Aquastic007
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He spend more time with his mother than he does with me
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Posted by Lioness18881I don't know really, I am not ugly or anything . Cause he does not even speak nicely on the phone when I call him when he visit her.
š what's he worried about his mother being rude about and judging you on?
Posted by PotHeadVirgo27When she comes to visit him and I'm in the house , he never opens the door he would rather wait for her to leave. I am really tired of this really!
I've had to deal with that before and my gawd does it suck hairy balls.
Make you feel like Moses. Let my people goooo!!! ***Shakes Fist***
On the flipside, maybe you don't wanna meet her? Ijs he's hiding her for a reason.
Posted by JuliietteYEP! she is always going somewhere,sometimes its church service, the likes........ oh and it's her car by the way ,she can drive it herself she just prefers that her son drive her everywhere!
sorry but this is funny. one day to funeral the other to the party. lmao
Posted by exsqueezemehis mother's smell or my smell?
I think heās worried about the smell
Posted by JuliietteHe does not live far from his granny, so his granny have seen me a couple of times and she knows my car. So the granny probably told his my mother about me.Posted by Aquasticshe doesn't know you exist i'm sure. click to expandPosted by Juliiette
sorry but this is funny. one day to funeral the other to the party. lmao
YEP! she is always going somewhere,sometimes its church service, the likes........ oh and it's her car by the way ,she can drive it herself she just prefers that her son drive her everywhere! click to expandclick to expand
Posted by exsqueezemeno no no..... if I smell bad then he would not go down on me every time we have sex.Posted by AquasticPosted by exsqueezeme
I think heās worried about the smell
his mother's smell or my smell? click to expand
It could be either. It could be. Have you recently had a sniff along the armpit follicles? click to expandclick to expand
besides my friends wud tell me if I smell we are open
Posted by Juliiettelol ! but if she was so crazy, how come ex girlfriend use to borrow money from her then?Posted by Aquasticthe granny is probably hiding as well. massive conspiracy! who know how crazy that woman is. lol click to expandPosted by JuliiettePosted by AquasticPosted by Juliiette
sorry but this is funny. one day to funeral the other to the party. lmao
YEP! she is always going somewhere,sometimes its church service, the likes........ oh and it's her car by the way ,she can drive it herself she just prefers that her son drive her everywhere! click to expand
she doesn't know you exist i'm sure. click to expand
He does not live far from his granny, so his granny have seen me a couple of times and she knows my car. So the granny probably told his my mother about me. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by AquasticHe claims that he learned a lot from his previous relationship, so he wants to officially introduce me when we get engaged.....?Posted by JuliiettePosted by AquasticPosted by JuliiettePosted by AquasticPosted by Juliiette
sorry but this is funny. one day to funeral the other to the party. lmao
YEP! she is always going somewhere,sometimes its church service, the likes........ oh and it's her car by the way ,she can drive it herself she just prefers that her son drive her everywhere! click to expand
she doesn't know you exist i'm sure. click to expand
He does not live far from his granny, so his granny have seen me a couple of times and she knows my car. So the granny probably told his my mother about me. click to expand
the granny is probably hiding as well. massive conspiracy! who know how crazy that woman is. lol click to expand
lol ! but if she was so crazy, how come ex girlfriend use to borrow money from her then? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by TimonPisces
Mama's boy. What sign is he?
why would you want a mummyās boy. donāt bother. they canāt think for themselves and have no sense of independence
Posted by WittyGem88v2you just gave me a peace of mind. Thank you
I think its a good sign. If he loves and respects his mum then he will be the same with you. There is also a chance that hes not yet ready to introduce you. Its a huge deal for some people to introduce their partner to their family. I havent introduced my partner for the same reason as your bf. I wanna introduce him when we get engaged because I dont want to keep inteoducing guys to them when i am not even sure if its gonna last. And he even flew to see me. Not only that. I havent introduced him to any of my friends either when he already introduced me to some of his close friends. So, I think, this is not a very unusual situation. Some people just wanna be quiet about their rs til its gonna end up in marriage.
Jesus fucking Christ
I dated a Cancer like that, it was like dating both him AND his mother. She was always in his ear goading him to do this and that. Didn't last a month, kicked both to the kerb. And by "like that" I mean being way too fixated on his mother to the point he let her affect his everyday life just like yours.
Just because my relationship with my mom is non-existent because of the kind of person she is, doesn't mean everyone else's mom is the same. My Jed is very close to his mom, and hell, he moved me into their second home right next to their first one lol, so the mother literally lives 5 steps away from our door. And he spends plenty of time next door, but they're just close. They love each other, as it should be. But he doesn't ruin our plans or cut our own together time short to go hang out with her. We both have a very healthy relationship with her, and she's awesome.
