Is this normal?

Is it normal for a libra man to just suddenly pull a disappearing act without any warning?

In a word—

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Yup. Especially when water signs are involved. 😛

Absolutely, and they dont come back either.

Ofcourse, but if they are at all interested they will come back around. This only an unsure Libra of course. If he knew he wanted you initially, he would have never disappeared... LOL!

Well it's really weird because we hung out saturday. sunday we didn't call each other. I sent him a text at night asking if he forgot about me today and he didn't respond. Same thing with the next day I called at night no answer and sent him a text saying I was worried about and just chekin up on him and he never responded. Thats pretty rude considering we were more good friends than anything else. WHATEVER!! Its his loss. He was the one stalking me in the beginning anyway.

We pull a disappearing act when we do dont see any future in the situation so why spend more time on it?
We like to cut all ties to something and move on.
Not like the water signs that keep their claws into people :-)

Well if thats the case then Its fine. And I agree 100% . It was just weird becuase it happend so suddenly. It also makes me mad because he was really persuing me very hard and it wasn't until I decided to give him a chance and stop being so mean to him when he started acting different. I think he might be sad too because he may have gotten a negative outcome on something he had worked really hard for and may not feel like talking to anyone. Do Libras retreat in bad times?

I'm with QS, he will come back around IF he's still interested...

Immature Libra's can be very indecisive and you will hardly ever pick up on that vibe when your around them because he or she will seem so into you, charming blah blah blah but inevitably they disappear some surface some don't, mine has a libra rising, he disappears, comes back, never more than a few days and I'm a libra magnet, I can pick a libra jus by the energy levels I feel around them or by looking them in the eyes, a huge intense spark, and they always find me, I don't even go their with them anymore inregards to love relationships...friendship yes, anything else no.

Happycrab, most libra men have no problem with initiation and the chase in the beginning, once they think they have you and they are not sure that they want you then they get unbalanced and disappear. Only, and only if they are sure and confident that they see a future with you will they continue to persue you.

Don't forget that sometimes introducing sex too early can turn these guys off.

yeah I banned libras a long time ago but decided to make an exception this time. I'm sure he'll be back. They always come back!! I have had 3 libra's turn into stalkers on me and I'm sure this one won't be anything different. But when he does come back this will be different.

***Don't forget that sometimes introducing sex too early can turn these guys off.***

Hmmm, for some reason, I have never had that problem with them... ***eyes shifting*** but, it depends on when too early is I guess.

Happycrab, believe me, they are not all that way, if you find one that truly wants to and sees you fitting perfectly in his future, then he will be ... Yeah, I guess they can become stalkers. They hate being ignored or turned down. So I guess you should only get involved with a Libra that wants you and knows it up front. Other than that, if they aren't sure or don't, rollercoaster rides are on the way.

Oops...

if you find one that truly wants to and sees you fitting perfectly in his future, then he will be different.

yes QS this is true

for me the emotional games turn me off, it never ends even when they have made up their minds and when I say games I mean this is a natural way of being for most libras and for some it may not even be considered games so I'm not saying they are deliberate, they are being themselves but for me its tiresome

this sign can be emotionally exhausting and I find I need down time from them because it grates my nerves and it truly takes alot to do this b/c I'm tolerant of others and I get along with all signs of the zodiac, this sign rubs me the wrong way, when I see libra anywhere in a mans chart I walk the other way, but this sign has helped me to emotionally grow up so there are benefits to the aqua/libra union.

It's just starting. . .

Ok guys so i guess this was a false alarm since he called today and supposedly he was very stressed out and bogged down with work. Yes his job is very demanding at times but I find it hard to believe that he couldnt find 30 seconds in his hectic day to send me a text or make a quick call. He's on probation BIG TIME!! I find it really strange. I wasn't born yesterday and have been in this game for too long not to know that this is suspiciouse behaivior.

LOL Atom!!!

HappyCrab....run!!! LOL.....he will probably continue to act like that too so if you don't like the suspicious behaviour, I'd suggest walking away now.

Rollercoaster rides are fun though yeah?? LOL

If he likes you, he will always come back.

Yup as "thelibran" said above!!! 🙂

"OMG HE DIDN'T ANSWER MY CALLS, FORGET HIM, I AM WORTH MORE THAN THAT OMG!!!.....false alarm, everything is o.k. he has one of them job things and stuff. Is this going to limmit the amount of time that I can smother him?"

This is where your going to lose a Libra.

Can you elaborate on your point , Nic?

I'll translate.

You aren't joined at the hip. The guy has a life. You should have one too. If you don't hear from him for a couple of days just assume he is busy.

You can't own a libra. We NEED our space. We NEED our freedom. If you try to hold us under the water, we will bolt.

* But when he does come back this will be different.

