How to leave a Libra

Tell me if you did it, how you did it...

Thanks in advance for sharing

I'm allway's straightforward in things ( I'm Aries).

I would take him to a room where we can speak private. then i
just say it to him: "It's not going well, not so well for sure. I want to
quit our relation"

He will react amazed. Let him talk first. It won't help if you barge in immediately cuz he won't listen to you. When he is calmed down, just say WHY you want to quit.
If he is a decent person, he will accept it.

Have done all that for nearly two years now and he is not hearing me...

(girl originally from utrecht by the way)

(There are 2 utrecht 😄
The Netherlands Utrecht
South Africa Utrecht )

Just say it's over ! start a new life. get to know a new girl and i think the Libra will dissappear when she see's you with another girl.

Guess you're from the other Utrecht then...

I am the girl in the story and the Libra (so two Libras in all) is the male...

I think hatred will show itself actually

Just move on! let him KNOW on every way that it's over. Flirt with other man or get one for a while to let him see that you're done with him.

(I'm from the Dutch Utrecht)

(me too)

How cool !!

wanna msn?

"Its over" "get a life" "i need space" blah blah ect all are culturally based dialogues. Libra is born liberated and he wont understand reasons based on cultural/religious dialogues. He does understand the meaning but is still wondering why she is bahaving in the weirdest fashion. To brkup with a libra it takes years. Its slow and gradual process. Words cannot push it. You force/pressure him, he will make you feel guilty.

So what will work, then?

Systematic instilling that it is over and repeat and repeat. That's what I have been doing. Being a Libra myself I guess it's the only way I know how. But in terms of moving out...Who is going to do that? Will a Libra man move out?

I would say disconnect all contact!. Don't go to the spots he usually goes to. don't call or email him. Avoid him as much as possible !

Out the EYE , out the HEART.

Why don't you move out? It would be hard for him to deny that it is over with your stuff moving out the door.

*** I would say disconnect all contact!. Don't go to the spots he usually goes to. don't call or email him. Avoid him as much as possible !

yup.

Thanks all. Would also like to hear from people that have actually left a Libra. That have done it and got the t-shirt. Want to understand what works and what doesn't.

We are a special breed, that's for sure...

yeah.

When we are in love we fight like you would not believe. We suck the relationship dry and just don't get over it.

blech.

The thing you have to understand when breaking up with a Libra is when we are in love with someone, the only thing we respond to even a little well when it comes to breaking up is reasoning. If you can articulate the "why" without being over emotional yourself, there is a lot better chance of us reasoning with you. If you are really emotional or fired up about the breakup then we will wright you off as being emotional and unreasonable. If you are calm, collected, and have thought the situaiton through it does a pretty good job of dissarming us. While we may be convinced we couldn't love anyone like we love you, if you can get accross that you your reasoning for not wanting to be with us which is key, then we don't want to be with anyone whom we don't make happy. If you pull the whole I want to be with you, but such in such is causing a problem, your in for the struggle of your life, we have to understand you don't want us.

Nico

Thanks and you're right. What I have done so far has not got me very far e.g. sometimes I use excellent reasoning and sometimes I am nice about it - but my end desire is the same. I have to get myself very worked up to be hurtful and very explicit. I hate it...

Why don't you guys take NO for an answer? You're like a boomerang. TWO YEARS!

Libra.. This is kind of a bad story?

I left a libra 6 months ago.. July 5th to be exact.. wasn't hard.. he was violent and I was tired of it. He was always angry about something, no matter how nice I was or how I tried to appease him. I was the perfect wife but nothing helped. So when I left, which this is my second time leaving him, I was done. Have not seen him since and don't want to. Most of my clothes and things are still there.. don't care. I can live without them all. Most important to me is my children.. as long as I have them I am okay. We can live in a box on the street (don't want to though) but I would if I had to, to get away from him. Aquas are different.. when we are done, we are done. Period. I know girls go back to their abusers.. not me.. I cannot.