Your guy seems to still be hanging off his momma's tits (for lack of better phrase) and seems incapable of functioning like an independent adult. Why you're still putting up with that shit, I'll never understand. Have some self respect, luv, and get the fuck out. Let them have each other. And yes, I would get the fuck out if I was in your situation, no matter how much I love him and how much it would kill me. Because if he's too busy fussing so much over his mother, then he's definitely not fussing over me.
I dated a Cancer like that, it was like dating both him AND his mother. She was always in his ear goading him to do this and that. Didn't last a month, kicked both to the kerb. And by "like that" I mean being way too fixated on his mother to the point he let her affect his everyday life just like yours.
Just because my relationship with my mom is non-existent because of the kind of person she is, doesn't mean everyone else's mom is the same. My Jed is very close to his mom, and hell, he moved me into their second home right next to their first one lol, so the mother literally lives 5 steps away from our door. And he spends plenty of time next door, but they're just close. They love each other, as it should be. But he doesn't ruin our plans or cut our own together time short to go hang out with her. We both have a very healthy relationship with her, and she's awesome.
Your guy seems to still be hanging off his momma's tits (for lack of better phrase) and seems incapable of functioning like an independent adult. Why you're still putting up with that shit, I'll never understand. Have some self respect, luv, and get the fuck out. Let them have each other. And yes, I would get the fuck out if I was in your situation, no matter how much I love him and how much it would kill me. Because if he's too busy fussing so much over his mother, then he's definitely not fussing over me.
Weird
How old is he?
What's his chart like?
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How old is he?
What's his chart like?
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Oh no........won't introduce you to her?
That is very weird.....he is scared she will be jealous
Run!
That is very weird.....he is scared she will be jealous
Run!
So youre Firebunnys mysterious gf?
Posted by WittyGem88v2That is what he told me , that he wanted to do things differently this time.Posted by AquasticPosted by WittyGem88v2
I think its a good sign. If he loves and respects his mum then he will be the same with you. There is also a chance that hes not yet ready to introduce you. Its a huge deal for some people to introduce their partner to their family. I havent introduced my partner for the same reason as your bf. I wanna introduce him when we get engaged because I dont want to keep inteoducing guys to them when i am not even sure if its gonna last. And he even flew to see me. Not only that. I havent introduced him to any of my friends either when he already introduced me to some of his close friends. So, I think, this is not a very unusual situation. Some people just wanna be quiet about their rs til its gonna end up in marriage.
you just gave me a peace of mind. Thank you click to expand
Heās gonna introduce you in the right time. Just have more faith in him. I am nowhere near being a mamaās girl with my mum or daddyās girl with my step dad. But I do things for them. However, I prefer to be private about my rs because all the exes I introduced... well, they became exes. And i realized it was not good to make them part of my family when my future with that person is uncertain. Possibly your bf is like me. Like maybe he wants this rs to be different this time. With no ill intentions. Just protecting the privacy of the rs and at the same time, making sure the time is right for the intro. click to expandclick to expand
If he lets his mother dictate how his personal/romantic life goes, then you've already lost the war. It's only gonna get worse over time.
This is not healthy.
This is not healthy.
Posted by WittyGem88v2I don't think he willPosted by AquasticPosted by WittyGem88v2
I think its a good sign. If he loves and respects his mum then he will be the same with you. There is also a chance that hes not yet ready to introduce you. Its a huge deal for some people to introduce their partner to their family. I havent introduced my partner for the same reason as your bf. I wanna introduce him when we get engaged because I dont want to keep inteoducing guys to them when i am not even sure if its gonna last. And he even flew to see me. Not only that. I havent introduced him to any of my friends either when he already introduced me to some of his close friends. So, I think, this is not a very unusual situation. Some people just wanna be quiet about their rs til its gonna end up in marriage.
you just gave me a peace of mind. Thank you click to expand
Heās gonna introduce you in the right time. Just have more faith in him. I am nowhere near being a mamaās girl with my mum or daddyās girl with my step dad. But I do things for them. However, I prefer to be private about my rs because all the exes I introduced... well, they became exes. And i realized it was not good to make them part of my family when my future with that person is uncertain. Possibly your bf is like me. Like maybe he wants this rs to be different this time. With no ill intentions. Just protecting the privacy of the rs and at the same time, making sure the time is right for the intro. click to expandclick to expand
He sounds like he has mother issues
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowThis
If he lets his mother dictate how his personal/romantic life goes, then you've already lost the war. It's only gonna get worse over time.
