I have read we are an unlikely match but have the makings of a wonderful relationship, I just would like to know how you got started and some common issues in the relationship? Thanks in adavance!
Any Libras in happy relationships with a Taurus?
I have a Libra moon. My best friend is a Taurus. Honestly we just get each other and love each other immensely. She's my person. It's kind of other worldy. If our friendship is this deep then I'm sure that a relationship between the two would work.
Posted by -Flo-Well thank you ☺️
You are adorable.
Posted by MissLadyIceQueenI've just never seen it, I have never met a libra Taurus couple, my cousin is a Taurus female and we used to be very close now she has burned her bridge with me. I have a Taurus male in my life but I don't think a relationship will come of it because that's not what is wanted but there are traits that I find attractive about him and I'd like to keep an open mind when it comes signs that I find certain things attractive
I have a Libra moon. My best friend is a Taurus. Honestly we just get each other and love each other immensely. She's my person. It's kind of other worldy. If our friendship is this deep then I'm sure that a relationship between the two would work.
Posted by KingPinkyThanks @shadowcat for the nomination. 😄
I have read we are an unlikely match but have the makings of a wonderful relationship, I just would like to know how you got started and some common issues in the relationship? Thanks in adavance!
Yes! I'm in a happy relationship with a Taurus.
We started as friends. I had met him by chance, we became friends and then that slowly turned into a relationship.
Common issues as in problems with the relationship? Ummm, I think initially his slow pace really threw me. I wasnt sure if he was interested, I didn't understand why he wouldn't take things forward with me.
I had my own flaws with being flighty. I called it quits practically every month for about the first 6 months.
More personally, I didn't truly commit myself to the relationship for nearly a year. I was always ready to bolt. I don't think I made myself completely vulnerable for a long time. I think though that was my venus in scorpio at play rather than my Libra sun.
I find a place where we diverge is how we tackle problems. I will find a solution and try it. He will play things out. His strategy is to outlast whatever comes his way. I think that the difference between being fixed and being cardinal.
On the up side, it's just a great relationship. Every day it gets that little bit better. I can easily say today, I am the happiest with the relationship that I have ever been. We no longer fight. The last fight we had was over 2 years ago. We disagree with each other but then talk it out and it gets resolved really quickly.
He's my best friend. I'd take a bullet for him.
Posted by KingPinkyI definitely wouldn't date my best friend(we tried that already) , but she's one of the people in this world that I love the most, as does she me. I think it could work if there's other things. One thing is for sure though this pair makes for some fantastic friends.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenI've just never seen it, I have never met a libra Taurus couple, my cousin is a Taurus female and we used to be very close now she has burned her bridge with me. I have a Taurus male in my life but I don't think a relationship will come of it because that's not what is wanted but there are traits that I find attractive about him and I'd like to keep an open mind when it comes signs that I find certain things attractive
I have a Libra moon. My best friend is a Taurus. Honestly we just get each other and love each other immensely. She's my person. It's kind of other worldy. If our friendship is this deep then I'm sure that a relationship between the two would work.click to expand
Posted by tizianiSorry to hear you're no longer together Tiz.
I'm not in a relationship with a Taurus. I was for just under the last two years and it's fair to say we're both still happy, we both still talk and run our plans by each other each day. She said we we're best friends and i guess she was right, that's showing right now in how we support each other.
Common issues are like anyone: communication.
These are two Venusian signs. It can get very hedonistic, which is when we're at our most productive. But that can also mean there are no boundaries, where both people feel to say "whatever they want" on the moment and forget to take some space to respect where each other is coming from as individuals. Anytime we hurt each other we both immediately regretted it after, as it felt like hurting ourselves. It shows care for the other person, but again a trouble distinguishing between where One person ends and the other begins. That's because we shared absolutely everything with each other. Interests, stories, gifts, experiences. I have hundreds, maybe into the thousands, of pictures, video, designs of her, based on her, wrote a hell of a lot of works about her as she was also my muse.
I'm a big advocate of these two signs in a relationship and of inconjunct romance in general.
My Taurus aunt has a Libra husband. All she does is bitch and moan about him some days then on other days he is her darling man. IDK how that works. lol!
Posted by jeaneThat sounds like me lmao, I used to get into relationships and the first sight of trouble and I am bound to run, I'm trying to change that about myself, I can easily detach from someone. It confuses people because I am so warm and caring and then I am cold and distant and it's normally because they changed up first or showed behavior I did not approve of.Posted by KingPinkyThanks @shadowcat for the nomination. 😄
I have read we are an unlikely match but have the makings of a wonderful relationship, I just would like to know how you got started and some common issues in the relationship? Thanks in adavance!
Yes! I'm in a happy relationship with a Taurus.
We started as friends. I had met him by chance, we became friends and then that slowly turned into a relationship.
Common issues as in problems with the relationship? Ummm, I think initially his slow pace really threw me. I wasnt sure if he was interested, I didn't understand why he wouldn't take things forward with me.
I had my own flaws with being flighty. I called it quits practically every month for about the first 6 months.
More personally, I didn't truly commit myself to the relationship for nearly a year. I was always ready to bolt. I don't think I made myself completely vulnerable for a long time. I think though that was my venus in scorpio at play rather than my Libra sun.
I find a place where we diverge is how we tackle problems. I will find a solution and try it. He will play things out. His strategy is to outlast whatever comes his way. I think that the difference between being fixed and being cardinal.
On the up side, it's just a great relationship. Every day it gets that little bit better. I can easily say today, I am the happiest with the relationship that I have ever been. We no longer fight. The last fight we had was over 2 years ago. We disagree with each other but then talk it out and it gets resolved really quickly.
He's my best friend. I'd take a bullet for him.click to expand
This guy gave me the safe and protected feeling so I liked him as a person but he has changed up so I am distancing myself, I heard they distance themselves when they have a lot going on. So I'm letting him have his distance. It doesn't bother me, what bothers me is his actions building up to this, they were very self centered and I'm just not that type of person.
But I also think I hurt his feelings, because he said he wanted to take me out on a date which I KNOW he doesn't do with anyone else, but I didn't and still don't take him seriously and kinda laughed at it, simply ol because words really don't mean shit to me, I need action!!
Posted by KingPinkyi don't know how to counsel you because i'm not quite sure what kind of things he is pulling but i'll relay to you my thinking process that got me through.Posted by jeaneThat sounds like me lmao, I used to get into relationships and the first sight of trouble and I am bound to run, I'm trying to change that about myself, I can easily detach from someone. It confuses people because I am so warm and caring and then I am cold and distant and it's normally because they changed up first or showed behavior I did not approve of.Posted by KingPinkyThanks @shadowcat for the nomination. 😄
I have read we are an unlikely match but have the makings of a wonderful relationship, I just would like to know how you got started and some common issues in the relationship? Thanks in adavance!
Yes! I'm in a happy relationship with a Taurus.
We started as friends. I had met him by chance, we became friends and then that slowly turned into a relationship.
Common issues as in problems with the relationship? Ummm, I think initially his slow pace really threw me. I wasnt sure if he was interested, I didn't understand why he wouldn't take things forward with me.
I had my own flaws with being flighty. I called it quits practically every month for about the first 6 months.
More personally, I didn't truly commit myself to the relationship for nearly a year. I was always ready to bolt. I don't think I made myself completely vulnerable for a long time. I think though that was my venus in scorpio at play rather than my Libra sun.
I find a place where we diverge is how we tackle problems. I will find a solution and try it. He will play things out. His strategy is to outlast whatever comes his way. I think that the difference between being fixed and being cardinal.
On the up side, it's just a great relationship. Every day it gets that little bit better. I can easily say today, I am the happiest with the relationship that I have ever been. We no longer fight. The last fight we had was over 2 years ago. We disagree with each other but then talk it out and it gets resolved really quickly.
He's my best friend. I'd take a bullet for him.
This guy gave me the safe and protected feeling so I liked him as a person but he has changed up so I am distancing myself, I heard they distance themselves when they have a lot going on. So I'm letting him have his distance. It doesn't bother me, what bothers me is his actions building up to this, they were very self centered and I'm just not that type of person.
