My Pisces boyfriend - I need feedback

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A message he sent on 7/7 (he wasnt able to come see me) "I miss you! I want you to know that I am sorry for not coming this weekend. I feel terrible. I love you and will never flake out on you like I did twenty something years ago. I just have lot that I still have to deal with, mainly my sons. They mean everything to me and I am getting even more distanced from them. I sometimes have an extremely hard time dealing with it. I am also a little stressed about other things I mentioned when I talked to you earlier. I love you! (7x-of hearts heart eyes and kiss emoji's) my favorite # is 7 - so he usually does 7 hearts or emoji's and his is 3, I do 3 back. I am super understanding and take a lot to make me mad or frustrated. I love him very much and am not sure what to do... I dont want to let him go 😢 but i feel like he is pulling away to get me to call things off or maybe I am trippin - help me ugh...

I'm Not seeing where he is pulling back...you are tripping 1000%
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A message he sent on 7/7 (he wasnt able to come see me) "I miss you! I want you to know that I am sorry for not coming this weekend. I feel terrible. I love you and will never flake out on you like I did twenty something years ago. I just have lot that I still have to deal with, mainly my sons. They mean everything to me and I am getting even more distanced from them. I sometimes have an extremely hard time dealing with it. I am also a little stressed about other things I mentioned when I talked to you earlier. I love you! (7x-of hearts heart eyes and kiss emoji's) my favorite # is 7 - so he usually does 7 hearts or emoji's and his is 3, I do 3 back. I am super understanding and take a lot to make me mad or frustrated. I love him very much and am not sure what to do... I dont want to let him go 😢 but i feel like he is pulling away to get me to call things off or maybe I am trippin - help me ugh...

I'm Not seeing where he is pulling back...you are tripping 1000%
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Ya, I am trippin... only because the since March when we got together he was more responsive but these last couple months have been more delayed in responses. He used to tell me when he would be coming to see me (example: I will see you Friday or see you tomorrow, cant wait to see you today type of response). Now its I will see you soon.
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A message he sent on 7/7 (he wasnt able to come see me) "I miss you! I want you to know that I am sorry for not coming this weekend. I feel terrible. I love you and will never flake out on you like I did twenty something years ago. I just have lot that I still have to deal with, mainly my sons. They mean everything to me and I am getting even more distanced from them. I sometimes have an extremely hard time dealing with it. I am also a little stressed about other things I mentioned when I talked to you earlier. I love you! (7x-of hearts heart eyes and kiss emoji's) my favorite # is 7 - so he usually does 7 hearts or emoji's and his is 3, I do 3 back. I am super understanding and take a lot to make me mad or frustrated. I love him very much and am not sure what to do... I dont want to let him go 😢 but i feel like he is pulling away to get me to call things off or maybe I am trippin - help me ugh...

I'm Not seeing where he is pulling back...you are tripping 1000%


Ya, I am trippin... only because the since March when we got together he was more responsive but these last couple months have been more delayed in responses. He used to tell me when he would be coming to see me (example: I will see you Friday or see you tomorrow, cant wait to see you today type of response). Now its I will see you soon.
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Lol every hear of the honeymoon phase?

Also there is only so much you can portray through text or even a phone call...if you're like me physical touch and 1:1 conversation is more connecting.

This has happened with my mate recently in regards to phone and texts but when we are togther I don't question his intentions at all.
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If he’s ill and stressed and you can go visit him, why not do that? Is he the only one to come visit you?

Unless there’s circumstances making it difficult for you to go see him I don’t see why he wouldn’t appreciate you visiting him, esp at a time where he could do with the support.


I would go see him more often but he is almost 4 hrs away so makes it hard to go during week. We usually go every other week (I go to him, he comes to me). This last time he was coming to me and hasnt been able to last two weeks so he still was saying he is coming soon and "see you soon" I told him I would totally go there but he doesnt want me to leave my teen age daughter, he doesnt want to be in the way of her and I - I ALWAYS put her first and do things with her during week and usually Friday's before I go to him or he comes to me. AND she is a teenager, so she wants very little of my time most the time lol.
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If he’s ill and stressed and you can go visit him, why not do that? Is he the only one to come visit you?

Unless there’s circumstances making it difficult for you to go see him I don’t see why he wouldn’t appreciate you visiting him, esp at a time where he could do with the support.