This is not healthy.
I doubt he will find the courage to assert himself with her
Mother first
Mother wins
Very unhealthy
I've raised a son who always asserted himself with me.....if he didn't, I'd be very worried šš»
Posted by WittyGem88v2......what if he keeps on spending more time with mother ?Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
If he lets his mother dictate how his personal/romantic life goes, then you've already lost the war. It's only gonna get worse over time.
This is not healthy.
But what if he disobeyed many times before and he ended up failing over and over? What if itās true that mother knows best? I just think she should still give him a bit of time to be comfortable with the introduction. Plus, who knows if he is mentally and emotionally conditioning his mum to get to like her before any intros? That is possible too. Coz im doing the same. Im building him up before i introduce him because i dont want to keep saying to my mum that āhes differentā or āthis relationship is differentā and i end up wrong every single time. Now I talk to my mum about my bf without saying its different. But just rather seeing how she would react to certain things about him to set her expectations and later on set my bfās expectations. Just being quite careful now than before. Plus, I only do this coz I do love the guy. And i dont wanna mess it up. Lol click to expandclick to expand
Anyone who is scared of their mother has a high chance of fecking up in rships....believe me, I've seen it and experienced it many times
A part of growing up is asserting yourself with your family .....
Who wants to be with someone who is scared of their parents ?
Unhealthy and immature
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Posted by WittyGem88v2Your mother doesn't have the right to have a say in anything you do in your personal life. She has lived her life on her own terms, made her own decisions and married whoever she decided to marry.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
If he lets his mother dictate how his personal/romantic life goes, then you've already lost the war. It's only gonna get worse over time.
This is not healthy.
But what if he disobeyed many times before and he ended up failing over and over? What if itās true that mother knows best? I just think she should still give him a bit of time to be comfortable with the introduction. Plus, who knows if he is mentally and emotionally conditioning his mum to get to like her before any intros? That is possible too. Coz im doing the same. Im building him up before i introduce him because i dont want to keep saying to my mum that āhes differentā or āthis relationship is differentā and i end up wrong every single time. Now I talk to my mum about my bf without saying its different. But just rather seeing how she would react to certain things about him to set her expectations and later on set my bfās expectations. Just being quite careful now than before. Plus, I only do this coz I do love the guy. And i dont wanna mess it up. Lolclick to expand
You should live YOUR life, not the life she wants you to live. Maybe I'm just too damn independent because I had to learn to rely only on myself from the age of 13 but doesn't mean I got no clue about this kind of thing.
Your life, not hers. Same goes for the OP.
Someone is baking triple choc brownies or a mud cake.......
Posted by WittyGem88v2I admire people who fear nobody but love and respect othersPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
If he lets his mother dictate how his personal/romantic life goes, then you've already lost the war. It's only gonna get worse over time.
This is not healthy.
But what if he disobeyed many times before and he ended up failing over and over? What if itās true that mother knows best? I just think she should still give him a bit of time to be comfortable with the introduction. Plus, who knows if he is mentally and emotionally conditioning his mum to get to like her before any intros? That is possible too. Coz im doing the same. Im building him up before i introduce him because i dont want to keep saying to my mum that āhes differentā or āthis relationship is differentā and i end up wrong every single time. Now I talk to my mum about my bf without saying its different. But just rather seeing how she would react to certain things about him to set her expectations and later on set my bfās expectations. Just being quite careful now than before. Plus, I only do this coz I do love the guy. And i dont wanna mess it up. Lol click to expand
......what if he keeps on spending more time with mother ?
Anyone who is scared of their mother has a high chance of fecking up in rships....believe me, I've seen it and experienced it many times
A part of growing up is asserting yourself with your family .....
Who wants to be with someone who is scared of their parents ?
Unhealthy and immature
šš» click to expand
His mumās not gonna be around forever though. I think I would be more scared of people who fear nobody. Not even his own mother. Then that means he wont even fear to hurt me or lose me. Back home, my family have this really conservative attitude so his attitude is pretty common amongst us. Not just my family lol so women like myself, we admire them than challenge them. I guess it could be pretty different in other countries. click to expandclick to expand
Fear can wreck a person
Yes, culture difffences maybe?
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI agree.....independence is a fine thing, dependence is notPosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
If he lets his mother dictate how his personal/romantic life goes, then you've already lost the war. It's only gonna get worse over time.
This is not healthy.