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yep, any time he behaved in a way i didn't like, i was off. problem with communication? bye. trust issues? see ya. didn't see something the same way i did? adios.
i quickly realised that i was being so unfair. so unfair! i was judgemental. i was a difficult bitch.
of course, i was behaving that way because i didn't want to get hurt so i kept my walls very firmly up with paranoid guards on the constant lookout for any irregularity. when you came down to it, i wanted things to be my way or the highway. that shit don't fly. who would want to be a relationship with someone like that? god knows i wouldn't. the stupid thing is, every time i called it quits, i realised in a day or two how much i wanted to be with him.
so i would oscillate between "want you-don't want you". with this behaviour, i toyed with his feelings. in a sense, in my head, i didn't acknowledge that he had any feelings, and any that he did have, weren't as important as my own. it was childish, it was boring, and it was, what you accused your guy of, selfish.
i was the selfish one. my opinion or perspective was the only one that mattered. "he should behave this way." "i don't do this sort of thing, therefore he should be the same as me." "well, if i knew that was going to happen, i would have done x."
while i was so busy accusing him of behaving badly, i was the one who was sabotaging whatever we could have. i wasn't giving him a fair chance. i was so quick to tell him he was wrong.
i don't know how he put up with it.
the truth is no one is going to be the same as you. no one is going to react the same way as you all the time.
it took me a moment to understand that he has his own life experience, baggage, bad habits, perspective that he bring to the relationship. how he sees the world and his actions are going, at times, to be different to how i see it but ultimately, i knew he was a good person. he was going to make mistakes, or do things that i perceived to be mistakes even though his eyes, it seemed very reasonable.
jesus, if we were counting mistakes, i would be so far in front. as he showed me patience and forgiveness, i wanted to do the same for him. i knew he wasn't doing these things to hurt me, it was just him and if i wanted to be with him for mountainous good that he brings to my life, i had to accept the handful of imperfections as well. he does it for me in spades. the least i could do is return the favour.
so try to put yourself in his shoes. try to understand why he behaves the way he does. you already did it with understanding how he sees your behaviour when talking about going on a date.
keep in mind, taurus guys are super shy and cautious. my partner has some cancer in him so he can be incredibly sensitive. while i bulldoze my way through "just ask me out - it's no big deal!!!". he was the one having all the feels. it's a big deal for them to put themselves out there.
don't crush your guy with your libra insensitivity.
hope that helps.
Posted by KingPinkyIt works all the time. Met a very low-lifed Taurus and Libra couple. They been together for 16 years. Aunt and uncle. I am currently dating A Taurus woman who one day I will marry.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenI've just never seen it, I have never met a libra Taurus couple, my cousin is a Taurus female and we used to be very close now she has burned her bridge with me. I have a Taurus male in my life but I don't think a relationship will come of it because that's not what is wanted but there are traits that I find attractive about him and I'd like to keep an open mind when it comes signs that I find certain things attractive
I have a Libra moon. My best friend is a Taurus. Honestly we just get each other and love each other immensely. She's my person. It's kind of other worldy. If our friendship is this deep then I'm sure that a relationship between the two would work.click to expand
Honestly, I have never been more crazy and ready to settle down as strongly as I have from meeting a Taurus woman.
Posted by jeaneWell he came after me, the first night I guess he expected sex from me(we met at a strip club no I am not a dancer) a few of us went back to his place aftwards, I left with my mutual friend and he was on me ever since calling and texting just to check in and so I eventually gave in, then things started to change not calling and checking in anymore or any of that.Posted by KingPinkyi don't know how to counsel you because i'm not quite sure what kind of things he is pulling but i'll relay to you my thinking process that got me through.Posted by jeaneThat sounds like me lmao, I used to get into relationships and the first sight of trouble and I am bound to run, I'm trying to change that about myself, I can easily detach from someone. It confuses people because I am so warm and caring and then I am cold and distant and it's normally because they changed up first or showed behavior I did not approve of.Posted by KingPinkyThanks @shadowcat for the nomination. 😄
I have read we are an unlikely match but have the makings of a wonderful relationship, I just would like to know how you got started and some common issues in the relationship? Thanks in adavance!
Yes! I'm in a happy relationship with a Taurus.
We started as friends. I had met him by chance, we became friends and then that slowly turned into a relationship.
Common issues as in problems with the relationship? Ummm, I think initially his slow pace really threw me. I wasnt sure if he was interested, I didn't understand why he wouldn't take things forward with me.
I had my own flaws with being flighty. I called it quits practically every month for about the first 6 months.
More personally, I didn't truly commit myself to the relationship for nearly a year. I was always ready to bolt. I don't think I made myself completely vulnerable for a long time. I think though that was my venus in scorpio at play rather than my Libra sun.
I find a place where we diverge is how we tackle problems. I will find a solution and try it. He will play things out. His strategy is to outlast whatever comes his way. I think that the difference between being fixed and being cardinal.
On the up side, it's just a great relationship. Every day it gets that little bit better. I can easily say today, I am the happiest with the relationship that I have ever been. We no longer fight. The last fight we had was over 2 years ago. We disagree with each other but then talk it out and it gets resolved really quickly.
He's my best friend. I'd take a bullet for him.
This guy gave me the safe and protected feeling so I liked him as a person but he has changed up so I am distancing myself, I heard they distance themselves when they have a lot going on. So I'm letting him have his distance. It doesn't bother me, what bothers me is his actions building up to this, they were very self centered and I'm just not that type of person.
yep, any time he behaved in a way i didn't like, i was off. problem with communication? bye. trust issues? see ya. didn't see something the same way i did? adios.
i quickly realised that i was being so unfair. so unfair! i was judgemental. i was a difficult bitch.
of course, i was behaving that way because i didn't want to get hurt so i kept my walls very firmly up with paranoid guards on the constant lookout for any irregularity. when you came down to it, i wanted things to be my way or the highway. that shit don't fly. who would want to be a relationship with someone like that? god knows i wouldn't. the stupid thing is, every time i called it quits, i realised in a day or two how much i wanted to be with him.
so i would oscillate between "want you-don't want you". with this behaviour, i toyed with his feelings. in a sense, in my head, i didn't acknowledge that he had any feelings, and any that he did have, weren't as important as my own. it was childish, it was boring, and it was, what you accused your guy of, selfish.
i was the selfish one. my opinion or perspective was the only one that mattered. "he should behave this way." "i don't do this sort of thing, therefore he should be the same as me." "well, if i knew that was going to happen, i would have done x."
while i was so busy accusing him of behaving badly, i was the one who was sabotaging whatever we could have. i wasn't giving him a fair chance. i was so quick to tell him he was wrong.
i don't know how he put up with it.
the truth is no one is going to be the same as you. no one is going to react the same way as you all the time.
it took me a moment to understand that he has his own life experience, baggage, bad habits, perspective that he bring to the relationship. how he sees the world and his actions are going, at times, to be different to how i see it but ultimately, i knew he was a good person. he was going to make mistakes, or do things that i perceived to be mistakes even though his eyes, it seemed very reasonable.
jesus, if we were counting mistakes, i would be so far in front. as he showed me patience and forgiveness, i wanted to do the same for him. i knew he wasn't doing these things to hurt me, it was just him and if i wanted to be with him for mountainous good that he brings to my life, i had to accept the handful of imperfections as well. he does it for me in spades. the least i could do is return the favour.
so try to put yourself in his shoes. try to understand why he behaves the way he does. you already did it with understanding how he sees your behaviour when talking about going on a date.
keep in mind, taurus guys are super shy and cautious. my partner has some cancer in him so he can be incredibly sensitive. while i bulldoze my way through "just ask me out - it's no big deal!!!". he was the one having all the feels. it's a big deal for them to put themselves out there.
don't crush your guy with your libra insensitivity.
hope that helps.
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This is just some background: He told me he didn't want a relationship and neither did I, I just moved to a new state where no one knew me and I wasn't trying to tie myself down but having some to have sex with that I actually liked as a person is the ideal.
So I started tripping on him, I saw him out in public and didn't speak he was pissed about that I told him you let it get he went out of town he let me know he was going to be gone for two weeks, I told him I wanted to see him before he left he didn't reply then he left and then the texting and calling came to a complete stop. I was not happy, he came back into town on his birthday, I did not see him for his birthday so I know he had sex with other women and that's fine, but I don't like the idea of him fucking random women and then fucking me because let's be honest STDs are real.
His birthday was on a Monday I didn't see him until Friday and what I do when I want to get a point across that I care I pull a kind of crazy stunt, so I popped up at his house, he said he wasn't sure if he like it or not saying what if I had two girls in here having a threesome what would you do, I said nothing because what could I do? He didn't believe me and I'm like what am I supposed to say? I just like routine and I don't like when I find something or someone I actually can tolerate and like being around and they start fucking up.
So being the pleaser I am, I satisfied him sexually but I did not get satisfied sexually, also while at his house there was a girl there amongst other people and for the first time ever he called me by my name and not baby or babe or bae even the first day I met him he never called me by my name and after being at his house from 10am-8:30pm and he fell asleep on me I was over it so I left. He texted me once I got home like where did you go when I didn't reply he facetimed me and asked why didn't I wake him up? In a very flat monotoned voice I said for what?
He was supposed to come over my house that next Monday but he had a family emergency and had to fly outta town, once again he came back into town with out telling me.
This past weekend we ended up at the same night club this time I know for sure he saw me but he still did not speak to me, so I walked over to his section and got security to get his attention and I waved to him and when security waved me up to go into the section I denied and walked away. The next morning I got a "why did you leave?" Text and I said I didn't see a reason to stay. He replied oh boy and I explained to him since I know he is going through something's idk what's going on in his mind so I will give him some space I wasn't tripping.
Oddly enough he sent me a Snapchat today, because I haven't talked to him in almost two days, I told him I didn't like how he hasn't made me cum in over a month and he didn't reply but I did need help with something we had talked about working on together and I told him I may need his help on Friday he said he would be out of town until Monday I said K and he said we'll talk to me though and I told him what I needed help with but ended it but it's all good I'll figure it out I always do.