I would go see him more often but he is almost 4 hrs away so makes it hard to go during week. We usually go every other week (I go to him, he comes to me). This last time he was coming to me and hasnt been able to last two weeks so he still was saying he is coming soon and "see you soon" I told him I would totally go there but he doesnt want me to leave my teen age daughter, he doesnt want to be in the way of her and I - I ALWAYS put her first and do things with her during week and usually Friday's before I go to him or he comes to me. AND she is a teenager, so she wants very little of my time most the time lol.
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In that case I guess you both will have to be patient then.

To me personally it doesn’t sound like he’s pulling away or is less interested. But it doesn’t seem like you feel very secure with him. Maybe explore why that is if you’re intending to do this LDR for 3 years as I imagine it’ll only get harder the more you get invested.
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Posted by Mhmmm

If he’s ill and stressed and you can go visit him, why not do that? Is he the only one to come visit you?

Unless there’s circumstances making it difficult for you to go see him I don’t see why he wouldn’t appreciate you visiting him, esp at a time where he could do with the support.


I would go see him more often but he is almost 4 hrs away so makes it hard to go during week. We usually go every other week (I go to him, he comes to me). This last time he was coming to me and hasnt been able to last two weeks so he still was saying he is coming soon and "see you soon" I told him I would totally go there but he doesnt want me to leave my teen age daughter, he doesnt want to be in the way of her and I - I ALWAYS put her first and do things with her during week and usually Friday's before I go to him or he comes to me. AND she is a teenager, so she wants very little of my time most the time lol.


In that case I guess you both will have to be patient then.

To me personally it doesn’t sound like he’s pulling away or is less interested. But it doesn’t seem like you feel very secure with him. Maybe explore why that is if you’re intending to do this LDR for 3 years as I imagine it’ll only get harder the more you get invested.
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I am not secure because he is being vague more and more about coming to see me this week. I know he has stress, I am here for him, i tell him often. He just told me he misses me but did not say he will see me tomorrow or when. I feel like he is slipping away due to LDR, I cant hold, touch and kiss him and look into his eyes and be with him. My other insecurity is that about 20+ years ago we dated and he was in love with me then, he several months later stopped all of the sudden and told me he cant be with me because i deserve better than him (he was drinking and partying lots then) but he was not a sleep with any girl type of guy and still isnt from what i can tell and what he tells me. He is a one woman man...but that still in back of my mind i guess - that he will pull something like that even tho he says he wont do it.
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I have a gut feeling he is rethinking things or trying to get me to be mad and break up(?) even though he responds but has been taking longer to reply lately. Just 2 days ago I got a card in the mail from him saying "Hello My Love, I just wanted to write you to remind you that I am constantly thinking about you! I enjoy every minute that we have when we see each other. Thank you for being soo awesome! I LOVE YOU!!" However, lately he has been responding longer between our chats and has been sleeping alot (he is a sleeper, has some ailments & medication that tires him) we are in a long distance relationship and I find myself questioning if he is slowly trying to sabotage what we have. I am just not sure what to do, my gut is telling me I should let him go but the Taurus in me wants to fight for us... thoughts??


Eva hangs head!

SNAIL mail and you're STILL worried?!! Do you KNOW what snail mail entails?

1) Driving to store

2) picking out said card

3) waiting in line to pay

4) Picking up pen, writing: "Hello My love...." (yadda, yadda, yadda)

5) Driving to the post office to buy postage stamp

6) Licking stamp

7) placing said stamp on envelope

8) writing your home address, city/state (fucking country), and zip code

9) Dropping envelope in mail slot...walks away HAPPY

and you are STILL worried? Geez Doll, fucking females here on DXP don't EVEN get that much! (not gonna even TRY to give you my "other" 2 cents for the "Should I let him go 'cause he takes two days to answer me?"

🤗 cyber hugs!

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Love,

Eva
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I have a gut feeling he is rethinking things or trying to get me to be mad and break up(?) even though he responds but has been taking longer to reply lately. Just 2 days ago I got a card in the mail from him saying "Hello My Love, I just wanted to write you to remind you that I am constantly thinking about you! I enjoy every minute that we have when we see each other. Thank you for being soo awesome! I LOVE YOU!!" However, lately he has been responding longer between our chats and has been sleeping alot (he is a sleeper, has some ailments & medication that tires him) we are in a long distance relationship and I find myself questioning if he is slowly trying to sabotage what we have. I am just not sure what to do, my gut is telling me I should let him go but the Taurus in me wants to fight for us... thoughts??