But what if he disobeyed many times before and he ended up failing over and over? What if itās true that mother knows best? I just think she should still give him a bit of time to be comfortable with the introduction. Plus, who knows if he is mentally and emotionally conditioning his mum to get to like her before any intros? That is possible too. Coz im doing the same. Im building him up before i introduce him because i dont want to keep saying to my mum that āhes differentā or āthis relationship is differentā and i end up wrong every single time. Now I talk to my mum about my bf without saying its different. But just rather seeing how she would react to certain things about him to set her expectations and later on set my bfās expectations. Just being quite careful now than before. Plus, I only do this coz I do love the guy. And i dont wanna mess it up. Lol
Your mother doesn't have the right to have a say in anything you do in your personal life. She has lived her life on her own terms, made her own decisions and married whoever she decided to marry.
You should live YOUR life, not the life she wants you to live. Maybe I'm just too damn independent because I had to learn to rely only on myself from the age of 13 but doesn't mean I got no clue about this kind of thing.
Your life, not hers. Same goes for the OP.
Someone is baking triple choc brownies or a mud cake.......
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My overly possessive and anxious mother almost drained the life outta me
We don't own children....we love and let them go.....if they want to come back that is great...if they don't, they don't.
Why don't people get this?
Posted by DiannaMother issues rarely, if ever change, I agree with you
Dump him now before you get too attached. It's not going to change. Unless she has a terminal illnes, then wait it out.
Posted by WittyGem88v2That's sad.....that isn't love to me....love is wanting the other person to be happy, especially our precious childrenPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
If he lets his mother dictate how his personal/romantic life goes, then you've already lost the war. It's only gonna get worse over time.
This is not healthy.
But what if he disobeyed many times before and he ended up failing over and over? What if itās true that mother knows best? I just think she should still give him a bit of time to be comfortable with the introduction. Plus, who knows if he is mentally and emotionally conditioning his mum to get to like her before any intros? That is possible too. Coz im doing the same. Im building him up before i introduce him because i dont want to keep saying to my mum that āhes differentā or āthis relationship is differentā and i end up wrong every single time. Now I talk to my mum about my bf without saying its different. But just rather seeing how she would react to certain things about him to set her expectations and later on set my bfās expectations. Just being quite careful now than before. Plus, I only do this coz I do love the guy. And i dont wanna mess it up. Lol click to expand
......what if he keeps on spending more time with mother ?
Anyone who is scared of their mother has a high chance of fecking up in rships....believe me, I've seen it and experienced it many times
A part of growing up is asserting yourself with your family .....
Who wants to be with someone who is scared of their parents ?
Unhealthy and immature
šš» click to expand
His mumās not gonna be around forever though. I think I would be more scared of people who fear nobody. Not even his own mother. Then that means he wont even fear to hurt me or lose me. Back home, my family have this really conservative attitude so his attitude is pretty common amongst us. Not just my family lol so women like myself, we admire them than challenge them. I guess it could be pretty different in other countries. click to expand
I admire people who fear nobody but love and respect others
Fear can wreck a person
Yes, culture difffences maybe?
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Yes. Possibly the culture difference. Lol. My background is all about what the family says. Of course you can defy that and do as you please but it is frowned upon without the elders blessing especially the parents. Family be like āno i dont wanna meet himā and i be like āheās different. Give him a chanceā and then i end up being wrong. So in a way, i am kinda feeling for the Pisces lol click to expandclick to expand
I don't think control and love are related at all
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Posted by WittyGem88v2It's your mistake to make, and you learn through your mistakes. You won't learn anything if you expect anyone else to sort your own shit out. They won't be around forever.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowPosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
If he lets his mother dictate how his personal/romantic life goes, then you've already lost the war. It's only gonna get worse over time.
This is not healthy.
But what if he disobeyed many times before and he ended up failing over and over? What if itās true that mother knows best? I just think she should still give him a bit of time to be comfortable with the introduction. Plus, who knows if he is mentally and emotionally conditioning his mum to get to like her before any intros? That is possible too. Coz im doing the same. Im building him up before i introduce him because i dont want to keep saying to my mum that āhes differentā or āthis relationship is differentā and i end up wrong every single time. Now I talk to my mum about my bf without saying its different. But just rather seeing how she would react to certain things about him to set her expectations and later on set my bfās expectations. Just being quite careful now than before. Plus, I only do this coz I do love the guy. And i dont wanna mess it up. Lol
Your mother doesn't have the right to have a say in anything you do in your personal life. She has lived her life on her own terms, made her own decisions and married whoever she decided to marry.
You should live YOUR life, not the life she wants you to live. Maybe I'm just too damn independent because I had to learn to rely only on myself from the age of 13 but doesn't mean I got no clue about this kind of thing.
Your life, not hers. Same goes for the OP.