He said but I want to help, and I said but you will be gone I got it. He said cool whatever, I said if you want to help you can come fuck me before you leave. He didn't reply so I said or not about an hour later he replied immediately and said why or not? And I said because you neither confirmed or denied, he said so does that mean no?? I said naw the offer is still on the table just...
Didn't know if you wanted it, just let me know when you are on your way if you do come over, and now no reply.
I'm just over the acting one way before I give it up and then making it seem like I am tripping the next minute when I am just requesting to keep the same once a week schedule, and talking to him at least once a day and it doesn't have to be a long conversation. I don't feel like that is too much to ask for honestly, I think he knows I am pulling away from him.
I told him I am quick to detach from someone. I don't think he believes me when I say it, but I pulled my crazy stunt to show I cared and I told him it will never happen again it's like a warning shot and when he asked a warning shot for what? I just stayed quite. But it's a warning shot before I just fade to black.
I'm just over the acting one way before I give it up and then making it seem like I am tripping the next minute when I am just requesting to keep the same once a week schedule, and talking to him at least once a day and it doesn't have to be a long conversation. I don't feel like that is too much to ask for honestly, I think he knows I am pulling away from him.
I told him I am quick to detach from someone. I don't think he believes me when I say it, but I pulled my crazy stunt to show I cared and I told him it will never happen again it's like a warning shot and when he asked a warning shot for what? I just stayed quite. But it's a warning shot before I just fade to black.
Posted by KingPinkyWhat do you want from this guy? Because you're all over the place.
Didn't know if you wanted it, just let me know when you are on your way if you do come over, and now no reply.
I'm just over the acting one way before I give it up and then making it seem like I am tripping the next minute when I am just requesting to keep the same once a week schedule, and talking to him at least once a day and it doesn't have to be a long conversation. I don't feel like that is too much to ask for honestly, I think he knows I am pulling away from him.
I told him I am quick to detach from someone. I don't think he believes me when I say it, but I pulled my crazy stunt to show I cared and I told him it will never happen again it's like a warning shot and when he asked a warning shot for what? I just stayed quite. But it's a warning shot before I just fade to black.
You say you don't don't want a relationship but you don't want him to sleep with anyone else.
You sound like you want his friendship but you're not very friendly.
You say that you care but there is a lot of passive aggressive behaviour.
I know this generation if not fond of labels but in the spectrum of fuck buddy - fwb - girlfriend where are you?
Does your behaviour reflect that label?
Posted by jeaneI don't care that he sleeps with other women, I care that he is having multiple one stands with new women. That's just an issue I think anyone can relate to, STDs are real, and him going out and picking up new women to fuck scares me. As I think it would be if the situation was reversed. I just don't want to catch something. he was fucking someone else before me and i didn't care, I actually thought that's who he was fucking while he wasn't fucking me but he told me they fell out. That's how I knew it was new girls he was fucking.Posted by KingPinkyWhat do you want from this guy? Because you're all over the place.
Didn't know if you wanted it, just let me know when you are on your way if you do come over, and now no reply.
I'm just over the acting one way before I give it up and then making it seem like I am tripping the next minute when I am just requesting to keep the same once a week schedule, and talking to him at least once a day and it doesn't have to be a long conversation. I don't feel like that is too much to ask for honestly, I think he knows I am pulling away from him.
I told him I am quick to detach from someone. I don't think he believes me when I say it, but I pulled my crazy stunt to show I cared and I told him it will never happen again it's like a warning shot and when he asked a warning shot for what? I just stayed quite. But it's a warning shot before I just fade to black.
You say you don't don't want a relationship but you don't want him to sleep with anyone else.
You sound like you want his friendship but you're not very friendly.
You say that you care but there is a lot of passive aggressive behaviour.
I know this generation if not fond of labels but in the spectrum of fuck buddy - fwb - girlfriend where are you?
Does your behaviour reflect that label?
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We are FWB like I said I like him as a person we will always be friends, but in order to keep the with benefits portion of our friendship I just feel like certain things should happen and that's because those are my boundaries and just out of respect for someone.
I like to have sex a lot and when it's good with someone I want it on the regular that's just me. If I don't set a certain level of respect and boundaries when sex is involved I am more likely to be disrespected and when it happens and then I choose to speak up, it's like putting the carriage before the horse.
He knew what I did not like that he did and if he can't fuck me in over a month then what's the point of the with benefits part? I started acting passive aggressive when the started dropping the ball. I don't like drama and I don't rock the boat. But if someone repeatedly does the things I don't like and they know I don't like it, I separate myself.
Posted by KingPinkyPosted by jeaneI don't care that he sleeps with other women, I care that he is having multiple one stands with new women. That's just an issue I think anyone can relate to, STDs are real, and him going out and picking up new women to fuck scares me. As I think it would be if the situation was reversed. I just don't want to catch something. he was fucking someone else before me and i didn't care, I actually thought that's who he was fucking while he wasn't fucking me but he told me they fell out. That's how I knew it was new girls he was fucking.Posted by KingPinkyWhat do you want from this guy? Because you're all over the place.
Didn't know if you wanted it, just let me know when you are on your way if you do come over, and now no reply.
I'm just over the acting one way before I give it up and then making it seem like I am tripping the next minute when I am just requesting to keep the same once a week schedule, and talking to him at least once a day and it doesn't have to be a long conversation. I don't feel like that is too much to ask for honestly, I think he knows I am pulling away from him.
I told him I am quick to detach from someone. I don't think he believes me when I say it, but I pulled my crazy stunt to show I cared and I told him it will never happen again it's like a warning shot and when he asked a warning shot for what? I just stayed quite. But it's a warning shot before I just fade to black.
You say you don't don't want a relationship but you don't want him to sleep with anyone else.
You sound like you want his friendship but you're not very friendly.
You say that you care but there is a lot of passive aggressive behaviour.
I know this generation if not fond of labels but in the spectrum of fuck buddy - fwb - girlfriend where are you?
Does your behaviour reflect that label?
We are FWB like I said I like him as a person we will always be friends, but in order to keep the with benefits portion of our friendship I just feel like certain things should happen and that's because those are my boundaries and just out of respect for someone.
I like to have sex a lot and when it's good with someone I want it on the regular that's just me. If I don't set a certain level of respect and boundaries when sex is involved I am more likely to be disrespected and when it happens and then I choose to speak up, it's like putting the carriage before the horse.
He knew what I did not like that he did and if he can't fuck me in over a month then what's the point of the with benefits part? I started acting passive aggressive when the started dropping the ball. I don't like drama and I don't rock the boat. But if someone repeatedly does the things I don't like and they know I don't like it, I separate myself.
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the problem sounds like you are making unreasonable demands.
you don't want to be a relationship but you want to dictate who he sleeps with. sure, no one wants an sti but it is the risk you take when you have sex, it's even riskier when you have casual sex. if you don't want the risk, take precautions. if you don't trust the precautions then i'm afraid the reality is you must be celibate.
you say you will always be friends but this doesn't sound true when you describe your interactions. you're insisting that if he doesn't see you on your timetable he is fucking up. he has to check in with you when he arrives back in town.
he wants to help you but he is not available when you are so you get pissy. i wouldn;t be surprised if this guy is beginning to think that nothing he does it right. and when you're always wrong, do you feel sexy?
then he has to be at your beck and call when you are horny. a month is too long for him not to satisfy you. it has to be at least once a week because you have determined it so. you have to talk at least once a day and with that you threaten him to one day ghost him if he continues to drop the ball in your eyes.
all this for a fuck, that frankly, let's face it, he can get elsewhere. who would put up with this sort of behaviour. god knows i wouldn't. i wouldn't put up with it from my partner, my fwb or my friends.
if you want to be fwb then be friends...with benefits. it's a no strings casual arrangement. it's supposed to be obligation free. there is no rules about who and who you cannot sleep with. there are no rules bout how often the sex must be and how often you should talk. it's simply about perfunctory sex when you are both in the mood.
ultimately, if this guy cannot live up to your demands and your idea of what a fwb arrangement should look like then find another guy who will.
i'm sure he is not the only guy in the world who can get you off. find another one.
He doesn't sound like he is really ready for anything serious or long-lasting.
Posted by Goodtimes"One day" what does one still have to accomplish for this day to arrive? Just nosying 🙂Posted by KingPinkyIt works all the time. Met a very low-lifed Taurus and Libra couple. They been together for 16 years. Aunt and uncle. I am currently dating A Taurus woman who one day I will marry.Posted by MissLadyIceQueenI've just never seen it, I have never met a libra Taurus couple, my cousin is a Taurus female and we used to be very close now she has burned her bridge with me. I have a Taurus male in my life but I don't think a relationship will come of it because that's not what is wanted but there are traits that I find attractive about him and I'd like to keep an open mind when it comes signs that I find certain things attractive
I have a Libra moon. My best friend is a Taurus. Honestly we just get each other and love each other immensely. She's my person. It's kind of other worldy. If our friendship is this deep then I'm sure that a relationship between the two would work.