Eva hangs head!

SNAIL mail and you're STILL worried?!! Do you KNOW what snail mail entails?

1) Driving to store

2) picking out said card

3) waiting in line to pay

4) Picking up pen, writing: "Hello My love...." (yadda, yadda, yadda)

5) Driving to the post office to buy postage stamp

6) Licking stamp

7) placing said stamp on envelope

8) writing your home address, city/state (fucking country), and zip code

9) Dropping envelope in mail slot...walks away HAPPY

and you are STILL worried? Geez Doll, fucking females here on DXP don't EVEN get that much! (not gonna even TRY to give you my "other" 2 cents for the "Should I let him go 'cause he takes two days to answer me?"

🤗 cyber hugs!

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Love,

Eva
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Thank you for your feedback. I do understand the card in mail and all that's involved with that and am totally appreciative he does that (all his cards are hung on my wall). My worry starts because I got use to him being more communicative about whats going on and how he was feeling. Its just been more silent than usual - which is where I am now with him. I KNOW he doesn't want to hurt me, I KNOW he loves me and always will love me, he tells me . I guess what I need is to see him in person to have heart to heart about this worry I have - but I am scared I won't be communicate it right.
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I have a gut feeling he is rethinking things or trying to get me to be mad and break up(?) even though he responds but has been taking longer to reply lately. Just 2 days ago I got a card in the mail from him saying "Hello My Love, I just wanted to write you to remind you that I am constantly thinking about you! I enjoy every minute that we have when we see each other. Thank you for being soo awesome! I LOVE YOU!!" However, lately he has been responding longer between our chats and has been sleeping alot (he is a sleeper, has some ailments & medication that tires him) we are in a long distance relationship and I find myself questioning if he is slowly trying to sabotage what we have. I am just not sure what to do, my gut is telling me I should let him go but the Taurus in me wants to fight for us... thoughts??


Eva hangs head!

SNAIL mail and you're STILL worried?!! Do you KNOW what snail mail entails?

1) Driving to store

2) picking out said card

3) waiting in line to pay

4) Picking up pen, writing: "Hello My love...." (yadda, yadda, yadda)

5) Driving to the post office to buy postage stamp

6) Licking stamp

7) placing said stamp on envelope

8) writing your home address, city/state (fucking country), and zip code

9) Dropping envelope in mail slot...walks away HAPPY

and you are STILL worried? Geez Doll, fucking females here on DXP don't EVEN get that much! (not gonna even TRY to give you my "other" 2 cents for the "Should I let him go 'cause he takes two days to answer me?"

🤗 cyber hugs!

