Mamita91
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Pisces boyfriend left me :(
I've a friend with these placements...we've known each other for 19 years and our boys grew up together. She rarely answers texts and we can go months without meeting. We have a great bond but it is very deatched and not one to be relied upon. She's recently been having chemo for breast cancer and didn't answer my texts for weeks which worried me, but i met her this week and she's good, thank God.
One of her other friends cannot handle her disconnection and unreliability but i just go with the flow. I lived with an Aqua moon for years but still feel like I don't know him.
One of her other friends cannot handle her disconnection and unreliability but i just go with the flow. I lived with an Aqua moon for years but still feel like I don't know him.
"How do I get over the pain? Do you think he used me because he was lonely and struggling, and never loved me?"
I'm sorry for your distress. I don't think he used you for everything you had to offer, it seemed a pretty balanced relationship from what you described. However, there have been 9 months, and he didn't fall in love. It's pretty much possible that he was not in the right mind to do so because of his struggles, and that has nothing to do with you.
I'm Pisces with Aqua and Aries influences and can only speak from my experience. I usually fall in love early on, or don't at all, no matter how much I want it. Well, there was one exception, under certain circumstances. He was a Gemini I started dating very soon after my previous relationship ended. Moreover, I was having huge stress in my career, with competitors about to scoop my work (publish similar results before me), etc.
Six months into the relationship, I told him that I'm not in love with him, set him free to date other women, and offered a FWB till he finds someone else. He said very little, hold me tight and asked for more time. We carried on, and surprise surprise, I did eventually fall in love with him, about 7-8 months into the relationship. By that time, his predecessor was only a distant memory, and my stress at work improved as well.
I would say your Pisces was not in a good place to fall in love, since there was something else on his mind, eating him alive. Do not look to blame yourself. You sound like a lovely and lovable person, and most likely there is nothing you could have done to change his mind. Let him go.
There is not much you can do about the pain either, except live with the knowledge for now, that time is a healer. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself 3 months to grieve. Countdown the days till you will be happy again.
I'm sorry for your distress. I don't think he used you for everything you had to offer, it seemed a pretty balanced relationship from what you described. However, there have been 9 months, and he didn't fall in love. It's pretty much possible that he was not in the right mind to do so because of his struggles, and that has nothing to do with you.
I'm Pisces with Aqua and Aries influences and can only speak from my experience. I usually fall in love early on, or don't at all, no matter how much I want it. Well, there was one exception, under certain circumstances. He was a Gemini I started dating very soon after my previous relationship ended. Moreover, I was having huge stress in my career, with competitors about to scoop my work (publish similar results before me), etc.
Six months into the relationship, I told him that I'm not in love with him, set him free to date other women, and offered a FWB till he finds someone else. He said very little, hold me tight and asked for more time. We carried on, and surprise surprise, I did eventually fall in love with him, about 7-8 months into the relationship. By that time, his predecessor was only a distant memory, and my stress at work improved as well.
I would say your Pisces was not in a good place to fall in love, since there was something else on his mind, eating him alive. Do not look to blame yourself. You sound like a lovely and lovable person, and most likely there is nothing you could have done to change his mind. Let him go.
There is not much you can do about the pain either, except live with the knowledge for now, that time is a healer. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself 3 months to grieve. Countdown the days till you will be happy again.
He sounds stressed. I’m wondering if he just doesn’t feel good about himself and doesn’t want you to see him at this low moment in his life.
Posted by PhoenixStorm
I’m sorry that you are going through this but at least he was honest and up front with you. So many men these days are dishonest and cowardly and will knowingly lead a woman on to think there will be more in the future. It will hurt for now but better to find this out 9 months in versus 9 years in... use his truth as your closure. I agree with others that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and where he is at.
You’ve gotten over heartbreak before you will get over this too. Mind over matter. ❤️
Amen to this ❤️
The Piseans are some of the most attached clingy sign that I've came across. He could of manipulated you but not for 9 months without you noticing flags. It's hard for me to believe it can't be salvaged with a bit of finessing. Just remind him of the "small world " you two enjoyed that eased his anxiety. Good luck
I want to date you and do art and yoga together!!! 😍😍😍😍 You sound fun!
I don’t have much to add cause the others have said it.
Sorry about the situation though. Love sucks sometimes.
But you were a great friend to him in his time of need and were very supportive. He might miss it later and come back. Let him go for now and find someone who’s ready for you.
I don’t have much to add cause the others have said it.
Sorry about the situation though. Love sucks sometimes.
But you were a great friend to him in his time of need and were very supportive. He might miss it later and come back. Let him go for now and find someone who’s ready for you.
