Question for Leo girls

So, why do you always want your bf to text first, and if he doesn't do that, you will not text either for days, even months...but then when you see him, you will be like, where do you stand, what is up between you two, and all that. I mean, that girl was like, it doesn't matter who text first, I do not look on that, I am not a kid...but if I don't text first, she will not either. And I know that she is attracted to me, cause she pulled my hand in the club to ask me why I do not text and all that, wtf. I mean, I do not want to text always first, to seem like I chase, or to appear one sided.

Pride and the feeling of "i'm a queen, i don't call, he must, i deserve it, because if he doesn't there's 10 other guys that want my number".

You can substitute pride from above with fear of rejection and the damage it does to pride.

Yeah, she even hasn't talked with her mother for months after some verbal fight, even she wanted badly, but she was like, she must call first, lmao. Yet, she denies that she looks like who texted first or hasn't...but ofc, she lies. I mean, I knew what it is, but at least admit it. They would rather let the guy go even if they want him badly instead of texting him first, lol. And yeah, that queen behavior, they are the best at everything, better than you...yeah right. 😄

I mean, I know if I text, it would probably be like it was relationship wise, but it would also mean that I must often text first, which I am not willing to do, lol.

So are you her bf?

Well, yeah, I sent her text now, so, if she didn't went cold, or found someone new, then who knows, maybe we will see each other...I mean, fire signs has their limit, and once they get cold, they lose interest. About stubborness, no doubt, haha. Last leo girl I was with also has the same traits...not texting first, pride no.1, if you offend them, and they can easily be offended, then...rip, haha. You must feed their ego often, which sagi are not so willing to do, haha.

@LadyNeptune - I guess I was...I mean, we were together since august, and saw each other regularly, I mean, when we could...but then after her not texting first, I didn't text, and saw her after 2 weeks, she wanted my attention again, and asked where we stand...so we continued seeing each other...but then again, the same problem, but now we didn't text each other for one month, and I texted first now, lmao.

Better question, why are you worried about texting her? You should be calling her and setting dates, not giving her the silent treatment. Playing power games and trying to outpride a Leo won't work well.

It's obvious your lack of texting didn't immediately ruin the connection (though your lack of effective communication may have). She's asking why you don't text becase she is used to guys chasing/texting. Leos are accustomed to receiving attention after all. A guy who doesn't do this is probably unique to her, so she's questioning it. Even if she doesn't receive a lot of attention, she still has her pride. She doesn't want to appear too eager by texting first.

Leos also aren't the greatest texters. I say this personally as a Leo who has texted Leo women. Leo women are typically better at it than Leo men, but Leos are busy people. To some of us texting just feels annoying and childish, though not all of us share this sentiment. It's just an extra, time consuming obligation in addition the myriad of things we are trying to juggle. A Leo women will talk your head off in person or on the phone, but texting can be hit or miss.

If you want to make things easier, CALL her. Stop wasting time playing texting games, it's just manipulative. Calling is a far more direct and stronger means to communicate. It will get her attention a lost faster than texting too. When you call, don't sit there chit chatting. Ask her out, set a solid date and time, and then wait to see her. You're the man after all, it's your job to initiate and set dates. Save the chatter for the actual date.

Venus sign probably has a part to play in it too but I think it's insecurity and not knowing where we stand with someone. I've been that way with most guys. It never starts that way but ends up like that. I'm not like that with my current relationship because I know he likes me heaps even when we fight or I do something to piss him off. I know he's not leaving so I'm not insecure that way.

But this is how the thinking goes..

If someone says I gotta go call you later.. i actually expect them to. If they don't i think they don't want to talk to me yet so I wait for them to call me first.

If i call someone and they say they're busy, i think they should call me when they're free because i don't want to impose or inconvenience them again.

If someone acts cool and aloof or change their behavior, i put my walls up and detach because i think they don't like me very much anymore.

I think today's dating scene you expect something solid but find you get stuck in situationships or fwb instead. So you have to put your walls up or detach because the other person doesn't make their intentions clear and you don't want to end up hurt

@Chuckcem - Yeah, I agree that texts are for setting up the dates, while chatting is for the date. Anyway, I texted, she replied later, like, using positive emoticons, we texted 2 hours almost, lmao...not on purpose, it's just we didn't heard each other for one month, but I set up the coffee for tuesday. She was like so busy after her trip, so many things happened, this and that...so as I thought, it would be like it was, lol. And ofc, she didn't want to admit about first text message, but it was obvious. 😄

@Elissar18 - Thanks for the insight, we joked through the texts, it was easy going, so yeah, we will see each other soon. 🙂