He always calls crying and stuff.. I have no feeling. Actually, I can't get past that day. Every time I hear his voice I am reminded.. It was very bad. But I just say, "I am sorry but I do not love you, don't know if I ever did, but that is pointless now, so you can stop calling and crying and begging because I am not coming back. It is over." and every time he calls with that same ole "well can't we just get counseling? spiel, I repeat what I just said. That is my response to all his useless coercions.. No emotions, no caring, no arguing, no point in it.. I don't care. He didn't care that day and now I don't care forever. I will never forgive him and I don't have to. I am sure your situation is different, at least I hope so, but the point is the same. When you leave, make sure it is for good. Leave while he is not home and suspects nothing. That is what I did the first time I left. I took his credit card (we lived in California at the time) bought a ticket home.. planned it for about 2 weeks then left. Didn't say bye or anything. He was mad, but he got over it. He was mean to me then also, but nothing like this time..

This is one thing that scares me about libras because since I had such a bad experience with him I kind of feel like they can all trip like that. But my Libra best-friend has always, and I mean always been there for me and loved me. I don't think he would ever harm me in any way. But I can't be sure. I think when you live with someone it is different. They kind of feel like they own you or something. I don't think I will be able to live with anyone again. oh well.. you wanted stories of people leaving a libra.. so there is one. 🙂 Hope all works

"No" is always a reaction and not an answer. Most people say "i want to brkup" "am done" bcoz of some casual frustrations. Tomm they may get over it. But when one is under frustration they switch to a defensive mode. We know that. And we are waiting....

Libra, I recently divorced a libra and we have a 3 year old daughter. You must move out and cut off all ties except with the child. It will take them a long time to get the point and actually let you go.

thelibran..""No" is always a reaction and not an answer. Most people say "i want to brkup" "am done" bcoz of some casual frustrations. Tomm they may get over it. But when one is under frustration they switch to a defensive mode. We know that. And we are waiting...."

wow.. you amaze me with your ability to pin-point such detailed characteristics of a libra and exploit it... and that last thought is scary also..

nothing to be scared about. If you are done with a libra, relax, think what all you are gonna talk to him, reason out your choice, be genuine and talk to him with a cool head. He will sense if its genuine and will move out. But if its out of sudden frustration, we will play our games. If you are emotional, he will be wondering how much you may be hurt once you cool down. Our capacity to read people beyond their normal expectation is what troubles us while moving out.

I've been reading these postings and it makes my head spin! I truly have never run into a BAD Libra! So when I hear some of these descriptions it's kind of scary. I HAVE seen my Libra friends lose their tempers---REALLY lose their tempers!----and be completely devistated right afterward that they lost it. But I've never had a Liba take their temper or anger out on me. Anyway, my first reaction to this post was WHY would you ever want to leave a Libra? But some of that has been cleared up now.

There are two instances when a normal libra lose his/her temper.

1. When he know it can make things moving or make sudden psychological impacts on the person/group of people.

2. When he is thrown out of control with too many situations repeating in the same fashion.

Hmmm yes how to leave a Libra....yup there I was trying to capture one but now I need to know how to walk away...sheesh!!!

Chatz, after my frustrations with a Libra girl (you can check some of my other posts), I decided to play it COOL and for a few days. I actually thought it would be okay if I moved on----didn't want to, but it'd be okay. Now she's calling me a LOT more to get together. NOW the thought has crossed my mind, "What if I'd never be able to get rid of her if for some reason I thought I'd have to in the future?" So I can relate with your "You're Stuck!" problem. A Libra girl I worked with was the CLINGY-EST chick I ever saw in my life! (Have you come to any conclusions about walking away??).

In my case, I'm still so smitten that I have no desire for either one of us to walk away.

I certainly see what you mean Atom....when I see my Libran this evening I will make my choice as to what to do next....it all depends on how he reacts to what has gone down this week with me putting a few things out on the table....if he acts awkward I will know to "walk away" as he didnt feel anything but if he can accept that I've been going through some family problems and that my emotions go the better of me and behave the same way, Im happy to continue....he's making the effort though by supporting me as a friend 24/7 if I need (but I haven't taken him up on this) and he's coming over so its a sign he cares somewhat and is happy to continue seeing me....I dunno...too confusing but yeah Atom I see where you're going thanks 🙂