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Posted by jeanePosted by KingPinkyPosted by jeaneI don't care that he sleeps with other women, I care that he is having multiple one stands with new women. That's just an issue I think anyone can relate to, STDs are real, and him going out and picking up new women to fuck scares me. As I think it would be if the situation was reversed. I just don't want to catch something. he was fucking someone else before me and i didn't care, I actually thought that's who he was fucking while he wasn't fucking me but he told me they fell out. That's how I knew it was new girls he was fucking.Posted by KingPinkyWhat do you want from this guy? Because you're all over the place.
Didn't know if you wanted it, just let me know when you are on your way if you do come over, and now no reply.
I'm just over the acting one way before I give it up and then making it seem like I am tripping the next minute when I am just requesting to keep the same once a week schedule, and talking to him at least once a day and it doesn't have to be a long conversation. I don't feel like that is too much to ask for honestly, I think he knows I am pulling away from him.
I told him I am quick to detach from someone. I don't think he believes me when I say it, but I pulled my crazy stunt to show I cared and I told him it will never happen again it's like a warning shot and when he asked a warning shot for what? I just stayed quite. But it's a warning shot before I just fade to black.
You say you don't don't want a relationship but you don't want him to sleep with anyone else.
You sound like you want his friendship but you're not very friendly.
You say that you care but there is a lot of passive aggressive behaviour.
I know this generation if not fond of labels but in the spectrum of fuck buddy - fwb - girlfriend where are you?
Does your behaviour reflect that label?
We are FWB like I said I like him as a person we will always be friends, but in order to keep the with benefits portion of our friendship I just feel like certain things should happen and that's because those are my boundaries and just out of respect for someone.
I like to have sex a lot and when it's good with someone I want it on the regular that's just me. If I don't set a certain level of respect and boundaries when sex is involved I am more likely to be disrespected and when it happens and then I choose to speak up, it's like putting the carriage before the horse.
He knew what I did not like that he did and if he can't fuck me in over a month then what's the point of the with benefits part? I started acting passive aggressive when the started dropping the ball. I don't like drama and I don't rock the boat. But if someone repeatedly does the things I don't like and they know I don't like it, I separate myself.
the problem sounds like you are making unreasonable demands.
you don't want to be a relationship but you want to dictate who he sleeps with. sure, no one wants an sti but it is the risk you take when you have sex, it's even riskier when you have casual sex. if you don't want the risk, take precautions. if you don't trust the precautions then i'm afraid the reality is you must be celibate.
you say you will always be friends but this doesn't sound true when you describe your interactions. you're insisting that if he doesn't see you on your timetable he is fucking up. he has to check in with you when he arrives back in town.
he wants to help you but he is not available when you are so you get pissy. i wouldn;t be surprised if this guy is beginning to think that nothing he does it right. and when you're always wrong, do you feel sexy?
then he has to be at your beck and call when you are horny. a month is too long for him not to satisfy you. it has to be at least once a week because you have determined it so. you have to talk at least once a day and with that you threaten him to one day ghost him if he continues to drop the ball in your eyes.
all this for a fuck, that frankly, let's face it, he can get elsewhere. who would put up with this sort of behaviour. god knows i wouldn't. i wouldn't put up with it from my partner, my fwb or my friends.
if you want to be fwb then be friends...with benefits. it's a no strings casual arrangement. it's supposed to be obligation free. there is no rules about who and who you cannot sleep with. there are no rules bout how often the sex must be and how often you should talk. it's simply about perfunctory sex when you are both in the mood.
ultimately, if this guy cannot live up to your demands and your idea of what a fwb arrangement should look like then find another guy who will.
i'm sure he is not the only guy in the world who can get you off. find another one.
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It's contradicting to say that he will be out of town but wants to help, I didn't get pissy it's just it is what it is, he can't help if he isn't here that makes no sense lol.
Once again I do not care if he has more sexual partners than just myself, but it just makes me uncomfortable knowing that the risk of catching something is that high, that if he caught something he wouldn't know where it came from. That's just being irresponsible in my eyes but to each its own. There is no point in being FWB if someone wants to fuck random people. Just leave me as I am don't try to build a rapport with me if all I am is a one night stand as well. I feel that a FWB is put in place so you have someone to fuck on the regular without having to worry about pressure of a relationship.
I get used to routine very easily, so when the once a week thing started happening I got used to it so it became a standard. How I see it is don't set a standard and then when those standards aren't met and I get upset about it I have a reason to.
The way you are explaining it is I'm not allowed to have any standards or expect to be treated a certain way. That because we are FWB I am supposed to just talk to him whenever he feels like talking and fuck when he wants to fuck. It's on his time and no it's not. Of course I gave the shortest version of the story, but I just don't like when guys act one way in the beginning and then change up and it's supposed to be ok? I'm not allowed to get used to anything and then they get mad when I just stop talking to them like I am in the wrong.
I can stop fucking with him at any point so I have. I don't like the behavior so I'm not going to fuck him anymore. Call me crazy for demanding to be treated a certain way when I am sexually involved with someone on the regular but to me it's a respect thing.
I don't feel like what I ask for is a lot. I don't ask to go on dates. I don't ask to talk to him all day. I don't ask to be around him more often than once a week because of my sex drive and the standard he set. If I was treated like a one night stand that would be fine.
I don't think one text message checking on how I am doing or a good morning text is too much to ask for once a day. Because if I don't get that I move on. I take it for what it is and find the next person but there is no back pedaling once I stop fucking one person and start fucking the next that's it, because I prefer to have one sexual partner at a time. That's just me and I understand that is not what I am always going to get that same thing back.
That's why I said I liked certain things about him that I would hope to find in someone else. I don't want a relationship he doesn't want a relationship I just want to be treated a certain way and I don't think that's a bad thing. I think people use situations like this to make people lower their standards and I just refuse to be treated any kind of way just because "we are just casually having sex" so I have cut him off. It's either treat me how I want to be treated or don't. And it's either I am going to continue to fuck with that person or I'm not. The object here is if he wants to keep me around keep me happy and I will do the same. If it becomes more complicated then that I move on.
Posted by GoodtimesHe isn't and I'm not either lol so that's why it seemed to work at first.
He doesn't sound like he is really ready for anything serious or long-lasting.
I just want to be treated a certain way that's all.
Posted by KingPinkyYou are not going to get treated the way you want with him. So—Posted by GoodtimesHe isn't and I'm not either lol so that's why it seemed to work at first.
He doesn't sound like he is really ready for anything serious or long-lasting.
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Posted by KingPinkyIt's kind of alarming how your talking. You seem to think that as long as the girls he's fucking are girls he's fucking on the regular than he's safe, and by extension you. Not so.
I don't care that he sleeps with other women, I care that he is having multiple one stands with new women....I just don't want to catch something.
he was fucking someone else before me and i didn't care
Can he guarantee that those females are exclusive only to him? No he can't. Just like you can't guarantee his exclusivity. Anytime your gonna fuck someone there no guarantee. It's a roll of the dice.
Always use protection and get a good look before touching. And its a good idea to insist you both get tested regularly.
And if STD's really concern you that much you need to find a fwb that is willing to promise exclusivity to you as well as the other stipulations you might have. Just be up front from the beginning and walk away if their not gonna offer you what you want.
Posted by KingPinkyit's not contradicting to say you want to help but are out of town. one speaks to intention, the other to logistics.
It's contradicting to say that he will be out of town but wants to help, I didn't get pissy it's just it is what it is, he can't help if he isn't here that makes no sense lol.
Once again I do not care if he has more sexual partners than just myself, but it just makes me uncomfortable knowing that the risk of catching something is that high, that if he caught something he wouldn't know where it came from. That's just being irresponsible in my eyes but to each its own. There is no point in being FWB if someone wants to fuck random people. Just leave me as I am don't try to build a rapport with me if all I am is a one night stand as well. I feel that a FWB is put in place so you have someone to fuck on the regular without having to worry about pressure of a relationship.
I get used to routine very easily, so when the once a week thing started happening I got used to it so it became a standard. How I see it is don't set a standard and then when those standards aren't met and I get upset about it I have a reason to.
The way you are explaining it is I'm not allowed to have any standards or expect to be treated a certain way. That because we are FWB I am supposed to just talk to him whenever he feels like talking and fuck when he wants to fuck. It's on his time and no it's not. Of course I gave the shortest version of the story, but I just don't like when guys act one way in the beginning and then change up and it's supposed to be ok? I'm not allowed to get used to anything and then they get mad when I just stop talking to them like I am in the wrong.
I can stop fucking with him at any point so I have. I don't like the behavior so I'm not going to fuck him anymore. Call me crazy for demanding to be treated a certain way when I am sexually involved with someone on the regular but to me it's a respect thing.
I don't feel like what I ask for is a lot. I don't ask to go on dates. I don't ask to talk to him all day. I don't ask to be around him more often than once a week because of my sex drive and the standard he set. If I was treated like a one night stand that would be fine.
I don't think one text message checking on how I am doing or a good morning text is too much to ask for once a day. Because if I don't get that I move on. I take it for what it is and find the next person but there is no back pedaling once I stop fucking one person and start fucking the next that's it, because I prefer to have one sexual partner at a time. That's just me and I understand that is not what I am always going to get that same thing back.
