Did you reciprocate the I love you?

 "... then all the sudden he told me he felt like every move was being watched and he wanted us to take a step back and not live together this quickly"

How did you respond?

Ps Do you have his Mars and Venus- possibly Mercury placements...

HI told him I loved him back. And things were amazing until I let my past hurt make me question something he did and that's when he pulled away. I'm just scared because he says he's not breaking up with me and he loves me but yet he's very distant and doesn't really talk to me all day. I finally told him I was sorry I let my past affect him and I and that I was gonna prove that I love him and I trust him. But also that I was gonna give him some space. I hope that he loves me enough to come back but I'm not gonna lie I'm scared. I've never loved anyone like I love him

I don't wanna lose him!

I don't know his placements or mine @ wagtail

It's been about 14 hours since he text me last. I'm beginning to wonder if he will come back? ? I miss him like crazy

Posted by JennyRae
It's been about 14 hours since he text me last. I'm beginning to wonder if he will come back? ? I miss him like crazy

Gurl get a damn grip. You gonna overkill yourself he'll be back. He loves you so he'll be back. Leos are fucking hard at needing space and time to evaluate certain decisions and outcomes. Esp when we give it our all and things dont go the way we planned it in our crazy imaginative head. Then come stress so we try to bounce before things get our nerves (fire) up, like I said go think and clear our heads. But the lovin always comes back after a fresh breezey walk and space to be feelin ourselves again.

Posted by JennyRae
It's been about 14 hours since he text me last. I'm beginning to wonder if he will come back? ? I miss him like crazy

There are so many reasons why I'm not qualified to give you advice, but, I can only imagine from my own perspective a week or so for processing my feelings and rationalizing any doubts or hurt would seem reasonable.

Perhaps longer.

Doesn't mean anything has changed.

Either way, I would expect him to reach out first, unless you flick him a message about something completely unrelated to your issues- an article he'd read, or a funny cat video etc

But don't take my word for it.

I'm sure it'll work out, still early days 🙂

Your right! I need to breathe and relax! And have faith in what he says. If he truely loves me like he says he will be back but it may take a few days. He's in the air force so he's under a lot of stress too.

it was my past that I let get to me. I was married to a man for 8 years that cheated on me and lied to me all the time was also abusive in many different ways so sometimes I let that effect my future because I don't trust easily and I questioned my new man on something I thought he was lying to me about and he got upset. Told me he doesn't blame me because he knows I been hurt in the past but that we needed to take a step back and not live together yet. He called me and told me he was not gone from my life for good and that he loves me he said do you think I just fell out of love that quick?! Then the next day he messaged me a tiny bit threw the day and then all the sudden nothing..... that's why I'm scared. I just hope he means what he said about me not losing him.

That is true! Leoww! Same thing my dad said is that he's not my ex and I need to trust again until I'm given a reason not to. I told him what I been threw and that I have a hard time trusting and to be patient, he said he understood and that's why I haven't lost him, I guess the not hearing anything from him makes me feel like I have. But I agree he needs time. I just don't know how long to go before I message him again, I don't wanna push him away more.

I'm just gonna have faith and give him time. That's all I can do! And pray he returns

Raeann is my middle name

Still no message from him and it's been about 40 hours. How much time does this Leo need? Do other Leo's do this to their girlfriends when they need time!

Posted by JennyRae
Still no message from him and it's been about 40 hours. How much time does this Leo need? Do other Leo's do this to their girlfriends when they need time!

Sounds like it's popping off way to strong and the honey moon phase is wearing off. 40 hours is he working?

Does he have kids? Does he have a woman?

Everyone man child woman has been through things and he acting like that would even my aqua and cardinal ish energy change because now you just might not trust him enough.

Don't move in whatever you do.

Take this time and independence day to self reflect and really find out what the problem is really.

He's my boyfriend and yes he works he's in the Air Force. But should I start to worry about whether he's coming back or just give him more time?! This is not how you treat your girlfriend who you say you love.

This was my last message to him on Tuesday night.



Hey babe, I'm headed to bed but I wanted you to know I let go of the past and It will not be affecting my future with you any longer and I'm sorry I kinda pushed you away I little. Hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me and we can move on from this. I am gonna give you some space, I know your going threw a lot with work, your health and anxiety and I'm sure I didn't help things. That's my bad. I trust you and what you say to me so I will give you time and just be patient. I'm here when your ready for us to pick things back up. Know that I do love you dearly and you'll always be on my mind. Starting today I have some proving to do! ?