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Love,

Eva


Thank you for your feedback. I do understand the card in mail and all that's involved with that and am totally appreciative he does that (all his cards are hung on my wall). My worry starts because I got use to him being more communicative about whats going on and how he was feeling. Its just been more silent than usual - which is where I am now with him. I KNOW he doesn't want to hurt me, I KNOW he loves me and always will love me, he tells me . I guess what I need is to see him in person to have heart to heart about this worry I have - but I am scared I won't be communicate it right.
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You're the one sabotaging right now really. You're over thinking things and not feeling them. He really gone lengths to show you he cares. Constant reasurrance is not his job. It's your job to trust him or don't. Your choice. But you really are making things harder in your head and he may swim away from the drama. Fishy men don't like it complicated from what I've seen.
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I have not gotten all of what has transpired over the last couple months so what I have put down for everyone in all this is only more recent (last 3 or so weeks) but even that isnt all of it. It really feels like the last 3 weekends have been excuses. The behavior is waaaay different than it had been. This weekend felt very much like he did not want to come visit - all week he wasnt reciprocating like he usually did. The "I cant wait to see you" "cant wait to kiss you, hold" etc... I was saying it, he was sending memes of hearts but not replying any excitement, so it felt like he wasnt interested in seeing me. Sooo, Saturday when he is to on his way..he "usually" would be rushing around and saying he is lagging or hey I am on my way in 5-20mins but I did not hear a peep, so I said "Hi sweetheart (❤️) are you close to leaving?" his response was "Yes I'm leaving" thats it... I sent a couple emoticons heart face and kisses and I said "drive safely baby (❤️❤️❤️) , he replied with heart face eyes. 2 hrs later - I had not heard anything (he usually sending memes or hearts or say how horrible traffic is, but nada. So I send "Hi my love, how's the drive been so far" 45 mins later "its okay, getting shitty mileage for some reason" I respond "maybe due to AC and its hot" "Hope you havent had to deal with too much traffic" and I sent him kisses he sent back heart eyes I sent same plus hearts kisses and more heart eyes and I said "sending good vibes my love" and got no reply (usually he would reply). Then I got reply almost 2 hrs later he had gone half way and had to turn back go home becuz he couldnt remember if he locked his back door and he was very sorry. I asked can i call or he call, he didnt so I called and left message (he usually answers) i asked him to call me, nothing an hour half later nothing, i message again "I know you know I'm heartbroken to not see you. I will be ok. I love you, always will (❤️ ❤️❤️)" Last 2 weekends he promised he would come and said how sorry he was, he loves me many times but this time, no I love you only sorry and he is upset with himself and went on explaining what happen.My reply "I wouldve loved a call instead of messages. I'm bummed but I will be ok." and still he never called and nothing rest of Saturday and noting sunday. So I sent him a sweet note about how i love him and how he is important to me and strive for his happiness and I am here for him and appreciate and adore him without restraints and that will never change. Also told him I forgive him and will always love him. I got no reply until this morning. He said "Forgive me? Look, I am sorry, obviously that wasnt good enough for you. I dont know what else to say. I have my issues. Yesterday I turned off my phone and did not get out of bed. My reply "I asked you to call me and you didnt, this in itself was not ok. Things are different I can tell and I'm not sure what else to say" He then messages me a meme "a mouse saying "I was sent your way... To wish you a happy day" and a dragon meme with a tear and sign on it "sorry" I responded couple hours later "I know you're sorry, I dont understand why you didnt call. Feel very disconnected from what we had since I've not seen you." I saw he was typing and stopped and nothing.
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I have not gotten all of what has transpired over the last couple months so what I have put down for everyone in all this is only more recent (last 3 or so weeks) but even that isnt all of it. It really feels like the last 3 weekends have been excuses. The behavior is waaaay different than it had been. This weekend felt very much like he did not want to come visit - all week he wasnt reciprocating like he usually did. The "I cant wait to see you" "cant wait to kiss you, hold" etc... I was saying it, he was sending memes of hearts but not replying any excitement, so it felt like he wasnt interested in seeing me. Sooo, Saturday when he is to on his way..he "usually" would be rushing around and saying he is lagging or hey I am on my way in 5-20mins but I did not hear a peep, so I said "Hi sweetheart (❤️) are you close to leaving?" his response was "Yes I'm leaving" thats it... I sent a couple emoticons heart face and kisses and I said "drive safely baby (❤️❤️❤️) , he replied with heart face eyes. 2 hrs later - I had not heard anything (he usually sending memes or hearts or say how horrible traffic is, but nada. So I send "Hi my love, how's the drive been so far" 45 mins later "its okay, getting shitty mileage for some reason" I respond "maybe due to AC and its hot" "Hope you havent had to deal with too much traffic" and I sent him kisses he sent back heart eyes I sent same plus hearts kisses and more heart eyes and I said "sending good vibes my love" and got no reply (usually he would reply). Then I got reply almost 2 hrs later he had gone half way and had to turn back go home becuz he couldnt remember if he locked his back door and he was very sorry. I asked can i call or he call, he didnt so I called and left message (he usually answers) i asked him to call me, nothing an hour half later nothing, i message again "I know you know I'm heartbroken to not see you. I will be ok. I love you, always will (❤️ ❤️❤️)" Last 2 weekends he promised he would come and said how sorry he was, he loves me many times but this time, no I love you only sorry and he is upset with himself and went on explaining what happen.My reply "I wouldve loved a call instead of messages. I'm bummed but I will be ok." and still he never called and nothing rest of Saturday and noting sunday. So I sent him a sweet note about how i love him and how he is important to me and strive for his happiness and I am here for him and appreciate and adore him without restraints and that will never change. Also told him I forgive him and will always love him. I got no reply until this morning. He said "Forgive me? Look, I am sorry, obviously that wasnt good enough for you. I dont know what else to say. I have my issues. Yesterday I turned off my phone and did not get out of bed. My reply "I asked you to call me and you didnt, this in itself was not ok. Things are different I can tell and I'm not sure what else to say" He then messages me a meme "a mouse saying "I was sent your way... To wish you a happy day" and a dragon meme with a tear and sign on it "sorry" I responded couple hours later "I know you're sorry, I dont understand why you didnt call. Feel very disconnected from what we had since I've not seen you." I saw he was typing and stopped and nothing.