That's why I said I liked certain things about him that I would hope to find in someone else. I don't want a relationship he doesn't want a relationship I just want to be treated a certain way and I don't think that's a bad thing. I think people use situations like this to make people lower their standards and I just refuse to be treated any kind of way just because "we are just casually having sex" so I have cut him off. It's either treat me how I want to be treated or don't. And it's either I am going to continue to fuck with that person or I'm not. The object here is if he wants to keep me around keep me happy and I will do the same. If it becomes more complicated then that I move on.
as lady neptune says, him sleeping with regular people doesn't guarantee your safety. those regulars could be sleeping with anyone. would you like to tell them too they have to stop their activities because you don't want to catch anything? if you don't want to catch something, stop the risky behaviour yourself.
you are allowed to have standards and to be treated in the way you in particular prefer but don't expect it from a fwb. to say that i am suggesting otherwise, is dishonest. you can have as many standards as you want but saying to a fwb that you
- must only fuck people that i approve of
- must speak to me at least once a day
- must always be there at my convenience whether that is sex or errand or anything else i want you to do
- must tell me your movements. this includes when you are in town and when you are not.
- must acknowledge me in a manner that i feel is appropriate. i won't tell you what that is. if you get it wrong, i'll go off in a huff.
isn't going to attract a lot of people. i'm sure they are out there though. good luck with finding one.
you are doing the push-pull. i want you when i want you but you as a person don't count. only my feelings and my convenience matters. you say it's about respect. it doesn't sound like respect, it sounds like you want control.
and lastly, you would move on if you don't get a text once a day? alright mum, no better way to get someone to do something than by force and ultimatum. i don't hear from my partner everyday. i certainly didn't at the beginning of our relationship and definitely not when we were friends. i don't hear from any of my friends every day. perhaps i am strange in not calling or texting all my friends in my phone book "good morning".
its wise to have moved on. it has become complicated. i can't see how either of you are enjoying it.
@KingPinky,
Question?
Are condoms being used with you and this Bull?
As for any future potential relationship with this Bull, it will never happen.
He's young, a manslut, hedonistic, and he's not ready to be tied down to anyone.
You seem like a sweet person, so consider this to be constructive criticism.
When this Bull decides to settle into a monogamous relationship, you will not be considered an option.
How a situation is currently presented to us, determines the future outcome of a potential relationship.
He's a fixed sign, prefers routine, order, a woman who exudes 'conservative' qualities and knows what she wants.... and some type of stability.
You're quite the contrary actually, flighty, unpredictable, aloof, indecisive may be promiscuous (uncertain), disconnected.
This may seem hypocritical for a Bull who is quite the manslut, but underneath all that hedonism, lies a man with a very conventional nature. He will need that feeling of safety reciprocated.
I'm sure that is what attracted you to him in the first place.
Bulls are reciprocators and mechanical bulls in the bedroom, all-nighters, if he isn't making the effort in the bedroom, then you're defintely not, and will never be a possibility. He's emotionally disconnected from you.
Question?
Are condoms being used with you and this Bull?
As for any future potential relationship with this Bull, it will never happen.
He's young, a manslut, hedonistic, and he's not ready to be tied down to anyone.
You seem like a sweet person, so consider this to be constructive criticism.
When this Bull decides to settle into a monogamous relationship, you will not be considered an option.
How a situation is currently presented to us, determines the future outcome of a potential relationship.
He's a fixed sign, prefers routine, order, a woman who exudes 'conservative' qualities and knows what she wants.... and some type of stability.
You're quite the contrary actually, flighty, unpredictable, aloof, indecisive may be promiscuous (uncertain), disconnected.
This may seem hypocritical for a Bull who is quite the manslut, but underneath all that hedonism, lies a man with a very conventional nature. He will need that feeling of safety reciprocated.
I'm sure that is what attracted you to him in the first place.
Bulls are reciprocators and mechanical bulls in the bedroom, all-nighters, if he isn't making the effort in the bedroom, then you're defintely not, and will never be a possibility. He's emotionally disconnected from you.
Posted by jeaneWell stated Jeane.
you are allow to have standards and to be treated in the way you prefer but don't expect it from a fwb. to say that i am suggesting otherwise, is dishonest. you can have as many standards as you want but saying to a fwb that you
- must only fuck people that i approve of
- must speak to me at least once a day
- must be there at my convenience whether that is sex or errand or anything else i want you to do
- must tell me your movements. this includes when you are in town and when you are not.
- must acknowledge me in a manner that i feel is appropriate. i won't tell you what that is. if you get it wrong, i'll go off in a huff.
isn't going to attract a lot of people. i'm sure they are out there though. good luck with finding one.
you are doing the push-pull. i want you when i want you but you as a person don't count. only my feelings and my convenience matters. you say it's about respect. it doesn't sound like respect, it sounds like you want control.
you would move on if you don't get a text once a day? alright mum, no better way to get someone to do something than by force and ultimatum. i don't hear from my partner everyday. i certainly didn't at the beginning of our relationship and definitely not when we were friends. i don't hear from any of my friends every day. perhaps i am strange in not calling or texting all my friends in my phone book "good morning".
its wise to have moved on. it has become complicated. i can't see how either of you are enjoying it.
At least the Bull owns up to the idea of being a piece of meat, and sets no demands on her, LOL.
He will get older and settle down eventually, unfortunately for King Pinky, she will never be an option.
He's a practical Bull.
If it started messy, and continued to be messy, it will eventually end messy...why invest in it?
Posted by tizianiso sorry to hear things didn't work but I'm glad you are both still friends
I'm not in a relationship with a Taurus. I was for just under the last two years and it's fair to say we're both still happy, we both still talk and run our plans by each other each day. She said we we're best friends and i guess she was right, that's showing right now in how we support each other.
Common issues are like anyone: communication.
These are two Venusian signs. It can get very hedonistic, which is when we're at our most productive. But that can also mean there are no boundaries, where both people feel to say "whatever they want" on the moment and forget to take some space to respect where each other is coming from as individuals. Anytime we hurt each other we both immediately regretted it after, as it felt like hurting ourselves. It shows care for the other person, but again a trouble distinguishing between where One person ends and the other begins. That's because we shared absolutely everything with each other. Interests, stories, gifts, experiences. I have hundreds, maybe into the thousands, of pictures, video, designs of her, based on her, wrote a hell of a lot of works about her as she was also my muse.
I'm a big advocate of these two signs in a relationship and of inconjunct romance in general.
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Didn't know if you wanted it, just let me know when you are on your way if you do come over, and now no reply.
I'm just over the acting one way before I give it up and then making it seem like I am tripping the next minute when I am just requesting to keep the same once a week schedule, and talking to him at least once a day and it doesn't have to be a long conversation. I don't feel like that is too much to ask for honestly, I think he knows I am pulling away from him.
I told him I am quick to detach from someone. I don't think he believes me when I say it, but I pulled my crazy stunt to show I cared and I told him it will never happen again it's like a warning shot and when he asked a warning shot for what? I just stayed quite. But it's a warning shot before I just fade to black.
Op, you are stunning...if that is your picture, but you don't sound too balanced or stable. In fact you sound disturbed.
Posted by LadyNeptuneThat's my point. I was upfront with him from the start about all of my stipulations lol that's why I have stopped messing with him, the point of this post was to see if there were any other libra/Taurus couples and how did they find a way to make it work. I see things in him that I like but i knew and know he would never be my partner romantically.Posted by KingPinkyIt's kind of alarming how your talking. You seem to think that as long as the girls he's fucking are girls he's fucking on the regular than he's safe, and by extension you. Not so.
I don't care that he sleeps with other women, I care that he is having multiple one stands with new women....I just don't want to catch something.
he was fucking someone else before me and i didn't care
Can he guarantee that those females are exclusive only to him? No he can't. Just like you can't guarantee his exclusivity. Anytime your gonna fuck someone there no guarantee. It's a roll of the dice.
Always use protection and get a good look before touching. And its a good idea to insist you both get tested regularly.
And if STD's really concern you that much you need to find a fwb that is willing to promise exclusivity to you as well as the other stipulations you might have. Just be up front from the beginning and walk away if their not gonna offer you what you want.
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I am not nor was I looking for advice as far as he was concerned, I just thought I would share why I became curious about Taurus males.
Posted by jeaneHelp with what logistics? There was one task at hand he wasn't going to be here that's a contradiction.Posted by KingPinkyit's not contradicting to say you want to help but are out of town. one speaks to intention, the other to logistics.
It's contradicting to say that he will be out of town but wants to help, I didn't get pissy it's just it is what it is, he can't help if he isn't here that makes no sense lol.
Once again I do not care if he has more sexual partners than just myself, but it just makes me uncomfortable knowing that the risk of catching something is that high, that if he caught something he wouldn't know where it came from. That's just being irresponsible in my eyes but to each its own. There is no point in being FWB if someone wants to fuck random people. Just leave me as I am don't try to build a rapport with me if all I am is a one night stand as well. I feel that a FWB is put in place so you have someone to fuck on the regular without having to worry about pressure of a relationship.