Pisces are mutable. They come and go a lot. Why I can't date them anymore. I've dated a lot of them, only 2 really meant a lot to me and they both broke up with me out of the blue for no real specific reasons. They both loved me....but they just didn't want to be with me anymore what ever the fuck that means. Anyway, you are probably better off. Pisces men are garbage when it comes to relationships.
I don't mind them as friends tho now. They aren't horrible guys they just suck at relationships imo.
I don't mind them as friends tho now. They aren't horrible guys they just suck at relationships imo.
Posted by SeaLion
They aren't horrible guys they just suck at relationships imo.
If we leave without saying why, then rest assured that more often than not it's because you did something that showed us that we have reached the point of no return with you, and nothing you can say or do will fix it and make us stay with you. There's always a good reason, we just no longer deem you worthy enough to explain it to you.
"You didn't care how we felt, so why should we give a toss about YOUR feelings when we drop you to the kerb?"
The overall reason would be something big. Taking us for granted, being careless with and oblivious to our emotions, and not appreciating what we bring to the table and what we do for you. That's a capital offense in the Piscean world.
Everyone else already explained things better then i could 😢
Everyone else already explained things better then i could 😢
Thank you everyone for your responses. He's been texting saying he misses me so much and wants to tell me so many things like inside jokes or things he finds on reddit, and that nobody understands him more than I do. I feel so blindsided that he never loved me yet his actions always showed to me that he did, so he was a great liar which is so scary.
I really miss him, what should I do if he texts me? Just ignore him? It's tempting to text him, i want him back.
He ended up calling me last night at 1am and I picked up immediately, forgetting we'd broken up. He just said that he was very happy with me but that he felt something was missing and couldn't pinpoint it down. I'm happy he called, it helped me with closure and haven't cried today. Thank you all for your wonderful support and advice.
Posted by La_MariposaPosted by SeaLion
Pisces are mutable. They come and go a lot. Why I can't date them anymore. I've dated a lot of them, only 2 really meant a lot to me and they both broke up with me out of the blue for no real specific reasons. They both loved me....but they just didn't want to be with me anymore what ever the fuck that means. Anyway, you are probably better off. Pisces men are garbage when it comes to relationships.
I don't mind them as friends tho now. They aren't horrible guys they just suck at relationships imo.
My pisces husband has been amazing, and yes he has his moments I mean who doesn’t but I don’t truly believe it was only them. There was something done on your part that contributed to the ending of the relationships as well.click to expand
Maybe. Who knows. If there was they never talked to me about it. I am not saying I was perfect in any way but no one is, and I can't fix what I don't know needs to be fixed.
I asked my ex last night, (I didn't say this but it would be useful to know for future dating...), and he kept saying that he didn't know what it was but something was missing. All he said was nice things such as I'm much more insightful than him, and that we always had a good time together :S. I'm sure I did something he didn't like, wish I could know.
Well he came over yesterday to drop off my things and key. He came unannounced at 10am and didn't know that I'd be home. Luckily I looked amazing and was composed. I only cried a tiny bit and said I miss him, and he said he misses me and it's very painful, that he can't focus on anything. I could tell he didn't want to leave, and was mentioning things like going to the cinema and the art exhibition as were meant to go to. We hugged and said goodbye, and I was sad but at least not crying buckets like when he broke up with me!
I am hurt but thinking about it, it is cruel to say he never loved me after all this time together, and we were attached to the hip for a lot of our relationship. Just cruel. I don't want to speak with him ever again.
I am hurt but thinking about it, it is cruel to say he never loved me after all this time together, and we were attached to the hip for a lot of our relationship. Just cruel. I don't want to speak with him ever again.
What's your sun/moon sign?
Posted by ELIGAB
What's your sun/moon sign?
I am taurus sun, aries moon, venus cancer (a lot of my planets are cancer). He is aqua moon, aries cancer, pisces Mercury. How come?
Posted by Mamita91Posted by ELIGAB
What's your sun/moon sign?
I am taurus sun, aries moon, venus cancer (a lot of my planets are cancer). He is aqua moon, aries cancer, pisces Mercury. How come?click to expand
I'm aqua moon and I know the "something is missing" feeling.. so I was just curious
Im currently feeling it in my relationship
Posted by ELIGABPosted by Mamita91Posted by ELIGAB
What's your sun/moon sign?
I am taurus sun, aries moon, venus cancer (a lot of my planets are cancer). He is aqua moon, aries cancer, pisces Mercury. How come?
I'm aqua moon and I know the "something is missing" feeling.. so I was just curious
Im currently feeling it in my relationshipclick to expand
Interesting, why do you think it is? Are you also a pisces?
