Posted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Posted by bad_at_usernames
Does it work after an argument in a relationship given that you've always been the one to reach out first after every argument after a certain amount of time, but this time you just don't want to reach out first coz you feel you've done enough already. Will they be pushed away and feel you don't care anymore because you're behaving differently than always (not reaching out) or think they're losing you and make an effort?
Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...click to expand
Posted by GobbyPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Sssssssssssshhhhh! 😛click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.click to expand
Posted by PiscesGal76
No contact within a relationship is not a good thing.
No contact works after the relationship ended. Its used as a cool off time, a getting over the person time, thinking about the relationship time, moving forward time....
Its not used for manipulation to get them to contact you again.
If you want communication, tell them.
Posted by akitu
Stay strong. You can’t always be the one to reach out. I mean unless whatever it was was your fault lol. But yeah equal effort, know your worth ✌️
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.click to expand
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by PiscesGal76
No contact within a relationship is not a good thing.
No contact works after the relationship ended. Its used as a cool off time, a getting over the person time, thinking about the relationship time, moving forward time....
Its not used for manipulation to get them to contact you again.
If you want communication, tell them.
I'm not going full no contact like ignoring even when he texts. This is more like taking time off to cool down, to let go of the hurt and to miss each other. If he texts me once, then that's it, I'm all his again. I'm all his even right now anyway. All I'm concerned about is, since I always reach out first, and I'm not doing it this time, I don't want him to think that I do not care anymore.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.click to expand
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
You say he's a sag, but everytime I've tried to confront him asking him questions he's only ignored me. Things that work include chasing him, giving him space and making him feel like I won't chase anymore🤞🤞Also, what are 'testing the waters' texts??click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.click to expand
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
You say he's a sag, but everytime I've tried to confront him asking him questions he's only ignored me. Things that work include chasing him, giving him space and making him feel like I won't chase anymore🤞🤞Also, what are 'testing the waters' texts??
Testing the water texts are the ones I mentioned in the previous post. The click bait, “see if he will reply” ones with no substance.
If you know that giving him space works then why are you having such a difficult time with it. It does work.
I don’t know what questions you’ve asked. My opinion is just based on what you’ve written here, over the last month or so.
The questions you’ve asked were based off of his feelings and why he’s not doing things the way you wanted him to, the way he was before when things were good for you, from what you’ve said in here.
Sag ain’t about that life. Act normal.
We don’t want to talk about feelings all damn day. I’m a woman and get tired of it happening consistently with every text.
You couldn’t get past what happened, which seemed to be a problem.
Again all of this is my opinion so take it with a grain of salt. What do I know about the 2 of you.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.click to expand
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
What do you say instead of dropping off the face of the earth like I was planning to do, I put up pictures of the fun things I'm doing these days (I've been doing things for 3-4 days now) on social media, so he can see I'm getting out of the extremely emotional mindset and can feel comfortable talking to me or may be even reaching out to me himself.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
What do you say instead of dropping off the face of the earth like I was planning to do, I put up pictures of the fun things I'm doing these days (I've been doing things for 3-4 days now) on social media, so he can see I'm getting out of the extremely emotional mindset and can feel comfortable talking to me or may be even reaching out to me himself.
This is good. You are going about it the right way. Even venting here, while you are giving him space is good.
I don’t think you have anything to worry about once you guys get back into communication as long as you can keep your jealous meddling ways from him. You can be jealous and question him. But you go behind his back with it, like you don’t trust him. We value our privacy.
Running interference and being embarrassing is a no no. You are showing his friends the type of insecure girl he chose to be with and it’s not a good look.
We care about other people’s opinions too much when it comes to our partners. And if people are laughing at the kind of crazy, insecure shit you do and he is your partner, then they are laughing at him too.click to expand
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
What do you say instead of dropping off the face of the earth like I was planning to do, I put up pictures of the fun things I'm doing these days (I've been doing things for 3-4 days now) on social media, so he can see I'm getting out of the extremely emotional mindset and can feel comfortable talking to me or may be even reaching out to me himself.