I get used to routine very easily, so when the once a week thing started happening I got used to it so it became a standard. How I see it is don't set a standard and then when those standards aren't met and I get upset about it I have a reason to.
The way you are explaining it is I'm not allowed to have any standards or expect to be treated a certain way. That because we are FWB I am supposed to just talk to him whenever he feels like talking and fuck when he wants to fuck. It's on his time and no it's not. Of course I gave the shortest version of the story, but I just don't like when guys act one way in the beginning and then change up and it's supposed to be ok? I'm not allowed to get used to anything and then they get mad when I just stop talking to them like I am in the wrong.
I can stop fucking with him at any point so I have. I don't like the behavior so I'm not going to fuck him anymore. Call me crazy for demanding to be treated a certain way when I am sexually involved with someone on the regular but to me it's a respect thing.
I don't feel like what I ask for is a lot. I don't ask to go on dates. I don't ask to talk to him all day. I don't ask to be around him more often than once a week because of my sex drive and the standard he set. If I was treated like a one night stand that would be fine.
I don't think one text message checking on how I am doing or a good morning text is too much to ask for once a day. Because if I don't get that I move on. I take it for what it is and find the next person but there is no back pedaling once I stop fucking one person and start fucking the next that's it, because I prefer to have one sexual partner at a time. That's just me and I understand that is not what I am always going to get that same thing back.
That's why I said I liked certain things about him that I would hope to find in someone else. I don't want a relationship he doesn't want a relationship I just want to be treated a certain way and I don't think that's a bad thing. I think people use situations like this to make people lower their standards and I just refuse to be treated any kind of way just because "we are just casually having sex" so I have cut him off. It's either treat me how I want to be treated or don't. And it's either I am going to continue to fuck with that person or I'm not. The object here is if he wants to keep me around keep me happy and I will do the same. If it becomes more complicated then that I move on.
as lady neptune says, him sleeping with regular people doesn't guarantee your safety. those regulars could be sleeping with anyone. would you like to tell them too they have to stop their activities because you don't want to catch anything? if you don't want to catch something, stop the risky behaviour yourself.
you are allowed to have standards and to be treated in the way you in particular prefer but don't expect it from a fwb. to say that i am suggesting otherwise, is dishonest. you can have as many standards as you want but saying to a fwb that you
- must only fuck people that i approve of
- must speak to me at least once a day
- must always be there at my convenience whether that is sex or errand or anything else i want you to do
- must tell me your movements. this includes when you are in town and when you are not.
- must acknowledge me in a manner that i feel is appropriate. i won't tell you what that is. if you get it wrong, i'll go off in a huff.
isn't going to attract a lot of people. i'm sure they are out there though. good luck with finding one.
you are doing the push-pull. i want you when i want you but you as a person don't count. only my feelings and my convenience matters. you say it's about respect. it doesn't sound like respect, it sounds like you want control.
and lastly, you would move on if you don't get a text once a day? alright mum, no better way to get someone to do something than by force and ultimatum. i don't hear from my partner everyday. i certainly didn't at the beginning of our relationship and definitely not when we were friends. i don't hear from any of my friends every day. perhaps i am strange in not calling or texting all my friends in my phone book "good morning".
its wise to have moved on. it has become complicated. i can't see how either of you are enjoying it.
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I don't speak to JUST my friends everyday, and that's fine, but if I am going to be giving more than just my time, then I expect to be treated a certain way.
And no I would never say that, but at least if something did happen he would be able to at least track it to the person he got it from. That's just logical thinking.
And I'm not saying he has to be there at my convienence, if anything I was always more accommodating to him. Driving an hour to him every time, only coming when called (which started the once a week thing) he set that standard not me. So now it's wrong for me to expect a standard he set? That makes no sense.
Once again another expectation he set, letting me know when he was leaving once again for all of this I always said thank you for letting me know I appreciate that. Letting him know that all I want is communication.
So now just saying hi to me in public is some big ordeal? I wasn't acknowledging AT ALL lmao not in a way that I prefer. And I said that because he got highly upset when I didn't acknowledge him, that's not fair at all.
I feel like you are twisting my words to sound like I ask for so much when all I asked for from the jump. Was to be honest with each other and to talk at least once a day. To be honest didn't think he would feel the need to fuck other women when he was having me over once a week, a standard he set. I wasn't expecting him to start telling me when he was out of town a standard he set. To speak to each other and acknowledge each other when out, a standard he set. If there is something a FWB wants me to do, I expect the same in return. Period.
Call me crazy or selfish or whatever but I set no expectations except for communication, everything else is always what they have set in place and now I'm the selfish person for wanting those standards and expectations to be met continuously or an explanation of why they can no longer be that way and I am fine.
i tried to warn him of certain things before we even started and he brushed them off like it was no big deal. It's not like I wasn't transparent from the start because I was. I set boundaries and told him what I would and would not deal with he choose to continue to presue at that point it's on him.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Yes we do use protection
@KingPinky,
Question?
Are condoms being used with you and this Bull?
As for any future potential relationship with this Bull, it will never happen.
He's young, a manslut, hedonistic, and he's not ready to be tied down to anyone.
You seem like a sweet person, so consider this to be constructive criticism.
When this Bull decides to settle into a monogamous relationship, you will not be considered an option.
How a situation is currently presented to us, determines the future outcome of a potential relationship.
He's a fixed sign, prefers routine, order, a woman who exudes 'conservative' qualities and knows what she wants.... and some type of stability.
You're quite the contrary actually, flighty, unpredictable, aloof, indecisive may be promiscuous (uncertain), disconnected.
This may seem hypocritical for a Bull who is quite the manslut, but underneath all that hedonism, lies a man with a very conventional nature. He will need that feeling of safety reciprocated.
I'm sure that is what attracted you to him in the first place.
Bulls are reciprocators and mechanical bulls in the bedroom, all-nighters, if he isn't making the effort in the bedroom, then you're defintely not, and will never be a possibility. He's emotionally disconnected from you.
And for the fifty millionth time, I am not nor was I ever interested in making this particular bull my partner romantically lmao goodness is no one hearing me?
What attracted him to me was his persistence. I pushed all of my "flaws" to the front as I do with any FWB situation because I don't want my time you anyone else's time wasted.
If my demands are too much as everyone says then he should have been gone lmao but he isn't so I guess he has some type of feeling for me but hey it is what it is.
The situation never has been or will be messy it's either we fuck with each other or we don't period.
Posted by KingPinky...The why did you ask this question
And for the fifty millionth time, I am not nor was I ever interested in making this particular bull my partner romantically lmao goodness is no one hearing me?
Posted by KingPinky
I have read we are an unlikely match but have the makings of a wonderful relationship, I just would like to know how you got started and some common issues in the relationship? Thanks in adavance!click to expand
Posted by KingPinky.... This is your defense mechanism, and it it very transparent. Pretend to be aloof so that you have will have the emotional upper hand. This cost you dearly. Bulls compartmentalize, you volunteered, rose and embraced the FWB challenge.
If my demands are too much as everyone says then he should have been gone lmao but he isn't so I guess he has some type of feeling for me but hey it is what it is.
However, this isn't a mutable sign. Its 'fixed.'
Start out as a FWB...exit as a FWB.
You did place your demands, and it fell in deaf ears, he still continues to see multiple women.
So your assertion about his feelings for you is null and void.
My advice, learn to be more firm, decisive and consistent about what you're looking for in a potential partner.
This will not give the other person the upper hand.
You will be amazed what you can get once you ask for it.
...And move along the lines where you statements reflect your actions.
Posted by KingPinkyHe didn't set that standard...you DID.
And I'm not saying he has to be there at my convienence, if anything I was always more accommodating to him. Driving an hour to him every time, only coming when called (which started the once a week thing) he set that standard not me. So now it's wrong for me to expect a standard he set? That makes no sense.
You drove an hour to go see him and never vice versa.
You made the booty convenient without the courtship, and without the driving effort on his part.
...And then you tried to persuade him to reciprocate the favor.
Different set of rules for FWB and actual relationships, hon.
I don't believe his multiple partners were your primary concern.
What 'bugged' you was the fact that these women were convenient and ready at his disposal, while you made the effort to drive the hour to come and see him.
You feel exploited, taken for granted and ridiculous. Tell the truth.
I would.
Here is another advice for dealing with Bulls.
Know who you are, know what you want.
'Pretending' will get you no where.
You're not being honest with yourself.
You asked about a successful relationship between a Taurus and a Libra but you didn't have a relationship you were a booty call. So people are not really answering the question because it doesn't really apply to you.
If this wasn't that important to you you wouldn't be spending all his time writing monologues about the situation.
But to answer your question yes there are many successful Libra and Taurus relationships - in fact some say Taurus is one of the top signs Libras marry.
Friends with Benefits is not something that many of us can help you out with because I know I personally wouldn't put myself in the position like that; I have too much respect for my body my time my mind and myself. I think quite frankly that it's pathetic and disgusting that you allow yourself to be used like that I haven't seen anything like this in a while I read about people like this but I think you need to see somebody professional you can go to opencollectives.org you can get a therapist there for about $ 30 you also may do very well on an antidepressant like lithium because you seem extremely bipolar and unstable and it's okay it really is.