Just accept him as he is. If you can't accept that you won't be joined at the hip, he probably isn't the guy for you.

Just go with the flow. Unless you have plans, assume you don't and make other plans with your other friends. We need space for things to develop.

I personally and I think this is true of many Libras ... fall in love during the spaces.

So don't sweat the spaces. Enjoy them and fill them with your life. We need to know that you are just cool about shit. Being demanding is one sure way to lose us.

***He's on probation BIG TIME!! I find it really strange. I wasn't born yesterday and have been in this game for too long not to know that this is suspiciouse behaivior.***

Happycrab, not so happy now huh— LOL!!! Kidding, seriously. Don't sweat the small stuff, take it easy. From your posts it seems like you might be getting a little too intense and emotional about this, are the two of you in an official relationship? If not, what's the fuss about. If so, has he told you this? If not don't expect anything major, they take their time until they are sure.

Happy Crab, you jumped the gun. You guys hung out on the weekend when he didn't have to be back at work. I like to unwind on the weekends, but the moment Monday morning rolls around, I tend to get down to business until Thursday or Friday.

He was perfectly fine before you so those text messages and phone calls probably turned him off - 3 or 4 in less than 24 hours time makes you appear needy.

Anytime this guy doesn't respond to you in a timeframe you feel suitable, is it going to make you jump to conclusions? If so, this guy isn't for you because they will test the waters, push the envelope, and just plain do what they want because it's their freedom. Don't mess with their freedom - it's one sure way to get drop kicked to the curb.

You say he's on probation big time with you. Because of ONE incident? Don't tie these guys down. You find his excuse suspicious - that's a clear sign to me that you won't win this guy over.

Sorry to be harsh, but I've been dating a Libra for almost 6 months now and I'm still learning how to handle them.

yeah, as QS said, don't sweat the small stuff. 🙂

* this guy isn't for you because they will test the waters, push the envelope, and

No.

* just plain do what they want because it's their freedom.

Yes.

Libra is seeking balance. Romantic Life with other life demands.

* this guy isn't for you because they will test the waters, push the envelope, and

No.

* just plain do what they want because it's their freedom.

Yes.

Libra is seeking balance. Romantic Life with other life demands.

LS you hit that nail right on the head, my leo has a libra rising and he has the personality traits of libra, I vowed this was the last libra but I'm not bailing, he has taught me all that you have spoken and then some.

libra's seek harmony and peace, so as most leos argue etc, he's the total opposite, that phrase "I do what I want" epitomizes his attitude and he does just that lol! He isn't concerned with the details, if it feels right, he does it, everyone else is left with the details of trying to figure it out and he's jus doing him, doing his thing.

I have truly grown up b/c of him, so I'm thankful but would I do it again, probably not lol!

I personally and I think this is true of many Libras ... fall in love during the spaces.

dayum LS that says it all lol!

Okay, you guys are making some valid points and happy crab take it from me, the person who was making major mistakes, they love their freedom, fill your life up with things to do, people to see and places to go, don't text more than once and don't call ever if you can help LOL!! No seriously, let libra come to you and he will if he see's he can be himself around you.

Someone said it right...you will get kicked to the curb real quick if your actions speak neediness, libra's love their freedom, although mine is a leo his personality screams libra and he has more than one planet in libra, they simply cannot be tied down and they don't like to feel pressured in any way shape or form.

Relax, go with the flow and let the friendship progress on its own, if he senses you need too much attention, he will more than likely tire and move on.

take it from someone who made some mistakes, I'm on track thanks to my confidente but it took me some time to wrap my head around this creature.

I find Leo and Libra a lot alike.

Looks as if I don't give correct advice and/or I don't know my Libra as well as I thought I did.

why do you say that houstonpeach?

Your advice was great!

yes they are more alike then I would have ever imagined, I still have hair, didn't pull it all out so I guess I'm okay lol!

Well in the beginning when he was perusing me and I was dating others and keeping my time with the girls a priority. I had very little time for him and could care less if he called or not he was all over me. He told me that he was going to be the one who would tame me. But it also makes sence now how tolerant he was of all my crazyness. So when I decided to stop ditching and being such a B it seems like he hasn't been so eager in tracking me down. Do I have to stay wild and crazy to keep his interest? I know he doesn't want me dating others because we have spoken of being exclusive so I don't want to do that. Or should I?

I have found libras to be VERY JELOUSE creatures. Why is that? And they take every little think so personal. I know cancers are sensitive about peoples actions but you have to really watch what you say and how you word things to a Libra.

libra's jealous, I don't think so but if thats your experience I won't dispute it, dated a libra and I didn't find this to be so.

I'm not sure if your assessing his temperment in the right way.