This is good. You are going about it the right way. Even venting here, while you are giving him space is good.
I don’t think you have anything to worry about once you guys get back into communication as long as you can keep your jealous meddling ways from him. You can be jealous and question him. But you go behind his back with it, like you don’t trust him. We value our privacy.
Running interference and being embarrassing is a no no. You are showing his friends the type of insecure girl he chose to be with and it’s not a good look.
We care about other people’s opinions too much when it comes to our partners. And if people are laughing at the kind of crazy, insecure shit you do and he is your partner, then they are laughing at him too.
I feel guiltier now that you put it that way. I don't want anybody to be laughing at him, and because of me noooo😭😭 you're right I'm gonna stay positive and trust that he won't give up on us.click to expand
Posted by FactCheck
My sag friend...if he was doing this it means hes not interested and you're annoying him. His ex girlfriend was like you. She still thinks they're dating. Honestly I feel bad for her because even though he's polite, he's not going back to her. Even when I was like, she really likes you maybe give her a second cha- and he's like hellll no. You're way too clingy for a sag.
Posted by FantaPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
I was kind of just thinking out loud about the question in general, not really addressing the OP's specific situation. This might actually be a decent way to tell the difference between a true relationship, where both people are committed to doing their parts to keep it going, and a one-sided situationship.click to expand
Posted by FactCheck
My sag friend...if he was doing this it means hes not interested and you're annoying him. His ex girlfriend was like you. She still thinks they're dating. Honestly I feel bad for her because even though he's polite, he's not going back to her. Even when I was like, she really likes you maybe give her a second cha- and he's like hellll no. You're way too clingy for a sag.
Posted by FactCheck
My sag friend...if he was doing this it means hes not interested and you're annoying him. His ex girlfriend was like you. She still thinks they're dating. Honestly I feel bad for her because even though he's polite, he's not going back to her. Even when I was like, she really likes you maybe give her a second cha- and he's like hellll no. You're way too clingy for a sag.
Posted by FactCheckPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by FactCheck
My sag friend...if he was doing this it means hes not interested and you're annoying him. His ex girlfriend was like you. She still thinks they're dating. Honestly I feel bad for her because even though he's polite, he's not going back to her. Even when I was like, she really likes you maybe give her a second cha- and he's like hellll no. You're way too clingy for a sag.
what's her sign?
Virgo haclick to expand
Posted by FactCheckPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by FactCheckPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by FactCheck
My sag friend...if he was doing this it means hes not interested and you're annoying him. His ex girlfriend was like you. She still thinks they're dating. Honestly I feel bad for her because even though he's polite, he's not going back to her. Even when I was like, she really likes you maybe give her a second cha- and he's like hellll no. You're way too clingy for a sag.
what's her sign?
Virgo ha
that's sad
she needs to be more picky
I think she's actually a sweet girl and she needs a scorpio or a huge softie. Like she's loyal af and not in a scary way like bad_at_usernames
My friend isnt a bad guy... hes just a sag... he'd be good with taurus sun/leo moon. They can get their mediocre love on.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.click to expand
Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88Posted by GobbyPosted by bad_at_usernamesPosted by saggurl88
If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.click to expand
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If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.
Good afternoon! I think you will be fine contacting him again. I think 30 days Is the minimum for no contact. Some even go 45 or 60 days.
At least you know where you stand if you contact him and he doesn’t respond.
Hopefully he’s over whatever happened by then.
Sag really aren’t good at LDR though.click to expand
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If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.
Good afternoon! I think you will be fine contacting him again. I think 30 days Is the minimum for no contact. Some even go 45 or 60 days.
At least you know where you stand if you contact him and he doesn’t respond.
Hopefully he’s over whatever happened by then.
Sag really aren’t good at LDR though.
We've been doing long distance for quite some time now. Touchwood🤞❤ But he wouldn't be over me in a month, right? Since I'm going to be acting like I don't care😭😭 he always tells me that, 'my job is to act out, your job is to love me'.click to expand
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If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.