Someone is baking triple choc brownies or a mud cake.......
click to expand
Damn gif!! Hahahaha
Yeah. I do get your point. But what if his situation is like mine. Liks insisting to make the decision on my own and have been humbled by failed relationships so this time, I wanna listen to mum? Does that make me useless as a partner? Or does that make me careful because Iāve made mistakes one too many times with my own decisions?click to expand
This is life, yo.
Posted by UnicornSagWow....your dad šš»
Take this as a friendly advice and RUN! I know why I'm saying this. My mom married my dad who was exactly like that. And things got only worse and worse over time. Two of them would trash talk my mom and guilt her just about anything and she really tried big time to please them! At first they lived at the same place, even I came in and mom ofc looked for ways to get our own place. She had to do it all in secrecy so that grandma doesn't find out until it's too late. Don't get me wrong, I loved grandma and was great with her, even better than with my mom but that's simply thing of elements getting along better since grandma was Leo and mom is Pisces. But I have to be fair and say this despite that, she really was harsh on my mom for no reason. And Leo dad did nothing to help, only made it worse. At their last years he spent more time with them (grandma and grandpa) than at our home. So this is just a short description of how things were and it rarely ever changes, whenever there's such a story...
Posted by Timonits been 7 monthsPosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by AquasticPosted by WittyGem88v2Posted by AquasticPosted by WittyGem88v2
I think its a good sign. If he loves and respects his mum then he will be the same with you. There is also a chance that hes not yet ready to introduce you. Its a huge deal for some people to introduce their partner to their family. I havent introduced my partner for the same reason as your bf. I wanna introduce him when we get engaged because I dont want to keep inteoducing guys to them when i am not even sure if its gonna last. And he even flew to see me. Not only that. I havent introduced him to any of my friends either when he already introduced me to some of his close friends. So, I think, this is not a very unusual situation. Some people just wanna be quiet about their rs til its gonna end up in marriage.
you just gave me a peace of mind. Thank you click to expand
Heās gonna introduce you in the right time. Just have more faith in him. I am nowhere near being a mamaās girl with my mum or daddyās girl with my step dad. But I do things for them. However, I prefer to be private about my rs because all the exes I introduced... well, they became exes. And i realized it was not good to make them part of my family when my future with that person is uncertain. Possibly your bf is like me. Like maybe he wants this rs to be different this time. With no ill intentions. Just protecting the privacy of the rs and at the same time, making sure the time is right for the intro. click to expand
That is what he told me , that he wanted to do things differently this time. click to expand
Yeah. Some people just get to that point coz probably they got tired of doing the same things in relationships and it just doesnt seem to last. So yeah, i think he is looking for something that will last. click to expand
I get the not introducing everyone you date to your family unless it's really serious but this guy seem to be afraid of what his mother thinks. Why would he not speak nicely on the phone to the OP whenever his mother is around. That shows he is changing himself because he is afraid of what she will think. He lacks the courage to be himself. And if his mother was condescending towards his exes. What did he do about it? How did he handle it? His solution is hiding future gf? Instead of putting his foot down and telling his mother off.
OP how long have you been together? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by MyStarsShine32
Oh no........won't introduce you to her?
That is very weird.....he is scared she will be jealous
Run!
Posted by AfternoonDelights22to his mother ,yes.
So youre Firebunnys mysterious gf?
all his friend know me
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If the mom is judgemental then I think he is trying to protect you from any stress and being insecure about the fact that his mom will probably hate you.
I been in this type of situations where the mother judges and it's not a pretty sight.
If the mom is judgemental then I think he is trying to protect you from any stress and being insecure about the fact that his mom will probably hate you.
I been in this type of situations where the mother judges and it's not a pretty sight.
Posted by EchoYeah! He said the same thing, he says his mother trash talk people, and she is very rude ! And me on the other hand I'm soft. Even when he does something wrong I don't lash out at him I speak softly and that's if he doesn't figure it out that he is wrong himself, and soon apologize(he always apologizes when he's wrong).
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If the mom is judgemental then I think he is trying to protect you from any stress and being insecure about the fact that his mom will probably hate you.
I been in this type of situations where the mother judges and it's not a pretty sight.
Posted by AquasticPosted by Echo
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If the mom is judgemental then I think he is trying to protect you from any stress and being insecure about the fact that his mom will probably hate you.
I been in this type of situations where the mother judges and it's not a pretty sight.
Yeah! He said the same thing, he says his mother trash talk people, and she is very rude ! And me on the other hand I'm soft. Even when he does something wrong I don't lash out at him I speak softly and that's if he doesn't figure it out that he is wrong himself, and soon apologize(he always apologizes when he's wrong).