Posted by Mamita91Posted by ELIGABPosted by Mamita91Posted by ELIGAB
What's your sun/moon sign?
I am taurus sun, aries moon, venus cancer (a lot of my planets are cancer). He is aqua moon, aries cancer, pisces Mercury. How come?
I'm aqua moon and I know the "something is missing" feeling.. so I was just curious
Im currently feeling it in my relationship
Interesting, why do you think it is? Are you also a pisces?click to expand
With me, honestly
My finances is fucked right now and I dont feel I can be vulnerable without being scorched for it or teased. I'm very sensitive and I think I need someone that notices it
I'm virgo/aqua moon and my bf is Taurus sun/sag moon
I blame his aries venus...
my venus aries ex left me high and dry for no reason.
I read somewhere they always initiate the romance as well as the break up...
my venus aries ex left me high and dry for no reason.
I read somewhere they always initiate the romance as well as the break up...
Posted by virgal_perfectionist
I blame his aries venus...
my venus aries ex left me high and dry for no reason.
I read somewhere they always initiate the romance as well as the break up...
He did chase me, and always initiated conversation and times to meet me, he was very direct in that way. When I wa at his and he'd play video games, he would want me to watch or he would hold my hand all the time
Posted by ELIGABPosted by Mamita91Posted by ELIGABPosted by Mamita91Posted by ELIGAB
What's your sun/moon sign?
I am taurus sun, aries moon, venus cancer (a lot of my planets are cancer). He is aqua moon, aries cancer, pisces Mercury. How come?
I'm aqua moon and I know the "something is missing" feeling.. so I was just curious
Im currently feeling it in my relationship
Interesting, why do you think it is? Are you also a pisces?
With me, honestly
My finances is fucked right now and I dont feel I can be vulnerable without being scorched for it or teased. I'm very sensitive and I think I need someone that notices it
I'm virgo/aqua moon and my bf is Taurus sun/sag moonclick to expand
He is completely broke, I am not sure if that plays a part. We did tease each other all the time, constantly. He would imitate my laugh and the way I moved and I would imitate his accent but we'd be laughing so not sure if he secretly didn't like it. But he was vulnerable with me, we'd stag up until 2 or 3am jusr talking about our worries, dreams, hopes, fears.
Why don't you talk to your boyfriend about your fear of being vulnerable? Maybe he'd be understanding, I hope so xx
Posted by Mamita91Posted by ELIGABPosted by Mamita91Posted by ELIGABPosted by Mamita91Posted by ELIGAB
What's your sun/moon sign?
I am taurus sun, aries moon, venus cancer (a lot of my planets are cancer). He is aqua moon, aries cancer, pisces Mercury. How come?
I'm aqua moon and I know the "something is missing" feeling.. so I was just curious
Im currently feeling it in my relationship
Interesting, why do you think it is? Are you also a pisces?
With me, honestly
My finances is fucked right now and I dont feel I can be vulnerable without being scorched for it or teased. I'm very sensitive and I think I need someone that notices it
I'm virgo/aqua moon and my bf is Taurus sun/sag moon
He is completely broke, I am not sure if that plays a part. We did tease each other all the time, constantly. He would imitate my laugh and the way I moved and I would imitate his accent but we'd be laughing so not sure if he secretly didn't like it. But he was vulnerable with me, we'd stag up until 2 or 3am jusr talking about our worries, dreams, hopes, fears.
Why don't you talk to your boyfriend about your fear of being vulnerable? Maybe he'd be understanding, I hope so xxclick to expand
I'll make an attempt tonight
Heart to heart.. no jokes or idk
I think we're both tactless and something needs to change or it's not going to work
This is Day 2 of silence treatment on both ends
😔🥺
Why is it day 2,did you have an argument? Do you joke around a lot but in a mean way or?
Posted by Mamita91
Why is it day 2,did you have an argument? Do you joke around a lot but in a mean way or?
Yea over towels... lol.......
Something small turned into something big, I guess
We both joke around, honestly I cant explain. Its always fun until idk, someone feelings is hurt. Then neither one of us backs down... lol..
It so small and petty. But it's also refreshing at times because I have a dark sense of humor and well he have that sag moon.. 🤣 Then my aqua moon..
Posted by LittleStar
He probably does honestly love you but knows there is no future so he’s ending things as quickly as possible.
To answer your question, take care of yourself as if you were sick and eat good, exercise, and pamper yourself. Writing usually helps me but you might have another way to get emotions out.
Time does the rest.
I don't know... Not sure why there wouldn't be a future. I'm very sad, but luckily my friends have been looking after me. Thank you xx
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