Good afternoon! I think you will be fine contacting him again. I think 30 days Is the minimum for no contact. Some even go 45 or 60 days.
At least you know where you stand if you contact him and he doesn’t respond.
Hopefully he’s over whatever happened by then.
Sag really aren’t good at LDR though.
I'm curious about what you said. Is it still a relationship if your partner does not reach out for a month? I think if you both aren't exclusive, that should be OK. But if you are exclusive and considered boyfriend and girlfriend, how can it be OK? Or is it just a sag thing? Even as an aqua, I don't go missing for 2 weeks when I'm clearly in a relationship with the person. Maybe for a day or two. But never two weeks, a month or over a month.click to expand
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If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.
Good afternoon! I think you will be fine contacting him again. I think 30 days Is the minimum for no contact. Some even go 45 or 60 days.
At least you know where you stand if you contact him and he doesn’t respond.
Hopefully he’s over whatever happened by then.
Sag really aren’t good at LDR though.
We've been doing long distance for quite some time now. Touchwood🤞❤ But he wouldn't be over me in a month, right? Since I'm going to be acting like I don't care😭😭 he always tells me that, 'my job is to act out, your job is to love me'.
Him telling you that sounds douchey! So your to accept whatever behavior he gives you? Hopefully he was just kidding around.
If he loves you he won’t be over you. If he’s finished with the relationship then you will know as well.click to expand
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If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.
Good afternoon! I think you will be fine contacting him again. I think 30 days Is the minimum for no contact. Some even go 45 or 60 days.
At least you know where you stand if you contact him and he doesn’t respond.
Hopefully he’s over whatever happened by then.
Sag really aren’t good at LDR though.
We've been doing long distance for quite some time now. Touchwood🤞❤ But he wouldn't be over me in a month, right? Since I'm going to be acting like I don't care😭😭 he always tells me that, 'my job is to act out, your job is to love me'.
Him telling you that sounds douchey! So your to accept whatever behavior he gives you? Hopefully he was just kidding around.
If he loves you he won’t be over you. If he’s finished with the relationship then you will know as well.
What I'm trying to ask here is - will he be finished BECAUSE I'm not reaching out anytime soon??click to expand
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If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.
Good afternoon! I think you will be fine contacting him again. I think 30 days Is the minimum for no contact. Some even go 45 or 60 days.
At least you know where you stand if you contact him and he doesn’t respond.
Hopefully he’s over whatever happened by then.
Sag really aren’t good at LDR though.
I'm curious about what you said. Is it still a relationship if your partner does not reach out for a month? I think if you both aren't exclusive, that should be OK. But if you are exclusive and considered boyfriend and girlfriend, how can it be OK? Or is it just a sag thing? Even as an aqua, I don't go missing for 2 weeks when I'm clearly in a relationship with the person. Maybe for a day or two. But never two weeks, a month or over a month.
I don’t really thing there are any rules in a LDR. Anything goes. I don’t even think a Sag would take them very seriously, but who knows. It’s possible.
I’ve loved someone who I argued with and didn’t reach out for a month because of my pride. I actually do that often. But I’m extremely prideful and need to learn to get over things.
With exclusivity- who knows. Like I said Sag aren’t good with LDR. I would never even agree to one cause I would be dating on the side, with local people. I need access to someone I’m involved with but I’m the physical type that needs touch and quality time. But maybe he’s different. Not all Sagittarius are the same.click to expand
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If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.
Good afternoon! I think you will be fine contacting him again. I think 30 days Is the minimum for no contact. Some even go 45 or 60 days.
At least you know where you stand if you contact him and he doesn’t respond.
Hopefully he’s over whatever happened by then.
Sag really aren’t good at LDR though.
We've been doing long distance for quite some time now. Touchwood🤞❤ But he wouldn't be over me in a month, right? Since I'm going to be acting like I don't care😭😭 he always tells me that, 'my job is to act out, your job is to love me'.