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Maybe you suggest he mans up and challenges her.....he is 32 not 5
Posted by UnicornSagTragic šPosted by MyStarsShineYeah I know...he's one completely emasculated Leo, and by his own mother :/ click to expandPosted by UnicornSag
Take this as a friendly advice and RUN! I know why I'm saying this. My mom married my dad who was exactly like that. And things got only worse and worse over time. Two of them would trash talk my mom and guilt her just about anything and she really tried big time to please them! At first they lived at the same place, even I came in and mom ofc looked for ways to get our own place. She had to do it all in secrecy so that grandma doesn't find out until it's too late. Don't get me wrong, I loved grandma and was great with her, even better than with my mom but that's simply thing of elements getting along better since grandma was Leo and mom is Pisces. But I have to be fair and say this despite that, she really was harsh on my mom for no reason. And Leo dad did nothing to help, only made it worse. At their last years he spent more time with them (grandma and grandpa) than at our home. So this is just a short description of how things were and it rarely ever changes, whenever there's such a story...
Wow....your dad šš» click to expandclick to expand
Posted by UnicornSagDo you still talk to him?Posted by MyStarsShineTrue. I'm not sure what is cause of what but he has mental problems as well which mom didn't know about as they were hiding it well but that's a long complicated story of people who had their lives f..ed up click to expandPosted by UnicornSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by UnicornSag
Take this as a friendly advice and RUN! I know why I'm saying this. My mom married my dad who was exactly like that. And things got only worse and worse over time. Two of them would trash talk my mom and guilt her just about anything and she really tried big time to please them! At first they lived at the same place, even I came in and mom ofc looked for ways to get our own place. She had to do it all in secrecy so that grandma doesn't find out until it's too late. Don't get me wrong, I loved grandma and was great with her, even better than with my mom but that's simply thing of elements getting along better since grandma was Leo and mom is Pisces. But I have to be fair and say this despite that, she really was harsh on my mom for no reason. And Leo dad did nothing to help, only made it worse. At their last years he spent more time with them (grandma and grandpa) than at our home. So this is just a short description of how things were and it rarely ever changes, whenever there's such a story...
Wow....your dad šš» click to expand
Yeah I know...he's one completely emasculated Leo, and by his own mother :/ click to expand
Tragic š click to expandclick to expand
Is gran still alive?
Posted by ScorpioTruthYou'd find it attractive that he spends more time with his mother at aged 32?
Nevermind I just read 7 months.
Actually I would find this attractive in a man. Itās better to be with a man who cares for a mother versus being with a man that mistreats his mother. 7 months is really not a long time. I only know the surface details but I would not take it personally.
Any man or even young man who feels scared of their mother has issues
Oh tell me about it.....I've been with a few of them and I did the very best thing possible .....
Ran!
A strong man isn't scared of anyone.....he loves and respects his mother but knows how to put distance when needed. I was with one who when she rang would stay on the phone a long time because he was scared of admitting he was with a woman. It's really pathetic and I have consciously raised our lad to be honest and respectful but not to fear me or his dad
Thankfully he is growing into a strong independent non fearful mature man
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Oh tell me about it.....I've been with a few of them and I did the very best thing possible .....
Ran!
A strong man isn't scared of anyone.....he loves and respects his mother but knows how to put distance when needed. I was with one who when she rang would stay on the phone a long time because he was scared of admitting he was with a woman. It's really pathetic and I have consciously raised our lad to be honest and respectful but not to fear me or his dad
Thankfully he is growing into a strong independent non fearful mature man
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Posted by UnicornSagWow, the same house? You're a very patient person....I'd have to have challenged him on the way he treated your poor mother so badly. Do you think you ever will?Posted by MyStarsShineNo all of my grandparents are dead :/ I rarely have any communication with dad even though I still live in the same home. It's been like that for long time, it's not like we fought, we just stopped communicating. click to expandPosted by UnicornSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by UnicornSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by UnicornSag
Take this as a friendly advice and RUN! I know why I'm saying this. My mom married my dad who was exactly like that. And things got only worse and worse over time. Two of them would trash talk my mom and guilt her just about anything and she really tried big time to please them! At first they lived at the same place, even I came in and mom ofc looked for ways to get our own place. She had to do it all in secrecy so that grandma doesn't find out until it's too late. Don't get me wrong, I loved grandma and was great with her, even better than with my mom but that's simply thing of elements getting along better since grandma was Leo and mom is Pisces. But I have to be fair and say this despite that, she really was harsh on my mom for no reason. And Leo dad did nothing to help, only made it worse. At their last years he spent more time with them (grandma and grandpa) than at our home. So this is just a short description of how things were and it rarely ever changes, whenever there's such a story...