This was his first messages to me



(1/4) A lot of what you said is how I've been feeling. The last couple days I have just felt a Lil smothered, like every last move, action I do is being watched(2/4) under a microscope. I know you don't mean to and that's what I'm trying to get over, its not your fault, thats what being hurt by others can do to people(3/4) . Am I breaking up with you?! Hell no!! But I think we need to take a step back for sure. I truly don't think us living together isn't a good idea this qu ickly, I'm going to keep looking for a place for me and we will just take a step back. I still have a lot of myself to continue fixing.Please don't think this means I don't love you cause I do!! No you're not losing me! I promise you!!

He talked to me I little the day after this which was Tuesday and then the last message I got said.....

I wish, I'm in such a bad mood right now, still at work :/

That was the last message then at bedtime I told him I would give him some space and I still haven't heard a word. I wanna believe he does still love me and he will be back but it's hard not hearing from him at all it makes me doubt the relationship and his love

He promised you! Have faith in that.

He left because he felt you were not trusting him and/or smothering him. Now all you have to do is give him space and trust that he will come back to you! Relax! Take it as a test to prove him and yourself that you changed. You can do it!

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Posted by JennyRae
I'm just gonna have faith and give him time. That's all I can do! And pray he returns

If this is what you are genuinely feeling. You are undervaluing yourself. I don't know this man he could be lovely or not. But your instinct told you something. And you brought it up. And he became distant.

Don't ignore the gut feeling for fear of being punished with being frozen out. That is not healthy.

Wait to see what this man is like. If he is lovely all will be well :-) He probably is. But just pay attention to your feelings..your gut all of them.

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Yes!!! What she said!.... U shouldn't feel punished for being cautious of your heart. I don't think there's anything wrong in communicating your concerns. I personally would have observed the situation in question more before acting on it or confronting him about it. But hey, being hurt and betrayed is not a great feeling,as u stated, you've been hurt before,so that was just your mind defensively coming into play in attempts to protect your heart. Which is only an affect of what you've been thru in the past. How long were you out of the abusive relationship before u started one with the Leo? Often times we need a healing period after a broken relationship.

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Im telling you my bro is a Leo there could be a third party involved here.

Yeah from experience, if a Leo steps back 9 times out of 10 he is second guessing because either there is someone else or they've came to the conclusion that the person isn't the one. They don't like to hurt people's feelings so you have to watch his actions more than his words.

@Op No one likes to fight or argue, but if you do it now you can truly test yourself and him. if you both can come to an mutual understanding and do what's best for you both. He's spacing out you have to do you now too.

So he's not your boyfriend because he's planning to move by him self anything can happen.

You @op have to change your self and he's giving the opportunity but no who loves someone like that would just be all of a sudden smothered and don't want to work it out. But it's you both.

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Posted by Undine
Take it as a test to prove him and yourself that you changed. You can do it!

Hi Undine. I love your pic.

That post however just doesn't seem like a good idea to me. At the very least they should be talking about the issue etc. They need to discuss. Not be distant. If there was a secret or an issue you talk not go distant. Talking and communication is the way to build trust. I agree watching etc ...smothering not healthy ..but talking. That is but distance is not.

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I love your pic more 🙂!

They could talk after a period of cooling. I don't think there is any secret waiting to be revealed.

Maybe a plan about what to do next. Compromise...

My Gem loved his ex ( an Aqua like the OP) very much...he gave her access to his phone, computer and everything..... He gave up on dancing socially (his hobby) because she could not stand the thought of him touching another woman. He deleted all his female friends on FB at her request. He was not allowed to pick up his kids from his ex wife without her....Yet she was still jealous all the time...including about things he could not change, like his past, lol! Some people want to control their SO because they cannot control themselves.

He just messaged me..... he said hi baby! Sorry I didn't text you yesterday it's been crazy, how are you?! I love you baby!!

Good luck @Op

It's crazyness! This push and pull thing. I feel on guard now with him now tho

Jesus Christ you need to believe him when he is opening up to you and you need to trust that when he needs space that it's going to make your relationship flourish even more, sometimes we need to pull back and just have some alone time to take in, register, savour all the emotions that are going on, it's ok to be insecure now and then but don't let your insecurities be a dominating force in your relationship otherwise he's going to think you're not ready to move on from your last relationship and will be thinking why your ex is still getting your energy...

Just chill out and do something for yourself, hair, nails etc.....treat yo self !

Worst thing an Aquarius can do is not trust their gut. There is a reason you felt uneasy. Any man that loves you wouldn't keep you waiting like that.