If this wasn't that important to you you wouldn't be spending all his time writing monologues about the situation.
But to answer your question yes there are many successful Libra and Taurus relationships - in fact some say Taurus is one of the top signs Libras marry.
Friends with Benefits is not something that many of us can help you out with because I know I personally wouldn't put myself in the position like that; I have too much respect for my body my time my mind and myself. I think quite frankly that it's pathetic and disgusting that you allow yourself to be used like that I haven't seen anything like this in a while I read about people like this but I think you need to see somebody professional you can go to opencollectives.org you can get a therapist there for about $ 30 you also may do very well on an antidepressant like lithium because you seem extremely bipolar and unstable and it's okay it really is.
Posted by TaurusBull1977After all is said and done, this is the main point.Posted by KingPinky...The why did you ask this question
And for the fifty millionth time, I am not nor was I ever interested in making this particular bull my partner romantically lmao goodness is no one hearing me?Posted by KingPinky
I have read we are an unlikely match but have the makings of a wonderful relationship, I just would like to know how you got started and some common issues in the relationship? Thanks in adavance!click to expand
My experience is how to be happy with a Taurus in a relationship. You're not in one, you don't want one so I'm a little confused as to what you hope to get out of this thread.
If you had started this with how to have a successful fwb with a Taurus, I guess I would have advised you differently.
As you say, you've ridden the whole thing into the ditch now so beyond this anything is moot.
Posted by tizianiIt's not the profession that may have been the dealbreaker.
I know Taurus guys who are happily married to strippers they met in the club on day 1, so don't worry about it too much.
The astro stereotypes only go so far.
They could have been sweet, honest, unpretentious, decisive, affectionate.
These are 'turn-on' qualities/attractive traits that Bulls are drawn to as well...😉
I don't think this Bull is interested in taking the FWB to the next level, his actions reflect it.
He may have been interested in her in the beginning, but clearly that went left.
She exudes cold, aloof, indecisive energy.
No one on this board knows what she's looking for.
I don't even think the OP knows this herself.
Ok so since my intended point was clearly missed.
This is why I asked if anyone was in a happy relationship with a Taurus as a libra.
I met a Taurus guy and even though it was made from the very start of our encounters that there would never be a relationship to come out of this on both sides.
HOWEVER. There are traits about him that I would like in a partner. So it made me curious, that's why I asked about relationships FIRST and then placed my situation into the mix to better explain my curiosity not to get critized and called "disturbed" and messy and basically judged lmao but hey this is the internet and I have to accept the good with the bad when asking for others two cents.
It's crazy how people think I am pretending aboutt not being emotionally tied to this man through a message board but I'm sure you are reading my post the way you want to just like I am reading your responses the way I want to.
Before I even put my situation out there I asked a few questions and replied to a few people. If I wanted advice on THIS specific situation I would have started with that, I'm not here to play coy or shy.
I played games because I felt like I was being toyed with and that didn't make me very happy. childish? Yes for sure! But we all have our faults and I can own up to mine.
I wanted to talk about happy relationships. You're absolutely right I don't have one that's why I wanted to talk about them. I stopped reading a majority of the messages to be honest because they had nothing to do with talking about happy relationships and all to do with my situation and everyone's judgment on my situation which I didn't ask advice about. Just explained to the best of my ability. But I guess you guys get a lot of girls coming on here not knowing what to do about a situation that is clearly going no where and that's how you all handle it.
I appreciate everyone to commented on their happy relationships and how they got to that point and if they did not get to that point what broke them up. That's all I wanted was research information.
I hope that clearifies why I started this thread a bit better and why I asked about happy relationships. It was for research purposes.
I already knew explaining the situation it looked all over the place or painted me as indecisive and unbalanced that's why I didn't start with my situation.
I find it comical that people on the message boards say don't hold bad situations or situations that never will amount to anything to someone's sun sign but the moment someone tries to find relationships that are happy and give some in sight about why they have chosen to ask they are judged and pulled apart and it no longer becomes about the happy couple but about their negative situation that they were simply trying to let effect or possible positive experiences.
No need to leave anymore comments about my situation or this last post because I probably won't read it. It has turned into something ugly that I want no parts of.
Besides that I hope all of you have a wonderful day honestly and truly! Xoxo
This is why I asked if anyone was in a happy relationship with a Taurus as a libra.
I met a Taurus guy and even though it was made from the very start of our encounters that there would never be a relationship to come out of this on both sides.
HOWEVER. There are traits about him that I would like in a partner. So it made me curious, that's why I asked about relationships FIRST and then placed my situation into the mix to better explain my curiosity not to get critized and called "disturbed" and messy and basically judged lmao but hey this is the internet and I have to accept the good with the bad when asking for others two cents.
It's crazy how people think I am pretending aboutt not being emotionally tied to this man through a message board but I'm sure you are reading my post the way you want to just like I am reading your responses the way I want to.
Before I even put my situation out there I asked a few questions and replied to a few people. If I wanted advice on THIS specific situation I would have started with that, I'm not here to play coy or shy.
I played games because I felt like I was being toyed with and that didn't make me very happy. childish? Yes for sure! But we all have our faults and I can own up to mine.
I wanted to talk about happy relationships. You're absolutely right I don't have one that's why I wanted to talk about them. I stopped reading a majority of the messages to be honest because they had nothing to do with talking about happy relationships and all to do with my situation and everyone's judgment on my situation which I didn't ask advice about. Just explained to the best of my ability. But I guess you guys get a lot of girls coming on here not knowing what to do about a situation that is clearly going no where and that's how you all handle it.
I appreciate everyone to commented on their happy relationships and how they got to that point and if they did not get to that point what broke them up. That's all I wanted was research information.
I hope that clearifies why I started this thread a bit better and why I asked about happy relationships. It was for research purposes.
I already knew explaining the situation it looked all over the place or painted me as indecisive and unbalanced that's why I didn't start with my situation.
I find it comical that people on the message boards say don't hold bad situations or situations that never will amount to anything to someone's sun sign but the moment someone tries to find relationships that are happy and give some in sight about why they have chosen to ask they are judged and pulled apart and it no longer becomes about the happy couple but about their negative situation that they were simply trying to let effect or possible positive experiences.
No need to leave anymore comments about my situation or this last post because I probably won't read it. It has turned into something ugly that I want no parts of.
Besides that I hope all of you have a wonderful day honestly and truly! Xoxo
Never really a happy ending
I'm pretty late to this thread but here's my general opinion from a Taurus perspective. Libra and Taurus can connect quite easily...in the beginning Taurus will tread more carefully and be a little wary of Libra's pace which will not match that of the Taurus. No need for alarm though. If Libra knows how to make Taurus feel safe, and Libra begins to trust Taurus' guarded, slower pace and both start to value the differences in each other...well both Taurus find themselves in a very deep connection. Friends, lovers, comrades. Been with my libra 7 years if that helps. Jeane and Tiziani have pretty much said all you need to know though about libra/taurus dynamics.
Posted by jeane"must acknowledge me in a manner that i feel is appropriate. i won't tell you what that is. if you get it wrong, i'll go off in a huff. "Posted by KingPinkyit's not contradicting to say you want to help but are out of town. one speaks to intention, the other to logistics.
It's contradicting to say that he will be out of town but wants to help, I didn't get pissy it's just it is what it is, he can't help if he isn't here that makes no sense lol.
Once again I do not care if he has more sexual partners than just myself, but it just makes me uncomfortable knowing that the risk of catching something is that high, that if he caught something he wouldn't know where it came from. That's just being irresponsible in my eyes but to each its own. There is no point in being FWB if someone wants to fuck random people. Just leave me as I am don't try to build a rapport with me if all I am is a one night stand as well. I feel that a FWB is put in place so you have someone to fuck on the regular without having to worry about pressure of a relationship.
I get used to routine very easily, so when the once a week thing started happening I got used to it so it became a standard. How I see it is don't set a standard and then when those standards aren't met and I get upset about it I have a reason to.
The way you are explaining it is I'm not allowed to have any standards or expect to be treated a certain way. That because we are FWB I am supposed to just talk to him whenever he feels like talking and fuck when he wants to fuck. It's on his time and no it's not. Of course I gave the shortest version of the story, but I just don't like when guys act one way in the beginning and then change up and it's supposed to be ok? I'm not allowed to get used to anything and then they get mad when I just stop talking to them like I am in the wrong.
I can stop fucking with him at any point so I have. I don't like the behavior so I'm not going to fuck him anymore. Call me crazy for demanding to be treated a certain way when I am sexually involved with someone on the regular but to me it's a respect thing.
I don't feel like what I ask for is a lot. I don't ask to go on dates. I don't ask to talk to him all day. I don't ask to be around him more often than once a week because of my sex drive and the standard he set. If I was treated like a one night stand that would be fine.
I don't think one text message checking on how I am doing or a good morning text is too much to ask for once a day. Because if I don't get that I move on. I take it for what it is and find the next person but there is no back pedaling once I stop fucking one person and start fucking the next that's it, because I prefer to have one sexual partner at a time. That's just me and I understand that is not what I am always going to get that same thing back.