Wow....your dad šš» click to expand
Yeah I know...he's one completely emasculated Leo, and by his own mother :/ click to expand
Tragic š click to expand
True. I'm not sure what is cause of what but he has mental problems as well which mom didn't know about as they were hiding it well but that's a long complicated story of people who had their lives f..ed up click to expand
Do you still talk to him?
Is gran still alive? click to expandclick to expand
Hmm itās one thing to spend quality time with your mother, itās another to be mommyās lil bitch š¤£ but seriously, how can you guys even plan a fun day together when sheās up his ass about chauffeuring her around? She has a car, she drives I assume.. so maybe she insists on taking up his preciuos time to do her bidding so that it disrupts any potential relationship he has š¤ she knows heās seeing someone, that Iām sure. So, as long you are ok with your future like this then š
Posted by ScorpioTruthAnd what if she isn't?Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by ScorpioTruth
Nevermind I just read 7 months.
Actually I would find this attractive in a man. Itās better to be with a man who cares for a mother versus being with a man that mistreats his mother. 7 months is really not a long time. I only know the surface details but I would not take it personally.
You'd find it attractive that he spends more time with his mother at aged 32? click to expand
As a home health nurse, yes. lol because I hate seeing how many of my patients have no familial support. Itās refreshing to see that some people actually still give a fuck about their parents.
Also my mom passed away in 2009, so that may be part of the reason I feel differently than most. I mean I donāt know the details.. but I assume she is sick or elderly if she needs him driving her around everywhere. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by JuliietteMy funeral will be a party. No sad faces allowed. Only drunk ones š
sorry but this is funny. one day to funeral the other to the party. lmao
Posted by ScorpioTruthWelllll...Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by ScorpioTruthPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ScorpioTruth
Nevermind I just read 7 months.
Actually I would find this attractive in a man. Itās better to be with a man who cares for a mother versus being with a man that mistreats his mother. 7 months is really not a long time. I only know the surface details but I would not take it personally.
You'd find it attractive that he spends more time with his mother at aged 32? click to expand
As a home health nurse, yes. lol because I hate seeing how many of my patients have no familial support. Itās refreshing to see that some people actually still give a fuck about their parents.
Also my mom passed away in 2009, so that may be part of the reason I feel differently than most. I mean I donāt know the details.. but I assume she is sick or elderly if she needs him driving her around everywhere. click to expand
And what if she isn't? click to expand
That would be a different story lol click to expandclick to expand
What if she was doing that weird thing some mothers do where they don't want their baby to be with another woman ?
It happens
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Are you dating this man?
Posted by WittyGem88v2
Yeah. I do get your point. But what if his situation is like mine. Liks insisting to make the decision on my own and have been humbled by failed relationships so this time, I wanna listen to mum? Does that make me useless as a partner? Or does that make me careful because Iāve made mistakes one too many times with my own decisions?
there's a difference between hearing an advice and taking a decision, than plain old doing what other people tell you. if you lose your abilite to make a good decision based on past experiences, then you be a useless person in life, is not about making mistakes, is about learning from those mistakes, otherwise, why are we living anyway.
"It's not important how many times you fall but how many times you rise"
Posted by WittyGem88v2
Yeah. I do get your point. But what if his situation is like mine. Liks insisting to make the decision on my own and have been humbled by failed relationships so this time, I wanna listen to mum? Does that make me useless as a partner? Or does that make me careful because Iāve made mistakes one too many times with my own decisions?
there's a difference between hearing an advice and taking a decision, than plain old doing what other people tell you. if you lose your abilite to make a good decision based on past experiences, then you be a useless person in life, is not about making mistakes, is about learning from those mistakes, otherwise, why are we living anyway.
"It's not important how many times you fall but how many times you rise"
Posted by ScorpioTruthMore common than you thinkPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ScorpioTruthPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ScorpioTruthPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ScorpioTruth
Nevermind I just read 7 months.
Actually I would find this attractive in a man. Itās better to be with a man who cares for a mother versus being with a man that mistreats his mother. 7 months is really not a long time. I only know the surface details but I would not take it personally.
You'd find it attractive that he spends more time with his mother at aged 32? click to expand
As a home health nurse, yes. lol because I hate seeing how many of my patients have no familial support. Itās refreshing to see that some people actually still give a fuck about their parents.
Also my mom passed away in 2009, so that may be part of the reason I feel differently than most. I mean I donāt know the details.. but I assume she is sick or elderly if she needs him driving her around everywhere. click to expand
And what if she isn't? click to expand
That would be a different story lol click to expand
Welllll...