Him telling you that sounds douchey! So your to accept whatever behavior he gives you? Hopefully he was just kidding around.
If he loves you he won’t be over you. If he’s finished with the relationship then you will know as well.
What I'm trying to ask here is - will he be finished BECAUSE I'm not reaching out anytime soon??
No. I don’t think so. If he is then he was done with you based on your last text. This is what the no contact rule is for. You said he’s busy anyways right? And you have a date that your supposed to be contacting him on? So is this really even the case of no contact?click to expand
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If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.
Good afternoon! I think you will be fine contacting him again. I think 30 days Is the minimum for no contact. Some even go 45 or 60 days.
At least you know where you stand if you contact him and he doesn’t respond.
Hopefully he’s over whatever happened by then.
Sag really aren’t good at LDR though.
We've been doing long distance for quite some time now. Touchwood🤞❤ But he wouldn't be over me in a month, right? Since I'm going to be acting like I don't care😭😭 he always tells me that, 'my job is to act out, your job is to love me'.
Him telling you that sounds douchey! So your to accept whatever behavior he gives you? Hopefully he was just kidding around.
If he loves you he won’t be over you. If he’s finished with the relationship then you will know as well.
What I'm trying to ask here is - will he be finished BECAUSE I'm not reaching out anytime soon??
No. I don’t think so. If he is then he was done with you based on your last text. This is what the no contact rule is for. You said he’s busy anyways right? And you have a date that your supposed to be contacting him on? So is this really even the case of no contact?
He told me the date he will be extremely busy upto. I texted him, he stopped replying, I decided to not contact him till that date. It's not like we decided on it together.click to expand
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If you were the last one to make continuous efforts to a lukewarm response to him, it will work if he cares about you. But you have to actually cut the contact and wait.
If he is done with you and doesn’t care, there is no way you will get him back by begging. It will look pathetic.
They say Sag move on quick, but that’s when things aren’t going good and they think the other person isn’t interested. He knows your level of interest, just as much as everyone here.
He needs time to miss you. I saw a meme and it reminded me of how you post. It’s heartbreaking and I hope you can figure out a way to let go and heal a little.
I’m going through a tough time missing someone too so I understand.
Why don't you contact them? I'm sure there's no way you being a Sagittarius would have contacted them so much that you'll lose face by doing it more.
She's a Sag, silly - they're ALWAYS right...
She’s dealing with a Sag. And I’m not always right. She can hound him and see what happens. 🤷♀️
The choice is always there.
There are some signs you can get by chasing the hell out of them. Like Aquarius- they love it when you make up and chase them and make up.
Sag don't.
Every time we've had this issue in the past where he just stopped talking, I've had to chase him at least a bit, he's spoken up after a few days and then eventually things got back on track. Especially the last time things got better than I ever expected BUT I had to chase him for a bit, and by the way he was talking to me and the things he said made feel that he in fact does feel grateful for me never giving up on him. Hence my question here. I don't want him to think I don't care anymore given that he always came back after I chased and refused to give up on him and this time for the first time ever I haven't texted him for these many days after he stopped talking. I hope you're understanding my point.
I do understand and @fanta is right. “In a relationship communication is needed” but you keep playing games and not being direct. So no contact is the next best thing since you don’t want to actually be broken up.
You can easily be blunt and send a message asking him what the hell is going on and why isn’t he contacting you.
But instead your sending “Hey” “Hi” “Can you talk?”
I didn’t say don’t text him ever. But you’ve been doing a lot of texting and you yourself can’t get past what you did. If you would’ve moved on and just got back to normal conversations then maybe he would’ve, but your indirect game playing is what got you here. You guys are long distance anyways right? Like I said before. He can’t move on anyways with this quarantine since he can’t meet anyone new. But he will be more receptive to hearing from you if he misses you.
So if you can’t be direct and blunt, then giving him some space is good as well.
You can be direct and blunt if you want, then he may tell you something you don’t want to hear. And he will stick with his decision because he has too much pride to go back on it.