That's why I said I liked certain things about him that I would hope to find in someone else. I don't want a relationship he doesn't want a relationship I just want to be treated a certain way and I don't think that's a bad thing. I think people use situations like this to make people lower their standards and I just refuse to be treated any kind of way just because "we are just casually having sex" so I have cut him off. It's either treat me how I want to be treated or don't. And it's either I am going to continue to fuck with that person or I'm not. The object here is if he wants to keep me around keep me happy and I will do the same. If it becomes more complicated then that I move on.
as lady neptune says, him sleeping with regular people doesn't guarantee your safety. those regulars could be sleeping with anyone. would you like to tell them too they have to stop their activities because you don't want to catch anything? if you don't want to catch something, stop the risky behaviour yourself.
you are allowed to have standards and to be treated in the way you in particular prefer but don't expect it from a fwb. to say that i am suggesting otherwise, is dishonest. you can have as many standards as you want but saying to a fwb that you
- must only fuck people that i approve of
- must speak to me at least once a day
- must always be there at my convenience whether that is sex or errand or anything else i want you to do
- must tell me your movements. this includes when you are in town and when you are not.
- must acknowledge me in a manner that i feel is appropriate. i won't tell you what that is. if you get it wrong, i'll go off in a huff.
isn't going to attract a lot of people. i'm sure they are out there though. good luck with finding one.
you are doing the push-pull. i want you when i want you but you as a person don't count. only my feelings and my convenience matters. you say it's about respect. it doesn't sound like respect, it sounds like you want control.
and lastly, you would move on if you don't get a text once a day? alright mum, no better way to get someone to do something than by force and ultimatum. i don't hear from my partner everyday. i certainly didn't at the beginning of our relationship and definitely not when we were friends. i don't hear from any of my friends every day. perhaps i am strange in not calling or texting all my friends in my phone book "good morning".
its wise to have moved on. it has become complicated. i can't see how either of you are enjoying it.
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This is my favorite, Jeane! + I totally loved all your replies on this thread. You rock!
Posted by KingPinkyBut you're not a couple! Why in the world would want to receive advice from Libra/Taurus couples when you're not a couple? You're being unreasonable.Posted by LadyNeptuneThat's my point. I was upfront with him from the start about all of my stipulations lol that's why I have stopped messing with him, the point of this post was to see if there were any other libra/Taurus couples and how did they find a way to make it work. I see things in him that I like but i knew and know he would never be my partner romantically.Posted by KingPinkyIt's kind of alarming how your talking. You seem to think that as long as the girls he's fucking are girls he's fucking on the regular than he's safe, and by extension you. Not so.
I don't care that he sleeps with other women, I care that he is having multiple one stands with new women....I just don't want to catch something.
he was fucking someone else before me and i didn't care
Can he guarantee that those females are exclusive only to him? No he can't. Just like you can't guarantee his exclusivity. Anytime your gonna fuck someone there no guarantee. It's a roll of the dice.
Always use protection and get a good look before touching. And its a good idea to insist you both get tested regularly.
And if STD's really concern you that much you need to find a fwb that is willing to promise exclusivity to you as well as the other stipulations you might have. Just be up front from the beginning and walk away if their not gonna offer you what you want.
I am not nor was I looking for advice as far as he was concerned, I just thought I would share why I became curious about Taurus males.
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Posted by KingPinkyhttp://www.compatible-astrology.com/taurus-man-libra-woman.html
I have read we are an unlikely match but have the makings of a wonderful relationship, I just would like to know how you got started and some common issues in the relationship? Thanks in adavance!
For what I know though usually it's the Taurus woman/Libra man combination that has more chances to succeed, but I'm not an expert (http://www.compatible-astrology.com/libra-man-taurus-woman.html)
I really think it has to do with the other planets on both people's charts. I'm a Taurus Moon talking to a Libra moon and it has been nothing but the best! However, I have Libra in Venus and our other signs cross match.
Posted by Mered1thThanks very much! Ive learned a lot from my bull (and the good folks at dxp). You guys are easy to get on with with a bit of understanding and acceptance.Posted by jeane"must acknowledge me in a manner that i feel is appropriate. i won't tell you what that is. if you get it wrong, i'll go off in a huff. "Posted by KingPinkyit's not contradicting to say you want to help but are out of town. one speaks to intention, the other to logistics.
It's contradicting to say that he will be out of town but wants to help, I didn't get pissy it's just it is what it is, he can't help if he isn't here that makes no sense lol.
Once again I do not care if he has more sexual partners than just myself, but it just makes me uncomfortable knowing that the risk of catching something is that high, that if he caught something he wouldn't know where it came from. That's just being irresponsible in my eyes but to each its own. There is no point in being FWB if someone wants to fuck random people. Just leave me as I am don't try to build a rapport with me if all I am is a one night stand as well. I feel that a FWB is put in place so you have someone to fuck on the regular without having to worry about pressure of a relationship.
I get used to routine very easily, so when the once a week thing started happening I got used to it so it became a standard. How I see it is don't set a standard and then when those standards aren't met and I get upset about it I have a reason to.
The way you are explaining it is I'm not allowed to have any standards or expect to be treated a certain way. That because we are FWB I am supposed to just talk to him whenever he feels like talking and fuck when he wants to fuck. It's on his time and no it's not. Of course I gave the shortest version of the story, but I just don't like when guys act one way in the beginning and then change up and it's supposed to be ok? I'm not allowed to get used to anything and then they get mad when I just stop talking to them like I am in the wrong.
I can stop fucking with him at any point so I have. I don't like the behavior so I'm not going to fuck him anymore. Call me crazy for demanding to be treated a certain way when I am sexually involved with someone on the regular but to me it's a respect thing.
I don't feel like what I ask for is a lot. I don't ask to go on dates. I don't ask to talk to him all day. I don't ask to be around him more often than once a week because of my sex drive and the standard he set. If I was treated like a one night stand that would be fine.
I don't think one text message checking on how I am doing or a good morning text is too much to ask for once a day. Because if I don't get that I move on. I take it for what it is and find the next person but there is no back pedaling once I stop fucking one person and start fucking the next that's it, because I prefer to have one sexual partner at a time. That's just me and I understand that is not what I am always going to get that same thing back.
That's why I said I liked certain things about him that I would hope to find in someone else. I don't want a relationship he doesn't want a relationship I just want to be treated a certain way and I don't think that's a bad thing. I think people use situations like this to make people lower their standards and I just refuse to be treated any kind of way just because "we are just casually having sex" so I have cut him off. It's either treat me how I want to be treated or don't. And it's either I am going to continue to fuck with that person or I'm not. The object here is if he wants to keep me around keep me happy and I will do the same. If it becomes more complicated then that I move on.
as lady neptune says, him sleeping with regular people doesn't guarantee your safety. those regulars could be sleeping with anyone. would you like to tell them too they have to stop their activities because you don't want to catch anything? if you don't want to catch something, stop the risky behaviour yourself.
you are allowed to have standards and to be treated in the way you in particular prefer but don't expect it from a fwb. to say that i am suggesting otherwise, is dishonest. you can have as many standards as you want but saying to a fwb that you
- must only fuck people that i approve of
- must speak to me at least once a day
- must always be there at my convenience whether that is sex or errand or anything else i want you to do
- must tell me your movements. this includes when you are in town and when you are not.
- must acknowledge me in a manner that i feel is appropriate. i won't tell you what that is. if you get it wrong, i'll go off in a huff.
isn't going to attract a lot of people. i'm sure they are out there though. good luck with finding one.
you are doing the push-pull. i want you when i want you but you as a person don't count. only my feelings and my convenience matters. you say it's about respect. it doesn't sound like respect, it sounds like you want control.
and lastly, you would move on if you don't get a text once a day? alright mum, no better way to get someone to do something than by force and ultimatum. i don't hear from my partner everyday. i certainly didn't at the beginning of our relationship and definitely not when we were friends. i don't hear from any of my friends every day. perhaps i am strange in not calling or texting all my friends in my phone book "good morning".
its wise to have moved on. it has become complicated. i can't see how either of you are enjoying it.
This is my favorite, Jeane! + I totally loved all your replies on this thread. You rock!click to expand
Posted by KingPinkyBut he said he wasn't looking for a serious relationship from the very beginning. Either you accept that and accept him, which means you are okay with whatever crumbs of communication and time he throws your way OR you date someone who is more available.
Didn't know if you wanted it, just let me know when you are on your way if you do come over, and now no reply.
I'm just over the acting one way before I give it up and then making it seem like I am tripping the next minute when I am just requesting to keep the same once a week schedule, and talking to him at least once a day and it doesn't have to be a long conversation. I don't feel like that is too much to ask for honestly, I think he knows I am pulling away from him.
I told him I am quick to detach from someone. I don't think he believes me when I say it, but I pulled my crazy stunt to show I cared and I told him it will never happen again it's like a warning shot and when he asked a warning shot for what? I just stayed quite. But it's a warning shot before I just fade to black.
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