What if she was doing that weird thing some mothers do where they don't want their baby to be with another woman ?
It happens
š³ click to expand
Thank God Iāve never had to deal with that. That would just be creepy. Donāt think I could be in a situation like that click to expandclick to expand
*shudders*
Posted by UnicornSagHe still treated her badly....Posted by MyStarsShineWell that's the problem actually. He didn't quite do anything to her physically, it's more of the matters of negligence, aloofness, not caring for her, not being helpful, letting his mother mistreat her etc. In general he's not a bad person like you know some who beat their spouses or cheat or drink or anything like that...he does nothing of that but they together really made her struggle for everything in life plus he didn't want more children and she did, he didn't get much involved even in rising me lol grandma would literally tell him to stay away for some things or like she'll do it, or grandpa will do it, basically would make him stay away and it didn't fall hard on him since he's not very emotional or social person by default anyway. I guess that comes from his mental issues.Posted by UnicornSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by UnicornSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by UnicornSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by UnicornSag
Take this as a friendly advice and RUN! I know why I'm saying this. My mom married my dad who was exactly like that. And things got only worse and worse over time. Two of them would trash talk my mom and guilt her just about anything and she really tried big time to please them! At first they lived at the same place, even I came in and mom ofc looked for ways to get our own place. She had to do it all in secrecy so that grandma doesn't find out until it's too late. Don't get me wrong, I loved grandma and was great with her, even better than with my mom but that's simply thing of elements getting along better since grandma was Leo and mom is Pisces. But I have to be fair and say this despite that, she really was harsh on my mom for no reason. And Leo dad did nothing to help, only made it worse. At their last years he spent more time with them (grandma and grandpa) than at our home. So this is just a short description of how things were and it rarely ever changes, whenever there's such a story...
Wow....your dad šš» click to expand
Yeah I know...he's one completely emasculated Leo, and by his own mother :/ click to expand
Tragic š click to expand
True. I'm not sure what is cause of what but he has mental problems as well which mom didn't know about as they were hiding it well but that's a long complicated story of people who had their lives f..ed up click to expand
Do you still talk to him?
Is gran still alive? click to expand
No all of my grandparents are dead :/ I rarely have any communication with dad even though I still live in the same home. It's been like that for long time, it's not like we fought, we just stopped communicating. click to expand
Wow, the same house? You're a very patient person....I'd have to have challenged him on the way he treated your poor mother so badly. Do you think you ever will? click to expand
I use to say 2 of them switched their signs that mom is a lioness and he's a fish lol click to expandclick to expand
I see the issue here as heās not giving you enough quality time. Therefore your annoyed cause you see how much time heās giving his mother. If he was giving you enough attention youād prolly think it was sweet heās driving her around.
Donāt worry about not meeting her yet. I didnāt bring my bae around my family until we were well into the first year.
Just communicate to him your feeling neglected, miss him fiercely, and need that face to face quality time to feel close to him. See if he steps up and delivers...
Donāt worry about not meeting her yet. I didnāt bring my bae around my family until we were well into the first year.
Just communicate to him your feeling neglected, miss him fiercely, and need that face to face quality time to feel close to him. See if he steps up and delivers...
Posted by ScorpioTruthNo she 40 something oldPosted by AquasticPosted by Juliiette
sorry but this is funny. one day to funeral the other to the party. lmao
YEP! she is always going somewhere,sometimes its church service, the likes........ oh and it's her car by the way ,she can drive it herself she just prefers that her son drive her everywhere! click to expand
Is she elderly? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneSometimes I think about breaking up with him.... it's too much for me
I see the issue here as heās not giving you enough quality time. Therefore your annoyed cause you see how much time heās giving his mother. If he was giving you enough attention youād prolly think it was sweet heās driving her around.
Donāt worry about not meeting her yet. I didnāt bring my bae around my family until we were well into the first year.
Just communicate to him your feeling neglected, miss him fiercely, and need that face to face quality time to feel close to him. See if he steps up and delivers...
Posted by TimonPosted by AquasticPosted by ScorpioTruthPosted by AquasticPosted by Juliiette
sorry but this is funny. one day to funeral the other to the party. lmao
YEP! she is always going somewhere,sometimes its church service, the likes........ oh and it's her car by the way ,she can drive it herself she just prefers that her son drive her everywhere! click to expand
Is she elderly? click to expand
No she 40 something old click to expand
Your bf is 32 and his mom is 40 something? click to expandclick to expand
49 turning 50,she had him when she was 18
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