What an asshole....drop him!!!!!!!!!!!

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🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: Read again what he texted you ("I turned back go home becauz I couldn't remember if I locked my back door"). What a fucking lame EXCUSE! Yeah, now that you posted this "update" I would drop him!
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I have not gotten all of what has transpired over the last couple months so what I have put down for everyone in all this is only more recent (last 3 or so weeks) but even that isnt all of it. It really feels like the last 3 weekends have been excuses. The behavior is waaaay different than it had been. This weekend felt very much like he did not want to come visit - all week he wasnt reciprocating like he usually did. The "I cant wait to see you" "cant wait to kiss you, hold" etc... I was saying it, he was sending memes of hearts but not replying any excitement, so it felt like he wasnt interested in seeing me. Sooo, Saturday when he is to on his way..he "usually" would be rushing around and saying he is lagging or hey I am on my way in 5-20mins but I did not hear a peep, so I said "Hi sweetheart (❤️) are you close to leaving?" his response was "Yes I'm leaving" thats it... I sent a couple emoticons heart face and kisses and I said "drive safely baby (❤️❤️❤️) , he replied with heart face eyes. 2 hrs later - I had not heard anything (he usually sending memes or hearts or say how horrible traffic is, but nada. So I send "Hi my love, how's the drive been so far" 45 mins later "its okay, getting shitty mileage for some reason" I respond "maybe due to AC and its hot" "Hope you havent had to deal with too much traffic" and I sent him kisses he sent back heart eyes I sent same plus hearts kisses and more heart eyes and I said "sending good vibes my love" and got no reply (usually he would reply). Then I got reply almost 2 hrs later he had gone half way and had to turn back go home becuz he couldnt remember if he locked his back door and he was very sorry. I asked can i call or he call, he didnt so I called and left message (he usually answers) i asked him to call me, nothing an hour half later nothing, i message again "I know you know I'm heartbroken to not see you. I will be ok. I love you, always will (❤️ ❤️❤️)" Last 2 weekends he promised he would come and said how sorry he was, he loves me many times but this time, no I love you only sorry and he is upset with himself and went on explaining what happen.My reply "I wouldve loved a call instead of messages. I'm bummed but I will be ok." and still he never called and nothing rest of Saturday and noting sunday. So I sent him a sweet note about how i love him and how he is important to me and strive for his happiness and I am here for him and appreciate and adore him without restraints and that will never change. Also told him I forgive him and will always love him. I got no reply until this morning. He said "Forgive me? Look, I am sorry, obviously that wasnt good enough for you. I dont know what else to say. I have my issues. Yesterday I turned off my phone and did not get out of bed. My reply "I asked you to call me and you didnt, this in itself was not ok. Things are different I can tell and I'm not sure what else to say" He then messages me a meme "a mouse saying "I was sent your way... To wish you a happy day" and a dragon meme with a tear and sign on it "sorry" I responded couple hours later "I know you're sorry, I dont understand why you didnt call. Feel very disconnected from what we had since I've not seen you." I saw he was typing and stopped and nothing.


What an asshole....drop him!!!!!!!!!!!

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🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: Read again what he texted you ("I turned back go home becauz I couldn't remember if I locked my back door"). What a fucking lame EXCUSE! Yeah, now that you posted this "update" I would drop him!
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That's what I was trying to convey, its felt like excuses, I wish he could just be truthful but I am sure he is scared... two weekends ago when he didnt end up coming he said he had bad news and didnt want to call but he did, if i sent other convos we had last few weeks you would see how different he has been. Hence why I was saying maybe he is trying to get me to drop him which I kind of have. I dont want it to end the way it is but if it has to I guess thats how it goes. I still am in love with him but I can move on and be ok, just sad with all this.
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UPDATE: spoke on the actual phone to him. There was stuff he was holding in and not telling me, we are going to work through it. I was totally in mindset to let him go but after talking everything through, I am going to see if he means everything he said. Time will tell. I only give a few chances before I say a final good bye... He is very inexperienced with relationships and really wants to fix what he has done to our relationship. I am going to go with it and continue with growing and working on it.