Or you can give him space and let him reach out or you reach out and text/talk normally -and not with the vague “testing the water” texts.
Also, I don't care if he meets anyone or not, there's this thing called loyalty and my man has lots of it. He made a promise, he won't break it whether we're talking to each other or not. I doubted him, questioned him and I was stupid to do so. But in my heart I always knew he's not doing anything wrong at all. I don't know what I let take over me and that's what I'm paying for now.
You’re not paying for anything. Give him space and text him after a while. You are right. We are loyal. So when you take accountability and forgive yourself and get your confidence back then you can move forward with him.
He ain’t going anywhere. The emotional dumping will make him. It needs to get back to normal. A few weeks is nothing. We aren’t the sign that complains about not talking to someone for 3 days or a couple of weeks, cause it mostly us that’s doing that.
You already know what works with him, so trust that it will. Consistency is what we like. And you are good at that once you take the drama out of it.
Hey hi. Hope you're doing good today..I just remembered something. Two days before my boyfriend was coming to see me in March, a new project came up at work for which he could've needed to stay. I asked God to send him to meet me and said that it's okk if he doesn't talk to me even for a whole month after that. He came to see me❤ It's been 14 days today since we last talked . I didn't think that it'll actually happen but may be that's what's happening now. So if he doesn't reach out to me until a month is completed and then I do, will it be too much? Will it be too much to not contact a person who already must be expecting it by now for 16-17 more days?? Keep in mind that I believe never giving up on him is what has always brought him to me. Always after I showed I care did he show he cares, I don't know if he would've if I hadn't.
Good afternoon! I think you will be fine contacting him again. I think 30 days Is the minimum for no contact. Some even go 45 or 60 days.
At least you know where you stand if you contact him and he doesn’t respond.
Hopefully he’s over whatever happened by then.
Sag really aren’t good at LDR though.
I'm curious about what you said. Is it still a relationship if your partner does not reach out for a month? I think if you both aren't exclusive, that should be OK. But if you are exclusive and considered boyfriend and girlfriend, how can it be OK? Or is it just a sag thing? Even as an aqua, I don't go missing for 2 weeks when I'm clearly in a relationship with the person. Maybe for a day or two. But never two weeks, a month or over a month.
I don’t really thing there are any rules in a LDR. Anything goes. I don’t even think a Sag would take them very seriously, but who knows. It’s possible.
I’ve loved someone who I argued with and didn’t reach out for a month because of my pride. I actually do that often. But I’m extremely prideful and need to learn to get over things.
With exclusivity- who knows. Like I said Sag aren’t good with LDR. I would never even agree to one cause I would be dating on the side, with local people. I need access to someone I’m involved with but I’m the physical type that needs touch and quality time. But maybe he’s different. Not all Sagittarius are the same.
He's extremely prideful too😑 And may be other placements are letting him do LD.
In your situation, who reached out to the other finally?click to expand
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You’ve been together 1.5+ years and he hasn’t responded/spoke with you for 14 days??!
To me, that’s a strong indication it’s over.
Someone who doesn’t care to check in with you and see how your doing after 2 weeks isn’t in a relationship with you any longer.
Even if your extremely busy you can spare a few minutes to say hello or text and check in. I don’t buy the ‘I’m busy’ excuse. No one is that busy unless they are being held against their will.
You said it yourself. Your always the one to start the communication and reach out. What does that say about his interest level...
Add to this his awareness of your issues of insecurity and need for consistent affection and attention...
It all reads one way... he doesn’t care.
I know your 100% in. But he’s not even meeting you half way. It’s never gonna work unless he also genuinely cares.
And all signs point to him not caring.
If he does come back around you need to find the steel in your spine and make it crystal clear to him what you need in order for the relationship to thrive. Frequency and length of communication. Physical and emotional intimacy. Be specific.
It doesn’t work to have you be the only one to put effort in. He needs to make some effort. Otherwise wtf is the point?
My guess is he wanted to get some from someone else. Otherwise why bring up those rules.click to expand
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