I think your a little to intense for this guy, libra's give a lot of attention in the beginning but they expect you to be able to deal when they decide to go and do their own thing, not assume he's up to no good b/c he suddenly switches up on you, these guys do a lot of testing and then some...he may not be cut out for you.

" these guys do a lot of testing and then some.."

You just agreed with LS that I was wrong about them testing the water and pushing the envelope...now they do a lot of testing?

They can be jealous, but they are good at hiding it.

that's from my experience...LS and others could think I'm wrong.

I'm not sure what your talking about and no I never disagreed with you, I'm okay with what both of you said, I too go thru test so I'm not actually sure what you mean.

I don't think it is "testing". I think our natures come across as testing but those things are just part of our make-up, our nature not games to get you to act a certain way. I don't think there is any real manipulation going on. If people can't accept our true natures, then we aren't really compatible.

I am very VERY bad at hiding things. Even when I try, everyone knows what is going on with me.

I am not known as a jealous person.

Our natures are aloof and somewhat fickle. We tend to have very full lives and process our emotions through our head not our heart.

It isn't that we are testing you. It just our nature.

Our natures are aloof and somewhat fickle. We tend to have very full lives and process our emotions through our head not our heart.

LS you have me jumping out of my chair, you seem so much like my leo, you have provided information that explains his behavior/nature, this puts a lot into perspective, he's very aloof...thanks for the insight

sincerely hard headed LOL!!

Well... I am a libra with a leo moon.

I can be hard-headed. If someone pushes me, I push right back and stand my ground. (Generally why I have a hard time with my taurus friend. We are great friends but he will push me and I will push right back. Big ego clashes.)

The aloof thing is because we are somewhat cut off from our emotions. When I have a negative reaction to someone instead of experiencing it, I think it through. Should I be angry? What is the correct emotion to be having right now? What should i feel? etc.

Same goes for romantic feelings. For example ... me and this Cap have been friends for awhile and been flirting outrageously forever ... but now ... I seem to have tender feelings for him. I am not sure if this is the correct emotion to be having so I am trying to process and figure it out. What does it mean that I am concerned for him and want his happiness? Is it friendship or more? I am trying to figure it out.

Although I am very passionate by nature, I can stir anyone up my nickname is little hellcat (ha!), I am cut off from my emotions. They always come as a surprise and a jolt. When I have them I need to step back and go ... what is that? what does this mean? what do I do about this? and try to think my way through it.

My leo friend sorta touched on this behavior LS, my leo has an Aqua moon so he's double aloof lol! I have a leo moon also and a taurus rising, I'm all messed up lol! His aloofness pushes me to be more affectionate but I don't think I'm this way by nature, I'm usually a bit cold being an Aqua...you certainly have opened my mind up to alot things that I noticed within our relationship and out of curiousity, when your processing your emotions do you tend to fall back and be to yourself for some time? Is this were the aloofness comes into play?

My leo rising sign is libra and moon sign is Aqua so you know what I'm dealing with LOL!

Although I have a cancer sun I do have a Libra Moon so I should be able to handle this but no matter what you give someone too much rope they begin to take it for granted. So I need to pull back just a tad. No harm in that.

Same goes for romantic feelings. For example ... me and this Cap have been friends for awhile and been flirting outrageously forever ... but now ... I seem to have tender feelings for him. I am not sure if this is the correct emotion to be having so I am trying to process and figure it out. What does it mean that I am concerned for him and want his happiness? Is it friendship or more? I am trying to figure it out.

Although I am very passionate by nature, I can stir anyone up my nickname is little hellcat (ha!), I am cut off from my emotions. They always come as a surprise and a jolt. When I have them I need to step back and go ... what is that? what does this mean? what do I do about this? and try to think my way through it.

Yep, my leo can make your ass cry when he stares up the pot LOL! He can get the blood boiling if a person lets him...

I guess thats were alot of impatience and annoyance with libras stemmed from with me, their process of thinking made no sense to me and I grow impatient quickly but I'm coming to realize its not the libra its me and the way I think, I don't process my feelings in this way, I know when I know and this doesn't apply, I can see why conflicts arise with me and libra's, I'm expecting you to be decisive and on point and by nature you don't work that way, when I was dealing with my libra I took that personal and it caused conflict and of course libras don't care for conflict so you know we bumped heads alot, no talking, no backing down on either ends and I was the one that backed down alot, gave in...its a huge misunderstanding on my part...this is interesting.

a persons moon represents emotions and I have a leo moon which means I'm somewhat impulsive about things, I don't clearly think things thru when it comes to love and I'm sorta wide open but my Taurus rising tempers this out so people can't sense this when they meet me....this can go deep lol.

listening to you makes me realize how narrow my view was when it comes to this sign...thanks for sharing (:

I have gained a new found respect and tolerance now that I can see a clearer view, I definitely understand more thats for sure.